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Oral...is it a dealbreaker? Posted: 8/19/2009 3:55:19 PM
How on earth can it possibly be that? Can't imagine a gal who doesn't and can't be bothered trying to imagine any guy who does. Having said that confusing thought, let's not get ahead of myself, metaphorically speaking that is. Apologies.... was severely on the turps last night. Can't find me rollies and the coffee's all drunk. ....... bugger and smiles. Left them in the toot. Small blessings. Hates re-rolling soggy ends and can barely tolerate the taste of wee, or tea. It's inconceivable to me that oral can be a deal breaker. Known three gals in my almost ended life who'd never given and two who'd never received. Neither situation lasted very long. Sometime in my late twenties I became aware that the be all and end all of loving (and banal...... not to be confused with anal) sexuality is not entirely confined to the two sets of terminal nerve endings which produce orgasm. It takes less than an hour to stimulate a woman into a state of wanton abandonment. Once there, any and everything is possible, including the sometimes dreaded oral, as natural as night following day. As far as I'm concerned a quick lick or little dab 'll do ya is a cop out. Seems to me it's often forcing the issue of orgasm, or at least trying to. Gals can be brought to multiple or a continuous orgasm quite readily. Neither circumstance requires oral sex or indeed per se any stimulation of their genitals at all. Practise, practise, practise guys. Keep her legs closed and try to bring her to orgasm without any tongue touching or penetrating of the furry bit. It's a whole new world out there when you achieve this and you're begged to stop..... and better still you're only just getting started. Personally, I am a generous lover, and I get a lot more enjoyment from teasing and kissing every inch of her body for hours, and mixing in a half hour or so of mind blowing muffmunching. Now here’s a guy who’s learning his stuff. The only stipulation I make regarding the dreadful procedure of sexual intercourse is that they get their messy business over with as quickly as possible. One can only think of England for so long, hey? And a gal who needs to.

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Do Men in their 40's Want a relationship, YES A RELATIONSHIP ? A real One !!! Posted: 7/4/2009 2:46:41 PM
but the reflection that stares back at me doesnt feel the need to attack anyone on a public level..in a forum I too have looked in your mirror Pookie.... much more than once. The image that stares back at me has always been one of beauty, of intellect, of interest and compassion, of concern, genuine niceness, and of an openness of heart and thought that I (and undoubtedly many others) have been privileged to share. Good onya gal.

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Do women ever play mind games , lie and waste mens time ? Posted: 4/25/2009 3:58:20 PM
It’s still a man’s world out here? Since feminism reared it’s ugly head in the 70’s the I think a portion of the male gender has become confused about what women are about. Done some reading about suffragettes and their struggles in the dawning years of the twentieth century. They had a point, made it, and changed forever (and for the better) relationships between the sexes and governments in developed societies. To a woman these ladies seem to have recognised and understood that the things that both bind and separate the genders are the natural order of things and made no attempt to alter that status quo. I recall a leading suffragette light of the day (who’s name now escapes me) in her advancing years commuting for the first time over the newly completed Sydney Harbour Bridge. She commented (with words to this effect) ‘that there is no woman or group of women on earth who could ever have conceived or executed this construction‘. She wasn’t deriding women or complimenting men. She was (I think) stating the obvious with complete common sense (that rarest of all human commodities). Since the beginning of time women have wielded their influence and magic over men. This is as it should be, for a myriad of reasons beyond the scope of this thread. Women talk and discuss and debate seemingly endlessly and effortlessly, and to us males often with little focus. As a gender and in generality are they playing mind games, lying or wasting men’s time? I think not, at least not when the motivations are explored. Be mindful that on dating sites such as this it is just as easy to cast a wide net as drop a line or two into a polluted ocean. When I reflect on life the most exciting, invigorating and stimulating times I have had have been with ladies who rather relentlessly explored and questioned my thoughts, motivations and purpose. In time they garnered my respect and ultimately there was little that could be (or was wanted to be) hidden from them. I have had more than a reasonably successful life in many and varied ways. This success was not a product of my intellect, drive, courage or whatever other lovely adjectives I may wish to assign myself. It was as much (and in many ways more) a product of the lovely adjectives I do assign to them. You sometimes silly boys (wherever they reside in here and not necessarily in this thread) seem to me to be often missing the point. If a gal pays you the compliment of wanting to play mind games with you surely you should recognise (in the majority of cases) that at least she’s interested. Do gals lie? Of course they do, and more often than many may think, simply as a defence against perceived hurt, criticism or threat. What! Guys don’t lie? Well we all know the answer to that don‘t we? And that includes the one‘s where the sunshine always shines from. Do gals waste men’s time? Sure.…. and why not? You may well waste an evening and a little money on a gal who never wants see you again and then say with some bravado to your mates the next day ’she was a waste of time’. Numb knutts, got news for you. It was you who was the waste of time. You wanted the cot, she wanted more, and buddy you just didn’t shape up. Good on you girls. I think most of you do it splendidly. You will forever remain as mysterious to me as the cosmos. This is as it should be and I for one don’t want to change a single solitary thing.

