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Gentlegendo

Joined: 12/21/2005

Msg: 21 (view)

What give a person a right to call after they ended the relationship? Posted: 4/28/2008 4:42:04 PM
IM going to side with Nevaehs Mom on this one.... it's how I look at it.... and there have been a few Ive kept as friends for it. Just because one kind of relationship isnt in the cards doesnt mean another kind isnt. Now the mind boggler for me is one of those exs needed someone to do to her what she did to me (ironically the same guy she was cheating on me with) to figure that out... and keep a friend out of the whole mess she got herself into.

Gentlegendo

Joined: 12/21/2005

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I Still CRY at Night ALONE!! Posted: 4/22/2008 7:03:33 PM
you have my deepest sympathies, man... And the above noter is right.... cry if you need, but dont let the hunt or the past drive you mad. Live for now... live for you kids... and live for you.

Gentlegendo

Joined: 12/21/2005

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What give a person a right to call after they ended the relationship? Posted: 4/22/2008 6:43:19 PM
If an ex wants to remain friendly, I see no harm in a call, and hell... Ive answered SEVERAL on such a note... only one have I ever regretted it.

Gentlegendo

Joined: 12/21/2005

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Men are not always strong... Posted: 4/22/2008 6:40:35 PM
Being strong is being there for those you care about and need you. Seriously, in these things there really is no greater strength then that, and if you do that regularly and unilaterally, you are probably alot stronger then any "macho" man would ever be. Keep in mind, this ISNT wearing your heart on your sleeve. This is simply showing strength where those who trully need you can see it and take of it themselves. THAT is true strength, and if you ask me, TRUE manlyness.

gentlegendo

Joined: 12/21/2005

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I am So fed up with men these days Posted: 4/20/2008 7:33:42 PM
claps WAY TO GO NORMAL GUY!!!!!! THAT was funny, man.

gentlegendo

Joined: 12/21/2005

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Im back.... Posted: 4/20/2008 7:26:48 PM
I've been back for about a week or so. Frankly, Ive been waiting for someone to come forward to me, and finally got tired of waiting foor three words I will never force anyone to say. I had to act and joining here was a first step. It made me feel good to do. Now I just hope it was the right site to go to, but tonight has made me doubt. Ah well... 5% rule, eh? In any case, Im back for a while... and saying hello.... and then Im going back to whatever I need to say elsewhere on the site. See ya!

Gentlegendo

Joined: 12/21/2005

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I am So fed up with men these days Posted: 4/20/2008 6:52:41 PM
Wow. I don't think I've ever read a more negative, bitter-bordering-on-hateful post on POF before and THAT is saying a lot considering what some people post here. Shall I try?

Gentlegendo

Joined: 12/21/2005

Msg: 32 (view)

Have the old fasioned values gone , What happened to LOVE WILL CONQUER ALL.... Posted: 4/20/2008 5:36:41 PM
Love can only conquer all if those in love are strong enough to back it.... both of them. And before anyone accuses me, let me confess now.. YES I AM CALLING ALOT OF PEOPLE IN THIS WORLD WEAK AS HELL! They dont want to work for anything, and they therefore dont have the inner strength to keep the real thing alive. There are some of us who believe, but fewer each day... as even believing is becomming too much for some to handle. Ill be here all week to get the flames resulting from this truth as the world has shown me.

Gentlegendo

Joined: 12/21/2005

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Kids packed her bags!! Posted: 4/20/2008 5:26:26 PM
12 pages of tearing the OP appart.... yep that sounds rational alright. At this point, who was right and who was wrong doesnt matter to the mob. sighs You know what? Im walking away from this. ALL TWELVE PAGES disgust me. (from the OP right down the line.)

Gentlegendo

Joined: 12/21/2005

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I wrote this on my profile... Posted: 4/20/2008 5:16:49 PM
5% rule called ALL OVER this one. Goodnight everybody!

Gentlegendo

Joined: 12/21/2005

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How long should I wait??? update Posted: 4/18/2008 4:56:23 PM
So if u don't try to jump her this very instant she'll take that as u just want to be friends? lol Do you watch Scrubs? They had a whole episode on this kind of mentality.... Personally, I think there is a good chunk of the population that acts on this.... ah well... whatever floats their boat.

