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BradPalmBay

Joined: 12/22/2005

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Would You Date Someone Who Can't Manage Their Money? Posted: 11/21/2007 5:35:03 PM
If 'they' can't maintain a bank account & have the necessary funds on hand for "life's little emergencies", then 'you' are already in BIG trouble. The first time that 'spendthrift' hits a tiny bump in the road & can't afford to keep all the toys & trappings of their extravagant life, SOMEONE'S wallet will have to come to the rescue... Wonder who's wallet that might be... hmmm....

BradPalmBay

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why do you think the love of your life will be within 75 miles? Posted: 11/21/2007 5:26:27 PM
I can answer your question ONLY by posing yet another question. If someone lives even 300 miles away from your home, just HOW are you ever going to KNOW anything at all about this person OR the circumstances of their daily life...!?!?

BradPalmBay

Joined: 12/22/2005

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How far is too far away? Posted: 9/29/2007 8:28:18 AM
Repeat or not... glad to see this topic come up. 50 miles is a very reasonable limit, and depending on the difficulty of the drive, 100 miles might be pushing the envelope. There is a very simple reason for this.... If you cannot 'see' someone, actually BE WITH them, in-person at LEAST twice a week... then you will NEVER know anything about their lifestyle or the details of their daily life! You HAVE to BE THERE... In REAL LIFE... to form any VALID opinion at all!

BradPalmBay

Joined: 12/22/2005

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why do men that get it two to three times a day still cheat? Posted: 9/29/2007 7:09:51 AM
Very simple ; There are a LOT of extremely immature guys who ONLY think with their d!ck, see life ONLY as one 'conquest' after another... and will NEVER be capable of having a genuine relationship with ANYONE! They are EASY to spot! ; Shallow, superficial, ALL hung-up on THEMSELVES, poorly-spoken, unable to communicate, IMPATIENT, HAS to have things "their way" and RIGHT NOW, a "Hotshot" with no apparent talent, uses profanity in EVERY sentence, ALWAYS FLAT BROKE, Drives a flashy car he can't pay for, cares MORE about the car than his own MOTHER, "Flashes" money but has a minimum-wage job, constant JUVENILE behaviour. Did that answer your question...?

BradPalmBay

Joined: 12/22/2005

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Does a guy mean it when he says he doesn't mind waiting? Posted: 9/29/2007 6:25:32 AM
Many good points have been made. IF you are talking about 'waiting' for MONTHS, then yes, this is probably just game-playing & manipulation... and you will eventually get what's coming to you. A lot of this depends on the guy's experience level, his background, and his personal outlook on life. If the guy has NOT had one or more successful, long-term relationships, then he MAY be in no position to understand and VALUE all that comes with a genuine relationship. Guys at the 'inexperienced' stage of life often cannot make any distinction between 'having sex' and "Making Love"... It's all the same to them because they don't know any better. This type of guy might leave early-on because he cares little about YOU as a person, and feels he isn't getting what he wants fast enough. IF this happens, then you are better off for having "weeded-out" another dud who really didn't have the intellectual capacity to be anyone's 'best friend & partner in life'. On the other end of the spectrum, guys who HAVE had one or more genuine, loving relationships... are in NO hurry! They understand EXACTLY what it is like being with the WRONG person, and they want to take their time in sizing-up their new, potential 'partner'. Experienced guys have almost ZERO interest in 'mere sex',... it just leaves them COLD! Guys who have CULTIVATED an intimate relationship (in the past) already know that it takes TIME and a lot of UNDERSTANDING to really be "in-tune" with their partner. From my own perspective, it makes almost NO difference to me whether we have sex on the first date... or on the third date... but I certainly DO take into account HER personal sensibilities and sensitivities. At this point in my life, I have told three 'eager' women... "let's wait... and see if we feel the same way on the NEXT date". There are several reasons for doing this ; 1. I don't want sex to cloud MY judgement! 2. I don't want to rush into anything before seeing the WHOLE picture... including traps like STDs, the "OOoopps Pregnancy" (my birth control pills 'failed'... yeah... RIGHT!) and lurking desperation... like that MOUND of unpaid bills waiting for a WALLET! 3. I don't want HER to get a case of "the guilts" and be too embarassed to ever see me again. 4. I don't want EITHER of us to be 'judged' on our performance in bed... BEFORE we even know if there is any potential for a deeper relationship. It's like putting the CART before the HORSE! Quality sex cannot happen... until you are BOTH ready for it!

