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solewolf22

Joined: 12/20/2005

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Nice guys finish last is a sad truth... Posted: 5/22/2009 11:46:05 AM
I'm all 1s[With the caveat of C and D... I'm Cenario 2 on those]. Each scenario you displayed has a real-life implication, that I visually saw myself in [be it putting a girl in her place given the scenario, or walking away from someone who finds comfort in being a usurper, or doing things expecting zero in return]. Not just in the past, but presently. Particularly in the present. That's how I know what kind of person I am. Heh, I'm laughing because lots of "flies" are dropping from my life. Agreed and well-noted. What was that Charlie-Brown movie with the boat-race ? .....We're Number 1.We're Number 1. We're Number 1. We're Number 1. YAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY

solewolf22

Joined: 12/20/2005

Msg: 168 (view)

Nice guys finish last is a sad truth... Posted: 5/22/2009 9:20:50 AM
It is better to be humble and finish last with dignity and humility. Music to my ears. PURE music. The REAL misconception, is that if you're "this way", or exhibit "nice" behavior , something's wrong with you.(sigh how we've managed to start dishing out degrees in arm-chair psychology and I didn't get one is rediculous) Like being decent [that's what I'll call it. You may call it what you will], is a disease that needs to be up-rooted. I'll wear my big-boy pants and assert myself where need-be. I'll also defend myself where need be (just did that a few days ago). Nice DOES NOT EQUAL WUSS ...[not over here, anyways] Nice = wuss, is the same as saying black = gangster. It's BULL-SH************************************************T. I believe some re-capitulating is in order: IT'S BULL-SH*********************T. If being who I am, both in character, demeanor, language, and mannerism makes me un-datable/un-attractive/un-suitable/un-fit/un-desirable.... so be it. I'm not compromising myself just so I can "Double my Dating". You get it ? It's like sub-consciously concurring that who you are, is wrong. Eff that in the A. Better to finish [with yourself in-tact]. shrugs I'm just one fish among millions. What do I know ? I'm sure there's 17 books, 5 government amendments, T.v hosts, elite members with expert advice, and 900 web-sites that are serviceable in proving me wrong.

solewolf22

Joined: 12/20/2005

Msg: 28 (view)

If you think you are a nice guy, that's cool... but maybe you are really just an Posted: 5/17/2009 11:22:43 AM
.....So, being the kamikaze police and lunging for jugular the moment you [a collective; non-specific] hear "nice guy" ? Totally healthy. Kudos. The man is saying own your quirkiness. It makes you who you are. Don't change who you are because you at times get rejected, or feel that you have to play up to a certain type to change your situation[s] in the dating world. For what it's worth, that's great advice. Somehow, the gist of the post was washed out. I think that's called selective-hearing. I get tons of "advice" from female friends. Some of it from people who in the end mean well. Some of it, from people who just have a schewed view of relationships/themselves/men. I take it all with a grain of salt, especially if that advice has anything to do with - approach girls with some swagger/swaggah [......can somebody PLEASE conduct a firing squad on this peutrid word] - Don't care so much [....Sorry, but that's in my personal make-up] ......ad nauseum ^^^^ What I hold on to, is remember those quirks are part of what make you an individual. Stand on them. Anybody worth being with, brings them out of you and celebrates them. But that's one fish, among millions. What do I know ?

solewolf22

Joined: 12/20/2005

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do you have a hidden talent? Posted: 5/12/2009 1:28:14 AM
I used to do impressions when I was younger. That's where I learned that it took voice-control to make them funny. I sing now, and I play piano. I draw, write, and upon first look, you'd never know, but I can dance. I can also beatbox. Well. Hmmm........... anything else I can do ?

solewolf22

Joined: 12/20/2005

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'you can have any girl you want' -she said. Posted: 5/11/2009 12:15:08 PM
I've made (or more importantly enforced ) the statement that I want to be with someone who wants to be with me. I just cut someone off in my life, who is the SPITTING IMAGE of this scenario. Only difference is, she went back to an ex and he wound up knocking her up, and dissapearing. He's no nowhere to be found, and who does she call ? Me. I told her off 17 ways from Sunday, because regardless of where you are now, you ran back to him, and he knew you would. He wanted STRICTLY sex, and you fell for it. Now you're another single-mom [ ]. I'm NOBODYS' SIDE-PIECE, and you want me to be your perfect-sucker. I stick around and raise this kid, while you find yourself right back where you started from. Sorry, but momma didn't raise NO fool.I tried compassion, kindness, understanding, sympathy, and reason, and you kept on playing with fire. It hurts when you finally get burned, doesn't it ? Yeah, someone had it absolutely correct here. Tell her to kick rocks. She's a usurper. Any[further] emotional involvement will only be had, at the expense of your own well-being and sense of self-worth.Oh yeah, sanity too. Take her advice. She says you can have any girl you want ? Go for it !!!!! Myself and other gentleman have been where you are. For your own sanitys' sake. The best gift you can give this girl, is to leave her alone. She flings herself from buildings so you can be her make-shift "super-man". It's a dangerous game, and you'll lose yourself, trying to save her. But that's one fishs' opinion among millions. What do I know ? ~Sw22

solewolf22

Joined: 12/20/2005

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Ladies stop settling for bootycall status... Posted: 5/8/2009 11:32:35 AM
This hits so close to home. Thank you for saying what I'm presently saying to perhaps no avail. A good friend of mine who I've known for 5 years, just found herself in a life-altering situation, and I finally told her about herself. In those 5 years, I was humble, offered up kind words, non-judgemental [still very much am], but she drew the LAST damned straw on this one. She'd chase after these knuckle-headed guys who was pretty much just looking for a jump-off [.......when they really should've jumped off]. They'd beat on her, cheat on her, and of course, feign relationships for sex. she'd call me, complaining about how much men suck. Countless rants about how all they wanna do is have sex, and how they're incapable of monogamy. she's even frothed at the mouth,swearing lesbianism, because of how stupid men are. She went back to an ex-bf, who has 2 kids [LMAO], because he felt the relationship didn't end on good terms. Now that he knocked her up, he's nowhere to be found and his willingness to be a father [agan]......is ZERO. As in, see you when I see you. Thanks for the sex, you idiot. The oldest game parker-brothers didn't cash in on. She's pissed ALL THE WAY off at me, because I told her EXACTLY what you said here. My response ? A) Take your voice down a few notches, before I GET MAD B) you need to be mad at 2 people. Neither of those people are me. You need to be mad at yourself, because you keep saying how boring certain men are (my name was included by her admission), but there's no replay value in russian roulette. You need to find him as he's the second person you need to be mad at. You keep saying how stupid men are, but stupid comes in 2's. If he's stupid, what does that make you for going back to him, for THE VERY REASON HE WANTED YOU TO ? She said she can't worry about how I feel, as it's not a priority. I haven't heard from her since. Not for nothing, but I'm not the one who impregnated her. sigh That's what happens when kids are in a rush to be adults, or what they perceive to be adulthood. I'm just a fish among the millions. What do I know ? ~Sw22

solewolf22

Joined: 12/20/2005

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Nice guys finish last is a sad truth... Posted: 5/5/2009 9:53:01 PM
Not all men do. And the funny thing is if I am on a date with someone new and reject her promiscuous advances she takes insult and accuses me of being gay. You know those maps you usually find in huge shopping plazas/subway stations ? They have one big red dot and right above it says: "You are here"......... Consider the above quote the red dot in regard to myself.

