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liveletlive_09

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Good profile idea executed poorly? Posted: 8/16/2009 2:38:21 PM
I think the idea itself is amazing...but it could just be that I am a guy and I love cars. Maybe we need a woman's opinion here.

liveletlive_09

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MY PROFILE! Can I get some advice please? Posted: 8/16/2009 2:36:25 PM
break up the two large paragraphs you have going. Keep each at a max of 5 sentences. The problem is that people usually will read the first couple of sentences out of each paragraph so having four short ones (divided up by topic) works a lot better than two long ones. Even while reviewing it I couldn't get myself to finish each paragraph.

liveletlive_09

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Honest opinions wanted - I'm new at this. Posted: 8/12/2009 5:03:55 PM
Profile looks good. At this point it is all about lady luck and who you message.

liveletlive_09

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It's been years since my last review... let's give it another shot. Posted: 8/10/2009 7:43:31 PM
Waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay too long. The best advice I have ever gotten is the "30 second elevator rule". Your profile should take no longer than 30 seconds to read. Keep it short, keep it simple, keep it fun, and leave something for later.

liveletlive_09

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My Profile: To intimidating? Posted: 8/10/2009 7:38:45 PM
I think your pictures are fine. At the end of the day all men are visual and it really doesn't seem like you are flaunting, just mild posing. But I do agree that there should be MAX two cleavage shots. As for your profile, take my advice and shorten it to about 1/5th of its current size. Very few men if any will ever read that entire thing. Even I got bored after the first two paragraphs and couldn't go on even though I was TRYING. Keep it short, sweet, and fun and leave something for later.

liveletlive_09

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Epic Review Posted: 8/10/2009 7:34:08 PM
Thanks a lot for your review. I changed up the first paragraph seeing as it had so many grammatical errors.

liveletlive_09

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Epic Review Posted: 8/10/2009 6:06:37 PM
Ok, so not so epic. Just another person asking you to review his/her profile. You people are amazing though! I think my profile does a pretty good job of describing muah but curious to hear what the experts over here have to say about it. Only thing that seems odd is that I sound like I am giving a sales pitch...or is it just me? Tell it like it is

liveletlive_09

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Friends Helping Friends.... Posted: 8/1/2009 4:06:45 PM
Best course of action in these kind of situations is to just not act at all. Completely ignore it and don't let it even be known to her that this bothers you. People usually get very bored if what they are doing doesn't get a quick reaction out of the other person.

liveletlive_09

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Should I be apprehensive giving my cell # before any real email? Posted: 8/1/2009 12:20:57 AM
NEVER NEVER NEVER NEVER NEVER NEVER NEVER NEVER give out your cell phone online. They can sign you up for a trillion of services that will charge your cell phone. I worked in a mobile phone call center back in the days so I am very much used to people calling in complaining about never having signed up for "Psychic service" online. Some of these people had monthly charges of $100-300 from these silly charges.

liveletlive_09

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Was he playing with me or was he true? Posted: 7/30/2009 3:02:22 PM
You need to move on.

liveletlive_09

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Shyness Posted: 7/30/2009 2:53:20 PM
It isn't easy to overcome shyness. I am afraid this is something you will have to force yourself to confront. Try a new activity, introduce yourself to a complete stranger or two each day, try to engage your "acquaintances" a little more than usual, and most importantly remember that we are all humans. Train yourself to not be as shy by practicing the opposite. It won't be easy but it is def worth the effort.

