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TashieTash

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Have you ever asked your grandparents how they met? Posted: 7/28/2009 9:09:28 AM
I'm not sure about my Oma and Opa (dad's side), but I believe my grandparents from mom's side, they were arranged. I've never heard that my grandma wasn't happy (I never met my grandpa). But I believe they were quite happy, though I heard my grandpa was quite a strict person. I think what happened to them was that love finally grew and they fell in love with each other. :) Back then, for my grandma from mom's side, she didn't have much say in relationships. It was also culture and it was quite common still that marriage was arranged. so... I don't think she even dated....

TashieTash

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why hapily ever after will never come for some women. Posted: 7/24/2009 11:08:25 AM
What exactly were you thinking when you said unrealistic requirements? I wouldn't put it as requirements, I would put it as preferences. Didn't you know that preferences come from personal experiences? If one has them preferences, or requirements, why would they "lower" their preference? See, I wasn't raised with those fairy tales and stuff, and I had never been told that the prince will come and save me, bla bla blah... But yet, I do have preferences, and if I can't feel that I can take it to the romantic level with the guy, then I won't. I'll save both him and I the heartache. Ask yourself this, would you rather have her give you a chance, string you along, and later on reject you, while you're already falling too deep for her and the heartbreak is depressing you? Or would you rather have her not give you a chance cause she knows she's not attracted to you, and make you feel rejected NOW, and not too heartbroken, and will save you the whole process of broken hearts, and typing out a thread or two about how much of a tramp she is, or how much she broke your heart?

TashieTash

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Old flame getting married Posted: 7/24/2009 10:59:36 AM
Leave her be if you're not even interested in her romantically. You may care about her, but so what if you told her that what you guys had was rare, and she left him, and you're not interested in her romantically? So now she's gotta wait around for you... Yes you are waiting around for her, but she's made her choice... What more can you say other than be happy for her?

TashieTash

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Aggressive Dates - Women Please Comment Posted: 7/21/2009 11:58:16 AM
No does mean no, but when all the signs are presented that the guy can't take a hint, or will ignore it, you should've left. Again, I really do think you're asking for it. Everyone understands no means no, but it takes self control to not act on something or an offer that's already on the table waiting to be taken. If you were a firm believer of "no means no", you would've left him at the first sign, or when you had the need to tell him that you wouldn't do anything sexual with him. PS: how old are you again??? PS: There's this concept called "common sense", maybe instead of trying to defend yourself for putting yourself in that situation, you should instead master that concept.. Just a thought

TashieTash

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Will he ever propose? We've been together for almost 3 years. Posted: 7/18/2009 3:05:01 PM
What's with girls wanting their bf to propose ASAP? I don't understand.... This isn't the first case I come across. 3 years doesn't mean forever to be with someone. You're still young, it's understandable if he doesn't want to propose. That just means he's smart, cause he's not rushing it. Plus, he just dealt with family issues, and now you want him to propose? As if that's going to make everything better? :\| What are you impatient about? He said that you're exactly what he wants, then you should be happy with that and just live your lives now. He's going to propose when he's ready to propose. He's going to propose when he knows it's time to do so. No need to rush it... Unless you just want a rock on your finger so you can brag to your girlfriends....

TashieTash

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The curse of the Asian Persuasion. Posted: 7/16/2009 7:42:28 AM
So, moral of the story... Guys (who are non Asian), don't ever date Asian girls if you don't wanna be "cursed"... Way to go to attempt to some stereotyping.... PS: I'll put this on my profile, so that every guy will be warned before they email me that I bring curse to them...

TashieTash

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The curse of the Asian Persuasion. Posted: 7/15/2009 10:52:40 PM
On a side note... Philippinos are Asians too.... Just to point that out to you... And, no I don't know what you're talking bout, but then again I'm an Asian woman myself. I have had friends who have dated Asian women, and no we don't treat them as what you may say "THAT" guy... Why is it creepy though if a guy has preference set to dating Asians? :\|

TashieTash

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20 yr old curiousity Posted: 7/10/2009 12:10:40 PM
Hahaha.... Bitter much? Hahahahaha.... Oh the joke of the day...

