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Thread: Love,Quality of life and who pays
Annie I Oakley
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Love,Quality of life and who pays
Posted:
11/22/2009 2:39:16 PM
Oh wow can't believe this thread has degraded into a discussion about Hugh Hefner.
In his younger years he was actually not an ugly man so that was a rather jealous remark.
Annie I Oakley
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Too small for a condom !?! Then What???
Posted:
11/22/2009 2:37:14 PM
Can't see you getting flamed over that comment.
I can't help what is the truth. We are not the only couple I know who bought and "tried" to use Japanese condoms. Sex shops carry a variety of condoms and these were the only ones that would not fit. As I said my husband was not any bigger then average so that was not the problem.
Annie I Oakley
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I Don't Need A Man.., I very Independent..etc etc = RED Flags?
Posted:
11/22/2009 2:33:36 PM
Funny how women don't seem to care that a guy may have emotional baggage, but they make damn sure we know just what kind of crap they have had to deal with. Interesting how women allow bad me to shape how they are today.
I have never been in a relationship with a bad man. Perhaps you should stop chasing bad women and you will no longer hear about all those big bad men out there. My experiences has been quite different then the drama seeking women you choose to associate with. I grew up seeing a bad woman doing a great many bad things to us, our father and everyone in her path. She was far from the only bad woman I had the great misfortune of knowing.
I have known a great many good men throughout my life starting with my father. This is what has shaped me into who I am today, good men! Perhaps you should start being a good man and stop generalizing. Get to know different kinds of people and you will hear different stories.
Annie I Oakley
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Too small for a condom !?! Then What???
Posted:
11/22/2009 2:19:19 PM
Japanese condoms. Yes it's true they are made smaller.My husband and I tried out many different kinds of condoms during our marriage and the Japanese made condoms we never bought again. He could not even get it on and he was averaged sized.
Annie I Oakley
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Second chances?
Posted:
11/11/2009 9:37:45 AM
Ummm anyone know what happened to the op of this thread? The person they have showing is not the original op of this thread.
Annie I Oakley
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I Don't Need A Man.., I very Independent..etc etc = RED Flags?
Posted:
11/9/2009 6:27:38 AM
If I want to love a man, in a real and physical way, isn't it then necessary to have a real physical man body to perform these actions upon? Necessary, as in NEED? If I want to play soccer, I'll need a ball. Wanting and needing sometimes go hand in hand.
To this I would have to say I pity the man you get involved with because god forbid his body should not be able to perform as you
need
. Since you need this then if anything ever happens to him that prevents him from performing then poor him. You will no longer
need
him and he will be kicked to the curb.
Annie I Oakley
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A Plugged up Toilet, so she packed up and left?! Should I let it go?
Posted:
11/8/2009 9:25:06 AM
No doubt the op is one of those single parents who are always screaming about how their kids come first.
Annie I Oakley
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Shoud i lower my standereds?
Posted:
11/8/2009 3:00:16 AM
Yes by all means lower those standards right to the ground. Go out and find yourself the skankiest,dirtiest crack hoe you can find.
Ok just kidding, but I mean come on no one in their right mind is going to want to date a junkie. That has nothing to do with lowering your standards.It's just good common sense to stay away from junkies. If you can't find someone who can't do those things then you are hanging out with the wrong people in the wrong places. Get some new friends and hobbies and you will find better quality people.
I don't blame you for not wanting to date a smoker either. No matter how many mints they eat, Listerine they use or how long they brush their teeth after smoking you can always taste the cigarettes underneath all that.
Annie I Oakley
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A Plugged up Toilet, so she packed up and left?! Should I let it go?
Posted:
11/8/2009 2:56:19 AM
I stopped reading about half way through because I could not stop thinking "why they heck did you let this nut case move in with your children?". Hey if you want to play light housekeeping with a nutter fine, but why are you subjecting your children to that? No wonder so many children are so incredibly messed up!
Annie I Oakley
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I Don't Need A Man.., I very Independent..etc etc = RED Flags?
Posted:
11/8/2009 2:44:17 AM
Why must human need for love and acceptance be distorted to the extreme of "I couldn't go anywhere without him" or "curl up into a ball and just stay that way?".
