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mrcyrus

Joined: 1/26/2009

Msg: 18 (view)

Why prolong the evening? Posted: 7/22/2009 10:32:06 AM
You are way too defensive to seriously expect to take anything away from this thread, aren't ya?

mrcyrus

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Is adult dating like high school with money as late rocker Frank Zappa opined? Posted: 7/22/2009 10:11:45 AM
It depends on who you encounter. Some people can't get past of their more immature mentalities and approach dating the same way for their entire life. In my age bracket, I've broken people down into those who are looking for a serious relationship and those who like to date. I'm one of those guys that girls get into relationships with, because that's just the kind of guy I am. So if I'm seeing a girl who is not interested in that, it's going to be very high-school-y for a time. But when I meet a girl who is interested in something more serious, the process is a lot less shallow.

mrcyrus

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need some help with site problems Posted: 7/22/2009 10:08:57 AM
Why you clever shrew!

mrcyrus

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How often do you check a guy, hoping he will message you? Posted: 7/22/2009 10:07:57 AM
"Hi. I find you interesting because of X reason. Write me back if you find me interesting also."

mrcyrus

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Why prolong the evening? Posted: 7/22/2009 10:06:16 AM
Stop focusing on the negative and actually see what the dude's trying to say, OP. That said, I do the same thing as this woman did to you, sometimes. Sometimes dinner isn't enough to know if I'm too interested, so prolonging it seems like a good idea. Getting drinks with someone is a different experience than having dinner with them, it's lighter and you can generally see a 'looser' version or a person than you do on a stifling dinner date. Anyway, don't take it too hard. Forget about it and move on, dwelling's your worst enemy.

mrcyrus

Joined: 1/26/2009

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What the??? Posted: 6/28/2009 3:58:22 PM
Of course it should, and it depends on the situation (which you still haven't shared).

mrcyrus

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What the??? Posted: 6/28/2009 3:51:56 PM
That's a stretch. I find it very strange that you're unwilling to provide details and assume that's the real reason.

mrcyrus

Joined: 1/26/2009

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is it cheating? Posted: 6/28/2009 3:46:50 PM
Drunk isn't an excuse. At some point some girl is going to accept his flirting and go home with him. You might want to mention it to his fiance. I don't consider my girlfriend trying to kiss a friend of mine "unnecessary" drama to hear about. I would want to know.

mrcyrus

Joined: 1/26/2009

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What the??? Posted: 6/28/2009 3:44:22 PM
If you date for a while where and how you live will eventually become important. Are you living with an ex? It's hard to weigh in here when you don't provide any necessary details.

mrcyrus

Joined: 1/26/2009

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Deodorant, perfume and cologne: Do we really need 'em? Posted: 6/27/2009 9:51:37 PM
My butt crack is my butt crack, not my pits which are considerably closer to my (and everyone else's) face. Actually, my pits are near most women's faces because I'm fairly tall. But more importantly, I tend to shit in the morning before I shower, and there is plenty of soap and water in my shower. I wash my ass and tend not to crap again until after dinner. Even if I go during the day, nobody is smelling my ass like they smell my armpits. This is a fairly weak correlation you're making here.

mrcyrus

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Deodorant, perfume and cologne: Do we really need 'em? Posted: 6/25/2009 2:10:48 PM
'Cause if you did take the time to read through these posts, you'd find that quite a few people -- men and women -- don't use deodorant and make it through life with flying colors. Congrats. Unfortunately I never said you couldn't get through life without deodorant. In my experience deodorant has little to no impact on my health. However, you're smelly in hot weather whether you realize it or not. This silly comment made me chuckle. So if you were wiping your butt after a poop, and you happened to get a little finger to anal contact, are you telling me that you'd just wipe your finger off with your toilet paper and be good to go? You wouldn't wash your finger with soap and water? Because what you're saying is that you wipe your ass well, then I bet you could wipe your finger just as well, right? Something is telling me, I don't think so! What? You're bad at this. You didn't even make a point, here. Anyway, you keep on not wearing deodorant and I'll keep on appealing to women. Live and let live, and all that.

mrcyrus

Joined: 1/26/2009

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your thoughts on casual sex Posted: 6/25/2009 1:51:58 PM
I still can't get over everyone here who can't argue against casual sex without resorting to extreme examples.

mrcyrus

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exchanging phone numbers Posted: 6/24/2009 8:44:45 PM
Interest in making a work friend a friend is bad? Female-male relationships don't need to be rooted in some underlying desire or whatever. I call my female friends all the time and talk about life, you know, like people do with their friends. It's not that uncommon.

