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hsv kitty

Joined: 2/4/2009

Msg: 51 (view)

OK I just have to ask Posted: 10/28/2009 9:49:46 AM
You managed to repeat yourself in posts 48 and 50. Your replies make me wonder what you are smoking in that pipe. I didn't say they were all deviants, or that they would become so, but that some are and do act out in real life. They are the ones who think that because of their stature in life, connections and money they can live a life of debauchery and be untouchable and above the law. There is no remorse because they feel those who think otherwise are being hemmed in by religion and morals while they are free-spirited and victimless in their selfishness. Reread Polanski’s quote. He feels victimized by a puritanical society. He has no remorse. John Phillips lived such a life, and freely admits it in interviews and his book and admitted that he hooked Mackenzie onto drugs as a preteen. Having read about his life of debauchery and excess, it is not a huge leap to think he was also incestuous. He obviously didn't care about her enough to have boundaries. My other remarks, which I stated to be conjecture were just that, to show the tangled web their lives have weaved. Stories of like seeking like. I am sure there are many other stories untold besides Mackenzie Phillips.

hsv kitty

Joined: 2/4/2009

Msg: 49 (view)

OK I just have to ask Posted: 10/25/2009 3:07:51 PM
Crap, I timed out... but I still have something to say so too bad... You want Polanski to be a man about it? you don't get it. He wants everyone else to embrace their desires as he has done. He thinks everyone else has no balls! He feels no remorse. he feels he was wrongly treated! He feels he should be allowed to be in confinement in his cottage in France! John Phillips lived a life of excess and debauchery and was happy to tell anyone he met. He didn't care about anyone but himself and his desires. He had no boundaries and hated laws and conventions. Who knows what someone who has no moral compass is capable of? I wasn't saying that the person who made the slasher movies or wrote about them was a slasher. I am saying that people who are writing about it, acting the parts, or directing others to act out, may well be acting out their own fantasies. For some that might be enough to satisfy the urges. A profiler of a murderer would tell you that for others it might be the trigger for acting it out in reality. Polanski chooses dark films of sexual expolitation and deviation., towards females and children. The evil characters use stature and money to manipulate. There is no moral to the story . Rosemary embraces the devil's baby. Sorry that you can't see that connection.

hsv kitty

Joined: 2/4/2009

Msg: 47 (view)

OK I just have to ask Posted: 10/25/2009 1:36:58 PM
Sorry about 2 posts in a row, but this one is some points to ponder. There is a club of celebrities that has been around for a very long time. It appears that Woody Allen, John Houston, Orson Wells and Roman Polanski and many others had more in common then producing movies and power and liked to talk secretly about their OTHER passions. Their eclectic movie styles may have more to do with their actual life styles and desires then just placing murderous, drug addicted and sexual deviants on the big screen. That last part is conjecture, but discussions were overheard, child prostitutes procured for parties (their own children offered too) and real life events played out in the press in Polanski’s and Allen’s case, show there is some validity. For instance, art imitates life when Roman Polanski had Rosemary (Mia Farrow) drugged and then raped by Lucifer for their mutual benefit in Rosemary’s baby. In Chinatown the wicked incestuous father is none other then John Houston. In reality, the Black Dahlia murder case of the 1947 inspired the writing of the movie Chinatown. The murderer is rumoured to be Doctor Hodel, a Hollywood doctor who partied/played Doctor with the elite and allegedly offered his 14 year daughter to some of them whilst also using her himself. How strange that the daughter of Doctor Holdel is great friends with Michelle Phillips, Mackenzie’s stepmom? Remember Manson murders? Roman Polanksi became convinced that John Phillips had masterminded the murder of his wife and her friends in retribution for Polanski's own affair with Michelle Phillips. The same Michelle Phillips has denied John Phillips could have been incestuous to his daughter and called Mackenzie a liar. What a tangled web! With fame comes money and power and obviously a feeling of being above society and its laws. 14 days after the incest trial of Dr holdel, he was a suspect in the murder of Elizabeth Short (the Black Dahlia) and Jeanne French (who share d a P.O. box with him) but the accuser was suddenly removed from the case and Dr Hodel fled the country. Gosh that sounds familiar ... Hollywood elite being unable to distinguish what is a crime and how it should be punished or how they can get away with it and if not, pay to have it all go away before the charges stick. A quote from Roman Polanski: "If I had killed somebody, it wouldn't have had so much appeal to the press, you see?" he told Martin Amis in a 1979 interview. "But... f..king, you see, and the young girls. Judges want to f..k young girls. Juries want to f..k young girls. Everyone wants to f..k young girls!" Does that sound remorseful and like a man who would refrain from doing it again?

hsv kitty

Joined: 2/4/2009

Msg: 46 (view)

OK I just have to ask Posted: 10/25/2009 1:25:20 PM
Which side would I like to take? Many men like to hide their desires because they are out of the main stream. Most people like it that way because we want sex to be an issue for discussion between the parties. We have laws that help to keep the children out of the picture, because we know that the trauma of being sexulaized and used by a trusted adult stays with that person forever and can trigger sexual deviancy from that point on and continue the cycle. That is not a debateable issue, although some pedophiles would have you believe otherwise. Whether Mackenzie Phillips is lying was the question and that we can debate.

hsv kitty

Joined: 2/4/2009

Msg: 44 (view)

OK I just have to ask Posted: 10/24/2009 11:59:52 PM
Msg: 12....Mackenzie Phillips has had a lot of drug problems” Well, yes she did and it is a well known fact her father helped her do her first drugs and left them on the table after parties for her. He also wrote about that in his tell all book. Mackenzie also told her sister Chynna about the incest in 1997. She went public to help other victims heal. Msg: 35 ... “instead of throwing the book at someone, give em a few years to better themselves and others and if succesful, drop the charges?” That is how the system works if you are a young person who still does not know right from wrong; you are often given a second chance. In lesser charges for adults, it is also the case as community service and restrictions can replace jail time. Do you want the drugging and raping of a 13 year old to be dropped because he fled his charges? The punishment has to suit the crime and his self imposed exile doesn't do it. Have you read the transcripts about what Polanski did to that girl? The man thought he was above the law, until he was caught. He had no remorse. It should be considered inexcusable by everyone, not just women with children who can relate because we have children we care about. (That excludes Whoopi and Woody...) Msg: 37 ... “If she was 19 when it started he wouldn't be a pedophile would he” Ummm, she was 19 and it was the first time she remembered. Do you really believe it was the first time? She awoke in a stupor as he was screwing her. Regardless, are you saying rape and incest is somehow more forgivable or better then being called a pedophile? I have no doubt she was groomed and given drugs for this purpose since she was 11 and that he screwed her many times before sex at 19. She spoke on another show of waking with no panties or in his bed. She just couldn’t remember what had happened.

