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keyaa1

Joined: 6/29/2004

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She tried to come between me and my family, so I dumped her. Posted: 7/3/2008 1:10:46 PM
Three days, three months, three years...I believe a person can fall in love and no time frames bind you. The woman inquestion does not sound very nice. If I were in your position...based on what I think you said, I would not be bringing someone like that into my family either. You must of had some kind of reservations about her or I think both your brother and she would be with you. If you had feelings for her, she would have been a stowaway. If the person in question was someone I thought I may possibly love and want to be with...Come hell or high water he would want me there and I would do the same. And now I see you have a whole other problem...but maybe just maybe you will go, enjoy the ride, AND meet the woman of your dreams!

keyaa1

Joined: 6/29/2004

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Is it EVER your fault? Posted: 6/26/2008 11:33:55 PM
It takes two...thats what X used to tell me. His answer to our problems was... IF I was the blame for us coming undone...then somehow I brought to him a she who is butt ugly and that is relishing with what I worked so hard to train to be a somewhat human for 25 years. He fawked up and I thank him. I fawked up by sticking with him 25 years too long! Fool that I was.

keyaa1

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How to convince a mature woman Posted: 6/24/2008 5:55:38 PM
"Update: Yes, I have a pic :) But it's difficult to imagine building serious relationship with a woman for whom "your pic" is the most important question." That statement is junk. I can't imagine building any kind of a relationship with faceless man much less a serious one. Come on... This is a dating site HELLO...looks matter! I put my picture up so people can decide if I am someone they want to contact by reading my words and looking at me first. I do the same thing...vain person that I am... It really irks me when someone says that about a picture trying to justify their not having one. It makes me believe that they might be butt ugly and are afraid to show themselves. Finally when you talk about mature/older. I assume older...like 15 years older. For me someone 5-10years younger...no big deal. The wider the age gap the harder it is to believe it is a serious contact.

keyaa1

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Mother is dying at home Posted: 1/9/2008 10:15:00 PM
My mom died of cancer. I hear you. You are doing the right thing. Take care.

keyaa1

Joined: 6/29/2004

Msg: 143 (view)

Do you forewarn the next Victim ? Posted: 1/2/2008 7:23:13 PM
Tell her about her new scumbag...only because he did what he did and thats justice. Who cares if it does not do her any good...tell her anyway. I don't care how stupid she is...she will hear it and she can do what she wants. Make sure scumbag knows you are telling her...he needs to know your on to him and will warn anyone you have to. You posted this because you wanted comments. I knew before I even started reading them that many would be like "ho hum, another woman scorned trying to get revenge" blah blah blah... Who in the fock cares what people say. Do what you want to do. NO ONE here has walked in your shoes and NO ONE here has felt with your heart. NO ONE here has any right to judge what you do as right or wrong. Me....I would do it because he deserves it simple as that.

keyaa1

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leaving socks on during sex Posted: 9/25/2007 1:02:55 AM
daboywonder2002 Goodness...if that is all...who cares?

keyaa1

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relationships with unmatching intellectual levels Posted: 7/3/2007 9:25:19 PM
I like the idea that someone can teach me through their intellect...I respect that. If they treat me like I am a lesser being because they think they are smarter than me...I have no use for them. Finding attraction in someone who is intellectual or not is a choice. Falling in love is not. I have worked and lived around all kinds of people and have found people who seem to be simple are like treasures...full of surprises and knowledge I did not know. On the other hand...some Phds are boring as hell. As for a mate...I doubt that when/if I fall in love intellect will be a issue. I believe falling in love happens without a plan. Falling love is not about teaching someone it is about a journey we take together. No matter how smart or dumb we are "it" will overtake our senses and take us where "it" wants to take us...not where we want to go.

