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pres2

Joined: 2/3/2009

Msg: 9 (view)

Are there really fake profiles on here? Posted: 8/17/2009 9:06:08 AM
The only flag I see is the referral to your Facebook page. Many of the fakes need to contact you through another site, because they "can't figure this one out, or for some reason the system is blocking me, etc." Other than that, you seem real enough to me. Wish I lived in Indy.

pres2

Joined: 2/3/2009

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Havent dated in 10 years....help? Posted: 7/15/2009 11:55:30 AM
One of things that tends to happen when in a long term relationship is complacency. We get complacent about our weight, looks, conversation skills, etc. If you are back on the market, you need to rebrand yourself a bit. Hit the gym (also a great place to meet guys), break out the eyeliner and lip gloss, and dress up a bit. I notice in your profile pics that you are running around like you aren't trying to impress anyone, and that is exactly the effect you will have. As for the conversation, just talk about things you know. Also, listen way more than you talk. I find that when I do that, people come back to me to tell me that I am a great conversationalist when in reality I am a great listener. So to answer your questions, yes looks matter, but it is more an issue of how much you are trying versus what God gave you to start with. Have you ever seen Faith Hill without makeup, I have and she needs it. And to talk to a guy (or a girl) listen to what they are saying without thinking about what you are going to say next. Respond to their comments, share about yourself as little as necessary without seeming evasive. And remember, communication does not occur in a vacuum. Their responses will drive the conversation. Also, body language is VERY important, more so than what is actually said. Think about what signals you are giving off. Most importantly, get the heck back out there and have some FUN with it. Good luck.

pres2

Joined: 2/3/2009

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orgasm count, is he lying?? Posted: 4/27/2009 12:00:23 PM
I was given a book by my then G/F called the Tao of Health, Sex, and Longevity by Daniel P. Reedy. I used the taoist techniques in the book a few nights later, along with a romantic diner, candles, soft massage type music, etc. and was able to get her to orgasm 18 times. After that she didn't want me to touch her anymore, anywhere. Her whole body was too electrified to touch for a few hours. It was absolutely amazing, but I have never been able to replicate anything like that since. Doesn't mean I won't keep trying. And she likes to brag to her friends about this for the doubters. I come with references.

pres2

Joined: 2/3/2009

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Chivalry - the real purpose exposed! Posted: 4/27/2009 11:27:05 AM
Walking on the side of the path closest to the road doesn't put the man behind the woman. That gesture is for protection. My Dad always walked on the outside. It was for protection so you could bear the brunt of or stop a charging horse. Nowadays, the danger is more likely to come from a dark doorway, so I always walk on the inside to deal with that threat, and I also usually explain why. I have moved to the inside and had my date subtly try to shove me back to the outside by adjusting her pace and sliding to the left. Let us deal with the creeps jumping out of the alley, so at the very least you can gain a few moments to run away while we are getting our heads smashed in with a steel pipe. We are gentlemen like that.

pres2

Joined: 2/3/2009

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Chivalry - the real purpose exposed! Posted: 4/27/2009 11:19:25 AM
I have also found that opening her car door is a good opportunity to vent any bottled up flatulence as you slowly walk around the car to get in on your side. Oh crap, sharing that secret may cost me my "Man Card."

pres2

Joined: 2/3/2009

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Men wanting women only and not other men Posted: 4/26/2009 11:37:11 AM
Are there any men out there who have never had a desire or even a moments thought, as you have, of being with another man? Thanks for that, I have now and am trying to find some bleach for my brain. I nearly puked. Seriously, gay people don't bother me. They choose their lifestyle, I choose mine. I find that most guys who have closet gay thoughts (or deeds) are the big macho guys who would "NEVER do something like that." or who speak the longest and loudest about how they "hate fags!" I think they are way over-compensating. I have several gay friends and we joke around with things like me telling them, "If I was to go gay, I guess I would let you break me in," and they usually respond with "I may be gay, but I am not desperate, stop flattering yourself." All good fun. My question is what trait do you see as common in these guys, and could it be that they are commonly sharing not only this trait but also their "inquisitive experimental nature"? Might there be a connection. Are they really over denying their sexuality or engaging in gay bashing? May be the common thread you seek. Being in gay is like being in the CIA, the more you deny it, the more likely it is. I do gag little thinking about getting pounded by a big hairy dude though. I have looked at the question, considered it, and found it is not the path I prefer. Thank you for forcing me to consider where my preferences lie. I can now safely put that question to bed (literally).