Because that is how it is when you
need
someone. When you
need
something you can't do without it under any circumstances. Just because, as you said, you don't need a lexus to get to work, it sure would be nice. Sure I could get buy standing at the bus stop each day and freezing my feet all winter long but I want a car instead.I
want
to buy my clothes from my favorite stores brand new, but I don't
need
to. I can always go to second hand stores.The same goes for romantic relationships. I don't need one, but I wanted,I greatly desired one so I went out and found one.
Anyway I stand by what I said. I don't want someone to need me. I want someone to want me. If someone needs me then they can't do without me and they may just want me around because they can't do without me. I would rather be wanted. Everybody is different though. Some people,
obviously
, can't get by in life and remain emotionally stable and healthy unless they have a man/woman in their lives. Thankfully I am not wired that way.
As for(( Mr "hurt me and I will hate you until the day I die I FORGIVE NO ONE!!".))) I have made my opinions and views on dating and who pays many times on here so that anyone who follows the forums knows my views on that. I need not repeat it.
Annie I Oakley
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I Don't Need A Man.., I very Independent..etc etc = RED Flags?
Posted:
11/7/2009 8:56:01 PM
As women in todays dating world you can't win with so many men out there so don't bother trying. Do what feels and works best for you and forget about everyone else. Obviously many men still have to be needed like a 3 year old needs their parent but god forbid you should expect them to pick up the check at dinner.That's when they stop the neediness and demand you act like a modern woman
Need and want are two entirely separate things and it would seem some people are refusing to acknowledge that a need and a want are nowhere near the same thing.A child
needs
their parents. They can't live without a parent or parents to take care of them. I personally would be turned off by a man who
needed
me. I could not imagine being with someone so needy that should I go anywhere without him or god forbid something happens to me he will curl up in a ball on the floor and just stay that way. I want to be with someone,and I am, who has his own life, his own interest, his own friends but still wants to be with me and include me in his already existent life. I want to
add
to someones life not
be
someones life. I also want someone to add to my life and not be my life.
Annie I Oakley
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Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted:
11/5/2009 7:35:52 AM
Very shallow question.
Why is that? You need money to live. That's hardly shallow.
It happens to the best of us as men!
I have yet to meet a man who was living on the streets because he can't pay his bills. So no homelessness does not happen to most men as you have indicated.
If you`re a woman to ask this type of question indicates "Your a Taker" and only want a man who`s a paycheck for you?
So I am a taker because I expect that a man at least pay his own bills and
not
expect me to pay his? Wow really!? That's your definition of a taker? My entire marriage I made more then my husband so a man making a lot of money is not a priority for me. A man able to pay his own bills and contribute is important to me.
Men take hairy sh!t fits on these forums over who pays for dinner yet expect a woman to support him and pay all his bills. Wow talk about a double standard.If you can't pay your bills then you are going to lose your place to live and not be able to feed yourself so I would say that dating should not even be a consideration. I don't consider homeless shelters good places to meet potential mates.
Annie I Oakley
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Our 15 year long relationship ends and he meets someone on here and starts a family in 9 MONTHS!
Posted:
11/5/2009 7:19:58 AM
So you dumped this guy twice, cheated on him once and you feel like you are the wronged party?! I would treat someone like garbage who cheated on me as well. What did you expect this man to do after you kept dumping him and cheating on him? Did you expect him to curl up into a ball on the floor until you decided to come back to him? I am happy for your ex that he found someone who is good for him.
Annie I Oakley
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Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted:
11/4/2009 5:12:42 PM
AT NO POINT DID SHE SAY, 5yrs ago, that he was asking for help/money or a place to live.
You need to actually read the post as I quoted below.
he lost his job and couldn't find one that would pay his bills?
The man
can't pay his bills
. Which means he can't pay his rent, can't pay his food, can't pay his electric bill, can't pay phone,heat, clothing etc... So yeah the op was actually saying that this man would of course be requiring help since
he could not pay his bills himself
. Should I ever find myself in this situation then dating would not even be anywhere on my mind. Why someone who is living on the streets would try to date is beyond me. This is
not
a situation of someone who is just going through a tough time with their finances and has to tighten their belts ,this is a situation where someone
can't pay their bills
.