keyaa1

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Anyone Ever Dated A TRUE Narcissist? Posted: 6/25/2007 12:19:08 AM
I posted to this thread a long time ago. I was married to an N for 25 years. The damage was immense. I suffer from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder as a result of this realtionship. I have dealt with it the best I can but it still comes back to haunt me and it has been three years since we divorced. The greatest pain is that of N disowning his children. I hate him for that. Since he has no feelings there is no way to resolve his detachment or truly find peace. I found the Narcissistic Personality Disorder self help group on MSN and it saved me. I thank God for that. I hope others look for help as it is out there.

keyaa1

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I never thought of HER doing what she did Posted: 6/23/2007 2:21:40 PM
But how do you know she was doing it for money? Or that she does not love him? I have seen some mud ugly people with gorgeous women/men and some of them without money. I am not saying she is not doing it for money. I am saying what makes you think that? Looks alone? And doggie style...whats wrong with that? "I just think women should be treated with more respect and dignity not power, fame , and fortune. Especially gorgeous ones. " That statement sucks! Just gorgeous ones? Says it all about the way you would treat us ugly ones though.

keyaa1

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Winks are now live and running. Posted: 4/17/2007 9:48:55 PM
I like the wink feature.

keyaa1

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Anyone Ever Dated A TRUE Narcissist? Posted: 2/21/2007 6:52:58 AM
hey quadmom I too was married to a man with the disorder. Check this site out. http://groups.msn.com/NARCISSISTICPERSONALITYDISORDER/general.msnw takecare susan

keyaa1

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Love Triangles Posted: 1/16/2007 7:24:12 PM
Settling... If you just want to be with Eric you can be...but on his terms. You are a beautiful woman but that is quite an age difference. I am not saying it is impossible for you to hook up with him cause I know you can but in this situation besides playing second fiddle to another woman you are much older than him. Is that a problem? It does not have to be but it can. My rule for younger men is...don't ever contact them first and never ever pursue them. In real life and on this site I have been contacted by some very hot young men. I won't say I would not get into that kind of relationship but I would say the man would have his work cut out for him. Not because I am playing hard to get but because his attraction to me must go far beyond looks or sex. Persistence and the ways he shows his love would determine if this kind of relationship had a future. I would not want to fear losing him to a younger woman because of age or be used because I am convenient. Eric has struck out as far as I can see. He wants another woman and you have proven to him you will settle for whatever he gives you. I don't think theres a snowballs chance in hell that he will ever change.

keyaa1

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a little more then I could handle Posted: 11/13/2006 5:04:06 PM
jagg317 You gave many reasons to stay with her but I did not read that you love her or that she loves you. Did I miss that? I read she hurt you bad. Despite all the good things you say about her you make a point of saying she hurt you. I was hurt bad and I would never even consider giving him the opportunity to do it again. No matter how lonely I am. No matter what he could say. No matter how many pros outnumber the cons...the bottom line is I would never trust him. Why are you settling for this?

keyaa1

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So, why aren't you dating anyone? Posted: 11/13/2006 2:03:03 PM
burkeyquirky...Good question! First of all, whats a date? Secondly, no memory of dating. Thirdly, I don't want to date just "anyone". And finally I don't like that word...date. I want to do some good times with a person I like and who likes me. I have been asked and it is uncomfortable...like "what is up with you anyway?" I usually respond, why do I need to be dating someone? I'll go on to say I am happy why ruin a good thing? The question insinuates there is something wrong...with me. And granted I have issues but having a date is not one of them...thank God! Like I have to be with a man to be a whole person. I have lied to counterattack the "O ok nobody wants you...thats it huh." look.

