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Msg: 43 (view)

sticking to your own 'kind' Posted: 11/23/2009 5:36:53 PM
I believe that the next stage in human evolution is being able to see past so-called "race", and humanizing/de-racializing ourselves and one another. I also believe that dating websites have made it much easier for people to approach others of a different ethnicity/cultural background, most definitely!

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Communicating every day Posted: 11/23/2009 5:34:15 PM
Talking on the phone every other day is nice, seeing one another twice a week is good.

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Love and being in love Posted: 11/19/2009 6:05:35 PM
Oh God please just let this woman go, she's ****ing with your head.

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are women playing GOD when they become pregnant Posted: 11/19/2009 6:04:00 PM
lol @ "Genetic reminder of a failed relationship". Is this what people think women base their choice to have kids on? A man? This is HER OFFSPRING. It's his as well, but a woman should not have to abort what comes out of HER WOMB over some "he loves me, he loves me not" bullshit. Seriously grow up! And women don't "GET PREGNANT", men IMPREGNATE them. It takes two, people. But oh, I forgot, men don't have to take responsibility for shit. :) Oh, and no I'm not a bitter single mother, I don' t have any kids. Only common sense.

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Love,Quality of life and who pays Posted: 11/19/2009 5:57:53 PM
Most of the women who want a man who is financially stable are usually financially stable themselves, or are living a decent life and providing for themselves. They just want someone who is on their level. Is that so much to ask for? No one wants to carry someone else. The same with men who want a woman who is on their level. I don't see what the problem is here. I'm not saying you should outright reject someone because their finances don't meet up with yours, but when you think about being with someone for the long term, and as far as marriage eventually, this is a major concern, and should be brought up early within the relationship. This is not just about casual dating (even though just with casual dating, having money to do things would be nice, hello!)...but this is about the long-term. Buying a place/home, possibly having children, so many other things come into the picture, and you can act naive all you want, but money does matter.

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Why.. Posted: 10/22/2009 7:57:39 PM
It's not your looks.. It's that you are 24.. and already have a failed relationship and a kid. THAT is more offputting to the boys your age than anything else. Not just baggage.. but huge lifetime steamer trunk.. It will be hard for you I don't see what is wrong with her having a son "already" at 24. Yes she might have a "failed relationship" (most people at 24 have plenty of those), but shit happens. I suppose you're supposed to wait until you're 30 to have kids? I guess I could understand if her son is ten years old. But she's independent, and like her profile says, has her own apartment, etc. She takes care of her's...she's not asking for anyone to father her child. If a guy can't accept that, then too bad, their loss!

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Why do women try to make men feel quilty? Posted: 10/17/2009 5:06:29 PM
What in the hell kind of 21st century pop-psychology nonsense is this?! You, and only you are responsible for how you "feel" and "external circumstances" can't influence this? Are you **ing kidding me? I'm sorrybut this is just ridiculous. Why is an insult with words or some sort of mental "abuse" any different than if a person comes up behind you and clubs you with a bat to the back of the head? I guess you're responsible for how you feel then, too? If your face starts bleeding when someone smashes it in with a rock, you get to decide how you feel? People leave mental scars on other people, just as they do physically. You can decide how you will cope with that afterward, or if you will continue to let someone treat you that way, sure. But to say that you shouldn't feel guilty for insulting someone or talking down to someone is just nonsense. He should feel guilty! As should anyone! If you don't feel guilty for being an *hole to someone, you have no conscience, nor do you have a soul! And how can you not know that you are doing or saying something that is wrong? I don't get that...how can a man be "clueless" as to whether or not he is acting like an ass?

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Straight men and Anal play - yay or nay? Posted: 10/16/2009 9:59:51 AM
The male "G-spot"? Does this mean "Gay-Spot"?