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Do women ever play mind games , lie and waste mens time ? Posted: 4/23/2009 2:08:22 PM
Do women ever play mind games….. Can’t see the point myself…. their bodies are much more interesting.

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Cheap veggies Posted: 4/23/2009 1:43:15 PM
As far as evaporative coolers ^^^ are concerned, i.e. cheap air conditioners: They work well inland where the humidity is low, in tropical or coastal areas they are not a good solution, cause even though they take the room temperature down, they also increase humidity which can be more unbearable than hot dry air. ‘ell. Someone who actually knows more about it than me. Good on ya Kontra and quite right too. Followed the ’destructions’ that came in the box and opened a window a little to refresh the air. The ’beast’ perked up a bit and didn’t stifle the air or kark the canary at 75% humidity. Rubbed my two remaining brain cells together and figured I could coax some more out of it by opening another window to create a flow through effect. We’re now at 82% and canary still lives. Next day humidity smidges over 90%. Popped some ice into the top compartment. I stayed cool, canary still breathes. Today’s a stinker. The humidity is 96% and with sorrowed heart it’s my painful duty to report the slow, agonizing, stifling death of TYS. I’m the canary. And I’m just fine.

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Cheap veggies Posted: 4/18/2009 3:50:30 PM
#40 Dear Mr. Cirrus, The appliance I bought was a Sunair purchased in Bunnings. Was so impressed in fact that I’ve since purchased one for me. It works a treat. only a dimwit nobody would try to big-note themselves by revealing acts of generosity #41 Poor L.C. (no pun intended). Still clutching at straws. In fairness I do see where you’re coming from. Yeah, I thought about the ‘revealing acts of generosity’ bit myself. Decided to tell it like it was because I think the freezer compartments in most fridges are inadequate to do this. Had I simply stated that my friend had a freezer the usual forum pessimists (though of course there's none in this thread) would have wanted to endlessly debate the reason why she had a freezer and was not already bulk buying. As for helping out the kids. As far as I’m aware that’s just, plain ordinary, usual, everyday, parental behaviour. #42 Your comments have actually brought to mind a couple of other savings Naamah. When I was young we kids with our 50 dollar cars could never afford tyres with tread on them when rego became due. Used to go to wreckers and buy them 2nd hand at about ¼ of the retail cost. Wonder if it’s still possible to do that? Bit later on in life some of my more ancient vehicles (kept a few of the 50 dollar cars) required work to keep them roadworthy. Used to take them to a retired motor mechanic who repaired them in his home garage. Did excellent work at about half the normal trade cost. Think that saved me a fair amount over the years. I’ve never bulk purchased fruit or veggies from roadside stalls to share around with friends and neighbours. I do purchase from them when I venture forth into the city every 6 weeks or so. Freshness is good and the price is certainly right. Wonder if there’s some merit in doing a ’collective’ buy? There’s a few thousand dollars of annual savings suggested in this thread. Some of them are easily available to those who make an effort. I think this recession still has a fair way to go. It’s okay that those of this community who have responsibilities only to themselves should snicker and sneer. Many others have emotional and financial responsibilities beyond their own self importance and undoubtedly, some are having difficulty meeting these obligations. Perhaps this thread has lessened a little of their financial stress. That was it's intent. I should know. I wrote it. Adieu guys. Think happy. Think well.