liveletlive_09

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Middle Eastern Dating Posted: 7/29/2009 8:36:33 PM
I thought I would give my two cents. I was raised a Muslim and my mother is middle eastern. I am not religious, more in that phase where I am trying to form my own opinions on the purpose of life based on what I perceive. There really are much different levels of arranged marriages. There are those parents that will choose a specific person for you and you are more or less forced to marry them. This form of arranged marriage is very rare in this day and age. I have one friend who was put in this category but his parents were immigrants from the rural parts of Afghanistan with no education whatsoever. Most arranged marriages work like this. Your parents will bring forth someone they believe is a good match for you and then arrange "dates" for you two to get to know each other and decide whether there is a connection. If there is no connection, then your parents will find a new candidate. It is not unheard of for people to refuse 15 or so candidates before there is a mutual connection. You have to figure out which camp him and his family fall on. Are they the type that will force him to marry a specific person or will they be lenient with him choosing you? If you believe they can be lenient then there are ways you can win over their approval because at the end of the day they want what is best for their son. How traditional is he, how traditional are his parents?? I need you to elaborate a little more before I can help you out further.

liveletlive_09

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Europe itinerary (Please Review) Posted: 7/25/2009 6:01:57 PM
Yeah I was afraid we were flying around too much. I think I may talk to them about keeping it to barcelona-Rome-Amsterdam

liveletlive_09

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Europe itinerary (Please Review) Posted: 7/25/2009 1:31:22 PM
Hey guys, Just thought I would post my plan for action for Europe and see what you guys think. Aug 20-Fly out of Toronto at 6pm August 21st- Arrive at Barcelona at 7am Barcelona- 3 days and 3 nights (Aug 21-23) Fly out early morning Rome- 3 days, 3 nights (August 24-26) Fly out early morning Prague- 2 days, 2 nights (Aug 27-28) Fly out early morning Amsterdam- 2 days, 2 nights (Aug 29-Aug 30) Fly out early morning London- 2 days, 2 nights ( Aug 31- Sep 1) So there is my plan. I have a HUGE problem though. I am planning on staying in Europe until sep 4, 5th or 6th. So Basically, here are my question: 1. Do I add in Ibiza for 2 days and 2 nights after Barcelona...Barcelona, Ibiza, amsterdam will become rediculous party cities so I don't want to overdo the party scene...or do I? 2. Do I just extend the stay in Barcelona and Rome to compensate? Do I go to Paris instead of Ibiza? 3. Is prague worth going to? 4. Is hostelworld.com the best place to book hostels? Let me know what you guys think. P.s we have the flight to europe settled and using ryanair throughout europe (haven't booked yet)

liveletlive_09

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Spain or South America? Posted: 7/25/2009 12:37:52 PM
I grew up in Valencia and left in 1996. Feel free to ask me any questions about the city.

liveletlive_09

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Must have car and job=gold digger? Posted: 7/23/2009 8:10:47 PM
Most of you have great arguments. The only thing I have overlooked is that some people live in large cities where an automobile is not necessary. Nonetheless, even I still need my car for "entertainment purposes" even though I live in an urban center. It really is up to both people involved if they can make it work with public transit. In regards to jobs, I stated in my second post that I wasn't referring to people who are in between jobs. Most of us have quit a job or two, been laid off from one or two, and have spent a small period of time in between jobs once or twice. The point is that if you do not have a job you better be spending 8-12 hours a day looking for one. No excuses, no complaints, what women want to see is that you have a long steady employment history and that this is only a blip in your life.

liveletlive_09

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Must have car and job=gold digger? Posted: 7/23/2009 5:15:33 PM
Totally agree with breathless, Ambition, preserverence, intelligence, and a drive to succeed are traits that we all look for in the opposite sex (or should). Personally, I wouldn't even consider a woman that would date me if I decided to stay at home and not work and strive to make a living. What does that say about her? I have nothing but respect for hard working men/women that have been laid off and are working 8-12 hours a day looking for employment. We all have periods that we are in between jobs, what's important is that you are putting 110% into getting ahead regardless of your situation.