hsv kitty

Joined: 2/4/2009

Msg: 139 (view)

Any way to find + herpes people on this site? Posted: 10/14/2009 2:25:09 PM
Pfft! Really ? Is that what you think I've been trying to do ? Make you people feel bad ? I couldn't care less about you.... It's not about YOU or YOUR FEELINGS. It's about decency. It's about "not wasting people's time" It's about respect for others. I've explained it in this thread countless times. I don't feel the need to do it again and again. People can go back and read. If you have an illness, your obligated to let others know about it before they invest time on you, instead of pulling the old bait & switch on them. That's all I asked for... But nooo! You tell whenever you feel like telling.... hmmm, see I have a big fking problem with that... sorry! You are a very little man in so many ways. Your enjoyment of spewing vitriol is childish and immature, so please quit rediculing other's mentality when you are a midget. I tell right away that I have Herpes and if you read my NAME here and my PROFILE, you would have seen that. Evryone else here also stated that they tell before intimacy.. But no, of course you spew hate for no reason, because you enjoy being hateful. It is infuriating that this site no longer lallows flagging of posts ... none of yours have been on topic. I would much rather be inflicted with Herpes then be an ignoramus like yourself, any day! Sincerely!

hsv kitty

Joined: 2/4/2009

Msg: 135 (view)

Any way to find + herpes people on this site? Posted: 10/13/2009 9:19:59 PM
Ok fine sweetness, then you won't mind having "I have Herpes " Tatooed on your forehead...being that is what yarimelma would like? Did you even read the "negative" comments before you say we simply jumped on him? I don't blame him for his being unwilling to be with someone who has Herpes. It is the absolute ignorance and vitriol he spews I detest If I am diagnosed witb herpes in the future, I will be honest about it, and not bash people who dont watn anything to do with it. I wouldnt blame them at all!!! BTW I do NOT feel bad about having Herpes. People who are ignorant about Herpes try to MAKE me feel bad about it. I was unlucky and life goes on. I feel lucky that I don't have MS or Cancer... If you think that we are the ones bashing yarimelma, and he is merely negative then you need to reread the thread to see who is negative and who is bashing!

hsv kitty

Joined: 2/4/2009

Msg: 125 (view)

Any way to find + herpes people on this site? Posted: 10/11/2009 4:27:04 PM
So , yarimelma, that's how it is spread? By wishing? heheh thanks so very much! I have a deep respect for others and I would venture, judging by your replies here, that you have no respect for anyone. I wish for NO PITY from you or anyone else. You, however, are pitiful. I never wished it on you persee , I wished you Kharma, which means you will no doubt get something worse. You have not answered whether or not you have had any blood tests for this or tests for any other std. Without specifically asking for some tests, you may be missing the very ones you fear. Being males are not tested for HPV and it is rampant, you have a good chance of having it. Being HSV can be latent and hide for years, you may have either type and are more likely to spread it then I as I am knowledgeable. I hope that people are kinder to you if you get it, because otherwise, with your attitude you will jump in front of a bus ...

hsv kitty

Joined: 2/4/2009

Msg: 39 (view)

Strike! Posted: 10/10/2009 11:53:01 AM
Many Companies will use a downturn in the economy to cut staff, cut pay and change the contract. They will do so whether they are doing well or doing badly because they are looking at staff as numbers , sometimes literally as employee numbers. Once that happens , you need a strong Union to help you negotiate. Marius, there are many reasons why people vote for or against a contract. Your cousin may be new to any job market and enjoy having any salary at all. He may not have any family to worry about. He may be living at home and therefore lush. He may also not be aware of the necessity of your Union to ensure that he keep his job and keep a decent salary. As a previous poster has said, each Union member has the right to vote for or against a contract using their own criteria. Being the majority of that workforce might be older adults with families and possibly the major breadwinners as well, they might have more of a vested intest in keeping the wages higher and therefore more likely to support their Union.

hsv kitty

Joined: 2/4/2009

Msg: 125 (view)

Herpes? Posted: 10/10/2009 11:24:51 AM
The majority of the population has antibodies for HSV, not all present with symptoms but you can still infect others by shedding the virus. Few even know they have it. Few read about how they can infect others. Few care until someone presents with symptoms and is diagnosed. It is true that Doctors call it cold sores when it is on the upper body and Herpes when it is on the genitalia. HSV1 just prefers the upper body and HSV2 the lower, but you can get both in either location (google good virus /bad virus) If you have few antibodies for HSV or none as a baby has (if the mom has never been infected) or a compromised immune system, then you are more likely to contract the virus. Having either Herpes means you are afforded some protection from the other. Having a Herpes outbreak at birth can be fatal if the mom had been newly infected and thus had not developed antibodies to pass on to the child in the womb. (they leave after about 6 months) Childbirth can be natural if both you and your Doctor are informed and you are not newly infected. QUICKSILVER217, of course you will come join the conversation, YAY! You are the worst case scenario of what coldsores can do to a person. If the 90% of the populationwho have the coldsore (HSV, Herpes, whatever you wish to call it) virus were as easily able to inflict it upon themselves as you have, then spouting your story as though it were the norm would be justified. No one would ever have sex again! No one would ever kiss again either, as HSV1 is passed on most often by a kiss. May I remind you your mother may have given it to you if she kissed you at birth. SO she might have been the criminal? Sorry that you have such a horrible immune system and that Doctors were not able to diagnose. May I remind you that stress is a trigger and you have so much stress it is frightening. May I also remind you that you have not placed the fact you have HSV1 on your profile. I Each person has the right to choose whomever they wish to be with, Kharma, and you may think of me as you wish, truly. I think the fact I am forthright on my profile and in my name says as much. It can be a health issue for some, yes of course. My replies were for those too ignorant to care find out if THEY have it before spouting off that we are somehow lesser. It is the harshness that having Herpes brings out in the holier then thou crowd that hurts and isn't necessary. Ok, now "I" have been too verbose. Not sorry though.

hsv kitty

Joined: 2/4/2009

Msg: 120 (view)