keyaa1

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The pain of your ex seeing someone else Posted: 11/3/2006 9:31:09 AM
SmilySmile Hang in there. That sick feeling...it goes away. I was with x for 25 years. When he left me for a younger woman I wanted to lay down and die. I avoided going in public for a long long time so I would not have to face him with her. It took some time but I am over him. The pain was disgusting but freedom is worth it. Knowing what I know now...I would go through it again to get where I am today... susan

keyaa1

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Older Women and Younger men Posted: 11/1/2006 11:41:40 AM
devil woman(d400637) This seems to happen to me more and more. I take it with a grain of salt...and smile and think..."must be a mistake, he is joking, right?, where's the candid camera?". I never ever thought of this type of relationship until coming here to POF. The fact remains younger men do this. I want to think that no matter what age (above legal) consenting adults should know what they want and don't want. If it makes you happy and is legal...do what you want. I have posted this situation on my blog on another site. Men in general came back with the response...a younger man is looking for a mother figure, he wants sex, and/or he thinks your desperate, this seems to be the accepted standard way of thinking for older woman/younger men relationships. This also suggests that some people think older women are nothing more than an object to be used by younger men for one reason or another. Never to love. Yet older men having a younger woman on their arm is applauded and acceptable behavior? And it is not only men who think this way. A couple weeks ago, a female friend who I work with was so happy cause Joe, who lost his wife about two years ago, is getting married. Joe is 58 years old. His wife to be is 33. I told my friend, thats quite the age difference and she said, well it makes him happy. Hmm. I asked her if she thought age differences mattered and she said no. Ok. I said, Well I hope your as happy for me when I walk in here with a 30 year old. A whole different look came over her and I knew instantly it would be different if it were me. I just laughed and said...Ok I won't bring him here. Double standards are still alive and well...they are for those who choose to live by them. They are not for me.

keyaa1

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How can I get her to Leave Me Alone? Posted: 10/16/2006 10:48:13 PM
hey bkrn2006 Now that she thinks you have a girlfriend you could start wearing some sort of ring. And you could have your girlfriend (you) send you some flowers on your worksite where this lady will see them and be able to read a card. The card on them that says, love always (someone who loves you) or whatever you think would be an appropriate message to this woman you are taken...and if that don't work...probably nothing will. good luck susan

keyaa1

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Plentyoffish, Now with Flowers. Posted: 10/16/2006 10:12:15 PM
Wow. This is really nice. I thought it was an advertisement. I never really paid much attention til I seen this thread and now I know. Cool.

keyaa1

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If you had the power to make a certain person fall in love with you? Would you do it? Posted: 9/24/2006 1:33:29 AM
recall Since we can't make anyone fall in love with us in the real world. And this IS all about fantasy and fun. Why not? Yeah! I would make someone fall in love with me in a heartbeat. He would be so blown away it would be heavenly. I so believe in magic...anything is possible!

keyaa1

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Women Writing to Men First? Posted: 9/20/2006 11:19:32 PM
suelynnslovecafe I have done it a couple times. I have always gotten a good response. I contact others, men and woman, if I have find something I like in their profile or they have made a great comment on the forums. One man I have been talking to since Feb 06...too bad he is so far away. He is a great person and I would not have ever known that had I not took a chance. If I find someone who I am interested here, I am not going to beat around any bushes or play hard to get...as if!!! I am going to go after what I want and if I get rejected I probably wont like it but I won't let that stop me. Why? Times a wasting and life is really meant to be shared. I am sure there are people happy alone...sometimes I am, but I want someone to share life with...THAT is why I am here. Will men be turned off by me if I make the first move? Some might be but thats just too bad. Pride went out the back door when the person I loved and who I thought loved me decided to trade me in for another. Getting rejected for a simple email would be a piece of cake compared to that.

keyaa1

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Is monogamy still possible in this day and age?? Posted: 9/20/2006 1:53:23 PM
Finetastic I agree with message #28 "heyitsdoug". What he said...my thoughts exactly! susan

keyaa1

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Poor Losers Posted: 9/12/2006 2:01:50 AM
"If Jesus did own a car, I wonder what kind of bumperstickers he'd have on it?" Go to the church of your choice and visit me at your free will...may be too late when the hearse comes to carry you here!

