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Valentinne

Joined: 1/27/2009

Msg: 91 (view)

My girlfriend told me the best sex she's ever had was with a past lover Posted: 6/14/2009 8:11:55 PM
Sex is different with all partners. You can not be this other guy and your best bet is to be exactly who you are. Trying to be someone else is just fake and you'll both know it.

Valentinne

Joined: 1/27/2009

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Oral Sex on Uncircumsized Penis...? Posted: 6/13/2009 11:35:22 PM
Uncircumsized is just kind of gross to me. I don't really want to touch it at all.

Valentinne

Joined: 1/27/2009

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Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay? Posted: 6/13/2009 11:06:14 PM
My last one was perfect: A cop with gorgeous children, loving, took care of me, my family loved him. We were in Vegas to get married when I got a call from one of his wives. Yes...one of them. Turns out that he was already married to two different women. I would have been the third one. I think I'm giving up.

Valentinne

Joined: 1/27/2009

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Something ALL women on pof should put in their profiles Posted: 6/13/2009 5:15:10 PM
Who the hell dates for food?

Valentinne

Joined: 1/27/2009

Msg: 307 (view)

So is love a choice? Posted: 6/13/2009 4:07:26 PM
I don't think it is. If I had the choice, then I could have saved myself years of misery. Love is the most wonderful and terrible thing that I've found in this world.

Valentinne

Joined: 1/27/2009

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How to deal with liar? Posted: 6/13/2009 12:58:33 PM
Why deal with them at all? It's a waste of time and good oxygen.

Valentinne

Joined: 1/27/2009

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Would you marry a porn star? Posted: 6/13/2009 12:45:17 PM
It's hard to say how I feel about this one. I mean, I have nothing against porn stars, but I'm not sure how that would really make me feel. I have to say no, but it's a "soft" no.

Valentinne

Joined: 1/27/2009

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Manic Depressives/Bi-Polar/Paranoia suffers enter Posted: 6/13/2009 12:42:30 PM
Can you explain more about this disorder? Someone I know was recently diagnosed and he had some pretty off the wall behavior. I'm wondering if that's just part of the disease.

Valentinne

Joined: 1/27/2009

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My Buddy is Getting Married and I Want To Stop Him....HELP!!!! Posted: 6/13/2009 10:50:16 AM
Tell that man the truth ASAP. He may never speak to you again (kill the messenger thing) but he needs to know who he is really marrying. Love is BLIND...and stupid for that matter.

Valentinne

Joined: 1/27/2009

Msg: 36 (view)

Over 30 and still hitting the clubs? Posted: 6/13/2009 10:42:33 AM
I go dancing with my girlfriends because I love to dance and I love spending time with my friends. I'm over 30...not dead.

Valentinne

Joined: 1/27/2009

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Does anyone see the irony in asking a bunch of single people for relationship advice? Posted: 6/13/2009 10:40:13 AM
I see the irony, but I also know the best people to ask are the people going through the same thing you are. You can compare notes.

Valentinne

Joined: 1/27/2009

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Is he cheating or not. Posted: 6/13/2009 10:38:05 AM
He's doing the online thing. Dump him.

Valentinne

Joined: 1/27/2009

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is it wrong to end relationship over abortion? Posted: 4/23/2009 6:01:07 PM
The two of you don't share the same views on a very important issue. It's not unreasonable to break up over it.

Valentinne

Joined: 1/27/2009

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would you marry for money? Posted: 4/11/2009 9:28:41 PM
Absolutely not.

Valentinne

Joined: 1/27/2009

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Can things be worked out? Posted: 4/9/2009 8:32:40 AM
No. They can't be worked out. Move on. Get your ring back; it's technically yours.

Valentinne

Joined: 1/27/2009

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Why is it so rare? Posted: 4/5/2009 8:36:44 PM
Gorgeous men suck in bed and are generally vain pricks. That's my experience.

Valentinne

Joined: 1/27/2009

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Don't give up. Posted: 4/2/2009 7:04:58 AM
Ah, that's a good thought for the day! Thank you for sharing. :)

Valentinne

Joined: 1/27/2009

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It's a Coffee! Posted: 3/30/2009 2:56:09 PM
I am biting my tongue right now. Really hard.

