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jldude

Joined: 12/25/2005

Msg: 149 (view)

Girls making the first move??? Posted: 11/15/2009 5:21:03 AM
Damn right! Same here people call me weird, but if I like a girl I tell her, I don't beat around the bush and play "the game", I just say hey I like you so far, and I'd like to date you, if it weirds her out oh well. And I'll say too that if a girl shows interest in me(and it's happened like 3-4 times), I respect it and reward it.

jldude

Joined: 12/25/2005

Msg: 1103 (view)

Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy? Posted: 11/15/2009 5:18:05 AM
It's nature man. The more attractive a person is, the more they know it, and the pickier they are in partners. And the more "options" a person has, the less they value each of them. Not rocket science. People will say don't settle, but what you supposed to do? I say date who you can get and learn to like them, or at the very least work on yourself while you have their support. People don't like to face reality but there are damn sure "leagues" and the like. Jessica Beil would never fall for me on the street, that's why I have qualities that make up for it once a patient girl gets to know me. I've settled before and it sucks, but it's a means to an end. How do you expect someone to give you a chance if you never gave someone else a chance?

jldude

Joined: 12/25/2005

Msg: 148 (view)

Is she too young for me? Posted: 11/15/2009 5:10:53 AM
I would do it, even if I was your age. Come on, how often does a girl that age admit she's interested in anyone without a 6 pack?

jldude

Joined: 12/25/2005

Msg: 31 (view)

Mixed Signals? Posted: 11/15/2009 5:08:53 AM
Mixed signals=immaturity, dishonesty, or disinterest. Pick one. Either way doubt you'd wanna pursue him.

jldude

Joined: 12/25/2005

Msg: 77 (view)

She said she dosen't need men for sex, because she has her toys Posted: 11/15/2009 5:06:50 AM
Ya gotta realize women been coming up with excuses their whole life...."I can't keep dating you cuz I feel you're distracting me from God", "I can't date you cuz you're going off in the military someday" etc. That's all this is she says that, she MEANS "I don't need YOU for sex, because I have other toys" ever heard of boy toys?

jldude

Joined: 12/25/2005

Msg: 85 (view)

Creepy Posted: 11/15/2009 4:27:05 AM
Awkward and nervous and possibly not feeling well=creep? Wow how high have our standards been inflated here? God knows what men think of you when you're not on your A game....now a creep is a less fortunate person with substandard social skills? What's tomorrow's definition? Kinda pisses me off how people judge another person so easily COMPLETELY oblivious to their situation. Always making negative assumptions about people you simply don't understand.

jldude

Joined: 12/25/2005

Msg: 226 (view)

Apparently those Nigerian scammers are using Yahoo messenger now... Posted: 11/15/2009 4:23:19 AM
Dude they been doin that since '06 I went thru that s*** like a naive lil sucker once and only once.

jldude

Joined: 12/25/2005

Msg: 222 (view)

WHATS THE WORST DATE YOU HAD ON POF Posted: 11/15/2009 4:17:47 AM
I never actually had a bad one, tho neither of them could be considered hopeful either. I've had bad ones elsewhere online where the chic was way heavier and weirder than she sounded on the phone lol. Embarrassing and uber awkward.

jldude

Joined: 12/25/2005

Msg: 237 (view)

A question for the Guys...Ever been TOO BUSY TO CALL? Posted: 11/15/2009 4:10:25 AM
I have your answer. It's BS. If I'm into a girl I will make time to talk to her. If I say I'll call on a certain day and end up working and forget ya I might, but I always explain and make it up within a day. I never leave a girl I like hangin. And that's also how I know when a girl's not interested.

jldude

Joined: 12/25/2005

Msg: 48 (view)

Are there women/men who wait as long as 6 mos. before sex? Posted: 11/15/2009 3:56:12 AM
I would if I loved her....irony is, if a guy does wait that long, at some point most girls will start to wonder why he waited and questions will rear their head. This comes from the guy most women can't believe only been with 2 girls.

