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Rufus_Stone

Joined: 12/24/2005

Msg: 46 (view)

First Contact Men Vs. Women Posted: 1/29/2006 2:05:50 PM
Hmmmm....you learn something new every day.

Rufus_Stone

Joined: 12/24/2005

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Let me rate your profile... Posted: 1/11/2006 3:36:01 PM
Pun-Kin, Grammatical errors my a***! Economy dear girl, economy.

Rufus_Stone

Joined: 12/24/2005

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is it wrong to be dating more than one person at a time? Posted: 1/10/2006 1:59:35 PM
Repeat post, genuine error. Bad server response.

Rufus_Stone

Joined: 12/24/2005

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is it wrong to be dating more than one person at a time? Posted: 1/10/2006 1:58:54 PM
I don't even think that constitutes a relationship - folks could basically tell you anything when they're hiding behind a computer screen... I agree, but I've met many very good friends over the Internet, who have translated ino real physical friendships in real life! The friendships were forged and committed to, on the Net in all cases. I was as surprised as could be, but it does work. They call me Rufus of course, which is not my real name, but I now answer to it! I should change my name by deed poll!

Rufus_Stone

Joined: 12/24/2005

Msg: 44 (view)

punk and oi! bands old and new Posted: 1/10/2006 1:02:10 PM
Punk hit me hard when I was 15. Stormed my part of surburbia, but it seemed I was the only one who it transformed. Seems like history nowadays but at the time it was revolutionary. Set me free, made me me, never been the same since. Oi was late, Punk was over by then. Then you find out where it originates. Iggy and the Stooges, as has been mentioned, especially Fun House. New York Dolls, Bowie was an influence, but ultimately the VU.

Rufus_Stone

Joined: 12/24/2005

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is it wrong to be dating more than one person at a time? Posted: 1/10/2006 12:46:36 PM
Is it possible to be committed to one person on the Internet? Without meeting them in person?

Rufus_Stone

Joined: 12/24/2005

Msg: 817 (view)

Let me rate your profile... Posted: 1/10/2006 9:36:56 AM
Your profile is very confusing to me... I'm not going to review it... Try one of the others who have a thread... Sorry Pun-Kin, it would take more than a cursory glance I guess? Some assessment If the others offering this service are as superficial then I'll not bother thanks.

Rufus_Stone

Joined: 12/24/2005

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what stops you from posting in the forums Posted: 1/10/2006 4:25:15 AM
^^^ don't hold your breath! I tried this once or twice. No go.

Rufus_Stone

Joined: 12/24/2005

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what stops you from posting in the forums Posted: 1/9/2006 3:54:43 PM
Laughing so hard I can't type mostly!

Rufus_Stone

Joined: 12/24/2005

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Relationship Sex, Physical or Emotional? Posted: 1/6/2006 5:59:16 PM
Makes perfect sense to me. Sex is an emotionally uplifting bonding experience for me. Commit to me, take it away and you are screwing with my core being. I see the act of sexual union as almost mystical. Orgasm or not!

Rufus_Stone

Joined: 12/24/2005

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Can a person be 0% responsible for 100% of their failed relationships? Posted: 1/5/2006 3:44:38 AM
This woman of yours needs urgent help. She is desperately unhappy with own self, its not you. Suggest counselling. If she freaks at the suggestion then you'll know I'm right! If after a few days cooling off she comes back to the idea then she is close to admitting it to herslf and you may have a slim chance of changing the situation. Otherwise, run...as fast as you can! See if you can catch me up on the way !

