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betterthanyourex.

Joined: 12/23/2005

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is it ok to dance with someone else? Posted: 12/17/2006 4:23:10 PM
"You can dance-every dance with the guy Who gives you the eye,let him hold you tight You can smile-every smile for the man Who held your hand neath the pale moon light But don't forget who's takin' you home And in whose arms you're gonna be So darlin' save the last dance for me" Go out...have fun...dance away and enjoy it. Of course you won't grind with some stranger, thats just trampy, and if someone makes you uncomfortable with the way they are dancing with you, you politely excuse yourself...but dancing is for fun and enjoyment, and my hunny can dance with other women and I can dance with other men. WE know we leave together and continue dancing later on ;) BTYX

betterthanyourex.

Joined: 12/23/2005

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I SURVIVED THE POF GUINNESS WORLD RECORD BASH !!!!! Posted: 8/27/2006 6:53:05 AM
Hey Kris and all. Great event as I have said before to Kris. Given the size of the task that was undertaken, the fact that it was all staffed by volunteers, and the obvious difficulty of organizing that number of people, I think it went well. I can only speak for myself, but I went in with NO expectations to meet the man of my dreams, only to experience the event and have fun in the process. I met some great people, some very interesting people, and would do it again in a heartbeat. I think that Kris would agree that a slightly more streamlined registration process might have alleviated some of the 'no show' problems, I think someone suggested prepaying as a way to avoid people not showing up. I would have happily paid on my credit card or through paypal or cheque in advance, to secure my position, and this would have allowed the organizers to have all my information electronically and would have negated the need for me to write it down manually at the event. Everything is better organized in hindsight right? Again, in all, a great event and I am glad that I attended! (da69devil...I am still patiently waiting for your web addy to view all those pics...there was one you took that I would like!) Thanks again. BTYX

betterthanyourex.

Joined: 12/23/2005

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>>> POF GUINNESS WORLD RECORD ATTEMPT AT SPEED DATING JULY 22ND BURLINGTON <<< Posted: 6/18/2006 6:43:43 PM
Signed up and can't wait. :) BTYX

betterthanyourex.

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burlington party june 3rd P-Nasty's Posted: 6/4/2006 10:16:56 AM
FUN FUN FUN PARTY!!! Body shots on the back bar with Angel Eyes.......fun timez. Good Dancing, great people...just all round good wholesome (!) fun! Thx Tall Chad et al. BTYX

betterthanyourex.

Joined: 12/23/2005

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posting on party thread wont work [CLOSED] Posted: 6/4/2006 5:45:59 AM
Hi! Went to great Burlington party last night but can't post on the thread.... Is there a problem do you think? BTYX

betterthanyourex.

Joined: 12/23/2005

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>>> Burlington Philthy McNasty's ENCORE POF PARTY - JUNE 3rd <<< Posted: 6/3/2006 3:13:55 PM
Getting ready now! cyou all there. BTYX

betterthanyourex.

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Poor Lizard...just leave him alone!!! (had me rolling in the aisles!) Posted: 5/25/2006 1:23:05 PM
Just had to clarify....Because some people have emailed me with concerns about me giving my last name etc.... I wasn't trying to pass this story on as my own, I just copied it from a message I got on a Bulletin board I belong to.... So my privacy is safe, and the lizard, I"m sure is still happy. :) BTYX

betterthanyourex.

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men keep there look longer then weman Posted: 5/6/2006 1:52:10 PM
Had to respond to this one. It's all been said before but I had to throw my coin in the jar here. As a 40 year old 'wemon' (okay, that is just cracking me up! Makes me wanna wun for a gwass of watah wiff a wemon in it) I am constantly told that I don't look my age, but this is not the point. The point is that women today are so much more aware of what they need to do to take care of themselves, as are men! There are people who choose to live a healthy lifestyle, stay active, not smoke (sorry, for those smokers out there...you know it's not healthy, but I won't preach) and take time for themselves so that the live a balanced happy life. There are also those who choose to lead a lifestyle that is detrimental to their health, but this is a choice that they make, and this lifestyle is often reflected in how they appear outwardly. So much of my 'look' is from my attitude. I stay positive, I value my family and friends and nurture positive relationships. Toxicity, whether it is from my physical environment or emotional environment is avoided at all costs. I play...as often as I can. THAT keeps me young. As for the OP....I would gently suggest an attitude adjustment. :) BTYX

betterthanyourex.

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How do you know if your being used? Posted: 4/13/2006 6:22:50 AM
^^^^ @ Barney... (Just beating Carrie to it) Um, punctuation? My eyes hurt from that...I want to respond to OP but brain is too sore....would love to offer my thoughts otherwise. BTYX (creeping away to find some paragraphs)

betterthanyourex.