solewolf22

Joined: 12/20/2005

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Is it possible to 'tame' a man? Posted: 5/3/2009 11:19:50 PM
Yes. It's possible. I have a better question for you. What price are you willing to pay, for commiting yourself to doing so ? You are GOING to give up something, if you resolve yourself to trying to fix/tame/domesticate [We're not savages by the way]/or subdue a man [I've been here for a while. The terminology may change, but the idea stays the same]. Some women give up their bodies. Some women give up their common sense [which is to humbly suggest it was there to begin with]. Some women give up their sanity. Some women give up their lives. [relationship martyrdom at its saddest state] It is very possible to change, or tame a man. The romanticized idea of being the single muse behind someone giving up a detremental vice or destructive behavior[s] is intoxicating [no pun intended]. It is a very real "opiate of the masses", and many women fall victim. Yes, it is possible, but ask yourself: ...... why would you want to ? Changing someone is not your job. We all need fixing from time to time, but that's where personal accountability comes in. Fixing someone at the expense of self, is dangerous. You'll sacrifice some part of yourself, in order to do it, and it isn't worth it. I don't want a woman to fix me. Does that mean at times I won't be broken ? No. It does mean, I don't want her to love me or attempt to love me to the point where she loses herself in trying to fix me. Then again, I'm just one fish among millions. shrug what do I know ? ~Sw22

solewolf22

Joined: 12/20/2005

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Do you believe a man of today, still understands the true meaning of romance? Posted: 4/20/2009 11:49:40 PM
The best gift of love that i've ever received from a man that I dated for 2 years was a diary I did this with someone I've known for 5 years. She was always passionate about writing. After a day on the town, I picked up a journal, with her favorite flowers and colors on them, and I scripted the foreword to her. I won't reveal what was said [laughs inside], but I did say: the great thing about a journey, is deciding to go. The greatest part, is seeing how you got there . Sadly, she chose her low self-esteem, over me. She let a good man go. ....Just a fish among millions ~Sw22

solewolf22

Joined: 12/20/2005

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How open are you REALLY to discuss why you're still single? Posted: 4/7/2009 3:01:42 PM
Way too many girls ask me this question. They're boderline bothered by my singleness. That in turn, really discouraged me ["ed" as in past tense]. Now ? I CONSCIOUSLY remind myself that I'm in a class of awesome by myself. I'm single now [hopefully not for long], because I have yet to find somebody worth the amount of love in me for a woman. I've been called a lot of things. Weird. Gay. Crazy. A freak. Soft. Ugly. Stupid. "Too good to be true", and lots of grey areas in between. What keeps me strong ? Knowing that human nature ignorantly soils whatever it doesn't understand, wants to understand , or can't figure out. ...... but really, what do I know ?

solewolf22

Joined: 12/20/2005

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How long do men feel the need to pursue? Posted: 3/19/2009 8:44:47 PM
It's almost like children playing tag at recess...you fellas want to all chase the fastest most ellusive girl running around out there - why? Because she IS fast. She is GOOD at dodging and escaping....she is who you MUST get and catch to be BIG man on the playground. .....Which is EXACTLY why my profile headline is, what it is.

solewolf22

Joined: 12/20/2005

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getting in Posted: 3/1/2009 9:57:05 AM
If a guy said to me "I thought I add you because you looked cute" I'd take it he means "he thought to add me because I looked cute". But I'm very sneaky in reading men's minds that way ... ..... THANK YOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOU !!!!!!!!!!!! Seriously, where can I send some flowers your way ? Lol, I was just conversing with someone who said: .... Just put it out there, that you want a gf and stop feeding women the lovey-dovey bull- s*** you fed me I don't say or do anything for "brownie points". Who I am, is.............who I am. I say the things I do [...... I've blazed enough of a trail on here for anyone to check] because THAT'S WHO I AM. Your [dis]ability to ingest/digest/recognize it, is not my problem. Those are crosses, you have to bear. If I "doctor" my words, so as to appear a certain way, or to aquire female attention, I'm not being true to myself. If, at the end of the day I was true to myself and 500 women thought I was boring/ugly/nerdy/sans "swagger" [hate that word by the way], it was a good day. The wind is quickly fleeting from my sails, because of this attitude of "GUILTY-until-proven-innocent" phenomenon. I mean, why bother, if no matter what a guy does, or says [see........ on topic ] he's lying, he's a player, it's "game". [..and this is just me] ....... My parents raised me to be myself. I'm sorry, but that's the only "game" being played over here. As the days go by, it feels like you have to apologize for that. NOT NEVER will I apologize. ....But then again, I'm but one fish among millions. shrug What do I know ?

solewolf22

Joined: 12/20/2005

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Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ? Posted: 2/20/2009 8:56:46 AM
Being perfect (...not just autonomously perfect, but in the sense of "they're perfect for me ) ...... leaves out the human element. ..... the word "The", before anything, usually refers to something in an absolute. I don't want "The" perfect girl. Even if she exists, she'll probably swat me away, because I don't look a certain way, act a certain way, walk a certain way, behave a certain way. In short, perfection seeks itself. That's why it's fruitless [ B-A-N-A-N-A-S], to seek "perfect" or "perfect for you". Suppose some guys just quit ? I've been thinking about that a lot. Y'know. They check out on the whole thing entirely. They get tired of hearing, "good........ but not good enough"."close....but not close enough". "First place for effort, Second place for success". I don't think cosmo covered that in their latest issue. ...........But, uh..... 8 "dangerously delicious" sex ideas made the cut, huh ? LMAO. I'm not swerving the conversation in another direction. I'm just trying the question from different angles [....I know. That's what she said. ] Having said that, I do believe there are some good men left. The question I pose, is not wether they're there or not, but what do you do when you've defined one [PROPERLY] , and he's missing a few things on your list of relationship "requiems" ? Pay attention, or shoot it to the floor with your laser-mounted bayonette. At the end of the day, I'm one fish among millions. what do I know ?

solewolf22

Joined: 12/20/2005

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The ever-evolving POF profile Posted: 2/10/2009 1:36:28 PM
The intent behind my profile has never changed. That would in essence, be like changing myself to somehow appear attractive. That's a no-no. I have changed paragraphs and the tone of my profile, but the intent remains the same. I've also gone through a "just.........talk to me and see it for yourself" phase. That went on for a while. Some [okay more than some] "beautiful people" refuse to believe that I speak the way I do, behave the way I appear to behave, and display the mannerisms I do. I just opened the floor for them to see for themselves. Lacerated trust [and the scar-tissues thereof lol], is a big-bootied BIYATCH. shrugs I've been here for a bit, so I've heard some things. Seen some things. My profile just mirrors the kind of attention I get, but remains true to the person it's [supposed to] represent. Me. Every once in a while, a smiley face will come around and call me a breath of fresh air, or tell me I have a way with words that should make me a very well-to-do young man. Those people are always thanked and pending friendship awaits them At one point, my headline read : "I shouldn't have to apologize". It summized how I felt before anyone even bothered to read, and it was a true statement. I have changed some words here or there, but the intent never will. I'll keep looking for one love. Not perfect love or any subsidiary of a mistake-free love [MAJOR problem nowadays] but a solitary one. Hope my answer gets the wheel spinning, or the honey-glazed ham cooking. Whichever you'd like Above all else, I'm but one fish among millions. What do I know ? ~Sw22