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Cheap veggies Posted: 4/14/2009 1:22:52 PM
I think a bit of pompous posturing should put them in their place. #26. Me too Longtime. Isn’t it amazing how great minds so often think alike. one day, I got home from work and found that someone had stolen the honesty jar #27. Would never have happened Naamah if you’d also left a jar of change. MEAT Know a single lady with three teenage boys who’s doing it tough due to recession cut backs. Said lady used to be an employee and has become a long time friend. I bought her one of these little upright freezers three months ago, filled it with meat and took it to her place with some b/s story about it being a raffle win that I couldn’t use and that she better take it ‘cause the meat was going off. Apart from some rather sumptuous road kills I buy meat in bulk quantities, which means freezer quantities not cow size lots. I buy it direct from a small abattoir on the outskirts of Sydney. It’s located in a rural area of 100 acre blocks. The type of place where cows and sheep are grown to mow the grass. Gotta thin the herds occasionally, hence the abattoir with butcher shop attached. Lamb loins $8.00 /kilo. Grain fed rump $9.00 /kilo. Fillet $14.00 /kilo etc. It’s quality meat at about 60% supermarket or butcher prices. Recommended this abattoir to said friend. She’s been their 3 times to fill the freezer and reckons it saves her $60.00 a week on meat which is a little over $3,000 a year. Figure there’s probably similar places on the outskirts of most capital cities. ELECTRICITY Was talking to a mate (a retired electrical engineer) some time ago about the cost of running household gadgets. He said one of the biggest power consumers was air conditioning costing about a dollar a day per horsepower, assuming 12 hours daily use. Ducted air typically run 6 hp compressors and wall mounts about 3. That’s $6.00 or $3.00 a day depending on which is yours. Helped one of my kids out in December by paying their leccy bill which was well over a grand. Identified their air conditioning use as being a major contributor to the bill. Paying the bill was easy, reducing it for next time a wee bit harder. Thought about and researched the alternatives and finally settled on an evaporative cooler as a possible solution. Scoured the big smoke for suitable appliance at a bargain price and finally purchased the mother of all evaporatives. Holds 11 litres of water, has an ice compartment at the top, three speeds, oscillates, operates in fan only mode and got a remote thrown in. Cost a bloody fortune. Only a dollar change from a hundred bucks. From the specs that came with the machine my mate worked out that it costs 14 cents to run it non stop for 12 hours. Surprise, surprise. Kids next electricity bill went down by $400.00. House stayed just as cool. Only draw back is that the ’thing’ doesn’t cool too well when humidity approaches 70%. I'll chop them off at knees when it gets too much out of hand. #25. Bugger. Everyone’s behaving. No knee choppings required. Now where’s the fun in that?

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Cheap veggies Posted: 4/11/2009 2:33:57 PM
Do I detect you lot aren't taking this thread seriously? #2. MFS the agency that provides the rebate is Medicare. They do it on the spot, on presentation of your paid invoice for the conversion. One of my daughters did it just three months ago. The pantyhose set. Simply get a new set of legs. #22. Dime. I'm not suggesting people be frugal. I'm suggesting (and seeking suggestions) about things can be done to reduce everyday living expenses. I've come across a bit of hurt out there recently and figure the community might have an interest in helping out. I've got a few more suggestions but I think I'll let this thread run a few more days before contributing further. I don't think I've picked an inconsequential subject. The kiddie brain deads are just running their usual interference. Don't be detered by them people. I'll chop them off at knees when it gets too much out of hand. Be well, nice and kind everyone....... and don't get caught doing it.

