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MT.PLEASANT POF SINGLES PARTY MARCH 28TH 2009 AT BOOMERS NIGHT CLUB AT 8PM Posted: 3/24/2009 8:39:05 AM
I flaked out at the last 3 parties...Maybe I'll grow some bawls of steel and actually make this one. Chants: don't flake out, don't flake out, don't flake out....

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Why are some girls so quiet? Posted: 3/24/2009 8:17:02 AM
You already stated that you wished for someone more outgoing, someone who would hang off your arm like an accessory at social settings. If she's not that kind of girl, don't go wasting her time, or yours. I guess, if you get the vibe that she has the potential to be more social, test her out at a party scene. If she declines, then you have your answer. There's nothing wrong with a shy/quiet gal; maybe you're just not ready?

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Review? Posted: 2/26/2009 5:10:15 AM
Haha, I can tell one of those pics is a shark pic...I have one of those, where my brother is standing in the mouth like he was half eaten and I'm standing next to it where you're standing, cackling madly. You should try to wear something sharp and appealing, and have a picture of it. You know, one of those pics where women can imagine themselves standing next to you at a nice restaurant.

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is it too much? Posted: 2/24/2009 6:06:53 PM
Hmm, much better :) A bit redundant in some places (especially when you use the " kinda guy" phrasing), and could use some paragraphing, but otherwise sounds much more modest and approachable. Very much less intimidating than your first profile.

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The Merkin... Posted: 2/24/2009 9:47:43 AM
w...oo...ww..... ok, so i've been splitting my side after google imaging it and clicking on a football fan who stuffed a blond wig into his jersey pants, legs spread eagle, and a grin on his face.

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Attack me if your dare, i will crush you! Posted: 2/24/2009 8:48:56 AM
I dunno, looks like he's trying to attract a SPECIFIC type of girl, and I think a profile like this would help him find her. It certainly won't gain a lot of popularity with a majority of ladies on this site, and won't gain him many responses in general, but the few who respond are people who are more attuned to his personality. I like it, probably because it's very honest, without revealing too much, but a good window into his personality. Or maybe I like it, just because my tastes are similar, but either way as a woman, I find it a fairly solid profile. That, and it reads like the story that never ends, it just goes on and on my friends... I agree on the pictures though, may need something that is more flattering. :)

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is it too much? Posted: 2/24/2009 7:09:08 AM
Yeah, the "I Are" really struck me as odd. And to be honest, I didn't even read through the first section as I scrolled down and encountered a wall of text. Keep it simple. Be straight forward. Give the girls a "snap shot" of your best qualities. If you can't widdle it down, then you're just being a narcissist. You don't have to be a complete open book, that takes the fun out of dating. Why would someone want to read about your every aspect and have nothing left to discover about you in reality? And then...the toughest part of it all - you list that many "qualities" about yourself, you're going to have to live up to every one of them, or else it's just false advertizing, and will be forever known as "that guy".

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Tell me what this says? Posted: 2/24/2009 6:54:18 AM
GWSmith: If you look illiterate you may miss just the kind of people you're looking for; good spelling and decent punctuation are a must. I'd take this advice and apply it to initial IM's, and emails too. You want a good first impression. Not everybody is into internet slang, or conversing in such a casual tone the first time. The profile looks much improved. :)

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Best small towns in USA Posted: 2/19/2009 5:40:37 PM
Frankenmuth, Michigan. Such a cute little place, it's a little slice of Bavaria smack in the middle of vast farm lands. The restaurants there are great; they have the best chicken dinners, and even the servers wear traditional costumes. There's a christmas store (that boasts as the biggest in the WORLD) that's open...I think 364 days a year (I don't actually know WHICH day it's closed haha). They have several festivals a year, including Oktober fest, Bavarian fest, a summer music/polka fest. Most the buildings are Franconian-style architecture. AAAnnnnddd, if that doesnt hold your interest, it's very close to a large shopping center that features major brand name outlet stores. :)

