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SweetieGuy_81

Joined: 12/25/2005

Msg: 19 (view)

Are women motivated to impress men? Posted: 10/24/2009 3:27:54 PM
Not really since women can get anyone they want, they just need to offer it and they get it from any guy. Its a fact my mom told me and it really is true.

SweetieGuy_81

Joined: 12/25/2005

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A Twist on EXPECTING Sex by the 3 rd date. Would You Date Her/Him ? Posted: 10/24/2009 1:59:48 PM
Well, if a woman i was dating said to me if there is no sex on the 1st or 2nd date, there will not be a 3rd, i would just say 'ok, bye. I do not just have sex with a woman cause she is there, i want someone special in my life and sleep with them and love them, not to bed hop.

SweetieGuy_81

Joined: 12/25/2005

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Adults living at home with Mom and Dad Posted: 10/24/2009 1:37:27 PM
Well, considering what the economy is like its easier to BUYING your own home, then it is to renting one, so if you can't afford to buy, then you are screwed. I live at home with my parents for 2 reasons: 1: Its cheaper 2: She is registered disabled with MS and try to help out where i can If thats a turn off for most women, then they obviously don't care about nice guys then. their loss. :)

SweetieGuy_81

Joined: 12/25/2005

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seeing guy for 2 months and he still on pof Posted: 10/24/2009 1:34:02 PM
Well, if had met someone and got together with them, i would either stay for the forums only and updating the profile saying that or just leave all together, but if its a problem for her, i will just delete my profile. As others have said, if he goes on there to see his latest matches, then he doesn't really like you that much at all.

SweetieGuy_81

Joined: 12/25/2005

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Left me sitting at the table, until the waitress said, he left.. Posted: 10/24/2009 10:35:41 AM
Sounds like a coward to me, he felt the attraction and freaked out and ran like a wuss. you could try to find out what happend, but if a woman did that to me, i would try to find out once and if she told me and the answer was acceptable, i would give her another chance but in general, i never give a woman a second chance. People in general tend to walk all over people that give unlimited chances since they will always forgive me, time to do whatever i want. So, without a reasonable reason, i never give women a second chance, women don't give me a single chance to even screw up, so why should i give them more then one chance.

SweetieGuy_81

Joined: 12/25/2005

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Women at Pubs by Themselves Posted: 10/24/2009 8:38:08 AM
Well, from what i have heard that most women that go to pubs without a guy tend to be the types that try to get free drinks by flirting enough to make guys think they could score, but they never do, but i personally wouldn't bother since most tend to be rude, selfish and arrogant.....just my experience of trying to chat to a woman that is sitting alone.

SweetieGuy_81

Joined: 12/25/2005

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why the prettier the woman, the worse she is in bed or giving head? Posted: 10/24/2009 8:34:18 AM
Well as Dr Phil said on one of his shows, which i found true and quite funny. 'Its not how deep you plow, its how long you stay on the field' i found it quite true and funny.

SweetieGuy_81

Joined: 12/25/2005

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How long to wait for an answer (for an introductory message)? Posted: 10/23/2009 12:28:38 PM
Well, everyone is different, some people accually take the time to get to know you as a person, those are the types that would reply to your mail if they find you interesting, while the kind that just want eyecandy to look at and to show off to their friends tend to look at the pic (if you have one) and if you are not a solid 10 (ie. totally top notch super model looks) you don't get a reply, but those without pics (like me, i don't see the point in needing a pic to just chat with a woman, to meet them face to face off the net, sure, a pic is needed then, but not before) they don't even read the letter and they block you at the same time. Well, it happens to me all the time, so i give each woman a chance to reply, like a week or so and if they reply finally and say they had some family issues or something of equal importance, then thats fine, but if its just 'i wasn't sure if i would reply, i was with a guy at the time, i wanted to see if it would work' that made me feel like backup, thats an automatic refusal to me.