mrcyrus

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exchanging phone numbers Posted: 6/24/2009 8:39:09 PM
Yeah, I have no idea why people assumed the OP was trying to date him. You can be friends and that's fine. But you need to approach that in a way where his girlfriend and he won't think you're hitting on him. Go for lunch at a nearby place and don't give any romantic signals, perhaps.

mrcyrus

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Some people just can't take criticism Posted: 6/24/2009 7:25:38 PM
I guess if you consider not showing your parents how you really treat others, thats a big yes. Because if you treat people in front of your parents differently, then when your alone, something is not right. This is not 'treating people like you would treat your mother and father', this is 'treating someone differently in front of your parents,' it's a pretty significant difference. And does that condone treating someone badly just because you don't know them yet? No. It means I speak with my mother differently than I speak with random people in my life. I really hope this isn't me-exclusive. My mom's my mom.

mrcyrus

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Chase or not to chase Posted: 6/24/2009 2:26:28 PM
...Well, you still can see how often they view you over a yearly timeframe!

mrcyrus

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Chase or not to chase Posted: 6/24/2009 2:08:04 PM
Everything but the top line shows you who has visited your profile most recent and in what order, though, so you can see how often someone visits your profile if you're vigilant/obsessive.

mrcyrus

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I don't know exactly what to do. Posted: 6/24/2009 2:03:18 PM
mrcyrus said it .. Now why don't two beautiful people like you two. get together.. nothing sexier than substance.. and you are both adorable.. My ego just ruptured!

mrcyrus

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Dating Male Virgins Posted: 6/24/2009 8:02:21 AM
Actually a guys first time dosent always suck ive read stuff on other forums that claim nerves can delay ejaculation Actually it's more likely to make it impossible for you to maintain an erection. Which is bad for sex, I've heard.

mrcyrus

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Deodorant, perfume and cologne: Do we really need 'em? Posted: 6/24/2009 7:58:23 AM
I haven't really read any of the posts here except for the opening one. I just wanted to say that Matthew McConaughey is a greasy man and I can tell he smells through my TV screen. I also wanted to mention that Julia Roberts is not even mildly attractive and has only been a sex symbol among Hollywood people who all jerk each other off all day because celebrities love celebrities. As for deodorant on my buttcrack, I wipe my ass well and it doesn't emit an odor through my pants. My buttcrack also doesn't sweat profusely the way my armpits might on a hot day. What a silly example. If you don't like deodorant, more power to you. But don't suggest people should want to be like Matthew McConaughey, ew.

mrcyrus

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I don't know exactly what to do. Posted: 6/24/2009 7:53:53 AM
Oh, I finally checked out your profile. He misses the sex.

mrcyrus

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your thoughts on casual sex Posted: 6/24/2009 7:48:49 AM
Not something I have or could ever do. As mentioned above, I also need to have some kind of emotional connection. Gosh I can't stand how you say you NEED the emotional connection! Bla bla bla puh-lease! I am going to piss all over how you feel and how you operate because I don't agree with it. Doesn't that feel nice, krookie? You don't know what other people need. Come on, now.

mrcyrus

Joined: 1/26/2009

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Waste of Time Posted: 6/24/2009 7:43:56 AM
Make that picture of you reading your default pic, since it's the one that looks best as a thumbnail. Otherwise be patient. Sign on often and you'll be seen more. Send out messages. Don't get frustrated - send a few messages, then sign off and go occupy yourself for the day, check back tomorrow. Try again.

mrcyrus

Joined: 1/26/2009

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profile EMERGENCY....4 months...one or two messages..something is wrong Posted: 6/24/2009 7:40:06 AM
..not as a way to go pick up men but its our escape from everything... ELIMINATE! Shoot with lasers. Do whatever you need to do to kill this sentence. I still think you need to elaborate on some of these things you mention. You like to sing. When did you start singing? What are your favorite songs to sing? Are you a talented singer or is it just for fun? I just kind of skimmed over it all and nothing grabbed my attention.

mrcyrus

Joined: 1/26/2009

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profile EMERGENCY....4 months...one or two messages..something is wrong Posted: 6/24/2009 7:19:00 AM
Nothing unique about it, a very dime-a-dozen profile in my eyes. What is there to your life besides your daughter and your love for sports? Do you like anything artsy? Do you have any goals or ambitions? What makes you laugh? Thats just a lil but about me....well the important stuff lol...sound interested?? Send me a message!! I'm a sweet girl with a great fun-loving personality....what are you waiting for?!?! I'd remove this but maybe that's just me. Sounds mildly juvenile. I totally support some goofiness in general, though. Why do you like the Phillies so much? Did you grow up with your Dad teaching you all about baseball? Add little details like that. Expand a little, but not too much. What are you looking for? What's unique about you? BE INTERESTING.