pres2

Joined: 2/3/2009

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Blowjob....what should they call it? Posted: 4/26/2009 11:22:07 AM
As iam sure you'd be pretty freaked out if a girl just started blowing on it lol. This too has happened. "um, thank you for the effort, but why don't you get up off your knees now and let me pleasure you for a while." I live in Utah and I have to say, there isn't much in the way of orally proficient women here. Must be against the Doctrine and Covenants somehow.

pres2

Joined: 2/3/2009

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Men Shaved??? Posted: 4/26/2009 11:14:42 AM
Trimming takes to much effort, so just take it all off about every two weeks. Feels better, looks cleaner, and anyone wants to call me a fag, remember, I teach people how to rip other people's arms off and beat them to death with them. Just saying... I do notice that all of the guys in porn do it, all of my lady friends have expressed appreciation, both verbally and orally (and no they aren't the same thing ) and I enjoy myself so much better. Either because they are more giving down there as a result, or I maybe it is all just in my head. Either way, I am going to follow the pack on this one (or, based on some answers, lead the pack.)

pres2

Joined: 2/3/2009

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What do women think when a guy comes too quickly? Posted: 4/23/2009 10:49:34 PM
So I now I know what they mean by nice guys finish last. Guess that makes me a nice guy... at least most of the time.

pres2

Joined: 2/3/2009

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Stalkerish Behaviour Posted: 4/21/2009 6:14:26 PM
Chloedoll, please go to my website and look in the library. The first book in the list, order it and read it. It really can save your life. The addy is the three ws dot utahontarget dot com. Not trying to get you to buy anything, but you really need to read the Gift of Fear, and that goes for all of the women on here. Please do this.

pres2

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Love vs in love Posted: 4/21/2009 6:03:05 PM
Sorry Wishes, to the OP.

pres2

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Love vs in love Posted: 4/21/2009 10:21:46 AM
Your post assumes that love is an emotion. I disagree with that assumption. Love is a choice. You choose to love another person. You choose to accept them despite all of their flaws and warts and love them unconditionally. What you are talking about is affection or lust or romance, but true love is a choice. If you choose to love that person, in a true sense, then you won't care whether that love is reciprocated. You will accept what you can have and care more about what you can give. One of the reasons that true love is so uncommon is that so many people are waiting to fall into it rather than jumping into it.

pres2

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Stalkerish Behaviour Posted: 4/21/2009 10:13:34 AM
Once again I will recommend the book the Gift of Fear by Gavin DeBecker ( I won't sleep peacefully until every woman on the planet reads it.) It gives you classic signs of a troubled person you should flee from. These signs are in this book. Get away, don't answer his texts or calls, block his emails, RUN! This is a sick dude and it isn't too far a cry between picking a woman at random in the phone book and calling her incessantly and picking one at random at the mall and following her home and then picking a woman at random and cutting her up and putting her in the freezer. Dealing with this type of thing is my profession. I usually get called in after it is too late. Don't let it be too late. Get away from this guy. NOW!

pres2

Joined: 2/3/2009

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Online Humor Maybe Some People Can't Take a Joke!!! Posted: 4/21/2009 10:05:38 AM
I always like a joke, doesn't even have to be a good one. I think it was funny, but then again, I am a redneck with a beer belly and a carving knife. JK. I left my carving knife in my other pants. Let the humor roll, and Fvck em if they can't take a joke.