Gentlegendo

Joined: 12/21/2005

Msg: 47 (view)

Woman shocked that man stopped talking to her after he sees her pic Posted: 4/17/2008 6:31:09 PM
[QUOTE]I would NEVER say some of the things I have said to stangers in chat - and I think most people can say the same.[/QUOTE] Probably true, though I need to get a better camera before I do those things (mine is a web and digital combo... and without batteries, it does niether). In the meantime, I think it's safe to say if Im being REALLY argumentative, that's the "Net" in me talking.

Gentlegendo

Joined: 12/21/2005

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why internet dating is unfair for men Posted: 4/17/2008 5:00:23 PM
Always thought of the favorites type thing like a friend's list, actually... But that's just me being me, I guess.... In any case, it is a numbers game, but at the same time, it's more... and less... Less because you can never let your life be dedicated to just being here or the search. After all, you would go mad if that was all you lived for, right? (I know I would... hell that's why Im here... so I can be seen without worrying too much about it.) But it's also more... at least to me. I mean, if fate has it in the cards, you will be found. (And yes, I believe that.) Also why Im here, since I see this as a way fate could work if that's the will of it.

Gentlegendo

Joined: 12/21/2005

Msg: 42 (view)

are the gas prices killing you yet Posted: 4/12/2008 12:34:29 PM
Run away, run away... Dont make me get the lines for that one...

Gentlegendo

Joined: 12/21/2005

Msg: 39 (view)

Woman shocked that man stopped talking to her after he sees her pic Posted: 4/12/2008 9:07:11 AM
People are shallow... there.. I said it, and Im waiting for the "no they're not" response, but let me finsih. She should well have expected that. Most people have some detail they are shallow about and with guys, predictably, it's almost always image. (Sorry ladies... guys are often visual creatures.) Sadly, this man proved shallow to the point that he wouldnt even try to be friends (which clearly could have happened if they could chat that long that often for that length of time). But she should not have been shocked that he would be turned off at that point.... if anything, maybe glad she lost someone who if they clearly dont want a friend probably only wanted one thing . (Way to hold up the stereotype buddy. ) Ok, Im done rambling... ranting isnt my thing in the morning... not before Ive dealt with people on the road. See ya.

Gentlegendo

Joined: 12/21/2005

Msg: 36 (view)

are the gas prices killing you yet Posted: 4/12/2008 8:01:42 AM
I am not yet dead... I can dance and I can sing. I am not dead yet. I can do the highland thing. I am not yet dead. No need to go to bed. No need to call the doctor 'cos Im not yet dead! - Monty Python's Spamalot Yeah, thats about how I feel, but everyone needs a little Monty Python!

Gentlegendo

Joined: 12/21/2005

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Confidence vs arrogance Posted: 4/12/2008 7:54:29 AM
Arrogance is shoving your confidence down other people's throat. And thank you! That about says it all in one sentence!

Gentlegendo

Joined: 12/21/2005

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Singles Dance @ Vinny T's in Dedham Massachusetts Posted: 4/12/2008 7:40:41 AM
let's hope.... seriously had I known, I would have made my way over (Im close enough, it would have been stupid not to show).

gentlegendo

Joined: 12/21/2005

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Ex's that just don't get, NO! Posted: 9/26/2007 4:12:27 PM
Lets hope it will suffice....

gentlegendo

Joined: 12/21/2005

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Dating anology Posted: 9/26/2007 4:04:01 PM
ZIS POST WILL SUVIVE!!! VIVE LE POOP!!!! Seriously, though, its one hell of a good point, isnt it?

gentlegendo

Joined: 12/21/2005

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What do you think about people who see therapists? Posted: 9/26/2007 4:01:49 PM
No problems as far as I see.... curiosity, definately... after all, if we are bf/gf, I'd hope you would trust me enough to open up about it... but... no real problems.

gentlegendo

Joined: 12/21/2005

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Breaking the 'bad choices' cycle Posted: 9/26/2007 3:59:56 PM
I dont know that there is a solution, but to realize what trait caused the issue, and make a point to avoid it (although that is far from a perfect solution).

gentlegendo

Joined: 12/21/2005

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Singles Dance @ Vinny T's in Dedham Massachusetts Posted: 9/26/2007 3:48:50 PM
What LadyPlymouth said....

gentlegendo

Joined: 12/21/2005

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Do you or have you in the past practiced abstainance? Posted: 9/23/2007 2:03:57 PM
I guess Im one of those people looked down on. Ive had chances to go the full distance... and I never took them... mainly because I am reserving myself.