solewolf22

Joined: 12/20/2005

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When is the last time you cryed ? Why do we cry ? Posted: 1/6/2009 10:39:41 AM
I can't remember the last time I've [physically] cried. I believe it was a year and some months ago. I took a nap, and woke up weeping profusely. I guess as I recollect, not much has changed since then. Frustrated [over what ? dating, or the absence thereof, work, home, and just life] and the few outlets I do have I use. I cry through my keyboard. That's why I write the way I do [lol some lady wrote me here and said "boy, you write too much, what woman wants to hear all of that ?" end of message] I cry through my piano. I can't play symphonic tunes or full on scales of orchestra, but the songs I do know I play them and you can hear it. I cry through my artwork. I've been drawing for 17 years. Somehow you just get so frustrated. I know, men aren't supposed to feel..... pffft. At 25, the things I was raised to adhere to, are fleeting. They seem to not matter anymore. The things I was raised to cherish, are flying out of the window fast. You try to bear your soul and it's kinda like "oh, grow a set will you" There are pictures I've drawn, that will never see the light of day. There are poems and thoughts that will never catch the ears. Those are the current tears. For some reason, I've never been able to[ or have allowed myself to] physically cry. I do have outlets, but sometimes you just find a place, bury your head in your hands and bear your heart. ~Sw22

solewolf22

Joined: 12/20/2005

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Why true romance is withering away. Posted: 12/16/2008 12:12:53 PM
What happened to two people genuinely liking eachother, who want to do things for eachother without any strings attached? Silly me, but I have to cling to the idea that love and romance still exists...somewhere...doesn't it? It's amazing. I read the thread, hoping someone one say this [verbatum] and BINGO !!!! I was hoping it was said, because it's something I've said constantly. I've thought it to the point of exhaustion, and my goodness what a pontification. I've voiced the same stance and held the same position. I've been called some very "un-comely (We'll just leave it at that) names for it By women my age and even older. Sometimes the dagger that changes perspectives, have poison on the tips. shrugs I've been slammed before for saying this, but that won't change my stance. I'll cease to exist, before I let go of the way I was raised and the romance/love I believe in. I don't care how many times I'm called "soft" (lost numerative count) "gay" (lost count) "unattractive" (lost count). OP-ie, it does get frustrating, when you are doing nothing save being true to yourself, and it gets read as "WTF ???? you're trying to get in my pants. sigh, men suck". Some of those fish live in these very waters. They would do a service to the entire dating community if for the love of all things pure, they would exit themselves and heal. What sense does it make, to walk around tourching flames at the world, because you keep touching an ember that will inevitably burn you ? I may not be "alpha" male (whatever the heck that bs means). I may not have an "edge". I may not be any of the blaring things that seems attractable now'a days, but I'll tell you what. I've got romance down to an art (and I've been drawing for 17 years ) Eh. I'm but one fish among millions. What do I know ? ~Sw22

solewolf22

Joined: 12/20/2005

Msg: 213 (view)

Sure-Fire First-Date Killers Posted: 12/13/2008 11:25:36 PM
Her: What seperates you from all other guys, since you pretty much all worship the penis god ? (you want the intellectual gloves to come off and the muzzle to come off of my otherwise pleasant mouth ? Start a conversation with me juuuuuuuuuust like this Me: #1. My name is not "because the last guy I dated..." #2. When you put a clean plate among dirty dishes, eventually that plate gets greasy. #3. Do not rain blows on me for something I had nothing to do with. Puzzle pieces don't force themselves on one another. The same way there is a willing piece, there's a WILLING HOLE for that piece to go. #4. The restaraunt has tempura-nce [yeah, where I get it from, I'll never know] on the menu. You should order some. #5. Because I love my father enough to live better than he chose to. #6. This date was over at #1. #7. Because I've lived my life learning how to be more than just a penis, despite what the cosmo magazine in your Vera Wang purse will have you believe [yes, actual magazine. Actual purse.] Her: Pre- "egg on face" : Utter Silence Her: Post- "egg on face" : ........... Don't judge me. I'm bi-polar. Despite that, I still stand by what I said. (Lmao, yeah bi-polar is something you just forgot to mention. smack .......coulda' had a V8) Me: As I walk out of here [without you], you can do yourself a favor. Work on that bi-polar situation. While you're at it, work on the attitude, the "F*k men" tirade battle-cry, and the "I've got it figured out why I'm still single" bit. You sure* do have it figured out. Your perspective sucks. I'd buy you a ruler, but you'd probably fashion it as a sexual come-on, instead of a clue. Walks out of restaurant/eatery One older guy shook my hand and said "don't even let it bother you". We need more like you. I'm just one fish among millions. shrugs What do I know ?

solewolf22

Joined: 12/20/2005

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not always in the way you ask........ Posted: 12/11/2008 9:01:49 PM
Just trying some of my writing here. I am familiar with how trigger-happy some fishies can be when it comes to deleting something. I just thought I'd share this. Let me know what you think (good,bad, and abysmal ) ......... I asked for an eagle, yet all I got was this spotted egg. I never said anything about an egg. It looks nothing like what I'd imagined it would. Where are the big, beautiful brown wings ? Where is that majestic caw ? Why does this always happen to me ? I'm setting this somewhere, knowing it may die, whatever it is. I'm better off walking away from what I didn't ask for. It's just not what I asked for, nor is it what I fancy. Why does this always happen to me ? The next morning, the egg began to wiggle. With tiny chips, a yellow beak peered its way, out of the egg. With a few chirps it made its way from among the egg. It was a baby eagle....... ~ Sw22

solewolf22

Joined: 12/20/2005

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Swagger Factor Posted: 12/10/2008 10:06:03 AM
I can't really quantify my "Swagger". Most of the reason why, is because I'm really too busy just being me. There's no wrong way to do that, save being untrue to yourself I spend many of my days hearing what I'm not , but to me, I'm too busy being me. Don't get me wrong. I do taper my beard to my face. I do wear nice clothes. I always smile. I do walk down the street chest out/chin up. I care about myself, so if one could objectify "swagger" in that sense, yeah. I care about myself. Who else will ? "Quiet Confident" [.....laughs on the inside for reasons unmentioned] I honestly don't measure girls, or even myself in terms of degrees of "swagger". To me, it's just another filtering tool, with the purpose of polarizing people. Just like "edgy", "adventurous", "sexy", "hood". How do you learn how to be these things ? (no, skip it. I have a better suppossition. How do you UNlearn these things ?) Wouldn't it make more sense to sticking to learning how to be the best you possible ? I always hear guys/men who say " I got that swag' " [sigh] just as much as I hear girls/women say "I need a man with some "swag" [epic sigh]. If I know them, I always like to challenge them. What does that mean ? Eh, I'm but one fish among millions. shrugs what do I know ? ~Sw22

solewolf22

Joined: 12/20/2005

Msg: 75 (view)

What do you think of White Suburban Women who act likeHoodrats? Posted: 12/8/2008 10:33:47 PM
Keep your head up and know that the women that rejected you are actually screwing themselves in the long run. It's funny in an "eagle eye" perspective. Not so much in a linear perspective. That is, the here and now. Doesn't feel too good hearing that you're going to be a hot commodity in 10-15 years. Especially so, after all fun has been had and now the fairer sex [I used to phrase to indicate the unfairness ] is looking to "get serious" I guess it's easier when you're 6'2". The sunshine gets to you quicker, when you lift up your head in spite of it all. Why can't people just be themselves ? Fear of being ostrasized. It's the "gang mentality" where to belong, means to be safe. So long as you are a part of something, you'll be okay. Taken straight from my profile..... People take Nationalism WAY too seriously ^^^^. Eh, I'm but one fish among millions. shrugs What do I know ? fish: ~Sw22

