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exciting1

Joined: 1/26/2009

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Is the number of acceptable places to approach women offline shrinking? Posted: 11/20/2009 11:26:28 AM
Women don't think it's taboo, but obviously MEN do. A guy in here listed it as a taboo place:(:( and i think i've heard it elsewhere, so that could be a factor in why the few men who are in church won't date the women there. It's so far-fetched to me to hear that since women want to meet similar guys and church would be a great place for that. Wondering...

exciting1

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Do large women like large men? Posted: 11/20/2009 11:04:00 AM
Well what just irks me (nice word) is like guys who put restrictions on girls about things that affect nothing. Height, haircolor, eye color. And then they get on here and complain because so and so doesn't want them. Well, maybe they don't. But the rest of the world's population of women just might, in spite of them being a little bit outside those narrow height restrictions as well as all of the other restrictions. vomit At least with the weight issue there are internal body issues that can change. But being short or tall doesn't affect the function of your heart or any other things like that. shheeeez. Now we knowwwww why alot of men get on here. No wonder we don't have alot to choose from on here.

exciting1

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Oh, its to soon to have sex... yah, blah, blah, blaw Posted: 11/20/2009 9:27:17 AM
There are still some men who want the chase not the girl. The more she acts like she's not interested then the more he chases her. If she's into him and says oh come here, then the chase is over and he's done with her. I can say that I know how it is to be the recipient of that too:(:(

exciting1

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Is the number of acceptable places to approach women offline shrinking? Posted: 11/20/2009 9:19:32 AM
Why is CHURCH TABOO??? Most single women there are unattached and looking for a man who also is in church. It's the biggest bonanza ever for a man. The demographic odds are better than a man going to Curves or anywhere else that is female only. Unfortunately:(:( for women, I mean. So what is the taboo?????? There is usually alot of focus on marriage and family, and that may a good part of the reason a man would not want to be a part of it, if he goes there at all. ?

exciting1

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What do you consider to be overweight Posted: 11/20/2009 8:57:14 AM
i know a guy who is now 40, looks at least 50 and losing his hair, and has this huuuuge belly now. he looked good when he was 25 lol. however, i don't believe his attitude about women's weight has changed at all. his attitude was something about he didn't like his friends "always trying to set him up with these faaaat girls". now who's faaaat??? but i bet he hasn't changed his attitude one iota.

exciting1

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Heavier Americans Push Back on Health Debate Posted: 11/19/2009 4:47:48 PM
I've heard that the insurance companies are wanting to collect the information on people's purchases from your debit card so they can see if you are buying junk food, etc. Just a rumor. Not sure of the facts about it. Wouldn't be surprised.

exciting1

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Heavier Americans Push Back on Health Debate Posted: 11/19/2009 4:25:55 PM
As for the comment that anybody can lose 55 pounds in two months, lmao. That's almost one pound per day, whew. I've read in some diet forums that people who have had the gastric bypass can lose like that. Most non-surgical people lose closer to that average 1-2 pounds per week, which, fyi, is about 8 pounds per month. However, alot of people lose even much slower than even that. If it was that easy and quick, then there'd be alot fewer overweight people walking around lol. You can't just look at a person and make accurate judgements about whether they work out, eat healthy or not. You have to know their lifestyle.

exciting1

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Body Image perception = confidence or hesitation? Posted: 11/19/2009 2:48:54 PM
it's just a certain category of women's shapes that have big hips and a flatter stomach. alot of women who have fat around the hips and thighs also have it in the front. it's part of the pear shape. however there are some who can accumulate fat on the sides but not also the front. in any case, it's just genetic. not a reflection of your own personal confidence or lack thereof, or any other attributes.

exciting1

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what is the reason for ... Posted: 11/19/2009 12:19:34 PM
i agree there is a question coming do you have a webcam. mmmhhmmmm... and i think the talking about sex early is not quite the same purpose as telling someone what he told her. it would be waaaayy too early if i had not even met the guy:(:( but i'm somebody who is pretty open about him bringing up sex topics. i'm all for seeing what you both like or not. and nooo, i certainly don't "bag my limit".

