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Unenlightened Sage

Joined: 12/23/2005

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Confidence Posted: 10/14/2009 5:02:55 PM
Like one Poster said, confidence does stem from other aspects of your life, Your living situation, how much money you have, your vehicle, looks, size of your package..lol Pffffft! Confidence is not defined by your circumstances, or on what you look like, or what you have, or how expensive it is, or how big it is... confidence is a matter of believing in yourself and not depending on others' views, of you. How you see yourself is how others will view you. And "hooking up" is just that... it doesn't take a great deal of skill, or charm, or grace, to find someone, if this is all you're looking for... it's more a matter of opportunity, of being in the right place, at the right time. But, I would suggest that you decide what you truly want, instead of going along with what your friends are going after... because they appear to be having a good time. I'll give you this quote, that's about love, or perhaps "getting the women", but the concept works for confidence, too... "If you are to be loved, remember that it can be accomplished by making constructive use of THAT SOMETHING WITHIN YOU WHICH ATTRACTS LOVE. You cannot get love in any other way. And what is this something which attracts love? In a word, it is PERSONALITY. If you ARE something, somebody will love you for what you are, and the more you are, the larger number of people will love you, and the more you are, the more intensely you will be loved." -Wallace D. Wattles Hope this answers your question. Take care...

Unenlightened Sage

Joined: 12/23/2005

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DAILY QUOTES Posted: 7/13/2009 8:24:13 AM
"I have only two passions: space exploration and hip-hop." -- Astronaut Buzz Aldrin, 79, who is producing a single with rapper Snoop Dogg.

Unenlightened Sage

Joined: 12/23/2005

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Personal Favourite Quotes I Like Posted: 6/25/2009 8:17:48 PM
"It is better to be silent and be thought a fool than to speak and remove all doubt." ~Variously attributed to Abraham Lincoln, Elbert Hubbard, Mark Twain, Benjamin Franklin and Socrates

Unenlightened Sage

Joined: 12/23/2005

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DAILY QUOTES Posted: 6/25/2009 7:22:27 PM
"The quintessential revolution is that of the spirit, born of an intellectual conviction of the need for change in those mental attitudes and values which shape the course of a nation's development. A revolution which aims merely at changing official policies and institutions with a view to an improvement in material conditions has little chance of genuine success. Without a revolution of the spirit, the forces which produced the iniquities of the old order would continue to be operative, posing a constant threat to the process of reform and regeneration. It is not enough merely to call for freedom, democracy and human rights. There has to be a united determination to persevere in the struggle, to make sacrifices in the name of enduring truths, to resist the corrupting influences of desire, ill will, ignorance and fear." ~ Aung San Suu Kyi

Unenlightened Sage

Joined: 12/23/2005

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Personal Favourite Quotes I Like Posted: 6/17/2009 8:53:19 AM
“Leave no stone unturned.” “Friends show their love - in times of trouble, not in happiness.” “All is change; all yields its place and goes.” “No one is happy all his life long.” “Question everything. Learn something. Answer nothing.” ~Euripides

Unenlightened Sage

Joined: 12/23/2005

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DAILY QUOTES Posted: 6/17/2009 6:43:44 AM
ON CREATIVITY The man who follows the crowd, will usually get no further than the crowd. The man who walks alone is likely to find himself in places no one has been before. Creativity in living is not without its attendant difficulties, for peculiarity breeds contempt . And the unfortunate thing about being ahead of your time is that, when people finally realize you were right, they'll say it was obvious all along. You have two choices, in life: you can dissolve into the mainstream, or you can be distinct. To be distinct, you must be different. To be different you must strive to be what no one else, but you, can be... -Alan Ashley-Pitt

Unenlightened Sage

Joined: 12/23/2005

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Personal Favourite Quotes I Like Posted: 6/16/2009 3:01:04 PM
"Sleeping with people must be one of the best ways of getting to know them." -Jeanne Moreau

