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justnotthatintoyou

Joined: 1/20/2009

Msg: 20 (view)

Seeking advice from women Posted: 11/17/2009 9:04:19 PM
Liquid courage (alcohol) though it make work, initially..................... Often has tragic side effects. If you REALLY like someone?? Try using REAL courage! Makes em swoon!

justnotthatintoyou

Joined: 1/20/2009

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What do you make of this? Posted: 11/17/2009 9:01:52 PM
You're just not as interesting to them unless you're happily involved in a relationship.

justnotthatintoyou

Joined: 1/20/2009

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what am i doing wrong? Posted: 11/17/2009 8:54:52 PM
so here's the problem as soon as i open my mouth By gosh, I think he put his finger on the problem!!! Who you are as a person is infinitely more valuable than your job, car, home, etc. FYI- women LOVE accents! In fact, they are fascinated by them! Rightly so.

justnotthatintoyou

Joined: 1/20/2009

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Seeking advice from women Posted: 11/17/2009 8:40:39 PM
Dude.....................blankets are not brought out for you to freeze!!! Now tell her not to be "friend zoning" ya. You just like her a lot and don't wanna mess things up! She'll appreciate the respect you give her and may even remove all doubt next time!

justnotthatintoyou

Joined: 1/20/2009

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Why do men lose interest so easily? Posted: 11/17/2009 8:31:51 PM
Something interesting came along. Something that didn't require texting! Don't get me wrong, I am a very picky and selective person as to who I give out my number to. Only to the guys that aren't REALLY all that interested in you!

justnotthatintoyou

Joined: 1/20/2009

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Is being yourself really good advice? Posted: 11/17/2009 8:28:54 PM
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ Gawd, I wish I were this drunk!!!!!

justnotthatintoyou

Joined: 1/20/2009

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school first or relationship first? Posted: 11/17/2009 8:01:17 PM
Many relationships come and go. An education lasts forever!!! Sky's the limit if you don't set boundaries for yourself!

justnotthatintoyou

Joined: 1/20/2009

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Is being yourself really good advice? Posted: 11/17/2009 7:56:08 PM
I think you've mixed up communism with socialism. If you pretend to be something you're not?? You basically stamp an expiration date on any and all relationships. Why waste your time on people that don't like who you are??? PS- the sex is better when you like each other!

justnotthatintoyou

Joined: 1/20/2009

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Dumped/Back together advice ??? Posted: 11/17/2009 7:41:47 PM
Wait..................you wanna blame HER for YOUR issues and being emotionally unavailable?? WTFever!!! If you're not ready to play the game................ Don't get mad when teammates switch teams because they wanna win the pennant. Don't balk on the pitchers mound!

justnotthatintoyou

Joined: 1/20/2009

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Complicated Girl Question Posted: 11/17/2009 7:35:16 PM
So, is this a complicated question about a girl? Or a "complicated girl", question? Give her some space. If she don't pick up the slack, it's not meant to happen man. Move on.

justnotthatintoyou

Joined: 1/20/2009

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Are tall men more likely to cheat? Posted: 11/17/2009 7:29:52 PM
Yes. Men are more likely to be tall. So more tall men equal more tall cheaters!

justnotthatintoyou

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Today Was Our 6 Month Anniversary Posted: 11/17/2009 7:21:06 PM
That one year mark is rapidly approaching for us! BTW, I didn't say what KIND of ring it was! lol

justnotthatintoyou

Joined: 1/20/2009

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Engagement rings for men? Posted: 11/12/2009 5:00:36 PM
A ring says to the world "I'm taken". No it doesn't! It says, "I wear rings!"

justnotthatintoyou

Joined: 1/20/2009

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To pursue or not to pursue… Posted: 11/12/2009 4:04:22 PM
Don't throw all your eggs into the first basket (case) that pays you the least bit of attention.

justnotthatintoyou

Joined: 1/20/2009

Msg: 40 (view)

Engagement rings for men? Posted: 11/12/2009 3:56:22 PM
I'm not a fan of jewelry. How about an Engagement Harley?? That'd be more up my alley!

justnotthatintoyou

Joined: 1/20/2009

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too fast, too soon! Posted: 11/12/2009 3:50:56 PM
I've never had Too Rich and I've never gone Too Fast! I have doubts that either exists. When it's right, It's right and you'll know!