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Whats the point........they dont read it anyways..... Posted: 3/29/2006 5:53:28 AM
I see yours..... Just my three and a half cents (not sense, or sence) OT - The point is, OP, they are making contact with you...thats what its all about BTYX

betterthanyourex.

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Whats the point........they dont read it anyways..... Posted: 3/29/2006 5:39:57 AM
Thinks Carrie rocks. <<<<< However, prefers Manolos (we can debate another time) OP - Men are visual, they see a hot woman, they pounce. We have to humour them. This is just all part of the total 'experience'. I have had my 'disclaimers' on my profile for over a month now, and finally had to hide my profile as I was still getting letters from prospective suitors. One thing I did when I joined, was disable IM's to people not on my favourites list. I found the whole IM thing here just ridiculous as I tried to answer one and another popped up and overrode my typing...that combined with the fact that I couldnt see their profile with my pop-up settings, just made the whole thing an exercise in futility. There is something to be said for someone who takes 2 minutes to write a quick email to you instead of the instant gratification of an IM. This should help weed out the creepies who don't have the time or inclination to read your profile. Good luck to you. BTYX

betterthanyourex.

Joined: 12/23/2005

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Poor Lizard...just leave him alone!!! (had me rolling in the aisles!) Posted: 3/28/2006 6:31:16 AM
If you have raised kids (or been one), and gone through the pet syndrome including toilet-flush burials for dead goldfish, the story below will have you laughing out LOUD! Overview: I had to take my son's lizard to the Vet. Here's what happened... Just after dinner one night, my son came up to tell me there was so something wrong with one of the two lizard he holds prisoner in his room. "He's just lying here looking sick," he told me. "I'm serious, Mom. Can you help?" I put my best lizard-healer expression on my face and followed him into his bedroom. One of the little lizards was indeed lying on his back, looking stressed. I immediately knew what to do.... "Honey," I called, "come look at the lizard!" "Oh my gosh," my husband diagnosed after a minute. "She's having babies!" "What?" my son demanded. "But their names are Bert and Ernie, Dad!" I was equally outraged. "Hey, how can that be? I thought we said we didn't want them to reproduce," I accused my husband. "Well, what do you want me to do, post a sign in their cage?" he inquired. (I actually think he said this sarcastically!) "No, but you were supposed to get two boys!" I reminded him, (in my most loving, calm, sweet voice, while gritting my teeth together).... "Yeah, Bert and Ernie!" my son agreed. "Well, it's just a little hard to tell on some guys, you know." He informed me. (Again with the sarcasm, you think?) By now the rest of the family had gathered to see what was going on. I shrugged, deciding to make the best of it. "Kids, this is going to be a wondrous experience," I announced. "We're about to witness the miracle of birth. " OH, Gross!" they shrieked in unison. "Well, isn't THAT just great! What are we going to do with a litter of tiny little lizard babies?" my husband wanted to know. (I really do think he was being snotty here, too, don't you?) We peered at the patient. After much struggling, what looked like a tiny foot would appear briefly, vanishing a scant second later. "We don't appear to be making much progress," I noted. "Its breech," my husband whispered, horrified. "Do something, Mom!" my son urged. "Okay, okay." Squeamishly, I reached in and grabbed the foot when it next appeared, giving it a gingerly tug. It disappeared. I tried several more times with the same results. "Should I call 911?" my eldest son wanted to know. "Maybe they could talk us through the trauma." (You see a pattern here with the men in my house?) "Let's get Ernie to the vet," I said grimly. We drove to the vet with my son holding the cage in his lap. "Breathe, Ernie, breathe," he urged. "I don't think lizards do Lamaze," his father noted to him (Men can be so cruel to their own young. I mean what he does to me is one thing, but this boy is of his loins, for God's sake.) The vet took Ernie back to the examining room and peered at the little animal through a magnifying glass. "What do you think, Doc, a C-section?" I suggested scientifically. "Oh, very interesting," he murmured. "Mr. and Mrs. Cameron, may I speak to you privately for a moment?" I gulped, nodding for my son to step outside. "Is Ernie going to be okay?" my husband asked. "Oh, perfectly," the vet assured us. "This lizard is not in labour. In fact, that isn't EVER going to happen.......Ernie is a boy. You see, Ernie is a young male. And occasionally, as they come into maturity, like most male species, they um...er....um.......masturbate. Just the way he didid, lying on his back." He stammered blushing, glancing at my husband. "Well, you know what I'm saying, Mrs. Cameron." We were silent, absorbing this. "So Ernie's just...just... well Excited," my husband offered. "Exactly," the vet replied, relieved that we understood. More silence. Then my vicious, cruel husband started to giggle. And giggle. And then even laugh loudly. "What's so funny?" I demanded knowing, but not believing that the man I married would commit the upcoming affront to my flawless femininity. Tears were now running down his face. "It's just...that...I'm picturing... you pulling on it's...it's...teeny little..." he gasped for more air to bellow in laughter once more. "That's enough," I warned. We thanked the Veterinarian and hurriedly bundled the lizards and our son back into the car. He was glad everything was going to be okay. "I know Ernie's really thankful for what you've done, Mom," he told me. "Oh, you have NO idea," my husband agreed, collapsing with laughter. * 2 - Lizards - $140... * 1 - Cage - - - $ 50... * Trip to the Vet - $ 30.............. Memory of your wife pulling on a lizard's wacker. Priceless!!! Doesn't anyone know lizards lay eggs??