Unenlightened Sage

Joined: 12/23/2005

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Clean House Posted: 5/30/2009 1:28:57 PM
usually people hightly intelligent is respectful and logic, very easy to be along with, while people who are not exactly scientists tend to be rude without a real reason... Can't argue with that can you, dear forum trolls? Sophia, I highly recommend this book to anyone who's interested in cleaning and organizing: "Clear Your Clutter With Feng Shui" by Karen Kingston. It can be found at Amazon. Oh... and another recipe for the recipe fanatics: Recipe For Kindness Fold two hands together And express a dash of sorrow Marinate it overnight And work on it tomorrow. Chop one grudge in tiny pieces Add several cups of love Dredge with a large sized smile Mix with the ingredients above. Dissolve the hate within you, By doing a good deed, Cut in and help your friend If he should be in need. Stir in laughter, love and kindness From the heart it has to come, Toss with genuine forgiveness And give your neighbor some. The amount of people served Will depend on you, It can serve the whole wide world, If you really want it to. -Author Unknown If that doesn't suit you, try this: The recipe for kindness is quite simple indeed! Simply follow these instructions: * First, start off by always treating others in a manner you would want to be treated * Add in a large amount of positive attitude * Stir in a daily dose of smiles * Sprinkle over a dash of creativity * Mix well * Top off with a hug or two (when and if possible) It is said that acts of kindness and feelings of gratitude are usually found within those moments that some consider small, little or insignificant. Yet when we shine our heart lights on them and combine all these "small, little or insignificant acts", they really end up meaning so much to [all of] us! Or this: I have a good recipe for 'kindness', one spoonful of humility, two spoonfuls of tolerance, a pinch or two of respect.... While we are at it, throw all the the old stale ingredients out of your cupboard, all the hate, aggression, put-downs.... When shopping next time, please by some 'tact' and 'forgiveness', they always come in handy, when trying to bake the Kindness Cake, or even when making those Queensland delicasies,the Pumpkin Scones. -Helvi

Unenlightened Sage

Joined: 12/23/2005

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Personal Favourite Quotes I Like Posted: 5/30/2009 9:48:33 AM
"Show thyself as you are. Stand in the open." -Rabindranath Tagore

Unenlightened Sage

Joined: 12/23/2005

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Favorite romantic movie scene Posted: 5/11/2009 5:24:46 PM
The one I remember first is the scene, in "Terms of Endearment", where Shirley MacLaine returns to the motel, after leaving her dying daughter, at the hospital, to find Jack Nicholson waiting for her, on the stairs. He knew she needed him and he was there. Followed closely by my older favourite: Spencer Tracy's monologue in "Guess Who's Coming To Dinner". No matter how many times I see it, I always cry. Perhaps not what you'd think of as great romance, but the true meaning of love and decency.

Unenlightened Sage

Joined: 12/23/2005

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Why do so many women want to go to Italy? Posted: 1/24/2008 3:31:33 PM
Anyone who has to ask what's so great about Italy (or any other European country, for that matter), and why anyone else would want to go there, because they have no interest in it, themselves ..... in my opinion is..... You're right, it is a strange question...

Unenlightened Sage

Joined: 12/23/2005

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Okay, I made some adjustments... how does this look? Posted: 1/18/2008 11:25:47 AM
Hi Rob, Really, it's not a bad profile, at all... I would suggest changing your main photo to the third one in your list. It's much more complimentary than the one you've got up now. Take and add new photos regularly. In fact, if you change your main photo, often, people will take notice of you, because they'll be wondering who this new guy is. I was being ignored, until I changed my main photo, last week, now everyone's looking at me. I would suggest you change your first date ideas, too. They sound rather ambiguous, at the moment, and the last thing you want to do is give anyone the wrong impression of what you're expecting on your first date. The coffee shop, drink, dinner, thing is very cliche, but it is something that we're all comfortable with. Give mention to your favourite places... You might want to tell us more about yourself, who you are, and your outlook on life. Ask your friends, and family, what your good/annoying/mentionable points are, what they like about you, and write them down. Change your profile as you change. Give us something new to think about, every so often. Tell a joke, sing a song, entertain us... you want to get women's attention, so we'll consider you, for a few seconds... and that's all it takes. Add a bit more to what kind of woman you're looking for, as well. What you've got now sounds like a job ad. BTW, it's "a woman who" instead of "a woman that". I think the best way to see what makes a good profile is to check out other people's and see what you like in theirs. Modify what you like to suit yourself. It might be a bit too "romantic", therefore too hazardous, to mention Valentine's Day, and it's accoutrements, in your profile. It's not a day, those of us who, as of yet, have no one to spend it with, look forward to, and it brings up bad memories, of years past, and unpleasant connotations... And the last thing you want to do is have the first line of your profile reminding women of this. JMO Hope this helps.

