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Need an honest opinion.... what's missing in my profile? Posted: 9/7/2007 9:04:42 AM
It's.... kind of generic. I mean, i see this on a lot of profiles as adjectives: loyal, honest, down to earth, etc etc etc. Unless you specifically don't want to date people who are looking for the betrayal minded liars with their heads in the clouds who hate their families and like to surround themselves with total losers - why would you put that in? :D And i've actually yet to see the profile asking for an unkind sourpuss. I dunno - strive to stand out, not be part of the herd.

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Bitter taste this time..... Posted: 9/6/2007 12:21:55 PM
Hm. Okay, pardon me for doing a bit of math... it says you joined POF 8/2/2007. So, aug this year. It's barely a month later. going on the timeline of your date being 2 weeks ago... You were talking with her for a max of 2 weeks? I don't mean this in any bad way, but... That's VERY little time invested in the grand scheme of things. And one date. I think you should probably step back, and relax a bit. Unless i'm missing something massive here....

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Am I materialistic? Posted: 9/6/2007 12:12:02 PM
i'm not sure if you're being materialistic - though probably, yes. you've pretty much already stated that you want the ring BECAUSE it's worth so much. That's pretty much the definition of materialistic. Otherwise, you'd be happy marrying him if he gave you an aluminium ring with a chip of zircon, right? But that's not really the point here - the symbolism is. ie: the wedding/engagement ring is supposed to be a symbol - if it means not much more effort than a pack of smokes... Secondly, the bad karma here. C'mon, do you really want ANYTHING sketchy involved in your engagement ring? Seems like asking for bad luck. Edit: there's nothing wrong with being a BIT materialistic. We all need our comforts. I'm the last one to throw stones on that one.

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Need some Car advice Please Dodge Viper Posted: 8/13/2007 12:10:46 PM
As long as you're reaching operating temp, you should be fine. If you're driving from cold (ie, it's been sitting for 8 hours or more) and only going 5 km's or so, then shutting it off for a couple of hours, then driving home again... Yes, this COULD cause a problem. If you're out driving for an hour (which i really can't see on only 21 miles of road), it might be bad. A car HAS to operate at temperature for a while, to burn off by products of combustion in the oil, to heat up the catalytic converter properly, and yes, there COULD be carbon buildup. I don't know what your driving habits are, though. Low speeds won't hurt it, though. As long as they last long enough to properly warm up the engine. Cheers!

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~HALLOWEEN MUSIC~ Posted: 9/1/2006 9:23:11 AM
"Everyday Is Hallowe'en" is the title of the Ministry Track Try for the extended 12" mix. "All Hallows Eve" by Type O Negative is pretty cool, too - a little grindy, but Pete's voice is awesome on the track. "i like Ghouls" is good too. (MmMmmm. double Entendre. Ha HA!!!) Pantera's 'Cemetary Gates' might be cool. It's thematic, anyway. Ou! And of course "Haunted When the Minutes Drag" by Love and Rockets... Which just came up on the jukebox, co-incidentally enough... Cheers! Sundie....

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why is it than when you buy... Posted: 8/21/2006 2:33:24 PM
Because they don't sell you cables. They sell you the unit (whatever it might be). If it works for ten minutes to prove their unit works, that's all they care about. It's also about economy of scale, as well. For instance, say that it's 20 cents to make a cable in bulk. And it's 18 cents to make a cheap cable. Over 1 million units, this is 2 cents * 1 million, or 200,000 dollars, if my moving of the decimal point is accurate. It may not be. I don't really care, since i'm not making money from it. The point being, of course, small savings in each unit means a huge savings for the manufacturer.

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Confusion Posted: 4/24/2006 11:59:16 AM
it depends what you're looking for, i s'pose. If you're looking for someone who's going to be fun, then you pretty much have to show that you're fun. (i love the skate boarding pic). Meh. Stick to yer guns, keep yer "block person" button handy. Cheers!

