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jkdhaKKKSFkafiy

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Being single at Christmas and some good points about it Posted: 12/22/2005 3:31:24 AM
The whole point of this thread is to find the positive side of the situation not to dwell on it.

jkdhaKKKSFkafiy

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Being single at Christmas and some good points about it Posted: 12/19/2005 5:45:46 AM
Actually yes that's another good point considering that neither I nor my sister are married, is just us and my folks, same as every year!

jkdhaKKKSFkafiy

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Being single at Christmas and some good points about it Posted: 12/19/2005 5:04:08 AM
So there I was, just in the kitchen looking at this box of Foxes Selection Biscuits, and I started to think....good points about being single. 1) No-one to tell you "oy stop eating those, they're for Christmas!" 2) No-one to stop you from becoming the devil incarnate, and EATING FROM THE BOTTOM LAYER (oh the humanity!) AHAHAHAHA 3) No-one to pick holes in your cooking (I like my food looking like a Roswell alien all burnt unrecognisable and crunchy, and sprouts are supposed to be yellow and mushy)

jkdhaKKKSFkafiy

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saying i love you Posted: 12/17/2005 2:02:53 AM
Don't think I can ever recall my dad saying it to my mum once, but I guess after 40 odd years of marriage and arguments it doesn't need to be said. With regards to myself, I will avoid those three little words until I'm completely sure that I really mean it deep down inside, as the danger is that you end up saying it and not meaning it. My other reason for not saying it, is that I don't want to become one of the vast number of male letches who say it just to get shagged. I'm a great believer in the idea that you say what you mean, if you don't mean it, don't say it.

jkdhaKKKSFkafiy

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I aM SICK OF BEING SINGLE Posted: 12/17/2005 1:57:55 AM
Well considering I was single for a very long time and I only had my first rleationship at 27 it's no great shakes for me, but I can understand your desire not to be Mistress H. Though the longer you stay single the more you get used to it and develope funny personality quirks . The danger is you get so used to it that when you do find that special person you may completely overlook them and just carry on regardless.

jkdhaKKKSFkafiy

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I aM SICK OF BEING SINGLE Posted: 12/16/2005 3:19:34 PM
Don't know. It has it's plus sides and it down sides. The down side for me is thinking of that advert where you have that couple dancing and I think yeah that'd be nice to have a relationship like that all harmony and grace, and on the bad days I see couples about and think well that was me almost a year ago. But bad relationships tend to make you reticent to commit, you know the old mistakes, you know how it feels when it's wrong and how ill it can make you. It's funny, as I know that harmony I seek from a woman, and that harmony she would seek from me, but it is harder that fairy dust to find. Funnier still is that I think back to the time when I was attached and the time before even that when I never thought I'd say the words "my girlfriend". Just have to be patient and weed out the predators and the time-wasters. To this end I've become more hardened to any "potential interest" however infrequent it may be. I know what I seek, so perhaps you should focus on that. Oh and don't let any fool tell you what you seek is wrong, providing you're serious in what you want, you WILL find her.

jkdhaKKKSFkafiy

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Most unusual request ?? Posted: 12/13/2005 12:22:05 PM
Best request I can expect is shut up and please leave.

jkdhaKKKSFkafiy

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heart on your sleeve Posted: 12/13/2005 11:45:43 AM
I have my own version of this phrase. Wear your heart on your sleeve, and if it's big enough use it as a shield.

jkdhaKKKSFkafiy

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Are you with a Psychopath? Posted: 12/13/2005 11:43:05 AM
I have to say this sounds like my ex. I'm not doing the usual man-thing by denigrating her, but based on the facts she told me and her behavior towards me. She was abused as a child as a result of her mother dying when she was 8 (father was an alchoholic, and used to beat her). Twice divorced (both times by the husband leaving her, plus short term BFs of which I was one) (Point 17) Beaten again by one of her ex boyfriends (further retraction of her personality) Reliance on sex as a means of stimulation due to her being unable to express herself emotionally. (Point 14) Unwillingness to show affection, no tactile response to cuddles, no real feeling when holding hands. (Point 7) Insincerity, and emotional instability with a desire to control (endless txt messages when away from her and little or no interaction when I was there) (Point 5) In reflection I have to say that I'm guilty of some points but some of these points are present in all of us to a greater or lesser degree. I can get fraustrated but I do bottle my temper as it's not nice, and there are always consiquences of the self indulgence of losing your temper. Doubtful anyone will read this mass of text anyway.