Herpes? Posted: 10/8/2009 5:21:37 PM
Dudleyh45, your explanation containss little logic , far too much information and STILL refers to the young female (even though you insist your reply could not be associated with her, grrr) and pertains not to the foolish things you said...kill you indeed! hah! I am glad you are celibate so those spermies can do no harm.... By the way, marriage changes your life. Having babies changes your life. Growing up changes your life. Divorce changes your life. Herpes has been a blip compared to those life changes. Social stigma and ignorance are what make Herpes a bad thing. I don't have breakouts and had unoprotected sex of all kinds with my ex....OMG imagine!!! We even had a child mercy me!! Notice how you say your PARTNER might develop it, because you MUST be clean even though never tested? It can be dormant and YOU can be the one to pass it on. You probably do have it as an innocent mom's kiss on your face can give it to you as a baby. What if you get it from a friend kiss on the cheek and you had an abrasion there? Now what if you are rejected by the one you fall in love with if you for having giving HER herpes. (she was tested you weren't) Are you really going to die or kill yourself because of ignorance? (That was the ignorance I was referring to that kills) Even though you have never been tested, and never had an outbreak, you can harbor it. But as you said, whatever works for you Mr. Holier and cleaner then thou....

hsv kitty

Joined: 2/4/2009

Msg: 118 (view)

Herpes? Posted: 10/8/2009 12:55:11 PM
Dudley, you are not only narrow- minded, you are also ignorant! Risk your life? Maybe you should read a bit and stay informed. You probably already have the same type of Herpes I have...being 80% of the population does. Have you paid to have the tests done to ensure you don't have it before you spout your claims of being so clean and disease free? No Doctor in Winnipeg does it, so don't lie... It has to be done in the states and medicare won't pay because 90% of the population has HSV 1 or 2 . The diots who have been so judgemental and maligned anyone with Herpes for so long and are so afraid of Herpes, would DIE hearing they have it. Doctors are calling them coldsores because if they diagnosed Herpes, ignorant people would throw themselves off a bridge. So unless you are celebate, you are in the age range of newly single non condom using free loving older adults who are fast making Herpes rampant due to extreme ignorance and denial. Herpes doesn't kill for goodness sakes, but ignorance surely does. She wasn't being offered to you in the first place, and how dare you call her a piece of tail... Dudley, she just has Herpes, she isn't brain dead to want someone like YOU!

hsv kitty

Joined: 2/4/2009

Msg: 104 (view)

What would you do if your partner gave you an std such as herpes or gonorrhea but denied cheating Posted: 10/6/2009 4:00:27 PM
Valerie is correct in eqach of her posts. Cold sores are Herpes (usually HSV 1)... and oral sex can pass it on to the genitalia . The Herpes virus can slough cells without visible outbreaks (asymptomatic shedding) so either person may have shed the virus. As Valerie says, Herpes is not in a Standard STD/STI panel. It will not even be tested for in Canada unless you exhibit visible symtoms and it is a scraping of cells not a blood test. (very innaccurate) The Herpes virus can be dormant for years and not flare up. Also being the first sore may not be like the ugly pictures you have all seen in the worst case scenario pics on the net... they can look exactly like a pimple or even a slight abrasion and have gone unnoticed by either party. Certain foods, trauma, surgery or stressors may have caused the outbreak to surface with a more noticable lesion. . You must have blood tests every 3 to 6 months while sexuually active , as it takes that long for antibodies to show up in testing . Unless you do have the newest and most expensive DNA Hepes test, the results may not be accurate . SO, the only way you can tell if he was cheating was if you both were specifically tested several times before marriage and were found to be free and clear of HSV and still have those documents for proof.

hsv kitty

Joined: 2/4/2009

Msg: 117 (view)

the author has left the building... Posted: 10/6/2009 12:43:16 PM
The author has found someone special, so hopefully will not be back. The post is still very useful though. Here are ways to find people with Herpes here: Add to your interests the following: HSV, Herpes, 437737 so people can find you in interest searches. To search just click on the interest or add then individually in the advanced search under interests You can also do a username search for those who have HSV, herpes, 437737 in their name. (there are few who have it listed at this time ) In forums, do a search for Herpes (click home and there is the white search line at the top right) and see who admitted having Herpes in the many threads you will find and hope they are close by. A few of us who are tired of "the talk " have placed it in our names. There are Herpes dating sites and I believe Mandrox owns the one he advertizes being he mentions it yet never discusses Herpes or the question at hand, but it has noone my age from my home town there so be sure to check before you pay. Positive singles is one that at least has a few active members. One thing I noticed is that 5 of the men I spoke to on positive singles are here as well. none state they have Herpes in the profile, so hopefully they are honest and tell. One thing that the social stigma and ignorant remarks does is to drive people into dishonesty and denial, so those very harsh words may be bringing that Karma closer and closer, Mr.Clean.

hsv kitty

Joined: 2/4/2009

Msg: 109 (view)

Any way to find + herpes people on this site? Posted: 10/5/2009 8:36:41 AM
Msg: 15 I've read that 90% of people's bodies with good immune systems cure themselves of it within about 2 years time. Not cure, no, as the virus will lie dormant in the nervous system for your lifetime. The immune system will do a great job of suppressing the virus as long as you stop taking suppressing drugs, know your triggers, reduce stress and keep your immune system tip top. Yarimelma and Will, your posts were full of hatred and ignorance. You seem to thrive upon being that way, so I will only ask that Karma comes to call. Most standard STD/STI panels do not include tests for HSV, Hep C, HPV or HIV. You have to request these test and pay for them separately. In Canada, no Doctor will give you a blood test to test for HSV infection as it is thought 90% of the North American population has HSV1 or 2 and deem it unnecessary. Even if you have a Western blot or type specific serology test for HSV, you may not dismiss HSV 1 as you can pass it on orally during oral sex and may have it on the genitalia as I do. I repeat, that supposedly innocuos "cold sore" you have can give someone genital Herpes. Antibody tests must be done 3 to 6 months (it takes that long to build the antibodies) after each encounter to be sure you are disease free. For those of you saying you are clean, can you honestly state you paid to have all of those tests done frequently? Men cannot even be tested for HPV and as most are carriers, it is spreading quickly. Unless you are a male who has had a specific DNA test (extremely doubtful as it is so expensive and not readily available) I think the shouts of “I am clean” from the denial crowd are sounding weaker and weaker. Time to have another talk with the mirror and then your Doctor?

hsv kitty

Joined: 2/4/2009

Msg: 114 (view)

Herpes? Posted: 10/5/2009 6:44:05 AM
You tempt your Karma every time you have sex ... but denial is bliss isn't it? The drugs help to suppress the virus (it resides in the nerve ganglia ) for a few people and supposedly lessens the healing time if you do have an outbreak. It is wise to take the drugs initially, especially if you are one who called those have it unclean, dusgusting, horrible and slutty people ... and all too soon find out Karma is a bi*ch. That added mental stress can make for many more outbreaks, as stress is a trigger. The problem is that the immune system can be a very effective means of suppressing, and taking the pills means your immune response will not kick in. It also works in varying degrees with each individual. Although many Adverts would have you believe Herpes can be "cured", it can at this time, only be repressed fairly successfully. There are herbal remedies which can help the immune system keep the virus suppressed as well. I will let others who are knowledgeable about the effectiveness of the drugs speak more on that.

