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clearbluecolors

Joined: 1/8/2009

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Are ya ever just really relieved.....? Posted: 10/1/2009 3:31:32 AM
I was always stressed about first dates and finally realized it was because I had spent too much time prepping. Just do a preliminary chat, email or two and schedule a meet in a very public place. It's worked so much better for me and has eliminated most of the mind games. Neither person has a fictitious character to build and then defend. Try it.

clearbluecolors

Joined: 1/8/2009

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Was I that wrong in my thinking? Posted: 10/1/2009 3:18:01 AM
Red flag???? For sure. Don't take it personally. By the way- animal hording is a serious psychological and emotional issue- not just about a couple of pets and lax housekeeping. Hope you find your soulmate.

clearbluecolors

Joined: 1/8/2009

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What is a Real Man? Posted: 9/13/2009 9:29:36 AM
No amount of complaining will change the facts. Women and men think differently. Learn something from the opposite sex and your encounters with them. Pissing in a fan will just get you wet.

clearbluecolors

Joined: 1/8/2009

Msg: 54 (view)

People that say very little about themselves ... Posted: 5/31/2009 7:58:56 AM
I like the pof'ers who want to meet. The endless emails are almost always a dead end. To each his own- but send me a phone # or make a date. Have met lots of wonderful people- some clicked and some did not but it's almost always a good experience. It's better than the CYBERFRAUD. Y

getsouper

Joined: 1/8/2009

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Why Are Over 45 Men In Love With Motorcycles? Posted: 5/23/2009 12:33:20 PM
There you go with all that logic!!!

getsouper

Joined: 1/8/2009

Msg: 333 (view)

Why Are Over 45 Men In Love With Motorcycles? Posted: 5/23/2009 12:29:00 PM
Thereb you go with all that logic!!!

getsouper

Joined: 1/8/2009

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What are women really looking for? Posted: 4/17/2009 12:23:28 PM
Can't answer for all women, but I know what I would like. Smart, energetic, stable, and sexy. What I don't want: couch potato, sports fanatic, internet porn addict, adolescent mentality. Big turn offs: Men who have more hair care products than I do. Neat freaks. Picky eaters. Agressive drivers. What I have learned since I started online dating: There are many men out there who talk way too much. If he talks about sex all the time he probably needs to learn more about it. If he brags about money- he assumes he can buy you. Men who don't tell you they are married should be guillotined. Emails can never take the place of a live conversation. Don't assume that baseball caps look better than a bald head-NOT! Politics is a great conversation starter- but you better know what you are talking about. Don't assume that if I don't want to have sex with you that I don't like sex- WRONG!

getsouper

Joined: 1/8/2009

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So what do you do with sauerkraut? Posted: 4/17/2009 2:48:50 AM
Make a great Reuben! Thinly sliced corned beef, swiss or havarti cheese, sauerkraut, dressing (mayo, pickle relish, ketchup, dill weed, lemon juice) on grilled rye bread. Yum

getsouper

Joined: 1/8/2009

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Just not going there any more. Posted: 4/17/2009 2:25:31 AM
If we persue those dreams with realistic expectations, we have to be willing to live and love. If we don't want to go there- we shouldn't go here- to a dating site.

getsouper

Joined: 1/8/2009

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Whatever Happened to Romance/Courtship, etc.? Posted: 4/17/2009 2:07:21 AM
Men in their 60's and up have a good attitude when it comes to dating and old fashioned romance.

getsouper

Joined: 1/8/2009

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Are there any people left that date one at a time? Posted: 4/16/2009 8:23:36 PM
QI will meet for coffee, chat and share info online. It all comes to a screeching halt when I meet someone I like. Could't be a player if I tried. I want a good guy, a genuine lover, and a keeper. Players are pretty obvious- they are the ones with their hands full.

getsouper

Joined: 1/8/2009

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Talking about sex before even meeting Posted: 4/12/2009 5:24:32 PM
I don't have any answers to this question, but I have some observations. Occasionally, I will connect with a guy who sounds like my man. But with the first communication, it goes downhill. He gets to a place in the conversation where it's trash talk. Over the top, explicit, crap, and it's pretty obvious he's been third party way too much. Don't these men understand that there is a lot more to good sex than geometry and anatomy? I suspect that the more the men need to talk about it- the less interesting they are in the first person. Anyone else want to weigh in on this?