pres2

Joined: 2/3/2009

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Need Expert (aka Female) and Cheap (aka Free) Advice Pronto Posted: 4/20/2009 12:28:17 PM
I have a TSC and used to have a job that I couldn't talk about. At first it was a turnoff to many women because they thought I was being evasive when I tried to answer in vague terms. Later, I just starting telling them I work for the CIA and I would tell them, but then I would have to kill them and that makes it hard to get a second date. All of this was said with a big smile, then I would add that what I really do for a living is very boring, and change the subject to what they do for FUN. Leave the work talk behind as quickly as possible. Another thing, unless you are in the Clandestine Service, you can usually tell people which agency you work for and if they ask specifics, let them know you can't talk about it. I don't know of many part time jobs in the intel community, but you can just say you are an analyst with the XXX agency. You do focus a lot on what you do? How well do you listen to what they do or what they are into? It is amazing how much more attractive you will become the less you talk about yourself and listen to them talk about themselves.

pres2

Joined: 2/3/2009

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do you really want off this site Posted: 4/20/2009 12:12:44 PM
Its not easy to date in fact its easier to swallow a jug of liquidized bull's eye than to find a decent date. Damn Nancy, you are dating the wrong guys. There are much more pleasurable things to swallow than drain cleaner. I am thinking Vodka, you dirty girl. Cheer up. Dan.

pres2

Joined: 2/3/2009

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why do men SAY they want a forward women then don't Posted: 4/20/2009 12:01:44 PM
Grizzelda hit the nail on the head. Just like women, when someone asks us out, if we are attracted, then we like it. If we aren't attracted then we don't.

pres2

Joined: 2/3/2009

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I've realized something... Posted: 4/2/2009 10:04:38 PM
That and I'll tell you guys what I tell everyone in my on-line game as to why I don't have a girl friend and why I'm still a virgin. Nuff said. Playing WOW won't score you many points in the ladies dept.

pres2

Joined: 2/3/2009

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I've realized something... Posted: 3/31/2009 8:29:08 AM
One Dan to another, put aside your hobbies, save up a few thou, fly to Carson City, NV and go visit the Moonlight Bunny Ranch (remember HBO's Cathouse?) and let one of those professionals break you in properly. At 25, if it hasn't happened yet, then their are either severe emotional or deeply embedded moral reasons. But to answer your question, yes you can get hurt, yes you can get sick, yes you can be taken advantage of and raked over the coals, but GOD YES IT IS ALL WORTH IT! Freud concluded that 90 percent of a man's efforts are conducted for the purpose of having sex. I think he was way off, it is completely 100 percent. It is why I brush my teeth, work out, drive a nice car, work my butt off, learned how to cook, wear what I wear, buy what I buy, I can't think of a single thing I do that doesn't have something to do with getting more sex. Okay, maybe, just maybe, I exaggerate a bit to make a point. But the point is that sex, dating, and the nuzzle of a lovely female lip on your neck is worth everything you could ever have or long for. Get out there and get it done. Make all of the Dan's of the world proud of you. Oh, and Google Double Your Dating to learn why girls are all telling you they already have a boyfriend and you are getting the cold shoulder. The stuff you will find there will help a great deal with how you attract women. Good luck and good hunting. Dan.

