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jewlsey*

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Life is too short people lighten up Posted: 11/23/2009 7:22:21 PM
Now I'm really curious as to what you had down as a first date, lol.......

jewlsey*

Joined: 1/24/2009

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Unsure about church singles Posted: 11/23/2009 6:44:29 PM
Are these issues legitimate? Or am I making too much about nothing? Yes, they are legitimate issues. For those who attend church and have faith etc...it's a way of life and are probably looking for similar minded people when they go to a church singles club. Personally I don't think that one needs to go to church to be a good person but it's not a debate I would want to have with someone who believes the opposite. Religion can be a deal breaker in a serious relationship. Unless you are planning to start going to church, I would not recommend that you date within a church singles club.

jewlsey*

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told myself I would never do it Posted: 11/23/2009 3:53:25 PM
Loser! Messages this short may not be posted

jewlsey*

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Selectivity Posted: 11/23/2009 3:17:28 PM
that's the thing, there are those that think they are atheltic, thin or average and then BAM, you see a pic and they are 5'2 and 180 pounds. well then, if you don't like how a person looks, move on.. Why is it that not so attractive women think they are god's gift on here? I don't get why you care what they think if you don't think they are attractive anyway...

jewlsey*

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Sincere and forthright, or insincere and mysterious? Posted: 11/23/2009 2:41:06 PM
You could have said what you wanted to convey in one paragraph. Sorry, not to be mean but perhaps your problem isn't being open but being too verbose and it would appear there are a lot of "I" and "me" in your thought process.

jewlsey*

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What Would You Do?! Posted: 11/23/2009 1:58:57 PM
In addition, they are not comfortable with Internet dating - but then again times are changing so maybe it is much more acceptable nowadays. Do you tell your parents the details of your life? How about just introducing him as a friend that you are having drinks with. Frankly the rest is nobody's business, including parents.

jewlsey*

Joined: 1/24/2009

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What are these guys doing? Posted: 11/23/2009 7:58:13 AM
Usually when I meet a girl, I end up talking to her and talking to her, and she seems interested enough, but we cannot ever seem to make it to the actual going out together thing, and end up just messaging or calling all the time. I assume I am doing something wrong. Are you actually asking these women out on dates or just talking? and I don't mean stuff like 'we should go out sometime'

jewlsey*

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Does the Basis on Which Successful Relationships are Built Still Matter To Women Posted: 11/23/2009 7:15:27 AM
You don't make any sense. Do you go around asking out women who you are not attracted to? Of course, attraction is part of the equation. It's also in the eye of the beholder.

jewlsey*

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Question about a girl Posted: 11/22/2009 11:10:49 PM
If she has a boyfriend, she's not available to you. If she brings up her boyfriend when you are around, she is not interested in you.

jewlsey*

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Is it common to be bothered by this Posted: 11/22/2009 9:05:37 PM
^^^^I'm with Gary...when two people click, you don't have to wonder. The time you waste on people who don't click with is time you could have found someone who does and doesn't make you wonder what is going on....

jewlsey*

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Wondering if I went too over the top? Posted: 11/22/2009 8:19:20 AM
That was sweet. I'm sure she appreciated it.

jewlsey*

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Met on date site now does one withdraw or ask the question? Posted: 11/22/2009 8:14:28 AM
Actions are also a form of communication. When words and actions don't match up, it's usually becacuse someone is too much of a coward to be honest. I would make my decision based on someone's actions, rather than words. In your case OP, only you know if there's anything worth salvaging...

jewlsey*

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Trust/Lying Problem Posted: 11/22/2009 8:08:00 AM
She's crazy and you're a liar. Let's hope that you've learned your lesson about lying and dating crazies...

jewlsey*

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your opinion on our situation Posted: 11/18/2009 10:43:10 PM
I agree with the ladies... as evidenced by your marriage breakdown, material things come and go for whatever reason. Adversity is the true test of character. However, separated? no thanks, been there, done that. Make concrete steps to move on with your life, that includes a divorce.

jewlsey*

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How do I ask a man out? Posted: 11/18/2009 10:37:09 PM
Just ask if he would like to go for a drink or coffee. If he says yes, great, if he says no (although most men stammer, rather than say no - it's all the same), then you don't end up wasting your time sitting around and wondering if he will ask you out or not.

jewlsey*

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obsessing over women a turn off? Posted: 11/18/2009 10:03:16 PM
It doesn't sound like something that I would like to deal with.

jewlsey*

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Why ask a woman for her number? Posted: 11/17/2009 8:26:01 PM
I will tell you the answer if you tell me why some women give out their number then they never answer the phone. The only time I lose interest in talking to someone is when it takes them days to call. I figure they can't be that interested...why should I waste any emotional energy on them...

jewlsey*

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just to gather opinions,would you date a guy who said this? Posted: 11/17/2009 4:33:04 PM
His honesty is refreshing. Personally, I wouldn't date him though.

