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CadeTheFireBreather

Joined: 12/12/2005

Msg: 30 (view)

why is it men cant make a decision? Posted: 11/19/2007 3:06:31 PM
nine out of ten times.... its not a fear of commitment... its a lack of desire for being with you. You know those little lies women tell like a guy who she isn't interested in? Well we do that too. Most men do not fear commitment, thats just one of those soft-break lies. We just want someone better than you. We might enjoy sleeping with you, spending time with you or even want you in our lives forever.... but we still want to keep our options open. Just remember.... when a person says "Its not you its me", unless its a case of erectile disfunction, its you.

CadeTheFireBreather

Joined: 12/12/2005

Msg: 433 (view)

ANNA NICOLE SMITH DEAD Posted: 2/24/2007 8:17:03 AM
WHO CARES??? THIS CRAP IS ON THE TV EVER MINUTE OF THE DAY!!! WHO CARES???? END THE INSANITY

CadeTheFireBreather

Joined: 12/12/2005

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What to do if they do not talk back???? Posted: 12/27/2006 2:09:08 PM
Wow.... I think this is the first thread a man started, complaining about women, that has not been flamed with 500 messages saying "Well maybe its your fault" from women.... Congrats man!

CadeTheFireBreather

Joined: 12/12/2005

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What to do if they do not talk back???? Posted: 12/27/2006 1:09:23 PM
has anyone ever actually picked up another person while on a date with a boring person......not me but i bet you are out there Heck yea! Actually funny story, once I went on a date with this girl and she turned out to be a bore so I picked up another girl. The first girl was so surprised that I had done that, that she apologized and asked me out the next time. Turned into a 2 year relationship..... Now that its over.....I wonder where that other girl went.... :-p

CadeTheFireBreather

Joined: 12/12/2005

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Only you can make yourself happy? Posted: 11/27/2006 7:13:57 PM
We as social creatures, anyone who says they are completely happy alone is lying to themselves. It is important however to be content alone, and be happy with yourself. Loving yourself is probably the first step to being able to BE loved.

CadeTheFireBreather

Joined: 12/12/2005

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Having Him as a Friend or Not At All, which pain is worse?? Posted: 11/27/2006 5:59:24 AM
How do these threads get started again? urgh............

CadeTheFireBreather

Joined: 12/12/2005

Msg: 253 (view)

Question for the guys...Should us women say NO SEX on the 1st date BEFORE the date? Posted: 11/25/2006 10:45:45 AM
I don't do sex on a first date either, however few things are more obnoxious for a girl to say before a date then "Just so you know... I'm not sleeping with you on the first date" If your not the type of person to sleep with someone on a date, just mention that you are not that type of person. When I mention it I just put it in the context of my plans for the date or I mention how much of a turn-off it is when people are just trying to "hook up" But I have been on dates and just because we are making out or even for just being flirty I hear the words "Just so you know I'm not sleeping with you", I find that obnoxious. I mean if im tugging on your panties maybe its appropriate, but otherwise its just rude. I'm not a rapist, so if things are going too far, say stop, and i'll stop. If I was a rapist do you think saying "Im not gonna sleep with you" is going to stop me? Then why do you say it?

CadeTheFireBreather

Joined: 12/12/2005

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I want you to be sexual insatiable.... but......... Posted: 11/7/2006 9:12:41 PM
This is one of the problems I find with online dating and I wonder if anyone can help me out here. I do not sleep around. However I am also not a virgin. And I know want sexually in a relationship. Now if I get in a relationship with someone I want to wait to get to know the girl BEFORE we have sex Now this doesn't mean I am "willing to wait for them" (Which usually means the guy is waiting around until the girl is okay with it). It means I will wait until we are both ready. Now how does one express their likes and dislikes in bed, without sounding like they want to jump in bed? For example if I were to put "I want you to be sexual insatiable" in my profile, everyone who reads it is going to think that means I am expecting to jump in bed with the person who reads the profile (Which is not the case) I think being sexually incompatible is like having extremely different views on how to raise your children. I mean its not necessarily important right this minute, but to spend months, maybe even years dating someone to find out that the rest of your life you are going to be with a person that is not compatible in this very important way, is also not good. What are your thoughts?