exciting1

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Oh, its to soon to have sex... yah, blah, blah, blaw Posted: 11/18/2009 8:17:02 PM
and all of this for the first time preferably on the first date. ok guess i know why i didn't get some second dates...

exciting1

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Oh, its to soon to have sex... yah, blah, blah, blaw Posted: 11/18/2009 7:18:31 PM
So what exactly is the criteria for these guys who say they dump women after X dates if the sex wasn't " _____"? She must make sure he has an orgasm within X minutes? or do such and such _____? So if that first time happens soon like on that first date and it isn't all of that, they dump her? What if the first time is great but after that, the lust spark isn't as fresh anymore, and the second time is not as "great"? He dumps her and it was just a fling, though both said they wanted long-term?

exciting1

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Accepting a man that's unemployed Posted: 11/17/2009 9:19:53 PM
Well, I've tried but I've been rejected by guys who say they are unemployed or underemployed:( So part of the reason I see this type of complaint on here is how these guys pick the women.

exciting1

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finding a girl who enjoys sex Posted: 11/15/2009 8:25:24 PM
this is like when i see men put on their profiles that they want a woman who enjoys sex or is passionate or whatever. it's hilarious. most single women i know are soooo wanting a relationship with a man. and some even go so far as to get on a dating site.

exciting1

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do ladies get turned on by strong hands and fingers.. Posted: 11/14/2009 4:27:40 PM
well i'm sure your big hands can be useful anyway

exciting1

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ok...i'm a 19 year old virgin Posted: 11/14/2009 4:11:46 PM
I don't think you should rush doing anything just for the sake of doing it. If you've used tampons, then you've probably torn your hymen. PAIN. If you've had a gyn exam, they probably were careful if you still had your hymen. In any case, an exam can tell you if you do or not if you don't already know. You should have an exam regardless since you are an adult now even if you are not sexually active. And definitely get on some birth control since you are considering planning sex, even if you don't decide right now.

exciting1

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why do men assume you want to talk sex ? Posted: 11/14/2009 3:48:36 PM
i wouldn't necessarily consider a guy who made comments about my body as even talking about sex per se. i don't like it first email though. but it sounds like you and this guy had already exchanged some emails. yeah he could have waited before busting out the comments about body; i've had them quicker. but he could just be very vocal and open about what he thinks about you, and alot of the first impressions are physical. that's where his mind was and he said so. and if he's looking at you and not thinking physical things at that point, you'll never meet him to get to any nonphysical. there are some guys that i wiiiish would make comments that let me know they want me:( mmm..is he reading your posts??

exciting1

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do ladies get turned on by strong hands and fingers.. Posted: 11/14/2009 8:29:23 AM
mmmm.. he needs to have strong hands for..endurance....and i'm not particularly attracted to hands that look soft and feminine, though nothing is wrong with a man who does the gentleman manicures. now i need to start checking out hands better!! i could put a note on my page to say send a hand pic lol

exciting1

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why do men assume you want to talk sex ? Posted: 11/14/2009 8:20:52 AM
i would have to know what he said to decide if i would have liked it or not. the part i would not like is the avoiding a date or meeting. and you can't have sex without meeting so if he just wanted that, he wasn't making a move to get it. who knows. i've known so many guys who act like they're scared of women that it's kind of refreshing to me when a man will be aggressive. Just because a man mentions sex doesn't mean that he's trying to get you to do it tonight, or even tomorow night. He might be just wanting to feel you out or he gets kicks talking about it. Alot of guys aren't really good conversationalists, so they talk about what they like and know about. I've seen several women complain on here that they only met guys who only wanted sex because the guy mentioned it. I think they could have missed out on some nice guys.