BradPalmBay

Joined: 12/22/2005

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People that don't have~nor EVER want kids..what do you think? Posted: 9/6/2007 10:42:20 PM
It's a personal choice, pure & simple. In many respects, it's not even open for debate, as each will choose their own course, and there's nothing the rest of the world can do about it! I knew early in life (around age 16) that I was going to AVOID the kid trip. There are WAY too many reasons to list here, but I'll cover the major points. Even in today's "advanced" society, well OVER 95% of all pregnancies are accidents. I didn't want the terms of my life dictated by an accident... so I just didn't go there. From the MOMENT that a child is born, that INDIVIDUAL very definitely IS going to wind up making it's OWN decisions, choosing it's OWN course in life, and perhaps end up living a lifestyle that the "parents" don't much care for. So much for the idea of raising... "my little angel". It's a cute delusion, but a LONG way from REALITY. Just ask the 3 MILLION 'parents' who visit their 'kids' every weekend... at the State Prisons. http://www.ojp.usdoj.gov/bjs/prisons.htm My OWN life, I can control, and it continues to be a marvelous adventure. I'm glad to wake up every day KNOWING that my choices are solely my own, and that my day won't be ruled by something that... "just sort of happened" some twenty years ago.

BradPalmBay

Joined: 12/22/2005

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is there a way to change the fwb vibe? Posted: 9/6/2007 9:39:40 PM
That all depends... on a lot of factors. You didn't give enough information about this particular situation to form any judgements, or suggest a course of action. I'm always amazed at the number of folks who can take THREE LITTLE LETTERS and proceed to spin an entire NOVEL around them... all without any real information. Methinks you will receive a LOT of knee-jerk reactions, and very little in the way of worthwhile analysis.

BradPalmBay

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Very Disturbing. Posted: 9/6/2007 9:26:23 PM
WHOA...!! This is rapidly becoming speculation run rampant, along with a FIXED set of conclusions WITHOUT any basis in fact. For openers, there are a GAZILLION serious medical conditions that insurance co's. will shy away from. Advanced liver or kidney disease, leukemia, MS, cancer... the list is far too extensive to reprint here. Next, the blood results ALONE may NOT be the reason for declining coverage. The results of the physical exam & the doctor's initial diagnosis are equally important. Until some real FACTS surface here... it would be WILDLY unrealistic and reckless to brand this guy with philandering & loose talk about STDs.

BradPalmBay

Joined: 12/22/2005

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Women who make more money than men Posted: 9/5/2007 10:43:46 PM
Dear John, Don't worry. Most folks today are COMPLETE FRAUDS. Appearances can be deceiving, and in most cases... They ARE.! The typical, fully modern FRAUD of today doesn't really OWN anything at all. They lease a flashy car, and they are currently living in a "home" that they couldn't BEGIN to afford before the banking system foolishly started granting "Interest Only" loans. After the lease is up on the flash car & the bank forecloses on the house... some of these poor **stards will be living under freeway overpasses. It's already starting to happen now... and it will get a LOT worse over the next 24 months or so.

BradPalmBay

Joined: 12/22/2005

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Fitness and attraction Posted: 9/5/2007 10:34:12 PM
"Fitness" is important to ALL folks... After all... if you don't have a pirated photo of a runner-up, wannabe supermodel posted on 'yer profile... just HOW do you expect to compete in the "Ken & Barbie" popularity contest that IS "Plenty-O-Pirannaha".

BradPalmBay

Joined: 12/22/2005

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Why are older women scared about dating younger men? Posted: 9/5/2007 7:02:52 PM
All this bantering about... yet no direct answers. To address your question succinctly ; Experience has taught them that young doodz tend to RUN THE OTHER WAY... just about the time they discover those three brats hiding in the closet.

BradPalmBay

Joined: 12/22/2005

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Unsolicited compliments and email...double standard?? Posted: 9/5/2007 6:41:48 PM
It just keeps getting more hilarious.... We've now heard several variants of... "Well, if I receive an email, and they write it JUST SO and perfectly subscribe to my own, home-brewed secret code... well, there's a remote chance that I MIGHT write back..." Hmmm.... try this ; BEAT YOUR HEAD against the keyboard while chanting... "They DON'T KNOW my GAWDAMN secret code." If you do this for, say, 2 or 3 HOURS, it just might shock your miniscule brain into CONDUCTION.