Unenlightened Sage

Joined: 12/23/2005

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Do you think there should be laws against people who trick you into sexual encounters! Posted: 1/12/2008 1:09:29 PM
I like the way UKhopeful so eloquently summed up these matters, in message # 407. My answer: For goodness' sake, no! (I think only in America would anyone suggest such a thing.) In my opinion, this unfortunate state of affairs is what comes from bartering, and trading, and putting a value on sex, other than what there should be, the mutual exchange of physical, and spiritual, intimacies. OP, if your friends are thinking that by elevating sex to something that obligates a man to more than what he's willing to give, they are going to get whatever it is they want, from him, security, faithfulness, longevity of the relationship, they should realize they are mistaken and change their attitudes. This is old fashioned thinking that a marriage licence hardly guarantees, any more. Also, no one should allow themselves to be talked, or coerced, into sex, or anything that doesn't suit them, unless they are willing to accept the consequences. Each and every woman, and man, learns this, at some point in her, or his, life.

Unenlightened Sage

Joined: 12/23/2005

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Why do USA women like sex much more than Ontario women? Posted: 1/8/2008 4:03:36 PM
I was a slut for the entire month of December 2005 so, perhaps, we, Ontario women, just pick our moments. OP: Have you noticed any other social and cultural differences, between Canadians and Americans, in your travels?

Unenlightened Sage

Joined: 12/23/2005

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Funny Guys and the BBC Posted: 7/14/2007 9:31:33 AM
"There is increasing scientific interest in the possibility that positive emotional states are beneficial to health. We have shown associations between positive emotional states such as happiness and low levels of the stress hormone cortisol, and people with a more positive outlook also appear to be less affected by stressful events." This is common knowledge, isn't it, or is it only to people who realize it's better, all around, to be positive rather than negative? I'm assuming everyone else would rather be grumpy. Perhaps not as common is the fact that a brain works best if it's constantly expanding, with new thoughts, and new ideas, to keep it functioning, and well, for its duration. At the very least, laughter offsets the impact of mental stress,... The majority of people remain frowning, when I smile, at them, as I walk down the street..... and I'm always fully clothed. (Note to non-Anglophiles and Americans: The BBC, the British Broadcasting Corporation, is the home of "Monty Python's Flying Circus", "One Foot In The Grave", and many more remarkably funny Britcoms.)

Unenlightened Sage

Joined: 12/23/2005

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Stranded First date..first impression goes awry Posted: 7/2/2007 7:17:06 AM
To all the women who are sympathizing with the OP, and his dating experience... and demoralizing his date, even more than he is, in public... What are you thinking??? Why are you putting yourself in his shoes and feeling sorry for this man? Imagine, for a minute, being the woman he was meeting... HE chooses you out of all his matches, to communicate with. You arrange to meet, after several e-mails, and three or four phone calls. You live two hours away from each other. This man has a vehicle, you do not. You are obliged to travel the entire four hour round trip, to him, so you can meet. The place you arrange to meet is his local watering hole, with his friends in attendance. He, obviously, puts his own safety, and convenience, before yours. And, when you finally get there, after many trials and tribulations due to your travelling companions, he is not pleased. You are not what he is expecting, physically. He makes a shallow attempt to be gentlemanly, at your plight, but he bails, after he realizes that you're not what he was hoping for. He is even of the opinion, at 3:00 a.m., after you have travelled five and a half hours to meet him, that you might be "chemically altered". And he's home, and fine, ten minutes later, while you're still standing in that parking lot. To the OP: "Like WHAT?!?!...", seriously, did you expect??? Did it ever occur to you that, because she was getting a ride with friends, no matter how early, in the evening, she arrived, that she may not have been able to get home, that night, or is this what you were intending/hoping for? If, after you met her, you decided she wasn't worth dating, was she going to be a one night stand, anyway? And you, OP, get to feel vindicated, and righteous, every time she continues to write to you, by rejecting her, because she didn't meet your expectations, and let you down... and, when you post all this, in a thread, making yourself sound wonderful, and putting this woman down, you get to have a lot of other women feel for your plight and, even more..... for you. There is a silver lining! (Don't let one date guilt trip you man... you deserve better than this, don't you? Stick to your principles!) OP, I am feeling a great deal of sympathy, at the moment, but it isn't for you, and your story. The women, reading this thread, though, can go ahead and fight over you, if they wish... because good men are in such short supply, that we have to encourage this kind of behaviour... I hope I haven't ruined the magic, by mentioning all this... To the OP's date: Consider yourself fortunate, and move on, please.