exciting1

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Online Dating v Traditional Methods of Dating Posted: 11/11/2009 7:50:14 PM
online has a certain percentage of people who are consistently dating someone and others have verbally agreed to date someone exclusively already. those people are still on here sending and accepting emails. in person, you may see the other person out with their date and you'd already know they are involved with someone, exclusive agreed or not. online is just a crap shoot. it really has given a bigger pool even though the pool is small. and it reduces the idiot games that happen when you see an interesting guy in person. with alot of guys, you have to act like no you'd never be interested in a man ever in order for them to feel "safe" in talking to you. online this problem is not an issue. if you send an email to a guy who isn't interested he mostly just won't reply. no harm done. if he is, he'll reply and know you are interested to possibly date, not be his "friend".

exciting1

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Online Dating v Traditional Methods of Dating Posted: 11/11/2009 8:40:06 AM
It's a way to at least see the limited number of single men in my age range. I see none during my daily life. So in that aspect, it's a Godsend. However, people make permanent decisions based only on a pic or a pic and a profile and you can't always tell alot about a person like that. And if you email with someone a while before meeting, you run the risk of creating an impression that may not be accurate. When you do meet, one person says oh you're not meeting my expectations, when you never presented yourself as such anyway. This is why I'm glad to meet sooner than later. The internet is just a condensed version of "irl" in real life, most of the time. If a guy does it to you in person, he would do it to you online, and you might have more than one doing that at the same time. You have to be mentally prepared to take it. People have this candy store mentality about the internet. Guys especially seem to assume that the barbies who wouldn't have them in person will magically highly desire them online. There are the same old unattractive guys trying to get the gorgeous girls half their ages. Regular average attractive women are still alone. Same thing as offline but the internet gives guys the idea that all he has to do to get the barbie is now just point and click. When it doesn't work, they get in the forums and complain about not getting anybody.

exciting1

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Feast or Famine Posted: 11/11/2009 6:22:57 AM
yummy!!!! i've made one batch of cranberry muffins and this recipe sounds awesome. yeah, feast or famine alot of the time. someone said it's like buses--wait and wait and then it's three or more at a time. however, this was a man who said this, so women can reduce that number of buses.

exciting1

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First Contact: Generic emails vs. Creative Writing Posted: 11/8/2009 7:38:53 PM
lol i don't know why either except the usual reason that i posted in a forum on here. yes, you are missing some things about why i reduced the info on my profile. one is that there is no reason i should stress about what it says given that so many guys don't read them anyway. another is that guys generally prefer fewer words over many words. and this way it leaves things to be discussed in person. Supposing a guy does read the long version of my profile, it could be helping him to create some persona of me in his mind that might not be accurate, and then we'd meet and he'd be disappointed because i didn't meet his expectations that i never presented myself as such anyway. i'd have to say the short version is doing at least as well as the longer version so far anyway.

exciting1

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Why lunch or dinner? Posted: 11/8/2009 2:44:11 PM
it can. all of that can be done in a public place. dinners dont make good first meets anyway. lunches can go either way because there is a set time frame and cheaper lunch specials usually.

exciting1

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First Contact: Generic emails vs. Creative Writing Posted: 11/7/2009 5:11:26 PM
As to whether it's working or not, it's too soon to say. I haven't been bombarded with email but I hardly was before either. I got alot more mail last year before I lost my top layer of hair through color damage, so part of it is that I don't have as much hair as I did. So that would be related to a pic, not narrative in a profile. Tantrum??? wtf??? If they didn't read what was in my profile, why would they care if it wasn't there??? It's called experimenting and changing things you can change, and not worrying about writing things that won't be read anyway.

exciting1

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First Contact: Generic emails vs. Creative Writing Posted: 11/7/2009 3:54:51 PM
i have a friend who got on here and put up pics without makeup and barely anything written in her profile. She's been bombarded with email. Some from guys that I had not seen on my page; some from ones who won't write to me; and a few that I didn't reply to. So I deleted all of the info about myself that I had in my profile. I now just have a few sentences. I don't think guys read very much of profiles anyway.