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Interracial couple denied marriage license in Louisiana Posted: 10/15/2009 9:28:37 PM
Oh man, this guy is so right. He's a **ing genius! Americans as a whole do not accept the "offsprings of such relationships". This is precisely why we voted Barack Hussein Mulatto Obama to be the leader of the free world. Let me just add...no one's lineage is pure, if your family has been in this country since slavery times and you are "African-American", I'm sorry but it is extremely likely that you have white ancestry. Someone somewhere down the line had to or rape someone who did not look like them. As well as many whites have black ancestry and etc. etc etc...this whole concept of "race" and "racial purity" is just a bunch of stupid ing nonsense. Get over it people, NO we do NOT all look the same and we don't all share the same cultures, but we are just people. There's really no point in me even saying that because people will never get it...I swear humans are the greatest curse ever to be brought upon this planet. But I just thought I'd throw it out there. As for this *hole...he has some nerve. That's all I can say. His license needs to be revoked.

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Dating a person with mental illness scare u? Posted: 10/15/2009 6:09:31 PM
My goodness do you know how many successful, filthy dirty rich people suffer from bipolar/depression/anxiety? Do you know how many genuinely nice/good people suffer from bipolar/depression/anxiety issues? Well, if you didn't know...there are plenty. The disorder is not the person...it's just a disorder, not who they really are. BUT, not everyone can deal with someone who has these mental "illnesses"...it is hard work to be with someone who is unstable in this way. But if you come to love someone, there are ways to work around it and to cooperate with them.

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People scared to get married and have children Posted: 10/5/2009 4:03:36 PM
Most of the women in this thread saying that they don't want kids shouldn't even be starting to have kids anyway at these ages of 40 +. Not everyone will experience the journey of motherhood, or have a family/legacy of their own, and that's OK. Some people just want to be alone forever with no offspring and no lover. That's fine too!

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Is meeting halfway reasonable? Posted: 10/5/2009 3:59:05 PM
THANK YOU 1kindman4u .

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What does it mean when a woman says... Posted: 10/5/2009 11:56:44 AM
a) She has really low self-esteem and d) She is letting me down easy

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Are ya ever just really relieved.....? Posted: 10/1/2009 10:07:02 AM
PinkOleander, I think you should take Mahogany-Rush's advice and...relax. I wouldn't say he's racist, not in the least bit. I'm not sure how many posts you've read of his, but "racist" is not a word I would use to describe him. Hey, why don't you go and take a peek at his profile to see how "racist" he is? :-D I don't know if it's that time of the month, or what...let's all just chill out and stop being grammar nazis and having internet fights. Now, as to the OP's original question, I had never gotten tired of the whole dating scene because I didn't do it for that long before I finally found a great guy that I've been dating for six months now...and I was never intimidated about meeting a new person again and having a date. Maybe it's because I'm younger and our main focus is just having fun on a date and not being "interviewed", I don't know. But anyway, like other people have said, you need a break!

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Beware...kissing can make you fall. Posted: 9/30/2009 10:03:33 AM
jacob8088...whatever happened to some good 'ol plain casual sex in the heat of the moment? Oh god do I hope you knock up some random chick and she decides to keep the baby, and maybe you'll find out exactly what did happen to some "good 'ol plain casual sex in the heat of the moment'.

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A question to the Ladies.... Posted: 9/30/2009 9:48:14 AM
I think many girls who grew up without a father are subconsciously searching for their father in the men that they date. I can say that was the case for me when I was younger.

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When to call it quits Posted: 9/27/2009 3:21:23 PM
Oh god miguel606...the pictures, the poems, where do I start?

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Why do I usually attract men that I'm not attracted to? Annoying! Posted: 9/27/2009 3:18:01 PM
I don't think that women should have to "grow balls" and start hunting, because we're women, we don't have BALLS. Honeslty, I do think it's best that men approach women, and not because I'm some old fashioned grandma (I'm only closing in on 25), but because in my experience, if the man does the approaching and the initial courting within a relationship, it usually works out better. When a woman is chasing a man, I really don't think it works. I've had experience and I know from a cousin and a few friends who have done the same thing...chasing after some guy...and if a guy's not into it, he's not into it. Oh, he'll let you chase him...but he doesn't take you seriously at all. If he wants it, HE'LL go for it. Of course women should hit on guys though, but I'm mostly speaking of the initial "courtship" with two people...man/woman.