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Heading to Paris/London next month...any tips?? Posted: 2/19/2009 5:30:54 PM
Will emphasize, because it has already been mentioned 3 times: CAMDEN TOWN. Fun atmosphere, and great shopping. I've been to Manchester and London for a little under a month, but I'm planning another trip like this later this year with my friend, so I can't wait to try the other non-touristy recommendations on here. :)

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Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all? Posted: 2/19/2009 1:00:42 AM
I think I wont bother having any public photos. I have a particular personality, and particular needs in a man, so they need to respond first and foremost to those needs. If they seem like the kinda guy who I can get along with, I have no problem sharing a picture then. Yeah...so what if a picture increases your responses by 90%. I want meaningful responses, and I'd hate to see them buried under a pile of BLAAAHHHHHH.

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Slept with 83 people Posted: 2/19/2009 12:10:52 AM
LOL, I'm sorry, I don't mean to outright laugh, but this reminds me of a reality show that I saw in the past. There are so many people who have said so far, NEVER exchange the number of partners you've been with; nothing good has ever come of it. This is a tiny bit off topic, but related. :) Well in this show, they find teenagers who are at odds with their parents, film before, during, and after therapy. So here's the background story: Mom finds out that her 16 daughter is sexually active, and suddenly becomes much more strict about who she sees, where she goes, and their relationship has deteriorated to yelling 24/7. Mother was pregnant with this child when she was 15, and doesn't want her daughter making the same mistakes as her. Mother is also in a long term relationship with a man who isn't the girl's father, and he is a decent guy who tries to soften things between mother and daughter by sharing objective points of view. So the psychologist expert comes in, and has them practice an exercise. Mom, her significant other, and daughter each have a large sheet of cardboard. Each of them must draw a stick figure for every person they had sex with. In addition, they had to emphasize the significance of the relationship with that person by size (drawing them big means there was a lot of emotional investment). They also had to be completely honest for this to work. So the mom wants daughter to show her card first. She has 2 big stick figures and 1 small. She drew a likeness of each guy by giving them hair or sneakers...aww how cute. Step dad turns his card, he has listed 3 as well, one fairly large size, a small figure, and a HUUUUUGE figure signifying his current relationship. Mom blushes and is all bashful and gives him a big hug. Mom...seems embarassed now, and turns her card..I can't remember the exact number but it was like, 38 or something. Of course, the last figure she drew was significantly bigger than all the others, but daughter and step dad were floored. The daughter starts cracking up because you absolutely know that she's screaming bloody hypocrite in her mind. Mom is humilated, but humbled. Well anyways, things end well; they became more open about their relationships to each other. So I guess the moral of the story is...it's absoloutely appropriate to talk about past relationships. Better get it out in the open, before it surfaces during a weak moment in the relationship. But, if this chick is serious about this guy, she would help the man understand exactly how he fits in this picture...just like using stick figure sizes to signify the level of importance. It let her partner know that he's the most important person to her at this very moment, and not just a tiny stick figure in the greater scheme of things.

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How long should sex last? Posted: 2/18/2009 6:04:42 AM
Yeah, this is just one of those questions that really depend on the individuals. Everyone has different wiring, and anatomy. I read somewhere that there's a large percentage of women who still have yet to experience a "multiple orgasm". I remember spending an entire day in bed on vacation with my ex...granted I may have only orgasmed twice that day, the rest of it was just enjoying the intimacy of intercourse...and trying many many positions that wouldn't necessarily stimulate me to have an orgasm. I'd be lying if I didn't say I was sore some of the time. I can count the number of intimate partners in one hand...(one mutated, 3 fingered hand... lol), and would say that on average, love making takes anywhere betweeen 30 mins to an hour with careful pacing, and when it lasts an hour, building up the energy creates an enormously powerful orgasm.