TashieTash

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The New GF Posted: 7/10/2009 12:06:54 PM
I think maybe he was over you during that time when you guys were together, and that's why he's able to jump into the relationship that soon. You don't know what's going on in a person's mind. Maybe he wasn't that attached to you and he got over it that quick. If he really likes the girl, I don't see why he's setting himself up for another pain. If he's gotten over the relationship that you and him had, he wouldn't be heartbroken anymore. It's his choice really to get into it. Point is, why do you care so much if you're over it? You should be happy for him instead... If I were over a guy, and found out that he has a new gf, whether he jumped into the relationship quickly after he broke up with me or not, I'd be happy for him. His new relationship is none of my business. It shouldn't be any of your business really. You're the ex, what are you going to tell him? "Hey, you're jumping into it too quickly", yea he's going to think you're nuts. But that's just my opinion...

TashieTash

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Older woman, younger man... Posted: 6/20/2009 12:48:02 AM
Uhm.... Yea staying away is probably the best. Why? 1. He's not attracted to you, and he's been acting rather pushy with the contact and the unfair thing, but I don't know what happened in between other than this. 2. You don't even know if you're also attracted to him that way. Why continue the relationship? You know that you're not attracted to him, but you're possessing him that you're feeling hurt that he wants someone else. You said that it hurts you that he doesn't want you. It's a case of you want what you can't have, and your ego is bruised, and that's why you're hurt. Cause you like the attention, and now you're not getting it. 3. It probably won't work anyway. You're old enough to be his mom. He'll want kids sooner or later, and would you be able to provide that? 4. 8 months, and no physical contact in a sexual manner, he's probably getting it somewhere else... or, he really isn't attracted to you. Relationship is doomed.

TashieTash

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with child Posted: 6/20/2009 12:40:07 AM
Because they're not ready to be someone's father figure. Many younger people are not ready for that, especially when they have to be somewhat involved in the child's life during the relationship. Plus, I don't think that just because someone has a kid meaning they're more mature in any way. There are many many irresponsible parents out there, and they have kids (obviously), and does that mean they were mature by abandoning their kids, or abuse, whatsover? There are also many many people out there who are without kids and are mature and know what they want in life. But... I think, you should just focus on your little family right now. If it's time for the right guy, he'll come along

TashieTash

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I guess I'm going to hell for this.... Posted: 6/16/2009 5:10:33 PM
You said: "I thought I was finally ready but I detest cheating and in essance that would be what I would be doing (even though nothing would have happened)" But you're already cheating...

TashieTash

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Is it racism when.... Posted: 6/16/2009 2:08:50 PM
Hmmm... If I come across profiles that state that, then I'll just move along. Obviously not everyone can be attracted to me. It's not racist... Though I disagree that it's double standards. Many women who state this probably get emails too. I think I've read some on this forum. However, I do agree that maybe try to state the positive, instead of the negative (term wise). Like what one poster said, state what you are attracted to, instead of what you're not attracted to. But really it's not racism, you just don't really know how to word it. :)

TashieTash

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So I met this girl... Posted: 6/16/2009 2:04:08 PM
Yes... 5-6 days really isn't long. Meaning she was single for a week before jumping into another relationship. Haven't you heard about the term rebound? Haven't you also heard the term "slow down!"? Sorry if I sound as if I'm ridiculing you. Maybe I was, but maybe you also have to start thinking with your brain before you emotions. Read your post again. Not everyone will agree with you. Wait, are you on here so that people will tell you to go get 'er? Yea right.... Again... think... It's really not that hard to do...

TashieTash

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So I met this girl... Posted: 6/16/2009 1:49:37 PM
I stopped reading after your second paragraph... Keywords: she just broken up with her ex, the next day bf/gf already?, the next day (day 3) meet the parents, again, already? Less than a month, and already all this, and all "oh I've never felt about anybody this way before". Really? Next time, use logic before your emotions. You know what you have to do.

TashieTash

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Most rejections stem from what is NOT in her profile... Posted: 6/16/2009 1:43:40 PM
Yay!!! Finally, another angry, bitter, guy who thinks he knows EVERYTHING about women... So, did they tell you that because you're a Clinical Psychologist that means you know every single thing about women? I mean, let's put aside the fact that every single human being is different and every single human being wants different things... But, really???