Annie I Oakley
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Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted:
11/4/2009 12:22:32 AM
To all of you saying now, that no you wouldn't date a man who lost everything, read the other responses from a few years back, and tell me you're not ashamed of some of your responses now.
Obviously you did not read the post. This hypothetical man has not only lost everything, but he can no longer pay his bills which means no roof over his head and no food. He will be homeless. Now you may be thrilled over the idea of dating someone so destitute that they are living on the streets but I am not. I feel no shame over not wanting to date someone so bad off that they can no longer pay their bills.
The only thing I require of any man I date regarding his financial status is that he can pay his bills. Anything beyond that is not my concern.As I said before I am not a welfare agency and it is not my responsibility to pay the bills of someone I am dating.
Annie I Oakley
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Can someone explain y so many women on dating sites require events/things to be happy?
Posted:
11/4/2009 12:16:56 AM
Every time I look at the title of this thread it amuses me. Why do we want things to be happy or to do happy things? Well now I don't know about all of you but happiness is preferable to misery. I mean if we wanted to attend a sad and miserable event on a date we would go to a funeral somewhere.
Annie I Oakley
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Second chances?
Posted:
11/4/2009 12:10:54 AM
You live in a very black and white world op. Unfortunately that is not how the world really is. In the real world people are not perfect. In the real world people make mistakes. While I would not ask out someone again who already said no, giving a second chance to someone I am in love with ,depending on what they did, is something I may very well do. We all say and do things we regret and don't mean and we would all like a second chance and forgiveness. Keep up that "hurt me and I will hate you until I die" attitude will only end up hurting yourself. Hurting and being hurt is a part of life.
Annie I Oakley
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Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted:
11/2/2009 11:16:21 PM
Would I date a man who could not pay his bills? No of course not because if I did that then he may very well expect me to pay his bills and that is just not going to happen. The op of this thread (now long gone) clearly stated that this man could not pay his bills, so who in their right mind would date someone who is not only broke but no able to get themselves the necessities of life. I am not a welfare agency.
This one cuts both ways, last woman I dated could not pay her bills personal or business. She wanted me to move in after a couple months and split the bills with her, that would have been stupid for me as I have a paid off home. Half the women I dated at some point wanted help with bills, a couple I did help but most I didn't.
Uh huh. And? Why are you telling me this? Did I say that moochers are of only one gender? No I did not. Perhaps you need to stop being so sensitive and defensive. I addressed the topic of the thread which was "would you date a man who was so broke that he was jobless and could not pay his bills". My answer was "no I would not date a man who could not pay his own bills". It goes without saying that anyone in their right mind would not date someone who they would have to support.
Annie I Oakley
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Why to worry about when to give sex?
Posted:
11/2/2009 5:43:53 PM
The only sexual restrictions I have are the ones I have given myself because I found out that they work for me. For myself sex early on is a big no no because as much as men say that they will not look down upon you they do. Women are still branded as sluts and whores when they have sex too soon while men are branded as studs. However how other choose to live their lives is no business of mine. If people want to have sex on the first date then go for it. Be safe and wear a condom.
Annie I Oakley
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For the Ladies...
Posted:
11/2/2009 5:38:16 PM
No I don't get annoyed or disgusted by young women going after old men. It is their prerogative to do so. I try as much as I can to keep my nose out of other adults business.
Annie I Oakley
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why only date good looking prima donna's?
Posted:
11/2/2009 5:33:18 PM
Uh oh this is a question for the "REAL MEN". All you inflatable ones better get out of here. Ok seriously now you are asking why a man would want to date someone he found attractive? Come on the answer to that is rather obvious. It's because he found the woman attractive. I don't date men I don't find attractive so I don't think men should date women they are not attracted to either. Would you really want a man to date you knowing that he did not find you attractive? Would you really want him to be with you just because you were there and convenient? Sure inner beauty is important but if the outside is not attractive to your mate as well then what you have is a friendship not a romantic relationship.
Annie I Oakley
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Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted:
11/2/2009 5:17:39 PM
Would I date a man who could not pay his bills? No of course not because if I did that then he may very well expect me to pay his bills and that is just not going to happen. The op of this thread (now long gone) clearly stated that this man could not pay his bills, so who in their right mind would date someone who is not only broke but no able to get themselves the necessities of life. I am not a welfare agency.