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Are you this guy? Or, Girls, have you dated a guy like this? What do I do... Posted: 2/18/2009 5:45:17 AM
Er...just to add to my last post, those methods do not sound very compassionate by most relationship standards, but he's such a delicate guy, and he's given me a gift that I can't return, so I feel that the responsible thing to do is to give him the time and effort that he deserves. I want to let him down gently, and maybe dissolving the relationship gradually will help him cope with it a little better as opposed to the cold-turkey-slash-wrist-end-of-world method.

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Are you this guy? Or, Girls, have you dated a guy like this? What do I do... Posted: 2/18/2009 5:37:45 AM
Coddish: He has probably learned more about himself in the time he's been with you than at any other point in his life. Hearing the "obvious" answer from someone like you really helps me find confidence in the decision I'm about to make. The only difference between you and him is that you're a pretty attractive dude. I can already tell he's going to have a tough time with the ladies. So I think I understand that I will have to break this relationship, and the reasons why from previous posters. But you've also given me suggestions on how to do it compassionately. Thanks.

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Are you this guy? Or, Girls, have you dated a guy like this? What do I do... Posted: 2/17/2009 9:25:09 PM
This is a hard pill for me to swallow, mostly because I really do care about him. I've read through all the constructive posts, and it's taking me awhile to digest because I think he deserves careful consideration. Thanks for the advice; now it's time to sleep on it for a day...or two

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Should I consider this a sign??? Posted: 2/17/2009 10:56:57 AM
Every woman has different anatomy down there. It's a fairly common issue for most women, because unlike men, our urethras are only an inch or so long, where men (depending on how well endowed they are:P) can be several inches. Several of the best methods of reducing this have already been mentioned. Another suggestion, use condoms. Sometimes semen and the process the woman's body takes in removing the substance can be irritating to the urethra. But above else, washing before and after, avoiding cunnilingus, and wiping from front to back are key elements in preventing UTIs. Don't let it ruin your relations!

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Queefing Posted: 2/17/2009 8:51:51 AM
LOL Vaxplant, that made my day. Yeah, it's embarassing, but having a good sense of humor in the sack can enhance the intimacy. There are a few tricks to preventing it from happening though. Sometimes you can sense the build up of air. If you have an opportunity (like switching positions), spread your labia and expell it with a strong contraction. Or, avoid having him fully exiting you and entering you repeatedly. Or, when he enters, contract your walls so there is no space to push air into. Ugh, so graphic. Can avoid it to some degree, but it'll still happen. :) have fun smexing!

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WHAT TO SAY ????? Posted: 2/17/2009 7:16:13 AM
I agree, as much as I love chattying with internet slang and shorthand, it's very unattractive for an initial email to be written in such a way.

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The Note Drop Posted: 2/17/2009 7:08:56 AM
I dunno, some people like to think they're young at heart forever, and there's nothing wrong with that. If nostalgia is one way to open up a conversation, why not? Just make sure you're getting that young at heart vibe from the person, because you'll get a really cold reception from the no-nonsense types :)