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At what age were you truly ready? Posted: 9/27/2009 1:12:32 PM
And what is with this whole "20's" nonsense? Who says that you have to do this or that because you're in your "20's"?! Just because you're in your "20's" (some imaginary entity or state of being that division77 has created...the land called "20-dom"), doesn't mean that you're supposed to go and sew your wild oats and sleep around and party and get drunk and "have fun". Nothing is wrong with starting a family when you are "in your 20's". Some people want to do this. Not everyone wants to go out to nightclubs and party it up and do whatever other crazy shit that young people (like myself) are "supposed" to do. I'm pretty sure that most marriages "fail" eventually, so what the hell does it matter if it fails when you're 25, than if it "fails" when you're 42? And if you have kids from it, hello, children are not a disease or a curse. Your mentality is ****ed up right out of the gate...you need to check that first. It's like in your mind, this quote... She lost her whole 20's because of a failed marriage and the kids that came as a result. Could be replaced with: She lost her whole 20's because of a failed marriage and the HERPES that came as a result. I don't know division77, but somehow I get the STRONG vibe that you are bitter about something. I get a vibe that you yourself have a lot of regrets about one thing or the other, but that's just me. :-/

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At what age were you truly ready? Posted: 9/27/2009 1:02:03 PM
Division77, I have no children, but I highly doubt that any of the women here regret their children. You can wish that you had waited, but "wishing" is a far stretch from reality. I don't personally know of any woman, no matter how old she was when she had her child, who regrets her child being born. If this is the case with anyone, then they are sick in the head, and shouldn't have custody of the child. "They won't admit that having kids was a mistake"...that's because they don't see their children as "little mistakes". Rightfully so. The reality is, a child is a blessing, and should never be treated as a curse or as some horrible mistake. Ideally, everyone would grow up in a nice functional home with both parents, go to a private school, graduate from high school with honors and then attend an Ivy League University on a 25,000 scholarship, graduating top of the class, and then get hired into a great six-figure career right out of college, find their soul mate, get married, and then start having kids. But just how many people do you know who's life works out this way? Let's not be idealistic, people. Life doesn't go in the order that you want it to all the time. In fact, most of the time. Shit happens. There's no point in "regretting" things...just deal with the reality and accept it, and whatever consequences of the choices you've made. I wouldn't be so quick to judge young mothers, either..because some people actually want to be young when they raise their children. I'm talking mostly early 20's and some late teens who have graduated from school and a way to support themselves. Again, I don't even have children, but I am sick of the way that people judge young mothers, especially. Not all of them just got "knocked up"...some people choose to have children at a younger age (say, 20-25 bracket), and there is nothing wrong with this.

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Results vs Hit-n-Miss bullshit . . . Posted: 9/27/2009 12:42:58 PM
nightline, I was almost on your side with this one, before I saw this post: Sure NOTHING is expected to be the be-all-end-all - - - - EXCEPT death and taxes . . . The POINT is that if someone LISTS that they are looking for LTR, and are looking for 'emotionally available' , then what the **- I expect some sort of EXCHANGE- Exactly what I said about 'eighth-grade bullshit' where the guys are on one side, the girls on the other, both are 'passing' notes through OTHERS but there's no contact- Stupid if you ask me . . . I have had better results everywhere than here. It is just surprising to me that the ing game doesn't change . . . we just get older- BUT, this is better than being married, with the friction and the 'cold shoulder crap- I give up- give me a warm, submissive, willing to please Aisan gal . . . Shit, I'm done having children, I just want the pleasant non-nagging company of a woman who is not a TWO-TON TILLIE and depressed as hell . . . Is it too much to ask for a pretty face, a shapely body, a pleasant demeanor, I''ll GLADLY PAY FOR DINNER and OPEN YOUR DOOR- How about some intelligence (that can spell CIAO instead of CHOW-**in' soo ignorant) !!! I'm really ready to go back east or get a mid-west gal who is a little more sedate but pleasant and WELL-PRESERVED . . . And yes I think I look o.k. for 52 ...I can definitely see why you're still single. I don't blame any woman for not wanting to be associated with you, or for not wanting to exchange e-mails with you, if this is your attitude/demeanor/mentality. Asian or not, I'd hope that no woman has to put up with that.