mrcyrus

Joined: 1/26/2009

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Mixing Up Her Signals? Posted: 6/24/2009 7:14:50 AM
3 is awful awful awful. Just call. She would prefer if you called her, likely. But in the future you should not get too anxious because emails go well. That rarely means much except that you might get along, to be honest.

mrcyrus

Joined: 1/26/2009

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sadie hawkins response Posted: 6/24/2009 6:59:32 AM
A woman who wants to date you and doesn't cling to some ancient methods of dating will ask you out, or at least make it very obvious that she wants you to ("Gee I really want to see X movie but I have noooobody to go with! shucks!"). Just because it doesn't happen to you doesn't mean it doesn't happen.

mrcyrus

Joined: 1/26/2009

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Chase or not to chase Posted: 6/24/2009 6:57:49 AM
Actually, I do email every woman's profile that I look at. I just don't know what to make of the women who look at my profile and then don't write. PFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFF. Don't lie to the good forum people.

mrcyrus

Joined: 1/26/2009

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Do I Need To Change My Approach? Posted: 6/24/2009 6:56:53 AM
If you are at all confident and at all good looking, a lot of women are going to assume you're a player (because you could be playing if you wanted to). You just need to search until you find a cool girl who doesn't assume you're a shithead because you're confident.

mrcyrus

Joined: 1/26/2009

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how to tell someone it is best to just be friends Posted: 6/24/2009 6:55:02 AM
Do you want to be friends or just cut communication entirely? If you want to be friends it's best to tell her that ASAP and see how it goes over, then move from there. Choose your words well, though. If you want to cut communication, well, if you want to be polite you can say that's what you want to do and then do it. Or you can not be polite and just stop talking to her, but that's pretty harsh.

mrcyrus

Joined: 1/26/2009

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What am I doing wrong? Posted: 6/24/2009 6:53:25 AM
Hey, if she's NOT your girlfriend, can I meet her? Is she in Montreal too? That would be super.

mrcyrus

Joined: 1/26/2009

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Some people just can't take criticism Posted: 6/24/2009 6:46:49 AM
Pff. I fully came into this thread expecting to chew the OP out for being a jerk, but I can't see any reason to. As for 'cooldude', uh, I don't speak to random women who message me the way I speak to my mother and I really, really hope you don't either.

mrcyrus

Joined: 1/26/2009

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why does a guy just stop calling after a couple of months??? Posted: 6/24/2009 6:43:02 AM
He doesn't like you. It's not that complicated, hon. It happens to everybody.

mrcyrus

Joined: 1/26/2009

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What's your definition of drama? Posted: 6/24/2009 6:36:25 AM
Drama's anything blown out of proportion, to me. Hypersensitivity and all that. Causing trouble because of strong emotion/weak mind.

mrcyrus

Joined: 1/26/2009

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Tips on how to heal a broken heart Posted: 6/24/2009 6:33:55 AM
Go out with your buddies, drink a bit, vent, bawl, apologize for bawling, talk trash about her, apologize for talking trash about her and tell your buddies she's not that bad, drink a bit more, get some junk food, go home and crash. Whine some more and repeat. Focus on work. Stay busy and see your friends as much as possible.

mrcyrus

Joined: 1/26/2009

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I don't know exactly what to do. Posted: 6/24/2009 6:32:19 AM
Forget what the surface issue is for just a moment. You confronted this guy about something that bothers you which he could easily change, but he chose not to. This man is not good enough for you - move on. As for this particular issue, yeah, he's still looking. He's trying to find someone more interesting/prettier/with bigger ta-tas/whatever. Or just someone new. He may miss you for genuine reasons or they may not be genuine at all (likely), but it doesn't matter if he treats you like that ^ That's a pretty prime issue.

mrcyrus

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your thoughts on casual sex Posted: 6/24/2009 6:21:08 AM
Sex used to be an expression of deep feelings between two people Sex isn't any different than it ever was. People have always had casual sex for pleasure. Besides that, it still is if you're in a relationship with someone you care about. (STD's, unplanned pregnancy, hurt feelings etc.,etc.) Solutions: Being selective, using contraceptives, not being a**ead. Personally, I don't feel safe just "plugging in" to any and every girl that's interested in me. It's very easy to argue against something if you take it to an extreme like this. Police shouldn't exist because polite are corrupt and don't do a good job. See? I have a close friend (and no it is not me, before you ask) who did not take sex so seriously and could have ruined several peoples lives with his indiscretions. Your close friend is an hole. He probably does **hole things that have nothing to do with casual sex, too. Moreover I know dozens of people who have casual sex often and do not ruin anybody's lives by doing so. Call me names if it helps you get your point across. Smellyface! I think casual sex is great and that people should be open to it. With me. Right now! But seriously, hooray for people who have casual sex and for people who wait for the right person, too. It's none of my business and it's cool as long as you're not hurting anybody. Edit: After reading a previous post, I have to mention that if you're so opposed to casual sex that you would call someone who has casual sex a sociopath, they are not the one with the problem. Wow.