TashieTash

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Broke up w/TRUE NARCISSIST - Do I tell his ex what he is? Posted: 6/16/2009 6:22:50 AM
Nah... don't tell his ex... just deal with your own life. I'm sure she knows, and she IS done with it, she is not done with the child. But, she is done with him, and the relationship.

TashieTash

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are we all here because we hate the opposite sex??? Posted: 6/12/2009 1:18:22 PM
If they all hate the opposite sex, would that mean they're here to look for something/someone they don't hate, that means same sex. If a person who likes the same sex hates their same sex, meaning they're looking for the opposite sex? So you're saying, these people are here to look for people they aren't looking for?

TashieTash

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Ladies, have you ever forgiven a BF for saying terrible things to you? Posted: 6/10/2009 7:29:44 PM
Yes I have.... It's easier to not hold anger and grudge towards someone. Life's better that way..

TashieTash

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NEED SOME ANSWERS Posted: 6/10/2009 12:34:39 PM
What does he use the toys for? Not enough answer to assume that he's a closet gay. It could be he's just not interested in her appearance, or her (not to be rude).

TashieTash

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Help Need advice Posted: 6/10/2009 11:58:42 AM
errr... How bout take it slow? I think what she's saying is, she's taking it slow, and seeing where it goes. Plus, at the same time, she is not in a serious relationship with you, and therefore she thinks she still can go and talk to other men. Or, maybe she's keeping her options open. Who knows. But take it easy, don't rush it.

TashieTash

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Trust Issues Posted: 6/9/2009 8:38:26 PM
Not much of an open relationship if you're being emotional this way. If he had sex with another girl and was open to it, you'd be here telling all of us that he cheated on you... It's an open relationship, and you guys have been together for 2 weeks. If you felt that you wanted more than that, then you should've told him from the beginning, and or not sleep with him. Nuff said

TashieTash

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It takes two to make it better Posted: 6/9/2009 1:21:37 PM
I agree with ForumJunkie. Happiness has to come from within, you gotta find your own happiness, or things that will make you happy. :)

TashieTash

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Do you find it easy to fall in and out of love? Posted: 6/9/2009 1:15:11 PM
Because you're in love with the fact that you're not alone anymore. You're in love with the situation of being with someone. Not actually loving the person. I say, take time to fall in love. I don't think you can fall in and out of love with someone that easy. If you can, I guess there's a problem...

TashieTash

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I really don't get it.... Posted: 6/7/2009 11:24:00 AM
I am so glad that this post is going to be on your profile... I don't think any woman needs to deal with that kinda attitude. Especially one that says women are this and that... way to generalize. And, again, you wonder why you can't be in a relationship and you wonder why they leave you... Of course it's not your fault, it's their fault... A person, wait let me rephrase, a narcissistic person can never put the blame on themselves, they always have to point fingers at others, and that's what you're doing right now. By the way, saying you've given up your hopes for a long term relationship doesn't sound romantic at all.

TashieTash

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If Being You Doesn't Work, Be Somebody Else! Posted: 6/7/2009 11:20:36 AM
I agree with Frederic... I never think of it as changing myself, I always think of it as improving

TashieTash

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I really don't get it.... Posted: 6/7/2009 12:06:23 AM
Yea cause that kinda profile will actually get anyone to be interested in you...

TashieTash

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I want it All! Posted: 6/6/2009 7:18:51 AM
Ah since according to you all men demand nothing but perfection, then here's a list of what I would like: He has to be honest, loyal, sweet, smart, understanding, loving, caring, handsome (very handsome), very nice body (no, not talking about 6 packs here... but 8), rich (at least 2 lakehouses, a ferrari, porsche, and an "inheritance"). Oh, he has to have a good job as well, good hygiene, not needy, confident, and he has to be kind to me. Oh, one most important thing, he has to be "big", if you know what I mean. Anyone you know like this? If not, then they're all losers, maybe also you are a loser.

TashieTash

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i dont get this what when wrong? Posted: 6/5/2009 9:04:43 AM
Wow... I wouldn't have showed up if he didn't answer my call to confirm the date on the day we're supposed to get together... That just kinda signaled me that he's lost interest.