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What does clingy mean to you? Posted: 9/27/2009 12:23:03 PM
oohlala21 ...Um, So you don't think making it totally obvious that you are attracted to and like someone and miss them when they're gone, in and of itself, is clingy? This is exactly what you should be doing in a relationship...

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short women/tall men Posted: 9/27/2009 12:09:28 PM
"Do tall men date short women"? What a dumbass question, I'm sorry. Most couples I see, the man is taller. And if you mean 6'0 and over...do these men date women who are...5'5 and under? Then yes, this is also very common.

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Are Women much more pickier/choosy than Men when it comes to Dating/Relationships? Posted: 9/27/2009 11:50:39 AM
Men are definitely pickier...men expect a supermodel who wears a size two, with long flowing beautiful hair, and she has to be good in bed, able to cook, she has to be sweet/nice, cute face, and has to look gorgeous without makeup, etc. etc., I could go on all day. The minimum that a woman wants in a man is some compatibility, a sense of humor, some height, DECENT looks, and god damn it a JOB!

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Have you ever risked it when the pic just didn't do it for you? Posted: 9/24/2009 2:03:59 PM
Yup, I 'took a chance' with this once...I thought the photo was...OK, it didn't blow me away, but when I met him in person, I was pleasantly surprised, and we've been dating for almost six months now!

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Is it healthy to check out other people online when your dating someone? Posted: 9/23/2009 6:56:33 PM
OMG wow now he's posting in the thread...where's the popcorn? Oh, a beer will do for now.

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Boyfriend wants a break..Help! Posted: 9/23/2009 6:33:53 PM
BigDaddyJinx quit bein' a****

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Men living with their parents: A social taboo? Posted: 9/16/2009 10:06:06 AM
Why do men blame "women's lib" for all the world's problems? The problem here is not women being liberated, the problem here is men who subconsciously hate women and have a problem with the fact that women are taking on new roles within society...roles outside of the home, outside of the kitchen, and outside of childbearing. Some men are clearly still bitter about this, and go the route of blaming all the ills in the world on the fact that women now have rights/ a voice in society. It's sickening, really. I would think that you would WANT independence if you're a man. Why would you want to be living under mama's roof, while her and her new boyfriend or hubby are **ing in their bed in the next room? It's going to be pretty awkward to date a woman if you're still living with your parents...if you eventually start having sex, you'll be **ing in your parent's house, probably while your mother is sitting right across in the living room, sipping on her last glass of Koniak, hearing everything. I would think you'd want to bring your woman home to your own house/apartment and have some private time with just her, and show her your place. And vice versa, she can bring you to her's. Because that's what ADULTS do. They get their own places to live, to start THEIR own families. And maybe they don't want to start a family, but when you grow up, you get your own assets...your own job, your own money, your own house, your own car, etc...mommy's not always going to be there. Nothing wrong with living with mom/dad if you're say...out of work, or a college student trying to make it, but to stay with them indefinitely? Yeah...no.

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Strong opinions on pot smoking here and abouts; why? Posted: 9/16/2009 9:49:05 AM
Um, the only issue is that it's...ILLEGAL, and can lead to LEGAL problems/someone being fined, having a record, going to jail even (if you're growing or selling, etc...). Other than that, weed is amazing. I think everyone should be smoking weed. It's not like I really care what the "law" says in the sense of morality, but "the law" can ruin your life/your future for something as trivial as marijuana...for instance you may have a difficult time getting a decent job if your piss is always dirty. Just don't ruin your own life by getting busted with drugs, is all I would say. We all did it when we were younger, and maybe some older people still experiment with drugs even today, but I'm just saying, think about the consequences.

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Do tall men like short, petite woman? or do men prefer women who they can see eye to eye with? Posted: 9/12/2009 7:09:00 PM
They're guarunteed to be significantly shorter than their father? Who told you this? Every man in my family is about just as tall (in some cases taller) than their fathers, and most of the women in my family are short. This example of my own family really wasn't even necessary to bring up, considering the fact that women are just shorter than men in general, and tall men are usually seen with shorter women, even if they are significantly shorter, and the sons that come out of these short women grow up to be tall men who probably marry short women, and the cycle continues... I don't see where you're getting your information in that regard.