hsv kitty

Joined: 2/4/2009

Msg: 125 (view)

now I have herpes Posted: 9/9/2009 9:42:33 AM
silentman73, having read your posts here, I see that you are not very well informed. I got Herpes on my genitalia from oral sex with someone who had HSV1 on their mouth. It was in a long term monogamous relationship. Those same sores are Herpes, but are referred to as 'cold sores', even by Docotrs. 90% of the population has the virus and yet do not know it or how it can be transferred. I am willing to bet you are not among the 10% who have neither HSV1 or 2. You need to have a Type specific IG serology, so unless you asked for it and paid for it (it is NOT in an STD screen) you may well have Herpes. Just a thought for your denial that you are so very clean and thus we are not. M church is correct in this instance. Herpes lives in the nerves for your lifetime and there is no cure. Knowing your triggers, staying stress free, keeping a healthy immune system and possibly using meds if the previous 3 are impossible, can keep it at bay for the most part. To the author, it is always best to tell sooner then later. It doesn't get easier to tell, so just make sure you are armed with knowledge and give him time to think about it. (I see that you have written him , but you should have left him time to think and offered to be there to answer questions. Guessing what he thinks of you is only going to make you feel badly. You are not your Herpes! Once he assures you he cannot handle it, move on to find someone who can. Message me privately if you wish)

hsv kitty

Joined: 2/4/2009

Msg: 34 (view)

Worrisome tendency in Success Stories Posted: 7/25/2009 5:23:46 PM
hereIgoagain2009, I look at your picture and falsely think there might be a sweet and happy person in that skin ... Perhaps that's why you chose it? Or stole it from another site? I am wondering if you a kid who is getting their kicks needling the masses. I think the idoc picture is cute and I wish you luck Idoc with your future success story. I also think the successful couples look adorable and happy even though they are not gorgeous. It seems hereIgoagain2009 thinks they should all have been euthanized for being imperfect. Thank goodness for this site so we imperfect ones can find someone. Success on a dating site is to find a date, is it not? If this were a marriage and long term relationship site only, then I guess the success rate would suck.

hsv kitty

Joined: 2/4/2009

Msg: 85 (view)

why can't people just be who they are Posted: 7/25/2009 10:34:20 AM
sestruth, firstly, the main image is supposed to be a head shot. It is site policy. Your picture should be in the other images and therefore it is your picture that is not acceptable by site standards. Maybe your nose is too big and you are hiding it, so take a body shot that is distant and not distinctive. (Your nose may be too big for someone who likes noses and has a tiny nose as a deal breaker) Secondly, if you want replies only with images, you can set it so only people with pictures can message you. Then ask for a full body shot in the profile or you will not reply, then don't if it isn't included and save yoursef all that time you say you are wasting explaining to females how dishonest they are being. Thirdy, if you have deal breakers that means you would not be interested in large women or anything else why not put it in the profile. Most will not reply. There are always those who feel their image is better/less then reaity. That is because each of us have different body types and self images. That's reality. Explaining how important height to weight proportionate is a deal breaker after the fact is demeaning to a person who has felt to this point they had a pretty good self image. Fourthly, a person may think they are great looking or look younger then thier age, or even being average, but may make another think you are not being honest, as good looks are in the beholder's eyes and friends may have fudged to make you feel better... Being your profile is not that descriptive, I would say you are not as honest as you feel you are being. How about you put that post above into your profile , being you were being totally honest there. Go on... be totally honest and just DO IT. If not, consider why not... and whether you are better then the people that you have put down for dishonesty. BTW the proverbial barbie doll is usually surgically enhanced. Saying you do not want that is excluding a minute portion of the female population,

hsv kitty

Joined: 2/4/2009

Msg: 37 (view)

snake problem in vita? Posted: 7/17/2009 5:06:27 PM
Ah yes I forgot, silly me, you are supposed to cherry pick, pick sides, belittle others and call anyone that uses a gender definition is a male/female basher. You learn so much in these forums! (I said I like snakes... I am female) I notice you didn't answer any of my questions, so I guess the thread should die. I am not sure why you are adding a topics for discussion, then repeating the story in disgust rather then discus it. ( and why do people who want a thread to die have to read it and reply? Just click delete when the new threads appear... and don't reply. tada!)

hsv kitty

Joined: 2/4/2009

Msg: 33 (view)

snake problem in vita? Posted: 7/16/2009 12:27:31 AM
Thanks for reminding me that there is a difference between respecting snakes and phobias. Yes I think you made it clear several times that you think it is entirely her problem. It is her problem, not easily fixed, and involves tons of therapy. Very costly therapy. Intense fear does make one childlike and it was probably a brother sticking one in her pocket to frighten her as a youngster that triggered it. I am very much feeling for the woman, as is her husband and the community. Most people do not like snakes very much and taking sides is pretty normal in any dispute. On the other hand, do you think that the people who have 3 largsnakes should be able to have perhaps hundreds and breed them because there is no law in place in rural communities as there is in the city? What if the 18 year old snake owner is incompetant and doesn't feed the snakes, or cannot handle them or the cost of feeding them as they grow and lets them loose (this happens often ). What if some do get out and that is her main fear. Does that make her more rational? Here is some info on handling the one snake: red tailed boa has strong food instincts. Scent, movement, and warmth denotprey. A cat or dog in the room can seem like potential food to a boa, as can the owner. Keep warm blooded pets away from the snake, and don't get their smell on you before handling the red tailed boa. I also enjoyed reading a firghtening pet shop owners story of an attack. Are you saying because she has this irrational fear and is acting childlike, it is all her problem and so she must move, therefore not disrupting the lifestyle of the exotic pet owners who moved next to them. If not, what? My point was that neighbours should be neighbourly and not dig in the heels. There should be some room to move by both, and neither should have to literally move.

hsv kitty

Joined: 2/4/2009

Msg: 57 (view)

why can't people just be who they are Posted: 7/15/2009 7:01:21 PM
andserendipity in post 26, you made a very good point. I had to smile when I read it. If he had not asked you to help him find work, he might have been a treasure for someone. Who knows, maybe he is a millionaire in disguise, seeing just who is compassionate and kind. Perhaps he owned the camper and a house in the city. (ok that is pushing it... but some people do downplay who they are... so that they are chosen for the qualities they want to be chosen for) In my city, most people do have garage sales and there are immigrants who have become millionaires by selling the items in small shops for a higher price. One took out a large add to thanks Winnipeg for making his dreams come true once he made his first million... and that was ages ago so I imagine he is a multimillionaire now. Some people really like who they are and are hoping you will like them too. Embellished profiles are pretty standard, I would say, but some are much better at making fudge then others.