exciting1

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Creepy Posted: 11/6/2009 8:06:12 PM
i had a guy do something similar to me only he had not given me fair warning of how he'd do. it almost scared me away from any future online dating but i decided to give it a try anyway. the only good thing i could say about that experience was at least he had done the driving instead of me. i learned to make first meets very short and not a dinner event. parking lots and malls are great to just meet and say if you are attracted or not.

exciting1

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women who say i'm really busy or i have a finite amount of time... Posted: 11/6/2009 9:41:33 AM
hmph. My profile used to outline my general schedule with weekends being my free time to date and weekdays and nights not possible. I work long days and do the gym after work most nights. Other nights have other things. Weekends, including Fridays, are usually free for dating or camping, hiking, kayaking, etc. Guys could join me in these activities also. However, I found that men seem to not read profiles with relevant information and then get psssssd when I can't date on weeknights or a weekend with an event long planned in advance. For one guy recently, I even went back and picked a few blocks of time on days that are really busy and said we could do something in those times. He did not accept it. not good enough for him. So, I've deleted all of the info on my profile and now just have a few sentences. I have a friend on here who has something similar and she's getting pages of emails that she can't even read them all.

exciting1

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IS IT TRUE THAT A WOMAN SHOULDN’T PURSUE A MAN? Posted: 11/6/2009 7:46:16 AM
bike4 guy, if those women were not interested in you they would not have been repeatedly dating you?? omg:(:(:(:( you quit dating those women because they accepted your dates??? well that's a new one on me, but maybe now i can say that's why guy(s) didn't ask me out again... women in my age group were brought up that the men should initiate all of the contact for at least a very long time. times have changed and alot of younger girls are not like that and some women in my age range have changed but not all of them. it is much easier if a guy does the initiating because then i know he's interested but it's my personality to do some of the initiating too, and i know that it's often been a mistake to have done it too. i have to say that generally if a guy is interested he will ask and make the repeat contacts and if he doesn't then he's not interested. because they were brought up like that too and most of the time if he hasn't asked then he's not interested, no matter how much he's acted, looked, talked or touched like he was , and it'll just be a waste of my time to ask him out. i've made initiations and don't have very much to show for it.

exciting1

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Do you prefer a man who goes to the gym to enhance their sex life? Posted: 11/1/2009 2:59:16 PM
well i have no problem with a guy who says no chocolate, pizza, or beer. if he chooses not even in moderation, well he's sober to drive and no white crust or extra cals even from dark chocolate. i'm not looking for a body builder but i do want a guy who cares about his health.

exciting1

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Do you prefer a man who goes to the gym to enhance their sex life? Posted: 10/30/2009 8:03:35 AM
oh gawwwd yeah, my SO... that's why i've been on here looking anyway, of course i'd prefer someone who works out, be it gym or not. because it's awfully hard to be healthy without some physical exercise even if it's not the typical gym routines. that's why i look for somebody who is concerned about his health, not necessarily the gym per se. wazhiz you are so right about all it takes to do all the stuff about gym and supplements. i didn't know that tidbit about yoga :):):) thanks for the info:)

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what do men consider overweight? Posted: 10/30/2009 6:56:12 AM
i had wondered about texas. it seems that women do get men in texas so i wasnt sure. i see some guys from texas on here. i've tried to move. guess i need to be looking again.

exciting1

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He can't afford to date you! Posted: 10/21/2009 1:10:12 PM
Well, I'd rather not be deceived by being told he has money he doesn't have or that he doesn't have money that he does have. Whether I like a guy or not doesn't necessarily depend on his money or lack thereof. So if it does for him, he's too hung up on it.

exciting1

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Whats the problem with long hair on a guy ? Posted: 10/18/2009 7:43:33 PM
the same thing that was wrong with my light brown darkish blonde haircolor. so i compromised and changed the color. but i luvvv long hair on guys. hair on a man is where it is supposed to be!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! mmmm..head, face, body....i have a big thing for hair, and maybe i better stop describing here. call me, lol

exciting1

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He can't afford to date you! Posted: 10/18/2009 6:55:15 PM
My Y membership actually costs more than some local private nicer gyms. I chose the Y because I was traveling with my job and there are lots of them in different places. There are some people with higher incomes there in some of the nicer neighborhoods. Not sure why they think Y members have no money??