getsouper

Joined: 1/8/2009

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Whats an instant turn on for you Posted: 3/29/2009 6:43:49 PM
Kiss me on the back of the neck. Turn offs: bad table manners. Complaining. Agressive driving.

getsouper

Joined: 1/8/2009

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Whats an instant turn on for you Posted: 3/29/2009 7:43:09 AM
Drumroll: And the winner is :!!!!!!!!

getsouper

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Msg: 271 (view)

Would you actually date a Liberal/Progressive? Posted: 3/24/2009 9:31:49 PM
Go figure????? I have not indicated in my profile my political leanings but have gotten some very nasty messages accusing me of being liberal. One was particularly hateful. I think there are some very insecure men out there.

getsouper

Joined: 1/8/2009

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He couldn't get it UP, should I give him another chance?? Posted: 3/24/2009 1:36:00 AM
You are a very wise man

getsouper

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Msg: 270 (view)

Would you actually date a Liberal/Progressive? Posted: 3/24/2009 1:01:03 AM
I don't like labels. Nor do I like rantings. Nothing interesting here.

getsouper

Joined: 1/8/2009

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How long before it's real from online Posted: 3/24/2009 12:28:39 AM
Wonderful. I wish everyone could think like you. Kudos! Class and integrity- you are a prince around here. Yvonne

getsouper

Joined: 1/8/2009

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How long before it's real from online Posted: 3/23/2009 4:07:11 PM
I am no longer wasting time with men who just want to email, and others who are just looking for someone to read their cybersex ravings and look at their webcam "images". What works for me: if after initial email, I feel like there is potential I get their number and give them a call. If that goes well, we meet in a very public place. There are just too many goofs to waste time on.

getsouper

Joined: 1/8/2009

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question for the ladies Posted: 3/18/2009 7:14:13 PM
She needs to bury this guy in the back yard. But not because of the gift. If she is telling you about this she should be man shopping -not entertaining a turd. By the way, the greatest birthday gift I ever recieved was a TROY BUILT HORSE ( rototiller) !

getsouper

Joined: 1/8/2009

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Initiating Sex Posted: 3/17/2009 5:09:03 PM
loved that one!!!!!!

getsouper

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Is intelligence a key characteristic for you? Posted: 3/15/2009 3:08:33 PM
You are so right! I am surprised that there are so many men here who cannot think beyond their motorcycles. I don't obsess about education, but there has to be some grey matter there to keep me interested. If I can have a conversation - I am happy! Yvonne

getsouper

Joined: 1/8/2009

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45 and it's just sinking in. Men wanting sex Posted: 3/15/2009 10:16:23 AM
Amen James, these forums are great but by no means represent the masses. Sexual desires are universal but every person has their own standards and levels of interest. Enjoy the fun and the flirting. If you find yourself with a bully or a manipulator- keep walking. "Leave those players to prey upon each other.

getsouper

Joined: 1/8/2009

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Being on the Defensive Posted: 3/15/2009 10:02:01 AM
This person sounds like a player to me. Isn't he challenging you to step up to something? High tail it out of there- he has had way too much practice manipulating people. Run very fast- but don't have a discussion -that will just get twisted into a list of your inadequacies and your defending your feelings. DEAD END.

getsouper

Joined: 1/8/2009

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50+ Guys With Motorcycles?? What do women do? Posted: 3/15/2009 2:32:23 AM
Motorcycles are good toys. If you want one-get one. Enjoy the ride. But why do men post the toy collection photos? I splurged on a beautiful piano but I never thought about putting it in my profile photo.

getsouper

Joined: 1/8/2009

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Diamonds and Rust Posted: 3/6/2009 7:02:39 PM
oh yeah. forgot about that one- great!!!!!!!!!!!!!