hsv kitty

Joined: 2/4/2009

Msg: 10 (view)

Cowboys/Country Boys Posted: 7/15/2009 10:56:21 AM
You certainly are pretty, so you should have no problem finding a catch. Country boys are possibly busier outside and less likely to be on the computer and likely a liitle more shy then city boys. Rather then hope for an answer in forums, how about doing an advanced search and put country, cowboy, farm, farming, rural, horses, cattle, or your interests into the interest section or in a user search use those same words to find anyone with that attached to their username. Be sure to check Manitoba and leave most else at I don't care to see what comes up. A small town bar on the weekend , country fairs and for sure the local rodeos would be a good place to check. Good luck!

hsv kitty

Joined: 2/4/2009

Msg: 31 (view)

snake problem in vita? Posted: 7/15/2009 10:19:29 AM
Having a healthy fear of snakes is good.. visit Arizona or Australaia with out it. I like snakes and we are lucky we live in an area where the snakes do not (yet) have enough venom to be deadly, so we can be pretty easy going around them. Going into hysterics is the unhealthy type of fear, certainy, but I can understand it. Most of us have unfounded fears, don't we? Seeing a snake is a rare occurrance and suddenly having them as neighbours will do nothing to allay her fears and the hubbie is in panic mode because she is. The neighbours, knowing she has an intense fear, should do everything in their power to show her they can be trusted rather then simply holding firm. The snakes should remain in the cages and not ever be allowed outside or to breed if they wish to live in town. (poor snakes... but it is not as though they are in their habitat) That is what the bylaw could state rather then dictating none at all. I agree the mob mentality has made this a bully tactic, but banning of exotic creatures as pets has more often been to protect the creatures then to protect the neighbours and that I can't argue with either. BTW, If she isn't selling the baby snakes, then what is she doing with them?

hsv kitty

Joined: 2/4/2009

Msg: 74 (view)

Said Hello hun and was accuesed of being forward and blocked ! Posted: 7/14/2009 5:44:44 PM
I love how some men are saying she was rude or mental and for sure has emotional issues. I hate terms of endearment before you even know me. It means you are probably also thinking calling me names and asking me to pull your finger later is cute and funny. It is NOT normal and is considered impolite NORMALLY! If your small town considers it normal, would you still speak that way outside of your town where it is not? You are not very well traveled if you think the rest of the world is crazy because they don't like what you say and do.... If you are calling someone honey when you first meet, what are you going to call them once you are in a relationship? It better not be honey because that's what you called every other thing that had boobs and 2 legs. Oh am I being rude and mental? Forgive me pudding pants and ugly striped shirt... (those are terms of endearment, because I thought they were cute) Attila the Hun

hsv kitty

Joined: 2/4/2009

Msg: 819 (view)

Is money really that important ladies? Posted: 7/14/2009 9:05:53 AM
As a female who has always made and had more then my partners, mostly because I am good with it, money has never been a problem for me. It has, however, created jealousy, mooching, laziness and unrealistic expectations and squandering in some men. Quite the opposite of most relationships perhaps, so I see the other side of the coin. I don't want to take care of anyone else financially or pay off their bad debts. Money is important to me only to pay the bills and have the nest egg. I want a man who would contribute to the life as a partner and that includes finances. Other then that, I am more concerned with what he is doing to give back to the world and whether he is generous with love and giving of his time. That priority of importance has been the same since I was 20. I will add, I am semi retired and my income has dwindled considerably, plus I have Herpes, in case there are moochers or date scammers reading.

hsv kitty

Joined: 2/4/2009

Msg: 7 (view)

narrowed dating pools? Posted: 7/4/2009 2:12:26 PM
At 25 men fell all over themselves to be with me because I was young and hot and and malleable. I wasn't concerned about anything much then, other then having fun. Things have changed besides my feelings! I have a much more shallow pool to fish in then most check the name but it would have been considerally smaller now, regardless. I think that life and circumstances, past relationships, our own attributes and faults, our pickiness and our age change the way we look a prospective partner now, certainly. Fortunately, there are some men who have concluded that they are also less perfect and realize that stability, humour, respect, a good heart and good looks can be very attractive as a total package. (would it surprise you that on STD sites men over 45 still ask for 15+ years junior, petite, hot and shapely and of course no baggage?) That ultimate connection that seals the deal is probably no less/more attainable then it was in the past. Perhaps it is just that having a connection is more important now? Wouldn't we all climb mountains to have it? puts on climbing gear

hsv kitty

Joined: 2/4/2009

Msg: 237 (view)

What do women over 50 find desirable and undesirable in a man's profile? Posted: 6/20/2009 8:11:29 AM
Ah yes, being able talk about me as though I am a paraih is amusing and "fresh"? Ah but I should not take that persoanally because ... why? I should be used to it? I am. You may be as bemused as you wish at other's expense, but it is still not at all amusing. I tell people I have Herpes on my profile because I care about others, not because I wish to be ridiculed for it. Does that give him then the right to use it against me ? Obviously yes as even the females here are saying YES! Because he made me laugh! SB is a cyber bully and the Gadflye is laughing his guts out puppeteering you. This thread speaks volumes about what people care about... themselves. So who the hell really cares about what is on the profiles... lie and be thoughtless and thus attract like. Who really gives a damn about what anyone desires, thinks, feels or cares about!! FU soldier byte for not letting me say this to you as I am from another country. I would leave a slap mark for weeks if it were in person.

hsv kitty

Joined: 2/4/2009

Msg: 212 (view)

What do women over 50 find desirable and undesirable in a man's profile? Posted: 6/19/2009 10:54:58 AM
Barbi, you love that he ripped me apart for no reason? Interesting. As long as he isn't attacking and denigrating you then, it is ok? How nice...

hsv kitty

Joined: 2/4/2009

Msg: 208 (view)

What do women over 50 find desirable and undesirable in a man's profile? Posted: 6/19/2009 10:26:36 AM
Who said I was perfect soldier boy? I am at least honest about who and what I am... here and in my profile and it seems you are as well... but only in your judgemental posts. I do not appreciate being called a man hater and a witch for having told the truth, but you seem to love crticizing anyone who criticizes. Don't you have any other hobbies? Which wife do I remind you of? The one with Herpes? Or is that why you forgot to add that usual slur.

hsv kitty

Joined: 2/4/2009

Msg: 205 (view)