CadeTheFireBreather

Joined: 12/12/2005

Msg: 186 (view)

I Still CRY at Night ALONE!! Posted: 11/4/2006 7:04:50 AM
awwww.... u guys need a teddy bear

CadeTheFireBreather

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Contradictions in the Nice Guy mindset. Posted: 10/22/2006 6:05:42 PM
lol.... Yey! Im so sick of hearing niceguy whining in this forum

CadeTheFireBreather

Joined: 12/12/2005

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Have men rudely approached your date ? Posted: 10/5/2006 9:04:10 PM
Well... you are a wimp thats for sure. There are three choices in a situation like that 1- Be a wimp, let it happen and slump in the chair like a loser when guys hit on your date 2- Say "Excuse Me" with a tone if you feel the guy is being dispectful to you, and if it needs to be taken farther, be man enough to do what needs to be done. 3- Be a dumb ass and start a fight with every guy who looks at your girl There is a difference between picking fights with everyone, and not letting people step on you. Grow some balls

CadeTheFireBreather

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Vasectomy - what's the big deal? Posted: 10/4/2006 10:35:59 PM
This procedure is alot newer then procedures involving women. Here are some side effects known. Bleeding into the skin during the procedure may cause bruises that will clear up by themselves. Swellings containing blood — hematomas — occur in fewer than two out of 100 cases. They usually clear up by themselves, or with bed rest or ice packs. Surgical drainage is rarely needed. Swellings containing fluid — hydrocels — and tenderness near the testicles occur in less than one out of 100 cases. This usually clears up in about a week. Applying heat and wearing an athletic supporter helps. Surgical drainage is rarely needed. Sperm leak from the tubes and cause a small lump — granuloma — under the skin near the site of the operation in about 18 out of 100 cases. Sperm granuloma usually clear up by themselves. Surgical treatment is sometimes required. Mild infections occur in up to seven out of 100 cases. Rarely, an abscess may develop. Treatment with antibiotics is successful. There may be some temporary discomfort or pain in the testicles. In about two out of 100 cases, the pain may be chronic and severe. Most of the time, pain is relieved by taking anti-inflammatory drugs or other medications. Very rarely, an injection called a spermatic cord block can be used to deaden the pain temporarily. Vasectomy reversal is very rarely needed to relieve pain permanently. Very rarely, the cut ends of a vas deferens grow back together — recanalization. This most often happens within four months of the operation and may allow pregnancy to happen. Decreased sexual desire or inability to become erect occur in four out of 1,000 cases. The most likely cause is emotional — there is no physical cause for sexual dysfunction associated with vasectomy.

CadeTheFireBreather

Joined: 12/12/2005

Msg: 38 (view)

P O F ~ the link to free dinners, clubbing and much much more Posted: 9/26/2006 3:38:16 PM
lol.... tis true... tis true

CadeTheFireBreather

Joined: 12/12/2005

Msg: 31 (view)

definition of loser? Posted: 9/22/2006 8:57:23 PM
A loser is someone who posts threads asking stupid questions hoping to gain some attention on a personals site.

CadeTheFireBreather

Joined: 12/12/2005

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New Ex= New Problems Posted: 9/21/2006 9:00:56 PM
Yea... I didn't hear a question...

CadeTheFireBreather

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WHY,WHY,WHY DO MEN DO THIS????? Posted: 9/11/2006 5:23:41 PM
I guess those women are meant for those men. Its quite sad actually.

CadeTheFireBreather

Joined: 12/12/2005

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Date Rape Drug Posted: 9/8/2006 7:50:56 PM
The question I always have after I hear of these type of stories... Not to make you relive your experience or anything but how did he get you home or wherever he took you? I mean you were in a restaurant right? No one noticed him carrying a comatose person out of the restaurant? I am not asking because I don't believe you, I am asking so I know what to look for to maybe save a victim

CadeTheFireBreather

Joined: 12/12/2005

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Why do Men ask to see your pics then NEVER talk to you again....? Posted: 9/3/2006 8:40:13 PM
What they are probably thinking is something like this "well after talking to this girl she seems like a complete retard.... I wonder if her looks will make up for her stupidity and lack of personality" then they see your picture and say "Nope!" So see... its not just your looks being rejected! Feel better?