jldude

Joined: 12/25/2005

Msg: 259 (view)

what do men consider overweight? Posted: 11/15/2009 3:51:08 AM
It really has nothing to do with weight per se, and I'm fairly lenient on it, not all of us have the option to only date models. The way I see it I don't care if a girl's heavy, like(don't think sizes cuz I'm clueless) I just have a hard time being attracted to someone with rolls it's nasty. And I'm not some axe model either by far, but I prefer someone similar to my own body type. Here's how you tell, if you're lying on your back and your stomach protrudes UP you're overweight. I know people b**** that they can't lose it well I say if you want to bad enough and discipline yourself, you can, it's been done. If a girl has a mushroom top and she's pretty and sweet, I'll still love her. But made of jello? Hell no.

jldude

Joined: 12/25/2005

Msg: 304 (view)

Why some men never want marry? Posted: 11/15/2009 3:19:04 AM
I was raised in a traditional home as well and to this day the greatest honor possible would be to bring a child into the world and put the last ring she'll ever wear on her finger however I find increasingly more and more women are giving in to the typical guy mindset of no commitment, it's really disheartening to see that those of us who are lazy like that are even effecting the women. Just my opinion. But I know if I love a girl, that will never change, I'm not the kinda flaky guy who falls in love with every new girl and I certainly don't BS her to get something else.

jldude

Joined: 12/25/2005

Msg: 37 (view)

Cinderella..But.wheres my prince Posted: 11/13/2009 7:46:32 PM
First off confidence in a chic is really trivial, it's not gonna change my mind whether I like her or not. And frankly when a woman says, let alone states that "independant, blah blah blah" stuff on their page I just think gee she must think that's what guys wanna hear. But what do I know I'm habitually single too, too shy or some stupid thing.

jldude

Joined: 12/25/2005

Msg: 38 (view)

I'm not attracting the type of men I would consider dating..Help? Posted: 5/10/2009 7:33:47 AM
Well i read your profile, um...sounds ok to me though i would definitely shorten the cooking and anti-tv thing both could be summed up in fewer words. And ur pics are a tad vague, not bad just not entirely clear ya know? Other than that I think you're pretty hot lol good luck.

jldude

Joined: 12/25/2005

Msg: 111 (view)

Should I make a deal of less than ideal ring? Posted: 3/28/2008 6:20:44 PM
You have the wrong attitude. It doesn't matter if the ring is $100 or $100000, the point is he chose it for you, as a symbol of his commitment. If you really worry bout how much it costs, you won't last long in the marriage. Men are not here to spoil a woman, women are not here to be bought. If you're basing "feeling special" on how much he's spending on you or what he has to do for you.......that's not right. You should take a second look at the other sacrifices he makes for you out of love.......there are many more I'm sure of it.

jldude

Joined: 12/25/2005

Msg: 24 (view)

do men consider women to be needy? Posted: 3/28/2008 6:11:41 PM
We want to be needed but not constantly needed like 24/7. We want to feel important and appreciated, but not depended on for air or every dollar. An independant woman who needs love is my fav.

jldude

Joined: 12/25/2005

Msg: 46 (view)

Men who don't want to stay in touch with their ex girlfriend Posted: 3/28/2008 5:59:20 PM
I think if a guy you truly deeply loved said it wasn't gonna work, you'd feel the same way......nobody wants to feel like they wasted their time and effort and love. I get the feeling you did most of the leaving in these relationships.....

jldude

Joined: 12/25/2005

Msg: 59 (view)

Decoding Guy-speak Posted: 3/28/2008 5:50:16 PM
Of course there are girls whom I may not be interested in, but I never just stop communication......and the end of a date, my smile communicates more than my voice......

jldude

Joined: 12/25/2005

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First Impressions: A Look Through the Eyes of Those Who Behold Us Posted: 3/28/2008 5:46:30 PM
I know this. The girl I dated for the last two years now has a completely different opinion of me than her first was. First impressions are not always the biggest......just the first.