solewolf22

Joined: 12/20/2005

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What do flowers on a first date mean? Posted: 12/8/2008 10:13:33 PM
Pavlovs' dog. A psychological experiment where the gist of it was to show, that the brain can be conditioned to associate an outside stimulus to an particular result. As per the case of the experiment, the dog conditioned the ringing of a bell, to food. Bell rings. Dinner. Bell rings. Dinner. Bell rings. Dinner. Bell rings. Dinner. The dog has learned to equate noise, with food. [laughs on the inside for reasons unmentioned] Far removed from a psychologist I am, but I think it's sobering when you look at the experiment with different eyes. When someone veers from normalcy and cheats, can you hear the bell ringing ? When someone considers gentlemanly behavior [notice I said behaviors, not being a gentleman absolutely] as a venue to be libido-chasing whore-mongers, can you hear the bell ringing ? I'm really getting sick [puetrid, even] of apologizing for being decent, when you [hypothetical "you"] choose to base your life on "Pavlovs' Dog". Here's what flowers mean. I Give a st. Regardless of your capacity to accept that people undulate on this earth who do, it means I give a st. It means I found a way to incorporate something guys have been doing for years, and personalize it/make it prevalant to both my interest and personhood. It means I give a st. OMG Experience is not the greatest teacher. What you do with that experience, is . Time does not heal all wounds. [the "fk men" era we are apparently in, is proof positive]. What you do with that time, is. Knowledge is NOT power. What you do with that knowledge, determines that. The difference between knowledge and wisdom, is APPLICATION Would you be attracted to a lioness who had stilletto's on, makeup, and Chanel No.5, but was extremely angry ? Regardless of the outside garments, it's a furious beast who doesn't want your positive advances. Nor your decency. It want to put fang to flesh and mangle you, beyond recognition. After all, unchecked hurt, becomes anger. " Oh no, I've said too much. ....... I didn't say enough " Eh, I'm but one fish. What the hell do I know shrugs ? ~ Sw22

solewolf22

Joined: 12/20/2005

Msg: 69 (view)

What do you think of White Suburban Women who act likeHoodrats? Posted: 12/6/2008 11:12:07 PM
The sad part about that OP? She truly believed that she needed to sound "hood" to get you to be interested. People hear me speak, and are floored ALL THE TIME . Sometimes it's affirming, but there are times where there's that "undertone". " ........ you are so well spoken/eloquent/versed/articulate( for a black guy )" It's a few "wood-shavings" [yup. I went there] away from inferring that my speech has exceed "racial limit". I should stick to "makin' it rain" and bein a "duffle-bag boi" and "bein' a bossssss" and "super-mannin' hoes" and "beatin up dat phat wet-wet". I don't even sound right saying the aforementioned, but that just cements my sentiment (word-play at its best). I never have. I never will. There are a few things that really anger me. This is one of them. I've approached girls of racial backgrounds not of my own. The results have been the same. A flushed face.Egg, even. LMAO, you were expecting me to tell you your onion booty is makin a brotha cry up in this biyatch weren't you ? You were expecting me to have my pants 3/4ths of the way off of my behind weren't you ? You were expecting me to "be black" ? SIGH LMAO, I'd cry my heart out [some days/nights I have] if I wasn't so busy laughing. What's degenrate has become exemplary. What was frowned on, has become "cool fodder". There's a place where language can relax of all grammatical tact/structure, and things of the sort. Even when I'm among friends I limit my use of slang. Intrinsically, it's because I find [better]ways to express myself. I do so without gratuitous croutch-grabbing, and off-the-cuff curse words of which to describe a woman, or even just people . Hood-rats [that is, the mentality] generally are avoided over here. I also happen to know some very good people, who are just more comfortable with slang. They also know the place of slang, and that's the pleasure of knowing them. Eh, I'm but one fish among millions. What do I know ?

solewolf22

Joined: 12/20/2005

Msg: 94 (view)

You call this Dating? Posted: 12/6/2008 6:56:06 AM
sigh Damn it Sorry Op-ie. What a dumb date. What a dumb guy. What a dumb attitude. All I can say is .......... (I really can't verbalize the words without a flurry of four and five letter words) It's always the dudes who can't properly funnel their frustration/anger/stupidity, that ruin it for decent people. I have a qualm about the "it'makes good guys look that much better/appealing". Somehow, in the midst of it all, the truth is, scenarios like this just make it harder to date. She's [the Op-ie] legitemately frustrated, which makes the next date, frustrating. Et cetera. Ad nauseum. I'm polishing off my black shoes and working on my dance steps. I'm coming out with a new song. " I'm Bringing [DECENT] back" sigh It needs to come back. F*K "Sexy". Yeah, a pun. Even in my uber-indignation. There are way too many females [both here and in daily life] who, because of past woes with being cheated on/cheating, dealing with the realization of poor choice, and just flat out failure to curb enthusiasm, make dating that much harder. [... after all "can't help it". I'm looney tunes for Tats/"swagger"/buffoonery, regardless of the piss-poor person these things are attacthed to] . shrugs* If it's stupid , it's probably happened to me, on my quest for a meaningful relationship with a lady. Lied to ? Yup. Cheated on ? Lost count. Dropped for someone cuter/sexier/"edgier" ? Absolutely. I can't give up, because that's just the kind of spirit I have. I get frustrated. Sure as the sky is blue, I get frustrated. But I'll never give up. Imagine Micheal Jordan being told "You'll attain success, if you just stop trying so hard". I think it was Nietzsche (sp) who said "Careful when fighting monsters, lest you become one of them". But alas. I'm but one fish among millions. What do I know ? shrugs

solewolf22

Joined: 12/20/2005

Msg: 149 (view)

What do flowers on a first date mean? Posted: 12/2/2008 10:47:54 AM
deep sigh My goodness, there are some hard-boiled people out there, man and woman alike. If you super analyze (root word anal .... think about it) everything, you'll never enjoy life. I find myself having to say this time and time and time and time and time again (yeah, run-on sentence.... sue me. Run on sentences mean I'm gay or I'm insecure too.) One more time (if you can pardon the expression lol) won't kill me. I will NEVER apologize for who I am. I do buy flowers on the first date. They don't mean I want to see you slowly remove your blouse. They don't mean I'm over [or even under] compensating for some insufficiency to be social/original/male/"alpha" (<<< CAUTION !!! b.s construct to my left <<). They don't mean I'm investing in some serious "a*-in-the-air" action. They don't mean I'm boring. Perhaps we've had a conversation about your favorite color, or what certain seasons mean to you. Perhaps we've joked about a friend who did something silly in that season. I'll buy the flowers ACCORDINGLY* . They may match your outfit. They may be arranged according to your favorite color(s). Not so they get me "brownie points", but because [remove the headphones for better clarity] THAT'S WHO I AM . Your inability to recognize good [thereby calling it weak, or gay, or insecure, or boring, or "nice"] is not my problem. That's a cross you've got to bear. Sometimes I really wish people would stop subscribing to psuedo-scientific arm-chair,pop-psycholoical and quixotic B.S. It's a sad damn day when people are afraid to be people. Here's what you can expect from me on a first date. I'll be clean My attire will co-exist with the type of first date it is * My hair will be done * [B] I'LL BE ON TIME * hands will be manicured * a significant plan will be there, with room for playful deviation * FLOWERS. Sans the flowers, that's how I carry myself everyday. It's who I am. I never thought it was a federal offense, to show somebody you went through some effort to show them you actually care/ed. If that makes me gay, then I'm like the MOZART of homosexual symphonic composition. I'll cease to EXIST, before I apologize for that s**t. But, I'm sure someone's going to direct me to a time in the 14-th century, where being a person was out-lawed. A time where the society police stoned them, because they bucked the trend of what stuff means and went the road of "person",rather than getting blue tulips to represent my lack of sexual conquest. I'm but one fish among millions. What do I know ? ~Sw22

solewolf22

Joined: 12/20/2005

Msg: 34 (view)