jewlsey*

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Mixed signals? Posted: 11/17/2009 11:30:19 AM
Well I think it's more that I don't know how to take her "signals"? My dilema is that I don't know if she wants friendship or something more so it makes it tough for me to respond in a way that is appropriate so as to not freak her out. And honestly I don't know how I feel about her yet I'm sort of 50/50 on the whole thing. When she starts dating a man with initiative, please don't come back and post a nice guy thread.

jewlsey*

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Any girls here that don't kiss on the first date? Posted: 11/17/2009 5:57:20 AM
After a 4 hour date, no kiss? How do you spend 4 hours with someone you have no chemistry with? The last time I had a 4 hour date, we hugged a, had a quick kiss at the end and dated for 3 yrs. I'm thinking she's not into you....that no kiss after date 2 pretty much confirms it. If she is into you, then she's playing some kind of stupid game or something.

jewlsey*

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cooking meal at home on a first date. Posted: 11/17/2009 5:41:17 AM
I agree with the ladies. I wouldn't go to a stranger's house for dinner (if you haven't actually spent time in person and gotten to know each, you're strangers), nor would I eat anything prepared by a stranger in their home on a first date. Your friend sounds selfish. The situation pretty much tells me that this is a person who puts HIS needs first and foremost and does not have an empathetic bone in him. All it takes is 5 minutes to put himself in the lady's shoes...

jewlsey*

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What does it mean when a girl invites you to her place on first date Posted: 11/16/2009 5:38:07 PM
If you lke her, call her...the waiting 3 days or whatever doesn't make sense.

jewlsey*

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Mixed signals? Posted: 11/16/2009 3:13:59 PM
What do you care? Not once in your post did you even hint at being interested in this girl. By your own admission, she initiates everything, texting, msn etc...You have never given her reason to believe you might be interested, why would you expect anything other than 'girlfriend' status from her. There's no mixed messages - you're like a girlfriend,except she'll get to cuddle as well. I think that even if she was interested in you at some point in the beginning, you pretty much friend zoned yourself by showing no interest.

jewlsey*

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What exactly does no Games and no Drama mean? Posted: 11/16/2009 3:06:18 PM
When I see the words 'drama' or 'games' on a profile, my eyes glaze over and I forget anything else I read on that page. When I come to, I usually find that I had clicked 'NEXT' in my zoned out state....

jewlsey*

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To Unread/Delete or Just Plain Block Posted: 11/16/2009 2:40:20 PM
hmmm..there's a bridging sentence or paragrpah missing between the first and second. I get that you've met someone, that's great. Who's doing the unread/delete/block??? was this a general question that has nothing to do with your personal situation? You sure love your mysteries....your post and profile are confusing...

jewlsey*

Joined: 1/24/2009

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why do men assume you want to talk sex ? Posted: 11/14/2009 5:45:22 AM
^^^^yep, what wazhiz said. Some men get it and some men don't. OP - I don't know if it's a matter of assuming you want to talk about sex, he is putting his agenda forward. Put your own agenda forward: block, delete....

jewlsey*

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Guys in their 40s, never married and no kids Posted: 11/14/2009 5:38:31 AM
People may just be looking for others who have had similar experiences. Just preferences, IMO. Personally, as long as someone has been in long term relationships, I'm fine with it. I've come across men in their 40's who's longest relationships have been 2-6 months - now that is scary...I don't even stick around to ask why....

jewlsey*

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Why is romantic not desirable anymore? Posted: 11/13/2009 10:29:58 PM
Romance is different for every person, though. What she said....personally, I can't stand poems.

jewlsey*

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Why do men treat you in these ways Posted: 11/13/2009 10:24:44 PM
He sent he hadn't had sex for a while and I don't know what to do. I'm not sure what to say here. Who the hell cares how long it's been since he had sex? Figure out what you need, what makes you feel comfortable, what you can live with before you start dating. Make your expectations known. Communicate, compromize but don't CATER to someone else's needs, especially if that person doesn't even know what you need and clearly doesn't care. Learn the lesson and move on!

jewlsey*

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BF will not tell me his birthdate or where he works - is this wierd to you guys? Posted: 11/13/2009 7:24:47 PM
I think where someone works and a birthday are standard information when actually dating someone. He asked you to be exclusive but he can't tell you his birthday? Something is off there. Really ask yourself how it feels in your gut...if it doesn't feel right, it probably isn't.

jewlsey*

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am i being used? Posted: 11/13/2009 3:26:44 AM
crazy kids How exactly are you being used?

jewlsey*

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Looking For Some Real Honest Answers Here Posted: 11/13/2009 3:20:27 AM
She had issues. You learned of those issues at the 120-day mark and chose to continue seeing her. Have you ever asked yourself why? I second that. You rant about this woman in your profile too. Perhaps you need to get over her and her and your issues with her before you seek a longterm relationship with some unsuspecting woman who you will most likely attribute these traits to because you haven't done the necessary emotional work to move on. Just sayin'...