What do women over 50 find desirable and undesirable in a man's profile? Posted: 6/19/2009 10:02:37 AM
It would be rude to not include an answer for those of you who really care what a mature woman might be looking for: Honesty A smile A sense of your heart A sense of your essence A sense of humour Sensuality

hsv kitty

Joined: 2/4/2009

Msg: 204 (view)

What do women over 50 find desirable and undesirable in a man's profile? Posted: 6/19/2009 9:58:19 AM
This should be complementary to the question, What do men in their 50's look for in a woman's profile http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts12199521.aspx But it isn't because the person asking wasn't serious and is a "gadfly"living up to his moniker. In reply to message 45, 53 ... do you have this guy wrong. He wrote here to make the over 50 crowd of females look bad and thinks he accomplished that. Do not feel sorry for the person behind the curtain... the one in post 133 where he comes back to gloat like the old goat he is. His self serving profile has not changed, nor will it, because he is a fake and a flake who is here to push buttons. Message 156... “the guy’s a chick magnet” in his own mind, or just maybe, his pocket book. Read message 51, where the gentleman correctly outlines the personality of the author. (narcissistic personality) The gaddflye bragged elsewhere he had 4 females in a weekend, so for those who say he is here to innocently “change” his profile, you are smoking up the wrong tree bark.

hsv kitty

Joined: 2/4/2009

Msg: 162 (view)

Difference in IQ - your experiences? Posted: 6/17/2009 2:48:07 PM
I would never regret doing anything that made me deliriously happy, unless it hurt someone else. I wonder how this woman feels about YOU? You have labeled her as inferior (whether you think so or not) and not “getting” you or your friends, which means you might not be concerned for HER happiness in the situation. Is she younger, different culture, and what is her education? Ah. that’s right her lack of comprehension was solely a lack of IQ. I don’t like your presumption that she has a lower IQ, but I am more concerned that you would belittle her or listen to your friends or even worse ask their opinion of her intelligence and the relationship. Did they notice? Is it that they noticed that you cared? What exactly is it that has caught your eye? Whatever it is, it is not enough, is it, or that question would not have been asked. A good relationship needs communication and some compatibility, empathy and a deep sense of caring about the whole of the other being. Don’t you want to be loved for who YOU are? If it seems to be too much to bear, then move on, for BOTH of your sakes.

kittypurrrrr

Joined: 2/4/2009

Msg: 169 (view)

What if the love of your life has genital herpes? Posted: 6/11/2009 7:16:04 PM
Thanks for letting me know after you went out of your way to prove otherwise. Andrew is my Christian name I am really tired of people like yourself who are on a dating site, say they are here for the forums and then proceed top browbeat and berate others. You are also forum stalking the poor lady . Your post 168 is spam and it is offensive and childish, as well as off topic. What is yourPHD doing here, pray tell? Tring to make your little fishie look bigger? I don't mean your brain) The topic is Herpes and her post was right on. Methinks thou dost protest too much. Got a bunch of mouth sores that you pass off as Cankers and Cold Sores and don't like that we call a spade a spade and tell everyone they are really Herpes sores?

kittypurrrrr

Joined: 2/4/2009

Msg: 157 (view)

What if the love of your life has genital herpes? Posted: 6/9/2009 12:22:29 PM
So, judging from those here who say they do not have Herpes, have you ever had a IG type specific serology (blood test which accurately types Herpes) done? It is NOT available at all in Canada, so unless you went to the states, or paid to have your Doc get it tested there, you have NOT had it done. HSV, HPV and HIV are NOT standard workups in an STD test and must be requested separately!! Are you really sure you are so unclean... HSV1 /cold sores on the mouth are HERPES! You can get it from oral sex.... just ask me... and because 90 % of the North American population may have either HSV1 or HSV2 I think that 90% with the potential to give someone else genital Herpes is spot on... unless you never have sex or oral sex... (it takes ONCE) The virus can remain dormant for years. It can also be shed even though you have never had an outbreak that you are aware of, so you may be the one spreading Hrrpes, not me ....as I know, tell, protect. So those of you who do not have Herpes (or think you don't) and Ewww, and ick and think we are unclean, will YOU be the ones who say they will kill themselves once they do contract it and be the drama that you tease the OP of creating. It is less innocuous then recurring acne or eczema... if you are hygenic and knowledgable and stay healthy and know your triggers, but the kicker is the social stigma... that red neck ignorance and fear that is the REAL problem with having Herpes.

kittypurrrrr

Joined: 2/4/2009

Msg: 676 (view)

Genital Herpes Posted: 6/4/2009 1:50:43 PM
Corrrect 4ever In Canada you cannot get the blood tests for HSV as the incidence of having HSV1 is so high, so you would have to pay for the more expensive IG specific serology in the states to be type specific diagnosed. FYI again folks, a common STD workup will NOT test for HSV, HIV or HPV and must be requested specifically. So much for the clean bill of health hmmmm?

kitty purrr

Joined: 2/4/2009

Msg: 651 (view)

Genital Herpes Posted: 3/11/2009 7:26:38 AM
I bumped it because I found it in a google search, where a lot of crazy people go for misinformation lately... I was reminding the masses, who still think they are so clean and pure ( good guy75 have you had all the tests I just listed) that you can get Herpes from a supposedly innoculous cold sore or with a partner who says he has had an STD work up and even has the papers to prove it. (see my post above) Good guy is obviously a superior (and lucky) human, who portrays anyone who has Herpes as someone who slept around. However, you can get it the first time you have sex. You can get it from oral sex. You can get it from someone who is not a super model. (but thanks for the laugh)

kitty purrr

Joined: 2/4/2009

Msg: 645 (view)

Genital Herpes Posted: 3/10/2009 11:13:16 AM
An STD workup does not include testing for HIV, HPV or HSV. For those of you stating how clean you are and how unclean we are, best have had ALL of these tests and more before you make that statement. (calling us unclean shows such ignorance as we got it from the supposed 'clean ' people we had sex with...you know, like YOU) And remember lab tests are not perfect and some, like a Herpes serology, may take months for a build up of antibodies to show the infection. An IG specific PCR will tell you with great accuracy if you have HSV1 or HSV2. HSV1 and HSV2 can both be transmitted during oral sex, so for those who say they are having safe(r) sex, then you must be using a latex barriers and condoms for oral sex as well. That lil old sore you have happily call a cold sore on your face is actually Herpes, so if you have it, by giving oral sex and kissing, you can transmit Herpes. The only way to tell if you have it is by testing, not by lack of symptoms! Transmission of Herpes can also occur outside of breakouts as there via asymptomatic shedding, which is shedding of the virus. Babies were dying from encephalitis and getting occular Herpes because they were being kissed and Herpes was being passed on by unsuspecting (and again no doubt 'clean') relatives who were passing the 'cold sore' virus even without symptoms. Fortunately, most parents are warned about this by their Doctors and pregnancy guides and refuse to allow nonchalant kissing of their infants. Adults with immunodeficiencies or otherwise highly compromised health (malnutrition as an example) and neonatal Herpes where a mother has a primary (first) infection while giving birth are the 2 causes of death with a Herpes infection. The babies can die as the mother did not have Herpes long enough to pass protective antibodies to her child and unfortunately a baby has no other protection that the antibodies it receives from the mother. That includes HSV1 and HSV2. The antibodies stay in the babe for several months until they develop their own immune system. It is those who do not know or those who do not tell, who you have to worry about... Sorry that i may have repeated some things already said.