TashieTash

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What the hell? Posted: 6/4/2009 11:14:54 PM
I think you hurt because, like you said, you still love him. But, most importantly, before he told you that he's started seeing someone, though you knew that the relationship was never a choice, you subconsciously denied that, you didn't want to accept that. Now, he told you that he's with someone else, you finally realized, and forced to accept the fact that you guys can't be together, and that hurts you more than you loving him. The fact that you know that there's 0 chance now to be with him.... It's only human that you are hurting like you are right now. I was in your position several years ago, and a couple years ago, I also got another heart break. I can laugh about it now. It takes time, but it also takes your own effort to get up, go out, busy yourself, and it takes your will to want to forget about it all. If you can't, trust me you can... Cause you'll get tired of the hurt, that you finally want to feel better. :) Edit: Didn't see your second question... But, have you tried yoga? It's actually really relaxing. It will relax your body and mind too! If you're ever interested, I suggest you try! :) when I'm heartbroken, I usually get a haircut or a new hair colour, or just shop. The usual girl stuff, and try to get out of the house more often, so I can walk around and smile at people. I find that smiling at strangers help. lol. I don't know if that constitutes as an activity. lol But yea, my main recommendation... Yoga!!!

TashieTash

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Ok So it happened like this!! long read sorry Posted: 6/4/2009 6:33:39 PM
Uhm I think both of you need therapy. I mean... I think she's troubled. Her emotional state isn't stable at all. Could it be she has bi-polar? Also, I think you also need to appreciate her as well. I don't know how many times it has happened, but she had made you dinner, and you could tell her was that you didn't want it. I would be upset too. But she was over reacting as well. Another thing, you walked out on the relationship. I think just leave her alone. She might still love you, but she also might realize that she's better without you. You might not feel that way, but you can't be stubborn and ask her to get together with you. I think you should just move on, focus on improving in other areas.

TashieTash

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SHOULD I FEEL BAD? Posted: 6/4/2009 6:07:48 PM
I think what you need to do is tell her about your feelings for her, or what you don't feel for her. You need to tell her that you don't feel the same way she does, and break it off with her. Nicely though. Talk to her in an adult manner. Don't drag it on too long, or it'd be bad later on. Then, you can nicely tell ask her to move out.

TashieTash

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I dont like being the suggestion box. Posted: 6/3/2009 8:54:46 PM
....and do you tell both of them that you're bothered with them doing that? If you don't, then you're no better than them

TashieTash

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Should she have paid for her share of meal ? Posted: 6/3/2009 5:38:56 PM
Ah... so looking for any supporters... okay.. I'll just sit back and see how many you got...

TashieTash

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Should she have paid for her share of meal ? Posted: 6/3/2009 5:23:54 PM
YAAAA But she also had already offered and you rejected that offer... Like I said, what does she need to do? Fight to the death? Maybe, just maybe, she's one of those that if she offered, and someone rejected, she'd just let it go. You never know. Plus, you offered to pay, and if you make offers, they better be genuine, cause that's what people think of when someone offers to do something for them. Jeez... I agree with Tracy... sour grapes...

TashieTash

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Should she have paid for her share of meal ? Posted: 6/3/2009 5:04:13 PM
If it wasn't a genuine offer, then don't offer at all. If you wanted her to pay, you should've told her that from the beginning. Cause if you invited her out, you pay for her. She offered, you refused. What did you want her to do? fight you to the death for her share??? :\| I don't understand why you got so messed up over a little thing really. I mean, with your friends, do you not sometimes pay for them? They won't ever be your partner. I think you're just bitter cause she doesn't want to go out with you anymore that you think she's only there for the free meal. :\|

TashieTash

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dated married best friend..... Posted: 6/3/2009 12:42:36 PM
How long should you wait, you asked? Until she signed that divorce letter... That's the answer

TashieTash

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He Used to Date a Stripper Posted: 6/3/2009 8:04:48 AM
First, you worry about how you compete with the ex-gf... Second, when you guys are starting to date, you'll start getting more worried that he's just settling with you, and he'll leave you for any girl who has a great body at any given time... Third, you're going to start suspecting his every move... Fourth, he leaves you because he can't handle you having low self esteem and not trusting him and then we'll see you on the Broken Hearts section. Honestly, take it or leave it. In this case, take him or leave him. He likes you, he wants to date you, and the stripper is an ex-gf. Just because he dated a stripper with a great body, bla bla blah, that doesn't mean that he'll only stick to that. Many many men out there do look at personality you know, not only body, and many many men out there actually appreciate different sizes of women. Why worry... Why feel the need to compete??? It's going to affect your relationship....