BradPalmBay

Joined: 12/22/2005

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The Ban It Bandwagon - are you on or off? Posted: 9/5/2007 6:09:48 PM
ALL LAWS, regardless of how they might be disguised... are intentionally crafted to take AWAY rights and / or freedoms from someone. EVERY law that has ever been passed expressly spells-out some action that is to be PROHIBITED. Thus, the familiar phrase... "It's against the law". We came to this continent well over 300 years ago for ONE common reason... To escape the tyranny of self-appointed DICTATORS, and to secure a life for ourselves that was free from whimsical intrusion & regulation. Fewer laws = a better life for us ALL. If you really want to HELP this world, then start your own movement to STRIKE DOWN a few thousand of the ridiculous, mind-numbing, incomprehensible GLUT of worthless 'laws' that we are all choking under right now!

BradPalmBay

Joined: 12/22/2005

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Friends only - mixed messages? Posted: 9/5/2007 5:09:30 PM
If the next person you meet (or 'date') is NOT someone whom you could honestly think of as your "best friend"... Then they also have ZERO potential as a love-interest. If your next, new acquaintance is REALLY someone whom you admire... in EVERY respect... for thier outstanding character, for their keen wit, for the impeccable way that they carry themselves... Then there is a REMOTE chance that you might even be able to LIVE with this person. Anything less... is pure folly.

BradPalmBay

Joined: 12/22/2005

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I'm not attracted to women my age. Posted: 9/5/2007 4:42:27 PM
BWAAAAahahahahaaaa... MY, how euphemisms DO tend to cloud things! Let's try phrasing this more clearly ; "... actually, I am SO HOT that I should really be dating 18-year-olds..." Congratulations! A child with little or NO experience would be a perfect match for your feeble intellect! Best of luck in your personal quest!

BradPalmBay

Joined: 12/22/2005

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supply and demand theory Posted: 9/3/2007 5:59:33 PM
I keep laughing my butt off at the cutesy buzz-phrase... "record profits". In terms of raw dollars, yes, oil companies do continue to post more profit dollars. This is true for nearly EVERY industry as inflation continues to escalate consumer pricing. In percentage terms, the picture changes quite radically. The largest of the oil companies turned profits of approximately 9% against total revenues. If your friendly, neighborhood tire dealer were trying to work against a 9% margin, he couldn't possibly afford to stay in business. I suppose those who cannot quite grasp today's necessary largess in bulk commodities like oil are astounded by the large dollar figures involved. There's really nothing impressive about small-thinking when it gets in the way of better judgement. From a purely business perspective, there is absoulutely NOTHING here that could possibly prove collusion, price-fixing, or justify the poor-man's-phrase... "record profits". Maybe we should start calling it... "Record Stupidity".

BradPalmBay

Joined: 12/22/2005

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D1CKHEAD99 SOAPBOX Posted: 9/3/2007 4:52:49 PM
Just helping to clarify this thread.

BradPalmBay

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How big do you dream about a future relationship? Posted: 9/3/2007 1:53:30 PM
Jrunrun - Message #25 : RIGHT ON THE MONEY FredHH also restated this basic truth nicely in message #34. Even an outstanding real-life example can never live up to someone's excessively elaborate and tedious fantasy. Those who keep on making this ugly mistake will never be satisfied... with anything that real life has to offer.

BradPalmBay

Joined: 12/22/2005

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Moving a washer Posted: 9/3/2007 12:42:28 PM
Ahhhmmm.... what part of this did you consider ... unusual..? This guy fits the profile of around 99% of the 'members' on any dating site -- a total coward who lives a fantasy life behind a computer & has NO intention of ever meeting anyone in real life. You should be flattered that he made some feeble attempt at conversation. Most dating site members can't even work up the guts to answer a simple email.

BradPalmBay

Joined: 12/22/2005

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Life expectancy Posted: 6/24/2007 3:52:15 PM
I'll bet Jennifer Anniston's boobs are nicer.