Even the nice guys have the power to hurt you.... Posted: 11/28/2008 11:29:58 PM
It's an affirmation for me. In that I'm neither "nice" nor "bad", "sexy" nor "lame", "alpha" nor "beta", "perfect" nor "mr.right" I'm just........................ me. But then again, I'm but one fish. What do I know ?

solewolf22

Joined: 12/20/2005

Msg: 542 (view)

Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..? Posted: 11/27/2008 4:45:23 PM
Why ? ..... Because I've been on the other end of cheating. On more than one instance. What was the reason [for each instance] ? Some answers include but are not limited to: * I'm not a real man....(If I hear another woman mis-quote this ) * I don't have "swagger". My goodness alive, I surely apologize for my parents raising me right, and dismissing to teach me the schematics of "swag". sigh * You're too nice. I will not, nor ever WILL I apologize for who I am. While we're on the subject, cheating on me is the perfect remedy for me treating you like a lady how .......... ? Ah, I get it. You want me to fondle you and speak improper english, and other shards of buffoonery. I'd cry, if I wasn't so busy laughing at the idea. Logic, even. * I'm messed up, and can't deal with [insert conjured problem here] . Again, this remedies the problem how .........? You can say "pick better", "change your circle", "you don't love yourself, because of the girls you attract" until you're indigo [lol Eifel 65 anyone ?] in the face. The fact remains, non of those things answer the question of decency. I remember how I felt [past tense intensive wink] each time. Like I'm less than a person. Like I don't matter. Like the time invested was null and void. Like I'll forever be the one who "understands". Like I'm 2nd place. Those were not fun times. I can't bring myself to make someone feel, the same way I've felt all those times. I can't, no matter how big her booty is, or how big of a chest she has, or how "easily accessible" she is, or how engrossing her conversation is, or how free she is with her body. Non of the physical stuff matters anyway, right ? I'm too busy, being too nice, right ? One woman. Sometimes, all those oppertunities people spend being pissed off for something dumb (as is per justification for cheating) that energy could be spent on your partner. I just turned 25 a few weeks ago, what the hell do I know about women/love ? "The grass may be greener on the other side, but somebody's tending that lawn" ~ Anonymous Eh. I'm but one fish. what do I know ?

solewolf22

Joined: 12/20/2005

Msg: 48 (view)

the worst Rejections you have seen Posted: 9/23/2008 9:31:21 AM
Awwwww, thanks Kathareene Very sweet of you to say. I'm cleaving to the idea, that we (that's as people collectively) make this dating/relationship thing, way harder than it has to be. Got another one for you. Some friends and I went to junior high. We had all been accepted to the same high school and it was 3:30, Day 1, of our high school lives. We all met up and went to mickey D's, cracking jokes along the way. Once there, We met up with this gorgeous girl (to me), and one of my friends introduced me. We joked about much, and she seemed really nice. She said she was single, and would VERY MUCH like to be with me. [foot-note] I know, scoffers come from the Euphrates , Appalacia and The Four Winds to say this is high school........ grow a set. It gets very ADULT, I promise. From that day, we'd all meet (herself included) and pig out on all those foods you can at 14. She'd get a soda with 2 straws, I'd pick up her order, we were together. Probably one of the few times in my life I was able to say so, with some certainty. 2 months go by, and we were looking for each other after school, as per food ritual [lol]. One of the guys was absent, and instead of being greeted by the girl, this guy shows up with one hand under his shirt (you can figure out, what he was clutching ) and the other hand, was in hand with the girl I thought I was with. This guy was huge, but I squared my shoulders and looked him dead in the face (there's your "Real Man" sign). Her, I had no words for. He starts throwing up gang signs and about 5 guys his size, waited across the street. Right about now (the funk soul brother lol) everyone had eyes all on me. Disregarding his superb conversational skills, grammatical tact, and sentence structure (lmao yeah irony is when this is happening right outside of a high school) he says: This yo' girl, huh ? Last time I check, she get my d*, not yours. Punk mother-fer. Don't ever let me see you with MY Bh, or by yourself ner. If you love your life, don't do it to yourself. Name is "juice", if you wanna do something 'bout it. P**y With that he removed his hand from off of his gun (VERY GOOD boys n girls, it was a gun he was clutching) throwing up another series of gang signs, and dissapearing down the street with his friends. I don't know what happened to her, but I did tell the guy who was absent that day what happened. Don't know what he did or said, but never saw "juice" waiting for me after school. heh, and here we are, where you thought inteligence was equivelant with boring. Does this count as rejection ?

solewolf22

Joined: 12/20/2005

Msg: 26 (view)

the worst Rejections you have seen Posted: 9/17/2008 11:13:43 PM
My 24th birthday. I was talking to a lady ahem hack cough................for about 4 months. We'd decided to take it offline, after many jokes, intimate conversation (that's personal, not what color panties are you wearing "personal") and text-message exchange. We even exchanged artwork, as we both were artists. We planned where we'd go, what'd we'd do, and she sounded more excited about than myself. It was my birthday . I did it up. New slacks. New tie. Got my hair twisted (see my main pic) and was all ready to go. 5 minutes before head hit pillow, my IM went off. It was her. Was she messaging me for directions ? Was she telling me what she'd be wearing ? No. 20 seconds of saying she's not coming. No rhyme. No reason. Just, I'm not coming. She just as soon logged off, as she signed on. Yeah, I looked at my computer screen the same way you are (or aren't). Happy Birthday, right ?

solewolf22

Joined: 12/20/2005

Msg: 27 (view)

do u ever get tired of meeting liars? Posted: 9/11/2008 6:04:52 PM
I woke up this morning, and stared at myself in the mirror. What good words would come to me, as food for my day ? ".....You're a liar" But I didn't say anything. ........"That matters not. You seeth of lies. You've no capacity for truth, nor can honesty be found in you." I close my eyes, distraught by what's heard. I re-open them. What good words would come to me, as food for my day ? ........ "You are incapable of decency." But I didn't do anything. ......."That matters not. Your pores exude filth. You embody contempt. You have no mores, nor do you hold a capacity for anything good. Your worth is directly in relation to how ill you are." I take two steps back. Hang my head low. For but a second,hope enters in. I wipe my face and stare once more at myself. What good words would come to me this morning, as food for my day ? "...... you are by NO measure, a man". But I just woke up........ ......That matters not. You are the sum of every male iteration that has gone before you. You are their incouregability. You are their bile. You are their immorality. You are their hate. You are the destruction they leave behind. You are their contempt. The more shards of your heart left behind, the better. They are your reflection. They remind you of what you will be, try hard as you will. You will eventually become the inevitable. You are despised. " I sob to myself, as the tie meets the shirt. The tears flow free, as the belt meets the jeans. With my good words for the day, I'm ready to face the world sigh Ready, to face the world. ~Sw22

solewolf22

Joined: 12/20/2005

Msg: 863 (view)