liveletlive_09

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Must have car and job=gold digger? Posted: 7/23/2009 5:02:56 PM
I noticed something pretty strange in my time on these forums, mainly men calling women gold diggers for demanding that a man have a job and/or a car. Since when did looking for something other than street bums start to mean that these women are gold diggers. Being a man myself, I am embarrassed by all those on these forums that refer to these women as gold diggers. Get off the couch, get on the bus, and go get yourself a JOB! It doesn't make her a gold digger, it just makes you a moron for calling her that. I think some of us need to meet some real gold diggers because we have lost touch

liveletlive_09

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Three questions that tell me a lot...very quickly... Posted: 7/20/2009 4:08:02 PM
Who in their right minds would ask these questions in the way you guys phrased them early on in the dating scene? These are questions you might ask a job applicant not the person you are out on a first date with. Personally I would answer the first questions expecting for you to say "ah gotcha this is all one big joke" but would walk right out once I realize the second question is also interview type.

liveletlive_09

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Help a youngin learn from your mistakes Posted: 7/19/2009 8:40:32 PM
I meant this post to be a serious post on mistakes/advice that people with a lot more life experience have to give but it has turned into one big joke...having said that, some of you are HILLARIOUS!

liveletlive_09

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Help a youngin learn from your mistakes Posted: 7/19/2009 4:54:20 PM
ahaha, easily one of the funniest posts I have run into in a long time.

liveletlive_09

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Help a youngin learn from your mistakes Posted: 7/19/2009 4:47:36 PM
It is obvious to me that this forum is littered with people that have a lot more life experiences than me when it comes to dating/marriage/divorce/dating again. I want this thread to become somewhat a cautionary tale/advice column for us yongings (late teens-mid 20s). I want you each to mention the most important lessons that you have learned from dating/marriage/divorce that you wish you had known to begin with. Help us youngins in avoiding some of the mistakes you made!

liveletlive_09

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Had a nice meet-n-greet last night Posted: 7/19/2009 4:21:42 PM
Congrats on the find. Just curious though, what exactly is your question or topic that you would like us to respond to????

liveletlive_09

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Latest 5 Posts are more important than profile descriptions? Posted: 7/19/2009 11:29:20 AM
Chris, You definitely described why I usually take a look at their posts. The topics they reply to and their sense of humour are key traits I look for. Great responses though...I wish everyone posted on the forums.

liveletlive_09

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Latest 5 Posts are more important than profile descriptions? Posted: 7/18/2009 6:06:06 PM
I just read someone's profile description and loved what they had to say. I decided to send them a message but my eyes caught the fact that they had the "5 Latest forum posts" at the bottom of their profile. I decided to read the top three and was EXTREMELY surprised to find that their views on the topics had nothing in common to their profile description. I mean that in their profile description they were positive, talked about being good natured, and it was very well written. Reading through their posts they were rude, ignorant, and kept on putting the OP down. So my question is, do you read someone's last 5 posts before you message them and more importantly, what do YOUR 5 previous posts say about you?

liveletlive_09

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Profile makes you want to run away!! Posted: 7/18/2009 8:44:07 AM
Monsoon, There is always a positive way to spin things; "Don't bother messaging me if you smoke"- My health is important to me so I don't smoke, and I would like to find someone who's health is as equally important to them. "I don't want fat people"- I work very hard to keep myself in shape and I would like someone who's in the same mindset. "If you are short don't even bother"- I am very attracted to tall men. "If you can't spell properly then f-off"- I value someone who is linguistically capable. Stating what you want instead of being rude and obnoxious in declaring what you don't like I believe just works better.

liveletlive_09

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Profile makes you want to run away!! Posted: 7/17/2009 5:09:58 PM
I totally agree that you should write a profile that is a truthful reflection of who you are, but letting people know how negative you are that early is never a good thing. At least TRY to be positive in your profile. We have all had horrible dating experiences, have been wronged once or twice, and at the end of the day we all know that life isn't always strawberry cakes and milk but why mention the obvious? A rule I always follow is to ONLY mention things/places/type of people that I like and enjoy on my profile. I have a very good idea of what I don't want, and I have no problem avoiding those without mentioning it on my profile. Some really good responses though this forum is great!!