kitty purrr

Joined: 2/4/2009

Msg: 22 (view)

coping with herpes Posted: 3/3/2009 3:45:58 PM
Sigh. Saliva = mucous. Pure saliva =mucous in its original state. The virus is shed and MAY be found in the saliva in smaller amounts but being it is not as heavy a viral load in that state, it will be less likely to transmit. The heavier viral loads that transmit are from skin to skin. Sorry to correct , but we do not need people to think the virus is IN our body fluids thanks very much. Everyone needs to know the virus can and does shed without visible symptoms.

kitty purrr

Joined: 2/4/2009

Msg: 21 (view)

coping with herpes Posted: 3/3/2009 3:36:11 PM
Do those of you who get cold sores know the difference between them and canker sores? Canker sores are often mistaken for or incorrectly called cold sores and they are totally different. Canker sores are not caused by the herpes virus. The trouble is, as we are trying to point out, most of the sores people get on the mouths/face are HSV1(Herpes) The ulcer sore that forms on the soft tissues IN the mouth are usually cankers and most often caused by acidic foods and allergies. Yes they are different. I Would HOPE those who get cold sores/Herpes would know the difference, but we have some pretty deep seated denial and ignorance here and in the general population. May I also point out that even Doctors use the incorrect terminology. Unfortunately, only a few will tell the person when they are having a Herpes/HSV1 outbreak and not call it "something else".

kitty purrr

Joined: 2/4/2009

Msg: 17 (view)

coping with herpes Posted: 3/3/2009 8:15:11 AM
Pure saliva does not carry the virus; the infection site or the nerve sites do. That does not take away from what was being said however. As was said, the person may not have any symptoms visible, yet the virus may stil be shedding from the skin around the mouth along the nerve paths. Therefore, those with HSV1/cold sores have Herpes and this asymptomatic shedding of the virus can tranfer to the partners genitalia during oral sex. A higher viral load comes from direct skin to skin contact and of course if contact is with any orifice or skin lesions, you increase the chances of infection. Anyone with facial Herpes/cold sores should become as educated as those with gential Herpes and EVERYONE should make sure they have a gG-based type-specific blood test before saying they are Herpes free. (and it is not a perfect test...a PCR is more effective as it examines DNA but is not readily available or cost freindly)

kitty purrr

Joined: 2/4/2009

Msg: 12 (view)

coping with herpes Posted: 2/27/2009 11:21:53 AM
HSV testing is not part of a standard STD work-up. Neither is HIV or HPV. You need to ask for these tests separately. So if you have had EVERY STD test, THEN you can say you are STD free. Sorry, but the blissful exclamation of "I am STD free because I think I am" makes me laugh. Those are the ones you have to fear, not the educated, caring ones who tell partners. Anyone who says they do not have Herpes has to have had an active infection or their antibodies tested, which should tell you whether you have HSV1 or HSV2. HSV1 is so prevalent in society that up to 80% may have it and may have gotten it as innocuously as a family member kissing them as a babe. This same Herpes, is also called a cold sore and can be transferred to the genitalia by oral sex, where it is still... Herpes! Imagine! And it works both ways, HSV2 transfer to the face. Check those stats above all of you reading and say for certain you don't have Herpes. One example of cold sore transfer to genitalia described above would be, me! The symptoms of Herpes can be so non existent that people can brush off the initial infection and thereafter, shed the virus with no distinct symptoms. There fore if you have HSV1/cold sore on your lips, you DO in fact have HERPES and can pass it on to a partner. Now, back to how to cope with Herpes ...

kitty purrr

Joined: 2/4/2009

Msg: 247 (view)

Can you keep her happy without spending money? Posted: 2/26/2009 7:33:19 AM
A real man, instead of b1tching about all the bills THEY GOT THEMSELVES IN, would find away to fix it, instead of expecting a lady should lower her quality of life. Lower her quality of life by ...working? If you are trying to attract someone by saying you are a sugar daddy, just say so. A real man would do whatever it takes to keep the family intact and to keep food on the table, including letting their wife do what is necessary to get 'er done. You are so lost in your BMW wet dreams you can't even relate to what is real anymore. Let us say you lose you job and there are no more jobs to be had, will you let your wife work? Say McDonalds is the only place to work because people can't cook and need to eat, will you work there even though she is skilled as a professional and wants to work and can get a job RIGHT NOW. If you had children in the relationship, what would come first, your BMW or the children. Yes, I had to ask. What if you CANNOT make ends meet let alone find a way to lavish gifts on yourself and her... and you are no longer able to provide the gifts that you promised and lavish... do you kill yourself? Judging from your previous posts that would be the only successful optionfor a manly man of your stature. For someone who has spent a lot of time trying here trying to convince yourself you are a good provider and man, you seem lost in your own little world of ignorance. (you write well, that's it...) Maybe ask your Dad what he would do in the above scenarios being you wish to emulate him. Or are you like the child who saw his mom slice the ham ends off and did so as well all his life thinking it was the right thing to do, but when he finally asked why, it was because she had a small pan?

kitty purrr

Joined: 2/4/2009

Msg: 7 (view)

Women question a man over 50 and not been married? Posted: 2/26/2009 5:43:30 AM
A man over 50 who has never been married has his reasons. I would recommend asking what those reasons might be. The first questions should be, have you had any long term relationships (and live with) and what do you think ended them. (lack commitment issues?) If he has had long ones, good sign, as then at least he learned how to get along and sleep in a bed with another human. Ask about their employment, enjoyment, what they like about women, do not like. Really get to know as they are going to be set in their ways. (also be careful revealing too much about you at first ...see mirroring below) If there have been no long term relationships then look for signs they are very selfish. Has he surrounded himself with toys and quirky things you dislike? If so, run run run, as you cannot change another human let alone a bachelor who has made his bed and will attempt to have you share his idiosyncrasies. goes back in time to take own advice A man like that might ensconce himself into your life, literally try to change you to suit his life style but be unable to share life with you and that means you will still be married to a bachelor anyway. They get a cook and maid and you get to live upstairs while he surrounds himself with his 'stuff' in the basement. Be especially aware of the ones who say they do not want any baggage, as theirs is in a closet bursting to the seams and you may not get to peek in there until they are sure they have mirrored you enough to win you over. Please keep in mind that I was married to such a bachelor, so have a very different perspective, but I would not paint everyone with the same brush and always give someone with potential a chance. Well, he asked!!