jldude

Joined: 12/25/2005

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Cute and no replies whats up???? Posted: 3/24/2008 6:15:14 PM
Ok honey, you are cute, very attractive, but unfortuneately your profile basically tells a guy to just go away cuz you're not really interested in anything casual let alone a serious relationship. I probably would give you a second look in person if you smiled, but I probably wouldn't waste my time trying to get your attention based on the impression of you I get in your profile. Ya need to open up more or get on with your "current relationship". Btw, a girl who's attracted to either gender isn't exactly a turn on for a guy...kinda weirds us out like you don't really want us anyway.....

jldude

Joined: 12/25/2005

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Would all guys dislike this: Posted: 3/24/2008 5:41:28 PM
Wow women feel this way too? Didn't know it was possible. That's how I know you're nowhere near my age or location because you have a true heart and aren't afraid to show it. In case you haven't guessed, you did nothing wrong.

jldude

Joined: 12/25/2005

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What do women do that pushes you away? Posted: 3/24/2008 5:31:13 PM
Cheat. Other than that, I'm not one to up and quit. Oh you said at first..........well then, um, hold on...............I guess I need to raise my standards maybe cuz I don't judge or get scared easily........I give everyone a fair chance...

jldude

Joined: 12/25/2005

Msg: 23 (view)

Short women... Posted: 3/24/2008 5:26:40 PM
I have found tall girls who are drop dead gorgeous, I dated one.....datED. And I have met short girls that were super super sexy and attractive. I'm not picky. Now as far as thin vs. curvy.....well, not rocket science there........not sayin i wouldn't be interested in a thin girl, but she would have to make up for it somehow.......

jldude

Joined: 12/25/2005

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Dating in the Old Days .. any Thoughts? Posted: 3/24/2008 5:13:25 PM
I would love to have dated 20 or 30 years ago, when men and women actually respected and appreciated one another's feelings. People had more integrity and dignity and honor. Now dating has become a huge game where the players just get better, and the lonely just get lonelier. Society always has made the strong stronger and the weak weaker. Nothing is close to fair anymore. Someday it will all come to a crashing halt.

jldude

Joined: 12/25/2005

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Surviving the first weekend together. Posted: 3/24/2008 5:05:46 PM
I assume you mean a fresh date? I would love to go on a weekend vacation with a potential date, it would be awesome, best first date ever.....

jldude

Joined: 12/25/2005

Msg: 93 (view)

Giving or Asking for soneone's phone number... Posted: 3/24/2008 4:52:54 PM
I can't relate to such a situation, when a woman gives me her number, to me it's one of the biggest signs of interest and I excercise that right to call or text as often as possible, I guess if he was turned off by it he must not be too serious about what he wants, kinda like the majority of women on here, no offense to you.

jldude

Joined: 12/25/2005

Msg: 18 (view)

The Call Back. I think I'm right, they think I'm wrong. Posted: 3/24/2008 4:44:15 PM
I think you're absolutely right. I would write a girl off too that didn't seem very excited, maybe that's just my own personal style, when i'm interested, it's hard to ignore. I don't sit there and****around with somebody for a week unless I am waiting till I'm bored to hang out with her again.......which is pretty pathetic people who do that. You may as well be some toy for them to occupy themselves. Christ, if you enjoy being around someone, have the balls to step up and do it on your own.

jldude

Joined: 12/25/2005

Msg: 193 (view)

Alone too long?? Posted: 3/19/2008 6:16:31 AM
You being a poker man, I see your 35 sent msgs, and I raise you 25.....sometimes I get a polite response. The first 20 years of my life were spent hoping and praying for a companion. I finally found one.........completely by chance mind you I wasn't looking. Spent two glorious years, best years of my life.......then a month ago BAM! She finds someone better. So I guess it's back to the drawing board for another 20 years or whatever the ratio is. I still feel from experience it is better to not search for love for it usually comes much quicker. i'm in your same shoes sir only 5 years younger. Everybody will say "o you're still young, be patient".......like it's supposed to make us feel better. I would advise you find other ways to occupy your mind so you don't have time to think about how few women can appreciate you. F*** the judgemental people in this world, they're only trying to make themselves better than you.

jldude

Joined: 12/25/2005

Msg: 134 (view)

Are there any men looking for true love for a lifetime? Posted: 3/19/2008 6:04:03 AM
Yes. Are there any women looking for the same?