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Do tall men like short, petite woman? or do men prefer women who they can see eye to eye with? Posted: 9/12/2009 7:01:34 PM
TallOrion...I reckon that at 6'10, EVERYONE looks like a child next to you.

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Question for the guys about dating and children Posted: 9/12/2009 6:32:10 PM
Sir Bencasey, by blocking out women around your age who have (young) kids, you are shrinking your dating pool significantly. I'm not saying it's wrong not to want to date them, I'm just telling you the truth. But if that's what you want, go for it. No one should take offense to that.

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Leagues do not exist Posted: 8/22/2009 10:22:23 PM
So you're saying that an attractive, intelligent business woman who graduated from Yale summa cum laude is in the same league as an uneducated ugly/fat guy who works at McDonalds or the local corner store? Ehhhh, no. People need to be on the same levels not just career-wise, and not necessarily just in the looks-department, but also on a level of intelligence and drive/goals.

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After 3 dates he called me beautiful, what do I say back? Posted: 8/22/2009 7:26:18 PM
Why so shocked that he called you beautiful? Do you not believe it? And it's not as if he said he loves you or proposed to you...he just gave you a simple compliment. When someone gives you a compliment, smile with gratitude and move on! :-D You can also return a compliment if you're feeling it. :D

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How do you feel about Interracial Dating ? Posted: 8/22/2009 7:23:38 PM
Minako_79, it's funny you say that...my 'white' boyfriend and I have the same culture (both were born in Germany and grew up here in America), we both speak English, we're both non-religious/agnostic/atheist, and we pretty much have the same beliefs and values. But, different skin tones!! His mother loves me and my mother loves him (we're both only-children from single parent house holds!!!) I think we work out just fine. :-P

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MSN/IM phobia prevalence causing people to go POOF! Posted: 8/18/2009 2:01:23 PM
Hazel, that was a horrible analogy about the pencil/pen thing lol. It's OBVIOUS why you would want to use AIM instead of an EMAIL. AIM is AOL INSTANT MESSAGING. Emphasis on "INSTANT MESSAGING". Even more emphasis on "INSTANT". It's not like an e-mail, where you might have to wait hours, even days, even weeks for someone to respond to you. It's having an actual conversation, as opposed to dropping off little notes/letters to one another and waiting forever for a response. It's pointless to keep exchanging e-mails back and forth when you can just have a conversation, without even using a phone...so that makes it safe. As for why people have AIM-phobia? Well like Hazel said, if someone doesn't have it, they don't want the hassle of having to download it. But boredguy18, I can't imagine anyone within your age range who wouldn't already have it, so that can't be the case (unless you're looking at older women). Sometimes people are talking to many different guys/girls and it's easier for them to just spam out emails instead of talking to you one on one. And sometimes, people think you're dismissing what they're saying by asking them to just jump on AIM, when they took the time to write you a letter or send you a message.

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If he didn't like it, would you want him to eat it anyway? Posted: 8/18/2009 1:36:52 PM
Wow, I thought this thread title meant something totally different...

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can someone help me with my soon to be hubby Posted: 8/8/2009 2:04:11 PM
Touchdown Bundy, actually...it's possible to specifically like THIS forum. It has A LOT of members, plenty of topics...not every forum has this many members or topics or different sections of advice. Jesus Christ get off it.

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Sucks in bed and making out but is a good guy Posted: 8/8/2009 2:00:34 PM
Hun, all I can say is try to teach him, and if it gets to the point where you're frustrated and he just doesn't get it...I think it would be best to let him go. Unless sex doesn't matter to you. But if it does (which is normal...sex is an important part of any relationship), then you should tell him that you don't think you're compatible!

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Bitch take this dick................. Posted: 8/8/2009 1:59:00 PM
To the OP, my boyfriend did that to me once (called me a dirty little whore) and I just started laughing hysterically. I couldn't even continue because I was laughing too much. It was just...weird.

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I've never understood the 'silence' method of breaking up Posted: 8/6/2009 1:34:15 PM
The answer to the original question of this thread is simple...it's being a coward ****. That's it! That's the reason people give the cold shoulder...the 'silent treatment'. Because they're cowards.