Unenlightened Sage

Joined: 12/23/2005

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Diamonds, size or quality??? Posted: 6/7/2007 7:16:38 PM
Well, if there's no wrong answer, and you're just looking for my opinion... When I realized that many of the current beliefs, and the romanticism, about diamonds, were started in 1938, as part of a huge marketing ploy, by De Beers, to boost sales of a relatively common stone, they had the monopoly on, I figured I really didn't want, or need, to have any. De Beers created the whole idea that the diamond is a symbol of love, and commitment, and therefore the ideal jewel for an engagement, or wedding, ring, you know... "A Diamond Is Forever"... et cetera, et cetera... So I'll say neither, as well. For anything else, quality over quantity, thanks.

Unenlightened Sage

Joined: 12/23/2005

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new phases of life... Posted: 6/7/2007 6:05:00 PM
Jenlou, This book will tell you everything, about everything, related to housekeeping. Should save you some time, and effort, too. I read it, a few months ago, to see what I've been missing, all these years. The first few chapters on WHY you're going doing all this, are especially good reading. "Home Comforts: The Art and Science of Keeping House" by Cheryl Mendelson. And lest anyone think that Ms. Mendelson has restricted herself, in life, by her love of housekeeping, from Wikipedia: "...She received her Ph.D. in Philosophy from the University of Rochester and her J.D. from Harvard Law School. She was formerly a professor of philosophy at Purdue University and Columbia University, and published essays in philosophy journals on medical ethics. She was also a lawyer with the firms of Debevoise & Plimpton; Skadden, Arps, Slate, Meagher & Flom; and others. In 1990-91 she was a Fellow at the Hastings Center.

Unenlightened Sage

Joined: 12/23/2005

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Sign’s He’s Just Not That Into You Posted: 6/7/2007 1:27:32 PM
^^^^^ Four of the best signs... If I didn't have any time to spend with my SO, I'd wonder why I was avoiding him. If my SO didn't have any time to spend with me, I'd, probably, understand, unless it was chronic. If my friends don't have time to spend with me, I understand, because I know how overwhelming their lives, often, are. If one of my dearest friends wanted to spend even a few minutes with me, and I didn't feel I could take the time, for them, I'd begin to question my priorities, in life.

Unenlightened Sage

Joined: 12/23/2005

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Why do some Males Expect First Date Sex Posted: 6/3/2007 2:31:58 PM
Thank you, Anabolic, for my next headline! sexypinklady47, she is right, though, about the photos. If you don't want guys thinking you're looking mainly for sex, or will have sex on the first date, it's best not to have pictures of you on your bed, at all, no matter how good you look... The outdoor shot is much nicer, and may get you more favourable responses. And, if you've posted this thread in Ask A Guy to get some attention, sorry to intrude...

Unenlightened Sage

Joined: 12/23/2005

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Would you give up your side of the bed? Posted: 6/2/2007 7:55:21 PM
Of course, it really doesn't matter which side of the bed I sleep on. Thanks for asking!

Unenlightened Sage

Joined: 12/23/2005

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If you see this man KICK HIM IN THE GROIN! Posted: 5/30/2007 9:01:03 AM
The women in Guelph must be really nice, if men have to go around asking, again, and again...

