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How badly do you want to be in love? Posted: 6/18/2009 4:40:40 PM
How badly do you want to be in love? Title and your question are not fitting of each other... or am I reading something incorrectly To answer the title question, i'm not desparate to be in love. Not really looking. If it happens great, but I'm not really looking for it... he'd have to be storybook perfect to sweep my off feet....and it will have to be purely an accident To answer MESSAGE portion of this thread, well, the list for PERFECT is enormous and its ever changing...seems everytime I meet someone new, I come away from the experience with the need to add to my list of things that I want and dont want

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Still Loving or just longing for Posted: 6/12/2009 6:28:41 AM
Thinking of an Ex may just be that. Just thinking of them. After a break up...after the negative emotions pass....after the anger (if it applies here) subsides...you can miss the happy moments you shared. You may just miss those moments and still not want to go back. Really depends on what kind of THINKING you are doing? Are you obsessing on the thought of being with them again? Thinking if you call her, that she'll come running back into your arms? and you two will live happily ever after? Or are you just remembering how nice it was one Rainy Sunday when you two laid around and did nothing but talk and cuddle on the couch???

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If a person's not interested in me, it's their loss! Really? Posted: 6/12/2009 6:17:02 AM
Its part of the Power of Positive Thinking !! Say It, Think It, Believe It !!! If you wake up every morning and start your day with the thought "Today is going to be a GREAT day and I am going to Conquer all that I need to"...no matter how it is that you feel at that moment.... Eventually...you start almost every day with a positive attitude...without even having to say this out loud So...whatever it takes for a person to get them through that moment of feeling rejected...well, more power to them. Sometimes it should be quietly said with our INSIDE VOICE. Saying it out loud may sound a tough arrogant, but really, most of us humans, are insecure and self-doubting...trying to be positive with "Ah, Its their Loss" ...may gets us through the icky moments....

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couple of emails then poof. Posted: 6/9/2009 7:48:19 PM
Sometimes...after a couple of communications...you just realize there is no connection. Even thru emails and chats...It happens. You only want the ones that find you interesting anyways, right?

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I Miss You Posted: 6/3/2009 10:03:34 AM
Nick19-72 sometimes people just need to whine a bit. cry a bit. scream a bit. she's doing it. she'll get over it. we all do sooner or later. let her whine

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Closed Account. Something said? Cold feet? Girlfriend? Posted: 6/1/2009 9:08:20 AM
Some close it because they found someone or sick of the online dating stuff.

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Why do women say one thing one day and another the next Posted: 6/1/2009 8:57:30 AM
Dudes do it all the time. All people do it, its not exclusive to a gender We change our minds. If given the chance to think through our thoughts and our emotions...we rationalize..then make a decision, if given the chance. So she had a chance to go home and chew on it, decided you werent for her. Wouldnt you rather her do that after the first date, then the 4th date. Sometimes doing it this way save time from being wasted. Go about your business and forget this ever happened, which I'm sure you will

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I am looking for single girl friends Posted: 6/1/2009 8:49:51 AM
Absolutely great idea. If you were in my area, I'd tell you to come out and meet me and my friends for a drink. As the old cliche states: The more the merrier Good luck K-

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Moving on... so what am i doing wrong? Posted: 4/25/2009 10:20:24 AM
Read this post: http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts3739515.aspx awesome list !!

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So you want a second chance? Posted: 4/25/2009 10:19:28 AM
Awesome !! I normally do not read long posts, but this one....well, glad I did. A great list even for just getting over someone, without the thought of wanting them back....

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Lack of Physical Affection-Help Posted: 4/25/2009 10:02:20 AM
Alright, enough of this !! Whats your guy's name because it sure as heck sounds like the guy i'm seeing. lol. If its not the same guy then its got to be his twin !!!