SweetieGuy_81

Joined: 12/25/2005

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why do alot of the guys at this site have a problem with dogs? Posted: 10/23/2009 12:16:16 PM
Well, some reasons can be either intimidation, allergies and as others have said, women love their dogs more then guys. Its like, a mate of mine had a date and it was going great for a few weeks and then he went to stay with her for like the weekend and the dog really didn't get on with him and well, she dumped him cause of that. I am personally a dog person and when i get my own place in the future, i will be getting a dog of my own. :D

SweetieGuy_81

Joined: 12/25/2005

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My ex-husband cheated = The sex was bad Posted: 10/23/2009 12:12:42 PM
If i was married, i would try to rekindle the flame, so to speak and if it fails multiple times, of course i can't count moments when its not the right time, like ill children or ill parents that could die if they don't get better, but other times when its either yes or no, if its constantly 'no thanks, i am not in the mood' i would keep trying, but in the end, a relationship of any kind with no sex in it is a friendship and a marrige with no sex in it is just friends that live together for the company. I would try and try to rekindle the flame, but if it fails, i will ask for a divorce BEFORE i look for someone else. Both men and women have needs and if their spouse is not fulfilling it, they will most likely either live with no sex ever or find it from someone else.

SweetieGuy_81

Joined: 12/25/2005

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Would a Woman date a Man if she had a higher salary than him? Posted: 10/23/2009 11:56:15 AM
Well, i may not understand how much a woman goes through with pregnancies, but i think once you have kids, it would be difficult for both parents to work fulltime like they used to, so in the long run, i wouldn't mind the wife being the stay at home mum if it makes it easier for her, but i personally wouldn't be intimidated by my woman getting more money then me.

SweetieGuy_81

Joined: 12/25/2005

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would you date a guy who doesn't believe in education-content with his job Posted: 10/23/2009 11:52:35 AM
Well, you really do not need an education to get rich in your chosen field, i have gotten the basic education and i have used computers since i was like 9-10 years old and now i am nearly 28, so i know quite alot about them, but i am sure there are things i can still learn, but i honestly didn't like school when i was young and that has stuck with me through to adulthood and i do not want to go back to college. Also, a friend of mine stuck with school, college for quite awhile and now he is finding it hard to get anything since he is very qualified for alot of stuff, but sadly, he is either too qualified to get a job or not experienced enough, sad, but true. I think experience is far more important then qualifications anyday.

SweetieGuy_81

Joined: 12/25/2005

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People With No Conversation Skills Posted: 10/23/2009 11:45:32 AM
Well, i can agree there, but there are times when the answer in just a few words, i am sure i would be better at it in person, but online it can be difficult to talk about anything. Since, i would spend time with someone i like by watching some movies with them and then going for a nice walk, get something to eat and then eat together, talking about the movie and then which movie they would want to watch next. But online its hard to find something to talk about extensively and when i do find something, they find it dumb and get bored of me. lol

SweetieGuy_81

Joined: 12/25/2005

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Why are older women not into younger guys??? Posted: 10/23/2009 11:38:55 AM
Well, do guys ever mature? lol Seriously, i know i play alot of computer games and i am sure i will when i am way in my 50s, but i personally never drink, smoke, do any form of drugs unless its medically subscribed, so if they can act mature when its required i don't see an issue with older women dating younger guys, infact i quite like older women, i think they are more concerned about how they would look. But i certainly wouldn't ask my older woman date to play xbox with me, though a nice movie would be good though.

SweetieGuy_81

Joined: 12/25/2005

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Racism on my date Posted: 10/23/2009 11:34:28 AM
Well, some people are like that, i am personally more attracted to black women, then white women, not sure why though, but in the end, i never judge anyone, i give each person the benefit of the doubt no matter what the rep of the person is. If i was on a date and she was racist to someone, i would tell her to stop, if she didn't stop, the date would end there and then, i know some non-white people tend to use the race card whenever they can, since a racial crime is just as bad as murder. In the end, I hope there is an end to the pointless racism because of our skin colour its just so stupid to judge someone solely on that, if i had a daughter or old enough for a grand daughter, i wouldn't care what guy she was with, as long as he is a decent dude like all parents should hope for, race will never come into it, i wish others would feel the same way.