mrcyrus

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what would make a guy pretend he didnt know you...? Posted: 6/20/2009 10:12:11 PM
He could be embarrassed people might find out he's on plentyoffish. He's also a big baby to overreact over that. Yeesh.

mrcyrus

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I only see my boyfriend once a week Posted: 6/13/2009 4:16:37 PM
Once a week seems totally fine with me, depending on who I'm dating. Maybe he feels the same.

mrcyrus

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Guys with girls in their picture. Posted: 6/13/2009 4:15:02 PM
I have friends who are female. I find pictures of myself and a female friend are really useful for weeding out overly jealous women, which is great. A lot of my friends are female and I'd hate to waste sometime's time if they can't handle that.

mrcyrus

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Asking a guy out Posted: 6/4/2009 6:39:10 AM
I don't see a point in clarifying a statement that's so straightforward, but okay. Some people are saying the OP should not imagine this guy is interested in her at all because of how little he's said to her, but she's said even less to him and is clearly interested. The basic point is that you never know, and simply asking someone out for coffee is not only incredibly easy but will settle the matter very quickly, too. Though if you think a guy's a 'neurotic wuss' because a woman he's said hello to twice in the hallway starts pasting notes on his door and he finds it weird, well, that just isn't realistic. That's what a lot of people are like.

mrcyrus

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Asking a guy out Posted: 6/3/2009 1:46:10 PM
Note on the door still sounds really creepy to me. As for interest, the OP has said LESS to him and is clearly interested. Pretty obvious where I'm going with this.

mrcyrus

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Should we try to love someone unconditionally? Posted: 6/2/2009 9:23:11 PM
We should try to love everyone unconditionally as God loves all his children and forgive them when they hurt us just as Jesus did. Who am I to judge someone not worthy of my forgiveness, when jesus died on the cross to forgive even those that put him there in the first place. Who you are: not Jesus. Humans aren't capable of unconditional love for everyone around them. Though I definitely support the sentiment, not forgiving somebody and not loving somebody are quite different. I can forgive someone I strongly dislike and still dislike them.

mrcyrus

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Msg: 28 (view)

Should we try to love someone unconditionally? Posted: 6/2/2009 8:20:18 PM
I try not to 'punish' a girlfriend. A partner shouldn't be taught lessons like one would teach a child. Rather, I think avoiding any kind of condescending behavior works best for the relationship as a whole. Then again, I don't really date people who need to be led around anyhow.

mrcyrus

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Should we try to love someone unconditionally? Posted: 6/2/2009 7:40:56 PM
Unconditional love is a foolish thing. I'd reserve it for my kids, only (if I had any). The idea of loving someone no matter how they treat me, no matter what decisions they make, no matter what kind of shitty person they become, is just kind of banal to me.

mrcyrus

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Why are there so many attractive women on POF? Posted: 6/2/2009 7:34:26 PM
Or are they merely trying to add to their "collection" of admirers? Is this really what's going on in your head?

mrcyrus

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Asking a guy out Posted: 6/2/2009 7:30:55 PM
Uh, don't knock on his door. That is a bit odd. Next time you run into him, ask.

mrcyrus

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Does honesty hurt more than just dissapearing? Posted: 6/2/2009 9:55:49 AM
Much, much, much more painful if you just disappear. The lack of closure kills me and I end up getting upset for a while instead of just moving on, as I would otherwise do.

mrcyrus

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How many hidden rules behind the dating? Posted: 5/29/2009 3:43:33 AM
I think most reasonable guys avoid silly girls who play games from high school. But I guess a lot of guys aren't reasonable. You can't convince someone or manipulate someone into respecting you and treating you decently, OP, no matter what games you play. If a guy wants to sleep with you and leave, your avoiding sleeping with him isn't going to change it.

mrcyrus

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Why it is so hard to find a guy for me? Posted: 4/25/2009 10:40:14 PM
"I'm not looking for any guys that want to sleep with me" is perfect. You're looking for a relationship and that's great. Saying "I'm not looking for guys to sleep with, I only sleep with a guy who is my boyfriend" might be okay, saying the equivalent of "I do not want you to be sexually attracted to me" is not the same. Though I think both are a pretty bad idea. And if you don't think being a Baptist thins out potential mates, you're crazy. I'm just saying it to give her some insight as to why she might get less responses than others.

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