justnotthatintoyou

Joined: 1/20/2009

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Gotta get out of the friends zone... Posted: 11/12/2009 3:47:26 PM
Turn in your "Man Card" immediately! You can't compete with us American boys!!!

justnotthatintoyou

Joined: 1/20/2009

Msg: 35 (view)

What's the difference between affectionate and clingy? Posted: 11/12/2009 3:43:10 PM
The difference between affectionate and clingy is based solely on the toleration level of the receiver. There are no absolutes!

justnotthatintoyou

Joined: 1/20/2009

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He has a dysfunction and she has the hots for other men. Posted: 11/12/2009 2:39:49 PM
Find a tongue and teach it a few tricks! Now ya know how guys feel when women make us wait on them!

justnotthatintoyou

Joined: 1/20/2009

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Sweet Dreams...Question for anyone actually... Posted: 11/12/2009 2:23:37 PM
Ever watch a scary movie then have a nightmare? Happened to me. Coincidence?? I think not.

justnotthatintoyou

Joined: 1/20/2009

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Hmmm what to make of this.....(guy at work) Posted: 11/12/2009 2:19:51 PM
Don't fly in the "No Fly Zone"! Work is the "No Fly Zone".

justnotthatintoyou

Joined: 1/20/2009

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Are the forums the point of no return for all eternity? Posted: 11/12/2009 2:11:04 PM
Your posts remain. But if you close your account nobody will know it was you. FYI, my woman and I found each other through the forums. To me, a fdorum poster is a plus. You get more insight into the person and can, potentially, avoid some bullets! BTW, I agree with Cinder. Don't be ashamed to be whom you are. If others don't like it, that's their problem!

justnotthatintoyou

Joined: 1/20/2009

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Signs of Endearment Posted: 10/23/2009 8:11:06 PM
He doesn't get up after sex, get dressed, and leave money on the bureau on his way out the door.

justnotthatintoyou

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Honesty Rules: when its good to be honest? Posted: 10/23/2009 8:08:07 PM
When you playh games, you got a 50/50 shot at losing!

justnotthatintoyou

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flipped turned upside down...? Posted: 10/23/2009 7:20:07 PM
If she doesn't know what (you think) she did wrong, then that won't get you anywhere, now will it? Well that's part and parcel to calling her on the wrong, now isn't it? NO woman wants to be "put in check". That's just a show of male chauvinistic dominance. Women come in all sorts of configurations. And some still DO like just a bit of male dominance in their man. You're overly focusing on the phrasing, but women DO want to be put in check when they err. To do otherwise would allow them to continue being erroneous. OP: Two huge things to learn about women. 1. They don't like being told "NO" 2. They will often goto great lengths to argue and prove they are right, even when they are wrong. Which is why I say calming down and figuring out the problem rationally is the best solution. Well, that's a taste of nice idealism for you. But it's not always realistic. Besides, it's more fun when you can drag her mother and hillbilly relatives into the argument!

justnotthatintoyou

Joined: 1/20/2009

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Today Was Our 6 Month Anniversary Posted: 10/23/2009 6:57:25 PM
How long before we can admit to a ring being involved?

justnotthatintoyou

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Why dont women go for guys in Wheelchairs? Posted: 10/23/2009 6:53:04 PM
On a serious note........... The sense I get from women is............. Feeling sorry for yourself is more crippling, relationship-wise Than any wheelchair ever could!

justnotthatintoyou

Joined: 1/20/2009

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Why would a guy cancel 2 dates? Posted: 10/23/2009 6:32:00 PM
If he was REALLY interested then we wouldn't be here right now, now would we??? NEXT!!!!!!!!!!!

justnotthatintoyou

Joined: 1/20/2009

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conversation after the first date Posted: 10/23/2009 6:29:09 PM
She was killing time until she heard back from her bffs. Turned out, she's just not that into you!

justnotthatintoyou

Joined: 1/20/2009

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Should I make my move? Posted: 10/23/2009 6:23:33 PM
Should I make my move? Yes. To a different planet! Are you fricken serious? You gotta be kidding me?!?!?!?!?!