Unenlightened Sage

Joined: 12/23/2005

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Does anyone like being alone better? Can you take or leave having a relationship? Posted: 5/28/2007 8:32:31 PM
Snickers, there was an article in The New York Times, some months back, about just that. Couples in long term, monogamous, relationships were each choosing to keep their own homes, because they, each, liked living in their own space, with their own decor, their own kitchens, and their own housekeeping philosophies, and neither was willing to give up theirs to move in to their partner's. They decided, together, on sleeping arrangements. Weeknights at hers, weekends at his, time apart if they wanted it, for instance. So it is not without the realm of possibilities. As always, you just need to find a worthy partner...

Unenlightened Sage

Joined: 12/23/2005

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Want a man's opinion of your profile? Posted: 5/24/2007 11:48:54 PM
Rats, it's too late, Splinter's not doing reviews, any more. Seems a few ill tempered souls have ruined the fun for the rest of us. It's too bad!

Unenlightened Sage

Joined: 12/23/2005

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Want a man's opinion of your profile? Posted: 5/24/2007 11:13:33 PM
Hello, again, Splinter, Thank you for your review, of my profile, way back in the middle of April, and page 17. I've, finally, got it to where I like it, and with your advice, and even changed my name. Honestly, though, the last thing I'm trying to do is to appeal to EVERY man here, and rack up the numbers. I would, though, appreciate your opinion, as a "professional" profile reviewer. So, how do you like me now? Thanks, again, Sage

Unenlightened Sage

Joined: 12/23/2005

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Midgets with tails, am I small minded ? Posted: 5/22/2007 11:21:45 AM
OP, to answer your original questions... "am I small minded ?" Is my answer going to change the way you think? "Anyone else got any similar stories ?" Well, I once dated this guy, until I realized how narrow his mind was... Re, the icing... Was this woman really going to sell her house, move another country, and to your neighbourhood, so you could spend more time together, and be "friends", or do suppose she might have been yanking your tail?

Unenlightened Sage

Joined: 12/23/2005

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Vegetarian Cookbooks Posted: 5/6/2007 11:05:39 AM
I'm not much for cookbooks, but one that I found, second hand, years ago, and have loved, used, and can highly recommend, is "the Tassajara Bread Book" by Edward Espe Brown. (I'll look for copies of "Tassajara Cooking" and his other books.) Even if you're not a vegetarian, I would like to suggest, that learning how to make (without a machine), and bake, good bread, will be a worthwhile experience. Real food is to be valued. It's also a skill that impresses everyone, but, be warned, it is something else that shouldn't be attempted in your best suit. For anyone wanting to be a vegetarian, I would recommend, as mentioned in an earlier post, "Diet For A Small Planet" by Frances Moore Lappe, to familiarize yourself with the concept of complementary protein, as well as its companion book "Recipes For a Small Planet" by Ellen Buchman Ewald, for more examples. I was a vegetarian, in my earlier years, but found that I really do, and feel, better when eating some animal protein. I don't believe that everyone is suited to be a vegetarian, just as we're not all suited to be carnivores. I read "Eat Right 4 Your Type" by Peter D'Adamo, seven years ago, and found that, even though the concept is a bit farfetched, this diet has been better for me than any other. So, instead of beef, and chicken, which I'm happy to live without, I eat a lot of the other stuff: turkey, fish, eggs, and, occasionally, lamb, and pork. I realized, back in my vegetarian days, that there is one reason I could never be one: barbeque. I agree with you about bacon, as well...

Unenlightened Sage

Joined: 12/23/2005

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To many Dr. Phils evaluating threads Posted: 5/3/2007 2:52:02 PM
You skip novels, for your reasons, I'll skip short and sweet, yet meaningless, for mine. There are enough threads, here, to keep us both, and everyone else, happy. Therefore, it's all good.....

Unenlightened Sage

Joined: 12/23/2005

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To many Dr. Phils evaluating threads Posted: 5/3/2007 12:48:29 PM
I read the Forums to gain insight into other people, and the world, in general. I am enlightened by the opinions/viewpoints of others, and by their original thoughts. I find threads that are full of " are you alright?" or "Man it sucks when that happens" extremely boring, and pointless, and I move on to the next topic. (Fortunately, those threads end up being very short, and die, quickly.) I am grateful, everyone on this site has opinions, and views, and most are not reticent to share them with others. I find them all, and the personalities behind them, fascinating.