TashieTash

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Shocked! how can someone be so demoralising! Posted: 6/3/2009 7:57:44 AM
Uhm... You keep on pointing out and comparing this skinny girls, or girls who are thin with your idea of "normal" girls. So, does that mean skinny girls, no matter if they are celebrities, or just a regular girl who goes to the university or work somewhere, and happen to be skinny, to be abnormal or something? :\| I don't understand... Many many people can have both personality and looks too. Yes, that guy's criteria is rather silly, but I don't see anything wrong if he prefers someone who has a degree. I also don't see anything wrong if he's attracted to a certain size of girl. If you didn't like what he said, then move on... Why waste time and energy on that? :\| Many girls have their preferences too. I'm sure not every guy is like that. There are a lot of them, but I can assure you, not all of them.

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Does not understand Posted: 6/3/2009 7:09:17 AM
Second post in a different forum.... Might I find another post exactly the same on another forum?

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Does not understand Posted: 6/3/2009 6:50:56 AM
I can't understand why you think he still cares for you and misses you, and that he's really torn up about it. I think that's just what you want to believe because you still have feelings for him. But for someone to ever do that to another person, he obviously doesn't care, crazy, and should be avoided in way so many levels. So, my advice, don't try to understand his actions, just understand that you should stay away from him, and what he's telling you is BS.

TashieTash

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The world is a Baskin Robbins.... Posted: 6/2/2009 8:00:32 PM
Very well written! :)

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10 yrs and 50 pounds Posted: 6/2/2009 12:41:20 PM
@manforrent: What can I say... I don't like people to see the "new me". :P

TashieTash

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Contact rules Posted: 6/2/2009 12:31:19 PM
I think if a profile catches your attention, it doesn't matter who contacts you first, the girl or the guy. It's the year 2009, if women want to be treated equally, start treating men equally too. Maybe the men were just working something out to say, or they thought they wouldn't stand a chance. I don't know.... It could happen the other way around too... But I'm not too hung up on favourite list. I barely check them (next to never even). If I see an interesting profile, I contact them.

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10 yrs and 50 pounds Posted: 6/2/2009 12:20:10 PM
By the way.... 130 + 50 = 180.... not 210.... And I think your friend is stupid...

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PARENTS and Boyfriends dont mix Posted: 6/2/2009 12:15:53 PM
I still have a curfew too.... I don't mind it though. The way I see it, I don't think you should bring the guy home until anything serious comes out of it. Why? Cause if you did, and it didn't work out, they might as well say "I told you so". Plus, the way they see things, you have more important things to do at the moment than focusing on relationship, such as getting a job, out in real life, etc. They are just worried about you, and taking care of you. The way they do it might not be right, but I'm sure they have good intentions. I agree that you should talk to them as an adult. Maybe they do this to you cause you still come across as a child to them. I don't know. Maybe that's why they still won't let go of you. You need to show them that you are an adult, that you not only can take care of yourself, but you can think like one, act like one.

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why is that an older woman looking for younger men is OK but...older men for younger girls is BAD Posted: 6/2/2009 11:51:57 AM
sits back with toasts +nutella + banana and enjoys the battle of the wits

TashieTash

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History repeating, or the real thing? Posted: 6/2/2009 9:32:59 AM
Awww... I was going to be nice and not reply to this thread and instead just gonna watch what people have to say, but now he's gone. :( I'm disappointed now.... There goes my not eaten popcorn and pop... Oh well... On to more exciting threads I guess...

TashieTash

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Some advice please? Posted: 6/2/2009 8:47:36 AM
Fight for what? Honestly, he's not available, and you're in no position to fight for him. He can say whatever he likes, but if he really does want to be with you, he will be with you. I vote for, let it go. It's a no brainer. would you want to be the other girl? I think not Edit: Yea, you're traveling around the country or whatever, and you changing address and phone number is irrelevant to the fact that he can find you on myspace (internet, hello!), and you did come across each other on the internet again. I don't think he's worth it.

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What the! Posted: 6/1/2009 5:32:06 PM
My thoughts.... Chain the daughter if she really came on to him. :\|

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