BradPalmBay

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Brain drain or igniting the senses? Posted: 6/24/2007 3:46:03 PM
It appears that voices have a huge impact on you. And... the tone of one's voice... is something you'll never know via this medium.

BradPalmBay

Joined: 12/22/2005

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How do you know you are exclusive? Posted: 6/24/2007 3:33:54 PM
Different strokes for different folks, but... Personally, I've had "The TALK" about every single item on you list (and more!) with every single person I've ever become involved with! There is NO relationship without communication... BOTH ways... and assuming or dreaming things that maybe never happened... well... that can only make things WORSE.

BradPalmBay

Joined: 12/22/2005

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Shaved pubes and PAIN Posted: 6/24/2007 2:49:21 PM
Shaving has a LOT of drawbacks -- skin irritation, ingrown hairs & the occasional 'zit', as well as the problem you experienced with irritation from razor stubble. The 'heightened sensation' effect also has a tendency to wear-off, too. If you shave every 2 ~ 3 days for months, your skin tends to get thicker & tougher, making everything a bit LESS sensitive than it originally was. TRIMMING works a lot better. You can use a 'beard trimmer' with a comb attachment to take the hair down to about 1/8" long. No nicks or cuts, your skin won't get 'tough' from rubbing against your clothes or a razor burn, and it's almost as good as being 'totally nude'.

BradPalmBay

Joined: 12/22/2005

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Poor POF date...who is raising these guys? Posted: 6/24/2007 2:19:25 PM
WOW -- what an amazing collection of holier-than-thou azzwipes! This was little more than a chance encounter... between two people who are considered ADULTS in ANY state jurisdiction!! Maybe they should change the name of this site to... "Plenty of Bible-Thumping Hypocrites".

BradPalmBay

Joined: 12/22/2005

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Drinking over 45 Posted: 6/23/2007 12:42:31 PM
YIKES -- there it is again, same tired old sentiment, same utter LACK of intelligibility in the mix! According to one of our respondents, the mere mention of the work 'drink' AUTOMATICALLY and unequivocally equals : "MEAN DRUNK". WTF>>!?!? Yes, there ARE some words that have only one, clear meaning... the word MORON comes to mind at this juncture. If you really believe that you know EVERYTHING there is to know about another individual based SOLELY on one word... maybe you should book an appearance on the Jay Leno show! If there's any truth to your claims, you could be even more famous than Kreskin!

BradPalmBay

Joined: 12/22/2005

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Trophy Wives Posted: 6/15/2007 5:40:21 PM
People are flat-out guaranteed to get... whatever they buy-into. OR... Shallow is as shallow does.

BradPalmBay

Joined: 12/22/2005

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At what age does a man finally wake up and stop trying to score? Posted: 6/15/2007 9:41:56 AM
Hmmm... "Trying to Score". Ahhmmm... WTF does that MEAN, anyway..!?!? If you are talking about guys who try to get a woman in bed on the first date, then just dump her after some quick, recreational sex... yep, that's childish. Personally, I don't get involved in 'sex talk' until it's pretty clear that SHE is just as interested as I am. IF that 'interest' never seems to develop... well... there's NO point in talking about sex... with someone I have NO desire for. Along the way, you are going to meet ALL sorts of people in life's journey, and MOST of them won't suit you. Regardless of what they may be babbling about at that moment, it is easy enough to just say... "Sorry, not interested"... and move along.

BradPalmBay

Joined: 12/22/2005

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this so called baggage Posted: 6/15/2007 9:17:38 AM
Yep -- we all have our own collection of 'life's experiences', both good & bad. That 'knowledge base' makes us who we ARE! Personally, I look forward to the challenge of dealing with, and REFLECTING with an intelligent & truly educated individual -- someone who has taken the time to found their own worldview on something more substantial than TV Land. The process of 'figuring out' your partner's outlook, needs & wants CAN be great fun -- provided you both have the time to FOCUS on the importance of your relationship, and EXCLUDE meaningless side-trips & diversions. "You & Me against the World" -- has the potential for Greatness! "You, Me & the REST of the World, IN OUR BEDROOM..." -- is a formula for DISASTER! "Baggage" is ; * A crazy Ex banging on the door at 3 AM, primarily to extract revenge. * An endless string of phony, purely manufactured "issues" about 'the kids'. *** A collection of excuses for clinging to the past, and failing to move FORWARD in life. This 'so-called baggage' is REAL, and you'll recognise it the moment that it starts trampling all over your LIFE, canceling your PLANS & makes you think about running AWAY.