SweetieGuy_81

Joined: 12/25/2005

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What to do when a woman is publicly and drunkenly getting handsy? Posted: 7/12/2009 12:03:17 PM
Well, it was the right thing to do, since it is completely wrong to take advantage of a drunk woman, but if you like her that way, i would wait until the next working day and ask if she would like to go out for something to eat? She will either say yes or no.

SweetieGuy_81

Joined: 12/25/2005

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Why do men use me?? Posted: 7/11/2009 10:33:18 AM
as one of the posters said, you let him do it. Tell him if he doesn't stop doing that, he is out of the house, if he refuses or says he will stop, but still does it, kick him out.

SweetieGuy_81

Joined: 12/25/2005

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Unplanned Pregnancy Doesn'Have to Lead to Birth or Parenthood Posted: 7/11/2009 8:51:12 AM
fab-mom, If you said that to me, i would choose to be in the childs' life AND pay child support.....some how....but in the end, paying what you can is more better then not paying at all. But in the end, i wouldn't be stupid and get a girl pregnant unless we were in a long-term thing or married and planning for one.

SweetieGuy_81

Joined: 12/25/2005

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Guys are still idiots Posted: 7/11/2009 8:47:19 AM
Well, if guys are spending that much on drinks to women and not getting anywhere.....why don't they just get a hooker??? it would likely be cheaper and faster.

SweetieGuy_81

Joined: 12/25/2005

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Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ? Posted: 7/11/2009 8:34:44 AM
Well from experience, i know i am a nice guy, but i learnt that being nice, a good guy or whatever you call it is no where near as important to women as looking good is or having money. I am a big guy, which i clearly say in my profile, i don't have money either, but i know that i am a good guy, i respect women, not many guys can even say that without it being a lie. but it seems that nice guys and even really good guys that volunteer on their spare time at different charities is no where near good enough if they are not what the media deem as attractive. Thats what i have learnt with just being on this site for as long as i have, which is why i am personally on the edge of not even bothering with dating at all. Alot of women ask for a gentleman, but go for the hot guy that hurts them and wonders what they do wrong...

SweetieGuy_81

Joined: 12/25/2005

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messed up friendship.....following short relationship Posted: 7/11/2009 8:25:04 AM
I think he realised he was a fool for dumping you and was trying to wiggle his way back into your life without admitting being an idiot and since you was chatting to someone else, he felt hurt and was hurt even more with a reminder of much of an idiot he is.

SweetieGuy_81

Joined: 12/25/2005

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A man watches me at work,but when he see me looking back he turns away? why? Posted: 7/11/2009 7:48:58 AM
Well, some employers don't like inner-job romance, cause if it fails, it can hurt your performance at the workplace, but i think romances can work at the workplace and if both of you are adults and mentally grownup, you should be able to work together if you broke up.

SweetieGuy_81

Joined: 12/25/2005

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what would you do? Posted: 7/11/2009 7:46:20 AM
Well, if i was him and had a rich-ish girlfriend, i wouldn't be an idiot like him that is for sure. But if i was her, i would dump his ass and find someone else that would contribute, i know i can be a lazy sod sometimes, but i would help out with the food at the very least, especially if i ate some of it. But even if i had a girlfriend i would respect her and if she turned out to be one hell of a rich one, i would do what i could to keep her in my life. If he is in the airforce, they pay quite abit, depending on what he does, so he should be able to afford his own stuff, but he is one hell of a cheap ass sod.

SweetieGuy_81

Joined: 12/25/2005

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Why are men intimidated by women of authority? Posted: 7/8/2009 5:35:08 AM
I personally find that kinky, hand cuffs anyone. ;) seriously though, i find it a good trait, a relationship is about sharing money 50/50, i would find it cool if i was with a woman that was a cop, but i would also be worried that she wouldn't come home each night. But i guess thats the price of being a law enforcement officer.