keyaa1

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Can a Thread Starter Delete their threads? Posted: 9/12/2006 1:44:44 AM
Third time I posted this. I just want to get the right place. Tonight there was a person who posted a thread about a significant others child. Every person who posted to the thread was disgusted with what was being said and posted to that effect. I posted to thread as I thought the OP was way out of line. As I was posting I was thinking...this is going to be deleted. And it should not be!!!! Others need to see this person for who she/he is. Others need to see the kind of threads that are being started by so called "respected people" on this site. I cannot erase what I have said regarding any posting I have made. Yet thread starters have the option to vote on whether their thread should remain active? Can a thread starter go back and vote to delete when they see how what they have said may destroy their image? If so, do members of POF think this is a problem? My suggestion is that once you start a thread you should not be able to go back and vote on it especially if what you have started makes you look bad. Maybe I have this all wrong and maybe I don't. No matter what twice in the past two days i posted to a thread that made the OP or another person seem other than what they were/are and pooof!!! it is gone. Gone is the history of the kind of person they really are. Any thoughts? or is it just me?

keyaa1

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first date- he farts in the restaurant!! Posted: 9/12/2006 12:04:52 AM
suzanne36_lkn Does it not make you wonder...what is it about him that would make him think you or anyone else would accept that kind of crap? What is it about us to think it is ok that a total nitwit can do that to us and we allow it and not run away? Do they think we are desperate? All we can do is make the best of it. Whatever the best of it is???? He sounds like Jim Carey in Dumb and Dumber!!! Whoa that is scary.

keyaa1

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Ladies, is being into God a turn off? Posted: 9/3/2006 12:09:37 PM
Cyrus10(d2095032) Believing in God is not a turn off. Believing in God is quite awesome.

keyaa1

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one sided relationships.... Posted: 9/2/2006 6:51:05 PM
rainbowfishh What I learned from my one sided relationship. But first. When I was young I had in mind this picture of the perfect life. What I did for years was spend endless days and nights trying to put together my life as I wanted to see it. I worked hard trying to fit square pegs in round holes. Let’s just say if I got paid for doing it I would have enough money to be jet setting the globe meeting everyone here in person! When I got married it was like, ok here are all your pieces, just put it together and make it all work. O but it was like dumping out the pieces to my nieces puzzle thinking…this is going to be sooo easy. What I did not know is Adda put all her hundreds of puzzles in one box...too confusing hello! But I still hammered and hammered and in the end it did not work anyway. What I learned is I don't have time to figure that all out again and I doubt I will even try. What worries me is I wonder how long it will take me to see it coming and if I will be smart enough to know it. I sure as hell didn’t figure it out the first time.

keyaa1

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A prude?????? Am I the only one??? Posted: 9/2/2006 6:13:05 PM
grace35 You are absolutely postively NOT a prude!!! You have morals that is good thing. I bet you believe in God too!!! And that goofy guy...I am just glad I am not his wife. Getting laid is not the answer to everything far as I know. Sticking to what you believe in is!!! Hang in there. I am. We can hang as prudes together! takecare...keep smiling...susan

keyaa1

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A tough one indeed Posted: 9/2/2006 4:07:51 PM
TattooFitz What do YOU want to do, that is my question? I love telling people what I think they should do, not that anyone listens. Really I think most people already know the answer when they are at the point of asking the question. IF it were me. I would tell her I love her. Then she can decide what she wants. I would be willing to risk losing her entirely than go on wanting something I can never have. Takecare...susan

keyaa1

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Is Intelligence A Curse In Relationships? Posted: 8/31/2006 12:44:27 PM
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ Pabsy2...just plain bad boys are fine but smart boys are better bad boys! metaphysicalman I am way too attracted to intelligent men. Within the smart pool there is a range of good and bad behaviors that can make one man absolutely awesome and another pompous and condescending and as boring as hell. Knowledge is a definite turn on be it from a medicine man with no formal education or a doctor of medicine. In either case it is about teaching me about some thing I don’t know and expressing it in a way I understand and appreciate. And the final factor that makes the smart man the most wanted...he is humble...