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Cheap veggies Posted: 4/10/2009 2:20:06 PM
Just got back from visiting one of my kids and his family. Took the longer meandering route through the bush, stopping here and there in many country towns and townlets. Was surprised to notice how many things have changed since I last did this trip scarcely a year ago. Shops, business premises and homes too often for lease or sale, car yards closed, decrepit residences, often unkempt people, few smiles to be seen. Closing down sales, bargains everywhere, pleas to buy. A taint of desperation, of choices not possible, of pride and things seen but not said. Headed eventually towards the coast and welcoming munchkins. Talked at length about them and theirs, their friends, neighbours and acquaintances and more than one tale of woe. Thought it might be nice to try and soften some recession blows by sharing our knowledge with others, the aim being to reduce financial expenditure. Keep it real guys. Either you’ve done it, or know someone who has. FUEL. I’m into my fifth gas ((LPG) liquid petroleum gas for our overseas readers) conversion. I started doing this 20 odd years ago when I used to clock up 80 to 90 k’s a year. Gas conversions now cost $2.5 to $3 grand for a throttle body or manifold conversion, less for four cylinders, less again if you shop around, or plus a grand if you opt for a second set of injectors. Difference between the two is no loss of power or litres per 100 kilometres with a second set of injectors. L.P.G. is about 40% the cost of petrol, let’s say half to make things easy. Spend 70 bucks on a 60 litre weekly fill up and you’ve just saved 35 of that. 35 x 52 weeks = $1820.00. Nice thing is if you have PRIVATE VEHICLE registration the Government gives you $2,000.00 towards the cost. Three grand less two. You’re in the money in six months or less. My last five ’hacks’ were free when fuel savings were taken into account. That’s $150,000 worth of automobile for nothing as well as doing something meaningful for the environment.. CIGGIES. You disgusting, smelly, nicotine stained, emphysema‘d, tooth rotting brain dead morons…. says he who’s smoked rollies on and off for more than forty years. Giving up the fags will save you heaps, even including your life. If you can’t do that think of rollies. I use micro filters and a fairly expensive brand of Dutch tobacco. Gets 100 fags per 50 gram pack. Costs me 26 cents a smoke (including the paper and filter) as opposed to about 43 cents per tailor made. Difference is 17 cents a smoke. Using 20 a day equals an annual saving of $1241.00, double that if you smoke 40 a day. I roll by hand. You can buy machines that do it for less than $2 all the way into the $50’s for electric models. Nice thing is you’ll inevitably smoke less due to the rolling ceremony involved as well as saving money. VEGGIES. If you live in the big smoke (which I don’t) you’ll be able to buy veggie/fruit packs online straight from the markets. They’re a lot fresher than the limp supermarket trash and about half the price, delivered to your door. The choices are wide and varied with equal emphasis on either fruit or veggies. Two of my munchkins have been doing it for years. No one delivers to my mountain out in the ‘sticks’ so I can’t use this service but I know many people who do. Have you got something to share that can reduce the cost of recession ‘blues’?

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what is love?? Posted: 3/25/2009 6:18:34 AM
Sorry Forever, sort of got carried away, twixt that and a coffee. Me thinks when you think about someone else more than you think about yourself, you’re in love. Simple, stupid. Sure, let them that know no difference mock. It’s ALWAYS worked for me. I suspect it always will.

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what is love?? Posted: 3/25/2009 5:48:24 AM
Imogine, I’m almost twice your age, with half your wisdom. Thank you. You’ve lifted my day. You’ve already found and described him. Let the cynics describe all those they haven’t found and some, continue to glory in their own misery. You’ve made it kiddo and they haven’t, which sort of says it all. Good on ya girl. A thousand years of happiness.

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Moreton Bay - disaster zone Posted: 3/22/2009 4:57:20 PM
^^^^ it's a dud At last we agree on something.