CadeTheFireBreather

Joined: 12/12/2005

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why do I (+ most women) love assholes?? Posted: 9/3/2006 7:52:49 PM
yep.... this thread is almost as good as the nice guys that whine "Why don't girls like nice guys"

CadeTheFireBreather

Joined: 12/12/2005

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why do I (+ most women) love assholes?? Posted: 9/3/2006 10:06:07 AM
Because nice guys are boring

CadeTheFireBreather

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Why do Men ask to see your pics then NEVER talk to you again....? Posted: 9/3/2006 8:05:27 AM
You know what amuses me about this forum.... You get these idiots that start these stupid threads asking questions that the answer is right in their face. The problem is you are too STUPID or to deeply buried in DENIAL to accept it. Lets not even use a picture as an example... I seem interested in you. You give me X or tell me X about yourself. I stop talking to you.... Guess why I stopped talking to you???? Could it have possibly been X? Can this thread end now?

CadeTheFireBreather

Joined: 12/12/2005

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Do assertive women intimidate men? Posted: 7/6/2006 8:16:33 PM
Only intimidates wimpy men.

CadeTheFireBreather

Joined: 12/12/2005

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Would you be suspicious if someone only gave you their cellphone number n not their home number?? Posted: 7/5/2006 8:45:53 PM
What are you 100 years old? geez... My house number is attached to my Fax Machine. U want to talk to me.... use the cell!

CadeTheFireBreather

Joined: 12/12/2005

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Why do all men prefer brunettes? Posted: 6/25/2006 11:47:39 AM
Ack! You know what I do hate? Generalizations...

CadeTheFireBreather

Joined: 12/12/2005

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5 1/2 years meant nothing to her Posted: 6/18/2006 9:45:53 PM
You aren't good enough for anyone. You probably will be better off killing yourself. This generally seems to allow people to at least remember you as being someone special (although you most likely are not) Stop whining. Get over your crap or kill yourself please.... I am sick of hearing self pity stories from whining losers

CadeTheFireBreather

Joined: 12/12/2005

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Why do guys give cell phone numbers instead of home numbers ...is that a clue they are taken? Posted: 6/12/2006 10:52:37 PM
Its a security thing. try... Go to www.google.com Type in your HOME PHONE NUMBER see what happens... Now try it with a cell Safer....!

CadeTheFireBreather

Joined: 12/12/2005

Msg: 193 (view)

Why do guys give cell phone numbers instead of home numbers ...is that a clue they are taken? Posted: 6/12/2006 6:02:53 PM
Your livin in the past babe.... We don't have house phones :-p I saw this commercial the other day that made me laugh. The Dialog went kinda like this Kid Points at a telephone in a Museum Kid: Whats that daddy? Dad: Well when I was your age... Telephones were connected to these things called Wires.... Kid: Weird.....

CadeTheFireBreather

Joined: 12/12/2005

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Anyone else always fall in love but are never loved back? Posted: 6/10/2006 2:52:37 AM
Wow!! How Unique an experience! You are probably the only person in the dating world who has had this problem... Does wallowing in your self pity by posting forums help?

CadeTheFireBreather

Joined: 12/12/2005

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Will getting married affect my ability to date? Posted: 6/10/2006 2:46:02 AM
This is an honest question of something I have been considering. I have a friend, she is from Europe. 100% Platonic Relationship. She made me an offer, she would move in (Spare Room), help pay my bills for 4 years so I can go back to school, even do some light cleaning. Until she gains full citizenship Now waiting 4 years is nothing. I don't mind waiting that long to get married to that special someone (I mean getting married for real AFTER the 'Fake Marriage'), but I do need to date and try to START that relationship. And its just paperwork basically... Im not getting married in a church, we are just gonna fill out some forms together, then she is going to rent my spare room basically and be my assistant for 4 years. So I pose the following questions to you 1- If you were dating a guy, then one day he told you he was married once before (But it was the circumstance described above) in the past (assuming this is After the 4 year Period) 2- If you met a guy, and he told you he was married (But again the circumstances above will be explained) 3- Do you feel I would need to after this whole thing tell women when I meet them I am divorced? I know to some people this may seem like it 'Violates the Sanctity of Marriage" Violates but again, its not really a marrage... its just some Legal Documents... Marriage to me is Love, sex, big wedding. We won't have any of that. I have not decided anything for sure. But I would really like to help out this friend and would really like the support so I can go back to school and get my degree. Lemmie know your thoughts! Thanx

CadeTheFireBreather

Joined: 12/12/2005

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Last 5 posts Posted: 6/9/2006 10:12:13 PM
I try to help out you mods when I can by reporting whiners and other violations. However when people look at my profile they see all my FORUM VIOLATION posts and none of my Real Posts. Any way you can excempt Forum Violations from the LAST 5 POSTS (or any of the public post history for that matter)

CadeTheFireBreather

Joined: 12/12/2005

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Does it go away? Posted: 6/9/2006 3:21:35 PM
Well wallowing in self pity will surely make it easier to get over it.