keyaa1

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Acceptable age range difference? Posted: 8/30/2006 11:30:47 AM
psst Dating another regardless of age, weight, height, race, sex etc., is a personal choice. I try to keep an open mind. I believe everything happens for a reason and who am I to judge? I keep doors open because you never know who might walk in...and to protect my heart...I have a magic wand and those who try to harm me...ZAPPED into frogs, ALL of them!!! Sound unreal? Almost like trying to imagine if age differences are acceptable...to who? frogs? They don't care and I don't either.

keyaa1

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love without strings Posted: 8/29/2006 9:55:54 PM
incrediblytrue An empty glass.

keyaa1

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How do i let the barriers down? Posted: 8/29/2006 9:05:51 PM
shiloh44 first of all...i am tired of posting to threads that get deleted. I hope it does not happen...I have my fingers crossed! I could be writing this, I am where you are. When you get an answer. If you find the answer, please let me know. i was married 25 years and i am in the same boat. And it feels more and more like a sinking ship. I am a fighter but I am getting tired. And the most agreed to statement..."im not sure what love is when given back" and to add to that...how will I know? I hope you figure it out before you get as frustrated as I am. I am in your corner all the way. good luck...susan

keyaa1

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We dont take the time Posted: 8/22/2006 11:06:20 AM
mikeinnc39 I think it has to do with life in the fast lane. I want to know others better but if I do it right it can and does take time especially this way. I am probably not sincere as a result of meeting up with people like you speak of? I was more sincere when I first came here. I live in a rural area. I will spend a considerable amount of time getting to know someone and in reality, which hits every now, I stop and think..."what in the hell am I doing this for?" considering the possiblities of meeting someone from 1000 miles away. The same goes for meeting someone in real life. It takes time and most people don't want to devote that much time especially if they have struck out before. The longer time between relationships the harder is it to give up what seems most comfortable. I think a lot of people want to play. Finding a pretty stone is easy, discovering precious gold is a whole nother story. susan

keyaa1

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Do you believe in second chances? Posted: 8/22/2006 10:39:27 AM
TattooedChristian No matter what I say you will do what you want to do and that is the way it should be. I hear you wanting to try it again and maybe need support for your decision. All I know is when I took my x back time after time, people said, "don't do it" I did not listen. I had to learn on my own. I believed he was worth many more than one chance. I think the majority of people who have been where you are will say don't. But there is always the exception to the rule. If you are going to take the chance...please go slow...really slow. good luck susan

keyaa1

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Would you trick someone? Posted: 8/22/2006 9:11:39 AM
HummerNuts Trick somebody? no. Been tricked? yes. I was never a suspicious person. And there was a time I would never have thought of checking up on anyone. I am a recovering stupidly honest person. From what I have learned I would not go looking for dishonesty as I would be afraid I would find it. It has crossed my mind. When you assume another shares the same morals and values as you do it comes as blow to find they have none. To avoid future hurts I have leaned to roll with the flow not the blows. If I think someone is lying they probably are. I can waste my time or I can move on. Moving on is hard but it is better than sticking around wondering. I will not be looking for anyone for anything, including coversation, when I find the man who loves me and I him. As far as dating sites go they have their uses but once I find what I am looking for I won't be here at all.

keyaa1

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percent of initial chemistry based on physical looks Posted: 8/21/2006 11:03:13 AM
bike_man My initial instant reaction to seeing a person who I have never met but would like to meet is 100% chemistry or looks...that attraction lasts as long as I don't know anything about them. When I am reading forum posts I am not looking at pictures first and foremost. I am more interested in topics and comments. I have found that when I do check out a profile of someones comments I liked or agreed with or they made me think...I am more interested but it is another kind of attraction. It is not physical first. Here the scales tip to 80% personality/intelligence/other and 20% attraction. I also find the more I learn and like about a person the more the attractive they become. The scales start to balance out to 50/50. I see pictures where what I see draws me into their profile. As I began to read the picture starts to come alive. This is where weighing looks and personality begin to separate into interest or not. I don't care how good they look if they sound pompous, judgemental, racist, etc. I read no more. If I like what they are saying I want to hear more and they just look better and better.