Annie I Oakley
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Would dysfunctional family members be a deal breaker for you?
Posted:
11/2/2009 12:27:23 AM
Yes I would date this person because my family is a freaking mess. However I cut out the toxic ones long ago and things are very peaceful now.So you see I would be very hypocritical to refuse to date someone just because they don't have a family straight out of a Norman Rockwell painting.
Annie I Oakley
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Can someone explain y so many women on dating sites require events/things to be happy?
Posted:
11/1/2009 4:46:09 PM
What do you mean "give her something". Are you saying that the woman you go on dates with expect you to show up with gifts like chocolates and flowers? If so then you are dating the wrong people and I suggest you start going for a different type of women. Now if you mean she expects something like going to a fun event together then what's wrong with that? That's what a date is. Do you have a problem with going places and doing things? I would get pretty bored with a man who all he ever wanted to do was sit on a park bench and talk on every single date we went on.
Annie I Oakley
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Love,Quality of life and who pays
Posted:
11/1/2009 4:42:05 PM
I am not concerned with a man providing for me. I can do that all by myself. All that concerns me is if he can provide for himself and when and if we should decide to live together that he is able to contribute to the household. If you can't provide stability for yourself then you have no chance at a relationship with anybody.
Annie I Oakley
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Persistance can wear a girl down til she gives in - Does it work for guys?
Posted:
11/1/2009 2:54:45 PM
at someone here who has an inflated ego of such a massive proportion they might fall over it and who are looking to add to their harem.
Yes everyone feels the same as you do however we just let him be with his delusions.They seem to make him happy.
Annie I Oakley
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Persistance can wear a girl down til she gives in - Does it work for guys?
Posted:
11/1/2009 1:25:08 AM
Sure this happens but the thing is "wearing her down" means that she has settled for you. You were not her first, probably not her second and maybe not even her third choice if you had to wear her down in order for her to accept you. I have never understood how this type of situation can be the least bit desirable or attractive to anyone. Who wants to be someones sloppy soggy seconds. Would anyone in their right mind really want someone who was just giving up and settling for them? I personally would be insulted.
Annie I Oakley
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Going over to his place..??
Posted:
10/31/2009 5:21:53 PM
He wants to have sex with you. That is the only reason men insist on you coming over to their place. If you are not going to put out then don't go because they have no interest in snuggling and cuddling with a complete stranger.
Annie I Oakley
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fighting because of facebook.....
Posted:
10/31/2009 5:14:43 PM
Your girlfriend sounds like she is 13 years old. Tell her to either grow up or dump her.
Annie I Oakley
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Does the number of people a person has had sex with matter?
Posted:
10/31/2009 1:30:50 AM
This is why you should never never NEVER tell a man how many men you have been intimate with.
Annie I Oakley
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Let's take a walk in the woods
Posted:
10/31/2009 1:28:10 AM
You would have to be a little nutty to go on a walk into the woods with a man you don't know. You are pretty much asking to be raped or even killed. And no I don't think that is being paranoid. Just because you have talked to someone on line does not mean you know them.
Annie I Oakley
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Closed Minded Sugarcoated Love
Posted:
10/27/2009 11:58:18 PM
Oh Jeeze are you still whining like a little kid? Enough already "waaa waaa waaa mommy gave me too much in life and it's her fault that I don't have any motivation". Grow up, get the heck out of her house and be a man! You don't have any motivation because you "
choose
" not to have it. You are choosing to be a lazy bum and live off of mommy so no wonder she treats you like a little kid because you act like one.
Drag you unmotivated behind to a larger area and find a long term shelter or if you are lucky a friend or family member who will put you up until you can find a job and make money.You are a disgrace to the male gender. I hope they take your man card away.
Annie I Oakley
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Men 35-44, are we in the sweet spot?
Posted:
10/27/2009 3:42:49 PM
This information is a surprise to you? Really? Hmm it just is common sense to me that a man of his middle thirties to perhaps early fifties would be the most sought after by most women. After all by this stage in your life you would of most likely succeeded in your career so financial problems would be unlikely. At 40 you are not the broke,unstable person you were at 22. So yeah of course more women would be interested you at this stage in your life.