pres2

Joined: 2/3/2009

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Have I been duped? Posted: 3/13/2009 3:25:22 PM
Was it all about the sex for him? I don't understand... Can someone please clarify for me lol?? He tells me that when he gets it figured out he will call me or whatever... honestly, what is going on in that head of his?? And why would he spend so much money coming up here just for that??? Cheaper than a call girl? What's a good hooker run these day? Not sure, but I bet it's more than a tank of unleaded. I am not saying you are a hooker, I am saying that you were duped and that it was cheaper for him to pay to come see you then to hire a hooker. If it sounds too good to be true, then it is. Most guys are pretty guarded with their feelings and for him to be this out front over the top set off my skeptic bells. Watch out for guys who will say "I love you or hope you will fall in love with me" when you haven't even met them. Watch out for too many compliments, and keep them guessing on the sex talk. Tell them you save that for face to face. And be wary of anyone who seems that in to you that quickly. IMO, we have a case of either a little too much mutual desperation, or a player who could sense that you are feeling a little desperate. Feeling a little desperate after a long term relationship that wasn't a real great one is perfectly normal by the way. If the whole thing is over and done, look at it this way; at least you got a little somthin-somthin, and a good lesson in overzealous praise to boot. And never let a guy you just met buy you anything. There is nothing that makes you want to spend money or time on a woman like knowing that she is self-sufficient. It makes the effort more challenging. And if that doesn't work, well I hope you can learn to fall in love with me, I think you're beautiful, and if you stop talking to me I'll be really hurt. Crushed, I may just not be able to go on with my life! How do you feel about Utah?

pres2

Joined: 2/3/2009

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Getting mixed messages... Posted: 3/11/2009 4:03:50 PM
Finally I added, sorry if I was intense as we got into some pretty serious relationship questions & didn't want him to feel pressured about a committed relationship. Never get into serious relationship issues on the first date. Now he is thinking, this chick is way more into me than I am into her because I don't even know her that well yet. I think you may have gone full steam ahead and not realized that you were running over his dinghy. Take it easy and let it come on slow. If he asks how you feel about a deep relationship issue, give him a sly look and say, "Wouldn't you like to know. Think I am going to spill all the beans this soon?" If he tries to tell you about his feelings on marriage or kids or retirement communities, let him know that "This is just a first date, maybe once I get to know you better we can talk about those things. Right now, I am wondering if you wear boxers or briefs." Do whatever you have to to derail that train before it runs you over. And be kind to the cat. My cats are like most people's kids. No hating the felines.

pres2

Joined: 2/3/2009

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Girls with Glasses, Hot or Not? Posted: 3/11/2009 3:38:36 PM
Definitely hot. Sort of the librarian fantasy thing. I love taking off a woman's glasses as I lean into kiss her. She usually thinks I am being sexy, but I am really just trying to make myself look better.

pres2

Joined: 2/3/2009

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what is everyones opin on tattoos? Posted: 3/10/2009 9:27:58 AM
My opinion on tattoos is that it's been invented or rather reintroduced in modern times in first-world countries only in order to subdivide the population into classes, clans and clowns, just like smoking, religion, abortions, etc. do. Now the Star-bellied Sneetches had bellies with stars. The Plain-bellied Sneetches had none upon thars. The stars weren't so big; they were really quite small. You would think such a thing wouldn't matter at all. But because they had stars, all the Star-bellied Sneetches would brag, "We're the best kind of Sneetch on the beaches."

pres2

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how soon is too soon? Posted: 3/3/2009 1:01:25 PM
You are 21 years old and a beautiful woman. You can perhaps have your pic of the cream of the crop. Don't ever short change yourself with pier pressure regarding sexual choices. Intamacy is a private decision and only you will know for sure when you are ready. If a man passes you up because he doesn't have patience or grace with you then he didn't deserve you in the first place. Don't feel you have to put an hour glass to making an important decision like that. In this day and age with stds running epedemic a fair amount of prudence is a wiser choice than being promiscuous. What she said. Just so you have the guy's perspective.

pres2

Joined: 2/3/2009

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Older man, younger woman, and loud sex Posted: 3/3/2009 12:56:13 PM
If he is 30, then he is still all hung up on appearance. Any older, and I think he would just be happy to be in the room. 20 Year old women screaming during sex has never bothered me too much. It is the inane trivial conversation that comes out of them before and after that drives me crazy. I don't know what KORN is and if I wanted to know I could find out. As far as I am concerned, if you aren't discussing Lindsay Lohan, any passionate screams you make are terrific. You can scream in my ear anytime you like.