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Are you this guy? Or, Girls, have you dated a guy like this? What do I do... Posted: 2/17/2009 6:23:30 AM
Ok, so background story: I met a guy, he's sweet, funny, loves all the crazy things I love, plays video games with me, is shy, introvert. The problem? He's younger than me (not by much, about 2-3 years), lives at home with his brother and parents, has a low income job but doesnt bother him because he doesn't pay rent/mortgage anyways so he spends it all on entertainment, has an unrealistic career goal (programming in a tiny library software company that pays him minimum wage, and wants to end up in video game industry), is inexperienced in the real world in regards to finance and relationships, is overweight (I think he is a tad shy of morbidly obese) and until I met him, was a virgin. Ok, so I really like this man, but I left a previous relationship of +8 years because I couldn't build a family with my ex. This guy I'm seeing now, is so fun to be around, but I honestly can't see myself building a future with someone who "thinks" he is ready, but his entire life doesn't reflect readiness. He says he's eager to have kids, but maybe he's just eager in the baby making process? To make matters worse, because of the way he looks, and his personality, I have a feeling that he's pitting all his hopes for happiness with a woman on me, thinking he'll NEVER find another girl again. So he's willing to give up his life if I were to ever leave him. It seriously bothers me to think that if things didn't work out, I'd be at fault for a suicide. Is that a sort of trap? I keep telling him, "I don't think you realize what you're getting into", and then he gets super pissed at me because he accuses me of assuming he's stupid for lacking life experiences. And it's my fault...I guess for allowing him to lose his virginity on me (he initiated it all...), and now he's got that strong emotional bond that often accompanies first-time experiences with someone you care for. Ok, I don't want to write a novel. But is this one of those situations where I should drop everything and run? Is the suicide thing a bluff? Is there a way I can motivate a man who is pretty much dependent on his parents? Do I ask him to move out and live on his own for awhile to prove to me that he's ready (well ok, that one won't work logically, because he can't live on his salary). Is he just lacking coping mechanisms (from being so inexperienced) to handle a rejection of this magnitude? Help me out guys and girls. How can I make him a more prepared man? Is this a lost cause? :( PS. if you're reading this Max, I already know what you'd say

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Is the PS3 worth it? Posted: 2/16/2009 10:48:54 AM
I was fortunate to find a used PS3 60GB version with backwards capability, and I LOVE IT; worth every penny. It's makes more sense at this point in the market to purchase a PS3 over a traditional blueray player for many of the reasons already listed. One thing I didn't see mentioned much though is the DLNA capabilities of the PS3, granted many HDTVs are adopting this feature, the PS3 really makes it easier to connect your PC and devices to your HDTV new and old wirelessly.

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Anime Fans Posted: 2/15/2009 11:01:32 PM
One anime I didn't really see mentioned is Detroit Metal City...full of hilarity and pure wrongness kekekek But according to my animelist (I know websites not allowed, but there is a placed called myanimelist that's great for this kinda stuff), my favorites include Full Metal Panic Fumoffu, Nodame Cantabile, Ouran High School Host Club, Rurouni Kenshin (especially Tsuiokuhen), Death Note, and Fullmetal Alchemist. Other honorable mentions that I haven't seen listed is Yakitate!! Japan and the first 8 episodes of Tengen Toppa Guerran Lagann (Kamina was sorely missed :( )

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Ireland? Posted: 2/15/2009 7:12:04 AM
Wow, great info on Ireland...I very much would love to visit but I've heared that locals are quite racist towards non-caucasian foreigners. Is this true? If I (filipina) went there with my Pakistani friend, would he and I be treated poorly? He's told me on a handful of occasions having been verbally and physically harassed walking past irish pubs in his hometown of Manchester. Not that it would deter me, it just has me slightly worried.

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What if you still Love you Ex. Posted: 2/15/2009 5:55:08 AM
I love my ex to death, he's my best friend and soul mate. We were just both in the wrong place at the wrong time in our lives. He was resistant at first to "downgrade" our 7 year relationship to just "friends". It took a lot of heartache and fights, but we're finally at a place where we talk to each other regularly about all kinds of stuff. And we can still say stuff like I love you to each other. But keep in mind, it took a LOT of effort to find this middle ground; for a looooong time it was very one-sided. At first glance, this one-sided situation is what I see you describing. He would tell me he loves me and misses me (even though I had been dating someone else after our break-up). I would never return the sentiment only because I didn't want to lead him on. I'd respond with a "yeah", or maybe an awkward silence. Then he would get all pissed because he'd feel stupid about saying it, and storm out. Once we established that we could love each other as friends, it was much easier to say. Anyways, that's my perspective. Keep in mind though, there's a lot of people who simply believe there's no such thing as friendship after a relationship, or that man and woman can't be friends. If she, or YOU for that matter are one of these people, it will continue to be a thorn in your side.

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