jldude

Joined: 12/25/2005

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Why Wasnt I good Enough for her? Posted: 3/19/2008 5:50:48 AM
Thank your lucky stars that you only wasted 2 weeks trying to be good enough for this b****, imagine going great for 2 years, and then finding out all these little insignificant things that mean nothing to you somehow made her realize that she wasn't "happy" with you. A woman is always happy until she feels someone can make her "happier". Still can't figure out why she went through so much trouble to tell me she loved me so long. Maybe she was insecure............at the time.

jldude

Joined: 12/25/2005

Msg: 49 (view)

Tired of being turned down Posted: 3/19/2008 5:45:03 AM
I share few similarities with most men, so I can't speak for them, but if I could I would destroy the instinct that makes me unattracted to heavier women. I know overweight women are generally easier to get along with and share a relationsip so I suppose I'm left to compromise. How overweight am I comfortable with vs. how much of an attitude I can deal with.......and I don't delete/ignore people i treat them how I wish to be treated.

jldude

Joined: 12/25/2005

Msg: 60 (view)

when is a man in love? Posted: 3/19/2008 5:38:20 AM
when you have to tell him to get over you after a month.......that's when you KNEW he WAS in love.

jldude

Joined: 12/25/2005

Msg: 189 (view)

Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet? Posted: 3/19/2008 5:23:17 AM
For the record, I am NOT on here to waste my life away, I would meet anyone who wanted to providing they were within a 20 minute drive. Even if they just became friends. I've never stood a date up, and never intend to. Not sure why some guys treat you as second best, blows my mind.

jldude

Joined: 12/25/2005

Msg: 188 (view)

Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet? Posted: 3/19/2008 5:20:27 AM
I appreciate your situation, been there a few times myself. It's like the girl wants all this attention from ya, wants you to call her and all this, things seem to be starting out great, then if you tell her you're not ready to commit to a relationship on the first night before you've met her, or after you first meet her, the enthusiasm goes down the toilet and you have to struggle to get her to talk/text you even as friends again. It's like some women want to jump right into a relationship, and others are afraid you want to. Is there no simple woman out there that DOES want a healthy relationship, but doesn't want to jump over the edge into one? Why does it have to be so complicated?

jldude

Joined: 12/25/2005

Msg: 51 (view)

To excited to meet you Posted: 3/19/2008 5:08:59 AM
If I were a female, I would consider that a compliment and a wide grin would appear on my face......but I am not such, so as females I suppose that is considered repulsive as well, along with many other natural male expressions of attraction......

jldude

Joined: 12/25/2005

Msg: 121 (view)

outrageous expectations from online daters Posted: 3/19/2008 5:02:09 AM
Im glad I didn't waste my time emailing you.....

jldude

Joined: 12/25/2005

Msg: 31 (view)

why do we put so much self worth on whether we have a mate or not... Posted: 3/17/2008 9:33:22 AM
It is sick isn't it? Yet we give in to it. I know Ive felt those feelings. It probably stems from our basic instinct for companionship God gave us. So when we fail at attaining that, we feel disappointed and of less worth....

jldude

Joined: 12/25/2005

Msg: 63 (view)

Do you know what you want ? Posted: 3/17/2008 9:23:03 AM
I knew what I wanted....but I dont think she exists within a hundred miles, so I'll settle for what I need. Im a believer that we dont always get what we want. Often, we get something better we didn't even know we wanted....and sometimes what we need is completely different than what we want

jldude

Joined: 12/25/2005

Msg: 337 (view)

why do men think they can use women for sex? Posted: 3/17/2008 9:06:32 AM
Ok just by your subject line I feel I should mention that I think some men don't feel like most women are good for much more than sex. Dont take it personally and Im in no way attempting to justify the behavior since I think it's cold as well. But I have to admit after the last 2 years with a lying b****, the thought has crossed my mind that maybe women are incapable of anything satisfying but sex. Why guys do it? I do not know. I empathize with you. But women can be just as cold.....

jldude

Joined: 12/25/2005

Msg: 154 (view)