SweetieGuy_81

Joined: 12/25/2005

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Why is he blowing me off and can I fix this? Posted: 7/5/2009 11:09:32 PM
Yep, you was surely played hun, sorry, but you was. I personally wouldn't get into bed with someone so soon, kissing is fine, cuddling is fine, but sex would be way too soon. Next time, maybe you should just wait for quite a while before having sex and if he sticks around, he is interested in you.

SweetieGuy_81

Joined: 12/25/2005

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why is it so hard to break up with someone. Posted: 7/5/2009 11:03:44 PM
Well, you just break up with them, i have met many women that don't care about other peoples' feelings, as long as they do what they want, they don't care. I am glad to know there is atleast one woman that is nice.

SweetieGuy_81

Joined: 12/25/2005

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Speed Dating - Does anyone have experience with this? Posted: 7/5/2009 10:55:53 PM
I tried it once and all the women wouldn't even talk to me, so it was rather crap, i never tried it again, women can be soooo shallow, which is a pity, since i am a nice guy, i respect women and all that and they prefer guys that look good and hurt them both emotionally and physically, well most of the guys hurt them, oh well, its just something i have to get used to.

SweetieGuy_81

Joined: 12/25/2005

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Suggestive Photos Sexy Pics on Bios Posted: 7/5/2009 10:53:29 PM
I find it offputting to see pics of them with hardly any clothes on them...i guess i am old fashioned. lol

SweetieGuy_81

Joined: 12/25/2005

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If you & the man you were dating were older, would you wait till marriage for sex? Posted: 7/5/2009 10:51:30 PM
This can be an often trick question. The way i see it, if you love someone enough to have sex with them, then you can wait for the wedding night, if you can't wait, then you really can't love them as much as you thought. I guess i am an old fashioned guy

SweetieGuy_81

Joined: 12/25/2005

Msg: 192 (view)

What's your deal breaker? (re profiles first glance) Posted: 7/5/2009 10:49:02 PM
Well for me, i am more accepting, but here are my deal breakers. 1: Nothing in the profile about their interests or life so far (how am i supposed to get to know them as a Human being, if they can't help me out with some stuff that helps me send a first message to them??) 2: Sexy Pics (this is an off-putting thing, i want to get to know women based on who they are on the inside, not see them in panties and a bra, they may look hot and all that, but its still something that puts me off of wanting to get to know them) 3: Saying one thing and not sticking to it (i have met alot of women on here and other chatsites where she says that she likes how i act...you know being nice and kind to her and wants to take things nice and slow, which is a good place to start and suddenly, puts me on block....i mean when are the women going to be mature and say if there is a problem, i can handle rejection...i should, i get it in one form or another.) 4: Demanding (I do not like women demanding to see a pic, when i personally don't ask for one, the only time when i see a pic being a requirement is went both parties want to meet up, until then, a pic is NOT required, if a woman NEEDs a pic to just chat to someone, then she really has issues. Cause she decided to put her own pics on her profile, doesn't mean she has the right to tell me what to put on my profile.) Those are my deal breakers.

SweetieGuy_81

Joined: 12/25/2005

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Whats with women that invite their dogs into the bedroom to sleep? Posted: 7/5/2009 10:33:58 PM
nothing wrong with that, as long as nothing is stopping me from cuddling up to the girlfriend. :)

SweetieGuy_81

Joined: 12/25/2005

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Is it okay to want to meet new men when... Posted: 7/4/2009 5:54:40 AM
Yeh, everyone deserves someone special in their life, even a possible limited life, even if its just a mere 2 months, a person with only 2 months to live, deserves to spend some time with someone special. Its never good to be alone and ultimiately pass on alone.

SweetieGuy_81

Joined: 12/25/2005

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Has being online toughened you up emotionally or made you more sensitive? Posted: 7/4/2009 5:51:59 AM
Well, being online has made me less sensative to insults since i tend to get them on a daily basis, its a pitty that most women that insult me look hot on the outside, but look ugly on the inside. I would prefer a plain woman that wants to get to know me as a person.

SweetieGuy_81

Joined: 12/25/2005

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Disabilities/Illness and Dating Posted: 7/4/2009 5:47:57 AM
I wouldn't be bothered really, i would prefer to see it on the profile, its no problem, being born with it or get it from an accident. Everyone deserves love and no one has the right to take it away.