kitty purrr

Joined: 2/4/2009

Msg: 233 (view)

Can you keep her happy without spending money? Posted: 2/25/2009 11:58:33 AM
Krys, No, People want different things. Is it wrong for a woman to WANT a fat diamond, instead of a walmart ring? That is what the people here aren't getting. There is NOTHING wrong with simple things, in fact we need them, though half of the world doesn't appreciate them. But for some reason, it seems when a PERSON, wants or appreciates finer things. (Nice clothing, nice pianos, good food, expensive wine, and THE BMW (Growls! I love it.) They are condemned to be a bad person, if they only choose to find a mate who CAN PROVIDE WHAT THEY LIKE! Nah he isn't right, he is just opinionated and prolific. Want what you want, call it a need for all I care, keep the bubble going, because selfishness is what it is all about... for you. Even though the economy has tanked, you still want it all...think you can have it all and give it all away.... on a silver platter. Right? Righteous, young but thinking like a dinosaur, sexist and mouthy does not make right. Bought women being provided for are not mates, no matter how long you stay here and try to argue your points.

kitty purrr

Joined: 2/4/2009

Msg: 231 (view)

Can you keep her happy without spending money? Posted: 2/25/2009 10:57:32 AM
One thing that hardship does is bring out the best and worst of people. Those who are still showing their best side and helping others in the hardest of times are usually the ones with heart that I would gravitate towards. The trouble is , so do the leeches... But back to the question... if she ISN'T happy without you spending money and that matters to you then no... anyone who is bought needs to be kept. ( remember you said you need to spend money on her to show you love her so you labeled her) You are also living beyond your means so you need to get that settled and not worry about trinkets and dates. People are looking for homes... setting up a bedroom for rent is always an option. Won't that be a turn on for Ms. right! My question would be, why do you want to keep a woman whose world revolves about what you buy for her or where you go for dinner. If you cannot afford the luxuries she needs. let her run the hell away, although I would likely have put the boot to her first ...

kitty purrr

Joined: 2/4/2009

Msg: 155 (view)

How to tell someone you have herpes? Posted: 2/25/2009 10:30:09 AM
Blech, I hate that this old thread is even still here. This wasn't a good place to ask (hi all you rednecks!) as the replies you get are mostly from people who can't rub 2 sticks together let alone know anything about Herpes. Few do or care to know as it is just something they think they don't have, because they had an STD screen and it ain't on there. Neither is HIV or HPV .... For example, I have Herpes on my genitalia, but it is HSV1, the same virus as from a cold sore... on the other lips and got it from oral sex. So to all the griefers on here, who enjoyed sticking it , stick that in your cold sore and start telling people you have Herpes! And be sure to tell before you kiss! No. I wasn't having a bad day until I read a few pages of this drivel.. To anyone who reads this forum for answers to anything, I pity you. Go to Herpes forums to ask questions and just do the talk before you are intimate with anyone... and yes that means kissing if you have it on your face anywhere. Intimacy is the closeness to another. It will weed out those that would never have loved you for you anyway! Bullet dodged! Kitty's back is up

kitty purrr

Joined: 2/4/2009

Msg: 29 (view)

Romance without Finance is a Nuisance Posted: 2/25/2009 9:40:24 AM
One more thing -- give what you can give -- if this sounds strange it's not. When I was broke I gave time -- volunteered to do charity work in my spare time -- it helped build my business and helped my community at the same time. THAT man could steal my heart. The world needs more people that think not what the world should give you, but what you can do to help the world. Having said that, the selfishness and living far beyond one's means made a false bubble of security that was bound to break. OP: If you are thinking of this as a wake up call and are going to change the idea that your world and your status in it revolves around money, then that would be a turn on and a manly thing for me. If you are just worried that your toys might have to be sold, and you cannot buy the expensive things you 'need' you are not a mouse now, you were one before. If you are trying to find job and will in future live within your means and keep a promise to yourself have a buffer for the future so that you don't have to worry in bad times, then you are a real man... and would be worthy of my time . I am speaking as a woman who is financially stable herself. Gold diggers and arm fluff might possibly have other opinions...

kitty purrr

Joined: 2/4/2009

Msg: 19 (view)

Physical or Emotional Posted: 2/25/2009 8:31:58 AM
I have Herpes, I am on the Herpes sites. I am unattached and hopeful and like a laugh, so I also post here. Large /BBW people might be a better place to look seriously. A lot of fishes are looking for a list what they think they want and need... but who the hell knows until you actually meet. If you are confident and happy and outgoing and interesting, then talk about yourself that way ... be real. (You do not sound that way in your profile though. If you are not upbeat, work on that, work out and come back a new man. Otherwise you will be back here floundering and looking for help more then a date. ) Attitude, a real profile that reflects who you are will attract those who are like minded and a picture helps. SMILE in the pic. Make it a fresh pic. People are attracted to a happy face, so see if that helps. ( I know, I know, mine isn't up, but I have my reasons...) But if you put up a crappy picture (blurry means you are hiding something) and say mundane things that are not YOU, then you fall off the sonar. Too many other interesting fishes to choose from. PS: It is too, not to, in "life is to short." PPS: " Interests: To many to name" is not only misspelled but it means no one can find you in a like minded interest search. Name some, get some, spell too correctly...

kitty purrr

Joined: 2/4/2009

Msg: 20 (view)

Have I messed up? Posted: 2/23/2009 8:41:57 PM
Sure you messed up.. How dare you be so human! Being depressed is no laughing matter so I am not going to make jokes. I am going to tell you to get better and then see this guy because you are making this about your relationship and it isn't going to be there if you do. Make it about getting well and tell him so. THAT has to be numero UNO. Otherwise he is always walking on eggshells and no one want to do that.. No one! If he cares he sticks, if he doesn't he goes. Life always goes on, I guarantee it, but your health is more important then the relationship because without it there isn't one anyway , right? So, eat well, stress less, check with at least 2 Doctors to make sure it is depression and not another illness. Read Dr Amen, and his books on the brain , healing and how to help yourself. Get lots of exercise, sunlight and fresh air and drink lots of water. take your vitamins. DO NOT say yeah, yeah, I already do... write it down and check it off EVERY day. Am I a know it all? hell ya. But I have also been there and thrown away the t shirt.

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