keyaa1

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What's the most memorable thing a man's ever done for you Posted: 8/19/2006 9:20:39 AM
Montreal_Guy In the late eighties I was listening to our local public radio station. They were playing an album of music written and performed by local artists. One song stopped me. Here is my first real boyfriend (with him in mid 70's) singing a song about what I was sure was us...one verse describes a situation that happened between he and I. The song describes our relationship and how our break up turned him into the man he was then and how confused he was at the time and his regrets. It is a sad but true love song. He did not say names. I was sure it was about us but did not think I would ever know for sure. About two months ago my brother in law who works with this man was teasing me about being single and being choosy. He said, "Oh you just think your special because someone wrote a song for you", I was like what? He then told me told me that my so long ago boyfriend told him about the song he wrote about me. The song was written 29 years ago. This is way after the fact but nevertheless when I think about it...it is sweet.

keyaa1

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How deep are we Posted: 8/15/2006 11:45:32 PM
I want to see you. I don't flippin care how you look. I just want to see you. Fair is fair. I want to play fair. I could put up a picture of a the elephant (wo)man and I know I would not attract a soul or you! I find it amazing to attract anyone even with a picture considering I am one fish in this great big sea. Profiles without pictures are unfair but who said this game was fair? I get all kinds of excuses and sometimes the holier than thou how could you be so "superficial" attitude when I politely ask to see who is talking to me. I have yet to figure out this phenomenon. If someone could give me argument that justifies my showing you me but you not showing me you...bring it on!

keyaa1

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What is the dream message you want to see in your inbox? Posted: 8/15/2006 10:42:50 PM
Got the "dream message" last week. Made me smile and made my day! ...Am so blurry eyed, drowsy and just plain tired of staring at this screen. You are obviously to me the cutest, sweetest, smartest, and sexiest gal on here.........easily No. 1. So, come on out to Las Vegas where you can check me out...then we could be married within one hour. If we are in a really big hurry we could use the drive-up window at the wedding chapel...with Elvis saying vows of course. We could spend our honeymoon playing penny slots...maybe even winning megabucks. Am willing to live anywhere with you 'cause i'm soooooooo ready for you and ONLY YOU>>>>> jd p.s.......send ring size please

keyaa1

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Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met? Posted: 8/13/2006 10:44:10 AM
Verissa If we all did not believe it was a possiblity, at least when we joined POF, why are we here? I believe you can love someone you have never met by what shines though in their personality, their humor, their smile, their ideas, their voice, the way they look. I love many people; all in different ways...THIS is just one more way. It is a good start. I believe it can happen or I would not be here.

keyaa1

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What’s on other end? Posted: 8/12/2006 10:14:54 PM
Oneperson I was just thinking about this today. Two years ago I was where you are. I am not sure when I got here but I am at the other end. It is totally awesome when you realize your free of that relationship. And the trip through the tunnel was worth every miserable minute of it...takecare susan

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can trust ever be fully restored after an act of betrayal ? Posted: 8/12/2006 9:53:58 PM
aj7676 Betrayal is one of the hardest pills I have ever had to swallow. It creates a hopelessness that seeps deep into your heart and soul. If you understand loyalty and trust, you will never fully accept that a person you respect/love/honor could hurt you in that way.

keyaa1

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what should I do... Posted: 8/9/2006 10:21:49 PM
AnthonyMichael What you should do and what you want to do are clear. I don't think you would be asking this question if you did not want her back. How much pain does your heart want to take?

keyaa1

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Turning someone down Posted: 8/8/2006 12:34:25 AM
KEWLBLUEREASON There are words from a song which comes to mind that answers your question. "You say it best when you say nothing at all". I guess that is just the way I would like to be told.

keyaa1

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Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..? Posted: 8/6/2006 10:22:36 PM
EloCuter I have this thing about being able to live with myself. I would never cheat. I am as loyal as a dog...was still loyal after getting kicked over and over. When you are in love or committed to someone you will never stray and you will never hurt them that way. Cheating is the cowardly way out and I am not a coward...susan

keyaa1

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Msg: 24 (view)