pres2

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what is everyones opin on tattoos? Posted: 3/3/2009 12:45:17 PM
and if someone is so simple-minded that they choose to write me off based on something as superficial as my appearance, we wouldn't have been compatible anyway. Come on Ms_Nomer, you mean to tell me you have never judged another based on their appearance? We all do it all of the time. Hair length, color, or lack of hair, weight, face symmetry, height, color, everyone discriminates to some extent. Funny how it is only superficial when it is aimed at us.

pres2

Joined: 2/3/2009

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How to make a guy cum from a b/j Posted: 3/2/2009 3:35:51 PM
I made it all about him. I heart challenges! And people wonder why I love red heads. Way to go Sassy. Let me tell you about the worst BJ I ever had... It was great. But seriously, I have seen women who love what they are doing, and others who were going through the motions, either out of a sense of obligation in return for my efforts, or because they felt it was expected of them, but you could tell their heart wasn't in it. That is a big part of it. If you are enjoying yourself, your guy will enjoy himself. If you are just going through the motions, that will be apparent, and if it is me, I would rather you focus your energy elsewhere. As for technique, I suggest you get Nina Hartley's video on the subject. I had one ex who made Nina look like an amateur. One thing she did for me that sped things up was to pull my shaft down between my legs and from that angle, everything was more sensitive. Also, having a lot of saliva, with some hand motion, and pulling the sack downward to stretch the skin tighter all enhance. The best thing is to pay attention to how the guy reacts and respond to what is working. If he is getting into it, go faster, if he isn't getting into it yet, go slower. Change things up, lick under the crown, slide your mouth up and down over his shaft while sucking, tickle his balls with your tongue, and never forget the paraneum (taint). In the end, don't worry about it too much. Even if he doesn't cum, he got a blow job and the finale shouldn't be the primary focus. Hope this helps, and I can make myself available for lessons and practice if you need. Just out of the goodness of my heart you understand.

pres2

Joined: 2/3/2009

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Your favorite time and place to start sex by giving a mind blowing blow job? Posted: 3/2/2009 3:04:47 PM
Jeez. Can you just imagine? Stopping a man while he's in the middle of driving, just to give him that kickass mind blowing blow job? I'm sure the OP has already been there, and done that. Reminds me of this one time on the way to Georgia when I nearly ran into the back of an 18 wheeler..... ˆ had to pull over on a deserted off ramp for the finale. Then a trooper pulled up behind us and I had to pull the old "I pulled over for a quick nap rather than falling asleep at the wheel" excuse. He gave me a smile, a wink, and drove away. Anywho, it takes a particular amount of concentration to focus on the road and other distractions while driving. Do so at your own risk.

pres2

Joined: 2/3/2009

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For The Guys- Would you seriously date an ex-prostitute? Posted: 3/2/2009 2:50:57 PM
Definitely. Think about. No sexual hangups, mad skills, who wouldn't prefer a woman who was a pro? Just very insecure guys and those oh so squishily ambiguous metrosexuals. I dojn't know that it would be a slam dunk, but all things considered, I see it as a plus rather than a negative.

pres2

Joined: 2/3/2009

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All she wants to do is watch porn,have sex ,watch sports and drink beer Posted: 3/2/2009 2:40:07 PM
Clonealone....Starting a support group for guys like us would be a great idea, where do i sign up? Sign me up guys. It gets so tiresome being treated as nothing more than a sex object.