exciting1

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He can't afford to date you! Posted: 10/18/2009 1:10:08 PM
LMFAO guys complaining a woman wants too much money. I've offered to do free things, cheap things, coupon things, planned events that are on the guy's preference list not mine. And it's not accomplished one iota. Next time, I'll just dump him if he says he's unemployed.

exciting1

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met my soul mate, but he doesn't want me Posted: 10/16/2009 9:49:28 PM
saaad. i do know that guys can present themselves as one way being into you and then suddenly vanish. everyday. all the various reasons in all the other threads. barbie answered her phone, he suddenly saw that he had a woman who was into him, anything. very common reason is that he's really holding out for someone who looks a certain way and you don't, even though he's obviously attracted to you and enjoys being with you. all that can be there, but he'll vanish once he realizes what he's done and that it's not what he's been holding out for.

exciting1

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Coupons and Dating Posted: 10/16/2009 9:30:09 PM
I am all for saving money and discounts But yeah, the first meet should be simple and cheap anyway. After that you can discuss the finances if that is going to be an issue. I would mention that I have coupons and ask how he/she felt about it in advance. I have one of those local coupon books and need a partner to use most of the coupons?? So I'd gladly share it on a date, regardless of how our final tab is being split. Probably if a guy is too insulted by that, we wouldn't be compatible. I agree maybe in certain social situations a coupon might not be the best thing. Just pay your tab and be done. But I have used that book for one of the nicest restaurants:):)

exciting1

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the odds of POF... STACKED for ladies, discouraging for men Posted: 10/16/2009 8:49:44 PM
Well I did a search of women just to see who all these local men are dating?? I actually didn't see that many barbies, but I searched by my age group, and alot of the guys in my age group are dating the 20s, so I assume that's most likely what's going on with pof. I've had some nice experiences by being on here for sure, so I guess I can't complain that I haven't. But yeah, there's certainly alot of garbage on here to sort through:(:( Yeah, I guess I should do the cleavage pics like I see others doing, or lying on the bed pics, etc. That might help the inbox. Other than doing something like that, I really don't know what to put on my page that would get the attention of a guy that I might be interested in.

exciting1

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people in small towns...how do you find dates? Posted: 10/16/2009 8:30:07 PM
Well even if you meet somebody who lives less than 10 miles away from you, it can still end in a big bust And it's pretty disgusting that the local activity groups, yeah, you know, the highly touted on here irl get-off-your-computer-out-your-door groups, have some of the same people on here, and even a singles one has couples in it??? omg:( I have to get out of this area. But I don't know how to get that done. I've looked for jobs elsewhere including Canada.

exciting1

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At what age do you Just Give Up? Posted: 10/16/2009 7:51:21 PM
Me too:(:(:( Though technically I'm sitting home getting over bronchitis, but otherwise there'd be no date:(:( Yes, I see the same ones on here my second year so far:(:( They're waiting for a baby barbie.

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whats the deal with guys and standing up women Posted: 10/16/2009 7:00:15 PM
it's happened to me gobs of times:(:(:(:( i even left the site mostly because i was soo tired of dealing with the riff raff here. one thing i started to do differently was to ask the guy to call the day of or a few hours before or something so that i'd know he still planned to meet me. sometimes that worked and sometimes he never made that call. so i tried to arrange my time where i wasn't sitting and waiting in case he didn't call. this one guy who did that to me recently, he's still on here smiling in his pic:(:( i just want to go JERK WTF but since he is indeed a jerk, i am not even bothering with him. another guy who stood me up last year, this year he emailed me not recognizing me asking "are you sexually submissive" in the first email. i told him that he'd never know because he stood me up etc. so paybacks he11..at least keep better track of who you stand up, guys:)