gentlegendo

Joined: 12/21/2005

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Is it a bad sign if a person comes on to strong before they even met you? Posted: 9/23/2007 8:50:11 AM
VIVE LE POOP! ZIS THREAD VILL NEVA DIE!!!! Clicks to stop it from being deleted!

gentlegendo

Joined: 12/21/2005

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Halloween Parties? Posted: 9/23/2007 7:56:34 AM
hmmm... Im going to ask the same about MA... something about Halloween that has always appealed to me.... could be POF, could just be a fun time, and Im probably there. grins Costume, mandatory.... at least for me. God bless Halloween!

gentlegendo

Joined: 12/21/2005

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After 2nd date he's back online at POF ...now has 0 roses... Posted: 9/23/2007 7:51:17 AM
VERY agreed. laughs But people want to make a deal of it, then so be it... in the words of the Soup Nazi... NO ROSE FOR YOU!!!!

gentlegendo

Joined: 12/21/2005

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Is it a bad sign if a person comes on to strong before they even met you? Posted: 9/23/2007 7:44:13 AM
Julie, I think you just made the most sense on here.... Looking on my own experiences, there are alot of people on here who wont bother answering email. Now for me, Im going to shrug and move on... (at least for the most part, but rudeness bugs me and I get vocal about that from time to time), but alot of guys probably have less luck then I do and get desperate for a reply. I seriously think that's where alot of the too strong comes from. At least, in my theory that is it, anyway. (Hense the "online dating, sucks for guys, great for women" or some such titled thread existing. No I didnt make it, but is proof to me of my theory.) Now when they ignore the responces meaning.... yeah, that's one HELL of a red flag. For a man or a woman to do that.

gentlegendo

Joined: 12/21/2005

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Why do men ruin relationships with video games? Posted: 9/23/2007 7:36:41 AM
You know Atlus, it's called balance.... Now the guy being complained about who wouldnt leave the game for anything... you have a point. But that's one in how many?

gentlegendo

Joined: 12/21/2005

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Is it a bad sign if a person comes on to strong before they even met you? Posted: 9/23/2007 7:29:07 AM
ok, I missed something.... entirely. I didnt see the walking away part (or rather forgot it.... phone call mid-writing... gotta love that)... they do that, well, not much you can do about it. Personally I think it's rude to drop off like that, but thats about it... whether a man or a woman does it.

gentlegendo

Joined: 12/21/2005

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Is it a bad sign if a person comes on to strong before they even met you? Posted: 9/23/2007 7:27:10 AM
Most likely, I will take odds this is what they think they need to do... be clearer they are interested. This may result in sounding like they are comming on too strong, but the intent is to be SURE you know they want your attention.

gentlegendo

Joined: 12/21/2005

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After 2nd date he's back online at POF ...now has 0 roses... Posted: 9/23/2007 7:19:46 AM
...."Op honestly what the guy does with his roses is really none of your business. You can't expect the guy to take his profile off pof after 2 dates with you." Doesnt this tie in to all the people here for the forums only too, somehow? Even if he did choose the OP, he may leave the profile for that reason.... Now the roses, I agree, it still is way too soon to even think about that most likely, unless he told you he was going with you only.... and then I would say be careful for him to make the choice that fast anyway... few guys have made that decision that quick sincerely.

gentlegendo

Joined: 12/21/2005

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Why do men ruin relationships with video games? Posted: 9/22/2007 8:58:39 PM
...Grab a controller and join in! Or keyboard/mouse if you like that better (I generally do). Games are becoming more of a social thing, actually.... trust a nerd to know this. Just be careful who you trust with the web-cam. shutters

gentlegendo

Joined: 12/21/2005

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Starter marriages Posted: 9/22/2007 8:53:46 PM
I know this will sound cruel, but whatever happened to "Damaged goods?" I know that is wrong too, but I really thought the general idea people had was "you've already been married? you have a kid? why do I want this?" Now it's "cool" to get married too soon and royally screw up your life? God we really are going down the shitter.... And anyone who seriously thought it would last, Im not talking about you... Im just stunned at the idea that this is a trend people seem to want according to the experts.

gentlegendo

Joined: 12/21/2005

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would you get married or engaged too quick?? Posted: 9/22/2007 8:49:03 PM
...if you dont love him, then there is your answer. Is it going to hurt him? probably, but there you go.

gentlegendo

Joined: 12/21/2005

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free spirits Posted: 9/22/2007 6:49:34 PM
I would answer this, but all that is comming to mind is Monty Python's Parrot Sketch......