liveletlive_09

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Profile makes you want to run away!! Posted: 7/16/2009 6:04:55 PM
I understand that we're all uniquely different therefore each one of our profiles has somewhat of a different vibe (and rightly so). But have you come across a profile that is so negative that you wonder if the person is looking for a date, or here to see how many people they can scare away. Any of the following comments bug me- -I hate... -Don't bother messaging me if... -So and so type people disgust me... -If you don't like my profile then f off... Are these people lacking in social grace or is this normal? Also, do I just ignore their profile or politely message them to let them know what kind of vibe people are getting about them...a couple state clearly that they have been single for a long time so I almost want to do them a favour.

liveletlive_09

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23 Year Old Single Father Seeks Advice Posted: 7/4/2009 7:00:03 PM
She passed away. No one can tell you when the right time to start dating is. Just do what feels right by you.

liveletlive_09

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7 year itch or insanity??? Posted: 7/4/2009 6:57:35 PM
A case of too soon too much. You may need to start over and live life a little.

liveletlive_09

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A question for you serious-minded men... Posted: 7/4/2009 6:55:34 PM
Who wouldn't appreciate the opportunity to date someone who can elevate you intellectually? As long as the person is not looking to talk about computer engineering related topics day and night and can enjoy talking about different subjects then it is all good.

liveletlive_09

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Who is suited to Online dating? Posted: 7/4/2009 6:52:52 PM
I have often thought about the same thing. Who is suited for online dating? Anyone with a computer who's looking to broaden their dating pool. Simple as that I guess.

liveletlive_09

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The best course of action Posted: 5/31/2009 6:26:34 PM
Hey all, So I have a little dilemma. I started talking to someone on another website (not a dating website) and we have been talking for a while. At some point she took a liking to me and started making hints that we should meet. The last time she mentioned it I agreed and set a date. I always make rash decisions when pressure is put on me and always reply "yes" to only regret it later on. The problem is, she's 19 and I am 25. Granted, she's very mature and in university so we have a little bit in common, but the age gap seems a little glaring to me. I have always had the habit of backing out of dates (even with my ex). I always make plans and cancel at the last minute or not call. That's just who I have always been so I am trying to change. My question is, em I right in thinking the age gap is too much and wanting to cancel or is it just me making excuses to not have to go on a date again?

liveletlive_09

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Men who work too long/are too busy Posted: 3/19/2009 5:27:28 AM
By 40 he burnt out and started going downhill. His health suffered, the body can only take so many 16 hour days and severe jet lag for so long. He has had 7 different jobs since then, deals poorly with stress and managed to burn every bridge he every built. We divorced and I have not seen a child support check in nearly a year. He is broken in every way. 9-5? I think he would trade every lobster dinner and 1st class plane seat if you asked him now. That's a pretty unfortunate turn of events. You stuck by him and was the strong woman behind him through a lot of it and I wish it had turned out better. I make a strong point to go to the gym regularly, eat very healthy, and get decent amounts of sleep so burnout hopefully will not be a huge issue. Thank you ALL for your great advice. I am still young and I am certain I have a lot to learn from the people on this forum that have lived a few more miles of life than I have.

liveletlive_09

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Men who work too long/are too busy Posted: 3/18/2009 7:42:54 PM
If you insist on driving yourself into the ground, for some sort of caricarure gordon Gecko type boss See that's the biggest problem with people today. 99% of people are "happy" with their average job, average 9-5 schedule, average marriage, average everything. I have always said that the day I find myself working at a 9-5 job things must have really gone downhill for me. Think about all the men you read about in history books. Be it war generals, mercenaries, presidents, business moguls, great scientists. Do you think any of those men worked 9-5? Get real! I am not going to work 9-5 and be average joe blow when I have the opportunity to be great at what I do. I don't mean to offend anyone who enjoys the 9-5 lifestyle. It is just not for me and it will never be. Life is about risk and reward. 9-5 jobs don't entail a lot of risk but most have little to no opportunity of being massively rewarded.