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Moreton Bay - disaster zone Posted: 3/22/2009 2:38:18 PM
A few bitsies. Container ship leakage was fuel oil not black crude. Sort of like comparing sewing machine oil with treacle. Do nothing and it will evaporate and be weather dispersed in S. Qld’s clime within 6 months, 12 to 18 amongst the rocks. Removing the top visible layer will speed that up. Marine biologists opinion. On ya Hawaiian. A sensible voice. Three to four thousand shipping containers are lost overboard on the high seas every year. Lost a couple myself when I was in the business. Ever tried turning 50,000 tonnes in a cyclone. Your maximum speed 18 knots which you can‘t use without ploughing it under. The wind gusting to 200 kph, the swell running at 40. ‘No rudder response Sir’ Ever heard the term ‘running before the wind’ or ‘eye of the storm’. That, or a port, is the only place for sensible mariners to be during cyclones. How to get there has always been the problem. Sure as hell hope none of these containers burst open when and if they are retrieved. Perhaps slow leakage, slow dilution, slow dispersal is a better way to go than take that risk. Most forms of observable life will be inconvenienced rather that eliminated from the foreshore. Confirmation from Scholar’s mate? Seems to me like an act of God. Cyclones tend to be that. Imagine the poor bugger in it. Trying to save his ship, his crew and himself. Trust me he wasn’t thinking anything about the folding (money) involved. Seems a few of you Kangaroo Courters ’pass me the rope types’ would have been delighted if the ship had actually foundered. Be grateful it was a minor mishap and trivial slick. More than that be ’perhaps’ grateful that the captain had enough skill to save his ship, crew and our beloved coast from the possibility of a real ecological disaster. ^^^^ Monkey thread! What monkey thread? Stop monkeying around will ya. No one. I repeat, no one. Criticises my teddy bear. P.S. ‘Trivial’ was the description offered to me from a mate who lives at Coolum Beach.

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POF Soon To Introduce Fees... Posted: 3/10/2009 11:34:46 AM
What a spendid thought. Bound to help keep out the riff raff. People like me.

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How long is long enough Posted: 3/10/2009 11:22:30 AM
Actually you can only report people when they break the site rules. That’s an interesting comment coming from you, and the reason why you were often chastised by management. I used to read the links that identified prominent ‘reporters’. That's why all your mates who used to report me several times a day for personal reasons didn't get anywhere. Oh grow up. When I used to read these same links (and the comments therein) I never saw any of the more mature company I kept EVER contributing to them. ‘The foul stench of dobber’ is really not my (or their) style. What on earth makes you think people are interested enough in you to ‘report you several times a day' anyway? If someone like you doesn't think well of me etc. etc. Oh stop being so petulant. I never said I don’t think well of you. What I said was pretty straight forward: OP starts a thread. It gets diverted by some community members seemingly more interested in playing amongst themselves than giving the thread or the OP the respect they deserve. Most contributors walked away from the monkey bits and other members complained about them. I was the most vocal and told you (and others), you were ego tripping. Ms ‘always right’ didn’t like it. We had a bun fight. End of story. Funnily enough I didn’t feel that Scholar (glad to see he’s still about) was ‘tripping’ and also said that somewhere else in here. your stories about how often you get laid. If anyone cares to search any old ToldYouSo threads they’ll note that I OP’d many threads on this, and other related subjects. All of ‘these’ were about the emphasis I personally place on ’quality of the person’ as opposed to ‘quantity of the sex’. Anyone got an egg scraper? To make up for my lack and to accommodate the needy: I’ve just returned from a proverbial dirty weekend, which turned into most of a week. Had a medical emergency. These old hips just ain’t what they used to be. Lucky I took my walker. …. so as to present yourself as popular Now there's a truly appalling thought. Adieu guys, don't want to be accused of doing (nicking and tripping) what I've accused others of doing. No more contributions from me on this thread.