Dumped mid date!! Posted: 3/17/2008 8:58:22 AM
I wouldn't say I've been dumped, but I did have a girl get embarrassed and leave when she realized she had no money to pay for her sandwich at the deli we were at. I would have paid, and did, but I'm not sure why it was so embarassing to leave? I donno.

jldude

Joined: 12/25/2005

Msg: 107 (view)

For the guys - why do you stand up women on dates? Posted: 3/17/2008 8:50:22 AM
This is getting old. Not all guys are this cold and heartless. Less than you think. I personally would never do such a thing to someone, I know what I go through to get one. In addition, I'm getting tired of women complaining about it, it's 5 times easier for a woman to get a date than a guy, seriously what the heck. If women had it any easier in the dating scene, guys would all be puppets.

jldude

Joined: 12/25/2005

Msg: 177 (view)

What have you learned from online dating ? Posted: 3/17/2008 6:46:26 AM
I have learned that there is a reason all of us have resorted to this site. 95% of us have faced too much rejection in real situations and/or have some serious issues that prevent us from connecting with real life people. We are the confused, insecure byproduct of this poor excuse of a perverted, screwed up world whether we know it or not. Go ahead bash me, but you all know it's true.

jldude

Joined: 12/25/2005

Msg: 129 (view)

Profile with picture of a very beautiful woman-contact her? Posted: 3/17/2008 6:19:43 AM
Lady if beautiful girls are the lonliest, then they must be on meds to hide it. Yes, in the real world I would go for an average to beautiful girl, not a model. But that's the magic of internet, I can send "flirts" and emails to many beautiful women, I know they'll never respond, but for the sake of doing it......You know what? I know for a fact I would be much happier with an average looking girl, there isn't as much competition always having to seem better than the other guys constantly, she's not as full of herself, and she's not constantly tryin to get "the best she can".

jldude

Joined: 12/25/2005

Msg: 15 (view)

What would you do? Posted: 3/17/2008 6:07:15 AM
First of all, congratulations on staying single through most of your teen years, I'm sure you're very special person. Second, don't ever, ever, ever expect anything from anyone. it only leads to disappointment. Just live life like you're perfectly happy, and if someone comes along and wants to be with you great, if not at least you can be happy, either way don't hang too much on other people especially when it comes to emotions.

jldude

Joined: 12/25/2005

Msg: 35 (view)

Reasons guys seem to lose interest in you... Posted: 3/17/2008 6:02:07 AM
Ok first off. Guys don't have a "friend zone". We're either interested or not. Usually the former. If he's pulling away, he obviously doesn't feel that you're very interested and maybe he feels you're not worth his time and effort.

jldude

Joined: 12/25/2005

Msg: 110 (view)

Why do men not ask a woman out in person? Posted: 3/17/2008 5:50:25 AM
Ya the thought that you must be taken is a biggie, I've thought it many times, but maybe guys do see you as a waste of their time asking you out. Personally, if the opportunity presented itself I would have no problem asking anyone out, provided I got that signal that we shared an interest and I was comfortable, I certianly wouldn't go around asking random women out

jldude

Joined: 12/25/2005

Msg: 59 (view)

Do platonic male friends scare off those interested romantically? Posted: 3/17/2008 5:47:11 AM
Tell me you're not serious. In case you are this naive, trust what you read.

jldude

Joined: 12/25/2005

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40-year-old virgin dilemna Posted: 3/17/2008 5:42:59 AM
I don't think anything of it, but then when I was 20 a girl was turned off by it. I think.....

jldude

Joined: 12/25/2005

Msg: 27 (view)

He walked without a word, what gives?? Posted: 3/17/2008 5:41:13 AM
Im sorry to hear that, but it's hard to sympathize since so many women do the same or worse, I hope you find someone better.....

jldude

Joined: 12/25/2005

Msg: 281 (view)

why dont men date pregnant women? Posted: 3/17/2008 5:38:39 AM
Personally I'm not desperate enough to watch some other guys child emerge....doesn't really do much for me. For me, a child is the most special gift any two people could ever get, to date someone who is carrying another man's DNA would be pretty low. I want to raise my own child someday not get the leftovers thank you very much.

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