Rufus_Stone

Joined: 12/24/2005

Msg: 102 (view)

How many of you would read your lovers private e-mail ? Posted: 1/5/2006 3:28:05 AM
Trust is something we give people until they show that they are not worthy of our trust Just about sums it up for me. However, It's what happens after the trust is broken that is the problem. My last relationship broke down after I 'apparently' broke that trust, which I did not do intentionally. Its matters not what I actually did, it is the 'truth' that formed in her head that really mattered, the truth, or rather the actual truth was neither here nor there. The only truth that really mattered in the end was that truth formed as a series of mental images in her head, of my misdemeanours! Nothing I could say or do had the power change that; not evidence, nor witness accounts, nothing. I really did nothing more than form a too close personal relationship with another woman who she could not properly monitor. She had no control over me. But nothing really happened anyway, and nothing ever would have! Result was a collection in her head, of fragments of truth augmented with her own fabrications. Over time this compound narrative of my supposed exploits resulted in the utter destruction of a perfectly functional and happy family. I could not stop it happening. In the end I began to believe that her version of events was the actual truth. Her story was repeated so often that it began too replace mine in my head! I realised that I had no option but ask her forgiveness for something I had not done!! I had folded! If only she had read my diary or my text messages at the time. We'd still be together now. I wish she had snooped on me....

Rufus_Stone

Joined: 12/24/2005

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why do many women expect men to make the first move? Posted: 1/5/2006 3:03:59 AM
I don't think that is true at all Livewire, well certainly not in my case. I want a women who is sexually open but still committed 100% to the relationship. Seems many women can't do this easily. Dead sex = dead relationship, I think.

Rufus_Stone

Joined: 12/24/2005

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why do many women expect men to make the first move? Posted: 1/4/2006 4:02:49 PM
I actually think that women nearly always make the first move, but it is so subtle, you blink and the moment is gone. Its an eye thing, like subliminal messaging, a split second of contact.

Rufus_Stone

Joined: 12/24/2005

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Let me rate your profile... Posted: 1/4/2006 3:50:14 PM
OK tell me what mine says about me. I change it every other day or so though! I get so bored with spouting utter rubbish about myself, rather just post up stuff like that story and send out mails to my chat interests. I get replied to though, so must be OK'ish?

Rufus_Stone

Joined: 12/24/2005

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How many of you would read your lovers private e-mail ? Posted: 1/4/2006 4:41:54 AM
Do you want someone reading your diary? Well if you don't burn it on New Years Eve then I suppose yes, eventually! Why else would anyone write down their thoughts and feelings if not for an audience? Being a diarist means practising a literary form of sorts, surely? Imagine the horror of being the devoted spouse who discovers the lies post-mortem!

Rufus_Stone

Joined: 12/24/2005

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How many of you would read your lovers private e-mail ? Posted: 1/3/2006 6:43:04 PM
Crunchberryies wrote, I dont have to walk around with the fear of someone finding out I agree with this wholeheartedly! I leave all my channels open to scrutiny for this very reason.

Rufus_Stone

Joined: 12/24/2005

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How many of you would read your lovers private e-mail ? Posted: 1/3/2006 6:26:45 PM
Depends what is at stake, surely? Anyone here ever been in the position where the messages a partner sends to others might contain crucial information that if got to early enough might allow some measure of damage limitation? When the home, the business, the car, the kids and the dog are at stake, and every word that issues from her pretty lips is a lie, then you'll look into anything, and with good cause. Men stand to lose badly. Women in England trust that the law will rob husbands of everything for them. At the height of my troubles I was instructed by my advisors to keep a comprehensive diary. Things were so bad, and so much crap was flying my way, that I wrote 17,000 words over two months! I made copies, lodged them with trusted friends, and then let her find my diary.... Two days later I found my troubles easing! Split was 'amicable' and financially 'reasonable'.

Rufus_Stone

Joined: 12/24/2005

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What kind of kisser are you? Posted: 1/3/2006 10:07:12 AM
11 of course! I'm a active kisser who likes to explore around the neck and ears. I think girls enjoy it if you are enjoying it...oh, and I like to make it obvious that I'm smelling them and enjoying it !

Rufus_Stone

Joined: 12/24/2005

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Question for the Men re: Flirting Posted: 1/3/2006 10:04:43 AM
At first the signs of attraction are obvious, the girl twirls her hair, meets your eyes for longer than usual and looks flushed in your presence. Next thing that is going to happen is she is going to touch you. If she don't you have no chance, if you don't touch her back within one minute you've lost her. Women make all the moves that matter, in my experience. Men just have to know how to decipher them and respond instantly. Did you touch him yet Webgrrl?