Why Do women dump men who are nice to them. Posted: 8/30/2008 12:21:30 AM
Good lord, maybe we should all take a step back from our bad experiences and stop being so bitter and hurtful toward people we don't even know yet. The second person I'm going to say this to,in 2 days. THANK YOU !!!!!!!!!!!!!!11111111 My goodness, thank you for saying what I've been saying for years. I recently took a young lady out. Took her to a restaraunt in an area where I grew up. One of the things that came up (and this is important) BEFORE WE GOT WHERE WE WERE GOING , was what this was about. I wasn't taking her out to see if I can "get in where I fit in". I wasn't doing this to "push up on her", it was me taking her out and her gracing me with some of her time, so we both can enjoy something we both had in common. Good conversation. I got her some flowers, and the dinner went well. What happened ? She got around some mutual friends, and pretty much threw me under the bus. "Ugly", and "corny" are mild words to describe the conversation I walked into. You can argue "she just wasn't that into you" and "too much, too soon" all day. At the end of that same day, personal integrity is always the soup noone orders. You can call me mentally weak, spineless, doormat, and all other kinds of misnomers the fishies like saying. Food for thought; I said what I did before we went where we were (lol alliteration, anyone ?) going, so words wouldn't be minced and signals not crossed. You (her, that is) crossed and minced anyway, so the weakness/foolishness is not mine to be had says this sole wolf. I just think being burned and jaded is frankly unacceptable anymore. Youth is not a reason to be dumb and label it " just being young". There are a lot of people who are no longer on this earth, who swore they'd fix whatever mistakes they made in their youth, "just being young". Sober sandwhich, anyone ? Then again, I'm but one fish among millions. shrug What do I know ?

solewolf22

Joined: 12/20/2005

Msg: 214 (view)

Why is a great person like you single? Posted: 8/26/2008 2:21:47 AM
Mr. Who hasn't shown up yet I visited a media museum a few weeks ago. Managed to stumble into a room showing the original "Horton hears a Who". For those who've seen it, it's excellent psychology, when you view it up against our mordern day society. I swear that ostrich reminds me of so many people. Of course, the kids in the room were laughing their faces off. My gears were turning. Fantastic, when you think about it. But then again, someone who finds depth, intelligence and muse from a cartoon obviously frolics in mud. Frazzled hair, screaming unintelligables while eating jungle flora and fauna. I'm that guy, right ? As I always cap off, I'm but one fish among millions. What do I know ?

solewolf22

Joined: 12/20/2005

Msg: 819 (view)

Why Do women dump men who are nice to them. Posted: 8/22/2008 11:42:27 AM
...... I opt out of "the rules", for the sole (heh, that's the prefix of my user-name) reason, that I'm happier just being me. I hold contempt for people to no end , who date/seek attraction/look for a relationship based on "the rules". The only rules that matter, are deceny, and respect. Every thing else, is BS (how many scientific/sociological experiments have been done to prove exactly that ?) Who made these rules ? Furthermore, why are they so important to daters/relationship seekers, that often times you anbandon who you are, to "up your (<<<< haha love the way I play with words) attractability" ? Remind me (whoever finds said person), that I need to shake the persons'/gorup of persons' throa....er, hand that is. yeah. hand. I'm don't use nice as a weapon. It's who I am. I'm jubilant beyond physics highest degree, to learn that that's percieved as negative. ~Selah I can't be stained by what jades the masses. Why ? Because for better or worse, I'm too busy being me. ~Sw22 Then again, I'm but one fish among millions. What do I know ?

solewolf22

Joined: 12/20/2005

Msg: 78 (view)

Do you still have faith in love? Posted: 8/20/2008 6:59:30 PM
Barely. ....But then again, you know what's said about having faith in something the size of a mustard seed, right ? I'm 24, and would probably need a personal Dewey decimal system to aid in recording all the stupid stuff I've endured (notice the framework ?). I'm probably one of the better candidates to be bitter, running around screwing every woman that'll bend over for me, lying, decieving, manipulating. etc etc etc. Most women ask (rather venemously at that) ......"Well you have a penis, don't you ? What stops you from doing the same things all of these dogs out here do ? My answer ?: I love my father enough to become the man he could never be. (epic foot-note: I understand how undesirable that makes me) There are always going to be thousands, and DOZENS of thousands of women (from all walks of life) who don't like me. For Whatever reason. Pick one. My hair. my height. the fact that I speak in complete sentences. I use my brain. Seriously. lol. pick one. That's not going to change. All I can do, is focus on the fact that eventually, who I am (not what culture, or "the rules" dictates to you who I am) registers. Until then, I'll just keep being me. Then again, I'm but one fish among millions. What do I know ?

solewolf22

Joined: 12/20/2005

Msg: 168 (view)

Why is a great person like you single? Posted: 8/20/2008 12:53:23 PM
In my current line of work [can't even call it that. more like "what you do when you need money to fuel your effort for your line of work lol] , I meet people who ask this question constantly . I've also made friends with a betrothed co-worker, who one night stopped and asked the same thing. I can't remember a time (other than birth and a very tumultuous childhood] where I wasn't asked this question. I frankly don't have the answer, nor the energy required to find the answer. Perhaps I'm single, because I'm great (let that marinate over a glaze of honey and chives) My current answer is: because I'm an a. I call when I say I will. I'm a d-bag. I put effort into a woman I'm interested in, regardless of the feminine "stigma" that comes with. I'm a freak. "goodness ma'am. what mighty mighty chest balloons you have", isn't part of my venacular. I'm gay. My eyes don't grow 10x their normal size because a woman has a huge behind (epic footnote: that's a waste of 5-15 seconds that could be WAY better spent, getting wherever it is I need to be). I'm a degenerate. I speak in proper sentences, and wait for it... do so, while keeping my pants on my a. I could go on and on, but you get the idea. It's comedy gold, watching people figure out why my answer is what it is. [person X:] ".......But those aren't things that make you undesirable. I'm but one fish among millions. What do I know ?

solewolf22

Joined: 12/20/2005

Msg: 205 (view)

Is there such a thing as a normal man?? Posted: 8/19/2008 8:05:28 PM
As for normal, you want normal? After being handed your head (you decide which one) for being a good guy, but not perfect, you start to think maybe I should say and do what is necessary to get what I want. Nobody ever sees the real me because that does me no good. With emphasis on the operative words start to think , this is currently where I am. ................ Dance like noones' watching,though. P.S: one of my finer strengths, is that I'm not normal.

solewolf22

Joined: 12/20/2005

Msg: 208 (view)

Strangest Compliment Posted: 8/16/2008 10:41:16 AM
...... and this being on more than one occassion. ..."Your intelligence is scary." shrugs I do tend to ask for clarity whenever a lady says that about me. Some answers include (but are not limted to): * It comes off as if you know way more than I can be able to converse with you on. You seem way too passionate, for someone that's only 24. You intimidate me with just general conversation. I feel as though I have to be learned, in order to level with you (lmao, this one always makes me feel good about myself) Again, shrugs ?????? Are compliments supposed to be mis-placed insults ?

solewolf22

Joined: 12/20/2005

Msg: 18 (view)

women who overlook single guys for married, attached ones... Posted: 5/29/2008 8:37:08 AM
I embarrassed a potential employer, during an interview. He basically told me every reason why he wouldn't give me the job. How inexperienced I was, how terrible my resume was, he may as well have front kicked me in my b.m.a (baby-making apparatus) and threw me through a window, he was that genuinely disgusted. With what dignity I had left, I told this guy this, and walked out. <div class="quote"> .....How can you dangle experience over my head, and chew me out for the lack thereof ? Overall , I felt like a steaming pile, but boy did that feel good. Eh, shrugs I'm but one fish among millions. What do I know ?

solewolf22

Joined: 12/20/2005

Msg: 31 (view)