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Lack of Physical Affection-Help Posted: 4/23/2009 5:59:32 AM
"countrygrl12345 " : you keep taking the words right out of my mouth I did step up and tell my guy that I needed more affection the other day. Not necessarily to change him, because i've seen him be affection when he wants to be. Only in the beginning, then when its comfortable and he thought i was going to stick around, he just stopped. He says he did it in the beginning because he was trying to get laid...and really its not him and its work after that. So, I tell him thats what i need out of a relationship...affection and intimacy...he tells me he shows me affection in other ways, by hanging out with me all the time, or talking to me...that is his way of showing affection... Once we get to this point, its almost like arguing about wants and needs. You hear someone telling you why they cant or dont. Its a silly arguement. Stupid that I have to belittle myself so much and ask for this thing that is within human nature...to be born with the need for touch and contact. Having this "arguement" so early in a relationship is ridiculous, especially when they argue back with points on why it shouldnt matter. In all my life's experiences, the first several months of a relationship, its been a f*ck-fest, with so much touchy feely fun stuff. So if its not happening in the beginning, its only going to be less as time goes on. Can you live without? Can you drag this out for months and years? God No!! I want to be with someone that actually really wants to be with me and has developed enough to know how to show it. Its just a hard thing to do...walk away from someone you like...you wish that it was different...but know in your heart you cant make someone into something that they are not.

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Fishing daily for hours? Posted: 4/22/2009 7:12:40 PM
i have multiple browsers open at all times thru out the day. POF may be up on one of them, since i like the forums and sometimes read a blurb while i'm having my coffee and cig. I dont necessarily close the page when i'm done, it may be up all day but i only looked at it for 5 minutes in the afternoon so how do you know what he/she is doing with the site page up????

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Lack of Physical Affection-Help Posted: 4/22/2009 12:53:10 PM
My goodness !! Your post is my story, almost word for word. Except I've been seeing the guy for 8 weeks I just came out of a 7 year relationship and really need affection right now from the guy i'm seeing. Apparently its too much to ask for. From him anyways. And I have flat out told him that I need it and can not be in a relationship without it. Apparently its too much to ask of him. You have a choice, we all have choices: Continue seeing him, because you really like him...but know that something will always be lacking in the relationship. That eventually you will be starved for the affection and it will takes its toll on you. That starvation may make you bitter and resentful and it will affect the relationship that at one time meant so much to you Or leave now and continue your search for the guy that gives you ALL that you need...because he is out there. I struggle with these choices now, as I type. Its kind of amusing that you wrote this when you did.....unless of course, this is really HIM writing this under a false user id to mess with my head, which i wouldnt put pass him Anyways, good luck to you, hope it works out for you

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heartbroken Posted: 4/22/2009 10:47:04 AM
I'm so with you on this. There are days that I just dont want to get out of bed. Its so much easier to literally sleep thru my problems...being heartbroken is the worst thing to have to work thru...and its a journey that you have to take by yourself But, I will tell you that one day, when you least expect it, someone comes along (romantic or just a friendship) that makes you forget you ever had a bad day in your entire life. When that time comes (and it will come) you'll look back and realize you wouldnt have cried so much back then had you known he/she was coming into your life. What you are going thru right now is just part of the journey to where you are going. Jump this stepping stone onto the next...you need to do this to get where you belong...

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Can you just stop caring? Posted: 4/22/2009 10:31:05 AM
Distance, either makes the heart grow fonder...or makes you realize IT wasnt what you wanted or needed Such is life....

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Do you feel that your exe's help make you a better person? Posted: 4/22/2009 7:37:08 AM
After the dust settles, I take with me only the good things from a relationship. I try to forget the bad stuff. I dont know if those things i carry in my heart or mind makes me a better person, but it does shape my criteria for my future relationships...so I'm always a little bit smarter for having known them