gentlegendo

Joined: 12/21/2005

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Waiting for someone in a relationship to breakup Posted: 9/22/2007 2:45:40 PM
there shouldnt be a line.... she will choose who she wants... if you are still available, then maybe fate played a hand. If not, to hell with it.

gentlegendo

Joined: 12/21/2005

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If You Were to Write a Book on Relationships Posted: 9/22/2007 2:39:10 PM
co-write my book with me.

gentlegendo

Joined: 12/21/2005

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old xp on a new motherboard Posted: 9/22/2007 1:28:51 PM
CARE about your PCI-E! Doesnt matter if you play games or not, everything is going that way! As for XP, OEM is the only time you MIGHT have issue, but even then, a call to Mixrosoft during registration is often all you need (I have installed DELL XP to a homemade system when I demolished the Dell),

gentlegendo

Joined: 12/21/2005

Msg: 42 (view)

Is POF too good to be true? Posted: 9/22/2007 1:02:52 PM
LMAO! You OP, have one of the BEST senses of humor Ive seen here. Thank you!

gentlegendo

Joined: 12/21/2005

Msg: 89 (view)

do most people still look for the right one or do they just settle instead? Posted: 9/22/2007 12:54:16 PM
Glad to hear it, Spirited! grins

gentlegendo

Joined: 12/21/2005

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he went from looking at rings to breaking up within 3 days Posted: 9/22/2007 12:53:10 PM
Caroline, let me put it bluntly for what you have shown me. Iether he wasnt serious from the start, or he is too damn weak to be in a relationship. Iether way, he isnt worth the time to even let yourself be in a tailspin. Relax, take a deep breath, and go hang out with a few friends. Seriously, in your place, this is what I should have done (admittedly, she was more my age, but all the same), and by my mistake, I can advise you to do this. Just give yourself time without contact with him, and get used to friends at best. He iether doesnt want or deserve more then that.

gentlegendo

Joined: 12/21/2005

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If You Were to Write a Book on Relationships Posted: 9/22/2007 12:49:16 PM
My book would be a 5 lb tomb that was comletely empty except for one paragraph. "I quit! Write your own damn book!"

gentlegendo

Joined: 12/21/2005

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Would you be with someone who cant have children? Posted: 9/22/2007 12:36:39 PM
is or is not their fault, it wouldnt matter. I wouldnt even think about it. If Im with someone, Im with them, not future children. Besides, if we wanted a kid, we could gasp adopt!

gentlegendo

Joined: 12/21/2005

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well, I'm not the one who's single... Posted: 9/22/2007 12:23:12 PM
laughs If I ever get in such an argument, it's going to be VERY sick humor that truly wins... that and a site full of TERRIBLE marriage jokes.... they arent worth being serious with, but they ARE worth having a little fun with when they are that uptight.

gentlegendo

Joined: 12/21/2005

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What would you do if you know a woman on POF is playing guys for financial help Posted: 9/22/2007 12:18:11 PM
well, I personally wouldnt go that far.... If you are close and feel you want to help, well that's a different game to, but then if you do that, dont blame her for that one act. She didnt do anything, you did. If red flags are going off. then yeah, walk away... fast....

gentlegendo

Joined: 12/21/2005

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Do You Believe Playing Hard To Get is Important? Posted: 9/22/2007 11:58:10 AM
....I cant see the point. I never could. Nor will I be taken by playing hard to get. If something clicks, and things develope naturally, then someone found me. If they play games, they risk breaking that, because Im not joking around.

gentlegendo

Joined: 12/21/2005

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Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with? Posted: 9/22/2007 11:52:50 AM
no... in one word. I find the idea of cheating appaulling if Im NOT in love... honor defiling is just bad. So to be in love and do it.... I couldnt even dream of doing it (or the kind of slime that could).

gentlegendo

Joined: 12/21/2005

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do most people still look for the right one or do they just settle instead? Posted: 9/22/2007 11:46:33 AM
Im not going to settle... Im not going to look iether. Im here so others can find me if they wish. Hell, as I speak, Im actually cleaning my bathroom, but I figure the Motoslave here (my POS laptop, and bonus points if you get the reference) can tell me if someone cares to buzz, otherwise, I wouldnt even be on the forums at this moment.

gentlegendo

Joined: 12/21/2005

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What would you do if you know a woman on POF is playing guys for financial help Posted: 9/22/2007 11:37:51 AM
Id take a few weeks to think on it, then probably get banned because I couldnt leave someone like that out without sending a warning out there.

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