Rufus_Stone

Joined: 12/24/2005

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Men and their children Posted: 1/1/2006 1:37:36 AM
Touche, SDIF! Happy New Year to you! Distance is no problem BTW! You heard of airplanes?

Rufus_Stone

Joined: 12/24/2005

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Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ?? Posted: 12/31/2005 12:10:44 PM
Muscles? Those gained by sawing logs or riding bikes or climbing hills mean something to me. Gym freaks? No stamina! Look big, but act small!

Rufus_Stone

Joined: 12/24/2005

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becoming a moderator?? Posted: 12/31/2005 11:42:36 AM
Best thing about being a mod on any forum is that world that exists beyond the pale! The golden world of hidden worlds beyond view of the general public!

Rufus_Stone

Joined: 12/24/2005

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Men and their children Posted: 12/31/2005 10:51:01 AM
You're speaking a lot, but saying nothing SDIF. Move on! Opportunist? Pejorative term meaning person who places expediency above principle, I believe? Becca can be the judge of that

Rufus_Stone

Joined: 12/24/2005

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Online dating and the politics of narcissism Posted: 12/31/2005 8:47:45 AM
I think I can see my reflection in the monitor You got it! My thoughts exactly!

Rufus_Stone

Joined: 12/24/2005

Msg: 51 (view)

Men and their children Posted: 12/31/2005 8:23:09 AM
So are you Becca! Let no-one tell you otherwise, right? You're passionate, nothing else matters much

Rufus_Stone

Joined: 12/24/2005

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becoming a moderator?? Posted: 12/31/2005 7:46:42 AM
Previous experience? It's a tough job believe me. You want it then apply by all means! Be careful you don't lose the rest of your life to it!

Rufus_Stone

Joined: 12/24/2005

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Men and their children Posted: 12/31/2005 7:33:53 AM
You're just competing with me for Becca !

Rufus_Stone

Joined: 12/24/2005

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Why no quote post, edit post facility here? Posted: 12/31/2005 6:35:12 AM
BigpapaG, I just crossed a forum line posting in Sports. Invited people to rate my bike picture!! Just for fun you understand...? Can't edit it though, so it stands. Not so good. Probably get my knuckles rapped ! [Consider them rapped :p /Forum_Moderator]

Rufus_Stone

Joined: 12/24/2005

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SINGLES VENUES IN LONDON Posted: 12/31/2005 6:30:16 AM
Bar Soho on a Saturday night! Old Compton Street. You can't miss the continuous street party. The whole road packed solid with people having a good time. Good restaurants and very cheap if you know where to go! Everything you could want is in that street. IMHO don't bother with anywhere else. The place that Londoners go to rave is Soho. The rest is suburban visitors, except Brick Lane for a curry. You want something more relaxed and laid back then go to Angel Islington and look around. You need somewhere with a few sofas to smooch on with your date then there's a pub I know! London is great but you can waste your precious time.

Rufus_Stone

Joined: 12/24/2005

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Why no quote post, edit post facility here? Posted: 12/31/2005 6:07:50 AM
I see you can quote! Doh! Not used much though....on other forums I just hit a button on the persons post that I want to quote. Makes sense to me

Rufus_Stone

Joined: 12/24/2005

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Falsified Profiles Posted: 12/31/2005 5:30:10 AM
If someone is posting in the forums, is that not a good indicator that that person is genuine? Not been here long enough to be sure (1 week!) but it seems to me to be an interested engagement beyond merely fishing for fools!