jewlsey*

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Living expenses and pride.. Posted: 11/12/2009 6:29:06 PM
His employment has been spotty....not for lack of trying, just not much work in his field in this area right now. But he does get unemployment when he's not working. Op- you're working 2, I repeat 2 friggin' jobs to make ends meet. Are they in your field?. There's no worse excuse than 'I can't find something in my field' bullsh*t'. An adult will do whatever it takes to meet their obligations. To me, he sounds lazy. So what he does laundry and cooks - were you looking for a housekeeper or a partner? I'm quite sure a housekeeper is actually cheaper and drama free. I agree with other posters - pay or get out.

jewlsey*

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Wanting AND fearing intimacy; an internet syndrome? Posted: 11/12/2009 6:16:14 PM
Until two people actually meet in person and spend time getting to each other, I don't think online interactions mean a whole lot...

jewlsey*

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Torn between morally right & right to be happy Posted: 11/12/2009 6:02:19 PM
Torn between morally right & right to be happy More like torn between morally right & right to be selfish...what about her husband's right to be happy - maybe trying putting yourself in his shoes. You're hearing one side of the story. If she is so unhappy, then she needs to take it up with her hubby or get out of the marriage.

jewlsey*

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Too small for a condom !?! Then What??? Posted: 11/12/2009 5:25:53 PM
^^^yeah, she lied about that too, lol

jewlsey*

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When is it acceptable to tell a girl how you feel? Posted: 11/10/2009 4:00:19 AM
When is it acceptable to tell a girl how you feel? When you mean it and your actions match your words.

jewlsey*

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I'm so confused! Posted: 11/9/2009 6:26:59 PM
Meet them first , then worry about deciding which to choose...

jewlsey*

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Strike 23! Not Even a Ball Posted: 11/9/2009 4:54:55 PM
Yep, I agree...main pic and separated are hurting you. No creepier photo than a guy staring into a cam half naked or naked...who knows.. And Cowboy is right - there was nothing unclear about the woman's response. She was border line rude. Whatever you do, don't write her again - she'll probably tell you off, then block you.

jewlsey*

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Moral Dilema Posted: 11/8/2009 11:38:05 AM
I hope you've already removed him from your facebook. My experience with such things is that the messenger always gets shot. Let it go - she'll soon figure out he's no prize. You don't know what he has told her about you, probably something like you're a psycho - a lot of men like to use that as a cop out. I'd say let it go, change your number and ignore him from now on.

jewlsey*

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Sha said yes to a date, but doesnt really seem interested, Please help! Posted: 11/7/2009 9:19:18 PM
Great advice Open Heart. I have found that when you agree to actually meet some guys or let them know that you are interested, they suddenly drop off communication (which in turn is a major turn off), yet still expect you to have the same level of interest you had when they first asked and were communicating. Vicious cycle, lol

jewlsey*

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Too small for a condom !?! Then What??? Posted: 11/7/2009 5:52:47 PM
OMG...I'm sure they must make condoms for all sizes... training condoms, like training bras?

jewlsey*

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How to make a girl feel special? Posted: 11/7/2009 2:56:44 PM
OP - you pretty much covered it. Another poster added to call when you say you're going to call or don't say it at all - integrity. To thebushcutter - be carefull, be VERY carefull, ive done 1 to 5 EVERYTIME and its still never enough. What the OP listed only works if interest is both ways. If she is not interested you can do all that and more, it wouldn't make a difference, so save for someone who is interested.

jewlsey*

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Thoughts about mutually beneficial relationships Posted: 11/7/2009 2:49:06 PM
Why not just find someone you actually like who likes you too - and maybe it can grow into something meaningful, maybe not. It's a risk we all take. You can still treat someone where there's mutual affection well. I don't understand why you feel that you need to pay someone to sleep with you.

jewlsey*

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How much contact is too much? Posted: 11/7/2009 8:33:19 AM
I'd say don't wait days to call her. She has given you every indication that she is interested, call her..

jewlsey*

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23 year old woman without children, and I'm weird? Posted: 11/7/2009 8:28:47 AM
No you're not. I think the men who think you're weird are not all there. I'd stay away from those types of men. They sound weird to me.

jewlsey*

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Pre-Date Agreements Posted: 11/7/2009 8:25:04 AM
I do set pre date agreement - that we do a meet only, that it's quick, inexpensive, and if one or both of us isn't interested we don't meet again. I second that...

jewlsey*

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when to take girl to formal event/holiday party? Posted: 11/7/2009 8:22:14 AM
If you like her and she likes you, why not? It's just a party...

jewlsey*

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Sleep (yes, just sleep) with someone and your souls touch Posted: 11/6/2009 8:00:12 PM
OP - I second that. Great post!

jewlsey*

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Seperated,deffinatly getting divoriced ,but still having sex Posted: 11/5/2009 7:46:02 PM
Seperated,deffinatly getting divoriced ,but still having sex would you still be interested ,because they said as soon as they found somone they would not have sex again with ex husband to be? Someone still sleeping with spouse?....NOPE, wouldnt't touch that with 10 inch pole...maybe when hell freezes over...

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