Valentinne

Joined: 1/27/2009

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can guys change? Posted: 3/28/2009 8:05:43 PM
Is that shorthand? good grief.. I know. I couldn't make it to the end; it hurt too much.

Valentinne

Joined: 1/27/2009

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How do you get over someone who doesn't want you?? Posted: 3/28/2009 4:44:47 PM
End this immediately. It's a waste of time and dignity. Move on quickly.

Valentinne

Joined: 1/27/2009

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What are the odds? Posted: 3/28/2009 4:41:46 PM
Delete it. It's a load of crap.

Valentinne

Joined: 1/27/2009

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Not tonight, honey...I don't want THROAT CANCER?! Posted: 3/28/2009 4:21:09 PM
Screw it. You gotta die of something.

Valentinne

Joined: 1/27/2009

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Girlfriend isn't ready for marriage, how do I cope? Posted: 3/28/2009 4:14:18 PM
Do you guys go to the same church? If so, it would be a good idea for you two to meet with the pastor and get his advice. Her parents are missing some important qualities you have. Your respect and commitment are very important. Your desire to provide for your family is too. I think you should make an appointment with your girlfriend and your pastor. Agreed. I think you should also do everything in your power to sway her parents. The ability to get along with families is super important. I did not like my in-laws and he hated my family so things were UGLY at holidays. It sucked. I also don't see the problem with waiting. Finish college, get good jobs and then see about a wedding.

Valentinne

Joined: 1/27/2009

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can guys change? Posted: 3/28/2009 4:00:43 PM
I am begging you to do a spell check. My eyes are bleeding.

Valentinne

Joined: 1/27/2009

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Is this really what the dating scene is like? Posted: 3/28/2009 3:55:43 PM
One date doesn't mean that you're an exclusive item. It means you went on one date. It's normal for people to see others until they decide that they have met the one person that they want to see exclusively. Then they usually discuss the fact that they'd like exclusivity and see if the other person agrees. Good luck to you!

Valentinne

Joined: 1/27/2009

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I'm not sure if I did the right thing??? Posted: 3/27/2009 3:45:43 PM
You were faced with a really difficult situation and I can't fault you for anything. However, did you make sure the woman and her child got away safely? That abuser may beat her 10X harder because of you.

Valentinne

Joined: 1/27/2009

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Expain the phrase My children are my top priority? Posted: 3/27/2009 3:31:51 PM
I always took it as though I'd never be as important in that person's life as their children. It let me know where I came in the pecking order.

Valentinne

Joined: 1/27/2009

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Would you be into swinging? Posted: 3/27/2009 2:37:25 PM
No, it really doesn't do anything for me. I don't think I'd want to be with someone who did like it. That kind of pressure I don't need.

Valentinne

Joined: 1/27/2009

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Height/Size Contridiction? Posted: 3/27/2009 2:20:38 PM
I always looked for someone taller than me. I think it's because I wanted to give my children a sporting chance. :)

Valentinne

Joined: 1/27/2009

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Help! Is he more than just Cheap? Posted: 3/27/2009 1:53:19 PM
OP If you are looking for a partner who will make you feel valued and worthy, let this one go and keep looking. Having been in both types of relationships, there is an indescribable thrill when a man makes moves to take care of you...and I consider myself independent and liberated. I don't know what it is - probably something neanderthal. I have also determined that a scrooge financially is a scrooge emotionally and a scrooge on every level you can imagine. This kind of man will end up calculating EVERYTHING with mathematical preciseness. His main concern over everything else will be "not being taken advantage of". What she said. Good post.

Valentinne

Joined: 1/27/2009

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is it selfish of me if i don't wan't my girl to be a stripper? Posted: 3/27/2009 1:00:18 PM
Have you suggested a college education to her? Or does she already have a college education? If she's already educated, then you simply have a woman who maybe suited for the life an exotic dancer. Do you understand the reasons why she may want this career? Does she have a driving need for attention or does she really posesses a talent for pole tricks?