BradPalmBay

Joined: 12/22/2005

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What does this mean in menspeak? Posted: 6/2/2007 10:12:20 AM
It might help to open a dialogue regarding WHERE your relationship is going in relation to the kids... and I must pose some HARD questions here, or at least points for discussion ; If this guy is / was of the mindset that he never wanted kids of his own, just imagine how he may feel about assuming the obligations & responsibilities that some other guy simply chose to walk away from. i.e.... I never wanted to be in this position to begin with, and now it seems I have no choice. WHAT will the impact be on your relationship IF some 'crisis' (health, medical expenses, legal problems, college costs) should arise...? Even IF you firmly believe that the kids are your responsibility & NOT his, a crisis could leave you financially OR emotionally drained... leaving him to "pick up the slack". There are a gazillion other, potential issues as well. Realizing the need for & assigning priorities... ensuring there is adequate time for a meaningful relationship... the list goes on. Hope this helps you get started...

BradPalmBay

Joined: 12/22/2005

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Do guys say things they THINK girls want to hear? Posted: 6/2/2007 9:47:27 AM
I think you missed the boat on this one, hon. This isn't about deception, or about ..."saying what someone wants to hear". If you've had identical experiences with 2 different guys, maybe there is something about YOUR approach that brought this about. I'm not trying to "place blame" here... merely suggesting that there could be some 'cause & effect' mechanism. Are you playing these relationships a bit TOO COOL..? Was there something about your interaction that made these guys feel there was just no future to pursue..?

BradPalmBay

Joined: 12/22/2005

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Dating a vegan/vegetarian Posted: 6/2/2007 9:39:26 AM
I've never understood WHY this is or even should be an issue. If you've made a personal choice regarding what you wish to eat or NOT eat... good for you! NOW -- Please extend the same courtesy to the REST of the world! They have their OWN choices to make, particularly when it comes to what is being shoved down their throat... and their choices should NOT concern you in the least. See... wasn't that easy!

BradPalmBay

Joined: 12/22/2005

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Why do guys push the issue of sex Posted: 6/2/2007 9:32:11 AM
HA..!! I found myself LMAO and at the same time at a complete loss to understand this one... on any level! In my own experience, the 'issue' (or NON-issue!) of sex seems to come up somewhere between the 2nd and 3rd dates... and if it doesn't come up, there likely isn't going to BE a fourth 'date'. This isn't a 'sexist' issue... and it isn't 'Man vs. Woman', either. Every time I've had a new acquaintance come into my life, we BOTH knew by the second 'date' whether we wanted to continue seeing each other... or NOT! It was NOT about sex... it was about Compatibility, and our potential for being 'best friends'. IF... IF we were already WELL on the "best friends" track, then the issue of sex quite naturally came up, usually on the 3rd date... EVERY time that this has ever happend to me... SHE wanted to get closer, just as much as I did! I can honestly say that I have NEVER had any sort of 'awkward moment' when I either had to ASK, or much less "push" the idea of sex on anyone! It just happened, quite naturally... and we were BOTH quite happy with the results!

BradPalmBay

Joined: 12/22/2005

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What does this mean in menspeak? Posted: 6/2/2007 9:14:53 AM
Kudos to Piano4te and RMB! What are the real ISSUES here..!?!? There wasn't enough substance to the original post to found any conclusions on, and the glib... "not into you" responses were so bad they weren't even WRONG. There is a solid REASON (or maybe several) that this guy is having second-thoughts about the course & potential of your relationship. And what might that reason be..?

BradPalmBay

Joined: 12/22/2005

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Initiating first contact... Posted: 6/2/2007 8:44:30 AM
I think it's great when a woman approaches me first. This is, above all, a chance to meet someone new. There's no reason to artificially 'limit' onesself by assuming a 'protocol' which may not exist. I make it a point to answer EVERY email I receive -- even the ones that start off in a difficult manner, and those whos' profiles don't immediately seem to 'mesh' with mine. Words in print CAN be filled with typos, double-entendres, mixed-messages or outright miscommunications... give it a fair chance before making any decisions.