Unenlightened Sage

Joined: 12/23/2005

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Kissing & Mingling in Public @ 50 Posted: 5/1/2007 2:37:43 PM
I'm in favour of PDAs, of any kind, at any age. I believe if we were all more willing to participate in, and more at ease with witnessing, PDAs, we'd all relax more, in general, those Puritanical ghosts that still linger would be persuaded to depart, and the world, or North America, at least, would be a better place for it. I think the dividing line between acceptable, and objectionable, PDA's is whether they're done to express a genuine feeling of affection or whether they're simply a public display, to the available audience. If someone feels they have to prove to themselves, by proving to the rest of the world, that they are liberal/hip/openminded enough to initiate such actions, that they have someone who is willing to receive such attention, that they are a sexual being, or that they are wilder, or more "fun", than the rest of us, then I think it's time they realized such actions are futile. (I have worked in sales, for many years, and have been witness to some incredible displays...) I will endeavour, to do my part, to make the world a better place, from this day forward, particularly in any check out line.....

Alacritys Sage

Joined: 12/23/2005

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What causes things to go wrong? Posted: 4/26/2007 7:13:57 AM
Boy, the communication thing is a really tough sell, to men, isn't it?

Alacritys Sage

Joined: 12/23/2005

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What causes things to go wrong? Posted: 4/26/2007 6:55:10 AM
No, it wouldn't.

Alacritys Sage

Joined: 12/23/2005

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What causes things to go wrong? Posted: 4/25/2007 2:53:06 PM
Yes, it is a good thread, and the reason most of us are here, and the reason Steve's not getting many responses to his question. The rest of us are all (still) rather mystified by the whole dating, relationship, deal, ourselves. I think the reason that many people are less than ideal at dating, and have less than ideal dating experiences, is because they have an "enjoy the ride" mindset. No one ever learns anything this way. You can take, from a relationship, only as much as you are willing to put in. Learn and love, all you can, about yourself, and about relating to another, in each relationship, because they'll all be as different as the women you date, and how much you've learned, so far, about life and the world. The majority of your relationships won't be perfect, but they'll all be worth learning from. Consider each relationship for its own merits. Don't expect your first, but only your last, relationship to last a lifetime. Be friends with the women you date, so that the friendship will continue, after the relationship is over. About dating, itself, there are no rules, except those which you already know: be of good character (no cheating, games, or lying). Date women you respect, and who respect you. Don't do it just to get laid. Knowledge of anything is best learned by experience. The first thing I would suggest is not to worry, at all. Worry only causes insecurity, and you want to avoid insecurity, in dating, like the plague. Approach dating as you do any new experience in your life. Were you overcome with anxiety the first time you busted open your x-box 360 and lifted/rerouted traces(whatever this might mean)? Did you worry about it a couple of weeks, or months, before hand, to make sure you were doing the right thing, at the right time? Have self-confidence in dating, as in all aspects of your life. If any girl wants to spend time with you, if she's cool with you, it really won't matter what you do, and when. She'll, probably, want to do anything you want to do, or she'll have a few suggestions of her own. There is no optimum timing, in relationships. When the time is right for something to happen, it will happen, or it'll wait for another time. Which brings me to the most important aspect of any relationship: COMMUNICATION. Don't ever assume. Talk over everything. Women will love you for this, because it's unusual to find a man who can talk, openly, about his wants, and needs, and feelings. And it wears us out trying to get the rest of them to do/learn this. Say what's on your mind, very few of us are mind readers. This will lessen the misunderstandings that cause resentment, and bitterness, and problems, in relationships. Lastly, all men have an imperfection, or two, although most don't realize it. Have confidence, in this, too, and others will take note of, and be reassured by, your confidence. In a few months, or years, you'll be able to teach the old guys, on here, and many of the younger ones, a few things about dating and relationships.

Alacritys Sage

Joined: 12/23/2005

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What age? Posted: 4/23/2007 2:51:34 PM
If you can cook, and own a tuxedo, I'm willing to overlook that.....