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I think Im in love.... Posted: 4/8/2009 5:43:19 AM
Misty1124 : I've read your post and i do have some comments for you, but first i'm going to comment on a couple of the other responses you recieved and tell you that when seeking advice, you really have to filter thru them. So many will be from people that like to hear themselves talk (or in this case, type) Brunette Girl 425, copies your comments and then the only comment of her own that she makes is that she has no advice for you !! WTF. Some others follow suite by critizing you or just plain ruding you out, like asking if you're 12? or that the guy is gay? (why this one, i cant figure out?) Misty1124: Ok, back to you: Having romantic feelings for a friend is just infatuation, not love. The official definition for being IN LOVE, well, that you can look up on the internet. You're having feelings for a friend, but because you may not see any of these feelings reciprocated you have not said or done anything about it. Thats okay. You're just having romantic thoughts of him and doing alot of daydreaming, right? In the days and weeks to come, if you put yourself into situations with him that might invite a flirty conversation or allow for some physical flirting...that might allow you to see if he might be interested too...may work, may not. There are skills that people acquire, throughout their lives, to get the attention of the opposite sex. Some people seem to be born knowing the ART, but others have to learn it. I think flirting with him will be a good start for you As for feeling insecure by seeing him with pretty girls, well, thats human nature. Self image is a battle that people struggle with, no matter their age or sex. Work on that. How? Well, do some soul-searching. Figure out what parts of yourself you dont like and work on it. Something in your head makes you feel that you are nothing compared to those pretty girls he was sitting next to. What to do Examples: You hate that your hair, you think its flat and has no body, you think if it did, you'd feel prettier...go get a cut and perm You think your body isnt attractive enough...go on a diet, exercise...do some crunches and squats You think you're boring and have nothing to talk to people about...READ as much as you can...watch CNN...watch the Discovery Channel...etc Get some knowledge in that head of yours !! Start thinking on that line and eventually you may build up your self image and confidence..because you are working on YOU. Doing these things will take time...so this particular fish that you are eye-balling may have gotten away, but it will be for your future endeavors. Its awesome that you are young and you have so much time in front of you. Just dont waste it away Good luck K-

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It's time....but I can't seem to let go. Posted: 4/3/2009 1:20:19 PM
Sounds like you are obsessive compulsive. You keep chasing and chasing and he/they are running from you The polite responses from the guy telling you, time after time, that he cant view the files or listen to the downloads....without any other sentiment, is your message: NOT INTERESTED, STOP BOTHERING ME All this obsessiveness was re-ignited because he said he drove by your house????He didnt stop did he? Did he call you? Really get over it or seek professional help. I'm not saying this to be mean to you. You just sound OCD...and from the jest of your rantings, this may be the beginning of STALKER SYNDROME. If you are not there already, you are almost there. If a guy is not showing interest in you, if he doesnt return your calls, if he doesnt respond to your texts, if your emails go unanswered....GO AWAY !!! LEAVE HIM ALONE !!! He's not interested Good luck in your endeavors K-

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How do you get over someone who doesn't want you?? Posted: 4/1/2009 2:27:33 PM
In the early stages of dating, "feelings" is a fickle thing. As you are getting to know someone, anything can change your feelings. It can turn to total obssessive infatuation or it can turn to the arctic iceberg. There is no telling. The good news is that if it goes cold, it could still possibly go back to being hot. I was seeing someone that I really thought didnt connect with me so well...but everytime I walked away, I'd miss him after a couple of days...and go back....did it so many times, that I just stopped walking away....he just does it for me-I accepted it, so although, i'm not chasing...I'm not running either. So, hey, there's still hope. Your guy may be in his "fickle-stage". He may have walked away and he may miss you when he does....Just dont hold your breathe, but there's still hope. Just dont chase after him...give him his space to work out whatever he's got going on in his head

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Seeing Vs. Dating what's the difference? Posted: 4/1/2009 2:07:05 PM
Labels, Labels, Labels !!! I hate them !!! I cant figure this one out myself. When you say "seeing" and you're sleeping with them, it just doesnt sound appropriate...whenever I say it, I cringe from shame. but if you're sleeping with him without ever having the "relationship" discussion, then the "dating" word just seems to be too strong a word to use in a sentence with his name in it. OH HUSH !! I KNOW !!!I'm supposed to be in a "relationship" with him before sleeping with him !!! But, such is life...too late to undo whats been done Hence the labeling problem I find myself in But its going okay without the labeling, so.... I just dont think about it much, til I see a thread that reminds me of it....

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Which do you miss more? Posted: 4/1/2009 1:40:41 PM
I miss the friendship the most. Wish the I could have held onto the friendship, but...oh, well...such is life I will forever have a big gigantic void in my life without that friendship that I cherished more than air, water, food, money...and yes even my cigarettes I hope he's happy wherever he is

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I've realized something... Posted: 4/1/2009 7:24:51 AM
You only think this because you are a 22 year old virgin. Those thoughts will change after you get yourself some !!! There is someone for everyone !!! Your time shall come !!! Dont give up just yet

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Don't give up. Posted: 4/1/2009 7:11:25 AM
Amen to all that ShySeattleGuy !! When a person is feeling beaten and defeated, it really is hard to see that there really is so much MORE ahead of them. With that realization, a person can more easily pick themselves up by their boot straps and walk forward For me, its almost always been a broken heart thats knocked me on my a** Theres a song by Daughtry that really sums it up "OVER YOU" "On the day I never thought I'd get through, I got over you"