BradPalmBay

Joined: 12/22/2005

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WHY IF YOU GIVE GUY PITCURES,HE THEN BLOWS YOU OFF? Posted: 6/2/2007 8:31:57 AM
The knife cuts BOTH ways! I've learned to gauge online contacts by the importance they place on photos. It's one of those wonderful, hidden character tests that unfolds without the participant's knowledge! If the headline screams... "MUST INCLUDE PHOTOS!", then I don't bother responding at all. You've seen my photo -- it's posted right here. If you're too hung-up on looks to investigate the person behind them, then a dozen MORE photos probably won't make YOU any less SHALLOW. Some folks like to use the "Two Email Ploy". They begin the conversation with... "the importance of REALLY getting to know someone...", and then babble on about the weather or some other, meaningless trivia for around 200 words. They are careful to reveal precisely NOTHING about themselves. During the second email, they make what seems to be a coy, toe-in-the-sand 'request' for more photos. Note that this is NOT a request -- it's a DEMAND, and the conversation is now OVER! Whether you are dumb enough to send the photos or not... you will never hear from this simpleton again. Good riddance. You'll immediately know that you're onto something good IF your new correspondent can demonstrate an agile command of the English language, seems to lead a dynamic & challenging life, relays something meaningful with EVERY sentence, and... DOESN'T GIVE A SH!T about PHOTOS! I'll let 'ya know if this ever happens.

BradPalmBay

Joined: 12/22/2005

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Is it better to give a chance or not? Posted: 6/2/2007 7:39:01 AM
This one is a true no-brainer. It isn't possible to "know" anything about another human being by reading the MICROSCOPIC bit of trivia contained in a "profile". Their 'self-description' could be so WILDLY misleading (or so poorly interpreted!) that it conveys NO understanding at ALL. If you're really here with the sincere intention of MEETING someone, it might be best to "switch-off" the knee-jerk reactions, the TV "sound byte" mentality, and the stereotypical rush-to-judgement that are the hallmarks of morons worldwide. You might just get a pleasant surprise!

BradPalmBay

Joined: 12/22/2005

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The unwritten law strictly between men Posted: 6/2/2007 7:25:08 AM
Hmmm... no "laws" that I've ever heard of, but there IS a truly hilarious collection of groundless paranoias and secret, homophobic fantasies! * What if I look over, and his is BIGGER..!! Oh my GAWD! * What if he catches me looking, and thinks I'm GAY..!! *** What if he catches me looking, and HE is GAY..!! Merely THINKING about any one of these scenarios for more than, say... 3 SECONDS... is enough to pop any "Macho Man's" bubble, causing him to momentarily lose his grip on the Macho-Fantasy-Bullsh!t world, ultimately leading to a TOTAL psychological melt-down.

BradPalmBay

Joined: 12/22/2005

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Am I a snob? Posted: 6/2/2007 6:52:13 AM
Great example of TWO people each making their own 'contribution' to non-communication. I agree that the guy's first email attempt was lame, but the 'response' was equally pathetic. What would have been wrong with ... "Whoa-up there cowboy! I don't meet anybody based on six words. Put a bit more effort into this (or maybe a LOT more effort!) and we'll see if theres any potential here."

BradPalmBay

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Threesomes...why the bias? Posted: 6/2/2007 6:35:10 AM
The 'bias' is fairly easy to explain. The 'ole "Macho Man" BS stream runs pretty DEEP. Spelled a bit differently it comes out... "Fragile Egos R Us".

BradPalmBay

Joined: 12/22/2005

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Is anybody really getting to know anybody from this site? Posted: 5/27/2007 10:28:59 AM
Everyone views this situation a bit differently. There is NO "one size fits all" answer, and it MAY be possible to meet a REAL, sane human being online. Having said that, there appear to be several reasons that the 'online' realm will always be primarily a fantasy medium ; * I really belive that most folks come to view ANYTHING that appears on a computer screen as... "just another video game". Much like television, they can switch it 'on' when they are bored, then switch it 'off' again & ignore it. This type of approach doesn't work too well in real life -- so the computer fantasy-land becomes a LOT more attractive than real life. * A few printed words on a screen reveals almost NOTHING about the human being behind them. The sum-total of what the reader does NOT know... gets filled-in by delusions of Brad Pitt or Angelina Jolie. If these people could actually MEET the hollywood freaks that they've been drooling over, they would probably be even MORE disappointed than they are with their next-door neighbor... but... reality is always a poor second (or 5th) to a dreamy fantasy. *** The crisp, shiny, glittering world of computerland SHOULD be an absolute guarantee of perfection... or maybe something BEYOND perfection... right...? Ken & Barbie... here we come!