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personality matches Posted: 10/16/2009 6:21:04 PM
you mean people actually go by these personality matches??? after seeing the matches on here and other sites, a better chance of being struck by lightning or a car in rush hour here, or not even in rush hour i do believe some of those personality tests are good, like the old myers briggs and others but somehow these dating sites just don't do the same things very well. i tell personality by my communication with the people themselves.

exciting1

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What would you think if dating never went expensive?? Posted: 10/16/2009 4:05:45 PM
Before the first meet, you don't often have a really good idea if the other person is even in a position to go to some of the nicer things. I like both things that cost more and things that are free. I'm very willing to do free or cheap things to get to know a guy, especially after I find out he is unemployed??? But it's hard to get unemployed guys to date, even for these free and coupon cheap events. mmhmmm....And there are alot of guys unemployed now. Some tell you quickly; others don't.

exciting1

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Men and needs Posted: 10/16/2009 6:27:35 AM
The want/need/desire to be with someone should first be based on attraction and personality. Any other complementary things that happen after that are a bonus. Or else, you're just selling yourself for whatever. That goes for both genders. If I was going to do that, I would have already done it, and I'd be in a much better situation. As for what I think men do, no they don't want a woman to like anything about them except their bodies, in most cases. But I've had men tell me they were looking for a mother for their children:(:(:(:((:(:( and ones they conceived with a girl barely legal I've seen some men only pick women who had some big disadvantage like having kids with some problem, or foreign women who didn't know their way around here very well. So there are a few men like that, but they are not the majority.

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A little overweight, very curvey, ....and I hear this. Posted: 10/14/2009 6:15:52 PM
hope he's out of your life. i would have told him a whole lot.

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white collar woman, blue collar man. Posted: 10/13/2009 7:09:35 PM
I am technically a "white collar" woman and I'll gladly date "blue collar" men. I usually get treated better by that type than by guys who have more money. So money doesn't impress me anymore. I don't rule them out but I'm more careful about them. But I think the income thing bothers guys more than it bothers me.

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At what age do you Just Give Up? Posted: 10/11/2009 8:02:03 PM
30 is not too late to have a kid. There are lots of women, including myself back then, who want kids. Most men are just coming out of college and first job partying at that age, though, and hence not many families started:(:( By now, I've pretty much given up on having a kid unless there'd be some extenuating circumstances. It's about that bad as for finding the "right" person.

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Overkill.... Posted: 10/4/2009 8:40:17 PM
lol so who's giving out free cosmetic surgeries??? i could use some of them. wolf, some of your stuff is hilarious, even though we ummm have some different ummm values lol

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Article On Mature Ladies and Dating. Posted: 10/4/2009 7:43:29 PM
Hmph:(:( I likewise constantly see men in my age range only willing to date half our ages and some a few barbies only. I am not one of the ones who wants a much younger man. But when having to choose between younger or 20+ older, I sure am choosing the younger. I get hit on by younger ones sometimes, and I don't get that if I'm supposed to be as horrid as I get treated by some guys my own age. Even in the forums, I've seen it all--even that women over 45 don't want sex because they get 45??? That guy is on here all the time. irl, I saw a guy who claimed he didn't want a "faaaat" one and then married someone who is no way close to his age and is "faaaaaat"???? So to me, these guys are just making excuses for wanting someone younger. Yes, lots of women still want relationships. It's the men who don't comply so we have to find alternatives.

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Is meeting halfway reasonable? Posted: 10/4/2009 5:19:55 PM
Yes, especially at first, it's better if a guy comes up my way to see me. I'll be glad to drive the next time if he prefers it that way. However, some live up to an hour or so away, and these are ones that I'd call "local" guys, not even the long distance ones. For the ones who live an hour away, I'll split the difference. And if I'm downtown or somewhere closer to where they live, I'll suggest meeting closer there. A couple of times, I've suggested meeting in a state park that is farther from me but closer to them because I wanted to go to the state park, and then if I got stood up or it was a waste, then I hadn't wasted my day after all:)

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