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This question need's an answer. Posted: 4/8/2006 8:28:55 AM
I've never understood putting an posed auto shot up. I can sort of see having an action photo of you doing something you love, perhaps (like track racing or whatever) - but just a shot of your bimmer? I don't get it. What's a "W and B" morning? Some east coast thing? :D

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What was your first tattoo and why did you get it? Posted: 4/5/2006 6:48:28 PM
First tattoo was a chaos symbol with a celtic knotwork circle around the outside, with the tips of the arrows breaking from the circle. I also had them made to look like crumbling stonework. Age, thinking outside the circle, being the chaotic type of person i am. Then, i filled the middle center of the symbol with a broken triskelion. Then the shoulders got covered and arcs across to meet the piece on my back, and circles left blank on either arm. Then some nifty celtic knotting conversion of the Ministry M and Y (double anarchy and upside down peace symbol) inspired by getting Uncle Al to sign my arms. (way goofy, childhood hero, more than a little drunk, on the bus... need i go on on how i embarrased myself?) Soon to come, Erisian symbology in a nifty negative space shadowing joining up the front. I only included ALL of those because technically - i'm still working on my first one. :D

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Did I miss the memo about having babies over 40 ? Posted: 4/4/2006 9:18:53 PM
Over 40 what? I'm ashamed of myself for typing that.

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God's Creation Posted: 3/31/2006 10:58:00 AM
bahahah... That's a truly great retelling. And, uh... "an uneducated knob"... I repeat... Glass houses. :D SUndie...

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Seeking woman for Friends/Hang Out = Monk or Casual Sex? Posted: 3/30/2006 2:46:05 PM
> What's with all the single guys on here seeking a woman for "friends" or "hang out" seems a bit > half-ar$ed and non-committal to me. I think it boils down to "if i can't hang out with you, i don't want to date you". Whilst i've been in relationships where i ended up disliking the other person, i can't offhand think of any that started that way. That could be just me, though. The other side of that argument (oh, how i love turning these things inside out and taking extreme positions) is the guy who shows up for the first date with an engagement ring. Which first date would you prefer? :D Cheers!

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What the hell is emo Posted: 3/30/2006 2:26:39 PM
> If you don't have a computer, try asking the next person you see dressed in black with band-aids on > their wrists. Hey, so i was stupid when i was reaching for something under the just stopped bike. i STILL have no idea what "emo" is. :D

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Your Favorite Music Lyrics Posted: 1/10/2006 11:56:45 PM
With the fire from the fireworks up above me With a gun for a lover and a shot for the pain at hand You run for cover in the temple of love You run for another but still the same For the wind will blow my name across this land In the temple of love you hide together Believing pain and fear outside But someone near you rides the weather And the tears he cried will rain on walls As wide as lovers eyes In the temple of love Shine like thunder In the temple of love Cry like rain In the temple of love Hear my calling In the temple of love Hear my name And the devil in a black dress watches over My guardian angel walks away Life is short and love is always over in the morning Black wind come carry me far away With the sunlight died and night above me With a gun for a lover and a shot for the pain inside You run for cover in the temple of love You run for another it's all the same For the wind will blow and throw your walls aside With the fire from the fireworks up above With a gun for a lover and a shot for the pain You run for cover in the temple of love Shine like thunder cry like rain And the temple of love grows old and strong But the wind blows stronger cold and long And the temple of love will fall before This black wind calls my name to you no more In the black sky thunder sweeping Underground and over water Sounds of crying weeping will not save Your faith for bricks and dreams for mortar All your prayers must seem as nothing Ninety-six below the wave When stone is dust and only air remains In the temple of love Shine like thunder In the temple of love Cry like rain In the temple of love Hear the calling And the temple of love Is falling down In the temple of love Shine like thunder In the temple of love Cry like rain In the temple of love Hear my calling In the temple of love Hear my name In the black sky thunder sweeping Underground and over water Sounds of crying weeping will not save Your faith for bricks and dreams for mortar All your prayers must seem as nothing Ninety-six below the wave When stone is dust and air remains The only haven you can trust And the devil in a black dress watches over My guardian angel walks away Life is short and love is always over in the morning Black wind come carry me far away With the fire from the fireworks up above With a gun for a lover and a shot for the pain You run for cover in the temple of love Shine like thunder cry like rain And the temple of love grows old and strong But the wind blows stronger cold and long And the temple of love will fall before This black wind calls my name to you no more In the temple of love you hide together Believing pain and fear outside But someone near you rides the weather And the tears he cried will rain on walls As wide as lovers eyes In the temple of love Shine like thunder In the temple of love Cry like rain In the temple of love Hear my calling And the temple of love Is falling down