getsouper

Joined: 1/8/2009

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Re: Your Favorite Music Lyrics Posted: 3/6/2009 7:00:18 PM
come down off your throne and leave your body 'lone somebody must change you are the reason i've been waiting all these years somebody holds the key. but i'm near the end and i just ain't got the time cause i'm wasted and i cant find my way home blind faith- from the olden days

getsouper

Joined: 1/8/2009

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I think I'm broken. Posted: 2/25/2009 9:06:21 AM
Holy smokes! You really have you signals crossed. I have had many men friends who were nice to me, understanding, kind and never aggressive. They never hit on me either. One I had a crush on but I just did not think he was into me. I thought he may be gay but not admitting it to himself. Finally I mentioned my feelings to another frtiend and she told the guy how I felt. The next day he sent me a dozen roses. And when I answered the knock at the door- he grabbed me and kissed me. It was the most romantic experience I ever had. So don't just stand there- do something.

getsouper

Joined: 1/8/2009

Msg: 67 (view)

Chemistry vs Attraction? Posted: 2/24/2009 10:06:29 AM
Good god girl- that's not chemistry. That's advanced physics- and magic!!!!! Enjoy!!!!!

getsouper

Joined: 1/8/2009

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Ivories Singles Night-Nashville Ivovies Piano Bar- February 28, 2009 8:30 pm Posted: 2/24/2009 8:46:30 AM
I look forward to this night. The last meet was a blast! Yvonne

getsouper

Joined: 1/8/2009

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women - glut on the market? Posted: 2/12/2009 8:39:04 PM
Hey, number man, if you ever get tired of concentrating all that wisdom and effort into these rantings, give us a call. That's a lot of good energy that needs a focus.

getsouper

Joined: 1/8/2009

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women - glut on the market? Posted: 2/11/2009 8:22:12 AM
There are more available women than men. There are more men looking for younger women than are younger men looking for older women. To cite data concerning marriage is not particularly helpful because so many relationships are not marriages- therefore not borne out in the numbers. Would be interesting to know how many marriages end with the arrival of a younger- the other woman on the scene.

getsouper

Joined: 1/8/2009

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Calling all 40-60Something Males? Posted: 2/9/2009 5:06:40 PM
I am 54. There are many men out there who want younger women. That's their choice. Don't try to fight your way into them. If they are citing your failings or inadequacies it is just their way of disguising their own. It is no coincidence that as soon as performance issues sneak in to their life - the obsession to become a teacher to a less savvy or seasoned woman rages. The men who need this can't be helped- it has nothing to do with you. Never do battle for these men. They need to win this battle in their own mind. Some never recover from getting kicked to the curb. Smarter men finally figure it out. Those men are awesome. They finally get it( and give it)- good.

getsouper

Joined: 1/8/2009

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Chemistry vs Attraction? Posted: 2/9/2009 4:39:16 PM
Good answer- and it works both ways!

getsouper

Joined: 1/8/2009

Msg: 257 (view)

We all Have baggage at our age? No Baggage thing...I don't get it Posted: 1/25/2009 4:29:00 PM
I enjoyed reading all the comments. My experiences have been different- maybe because I am older-54. Most men I have met who say no baggage turn out to have a lot of it themselves. Some have run away from problems and are sure that more sex with younger women will cure it all. I finally decided to skip anyone who said no baggage because they turned out to be married or were looking to just get laid. (Or both) I wish you all the best in your search.

getsouper

Joined: 1/8/2009

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When someone points out that you're old.. Posted: 1/22/2009 8:37:42 PM
Have lots of experience with this situation at work. I always tell them I am glad they are here for me and I am going to hurry and learn all I can from them while they still know everything.

getsouper

Joined: 1/8/2009

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Is red hot romance possible after 50? Posted: 1/21/2009 9:19:13 PM
Please don't give up. Chemistry is a very real phenomenom. If you have learned about sexuality and intimacy via porn- you may never be able to appreciate sex and sexuality until you can ditch some some idiotic stereotypes.

getsouper

Joined: 1/8/2009

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What does Don't want kids really mean ? Posted: 1/21/2009 8:17:23 PM
Well, from my perspective as a 54 year old woman, most men who are my age and say they are not sure or undecided are leaving the door open for younger women whose biological clock is winding down. I have met two who have kids and grandkids living with them and really want a live in babysitter. Both are nice guys but it is not my dream to adopt a family and spend my days doing daycare.

getsouper

Joined: 1/8/2009

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*Nashville - Saturday - January 31, 2009 - 5pm - Commodore Grille* Posted: 1/14/2009 7:17:38 PM
Count me in. Come on you senior men. Get off the couch and get noticed. And bring a friend. See you there.

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