pres2

Joined: 2/3/2009

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ladies, how much older would you date? Posted: 2/20/2009 8:34:29 AM
As I always tell my female friends in their 20's when the gripe about stupid boys, stop playing with boys and start dating men. If you date boys you will have boy issues. Dating a few years older means you will have other issues, "baggage" some have labeled them. But at least most men have learned to carry their "baggage" with dignity. Don't get me wrong though, there are boys in their fifties. Some of them never grow up. I think it depends on how much the difference in age becomes an issue. Is there a hard and fast rule that you should never date someone X+ years older? Don't be silly. You will figure out where the proper balance comes in when the issues arise. One thing that really irks me about this site is how many people see others as 50+, divorced, smoker, etc. rather than intricate human beings that have a different mixture of traits and character that make each one a unique individual. Everyone needs to step out of their little boxes and give some people they never thought they could be attracted to a shot. It might get you off of here and out there. This is why I like to date several women at a time, eventually I will weed them down to one I want to have a relationship with. In the meantime, I have a lot of fun meeting lots of new people and learning more and more about the world everyday. I date them at 21 (seldom younger because I can't take them in the bar with me and I am not fluent in 19 year old) and have dated as old as 50. I am 37 which is a nice middle mark to date on both ends of the dating spectrum and everywhere in between. Bottom line (it is at the bottom of the post) give it a shot, and if it doesn't work out, don't rule out all older men or women just because of one bad experience with one unique human being.

pres2

Joined: 2/3/2009

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Married Women Looking For Sex Posted: 2/19/2009 3:31:22 PM
I have a simple rule. Never have sex with a married woman unless her husband requests it.

pres2

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multiple positions during 1sex session, hows it possible Posted: 2/19/2009 3:25:55 PM
Go get the book, the Tao of Health, Sex and Longevity by Daniel P. Reid. I read it and practiced the sex techniques in the book on my girlfriend at the time and lasted longer than ever before. I also made her orgasm 18 times before she wouldn't let me touch her anymore. (For the doubters, we are still really good friends and she loves to vouch for this.) I don't suggest you shoot for 18, but the techniques in the book are great for understanding how to read a woman, respond to her maximum benefit, and last a really long time. The diet and lifestyle stuff ain't too bad either.

pres2

Joined: 2/3/2009

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Why talk about sex but never get to it? Posted: 2/19/2009 3:17:51 PM
Some guys just can't handle a sexually liberated woman. they don't understand what it means even. For them there are good girls and skanks, and never the twain shall meet. Keep the friend and go find a guy who appreciates what a rare creature you are for being able to express your sexuality.

pres2

Joined: 2/3/2009

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When is taking a drunk girl home from a bar and having sex considered rape? Posted: 2/19/2009 3:09:24 PM
I don't know about anyone else, but I really enjoy sex more when we are both cold stone sober. Everything feels more intense and alive. Also, I never have been a fan of kissing a woman whose breath smells like the insider of a vintner's barrel. I also a prefer a woman who is attracted to me when she is sober and not one who has to wait until her beer goggles are firmly in place. Must just be my ego. That said, if she is drunk and not making clear decisions, let it be some other guy who gets slapped with the rape charge. I am far from being so desperate that I have to get them liquored up to bring them home. That is one of the reasons I seldom pick women up in bars. That and because I work in a bar and see on a regular basis what happens and how both of them can end up getting messed up. At least as a bouncer I get to check their ID and make sure that they really are of legal age.

pres2

Joined: 2/3/2009

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whats a mans soft spot? Posted: 2/19/2009 2:34:55 PM
For me the paraneum or taint is one of my favorite places to be kissed, caressed, or licked. For me it does what the G-Spot does for you.

pres2

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any men out there ever have an erection lasting over four hours?!!! Posted: 2/19/2009 2:08:43 PM
Yes. It hurts like hell. I had a priopism last for 4 days. There is a reason that they pack C4 plastic explosive with those plastic gloves like they wear at Burger King. They mean for you to use them. The worst part was that after handling the explosives I not only was rock hard for 4 days, I had the absolute worst headache of my life. Not an experience I would like to repeat, regardless of all of the BSers on here who think it is the greatest joy on earth. Even without the headache and with an endless stream of nymphomaniac Victoria's Secret models, I'll pass thanks.

pres2

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what is everyones opin on tattoos? Posted: 2/17/2009 10:50:24 PM
Agreed OP. I feel like a tattoo on a beautiful woman is like graffiti on the Venus de Milo. Why destroy the wonderful art of beautiful skin with cheap and tacky looking graffiti?