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You Want Me To What? Posted: 1/7/2006 10:08:11 AM
Well, we've certainly covered all the smoking topic bases here. 1 - smokers smoke, accept it (fine and dandy) 2 - smokers are addicts (yes, we knew that) 3 - smokers are silly because they're basically burning up their money (yes, we knew that too) 4 - smokers are damaging themselves (yes, we're aware of that too thanks) 5 - non-smokers are superior in character to smokers (c'mon - you all know you sit atop that pedestle of non-smoking hipness. And we're cool with that - really. Just be a biut more modest about it - most of us really want to join you up there in that smug hipness) Ad naseum. I think this all gets away from the original intent of the post - would you stop doing something you do, and is a part of who you are, to please a partner. Everyone wants to say "No! I'm me! They have to accept me!" but inevitably that shifts to "Okay, maybe i can stop going to my favorite club on Friday night because they don't like it, and we'll go to their club instead" or similar. Looking at it that way (ie, making smoking a generic thing, rather than the evil devil weed) i think everyone has compromises they'll make. For instance, one of my past relationships absolutely detested Primus. I can't live without hearing them once a week. And yes, some of you are now outragedly thinking "That's not the same thing at all!". Of course not. Life's not black and white. Everything's a matter of degree. Those couple of beers after dinner that someone referenced are fine (IMHO). First thing in the morning when you wake up? Different thing. (again, IMHO) (oh, and in case anyone's wondering - yes, i smoke, but not in the house. Really. I hate the smell of smoke in the house. I go to the garage, where the combination of spilled automotive fluids, ancient exhaust echoes, ionized air , and smoke is actually quite comforting to me - but i basically grew up working in a diesel garage, so i might be a bit weird. ;)

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Do I look fat? Posted: 1/2/2006 5:50:42 PM
maybe if u took half of the stuff out of your profile .....then maybe luck would come your way Yep. His mind is defintely fat. But in a good way. Errrr... I dunno. As someone who has a plethora of "stuff" in their own profile... I appreciate it when someone takes the teensiest effort. Cheers!

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What do women exspect form a guy in his 30's? Posted: 1/2/2006 3:04:36 PM
The ability to spell. Actually, this has probably been superseded by a new rule because of spellcheckers. How about "the ability to distinguish between the proper homonym."? For instance: "They're complimentary rolls in business often garnered them complements", they thought together as their staring into each others eyes over dinner roles. Okay. Stupid sentence, admittedly. You get the idea, though. To be honest, i'd much rather see the occasional spelling mistake.... (yes, yes, i know i'm a language elitist.) But what do women want? Beats me. If i have to think "what does she want?", i'm probably not into her, because that statement inevitably leads to "what do i have to do to myself to become acceptable for her?". If i'm being me, and she digs that, yay! If i'm being me, and she doesn't dig that, Yay! At least she's not getting attracted to some sort of fake put on act. Cheers!