Valentinne

Joined: 1/27/2009

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Help! Is he more than just Cheap? Posted: 3/27/2009 12:44:13 PM
Drop this man. Just hearing about what he does makes my stomach upset. I wouldn't have lasted past the first date.

Valentinne

Joined: 1/27/2009

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Would you date someone who is dying? Posted: 3/27/2009 12:37:58 PM
I would. None of us knows anything for certain. It's bad timing, but since when do we get plan it? Enjoy your life no matter how long it is. Fill it with as much love and laughter as you can.

Valentinne

Joined: 1/27/2009

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A girl matter.. Way beyond spilled milkshake.. Posted: 3/21/2009 11:30:40 AM
A friend stands by you, even when they know you're wrong. That's what being a true friend is.

Valentinne

Joined: 1/27/2009

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Is It Possible To Be In Love With Someone You've Never Met? Posted: 3/20/2009 12:58:35 PM
There are people who have carried out love affairs only through love letters. I think it's very possible to love someone that you've never met. I have many friends online that I love very much. If they weren't there for me with their humor, candor and advice I'd be lost. Of course, I'm not "in love" with them, but I can see it being possible. Perhaps you should meet this person in the flesh? You can find out once and for all if it's just a fantasy you have of someone or if it's real.

Valentinne

Joined: 1/27/2009

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when someone dies the family is all about the money Posted: 3/20/2009 12:45:38 PM
When my mother passed away none of us even asked about money from my stepmonster. We only asked for our family photographs, a few heirlooms like my grandmother's hope chest and a table that my grandfather had gotten in Italy during World War II . We came by a few months after her death to collect some of our things and everything was gone. He had sold it all, even our grandmother's wedding china. A year later an insurance company contacted my sister because she was the benificiary of her life insurance policy. The company had been trying for the entire year to contact her, but when they asked my stepmonster where she lived he told them that he had no idea, which of course was a lie. She lived about a half mile down the road from him in the same house she'd been in for the past ten years prior. It's really kind of disgusting how folks will behave to get money. That man had been married to my mother less than a year and he sold off all of the things that I'd grown up with and loved. I hope karma comes back and bites his ass.

Valentinne

Joined: 1/27/2009

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What kind of music do you like when having sex? Posted: 3/19/2009 6:03:13 PM
Okay, it depends on the mood. If I'm hyper and all energetic then it's STP. If I'm feeling romance, then I'll go with Fields of Gold by Sting or the soundtrack to "Indecent Proposal". The soundtrack is the better of the two. Movie was awful, but the music was incredible.

Valentinne

Joined: 1/27/2009

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nude beaches Posted: 3/19/2009 5:55:03 PM
I'm a fan of nude beaches. There is something so fantastic about lying naked in the sun. I say go ahead--get naked!

Valentinne

Joined: 1/27/2009

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Must not have bed head... Posted: 3/19/2009 5:38:48 PM
I only want them to wake up with a pulse. Everything else is negotiable.

Valentinne

Joined: 1/27/2009

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Tatoos on a women turn on or turn off Posted: 3/19/2009 5:32:41 PM
I like my tattoos. They are sort of permanent reminders of milestones in my life. When I get old I'll remember how young and happy I was the day I got them. Tattoos are a right of passage in many cultures. My tattoos are my personal marks of passage.

Valentinne

Joined: 1/27/2009

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HELP PLEASE.. good guy & party girl near to move together !!!! Posted: 3/18/2009 9:27:06 PM
This is none of your business. This is not your life. He has to be a big boy and make big boy decisions, even if they're terrible. I personally think he's being a dumbass, but it's his call. Tell him that you think it's a bad idea, but don't bad mouth his girl. That's just asking for them both to dislike you for being judgemental and nasty to her. Her being a party girl before has NOTHING to do with you at all. You're not having sex with her, right? Then stay out of it.

Valentinne

Joined: 1/27/2009

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let's define exactly what supporting your partner is Posted: 3/18/2009 3:10:09 PM
Margo, you are just so darn lucky. Then again you're Canadian...maybe men are a little more inclined to scrub toilets and change diapers there. Not so much here. You have to practically blackmail my sister's husband to get him to scrub a bathroom. It's easier for her to do it than to waste the time pressuring him, lol!