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How long is long enough Posted: 3/5/2009 1:43:42 PM
Seeing as you have seen fit to tell me what my opinion is, best I tell you what it really is. I read enough of your posts last time you were here to see that you weave veiled but rather toxic comments intended to bait certain people into your posts. Psst. Psst. And a load of crap. The discussion about primates was part of an ongoing discussion extending from a comment made that revealed a particular point that some posters identified as part of the foundation of the topic at hand. Subsequently, the discussion might have, at times, appeared to become a bit tangential, but only until a convergence of understanding was reached about that particular point that had piqued interest. I repeat. ‘ego tripping intellectual nonsense’ I have not once addressed you or anything you have said on this thread. Yes Naamah that is correct, I had noticed that. I have noticed it before many many times with many many people over many many months in fact, although that was not the case in the past as no doubt the old timer‘s will recall. You used to be my biggest nit picker, a compulsive one in fact. You seem to have quite a high opinion of yourself and spend a great deal of your forum time directing attention to and at yourself rather than addressing the thread at hand. These threads are often written by people who have some difficulty in expressing themselves and getting their point across to the forum readers. You seldom (nee almost never) address your answers or opinions to those members of this community preferring to banter your own off target diversions often only amongst your own little clique. Much of your stuff is well written, well thought out and well presented. Some of it is even humorous. Despite all those entertainments the reality of most of it drips of ego and a ‘look at me look at me’ attention seeking NEED. I know you can’t see this, but I, and many others can, and it is those people (or at least those who are prepared to say it openly on the forum for all to observe) you only EVER have disputes with. Immediately above this post are six others. Best mate Hilly is in support which is fair enough. Are the other five trying to pull you off yourself and direct your self discussion elsewhere? Pause for thought perhaps. I and others do pull you up short sometimes when you get overexcited about yourself, and you don’t like it. So much so that you have reported members simply because in some way they have offended you or challenged your ego. As always ego centrics never like having their balloons popped. I am the total opposite of you. I actually enjoy other people’s criticisms of me. They often give me pause and cause to reflect on what I’ve said and expressed, and the way I’ve done it. I am completely at ease with this. Apologizing to forum members when I’ve offended them or misunderstood what they’ve said comes easy to me, and I do it often. No one gets angrier with me than me when my sometimes caustic observations have driven people back into their shells and in one shameful moment off the forum. I compliment others even when I’m in total disagreement with what they’ve said, if in my opinion they’ve said it well. I can’t hold a grudge for three seconds… somehow it’s just not in me. And so on. I think you’re and attractive, intelligent, sharp witted woman. I also think you have a great deal to learn about yourself and other people, and the way to interact in the broader spectrum of life. This forum is a microcosm of that spectrum and it belongs just as much to the dull, ordinary, not so attractive, inarticulate everyday battler who form the majority of people on here, as it does to you.

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How long is long enough Posted: 3/4/2009 9:58:14 AM
Anymore of this nonsense and I'm sending one of you to my room I hope you’re suggesting something nice and banal Longtime. Perhaps you could even broaden your horizons and comparison shop. So it was you Kontra who started the monkey see monkey do stuff. I sure as hell wasn’t going to read it twice to exonerate the guilty. As it was I got a headache first time round. Not been seeing too well lately anyway, needing new specs an‘ all…… hmm! Hope me pension arrives soon. ’Only two swigs left and the local shop doesn’t stock metho. Scholar, don't let the put downs get to you Give us a break Naamah. You’ve actually read enough of my stuff to know I don’t do that…. Well, not much anyway. It needed to get back on track a little. Have you forgotten that Hijacked threads tend to get ‘binned’ around here. Kev’s got as much right to start a thread and other people not ‘nick it’ as anyone else. Scholar wasn’t the only one having a go at that, and he wasn‘t doing it intentionally anyway. ’Sides he’s probably big enough to look after himself. Seems o’kay to me and has earned the much coveted TYS stamp of approval. Cheque in the post please Scholar. We see it as a tiny, stringy, germinating sprout... My God you have led a sheltered life. Definitely hard to tolerate in large quantities Now that I would believe. Seems a few of you lot have taken offence to my pick up on Alpha male. Thought I’d have a little fun and now I’ll enlighten the conclusion jumpers with a little insight. Truth be known I wouldn’t know how to approach a woman with amorous intent, or to approach a woman that might be the object of my desires in any way, shape or form at all for that matter. The reason for this is simply that I’ve never had to do it. I’m a very ordinary looking sort of guy, dress like a bum most of the time, have no charm whatsoever and little patience for the drivel that SOME women (and many men for that matter) carry on with. The one thing that I’ve had the least problem ever doing is pulling birds. I didn’t even realise this until a couple of years ago when some mates of longstanding and I were discussing this very thing. They had to told me that amongst the four of us I had always been dominant male as far as getting the girls was concerned. I’ve known these guys for more than 40 years and it took me a lot of reflection to realise that what they said had more than an element of truth to it. Now despite Briz saying I was beating my own drum, I was really just telling it like it is. It doesn’t make me special… just lucky, or perhaps unlucky depending which side of the fence you’re on. My point is this. Some of the people in this place have been here a quite a while. I see many of them (both male and female) as being Alpha’s in many facets of their intellects and character traits. I cannot see or even imagine some of the difficulties that they are encountering. I’m thinking more and more as I peruse and communicate with the personalities on here that it is a lack of confidence more than any other trait that keeps them here. I would further suggest that many, if not most, of this group (excluding the one’s that do get out and about Briz) are the one’s that departed an abusive relationship be that physical, emotional or material. Somewhere else I also suggested that the right time to seriously re-enter the ‘dating game’ was when ‘we’ feel comfortable about ourselves. Sure it’s a simplistic thing to say but being comfortable about ourselves and the situations we place ourselves into is also the surest way I know of regaining a lost confidence. Getting straight back on that horse after a severe ‘fall’ just doesn’t work with damaged hearts. As long as it takes has got to be the answer. And don’t let anyone try and convince you otherwise is Aunt Aggie‘s advice. Naamah. I did recognise you had tried to conclude the monkey thing when it was getting out of hand. I meant to say that to you in a previous post. I didn’t. Got caught up in some other nonsense. I apologize for not having said this before. Be nice people. It doesn’t hurt too much when you do it often.