betterthanyourex.

Joined: 12/23/2005

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Im Thinking Of Emma's Back Porch - Burlington Posted: 3/21/2006 8:27:07 AM
Never heard that Emma's was haunted, but I'm a relatively new Burlingtonian. I know a few other POF locals that I could probably convince to come by, sounds like fun! btyx

betterthanyourex.

Joined: 12/23/2005

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DVP Posted: 3/2/2006 12:05:25 PM
silly me, thought this was a thread on traffic tips in Toronto :( I'll never be able to drive the DVP again without smiling. BTYX

betterthanyourex.

Joined: 12/23/2005

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How do you choose from the women on this wonderful site? Posted: 2/27/2006 5:18:13 PM
mole? foal? poll? hole? very short dude who has four lovers? do I win?

betterthanyourex.

Joined: 12/23/2005

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How do you choose from the women on this wonderful site? Posted: 2/27/2006 5:14:15 PM
"Revelation: Not everyone on the interweb is telling the truth. " NOOOOOOOOOOOOOO, say it isnt so.... (interweb?) sorry, couldnt resist - just in a playful mood BTYX

betterthanyourex.

Joined: 12/23/2005

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How do you choose from the women on this wonderful site? Posted: 2/27/2006 4:36:48 PM
I started to respond and took a look at your profile. Let me get this straight. You signed up today. You are married, looking for an affair and already love 4 young beautiful, intellegent..(intellIgent) and witty women from here.... What to say, what to say...... help anyone? BTYX

betterthanyourex.

Joined: 12/23/2005

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How much does one's Handle matter? Posted: 2/27/2006 12:58:03 PM
Essentially when I get an email from someone, I always glance at the name, but unless it is something blatantly offensive I don't often give it much credence. Having said that, I would question a man who has "timidmonkey" or "imapushover" or something for a handle that didn't sound like the kind of person that I would personally be interested in. Actually, when you think of it, our nickname many times reflects how we feel about ourselves, (I know, I bet people think that I have a pretty high opinion of myself now in relation to their exes....bring it on!) or how we would like to be perceived. Hence the "longhotschlong69er"s in the bunch want people to think they are the next Ron Jeremy and the "sexykittygurl"s want the men to come running. Personally I don't want my nickname to send that message initially. I like the fact that some peoples nicknames suggest a confidence in themselves that I find sexier or more attractive than the obvious ones. Am I just rambling? Perhaps, but I would say that yes, I do look at handles and would think twice about replying to one that is too forward. Theres a time and a place for that should people decide to chat and go down that road! BTYX

betterthanyourex.

Joined: 12/23/2005

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How much does one's Handle matter? Posted: 2/27/2006 12:44:59 PM
I think that someone who took time to give themselves a good nickname really means a lot, and absolutely agree that any post w/ a sexual reference is a complete turnoff to me. As for my name, I did steal it from an article I read, but I find most find it amusing and not offensive...still makes me chuckle when I see it...and I love a clever nickname! BTYX

betterthanyourex.

Joined: 12/23/2005

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FOR SALE AND WANTED Posted: 2/27/2006 11:50:00 AM
You should check out www.freecycle.org I've belonged there for about 10 months now and it is a great resource. I believe it is North America wide but all local. Good luck! BTYX

betterthanyourex.

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Never thought i was this stupid.... Posted: 2/20/2006 8:57:41 AM
So sweet, I have had the exact same thing happen to me. Bottom line...people do this. Men do it, women do it. They change their minds, and decide that they don't want to have the balls to tell you in person. They leave. They don't return phone calls or emails. You begin to feel like you are stupid for letting them get to you that way, but they were sincere, the words and emotions you shared were so very real. You were making plans, talking future and then one day they give you a kiss and drive away and thats it. It's not one man, its many men and many women...I've never done it, I can say that with all honesty, but people do it. It sucks, and it hurts and it makes you want to give up or get even... I tried to email you, but you wont accept from someone so far away...I'd love to talk if you want. I'm a good listener. you can email me and get my msn if you want. Betterthanyourex.

betterthanyourex.