CadeTheFireBreather

Joined: 12/12/2005

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Telephone on IM Posted: 6/9/2006 5:55:27 AM
or it could be a PayPerCall SCAM

CadeTheFireBreather

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If Review my profile... I'll sing you a song! Posted: 6/9/2006 5:51:03 AM
Actually after careful consideration I decided most people would probably prefer I promise NOT to sing as repayment for the profile review. Whatcha think? I decided to keep it simple! Lemmie know

CadeTheFireBreather

Joined: 12/12/2005

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Lying - do u think it is ok to ask others here to help u find out if? Posted: 6/9/2006 5:31:40 AM
Normally I would love to help but I generally prefer not to become an accomplice to Stalkers. If you think she/he is full of $hit then X him/her. As they say... There are plenty of fish in the sea

CadeTheFireBreather

Joined: 12/12/2005

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is there no hope for large guys Posted: 5/26/2006 1:05:20 PM
NOpe... no hope for you. See you're stuck in a paradox because your depressed because your not getting chicks so you sit in your house and whine on dating advice forums. The whining causes you not to be able to learn basic social skills, making you uninteresting to women. Then due to lack of exercise you become fatter, thus making you more depressed. More then the weight... Whats losing you points in the whining and the insecurity that is pouring out of your. I suggest you try "cold turkey" doing the complete Opposite of everything you do. Get your ass off the computer chair, go to a nature park and jog or go to a gym. The experience will give you something interesting to talk to with a girl other then then the replies to your latest Blog entry about your score on Ever-Quest. In the meantime you will lose this weight that you feel is keeping you from getting women and emerge not only more interesting, but more physically attractive male.

CadeTheFireBreather

Joined: 12/12/2005

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Those 10 pics at the top Posted: 5/24/2006 3:14:02 PM
IS it someone you have seen a dozen times or so? I mean I have seen girls on the top and sorta the same thing... Not really interested... But after seeing them for awhile I start thinking... What-the-hell... I'll give it a shot

CadeTheFireBreather

Joined: 12/12/2005

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New Forum Rule. Posted: 5/23/2006 8:07:14 PM
thanks , boss... whine threads will meet the same fate as nice guy threads WHat about the nice girl threads? Whats with this oneway bull? I have posted half a dozen threads that carry almost the exact same context as pissed off female threads but theirs don't get deleted, mine do. I have posted true bad experience threads and those were deleted, yet the female ones stay following again almost the same context. I am not trying to start a whole arguement (and I am half expecting to see this thread post disappear anyway) I just think maybe you guys need to try to remove threads based on some specific content and not whether you feel their reasons are valid or not

CadeTheFireBreather

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Why don't tall men choose to date tall women? Posted: 5/22/2006 4:24:22 PM
I love ultra general comments..... Who says they do? Every man? Wow.... I guess if every man on the entire planet only choose date short women you are S*hit outa luck.... BAbe... MOst men prefer women who are shorter then them. Sorry ure tall. But there are guys out there who prefer tall women also. Find one

CadeTheFireBreather

Joined: 12/12/2005

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what am i doing wrong? Posted: 5/22/2006 4:12:08 PM
What do you think is keeping u from meeting chicks? Your weight? Go to the gym! Otherwise the best advise I can give you about being taken advantage of is don't spend any money on em until u've been with them for awhile

CadeTheFireBreather

Joined: 12/12/2005

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No Pic = Hot Chick? Posted: 5/21/2006 9:21:11 AM
HOw about the other way around though. How many of you hot ladies would message a guy without a picture?