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How long is long enough Posted: 3/2/2009 9:25:26 AM
R. i. g. h. t..... That is simplistic. Your preceding summary was CORRECT. Does anyone anyone else hear this noise? Is it a big bag of wind or perhaps a hot air sort of sound? Nah! 'Tis just an echo. A hollow empty thing.

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How long is long enough Posted: 3/2/2009 8:47:47 AM
Alpha male bit is really putting me to sleep Rotten snorers. Always have to blame someone else. Alpha male - is this the new expression for egotistical prat? Yes. I'd say, hmmm... about 9 inches. At last a sensible comment. A girl after my own heart. Talking about length. I remember last winter, pretty cold it was, woke up to use the toot in the middle of the night (us oldies do that often) and the weeny had become countersunk. Had to use a heater before I could get a realistic grip on things. there's someone back up there that's still talking about BETA max And down here. comparisons with apes, and we have all had enough of that Here. Here. A simplistic answer to the OP’s question might be this. The CORRECT length of time is exactly as long as it takes. If we’re comfortable, we’re probably ready.

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How long is long enough? Posted: 3/1/2009 11:14:35 PM
^^^^ Well said Briz. What makes you think people who have been around for a while aren't actually out and about meeting bucket loads of people and having a great time. I don't necessarily think that. Irrespective I do read this forum on and off and pay attention to what some members say about their 'dating adventure'. Sorry to be a bit Alpha again (just comes naturally) but I also recieve/d (particularly when I was single and looking) a great deal of personal correspondence from ladies on this site. The majority of the 'old timers' that I communicate with (mostly the kids in their 30's and 40's) express the opinion that they're not out meeting bucket loads of people or having a great time. I'm pleased that you're an exception and of course there are many more exceptions. until you mentioned it, no-one would have guessed you were Which just goes to show you aren't a girl. More seriously Briz of course there's nothing wrong with being on a dating site for a lengthy period of time. Often I think it's the most special that hang around. They're not anybody's. And personally, I've never wanted any anybody's.

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Msg: 31 (view)

How long is long enough? Posted: 3/1/2009 9:43:24 PM
Why would I let you tell me anything when you clearly don't have a clue? Why would I let you tell me anything.... You just have... and apparently it's touched a very tender surface, causing your reply. ....when you clearly don't have a clue? All Alpha's know that it's impossible to educate or instruct a non Apha as to how to become one. Sort of like trying to teach a loser how not to be. Just can't be done. I have noticed during my on and off love affair with this forum that some of the oldest members are the most interesting one's. Some have been here many years and seem to be very desirable people yet remain unable (or unwilling) to find a compatible mate. One of the character traits of Alpha's be they male or female, is their need to face and resolve problems immediately and decisively, never having to face 'the longer we leave it, the harder it gets'. A detracting feature of dating sites, well recognised by many previous posters, is that they offer the opportunity to communicate with many prospective 'buyers' without any obligation to meet anyone. Hilly said earlier in this thread, or words to this effect, that it's scary out there. I sometimes wonder if it gets scarier the longer we leave it. Do we become entrenched in our ways the longer we delay and reform our lives as perpetual singles, eventually becoming content with that? We don't actually meet other people on dating sites, we simply communicate with them. I think many people have a genuine apprehension about meeting potential suitors face to face. We really do need to be out there. A lifetime is far too long to wait.... for anyone.