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Personality and Tattoos. Posted: 12/29/2005 10:20:49 AM
Are you familiar with Greek mythology at all? ...the god Osiris... Errrrrrrr... Osiris is egyptian, i believe....? the two bodies being split by a lightening bolt with the words "Deny Me and Be Doomed" incorporated. My mom said (in a sarcastic tone), "Well THAT should get you a lot of dates." ;) Muhahahahahhahaha... My mom thought mine were awesome. She's perfectly happy as long as i can cover with t-shirt and pants, which gives me a lot of canvas to play with before she gets sarcastic with me. :) Cheers!

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Personality and Tattoos. Posted: 12/28/2005 9:15:22 PM
Honestly I couldn't date someone who would do something like that to their body so randomly and without any regard for regret. Hmmmmmmmmmmmm..... Whilst >I< would not randomly get a tattoo, i cannot find fault in someone going out and doing something that noone would know about unless they're intimate with that person. It indicates a rather carefree spirit, and is a lot better than a large list of a lot of other things one could do to ones self that would be far more damaging. As for stories, mine's rather wrapped up in my own needs at the time to have something that no one could ever take away from me, except perhaps with a flensing knife. Two sections are a homage to my favorite band of all time (the double anarchy M and upside down peace sign Y from Ministry, in celtic knotting), the biggest section (about the size of a very large dinner plate on my back) is a chaos wheel, with a center triskelion (celtic image of life hope love). Everything else signifies armour tying everything together (over the shoulders, around the front) and i have a chest center piece planned with erisian symbology. After that, i don't know where i might go. I had leg pieces planned for this summer, but they got put on hold after i burned BOTH my calves early in the spring on the motorcycle exhaust. (hopefully, this is the year i remember to ALWAYS wear jeans). Cheers!

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How do you tell your Lover they suck in bed? Posted: 12/28/2005 8:55:31 PM
Obligatory joke: Isn't that good? And, i'm of the opinion that how good your partner is is a direct reflection of how good you are. Since you were fairly vague in your questions, there's my fairly vague answers. Cheers!

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Would it bother you if your s/o still has contact with one of his/her ex's? Posted: 12/28/2005 8:49:48 PM
There's nothing going on between me and my ex-wife except a friendship but I still find her attractive and would hit it if she'd ask for it (as long as I'm not in another relationship) and she knows that. Eeeeeeshhhh.... Dude - think for a second, and imagine if you will. Her fiancee is standing right in front of you. You say to him exactly what i've quoted here. What do you think his reaction would be? I told her that if I'd be her current bf, I would find it unacceptable that she'd hang out with one of her ex's... It's funny that we never hold ourselves to the same level of conduct we expect out of others. (much shaking of head in dismay) Cheers!

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Inconsistent stories... concerned Posted: 12/28/2005 8:43:10 PM
Okay, let's summarize the possible outcomes here. 1 - you forget all about it, give it up as a weird communication error, and when you see his mom (after 3 months not being introduced? hm. Possible, i guess) you mention that you hope she's feeling better after her accident. Pro's - doesn't rock the boat until solid proof is obtained, and if he's telling the truth, all is well Con's - this is a "game" that everyone doesn't want someone who plays. 2 - you tell him you don't believe him, and detail the lengths you've gone to find him out. Pro's - well, it will get settled, for sure. Con's - Okay, my honest opinion here is ... You might be a bit... er... Stalkerish. Calling the police to check his story? Checking with the hospital twice? Whoa. I think you've already lost your faith, and you want solid facts to bring it back up. Here's the thing, though. "faith" is belief without proof. You're seeking proof, ergo you've already lost your faith. And i think that if you're already going to these lengths, this is probably not the first time you've had a weird feeling. Go with your gut - it's often right, and rarely gets you in trouble. It's when we over think things that we get into problems. Cheers!