CadeTheFireBreather

Joined: 12/12/2005

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Mr. Right what happened to you Posted: 5/20/2006 2:10:55 PM
If he stopped all contact without an explanation, he probably isn't Mr Right. Probably? heh... I think being Present is going to be a definite requirement for my Mrs Right...lol Babe.... Nothin u can do. Start the search again

CadeTheFireBreather

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No Pic = Hot Chick? Posted: 5/20/2006 8:32:55 AM
Ya know you would think it would be the opposite. But I'll tell you that I have met a few people off her who had no pictures and they were totally hot. The unattractive women usually had pictures of them... just poorly taken pictures that made it hard to figure out what they looked like. Why no pictures if you ladies are looking good? I have then noticed alot of NO PICTURE profiles but then in the profile what seemed like an active lifestyle kinda person.

CadeTheFireBreather

Joined: 12/12/2005

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Attention Singles In & Around Jupiter Florida may 19th Posted: 5/19/2006 11:43:51 AM
Actually.... I have to cancel last minute.... sorry... got hit by a car :-(

CadeTheFireBreather

Joined: 12/12/2005

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WHEN A MAN STEALS UR HEART THAN U NEVER HEAR FROM HIM AGAIN Posted: 5/18/2006 10:20:45 PM
Never ceases to amaze me how women seem to think their emotions are somehow of more value then that of a man's. Sorry u got burned. Apparently he doesn't give a shi*t about u. Get over it

CadeTheFireBreather

Joined: 12/12/2005

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Whatcha doing to my pictures? Posted: 5/17/2006 12:57:21 PM
Everytime I upload my picture, my head gets cropped off. Whats the deal? BTW: my pic is only 280 x 440

CadeTheFireBreather

Joined: 12/12/2005

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When to bring it up [Exclusive Dating] Posted: 5/15/2006 7:09:51 PM
When you feel it is when it is right. You want to go steady? Ask. If the person feels the same then I am sure he will be happy, if not its his loss

CadeTheFireBreather

Joined: 12/12/2005

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Snorkel-Freak Looking for Fellow Snorkelers for Snorkeling Trips Posted: 5/15/2006 4:07:10 PM
I feel ya. I'd join ya but u live about 1,000 miles away

CadeTheFireBreather

Joined: 12/12/2005

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Attention Singles In & Around Jupiter Florida may 19th Posted: 5/12/2006 3:43:47 PM
Hey all! Hosting a Singles Party in Jupiter at Duffy's May 19th Come one Come All 6PM signup if your coming so I know how many tables to hold. I am bringing about 5 people with me. 3 girls 2 guys

CadeTheFireBreather

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Why wasn't I given a reason Posted: 4/28/2006 10:28:31 AM
Before we go on. I want to make it clear as possible that is not a whiny post Begging for a reason for a specific individual. but here is the situation. I have a dating philosophy like this. "I am not going to say I have gotten every girl I have ever wanted. But I have ceased to want any girl that didn't want me" Well It hasn't happened alot of anything, but it always seems to be the one you really like, or the one that you thought everyone was going good with that this happens. They just stop calling, no emails, not returning calls, not even a friendly FAX Anyway... I will usually follow up with a letter saying something along the lines of "Hey, ya still want me or not" In a way nicer, longer, friendlier way. Still no reply. Now the thing is... I don't care, but I want to know. Does that make sense? In otherwords if someone dumped me because they saw me picking my nose, or they thought I was weird, whatever... it will not bother me or make me argue. Their reason is their reason. If its enough for them to not want to see me anymore then thats understandable and I respect their decision and am not gonna beg or become a stalker to get them back. But I wanna know!!! I just wanna know!! lol! It drives me crazy. I mean I don't want the chick back but I just need to know the last page to the story of our relationship. Soo.... want I am looking in this post is two things. 1- I am pleading with people... if you don't have an interest in someone.... just say somehow. "Not Interested because of XYZ" and thats it. its done... no more! If they stalk you after that they were gonna stalk you anyway. 2- What are reasons this happens? I mean especially if your sleeping with a chick shouldn't I at least be given a reason? P.S. I have been guilty of giving LOUSY reasons, such as "Its not you its me" or the "Im not ready for a relationship" to people I simply didn't like... but Im a changed man!

CadeTheFireBreather

Joined: 12/12/2005

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what's wrong with me, why can't I be loved? Posted: 4/25/2006 8:03:37 PM
YOu say "Whats wrong with me" then you describe a bunch of guys. WHy not describe yourself and then let us tell you...

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