pres2

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so, why are you still single? Posted: 2/17/2009 10:47:14 PM
Because I am extremely picky, live in a very target poor environment, and like "my time" way too much. I would rather be single than be with someone who is a bad match or just to be with someone. I like my own company and can do for myself anything that needs doing ( I mean like cooking, cleaning, laundry, bills etc., shame o you Naughty minds) and don't need another person to complete me. I was married for 5 years and doubt that I will ever get married again. I am one of those people who learns the first time not to stick your hand in the flame again because it hurts. i don't feel the need to own or possess or be owned or possessed by another person.

pres2

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WHAT TO SAY ????? Posted: 2/16/2009 10:11:46 PM
My advice to you: Go back to school. Forget dating. It's unbecoming to your kind. jm0405 - Ouch! Harsh. True, but harsh.

pres2

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Children: - What do we really expect? Posted: 2/16/2009 9:37:36 PM
I don't like children. I don't make them, don't want them, and am upfront about it. I am hoping that there are women who feel the same way (rare, I know) but am holding uot hope that someday I will find one. Until then, if it means having kids or being single, I'll take single.

pres2

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are people intimidated by my profile? Posted: 2/16/2009 9:34:08 PM
Not intimidating, just sends conflicting messages. If I fall for you, then I have to worry about you taking off to Knoxville. If I am in Knoxville, then you are not here yet. Also, it is good that you have your boundaries and enforce them, but perhaps you could find a more approachable way to express them, such as "I respect others and expect the same. I am looking for a real relationship and not just a casual hookup." Remember, there are multiple ways to say the same thing, the difference is the presentation. JMHO.

pres2

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Going back again... Posted: 2/16/2009 9:02:37 PM
RUN, don't walk away. People who are with, and go back to, people with issues like his ex, thrive on that type of drama. This is my personal as well as professional opinion. I am a defensive tactics instructor (self defense) and deal with hundreds of women a year who are in these cycles with guys. Some of them are truly trying to get away from these guys, but many just thrive on the drama. Ask yourself, with 2 children, do you really need this level of drama in your life. Then go to Amazon.com and order the book "The Gift of Fear" and read it. It will give you great insight into identifying dangerous manipulative behavior, and this has all of the hallmarks. Get away before yo get sucked into his snare and keep your guard up. Good luck

pres2

Joined: 2/3/2009

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Why are many of you afraid Posted: 2/16/2009 8:51:10 PM
I'll be honest, maybe it is because of conditioning, or just my normal preference, but I have never felt a physical attraction to a woman of color. I also have never been attracted to a Phillipino woman, but dated a Japanese woman and very much enjoyed it. I have been attracted to Jewish women, but tend to find myself drawn to short brunettes, tall blondes, and redheads of any height. I don't know why I am not attracted physically, I am not a racist, I have very close and dear friends of all ethnicities, but just not the romantic attraction. I have heard the same thing from black women, and especially from Asian women, though I think that is mainly cultural. I live in Utah, and make a point not to date Mormons, since there is little point in dating someone you think is silly. Perhaps for some men, the knowledge of the possible social ramifications become an impediment. As for the other issue, I have never "hooked up" with a woman of color because I just haven't. I also haven't sought it out or run from it. It just hasn't been an issue. I do remember one time a young black woman was very attracted to me and let me know by telling me that I needed to try some "hot chocolate." Her color wasn't the problem for me, it was that she weighed about 200 lbs. That is a big hang up of mine. If a guy is looking for a hookup with a "sister" just so they can check it off of their "to do list" then they are real losers. If you are attracted, go for it. If not, it's not that big of a deal. Different people are attracted to different traits. You seem very intelligent and have a good sense of who you are. Those are both stunningly attractive qualities and I am sure that you will find someone who is attracted to you for you. Good luck.

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