Annie I Oakley
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Is different taste in music enough for you to kill the second date?
Posted:
10/27/2009 3:35:59 PM
No a different taste in music would not deter me from dating someone. Jeeze talk about someone being
uber
picky. And some people wonder why they are alone.
Annie I Oakley
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Robot lovers - yes or no?
Posted:
10/27/2009 12:56:28 PM
Imagine just how fast you would get tired and bored of the perfect person.No I would not want a robot lover.
Annie I Oakley
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Closed Minded Sugarcoated Love
Posted:
10/27/2009 11:43:21 AM
My mother is a closed minded Christian
Is there any other kind?
Wow! Talk about close minded. Pot meet kettle.You're both black. There are all sorts of people in this world and close mindedness comes in many different type of people and different faiths as apparent by your post.
Annie I Oakley
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When should the woman offer to pay?
Posted:
10/26/2009 5:54:08 PM
I can't speak for other women but *
I
* should and do pay my share regardless of the mans protest each and every single time. Now when I get into an actual committed relationship with a man, as I am now, we start to take turns paying for dates.
Annie I Oakley
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Dealing with the crazies
Posted:
10/26/2009 3:03:35 PM
People take their frustrations over their own shortcomings out on other people so they can feel better about themselves.
And people deliberately create unnecessary and 100% avoidable drama in their lives because they get some sort of perverse pleasure out of it. I think these type of people enjoy the attention they get from telling others "waaa waaa waaa I am being stalked", yet they leave out the fact that they led the so called stalker on at every opportunity and did absolutely nothing to discourage the other person from chasing them. In fact they encouraged the so called stalking behavior.
When I don't like people and want them to leave me alone,I don't make a point of keeping in constant touch with them. I avoid them at all cost and do nothing to encourage any further contact or interest from them.
Annie I Oakley
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Dealing with the crazies
Posted:
10/26/2009 12:17:07 PM
You are contributing to this situation by continuing to have contact with her. Why you have not deleted her from your msn and changed your phone number I don't know. Then to top it off you actually go and meet her! I think you like drama very much and that this is not a stalker situation. You created this situation now deal with it.
Annie I Oakley
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I Don't Need A Man.., I very Independent..etc etc = RED Flags?
Posted:
10/26/2009 11:13:37 AM
I may not need a man, but I wanted one so I went out and found one. I would rather someone wanted me then needed me anyway. Who wants some needy leech who can't live on his own or have his own life without you there. My gosh how exhausting would that type of person be.
Annie I Oakley
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my boyfriend asked me for money
Posted:
10/26/2009 11:11:25 AM
And you are still communicating with this jerk off!!!? I find that more shocking then the fact that your loser boyfriend actually asked you for money
one week
into a relationship.
Annie I Oakley
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No orgasm: dealbreaker?
Posted:
10/26/2009 11:09:52 AM
If my orgasm is my responsibility and your orgasm is your responsibility, why not just masturbate in separate rooms on our own time?
My thoughts exactly! What would be the point of sex if each person does not make an effort to pleasure the other person.
Annie I Oakley
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No orgasm: dealbreaker?
Posted:
10/26/2009 9:12:09 AM
Your orgasm is YOUR responsibility.
Umm no actually when you are in a relationship and having sex, it is not. If I wanted to masturbate and achieve orgasm that way then I would.If I did that however then what would be the point in having sex with another person though? I wonder how long most men would put up with a woman who pushed them off before they ever had a chance to climax? How long would most men put up with their partner always getting off but they are left in the cold to wack off by themselves because "
their orgasam is their responsibility
"
Ladies make the man get you off first and then he can have his. If you are not having orgasms with your partner then ask yourself why are you bothering to have sex with this person.If they are whining like a two year old that "she takes too long waaa waa waaaaa" then dump his ass. Any man who has the idea in his head that you can get yourself off is selfish and self centered and should be avoided at all cost.If I am not getting an orgasm then that is one party I will not be returning too. Lazy lovers are not worth the effort.
Annie I Oakley
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No orgasm: dealbreaker?