liveletlive_09

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Men who work too long/are too busy Posted: 3/18/2009 7:23:41 PM
So what time do you actually ordinarily leave your place of employment? And how long do you spend at the gym? Sometimes shaving off a half hour or hour here can make a big difference and sorry, getting home after 11p to have what, an hour or two that you could actually spend with someone? I appreciate your help but I just don't have set hours at work. If there is a deal that needs to be completed we all have to stay in until it is done. It is a very work first type of culture where you quickly become the "slacker" if you can't pull your weight. Anyways, thank you all with your responses. I am just going to keep an eye out for any women that seem extremely busy. People who have similar lifestyles usually do make better partners.

liveletlive_09

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Men who work too long/are too busy Posted: 3/18/2009 7:09:08 PM
I feel like you are exaggerating your busyness. If you're not, I'm just going to jump right into your personal space and say maybe you should rethink this plan. What field are you in, if I may ask? ahah that's exactly what I always tell women, that they are exaggerating how busy I actually am. I personally see my schedule as somewhat normal but just yet to find someone who feels the same. Weekdays: Leave home at 6:50, work long hours, study, and go to the gym until 11pm. Buy food on my way home eat, read financial news, and go to sleep. Weekends: Weekends I actually have time to go on a date. I usually work on designations (if I don't have to work) and go to the gym until about 7 and then I am free after that Now that I think of it I actually am not even that busy. Do all couples actually see each other much during weekdays?

liveletlive_09

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Men who work too long/are too busy Posted: 3/18/2009 6:56:51 PM
Per your repost, your question should really be how do I streamline my life so that I will have someone to come home to? There is some chick online that I am totally spacing out her name, she is apparently excellent with suggestions about organizing your life, someone help me out here? I am not looking to change my schedule whatsoever. It is already jam packed and I have probably spent years streamlining my days so I can work crazy hours, pursue designations and go to the gym. I am just now wondering if there is a type of woman that actually enjoys her own time and doesn't mind a partner who is very busy.

liveletlive_09

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Men who work too long/are too busy Posted: 3/18/2009 6:53:33 PM
[Find someone who is on the same career track and learn how to manage your time. You can learn to read faster, you can learn to read on your lunch hour and breaks at work. You can get up earlier to free up evenings and you can streamline the amount of time you spend working on papers and things by learning how to pull information from sources quickly and type as you are looking at the sources rather than messing around with notes et al.] Yeah, I employ just about every short cut I can think of but I still have about 20 mins of spare time during the weekdays and an hour or so a day during weekends. I also have tried dating the "busy" women. But it seems that as soon as things get a little secret they throw away their schedule to fit you in and expect the same in return. That is logical but defeats the point in even looking for someone who's just as busy.

liveletlive_09

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Men who work too long/are too busy Posted: 3/18/2009 6:47:12 PM
I would rather have a "stable" home front to come back to. You can't deal with a stressful workplace then come back to an empty home or someone who doesn't care one bit about you.

liveletlive_09

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Men who work too long/are too busy Posted: 3/18/2009 6:35:12 PM
Hi everyone, I have a question which is geared more towards women but men are more than welcome to chyme in. I graduated form university not that long ago,working in a professional field, and also studying for designations that will further improve my earning power and job availabilities. Chances are I will be working and studying until I am 32 since I plan on getting a bunch of designations and moving up the ladder. My question is, are there no women out there who don't mind a guy who doesn't have a lot of free time and welcome the opportunity to join in the spoils of a man's hard work as he climbs up the ladder of the corporate world? Seems like me and a few of my work mates are having problems with the women we date not accepting our lifestyle. Should we have to choose between our careers and dating? Is the hope of finding a woman who is willing to work around a man's busy schedule not realistic?

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