BradPalmBay

Joined: 12/22/2005

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marriage looks like a drag Posted: 5/27/2007 9:02:32 AM
You may be putting WAY too much thought into this. Most youngsters 'think' with their gentials, and the accidental offspring then becomes an unplanned "way of life". Who can blame them for being wildly disappointed a few years later when they discover that their ENTIRE life has merely been an ugly accident! Years later, when their genitals cool off, a few of them actually start doing some REAL thinking, this time with their brain. They suddenly grasp the fact that their life has been PERMANENTLY ruined by the brats, and that at least 50% of the blame should rightfully go to the idiot that knocked them up. A feeling of STARK TERROR sinks in when they finally realize that they will be penniless & strapped-into this black-hole of an existence for at LEAST the next TWENTY YEARS! Mere "divorce" is no answer at all, there is no 'freedom' when you are flat-broke and receiving an endless stream of phone calls & demands from your equally tortured Ex. Male or female, life is OVER once you've had an accident in your pants.

BradPalmBay

Joined: 12/22/2005

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Is their any reading material on how to pick up women? Posted: 5/27/2007 8:04:22 AM
Yes... there are many books on the subject -- and NOT ONE of them is worth a good big pinch of sh!t. Most of these books are based on some TRULY wierd and purely hypothetical "Macho-Man vs. Barbie Doll" pseudo-psychology. They MIGHT help you 'reel-in' a few psycho-nutcases who have already been irreversibly mesmerized by "TV-Land", but you are really better-off leaving THOSE at the same bar they stumbled into! Women are human beings -- just like you & me. They breathe the same air, eat the same food, drive down the same streets, and live the same life as you & I. They also want pretty much the same things out of a relationship... a sort of "best friend & partner in life" that they adore so much they CAN'T WAIT to see that person again! Simply make it a p0int to wak up & say "Hi!" to an attractive lady your own age once in a while... and smile whilst greeting her. Some of them will hate you instantly -- for no reason (nothing ventured, nothing gained). And... some of them will be just as glad to GET some attention... as you are to GIVE it! When the right one comes along, you'll KNOW it in about 5 minutes!!

BradPalmBay

Joined: 12/22/2005

Msg: 92 (view)

Would you keep seeing this guy? Posted: 5/27/2007 7:42:26 AM
The very first ennumerated line really tells the WHOLE story! **** "1. He is an active church member. Participate in church activities. Good friends with the priests." **** These types make a small effort, on Sunday only, to hide their alcoholism, drug addiction, criminal history and mental illness -- behind a THIN veil of religious piety. RUN THE OTHER WAY !!

BradPalmBay

Joined: 12/22/2005

Msg: 11 (view)

Finding women who really don't want children Posted: 5/27/2007 7:31:23 AM
I understand exactly where you're coming from, Christopher -- and I'm with you! I had to break it off with one recent GF, a REALLY sweet woman, when she ended up raising her GRANDCHILDREN. Both 'parents' were sent to jail for dealing drugs. That experience was a REAL eye-opener for me. Even when someone says... "My kids are all over 18", or... "The kids are all on their own"... It really doesn't mean much. When 'the kids' get in trouble -- guess WHO is going to be paying for it. When 'the kids' find they can't support themselves & want to move... "back into daddy's house" -- guess WHO is going to be playing 'daddy'! When one of these scenarios (or one of a DOZEN others!) suddenly comes up, YOU will have zero choice in the matter. It will be strictly... "Cave in to my kids' demands, or get OUTTA my life". Even if you already have a great relationship going, it will be flushed down the toilet the same MINUTE that you refuse to give 'the kids' whatever they want. One minute, you are... "my wonderful husband"... the next minute, you are... "That hateful piece of garbage who wouldn't hand over $200,000.00 to get my brats outta the slammer." I know how painful it is to search for YEARS without finding anyone even REMOTELY compatible -- but think carefully about the ALTERNATIVES! Do you really want to see your life RUINED after choosing the WRONG person..!?!? Better to be alone & relatively happy... than to have your WHOLE WORLD torn apart by a cabal of total strangers that you never wanted to know in the first place.