jkdhaKKKSFkafiy

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Who u were in ur past life ?? Posted: 12/13/2005 10:40:44 AM
As far as I'm concerned, sperm.

jkdhaKKKSFkafiy

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Whats the best gift santa has bought you??? Posted: 12/13/2005 10:39:23 AM
Still waiting for mine.

jkdhaKKKSFkafiy

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Whats the weirdest dream you ever had? Posted: 12/12/2005 4:05:39 PM
Some of the weirdest I've had none of them nice. Seem to have nightmares every 18 months but very graphic. 1) There was this disease that made people grow tumours all over them and I remember in this dream a guy wearing a suit with a head like the elephant man due to this disease with skin all blotchy in orange, purple and blue, and as he spoke some of the tumours were rupturing. Then there was this guy who doctors were trying to save from the disease but his head was encased in a metal box due to the extreme nature of his disfigurement and all he could do was make weird muffled cries like a nutcase. 2) Usual apocalyptic crap dream. I was dead, but came back to like in a corn field in the late afternoon sun of a hot summer (rememeber waking up in the dream in this cornfield thoguh had the memory of breaking out of the ground). On the horizon I saw this figure which I can only call a demon (just knew it was) but you couldn't see it's face as it was wearing a helmet like a deep sea diver with horns like straight handle bars with the tips curved inwards and forwards. I ran from the field only to run up this hill which had a flat slope, and was totally flat on the top with a fence all the way round the top. When I got to the top I was confronted by (I'm not sure if it was the devil or not) a cyclops like demon with yet another weird helmet like a diver. But for some reason he let me go and this thought from it to me was "you can go, you're of no interest to me", and I remember feeling very releived by it. Then I ran to this car park on the back of the hill where loads of people were just having a nice time not knowing what was coming, and I ran to a bunch of schoolboys who were in a car and said "we need to get out of here, don't ask questions, just drive". From then it gets a bit Oman / lord of the ringsy. I alays remember the afternoon sun from it like nothing was wrong, just any other hazey summers afternoon.

jkdhaKKKSFkafiy

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What Are Men Looking For ? The Impossible Or Reality? Posted: 12/12/2005 3:00:39 PM
Yes well some of us try our damndest to even find the true love we are looking for but get complety by-passed. Even so no-one likes to be put into a catagory, which is why I class myself in a catagory all of my own (only if because no-one wants to join the weird and unique! ). Sadly we honest few can try.

jkdhaKKKSFkafiy

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Do you think you have a soulmate? Posted: 12/12/2005 10:19:34 AM
Hmm interesting term "The One" is. Maybe it's the Matrix conotations, but for me it's the feeling that you know what the other person is thinking with ease and that you are both comfotable with each other. That itself will always lead to greater things. I'm still looking, but if she kung-fu's my a*** across the room I shall not be pleased.

jkdhaKKKSFkafiy

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overused profile terms Posted: 12/11/2005 4:28:30 PM
Errrm overused terms? I'd definately have to go with the following. "bubbly personality" - farts in the bath? "looking for Mr Darcy" - not living in the real world? "eternal Bridget Jones" - I have a desire to have sex and all the other things I missed when married? (ok a bit harsh) "if carlsburg made insert whatever you like here" - I coppied it from someone elses profile!

jkdhaKKKSFkafiy

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Which famous leader are you? Posted: 12/11/2005 4:19:25 PM
I was thinking more sausages and meat products of Germany, some really nice food there. But a good pizza wouldn't go a miss right now as I'm hungry and it's driving me nuts. Nuts! Crisps, chips.

jkdhaKKKSFkafiy

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Which famous leader are you? Posted: 12/11/2005 4:15:44 PM
That's fine, you have those and I'll have anywhere that does good food.

jkdhaKKKSFkafiy

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Which famous leader are you? Posted: 12/11/2005 4:14:14 PM
Three times out of four...mmmm not good. Had a Mother Therasa on the third test mind you!

jkdhaKKKSFkafiy

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Which famous leader are you? Posted: 12/11/2005 4:03:10 PM
ACHTUNG! Guess who I came out as? Bollocks. If you don't see me online for a while it's because I'm either invading Poland, or organising a social rally.

