I skipped the looking part and came straight here 4 years ago, lol. But for me no good ever came from looking. I go with the flow, and whatever happens happens. I'd rather accidentally find someone and otherwise spend my time with things I can control.

However I am absolutely fine with that, you no the story when you not looking is when you find it; so maybe your trying to hard and agreeing to date "anyone" even thou you have nothing in common or to talk about. Don't act like you "need" a date or a man in your life, you have to like yourself to have someone else like you.

“Happiness is like a butterfly: the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder…”– Thoreau

My point - don't give up hope. It will happen when you least expect it.

If your happy and single and enjoying life and not looking, usually the woman will find you! more often than not she wouldnt even be from this website.

'Life is too short to wake up in the morning with regrets. So love the people who treat you right, forget about those who don't and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance, take it. If it changes your life, let it. Nobody said it would be easy, they just promised it would be worth it.'

Live well. The best revenge is to live well, and get everything you ever wanted in life. Live well in spite of the people that crap in your Post Toasties. Live well, and be generous with the people that took from you. Let them understand their mistake, and be reminded of it as you live well while totally moving beyond them.

I'd have to say I did experience what the OP says ... the man I was dating broke up with me three days after my dad died (Nov 11, 2008), he couldn't deal with the grief I was going through so he decided to add more to it ... lol

there are so many 'serial daters' on here, women that just want to go out, with as many men as possible, have dinner paid for and be entertained.... i have stopped making the first move

Yes, virgos and pisces don't get along. I was married to one. I do think there is a little bit of truth in the horoscope signs. I am a typical virgo.

There is no perfect man.

However, there is a perfect man FOR YOU. I think you just KNOW it when you meet them.

Sometimes the energy and time you spend looking for someone could be better used doing something you enjoy and that enjoyment and participation may very well attract the right person to you. People who are passionate and enthusiastic about something they care about are more attractive than someone is has a bit of desperate energy, and in your natural environment you are more easily approachable.

You have an idea of what you want but everyone needs to prioritize the most important qualities. Make a list of 10 or so qualities, make sure those are the things that are not negotiable. If you have so many outer qualities that you think would make a perfect match you may very well overlook someone with the important qualities that would be an ideal match.

Forums001, I feel the same way about women living at home and mooching off Mom and Dad as I do about women doing so. In both cases they need to grow up and take care of their own business. Now, some people have legitimate reasons. I have a very good friend who helped take care of an ill parent and moved in. No problem with that. However, if you are living at home, 30+ years old and pursuing you "music career" r "acting career", grow up, get out, and support yourself

Just let it happen as it'll happen, if you have to force it for someone to notice you it probably won't work out anyway.

Crazygurl, love can come at any age and when you least expect it. My cousins say that God sent me an angel to take care of me and it was HIM, and she was right. AND it will happen for all of you. It is not about finding the right partner it is about being the right partner. Sometimes what can seem a toad to one person may be anothers treasure. It is good to be picky but it is also good to be open minded enough to ask "why?" Why is that person the way he is or why does he do things the way he does? Without knowing it people bring along baggage and sometimes having the foresight to realize that it is only baggage will help smooth the relationship through rough spots. Maintain your standards but do not be so quick to judge...every one has off days.