Alacritys Sage

Joined: 12/23/2005

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What age? Posted: 4/23/2007 1:46:54 PM
Attractiveness is completely subjective and has no age limits. Realize the difference between needing to attract everyone, and needing to attract only those you want to attract. It is a movie actor's job to attract as many people, as he/she possibly can, so that you will pay to watch his/her movies. That is how all those actresses, in message # 62, make, and will continue to make, the huge salaries that they do, they persuade you to pay to see them. They do this either by their looks, or by their acting skills, or some combination of both. Which do you pay more attention to? Actors and actresses spend a great deal of time, and money, bettering their public facade, their looks, and they don't do this because it makes them feel better about themselves. Physical appearance has only as much, or as little, to do with attractiveness as you need/want it to have. If all you care about is how a person looks, then you will only be attracted to those people you think are "good looking". Consider how much individuality, attitude, self-confidence, intelligence, character, charm, grace, health, history, emotional maturity, familiarity, environment, and, yes, sexuality, accounts for what makes any person, male or female, young, or old, attractive to you. "Taking care of yourself" has as much to do with consideration of these qualities as it does about how you look. It also has to do with what you refuse to do to look "better" or "more" attractive. Realize that, there is a multi-billion dollar industry trying to persuade you that you need to look better, than you do, so that you will give them your money. Part, or most, of the persuasion is getting everyone to believe they, and everyone else, should use every beauty enhancing product they can, because..... Thus, a 35 year old man (message # 71) is of the opinion that every woman with grey hair should have it dyed, and get their nails done because "We expect it." Now, me, I think that all men, between the ages of 30 and 60, should be serious body builders, have long hair down to their waists, and have a meaningful (to them) Proust quote tattooed on their left butt cheek. I'm going to go add this to my profile.....

Alacritys Sage

Joined: 12/23/2005

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First attempt, critiques appreciated. Posted: 4/22/2007 5:51:26 PM
Yes, it's very good, I liked it, too, very intelligent and creative. There's nothing, really, to improve. You've grammar, and punctuation, down, and can spell! I wouldn't change a thing, except, as Ophelia says, a smile would, probably, make it a perfect profile. I'd add a few more interests, because I find I can tell much from an interest list. If, though, it's not getting the responses you'd like, though, you can always tweak it to suit your prospective audience, or ask around for more advice. There are people, here, who have made a hobby of profile reviewing, and they're easy to find. Checking out the "competition" is always good, for ideas, as well. I'm see if I can remember what alliteration is, I don't often get the chance to.....

Alacritys Sage

Joined: 12/23/2005

Msg: 28 (view)

From the horses mouth? Posted: 4/21/2007 1:56:52 PM
Desperation has a very bad reputation….. I think that all women (and men who will admit it) know what it's like to feel desperation, at some time in their lives, with regards to the opposite sex. We learn that desperation causes us feel in ways we that we just don’t care for, and are extremely counterproductive, so we learn how to, not only, avoid desperation, but to avoid giving any outward indication, of any possibility, of desperation. The majority, of us, after considerable soul searching, and rationalization, find it’s more comfortable, and enjoyable, to exist closer to the other end of the contentedness/desperation spectrum and may forget desperation even exists. We all choose how much or how little social interaction we can deal with, we are comfortable with, while keeping our desired position on the spectrum. This does, I believe, depend on the generation we were raised in, the degree to which we are able to change, without giving up what we consider to be our core values, and how important having a significant other is to us. There are those, of us, who are grateful to find, and can appreciate, anyone capable of an hour’s worth of semi-interesting conversation. There are those who don’t like to keep repeating ourselves and are waiting, for someone interesting enough, to say it all to, only once. Everyone has their own criteria for interesting, as well as for what constitutes a (worthy) conversation. I am in favour of more choices. I’d rather be picked out of a well-varied crowd, on my own merits, than be chosen simply because there are no better options. I’d rather do my choosing the same way. More, or fewer, choices, it's, as always, only going to be as complicated, or as simple, as we want it to be. It depends on how enlightened, we are, and how capable, we are, of making a decision.

Alacritys Sage

Joined: 12/23/2005

Msg: 398 (view)

Want a man's opinion of your profile? Posted: 4/17/2007 9:05:35 PM
I've been thinking of revising mine. I'd appreciate your opinion and suggestions. Thank you.....

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