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Better than a sharp stick in the eye! Posted: 2/15/2006 1:55:29 PM
Wildatheart... I have never written a profile review, but I have read yours....happened to come across it in the "I'm moving to Canada" post you had yesterday. I tried to write to you but alas you have restrictions on that. I will say that I think your profile is full of very valid and intriguing points. I'm sure that given your profile photo you will have no worries with women being interested, and that point is hit home in what you have to say. You might want to just get in there with the good ol' return key and spin it into a couple of paragraphs to make it a little easier to read, but otherwise, full of fantastic information. I'm sure you will find her...and if you feel like writing to me....I suppose I could lift the U.S. restriction! Cheers, betterthanyourex

betterthanyourex.

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I'm moving to Canada Posted: 2/14/2006 12:34:42 PM
^^^^^^^^^ Becky, I tried to edit my name, some young thing in Tennessee or something who is looking for bi chicks has it. :( Now I'm just more individual...either that or people think I can't spell! Betterthanyourex

betterthanyourex.

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I'm moving to Canada Posted: 2/14/2006 11:48:26 AM
Tried to email you wild...Chicago is not that far from Toronto! I've read this before, that many of the American guys on this site think that the Canadian girls are hot...Now we all know that generalizations can be tricky, but I know that for me and my circle of friends, we are all active, health conscious, and like to take care of ourselves by keeping physically and intellectually active all the time! As for the whale blubber, I like mine on a salad of mesclun greens with a little shaved white truffle for garnish. :) Cheers! betterthanyourex (v was a typo..grrr)

betterthanyourex.

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Am I less of a man if I sit down on the toilet to pee? Posted: 2/2/2006 1:53:02 PM
All I can say is that my ex used to always pee sitting down when at home (except when he came in from work, he always had to pee 'real bad' when he came home from work and then he would stand...explain that one please) and I never thought him as less of a man. Now, hen he decided to sleep w/ his secretary....THEN he was less of a man... I digress. I used to work with a guy who basically said it this way..."why not take a load off if you have the chance to sit down and take a little break"? Glad women don't have the "I'm less of a woman if I..." issue...maybe I should start one? nope...happy to contribute to others. Thx for the thread nosoup! betterthanyourex (v was a typo :( )

betterthanyourex.

Joined: 12/23/2005

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With U getting so many emails,what are/ have been the best ways2 break through&get U2 hook up? Posted: 2/1/2006 1:35:20 PM
Second post ever in the forums. While home sick I'm having a chuckle here and I think that the OP has waaaaay too much time on his hands! You're a posting machine! As for your question, totally agree w/ blondegreeneyedgal...at POF where they don't have a specific 'area' for hooking up (ie. section devoted to intimate encounters) perhaps you would be better off going to a website designed for that only...and no, I cannot suggest any cuz thats not the main reason I'm here....it's just the nice positive bonus that you get when you meet someone awesome who is not only about the sex. You think you're all that and a ham sandwich...you certainly are prolific! betterthanyourex (the v was a typo :()

betterthanyourex.

Joined: 12/23/2005

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I now understand why guys don't like dating single moms Posted: 1/5/2006 3:10:04 PM
Interesting post. This is my inaugural post here on the forums at POF but I thought I'd throw in my 2 cents worth(course, they are Canadian 2 cents so thats about 1 1/2 cents :)) I tend to only date men with kids, and find that the ones who have their kids more often (1/2 and 1/2 or more) are great to date because they understand the demands of being a parent, but also have the desire to share their life and free time with someone adult. Life is too short to whine and complain about what a bad hand you have been dealt. Needless to say, this is meant with no disrespect to people who truly have been in abusive relationships, or have lost people close to them etc. I firmly believe that the first year after a breakup is the time when you work on the issues that you need to, don't run out and start dating because you will end up using people as sounding boards and end up as the OP suggested, in this situation where men avoid you like the plague! I found a great shrink after my marriage ended, my relationships with certain girlfriends, and guy friends got closer and stronger, and when the time was right, I started dating again and have definately enjoyed it that much more. Dating men with out kids is more difficult because, as I say in my profile, they just don't get it. PLEASE don't lambaste me for this last remark, I realize that people that don't have kids can still enjoy them, and be perfectly great boyfriends but I do find that in general, men without kids, don't want someone elses, can't say I blame them. Many men in my age range want to have their first child, and a mom with three of her own is generally not a good bet for that one. Great thread, and thank you for bearing with this virgin poster. Be gentle. betterthanyourex. (I typo-d on my original setup :( )

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