Valentinne

Joined: 1/27/2009

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Kissing, cuddling, hugging, intimacy Posted: 3/18/2009 2:39:59 PM
I once dated a man who did not like to kiss. It was awful. I'm okay if they post that they like it. That's one thing I won't have to worry over.

Valentinne

Joined: 1/27/2009

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let's define exactly what supporting your partner is Posted: 3/18/2009 2:36:10 PM
Let's try to look at this from a practical perspective and why a woman feels that she needs a man in a position to care for her and her children. First, men are not typically giving birth to babies. Their bodies are not taken hostage for nine months out of an entire year by pregnancy. While some women are quite able to work the entire pregnancy, some women can not manage to do that. So, a potential mate that can care for a woman during this time is always desirable. Now, she's given birth. A husband earning enough for his wife to be able to care for their children is always desirable. I am not criticizing women who choose to work and entrust the raising of their children to others. However, it is true that a woman who stays home to care for her family is undervalued because her work does not bring in a wage. The husband will kiss his wife on the cheek and then leave to be around other adults at work. The wife cleans house, cares for babies, does laundry, scrubs bathrooms, cooks, run errands, pays bills, does the shopping, balances the checkbook, keeps up the correspondence, helps children with homework, does the dishes, changes diapers, feeds the babies, vacuums and sweeps. After all of that you are suggesting that she must have sex with her husband so that he will feel he's getting his money's worth? Please. Now, that's a woman's day who doesn't work. Imagine if she did on top of all of this. Women look for men that don't have a problem providing for women because a woman's job is HARD. I do not blame a woman who looks for the provider and the most generous partner. I am not saying there aren't men who help in the home. I just don't see them doing it as much.

Valentinne

Joined: 1/27/2009

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What if you suddenly find yourself very attrative to a married acquainance...? Posted: 3/17/2009 9:10:54 PM
He's married. It spells disaster, so just let that one go. Say nothing and do nothing. It's like it didn't happen.

Valentinne

Joined: 1/27/2009

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Someone for everyone? Posted: 3/17/2009 5:47:44 PM
I think for everyone that is truly open to love there is someone out there for them. You just can't sit on your sofa and expect them to deliver you a pizza. Although, that would be nice...

Valentinne

Joined: 1/27/2009

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i miss her so much Posted: 3/17/2009 4:47:51 PM
Some people mate for life. There is nothing wrong with you or needs to be "fixed." I think that you would like to make some positive changes in your life. Perhaps learn how to deal with your grief in healthier ways. Since you don't like the idea of seeing a counselor on a regular basis, perhaps you could find some books that may help. I think what you have is "chronic sorrow." I think if you look into it, you may find some ideas that will work for you.

Valentinne

Joined: 1/27/2009

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can non-pot smokers handle pot smokers? Posted: 3/17/2009 2:24:06 PM
I really don't see the big deal. I personally would rather not date someone who smoked pot because I'm always tempted to join. After that, I eat EVERYTHING in sight, promptly fall asleep and wake up 3lbs heavier. I'd never work out and I'd get fat as a house.

Valentinne

Joined: 1/27/2009

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Wise Advice Needed! Posted: 3/17/2009 2:00:44 PM
I think you should let her go. I know that it's hard to do that with someone you've loved for so long, but I don't feel that this girl has respect for you. I think she uses you when it's convenient for her and that's all. The only one who saw your relationship as real was you. You are the only one who is in love. I think you should cut her off. Change numbers, change email addresses--whatever it is that you have to do to keep her from contacting you at all. Then focus on you. Get your education out of the way, work out, go out with friends. Give yourself a chance to meet another brown-eyed girl who will love you for everything you are now and everything that you can become. Don't ever be someone that another person "settles" for.

Valentinne

Joined: 1/27/2009

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Sex with the ex.. Posted: 3/16/2009 11:50:30 PM
I would rather eat my own vomit than have that man touch me. Thanks.

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