justnotthatintoyou

Joined: 1/20/2009

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flipped turned upside down...? Posted: 10/23/2009 6:21:01 PM
I once had a gf that would continue the argument, even though she knew she was in the wrong regarding the topic of the argument, because she didn't wanna lose the argument. When she's in the wrong, you call her on it and make sure she knows how it makes you feel. If she puts you in the "doghouse", put her in it longer. Women like a guy that sticks to his guns and is unwavering when he's right. And they WILL test you! They wanna be your equal. But they also wanna be put in check when they're wrong. Even if they resist.

justnotthatintoyou

Joined: 1/20/2009

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Deja-Vu for her, should this matter to her? Posted: 10/23/2009 6:09:41 PM
It smells fishy! You feel guilty about something you had no control over? And she's taking that and running with it. People have insurance to take care of car accidents (ie; replacing a totaled car). The relationship grew apart. Similarly, grow the cell plan and vehicles apart!

justnotthatintoyou

Joined: 1/20/2009

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Why dont women go for guys in Wheelchairs? Posted: 10/23/2009 5:44:27 PM
Why dont women go for guys in Wheelchairs? They don't wanna push. That, or you're too short. Try developing a six foot tall wheelchair and see if your luck improves. PS. Grammar and spelling are HUGELY important here! Trust me on this!

justnotthatintoyou

Joined: 1/20/2009

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Venus Mars War ... Posted: 10/23/2009 5:36:12 PM
OP: As many know, I met my SO from right here. We're both educated and have great communication skills. Often we talk about pof and some of the topics. Honestly, we joke about some of the ridiculous responses on here and occasionally post just as ridiculously. Use your instinct about people and take what you read with a grain of salt. Keep in mind that some people use the internet as a source for venting while others see solely as a venue for entertainment. A fairly well balanced person will do a little of both AND participate in serious posts. Often I've seen that men don't see womens POV, and vice versa because they don't know HOW. I have no doubt that you've seen plenty of posts that start with something like, "When he says _______, what does he REALLY mean?" That goes both ways. If I speak French and you speak Russian, we're both communicating. But neither of us is understanding. At least, not until we both know HOW!

justnotthatintoyou

Joined: 1/20/2009

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Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay? Posted: 10/23/2009 5:19:19 PM
Just because I voice my feelings does not mean I am a bitter angry person. Its better to let things out then harbor them. That's fine. Unless you have a dualistic personality (aka; bi-polar), then your words express your feelings and thoughts. Your words make you out to be a bitter and angry person. People that have a positive outlook on life and others, tend to live satisfying and fulfilling lives...........whatever there station in life may be. I'm sure you don't want to be characterized based upon the actions of others. Don't promulgate it yourself. I'm reading these posts and all you're doing is ranting about the good guys being taken or are gay. However, I have yet to see why a decent guy would want to put up with you! Seriously, what do you have to offer a decent guy, besides your hate and discontent and therapy sessions? Your posts scream of ISSUES that a decent guy would just assume to avoid! Shiny, happy people tend to attract shiny, happy people and become shiny, happy people together. Depressing, pessimistic people tend to be depressing, pessimistic people...alone. And there is obviously a level of disconnect between your profile and your forum posts.

justnotthatintoyou

Joined: 1/20/2009

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Still devasted over being seriously misled by my 1st GF in almost 3.5 years.... Posted: 10/23/2009 4:48:31 PM
Dude, you both just weren't on the same page and obviously she wanted to move quicker than you were willing to. She broke up with you, in hopes of locating someone more at her tempo and availability. Get over it. You find someone that is willing to run at the same pace as you. It just takes time!

justnotthatintoyou

Joined: 1/20/2009

Msg: 149 (view)

Dating a Gemini Posted: 10/23/2009 4:44:02 PM
OP: Gemini is not a good match for Virgo. Get you a nice Taurus man and live happily ever after. TRUST ME ON THIS!!!!

justnotthatintoyou

Joined: 1/20/2009

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I'd Like To See You, But... Posted: 10/23/2009 4:24:55 PM
I was gonna invite you over. But then I decided that I didn't WANT you over. BTW, my name says it all sister!