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Too much baggage to start a new relationship ??? Posted: 8/5/2009 3:29:43 PM
Seaga, speaking of "logic", since when is it "logical" to group all women together into one category? I'll believe what you say once you produce any statistics saying that at least 90% of women stay within abusive relationships, or show me some kind of poll saying that 80% of women look for "being treated like crap" as a characteristic in a potential partner. Saying that "women do this" and "women do that" is just being bitter and emotional, kind of like you accuse women of being. And that's not logical at all. Women are all different, and some of us (GASP), MANY of us, actually have STANDARDS for ourselves.

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Can you fall in love over the phone? Posted: 8/5/2009 3:01:14 PM
Please don't do that to yourself, you're not in love. Been there, done that. "Thought" I was in love with some guy I talked to over the phone (blind date!!), and we dated for a few months...it all ended up going straight to hell. All I can say is...don't do it. Protect your heart, it's not worth it. You don't know this man, remember that. You're not in love, wake up! :D

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Is Intelligence A Curse In Relationships? Posted: 8/1/2009 8:01:11 PM
yarimelma, that is precisely the "arrogance" that I am talking about. Thank you for provin my point. People who think that they know everything and can never be wrong, and always have to start and win an argument...are simply annoying. Yes, I said it...ANNOYING. '

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Is Intelligence A Curse In Relationships? Posted: 7/31/2009 6:51:06 AM
It's not the intelligence that's annoying with some men, but the pompous arrogance that comes along with it. The condescending tones, the know-it-all attitude, the "I'm always right" mentality. It's really annoying, and I've dated men like that.

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What does Friends First really mean? Posted: 7/25/2009 3:46:26 PM
"Friends first" means I'm keeping my options open, and if the shit hits the fan, you'll be my backup. :-)

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Dating while pregnant, or just friends. Posted: 7/25/2009 1:27:28 PM
nexthyme, (and a lot of the rest of you here), you need to calm down. Seriously. The way that you people are talking to this YOUNG GIRL (weather she's a mother or not), is totally ridiculous and unnecessary. 4REALLOVE27, please stay the ** away from this website. The majority of the people here, (as with most of the drones who are drawn to the internet forums) are a bunch of bitter, hateful, negative people. Nexthyme has some SERIOUS issues with abandonment from men, who left her and her child, and she's obviously bitter and it seems ashamed of her own choice to be a mother, which is unfortunate. This is why she went on a rampage in response to your post. 4REALLOVE27, please don't take these people's advice. What you need to do is be in contact with people in REAL LIFE who care about you. I don't know where your parents are, or if they support you, but if they are there, you need to talk to them. If they are not, I'm sure you have other relatives who you can talk to. Also, if you have friends...you can talk to them and let them help you in your situation. Also, just anyone in your life who is older, and can be a mentor. Or someone who has been in your situation. You know there are meet-ups/groups/classes for people in your situation as well! You need to research these things and use whatever resources you can. Just concentrate on REAL LIFE, and don't ask these bitter, judgemental *holes on the forums for ANY advice. They WILL NOT HELP YOU. The people here CANNOT HELP YOU. Look around in your REAL LIFE for resources and people who can help your situation. As for a man, well if you want a romantic companion, that's nice and everything, but you should try to focus on your kids more. I don't see a problem with you wanting a guy to be romantic with right now, but please take it slow and don't make that a priority. Good luck girl.

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Dating while pregnant, or just friends. Posted: 7/25/2009 1:13:12 PM
Oh my god, midlandtom. You are an ass. Wow.

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Msg: 76 (view)

Why is going out with someone your not attracted to a waste of time? Posted: 7/25/2009 1:06:25 PM
If you're actually looking for something serious, it's definitely a waste of time.

Joined: 1/9/2009

Msg: 62 (view)

When he says he doesn't want a relationship... could you at least still place some hopes? Posted: 7/21/2009 7:06:13 AM
NO NO NO, if a guy says he DOESN'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, BELIEVE HIM!!! It's as SIMPLE AS THAT. Don't fall for this "let's take it show" bullshit.

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