jkdhaKKKSFkafiy

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Things you never see on profiles but you should Posted: 12/11/2005 3:54:31 PM
God damn. I love you all in a sigh of relief. There are others like me out there. And it is my face, not ripped off someone else cos no other bugger would have it...as I'm finding out... Oh well my own one for you. "I'll happily look at your pictures and w*** off about them every night, but never read your profile, then waste your time and lead you on about how I want you for who you are".

jkdhaKKKSFkafiy

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PMSL? Posted: 12/11/2005 3:42:57 PM
PMSL....hmmmm Ok sexist sort of joke coming on here, PMS? add an L...MSL...missle? Super turbo rocket propelled hormone rage?...PMS Missile? I can just imagine it. "I am come, the destroyer of worlds little man!!!" The monthy ICBM dump on your head. Though for the sake of a joke, I'll be honest in that all I've ever seen is women being more delicate and under the weather with it, but not pure black evil they would lead us believe...it's just a scare tactic mostly, and you can cure it with chocolate.

jkdhaKKKSFkafiy

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Proud to be a B*itch Posted: 12/11/2005 3:31:27 PM
No you should stand up for your beliefs. It's others who are wrong to have the audacity to question your morality. Usually it's because they can't match you. Never give an inch, as if you have to, you've got the wrong person in your life. Everything major should fit together like a key in a lock. Little things may change but the big bits of who you are should not becompromised otherwise you are lessened by a lesser person. Got that?

jkdhaKKKSFkafiy

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When the girl wants to be JUST FRIENDS Posted: 12/11/2005 2:55:32 PM
OOOOOOO. I smell a bullshit answer! From those in the know...top bullshit answers "not sure if it's the right time for me"....bollocks they've lost interest "just friends"....total crap, they can't bring themselves to say you were a passing interest "it's complicated"....yet more shit you don't need, they have the issues NOT YOU, broom 'em I'm sorry if this is not helpful, and I know that right now you will be hoping that someone can shed some positive light on your predicament. Hope springs eternal, but I'm fairly well versed in betrayal and relational breakdowns. When people cut you out of the loop, they neither want your help nor you (my ex did this to me when her ex husband was mucking her kids about). Hell I'd love to get all avenging angel on those who do this crap, but the best I can do is just give them a sour email...oh I'm really annoyed you people exist kind of loses all impact, bit like saying "I'm really a bit cross", or trying to level a city with a whoopee cusion. So until the time where I can burn out the tounges of the liars, make them feel what they do to you, or better still turn them to a pillar of salt with a spread-fingered gesture of my hand, I guess I'll just case my angry little set of fantasy angel wings and grump about it instead. They say you reap what you sow, and for the most part I've tried not to sow those sorts of seeds, have on occasions where the person didn't seem to be the person they were on line, and still felt guilty about it, and had it done to me in turn (so there is a cosmic sense of justice, but only to those of us who are affected by morality). But sometime you sow no seeds and still get a bad crop. My own advice is meet someone before it gets all too heavy and mixed up, see how it goes whichever way it goes, as that way it's not wasted time.

jkdhaKKKSFkafiy

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when to walk away Posted: 12/11/2005 2:28:22 PM
When to walk away? I'll tell you. First thing is if you think that someone is playing you, checking out their options then you have to be strong and cut yourself off from those feelings. But be careful, as once you close the door on those feelings it's very hard (if not almost impossible to get them back). Second thing, if after the initial flurry of interest the trail seems to go cold, not as much communication then you can assume that you're talking to a brick wall. Don't waste your time. Final thing, if someone says the world is not black and white it's because they have no morality, and are quite devious and manipulative, implying they don't mind casual relationships and have no problems with being with anybody as per how they feel (eg needing sex and saying it didn't mean anything...in a word KER-RAP*). Why do I say this? Been there, had it done to me, got the axe grinding t-shirt. The world is black and white no matter what anyone says, you just have to have the strength to make a stand, or a choice and live with it. Sitting on the fence is no good, which if I think about my current position on relationships is somewhat hypocrytical, but I have my reasons at this time.

jkdhaKKKSFkafiy

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Why is there never anyone in my area? What's the problem? Posted: 12/11/2005 11:45:22 AM
So here I am on a Sunday evening thinking where the hell are all the women locally? This is daft. You write down everything you can to try and put your point across and yet it all gets ignored. I just feel like I'm banging my head on a brick wall here. Makes you wonder sometimes if anyone is even serious about relationships. Ah well this'll probably get ignored too.

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