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Fear of relationship when having fun with someone you like Posted: 4/1/2009 7:02:35 AM
Arent we all alittle more cautious as we get older? We do not blindly delve into relationships and situations as we did when we were 21 years old, well, most older people anyways, I would imagine. He may just be slowing the roll alittle bit. He may still like you as much as he did before...but if he puts some space between the two of you for a short period, it does slow things down. Dont be worried about it just yet. He may find he misses you while he pushes you a way, maybe? I just know that when you really like someone, its hard to try and not like them so much just because of your "relationship fears" It'll work out the way its supposed to

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Where do we stand? Posted: 3/25/2009 12:02:04 PM
Dont try to define where you guys stand, if everything is working just fine. Ride the wave...sounds like its all good. Dont need Definitions and labels to make this any better, right?

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Reality vs Pics Posted: 3/25/2009 6:28:22 AM
Yeah, by my standards, I havent taken a GOOD pic in 20 years. So at some point, if I had to pick a pic to show someone, I just have to pick some that are not as ugly as the others.... I HATE PICTURES !! almost as much as I hate Mirrors Just joking, I really dont hate myself that much

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It's all just a game, nothing more Posted: 3/25/2009 6:13:06 AM
This girl came along and just seemed to be in to me so much Were you just settling for a girl that was willing to be with you? You were just happy enough that she was IN TO YOU??? How did you feel about her? There is no mention of any emotions on your part or her part, except when you say she decided to walk because of lack of it. Sounds to be like she might came to the realization before you did. We all have short term relationships [most anyways] it happens. People come along, we enjoy the time, doesnt work out, we move on. That is today's society. Versus many moons ago, people met, married, stayed together forever. The later is a hard one, because you may not fit them years down the line and they still stayed together. So really, live life, enjoy the moments. If you stop wanting each encounter to be LIFE-LONG and just enjoy it while it lasts, you may be happier all around. Then, when you least expect it, you'll meet the LIFE-LONG one !!

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Rebound Guy? Posted: 3/25/2009 5:51:56 AM
The*Iceman : You are a riot !! Whenever I'm reading threads and see that you've posted I have to stop and read what you have to say You are either saying something insightful or just down right hilarious OP: rachellep / Wow so you guys are saying I am the immature one? I came here looking for some honest advice, you do not have to put me down. Why don't YOU grow a spine Anytime you put yourself out there and ask for other people's opinions, you may get responses that you do not like or agree with. Some will hurt and insult you. Thats just a part of getting advice. I do not believe that is the intention of my fellow posters. If everyone sugar coats responses to you, then you may not be getting the full benefit of others opinions. (If their opinion really matters) That said, in asking a bunch of strangers their opinion, listen/read the responses, process it and filter thru to the things that you feel works for you. Some are just intented to be thought-provoking and nothing more. I think everyone that has read your post, realizes you are 18. We've all been 18 ! At 18 we thought differently, we acted differently, we WERE different !!! We are not the same person at 30 or at 40 or at 50 This may be your FIRST heartbreak, but it wont be your last. So...chin up. You WILL get thru it, one way or another

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broken heart Posted: 3/24/2009 9:47:44 PM
WHAT THE HECK? Write that again, in english, please

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Racism in Dating Posted: 3/24/2009 9:18:01 PM
Nastiness like that is hard to just ignore, but idiots will always be idiots and nothing can ever be done to change them. Just know who you are and be proud of it. There are so many people that do see you for you, and not the color of your skin. And yes, rant and rave, you have every right

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Unsatisfying Sex Lives Posted: 3/24/2009 8:56:19 PM
You may be able to stay a while...for love...but sex is a driving force After 6 years in a PERFECT marriage, that lacked good sex, it was just too much for either one of us....he broke before i did, but now that its over, i see that sex was just too important a part of a relationship...and going our separate ways was the best thing for us both.... Because when you move on and find a stud that rocks your world, you realize exactly what was missing in your life for the past 6 years....still need to work on the other things outside of the SEX arena, but hey, great sex is a great motivator to try to work out all those other things