SweetieGuy_81

Joined: 12/25/2005

Msg: 74 (view)

I don't kiss on the first date Posted: 7/4/2009 5:34:39 AM
accually, she said that 'she' doesn't kiss on the first date, that doesn't mean that he doesn't either, i mean a kiss on the cheek is like a friendly gesture, like male/female or female friends greet each other or a goodbye type of thing, i wouldn't think anything of it if a female friend kissed me on the cheek after a fun hang out. It sounds like this guy was a perfect gentleman and from all the cries i hear from women, gentlemen are VERY hard to come by, so i guess, she is scared and instead of making herself look like a fool for rejecting him, she is trying to make him look like a dis-respecting guy, making her look for better.

SweetieGuy_81

Joined: 12/25/2005

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Why do women date mutiple guys at once? Posted: 7/4/2009 5:29:06 AM
Well, i am fine with it, i mean as long as they ain't sleeping with all of them and as long as she doesn't call out another guys' name when calling me....or something, in the end, if she is interested in me, she shouldn't be with anyone else.

SweetieGuy_81

Joined: 12/25/2005

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maybe he didnt look like he does in his pic? Posted: 7/4/2009 5:24:35 AM
Well, i wouldn't stand a woman up, i wouldn't cancel a date unless it was unavoidable, something like a rotten headache that just wouldn't go or something along those lines as well as a sick relative that died, those kind of things can be acceptable for date cancellations, but i honestly refuse to play cat and mouse games, i am 27 years old, not 18. I don't want to jump into bed right away, i just don't want to ask a girl out all the time to just get a no when its clear that she is interested....thanks, but no thanks.

SweetieGuy_81

Joined: 12/25/2005

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How long do you wait to delete that number. Posted: 7/4/2009 5:19:00 AM
I would personally give them 2 weeks before i remove them from my phone (if i had one that is) and if she called after that, she would need a good reason for the disappearence.

SweetieGuy_81

Joined: 12/25/2005

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Why do ladies push guys away they really like? Posted: 7/4/2009 5:14:25 AM
Well, for me, if a woman says she likes you that much, she should stop playing the childish games and go for it. I personally respect women and what they want, if a woman i like, says that she isn't interested in me, i accept it and move on or try for a friendship at the very least. I just don't see the point in this childish cat and mouse game some people play, i mean, if you like someone, you tell them, they either feel the same or they don't, i ain't say just jump into bed, i suggest taking it nice and slow and if they are indeed interested, they will happily wait. But it sounds like she is having you as backup and trust me, its not a good place to be in.

SweetieGuy_81

Joined: 12/25/2005

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Are men more attracted to women that play hard to get? Posted: 7/1/2009 8:31:19 PM
Well, Sheilarae, i think if a woman says no, regardless if they really want to say yes, i accept the no and move on, i would try to be friends if we have enough in common to enjoy the friendship, i am 27 years old and i am really grown out of the pointless emotional, childish games. I don't mind taking it slow, i just get put off when a woman that is seriously interested, says no, its just so off-putting.

SweetieGuy_81

Joined: 12/25/2005

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Why am I being judged on my virginity? Posted: 7/1/2009 8:10:31 PM
DaddysFirstGirl, Well come guys can be imtimidated by that, some might just want to get laid, if you are as old as you are and still a virgin, you might be one of the old fashioned women that want to wait until you are married, i admire that, i do, but not many guys believe in that anymore. I can personally accept to wait for the sex to happen, but in the end, a relationship without sex in it, is like a friendship, it really is. I have met alot of women that have had the attitude of ' marrige first' and i am honestly fine with it, but those women tend to prefer to do nothing at all, no making out, even if it was just kissing and nothing more in a sexual way, you know just cuddling, snuggling and kissing and that just really puts me off, i mean i can wait for sex, but i would like to do something and kissing, cuddling and snuggling is perfect to keep me happy until the wedding (if me and the woman in question works out that long)