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Msg: 24 (view)

How long is long enough Posted: 2/28/2009 1:14:09 PM
and they’re quite to enter into superficial Silly me. I should have said... 'and they’re quite HAPPY to enter into superficial'.

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Msg: 23 (view)

How long is long enough Posted: 2/28/2009 1:03:37 PM
How long is long enough? ….. Sorry….. Just read the whole thing….. (most of which I wish I hadn’t)….. starting from the last post to the first. Thought it was going to be a thread about comparative lengths which might eventually lead to a really interesting discussion. Surprise, surprise. Ends up a back and forth about monkey see’s, monkey do’s and monkey don’ts which seems more about ego tripping intellectual nonsense than an attempt to seriously discuss Kev’s post. From personal experience within my peer group a substantial proportion of males form their ’next’ relationship whilst in the existing. Gals seem less inclined to behave like this. Me thinks this is much to do with hormones and guys not wanting to go without it for long. Personally I go a bit troppo if I don’t get laid once a week and at least thrice on Sundays. I think most of us would agree that males are generally more aggressive than the fairer sex and enter more easily and readily into relationships, whether or not there is always a love element within their commitment is another question again. I was talk with someone the other night and she said her rule was the male had to be single for 12 months. I think the gal who told you this Kev is either a very wise woman or one who’s been there and seen it before. At the risk of getting shouted down as usual. Guys NEED it more than gals and they’re quite to enter into superficial relationships to ensure a constant supply. Don’t go jumping into a relationship just to be in one etc. Well said Spella. I have to agree that I do think this is one of the most personal questions there is and the answer is probably different for every one of us. An’ you an’ all for a change. Well said that is, from perhaps the most sensitive gal in this place, which only old boot straps can see. Once there is paint on the canvas you don't scratch it off, but you can paint more layers* And perhaps obliterate forever some of beauty of what was once there. It's a zoo out there! Ah, the diversity of it all. So many women….. so little time. Every female chimp is trying to get the attention of the alpha male and advance her bloodline and improve her social standing. Not so. And don’t bother getting all ’orrible with me, I’m not worth it. As an Alpha Male of long standing let me tell you they’ve never lined up and dropped their drawers whenever I’ve clicked my fingers. Sure being alpha means you don’t have to look so hard, you sought of…. get sought out. Never the less you don’t always get wine and honey, you only get first choice, without any rule saying you will choose wisely. That’s the part it takes us Alpha’s a good while to figure out. The choosing of wisely (think about it). Good night folks and sessies. Have a great week.

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Msg: 137 (view)

Bring it on!!!! Posted: 2/2/2009 9:14:06 AM
One of the nicest things about getting old is having no interest in proving anything to anyone. In time you grow tired of ego and wonder why you ever bothered to have one. You've made it emotionally with your kids and mates and various hangers' on, which puts you in your own, and their, 'inner'. You've taken life and shaken and moulded it to suit your own character and personality, apologized for your mistakes and always did better next time. You no longer judge, or need to discipline or rule. You don't give a rats bottom about winning disputes or debates. You have come to understand yourself and to be tolerant of others, remembering that you were once there. You look back, not at what you have lost but what you have gained. You are secure perhaps in material things but value these far less than the knowledge and insights you have acquired. You treasure the small scrapings of wisdom. You have become a great friend and confident having at last come to truly understand that 'It really is better to give than receive'. You fear little, least of all what the morrow will bring, knowing with confident ease and certainty that you will overcome. Best, the very bestest of all..... You have learnt how to cherish. You have learnt how to care.

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