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should women in their thirties consider dating men in their twenties? Posted: 12/28/2005 1:03:20 PM
Yes. And no. Really, if "age" is your concern, then no. You'll always be thinking about how much younger the person is. If it's a matter of the fact that he didn't know about Kotter... That's a environmental thing. Maybe he didn't have cable. If he has cable now, he may catch it on deja vue. Some events, of course, can't be learned (where were you during the first shuttle explosion, for instance) because it's a one off. I guess what i'm trying to get at is socio-environmental effects shouldn't get you down. If you like the person, that's the bottom line. My ex, after all, was 9 years my senior, and we got along well for 13 years, and only separated over non-age related things. So it happens, and it's often good. Cheers!

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Three cheers for mediocre! Posted: 12/26/2005 9:46:45 PM
What?? I'm looking for a fella that can walk on water! Screw mediocre THAT i can do. We call it "ice" up here in the great white north. For example, I'm a non-smoker, I would not date someone who smokes. A question, then: You meet this person, they're perfect in everything you're looking for (which i'm not going to even guess at, since everyone likes different things). But they're so high on your score card for that great person you'd like in your life. Then, they say "hey, i know you don't smoke, but i just have to step outside for a second to grab one". What's your reaction? Run away, and abandon everything else? This question could actually be asked for ANTYHING you don't like in a person. Kids? Short? Tall? Long hair? Short Hair? Blue Eyes? Whatever. (oh, and let's keep it fairly reasonable here - axe murderer or related is right out) Cheers!

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Three cheers for mediocre! Posted: 12/26/2005 9:27:13 PM
A few times in various dating forums, i've seen "i'm not going to settle for mediocre!" And i guess i'm asking a couple of things... 1 - how do you define mediocre? It's a synonym for average. Since average means, well, average, and assuming that not everyone is butt-ugly and a poor conversationalist, or stunningly glamourous and extremely charismatic (which would sort of make them the average if true) aren't you pretty much destined, statistically speaking, to get together with someone mediocre? 2 - If you're not settling, then you're looking for perfect? Hoo boy. See my profile for thoughts on finding someone perfect. Nobody's perfect. Perhaps i'm a hopeless romantic, but some of my best times dating have been rolling my eyes at either something i've done, or something the person i'm dating has done that wasn't "perfect", then giggling insanely at the shared joke. I'm not sure why i just spent 10 minutes of my life asking about this... I suppose it just bothers me that so many people are looking for that "perfect" person. Myself, i'm just looking for mediocre. Heck, if i can check off 51% on the desirous qualities list - isn't that good? If the Leafs won 51% of their games, the Stanley Cup would be in their pocket. ;p Just random thoughts from an insomniac who suffers from delusions of mediocrity. Cheers!

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some men need a kick in the.... Posted: 12/23/2005 10:41:49 AM
But until then ... Which hotel is the best? I like the Grand downtown - they have a salt water pool. Okay, so i'm there mroe for the salt water pool than the quickie. Does that make me a bad person? Cheers!

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so, why are you still single? Posted: 12/23/2005 8:37:31 AM
I think the question intimates other things, which is why it bothers people. Such as "what's wrong with you"... I don't think anything is wrong with being single, and there's nothing wrong with being in a relationship, either. However, if you turn the question on it's head, and consider it - asking "why are you still single" is a million times better than asking yourself "why am i still in this relationship". Wow. A bit of depression there. Merry christmas, and all that. Cheers!

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Songs that do it for you Posted: 12/22/2005 4:31:56 PM
Hm. Depeche Mode - Dirt Tool - 42 & 6 (i'm dyslexic, gimme a break) AudioSlave - Show Me How To Live Butthole Surfers - Pepper anything Monster Magenty. Prodigy 10 minute remixes. Swirl in a little Clutch and Kyuss (i'm going through a stoner rock phase, you'll have to forgive me) and i'm good to go. Cheers!

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My choice, your business? Posted: 12/22/2005 4:15:32 PM
Frankly, i don't know why it wasn't easier to find the delete key than respond. Just my own humble opinion, but jackasses who don't respect people for who they are only feed on polite observations. Yep, it's your choice, and you can obviously find guys who want the other side of your equation... Seems like a happy life, to me. :) Cheers!

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