What are guys looking for in a profile and a woman?? Posted: 5/21/2008 6:02:25 PM
Thank you. I'd say it fifty more times, but less is more. I've been saying the afforementioned for years , and have been getting slammed violently for it. Some insults include, but are not exclusive to; * ah, so you're one of those "like-any-girl-that-likes-you" kinda guys. Gotcha' * So, in short, you're a "Neo-hippie" Neither of those are true. In essence, attraction is bs. Not that I don't find certain things attractive, it's just that I won't cleave to something that's "in" one year, and out in the next 2. Which is why I never got with the whole "you've got problems, if you can't understand people are just attracted to, what they're attracted to" attitude. I understand it just fine ----- as bs. What you swooned over at 15, changed at 18. What you swooned over at 18, changed at 19. What you swooned over and broke your neck to have at 21, changed/changes/will change at 25, and on and on it goes. Why clamour for something that changes as quickly as the way you change your socks (assuming we're conversing among those who do ) ? I can handle not being liked/picked. let's just say it's part of the all-inclusive package. . I get indignant when it's for something that changes faster than a dirty diaper. Yuck, indeed. that was the point.

solewolf22

Joined: 12/20/2005

Msg: 88 (view)

Anyone else scared of the good guy/girl? Posted: 5/18/2008 11:23:05 AM
Be mean. get girls. Be indecent. get girls. Supplant who I was raised to be true to [namely myself] with alpha male/female bs (sorry, but it's bull). get girls. gentle = weak. manners = friend. respect= iffeminate. Creatively romantic = homosexual suspicion. How dare he actually give a crap about you ? How dare that scurge treat you in a way where you're shown that you're a person and not a ahem "ravage challenge". Of course !It's all so simple now ! slaps forehead as one does when they realize they coulda' had a V8 Sling mud on me if you will, but in my earnest opinion, I think we spend way too much enrgy and effort on "the jerk-a*". All that's gonna do is further the idea that it's worth being exactly that. I mean, women/men (those of them that do) might be embittered by them, angry towards them, even seeth with hate over them, but at least they get "paid attention to". I remember when I was younger, and I did something my mom wasn't happy with. I was shut down, until I came correct (my report card, or I improved a grade, or I did my chores sans being asked, etc etc etc). What I'm finding a hard time believing, is why that lesson has failed to translate over into many peoples' adult life. She didn't care if I shoveled compliments on her (your hair looks nice, or that perfume smells real good, etc), the program was, come correct, or remain shut down. A lot of people don't know how to curb their enthusiasm. "Oh, it's the way he does A,B,C....... or it's the way she X,Y,Z's" "I gave in". shrugs* I had a great conversation with a girl, where she got pissed[all the way] off. her qualm ? I'm sick of these guys out here who are, or say they're decent and expect some type of merit for that. WTF do you want ? a float parade for being decent My answer threw her through a loop, and it showed on her face. like she turned ghost-pale, when I was done. >>>>>>>> THAT'S EXACTLY WHAT'S IN ORDER. Think about it.......... we spend way too much time and energy on the kinds of people we say we don't want. The people who do the terrible things they do, know that. That's part of why they do them. It get's them what they want. There's an internal code with being a spooge-a** (pat.pending on that "term of endearment" ) that reads if I be decent, I'll fall by the wayside. If I act like I have some semblence of courtesy, human decency, and overall humanity, I get "friended". If I respect her, I get second string, and noone gets laid on second string. (that is the conquest, right ?) Op, I say enjoy it. Enjoy him. You're welcome I am saddened thoroughly by this generation of people. It's a "guilty until proven innocent", marshall-law, and damn is it trying on my good nature. But, then again, I'm but one fish among millions. What do I know shrugs

solewolf22

Joined: 12/20/2005

Msg: 24 (view)

Of birthdays and dates Posted: 4/14/2008 8:35:53 PM
Was offered 3 different birthday dates. One on my 18th birthday. Stood up. Second one on my 21rst birthday. Stood up. Third date on my 24th birthday. Stood up. I don't want female company on my birthday anymore. From now on when I celebrate my day, at least it'll be with someone I know will be there. Me. Ah, but alas, ever the slobbering, sniveling, heartless "mandrills-with-penises" we all are. shrugs Then again, what do I know ?

solewolf22

Joined: 12/20/2005

Msg: 352 (view)

why do men think they can use women for sex? Posted: 4/11/2008 5:49:55 PM
......... I asked for an eagle, yet all I got was this spotted egg. I never said anything about an egg. It looks nothing like what I'd imagined it would. Where are the big, beautiful brown wings ? Where is that majestic caw ? Why does this always happen to me ? I'm setting this somewhere, knowing it may die, whatever it is. It's just not what I asked for, nor is it what I fancy. The next morning, the egg began to wiggle. With tiny chips, a yellow beak peered its way, out of the egg. It was a baby eagle....... ~ Solewolf22 I'm but one fish among millions. What do I know ?

solewolf22

Joined: 12/20/2005

Msg: 44 (view)

Dating within' your League Posted: 4/11/2008 5:30:12 PM
Blonde hair is attractive ....... league for blonde hair, created Long legs are attractive....... league for long legs, created Razor-thin Side-burns are attractive ....... league for razor-thin side-burns, created Guys 6' tall and better are attractive........ league for guys 6' tall and better, created Big breasts are attractive league for women with big breasts, created (insert shade here) skin is attractive league for women/men with (insert shade here), created Remind me I have to track down the demi-god, who creates/created these "rules of engagement". I've been dying to shake his throa...... um, I mean, hand. Yeah, hand. Over-stated it may seem, but media in all its forms, does the onice go to (stay with me, for a second, you might come away with something for doing so). Painters were reknowned for their style. The particular way, THEY (billion dollar word) captured things. It's no secret, that many of them, were commisioned to capture gasp ........................................ women. In fact, depending on how well said artist did, that became the "it" factor. If the spark caught on for his depiction of blue eyes, guess what put you in there like Liz Phair ( ) ? Sure as heck wasn't an affinity for furry creatures. Sound familiar ? Of course there are things I personally (that's billion-dollar word number-2) find attractive. Difference is, I never create a league for women,or because they don't possess what I find personally attractive. One of the first questions I'll ask a girl (assuming she's interested ), is .... Do you know how to just be ? Just be what , you may be asking. That usually preceeds anger, and the end of conversation. So goes it with anything you don't understand Oh, and I should probably pass this memo out. My inability do land a date/relationship, has nil to do with my perception of myself (lol, although if we were playing with words I'd agree emphatically ) Then again, I'm one fish among millions. What do I know ?

solewolf22

Joined: 12/20/2005

Msg: 22 (view)

Why I don't believe in relationships Posted: 4/11/2008 1:22:03 AM
In some circles an unattached guy is expected to behave like a total horn-dog and desperately hit on everything in sight walking on two legs until he turns up something, anything, which even half way just barely "works", for however short a time, or else he's considered an absolute wimp, or de facto gay. Something else, I've been saying for years. Yet, no matter how hard I screm,.......

solewolf22

Joined: 12/20/2005

Msg: 77 (view)

Profiles - why bother? Posted: 4/9/2008 9:57:06 PM
I revise my profile as best I can, every once and a while. Not in a way where you see everything I don't want and am silent on everything I do. Reason being, is because.... I take the time. My head-line is usually a position I stand on (current head-line.... perfect example), a lyric from a song (.......and no, not something dumb like "Oh, I makes it rain !!!!!!!!!!!!! ), a thought I came across recently, or a nugget of muse I possess. It either flies over peoples' heads, or they write me, asking me why I try so hard ( ^^^ I never try to be, what I already am) I then talk about what things make me happy, what things I have the talent for, and I do it in a congenial yet humorous manner, where you think. I don't want you to use your body/hate/past/rage for all species-with-penis to approach me. Use your brain. That's why it's the biggest thing given to you. For some, idiocy, is their bestowed gift (<<<< see ? lol) Point being, I take the time, and it sucks to have it ignored (my current favorite message: "Why do you write so much ? ladies want to know about you, not all that writing. You try way too hard"....... and she was almost 10 years older than me ) What I do with my profile, is a reflection of me. It's supposed to (operative word supposed ) be that way. Yes, I talk the way I write. Yes, I think the way I write. Yes, I take pride in the way I present myself. Not because it'll get me girls/a girls' attention. That's just who I am. Yeah, why bother, has been a recent pontification of mine ....... But alas, What do I know ?