SweetieGuy_81

Joined: 12/25/2005

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I believed his every word...now I'm left with a broken heart Posted: 7/1/2009 8:03:01 PM
I would never loan anyone money unless i know them personally and for like few years, but it also depends on how much they need. £25-£50 = not so bad and acceptable if i have known them for a little while, they might be trying to get something and are 25-50 pounds short of the total amount, but i would never, EVER loan anyone more then £75 to anyone i don't know more then 2 years. Hell, even if i was chatting to a woman online for 2 years, i wouldn't loan her money, most women i tend to meet can be time wasters, just looking for a meal ticket, but some just want someone to look good on their shoulder, both of which are not worth the time of day.

SweetieGuy_81

Joined: 12/25/2005

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Why Is It That Guys Want Sex On The First Night? Posted: 7/1/2009 12:26:41 AM
well, as others have stated, your pics are rather steamy and it would even make me think that you are trying to attract guys using physical attraction, instead of who you are.

SweetieGuy_81

Joined: 12/25/2005

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What would it take to ask an adult child to move out? Posted: 7/1/2009 12:25:02 AM
Well, its all depending on the situation, there ain't many places affordable at all now-a-days.

SweetieGuy_81

Joined: 12/25/2005

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Unplanned Pregnancy Doesn'Have to Lead to Birth or Parenthood Posted: 7/1/2009 12:22:42 AM
I personally think abortion is murder, i mean if you didn't want to get pregnant, use protection....its that easy. If you don't have protection available, don't have sex.

SweetieGuy_81

Joined: 12/25/2005

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Any bbw hypocrites? Posted: 6/29/2009 2:13:50 AM
I have met many big women that were hypocrites, if we had nothing in common, i would understand or if she just said that she wasn't attracted to me, that would have been fine, but she just says 'nah, you are too fat' and she was just as big as me and i just laughed as a walked off.

SweetieGuy_81

Joined: 12/25/2005

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Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen Posted: 6/28/2009 6:11:56 PM
Khrissy89, you are incorrect.....well, i don't just look at pics, i look at what they type in their profile, what they are looking for, if the profile is empty besides a bunch of pics with her in bikinis and nothing else, it shows that all she has to attract guys is her body and to me, it really isn't enough for me to be interested. A woman i find attractive has to have a personality and be decent to everyone she meets, if she can't be nice to anyone else, then she really isn't worth the time. If she can't take the time to get to know me as a person, then she really isn't looking for romance, just a quick roll in the hay, unlike them, i am out of my 'i just want to get laid' phase of my life and i just want to settle down with someone special.

SweetieGuy_81

Joined: 12/25/2005

Msg: 323 (view)

Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen Posted: 6/28/2009 6:04:21 PM
forever_laughter, I gotta say, you are looking good, i am starting this new gym thing myself, trying to get into shape for my health, i am sure once i am a slim and fit guy, women will be coming out of the wood works, which is a pity and an indication that majority of women just go for hot bods, which tends to make me think that personality means nothing. From experience, women would prefer to be hurt emotionally instead of be seen with a publically decided unattractive person....sad but true. I know i am a nice guy, i want someone special in my life that loves me for who i am, not for the body i have...you know what i mean?

SweetieGuy_81

Joined: 12/25/2005

Msg: 1139 (view)

If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond? Posted: 6/28/2009 5:47:37 PM
I always reply to messages, unless its insulting, which is what i get on a regular basis, the type of insults i got while i was like in secondary school 14 years ago, it just makes me laugh. As long as i understand, i don't really care about spelling mistakes, my grammar is pretty terrible, so i would be one hell of an idiot to ignore someone for being bad at what i am bad at. lol

SweetieGuy_81

Joined: 12/25/2005

Msg: 317 (view)

Something ALL women on pof should put in their profiles Posted: 6/28/2009 5:45:17 PM
Well, i personally don't like to be expected to do anything, i don't like expectations. I would likely still pay for a date, but i don't want to be expected to pay for it, though most women think cause i am the guy, i should pay for the dinner.....kinda sexist there, but hey, what can you do.

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