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10/25/2009 8:30:48 PM
Yes if a man was selfish in bed and only cared about getting on top, pumping for 30 seconds , getting himself off and then rolling over and going to sleep then yeah he would be out the door. If I am going to have sex with someone then my pleasure is as important as his. If he does not attempt to pleasure me then what good is he?
Annie I Oakley
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Closed Minded Sugarcoated Love
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10/25/2009 4:15:11 PM
Why? Why should his mom keep her mouth shut?
I don't understand why so many people are jumping on the anti-mom bandwagon. Why should the MOM keep her opinions to herself? He's obviously been a drunken disaster when it comes to running his own life--OBVIOUSLY she has reasons not to trust his judgment. Now, after a series of colossal screw ups, he's living again in HER home on HER dime at 27 (and STILL apparently drinking a lot)--he doesn't have a job, he failed out of university, and he's generally screwed up his past due to "partying" too much (as he calls it--god I feel like I'm in HIGH school again).
It MIGHT be that the mother in this case is a **** from hell....but guess what--that's HER right and it seems to me like she has CAUSE. SHE'S also supporting her adult child (which she doesn't HAVE to do). And frankly, until he has something to OFFER a woman, I don't think this guy should be dating at all!
It seems to me that if this grown man really wants his mother to stop telling him what she thinks about his life, his girlfriends, and anything else, then he needs to get off the booze, get the hell out of her house and begin taking care of himself.
Exactly! Thank you for putting that into words. I am so sick of people whining and complaining about mommy and daddy screwing them up and blaming them for their terrible lives. Guess what your terrible life is
YOUR
fault. You did it to yourself, not your mom. Your mom was not shoving booze down your throat. She was not dragging you in and out of terrible relationships in which you failed miserably in. You did that all by yourself. Give your daughter another 15 years before she is blaming drunken daddy for all her problems. Jeeze why can't people take responsibility for their own lives.
Annie I Oakley
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Closed Minded Sugarcoated Love
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10/24/2009 9:39:57 PM
You can't change your mother anymore then she can change you. She has lived this long with her beliefs and you are not going to change them. I suggest you find a way to accept your mom as she is or if she is really as awful as you say, cut her out of your life.
Annie I Oakley
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Why do men with kids respond to my ad?
Posted:
10/24/2009 1:15:05 PM
men are not as interested in marriage and kids as women are,
I am sorry but that is such a load of bull crap that it stinks to high heaven. Men may not be as vocal as women about marriage and children, but when it's the woman that lays down the law that there will be no marriage and under no circumstances children, then you can almost guarantee that he will eventually walk. He will walk even quicker if he does not already have at least two kids. He may stick around for awhile hoping to change your mind about kids and marriage, but men still very much wants kids, they just don't feel the urgency women do therefore they are not looking to move fast with having kids. They are very content to wait but eventually do want kids.
Very few men, and women, out there do not want kids and never want to marry. It's the people such as myself who never wanted children who are the rare ones. We are looked at like aliens with tentacles coming out of our head because after all we are outside the norm.
Annie I Oakley
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Would a Woman date a Man if she had a higher salary than him?
Posted:
10/24/2009 12:38:22 AM
My husband made less then I did so I not only dated a man who made less then me but I married one.
Annie I Oakley
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Why do men with kids respond to my ad?
Posted:
10/24/2009 12:33:57 AM
Nope. I just checked all three pictures. No nipple.
When you click on the third picture and enlarge it you can clearly see the top of her left nipple.It's the arm she is holding the camera with.
Annie I Oakley
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Why do men with kids respond to my ad?
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10/23/2009 10:46:30 PM
They are replying to you because they see a woman who is showing a nipple on a dating site and think that you would ,in all likelihood, have sex with them.They also may be replying because they believe they can change you. Contrary to popular belief it is not only women who when they get into a relationship, think they can change the other person.
I understand you not wanting to date a man who has children. I feel the same way although presently I am dating someone with children. I have not met them yet and will not till we have dated at least a year, and even then he will have to accept that at the very most all I will be is their fathers girlfriend. I will not play the role of new mommy, I will not babysit, I will not go on family vacations. I will treat his children kindly,compassionately, and respectfully but that is all.
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