solewolf22

Joined: 12/20/2005

Msg: 204 (view)

Are men who have lots of GFs perceived as more attractive? Posted: 4/8/2008 7:53:09 AM
EXACTLY . Try as I may to share this, it falls on deaf ears. If you (hypothetical "you") took all that damn energy you'd ordinarily use in "bagging" numbers, and such, into one woman.... Ah, nevermind. I'm tired of screaming. If noone's listening then, I doubt it'd make [much] sense now. Yes. They are perceived as more attractive. It's the old psychological come on, where "he must be, or have something that I need to be a part of" It's funny (in an "oh s*t, that's true" kinda way). The same could be said about death row. Only difference, is that they know* they're being injected with something intended to kill them. (not a sexual innuendo) shrugs What do I know ?

solewolf22

Joined: 12/20/2005

Msg: 57 (view)

do you think being geninue actually helps in the dating process? Posted: 4/2/2008 9:12:30 PM
For me, it's all I have. I love when girls come up behind me, laughing at me, because I'm singing a song they don't know, or I walk around with my pen/pencil in my pony-tail (shrugs I draw) know what shuts them up every time ? [verbatum] I'm minding my business, paying absolutely NO mind to you. If I'm as ugly, stupid, homo, creepy, and corny as you somehow find me and call me, why do you take time out of your busy schedule, to vocalize it ? Response ? Silence. I'm not gonna walk around with my pants almost off of my a, because it's considered (by whom I always ask) "sexy". I'm not going to allow you to refer to me as anything besides what I am. I'm not going to fall beneath the quixotic tide of smoke, drink and idiocy, just because it's viewed as approachable. The way I see it, I'm not better than anyone, nor do I approach anyone that way. I just challenge people to step outside of what they've been fed to deem attractive. Somehow that flies over way too many peoples' head, but I'll DIE** before I be anyone but who I came out of the canal as. The same thoughts course through my mind at times. What purpose does it serve to be yourself, when there's always something seemingly wrong with it ? I should just disengage my personhood. Who I am, just doesn't measure up, so why bother ? I can't force anyone to like me. All I can do, is hang on to who I am. It sounds trivial, but it is a TREMENDOUS asset, to be able to say, you're true to yourself. Identity is the mother of invention, not just necessity. I'm every bit capable of being sensual/sexual. You'll never know, because I don't look like I'd be. I'm every bit capable of defending myself, and what I love. You'd never know, because of that faux pass filter. It's always the flower, nobody considers. LMAO, I LOVE IT !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Re-visit "The sword and the sorcerers' Stone", if you will. I'm willing to bet, what I'm saying would make that much more sense. But, then again, What do I know ? I'm but one fish among millions

solewolf22

Joined: 12/20/2005

Msg: 61 (view)

does the single life get you down sometimes? Posted: 3/30/2008 9:22:27 PM
I think, that if I wasn't such a pleasant and happy person, it'd hurt way more than it does. It's one thing to recognize yourself as someone fit for dating/relationships (both being stable and having a healthy self-image) and have the proverbial door slammed in your face. (not to down-play it) Totally different ball game, to perpetually be Told you're (insert positive adjectives here) and yet still have the door slammed in your face. At the risk of putting myself out there and getting beat up/on by every person who feels the need to emote, it makes you feel like a 2nd class citizen (sp?) I don't go around telling people how nice,sweet,caring, etc etc I am. I'll always meet girls who see it in me, yet slam (that is, the door being closed in my face) I don't care how thick your skin is, or how thick it's supposed to be (as per "Guys; and how to be one....... ") that stuff cuts. There are times where yes, I do enjoy being by myself. Wether it be to play my key-board (singing included sometimes) or to write. Wether it be to draw, or clock in some hours on my 360. Even if it means for me, to just get away and think. Suffice it to say, I try to remain as positive as I can about it. What can you do ? You're not everyones' cup of tea. Then again, what do I know ?

solewolf22

Joined: 12/20/2005

Msg: 79 (view)

Can you date a feminine guy? Posted: 3/28/2008 7:51:40 AM
I always share this, whenever an issue such as this surfaces. Most [not all] of the deemed "manliest" things on this planet, are surprisingly [sexually] ambiguous. It flies RIGHT over most peoples' heads, when I say that. shrugs Another "nugget" of info I like to share. Most of the ancient philosophers (who were revered by the manliest of gladiators and the like), had little boys (plural), as the male equivelant of dildos (to put it mildly) I'm not sure if I'm allowed to mention the names of shows, or the channels to which they can be found, but boy was it hilarious. Hilariously true. It's a cartoon, in which the episode was about a rapper, who everyone swore was straight, because he had tons of women around him, wrote/performed gangster-rap, and toted guns around (gotta love those rose-colored glasses) but he was gay. Furthering the humor, was how he did these things with an even greater zeal, to "prove", how un-gay/un-feminine he was. It wasn't a shot at gay guys/gay people. It was a way of saying, exactly what I did at the opening of my post. I've been saying it for years, and someone finally animated my sentiments exactly. I know what it means to be a man, and it has it-she, to do with constantly grabbing my B.M.A (baby-making apparatus) , having tons of women, drinking until I can't see straight, smoking my face off, or any of the other parameters that makes someone a "real" man. I'm certainly not apologizing to any girl, because my sight is different, or I hear differently, or I stop to wave to a baby who smiled at me. Should I be staring at a big butt walking past me,instead ? I should be chasing some fresh-outta-high-school girl down the street, to "holla", because her breasts are bigger than her head, right ? I care about the way I look. It doesn't make me iffeminate. It means I have pride in the way I walk out of my house. You see me, and the blue matches the white, and the silver matches the blue, and you instantly write me off, as gay/feminine. I love you for making my life easier. shrugs As always, take what I say with a grain of salt. I'm but one fish. what do I know ?

solewolf22

Joined: 12/20/2005

Msg: 9 (view)

Are you successful in speaking cleanly/avoiding bad language? Posted: 3/4/2008 10:43:47 AM
I'm very well spoken (lol most people that hear me speak, look at me about the same way they'd look at a guitar-fish ) They make those shrugs It's so funny when I'm around my best friend. He swears like there's protien in four-letter words. He'll always ask why I don't swear, or more appropriate, how I managed to have such an extensive vocabulary, sans the "7 bad words you can't say" (George Carlin, anyone ? ) It's the same way around my co-workers. They swear, like it was a career choice. I mean, I don't judge anyone because they choose to do so, but it's always fun being able to gague the different reactions, of people who've never heard me swear. I promise. ( get it ? what can I say ? I'm a pundit lol. ) If you don't get it, I always leave a parting gift. I'm but one fish among millions. Take confort in my saying, what do I know ?

solewolf22

Joined: 12/20/2005

Msg: 92 (view)

racial restrictions Posted: 2/26/2008 5:49:55 AM
shrugs I'm not into re-iterating what's already been said (much of which was wrapped in hilarity, and a nice pesto sauce). I'll just insert a line from a poem I wrote 2 years ago. We were made with noses. Not simply to smell, but as a reminder, that what we clamour so hard for is all too often, right under it But then again, I'm but one fish among millions ( I'm also black ), so what do I know ?

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