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Why do fools fall in love? Posted: 3/24/2009 8:46:22 PM
Love is a wonderous thing. Feel it, enjoy it. Remember it. A love affair may only last a short time or it may last years...while it last enjoy it. Dont live with regret when it ends, because all things come to an end...but you can walk away with some of the most fabulous memories... My most fondest memories in life are of lost loves... At the time of loss its horrible, but years later, I always smile when I think of them

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Why Dont I Learn!! Posted: 3/24/2009 5:52:04 AM
Isnt "text fighting" funny? Why do we do it? Just pick up the darn phone. So many mis-reads and mis-interpretations in "text fighting" I think all these issues may have started once you said " I think i'm falling for you" Its been just a little bit over a month, so maybe too soon. Even if you feel like this guy is rocking your world and makes you feel all warm and fuzzy inside...there are things you just have to keep to yourself, until you know them better...until they know you better. When you say " I think i'm falling for you", you want a decent response back, like "I'm falling for you too" Anything short of that is going to be disappointing, so dont put yourself out there like that, so early in a relationship. Feel it, but dont share it in words, SHOW it to him, but dont say it. And stop putting so much weight on the texting thing, if you want to talk to him, just pick it the darn phone. Or just stop texting so much, if he doesnt call you or text you back to find out how you are, then maybe he's just not your kind of guy...move on and find someone thats really in to you !!! If he's not that in to you, then he's not worth you investing anymore time !!!

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I have developed feelings for someone that only wants friendship Posted: 3/23/2009 10:55:48 AM
You have to get over it, otherwise you might just ruin the friendship side of this relationship. He talks about other girls around you, because he wants you to realize he's not in to you like that. You may want more, but he doesnt. If you make it uncomfortable for him..where he feels pressure from you, he may not hang out with you any more...then you dont have a boyfriend and you've lost a friend. Lose, Lose. Just shake it out of your head, stop thinking about him like that. It can be done.

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My exgirlfriend is crazy Posted: 3/22/2009 3:33:06 PM
Why are you saying she's crazy???? I dont quite get what you're post is about. You're not elaborating on much

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how do you tell someone it wasn't that great when they think is was increadible Posted: 3/22/2009 9:07:25 AM
Move On !! If after 3 times, he's not rockin' then it is what it is. Can you imagine if you spent years with him and sex always sucked? Move On

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kissing with tongues Posted: 3/20/2009 4:30:04 PM
Everyone kisses differently. Some are HOT, some make you think about that laundry you left in the dryer, or the kitchen floor needs mopping...etc Try the guy that rapidly zips his tongue in and out of your mouth, like a snake. Yuk !!! and what went wrong along the way that made you think thats the way to kiss a girl? Makes you miss the guy that tried to gag you with his tongue

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Whats an instant turn on for you Posted: 3/20/2009 4:20:40 PM
Turn Ons: Cute Face, Nice Bod Knows how to flirt without being obscene Confidence without arrogance Knows how to talk about NOTHING and make it interesting Touchy Feely without being too invasive Turn Offs: Talks about NOTHING and its boring as hell Doesnt talk at all Emotionally distant Talks about Ex's incessantly Calls only every 3 days for the booty thang There's so many more turn offs, but i hate long posts by others, so....

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What if you suddenly find yourself very attrative to a married acquainance...? Posted: 3/20/2009 7:40:37 AM
Dont even talk about it with him !! You're wrong if you do. He's married. Keep your thoughts to yourself !! What if he says he's hot for you too, then you're going into the realm of HOME WRECKER !! Have your stupid little thoughts and fantasies, but leave him out of it !!! HE'S ANOTHER WOMAN'S MAN !!! How would you like it if another woman had that STUPID conversation with YOUR MAN Yes its STUPID !! Stop winking at him, flirting with him and HOLDING HIS F'King HAND !!! I've been babbling on for the last 5 minutes for aboslutely nothing Look at your post. Looks like a 20 second type-job : may have taken you 5 minutes to write but....!! Well, SAYS ALOT ABOUT YOU

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im'ing with a guy on here and he talks about his sexual prowess and his ED Posted: 3/20/2009 7:26:41 AM
I'm sure if he has ED, its very much on his mind, most of the day. He's being very upfront about it. Great ! To each his own. The part about him bragging about his sexual skills, well....those little blue pills do wonders for a man's ego. While they're on it, they are like SUPERMAN : The Man of Steel !! I understand the bragging That all said...well, not everyone has perfected the art of social skills or the art of conversation and this gent sounds like he has a long way to go I think I would have been alittle freaked too and did the same as you.