BradPalmBay

Joined: 12/22/2005

Msg: 3 (view)

just ranting Posted: 5/27/2007 7:01:16 AM
Great observation 'bella123', and now... Try considering exactly what you wrote... in a slightly different light. You said ; "... I read the profile's and meet them in person. They arent what I expected to be,..." Yes, INDEED -- "Expected" is the key word here. Folks can dream any sort of pure fantasy while sitting alone at home. Sadly, REALITY can never live up to one person's elaborate FANTASY. Soooo... AFTER you and you alone have spent hours or perhaps DAYS spinning your own, private fantasy... WHY BLAME THE OTHER PERSON for your daydreams..!?!? There is a simple cure for this -- LESS daydreaming, LESS fantasizing, MORE reality.

BradPalmBay

Joined: 12/22/2005

Msg: 82 (view)

Chivary vs. Equal Rights/Responsibility in today's PoF dating world. Posted: 5/24/2007 10:01:48 PM
One of our early respondents said it ALL ; "...Now brought to the current day, where women have by all reasonable views, created a double standard. That they asked for equal rights, but still expect to be treated like a princess and payed for everywhere they go, have doors opened, it goes on..." It seems that every "civil rights" movement MUST be carried to a completely irrational extreme. The latest 'underclass' is never happy until they've had their butts kissed in public... and been HANDED things they never attempted to EARN. I hope they enjoy the inevitable results...

BradPalmBay

Joined: 12/22/2005

Msg: 23 (view)

Talking to thier ex.... Posted: 5/24/2007 9:42:07 PM
Yet another good reason to DUMP the EX and never have ANY contact with them at all. When it's over... it's SO OVER.

BradPalmBay

Joined: 12/22/2005

Msg: 9 (view)

Money and finding that special someone Posted: 5/24/2007 9:35:34 PM
I design military computers... for several nations. If you don't know roughly how much money that involves... you need to do a little homework of your own WAY before you come knocking on MY door! Beyond that small revelation -- I WILL NOT discuss money with ANYONE... PERIOD. The reason is extremely simple... but you're going to have to do a little thinking on your own here... try to follow the bouncing ball ; * If you are REALLY looking for 'love' here... then you SHOULD be looking for FRIENDSHIP FIRST, and of the most genuine variety! It never works the other way around! * Should you be so lucky to find a caring, compassionate, intelligent human being... a true kindred soul... someone who becomes a GENUINE friend -- then you should have NO INTEREST WHATSOEVER in their WALLET..!!

BradPalmBay

Joined: 12/22/2005

Msg: 70 (view)

A small problem I am having. Posted: 5/24/2007 9:11:14 PM
Time to WAKE UP, dood! It's natural, it's normal, and ahmmm... human beings have been tasting this juice for a little over TWELVE THOUSAND years now! At least this thread DID afford us the opportunity to expose the laughable 'macho-man' non-mentality... "Uh, well, it MIGHT be OK for a woman to taste that stuff, but NEVER for a REAL, dyed-in-the-wool Macho Man.." I have some advice for you. Thrust your shoulders skyward... and your HEAD will pop right outta yer AZZ.

BradPalmBay

Joined: 12/22/2005

Msg: 36 (view)

Anyone else here scared about getting a STD? Or do you have one? Posted: 5/24/2007 8:52:43 PM
This REALLY sounds like one of those "Urban Legend", pure BS stories. Even IF someone is definitely infected with HIV by a recent partner, the latent infection isn't necessarily detectable for six months to ONE YEAR after contact. I have a reasonable, healthy 'fear' of STD's, but it doesn't keep me awake at night... for one simple reason. It has become "Politically Correct" to engage in STD Fear-Mongering... largely to deflect blame and shame AWAY from those who really DESERVE it! 90% of the AIDS cases STILL occur within the gay community. There's no reason to believe ME... check the World Health Organization. AIDS is a GAY DISEASE... it's simply unpopular to state that FACT out loud. This and most of the other STDs are circulated by those who think with their D!CK first and their BRAIN never... and they're pretty easy to spot.

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