justnotthatintoyou

Joined: 1/20/2009

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Need space after sex? Posted: 10/23/2009 4:18:58 PM
Need space after sex? No, just a lil rest and something to drink!

justnotthatintoyou

Joined: 1/20/2009

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what does the baseball analogy mean? Posted: 10/23/2009 4:17:26 PM
Whatever it means, you don't ever wanna get caught in a "pickle"! Especially if you're a guy!

justnotthatintoyou

Joined: 1/20/2009

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escort before, should I tell him ? Posted: 10/23/2009 4:13:51 PM
Well, you're way too picky so what difference does it make? Besides, I don't differentiate between escorting for fun or for profession. Reasoning is non-consequential.

justnotthatintoyou

Joined: 1/20/2009

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Your opinion on where the difference lies? Posted: 10/23/2009 4:03:41 PM
Most people on here wouldn't consider themselves to be obese. Again, a lot of people on here aren't willing to make the leap from listing themselves as a few extra pounds to lardass. The problem lay in people listing there body type as they'd like to see themselves, not as others see themselves. PS: my ego is so big, my username should give you an indication.

justnotthatintoyou

Joined: 1/20/2009

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Gone from texting multiple times a day, to barely replying? Posted: 10/23/2009 3:58:27 PM
I'd say that interest has waned and maybe he's texting other women. He's just not ready yet to catch and release you.

justnotthatintoyou

Joined: 1/20/2009

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why do girls think all guys want is sex? Posted: 10/8/2009 2:37:17 AM
well, did you know that guys think about sex more than women? Another incorrect stereotype continually being regurgitated. ACTUALLY, women think about sex more than men do. It's been scientifically proven. OP: men and women approach thing from different angles. Therefore, we come up with different perspectives on the SAME thing. There is a high quantity of men in the market to just get their wick wet and they'll say/do whatever they have to to achieve their goal. Even guys whom are interested in relationships don't approach it the same as women do. It's best to just avoid the women who make these kinds of pre-judgements about you or men.

justnotthatintoyou

Joined: 1/20/2009

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Resend a message later on if it wasn't read, or cut your losses?? Posted: 10/8/2009 2:27:09 AM
If they appear to be online everyday............... Yet somehow seem to not read your message? That a pretty blatant answer, in my mind. It means that anybody and everybodys messages take precedent over yours. Don't make a priority, those whom make you an option!

justnotthatintoyou

Joined: 1/20/2009

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girls, why do your profiles make you sound so defeated? Posted: 10/8/2009 2:18:23 AM
Because they ARE defeated. Men are just as bad at this. It comes from the willingness, early on, to sacrifice personality for PRETTY.

justnotthatintoyou

Joined: 1/20/2009

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Ladies, why all the negativity? Posted: 10/8/2009 2:09:21 AM
Experience makes em more and more jaded. Unfortunately, many attempt to describe what they ARE looking for by listing what they AREN'T looking for. Just avoid the negative profiles and you'll easily dodge a lot of bullets.

justnotthatintoyou

Joined: 1/20/2009

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What do fellas really notice? Posted: 10/8/2009 1:55:17 AM
Ever taken notes in outline format? I think that's what men notice about women and in what order. It starts real broad and basic and goes to varying levels of detail. A. Woman a. appears to be born that way I. All body parts intact etc. Some guys notice more detail than other guys. Some guys want/need more detail in their female prospects to make his heart palpitate. Some guys are near caveman status and only need a very basic model of woman.

justnotthatintoyou

Joined: 1/20/2009

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Definitive signs of interest... Posted: 10/8/2009 1:40:56 AM
There is a 99.9% possibility that is, in fact, lingering. What does your gut say? Keep in mind that Canucks can tend to be a lot more laid back than us stars and stripes boys. I've even heard that it can even border on appearing like indifference, when it's really not.

justnotthatintoyou

Joined: 1/20/2009

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May I take your order pls...yes, I would like her athletic, toned...w steel abs... Posted: 10/8/2009 1:30:18 AM
Be proud of who/what you are and how the package is presented. If a guy has a problem with it? Remember that it's HIS problem, not yours. Unrealistic expectations are at a premium in Southern California and Florida. Be happy with yourself and don't worry about the fools. The right guy will like you the way you are!

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