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I am confused what is the diffrence between a best friend and a boyfriend Posted: 3/20/2009 7:14:07 AM
TITLE ASSIGNMENT is a tough thing for some people. If neither of you are persuing other people and this is an exclusive relationship, sounds to me like she's your girlfriend. She may have issues with being labelled "girlfriend". So what? From what you are saying, sounds like a good relationship. I bet most people wish they "didnt" have a "girlfriend" like that

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Dating Older Woman But Cannot Figure Her Out Posted: 3/19/2009 7:23:55 PM
I am sorry Sunshine if I struck a deep ending nerve somewhere I didn't suggest for him to play a game - If you ignore someone for a while that is not a game No Monopoly involved there! With my advise - He is just basically not sweating her It is on how you percieve it, don't confuse my post with past relationships Sunshine Ohio, Ohio, Ohio A game is a game is a game, no matter how you want to disguise it with rationalizations and explanations. I think that after only 2 dates, he may be overreacting a bit, however how he approaches this situation is HIM !! she either goes for it or she does. but if the "ignore her" or "act like your not interested" or "push her down in the playground and run away" game plan works for you, I'm really happy for you. It may work for some, is it right though? Can someone's feeling get unintentionally hurt in this game play? Aw, what do I know... I'm on POF, cant be doing much right in my own life

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Have any of you deeply regretted breaking up with someone? Posted: 3/19/2009 7:09:57 PM
Nope. There are reasons why you broke up in the first place, cant forget that. You may miss certain things about them, but all the things that were WRONG, well, that should always prevent you from regretting your split Never go backwards is my motto. Forward March Soldier !!!!

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Am I careful and indecisive? Paranoid and emotionally unavailable? Or is he a creep? Posted: 3/19/2009 7:04:58 PM
Thats a riot. You know I think he started a thread about you... Went something like: "I'm so into this chick I just met. I'm trying to show her that I really like her, but everything I do freaks her out, which in turn makes me drink more...which freaks her out. What do i do? Do you think she likes me or am I wasting my time?"

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Dating Older Woman But Cannot Figure Her Out Posted: 3/19/2009 6:44:06 PM
I would just ask her tell her how u feel. cuttieedoll : ITS BEEN ONLY 2 DATES, if he states how he feels and then he's going to sound PSYCHO !!! Its only been two dates !!!

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Dating Older Woman But Cannot Figure Her Out Posted: 3/19/2009 6:41:54 PM
If you act overly interested in most women then you will be the one eating out of the palm of thier hand eventually....So switch your attitude, and act like that text or that long waited phone call gap of time doesn't bother you- hell you even feel like hanging with your buddies all weekend- you don't care..... Games Games Games !!! Why must we do them?? huh? If it works on both ends, just go for it. Stop the "Dont Call" or "Call now, its been 2 days" or "Should I text today because I texted yesteday, dont want to appear needy" You like her...do your thing... your way...just dont be a stalker...if she goes for it...she's your girl...if she runs away like a bat outta helll, then well, she aint your type. It would be a dude to tell you to play some sort of GAME with her. The nerve, when its ususally dudes that accuse girls of playing GAMES Back at you Ohio

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Is there REALLY someone out there for everyone? Posted: 3/19/2009 10:22:52 AM
someone posted this one yesterday !!

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Msg: 716 (view)

What makes a woman over 40 sexy? Posted: 3/19/2009 10:20:29 AM
Plain and simple: Because we are HOT !!!

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Msg: 127 (view)

Is it better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved? Posted: 3/19/2009 10:15:55 AM
To have LOVED is to have LIVED. Nothing like it in the world...that time when the world spins out of control...that time when you feel elation that no drug on that planet could ever induce... At the time of loss, it may feel like death would hurt less...but years down the line...the memory of that love brings smiles to your face in the most random moments. I've never had a love die, but have lost: like one day they were there and the next day they werent....almost like a death. Even if the love affair ended horribly, I wouldnt change anything about it or any event in my life...It was all meant to be...and I am who I am today because of it all...and I'm not so bad

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