Attraction in a relationship Posted: 7/26/2006 10:00:36 PM
CanadianGuy69 On one hand I think you are selling yourself short by accepting you might not measure up to her idea of what is attractive. On the other hand I know for a fact a person (myself) thought there was no attraction but in truth there was and it lies far deeper than looks. It is a complex situation no doubt. The part about you and her not looking good together...that is a crock. I cannot suggest anything other than think about your decision to move in together much more before you actually do it. takecare susan

keyaa1

Joined: 6/29/2004

Msg: 66 (view)

I dont think Ill get married ever again./YOU? Posted: 7/17/2006 9:56:00 PM
I went to a wedding this past weekend. It was ok but…the people there my age, are with partners of some sort, mostly married. I feel this pressure to find someone or be with someone. I am fine with being alone but I get the feeling there are those who think I am hard up or something. I am not desperate. Yet when I am in a crowd I feel out of place. There were two women there who were recently divorced. Both were with men and I am like, why can’t I do that? They seemed happy. As I drove home I kept thinking about it. It will be three years this summer I have been single. A lot of this time was spent recovering from a 27 (total years I knew x) year relationship/marriage. Today I am happy. So what is up with me? Am I looking for something I will never find? I won’t settle for anything but love but other people seem to find another/love so easily. I was in a “not good” relationship for too long to take a chance and spend the rest of my life unhappy. But the kicker, as I left that wedding, was my last thought. I will get married again. Now I don’t have anyone and there are no prospects but I believe I will. There is something about marriage…one man, the commitment...THAT is comforting to me. O I hope I am not talking out my azz but I want that for some reason.

keyaa1

Joined: 6/29/2004

Msg: 26 (view)

Friendship between men and woman Posted: 7/17/2006 9:28:19 PM
Mustang065 Yes for me it is absolutely possible to be friends with a man. I have a couple male friends who are married and a couple who are not. With these men it has never crossed my mind that it would be anything else but friendship. I can tell when a man wants more than friendship as can most others who are being pursued. If I want more it can move that way and if I don't I will clearly tell him what my intent is. I believe that is the difference between a woman and a man. I believe women are more forward and will tell a guy they are not interested in him "that way". I don't think most men are as bold in that regard. Men don't tell a woman what their intent is most of the time, it is more of an action. I think men are more subtle rejecting and will let a friendship with a woman ride (causes mixed messages though) ...could that be because they are always the ones who risk rejection and are being nicer? I don't know just posing a question? Sexual relationship can come from friendship if the right/wrong factors come into play as well as two people falling in love....just my thoughts...susan

keyaa1

Joined: 6/29/2004

Msg: 67 (view)

My Ex : Five weeks from Separation to Suicide. Posted: 7/17/2006 12:40:31 PM
Steven, I am sorry. I only hope you find someone to talk to and realize that you had nothing to do with her decision. Easy for me to say but it is the truth though it might do nothing to ease anyone's pain. Takecare...susan

keyaa1

Joined: 6/29/2004

Msg: 18 (view)

It's a mystery or is it? Posted: 7/10/2006 9:49:58 PM
~juggernaut~ What I have found here is a kinship of sorts with people who are where I am or where I have been. When two people come undone it is not like a epidemic where there are countless others suffering from the same pain. There is no where to go to find relief but in the same breath what happened to me happens to many and it is epidemic in proportion. What is so great about here, POF, is there are many and everyone is in different stages of running from, wanting and/or finding the elusive dream. This place is the melting pot of relationships. I came here when I did not have anywhere else to go. I found in profiles and forums questions that I did not know how to ask and many times answers that I did not want to hear. I grew out of my last relationship by hearing others express their feelings and others their pain. If many are like me then it is a long road and it may seem like I have no end or point but I know I do. I am taking this slow and easy. I don't care if it takes forever for that is how long I have. For me I want to make sure this time I am doing it all for the right reasons. All else will be icing on my cake. susan

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