Rufus_Stone

Joined: 12/24/2005

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Men and their children Posted: 12/31/2005 4:30:42 AM
Just don't get pompous as you age, like SDIF Becca

Rufus_Stone

Joined: 12/24/2005

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Why no quote post, edit last post facility here? Posted: 12/31/2005 4:00:21 AM
One of the greatest difficulties I have with POF is the lack of the aformentioned facilities. I know they can be terribly abused but strict moderation weeds out the miscreants, who are always in my experience best got rid of anyhow. At least give it a trial in the 'Over 30's'. Surely we would be mature enough to use such facilities properly. As it stands, seems we're always restricted to talking in a linear fashion. Hardly conversation is it?

Rufus_Stone

Joined: 12/24/2005

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Online dating and the politics of narcissism Posted: 12/31/2005 3:48:06 AM
So, who are you in all this? The tragic Narcissus or the equally tragic, nearly forgotten, yet redeemable Echo?

Rufus_Stone

Joined: 12/24/2005

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Never mind the buzzc0cks Posted: 12/26/2005 8:58:00 AM
...And The Gods Made Love: Have you ever been (have you ever been) to Electric Ladyland? Tire tracks all across your back I can see you had your fun!!

Rufus_Stone

Joined: 12/24/2005

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Never mind the buzzc0cks Posted: 12/26/2005 8:29:43 AM
You know you’re a cute little heartbreaker Foxy You make me wanna get up and scream Foxy

Rufus_Stone

Joined: 12/24/2005

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so, why are you still single? Posted: 12/26/2005 5:43:11 AM
6-1 ! Wow! That's shortened odds. I'd guesss you could just write 'available' on your forehead and score?

Rufus_Stone

Joined: 12/24/2005

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Is it me, or is this a tall order guys? Posted: 12/26/2005 5:39:37 AM
I think some women like utter b'stards but can't handle the reality of that after the fact, because a real male b'stard is rare but when they are they are that for life. Irreversible. I tried being just that once and to my surprise the gels loved it....but I hated myself! So I stopped being a cad and lost my shirt! I now think women want a pure man, a dirty b'stard, a hard man and a soft man in the one skin. I think I want the same in females. If it was easy I'd be bored senseless, in all honesty. Women can be as difficult as possible but I was hooked from birth! They just look so delicious...

Rufus_Stone

Joined: 12/24/2005

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What do women over 40 want? Posted: 12/26/2005 5:27:15 AM
And hot and passionate is something we over 40's certainly are, but we are frustrated by the fact that we know we'd love to 24 again but with only on the condition that we keep the 40 year old head!

Rufus_Stone

Joined: 12/24/2005

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Attracting Women: An unteachable skill? Posted: 12/25/2005 5:05:14 PM
Take a look at the top 500 most attractive. Utter bollocks IMHO! The first 300 are total airheads, I'm right, you know this! Get a good photographer, alter the inevitably crap results with photoshop and then get to work! Don't give up!

Rufus_Stone

Joined: 12/24/2005

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What do women over 40 want? Posted: 12/25/2005 4:24:58 PM
Their cake and eat it, I believe.

Rufus_Stone

Joined: 12/24/2005

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Is there really a Santa Claus Posted: 12/24/2005 4:05:16 PM
Amen Pierre! Amen.

Rufus_Stone

Joined: 12/24/2005

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so, why are you still single? Posted: 12/24/2005 11:34:26 AM
No it don't bc_cowgirl. You keep your standards high girl. Low standards = low self esteem.

Rufus_Stone

Joined: 12/24/2005

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so, why are you still single? Posted: 12/24/2005 11:30:52 AM
Y2J2006, no clue who they are cos I'm English! That makes me honorary female, right? So qualified to comment. Just looked like a string of conquests to me...

Rufus_Stone

Joined: 12/24/2005

Msg: 47 (view)

so, why are you still single? Posted: 12/24/2005 8:54:45 AM
You should drop the pics with female in tow mate! No wonder!

Rufus_Stone

Joined: 12/24/2005

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sharing our holiday wishes with other POFer's Posted: 12/24/2005 6:24:10 AM
Anyone wanna meet up in Bar Soho, Old Compton Street, New Years Eve? Its hot trust me!

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