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prettywoman327

Joined: 12/27/2005

Msg: 39 (view)

i love you on first date Posted: 9/16/2008 4:02:04 PM
When I first met my husband he did't say he loved me on the first date but he and his friend drove me and several girlfriends home from a dance. It was very cold in the middle of winter and he walked me to my door. We ended up talking for several hours in the freezing cold and when he got back to the car he told his friend that I was the girl he would marry even though I was commited to another person at the time. We stayed married for over 35 years and sadly now are going through a divorce. Our marriage was good and I would do it over again. Linda

prettywoman327

Joined: 12/27/2005

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First experience with online dating...... Posted: 8/13/2008 3:53:14 PM
I was e-mailing a guy who seemed quite nice. We didn't date as yet just e-mailed when I discovered in his profile that he described himself as a dominant male. I was married for 35 years to a dominant male and don't want that again. I just stopped e-mailing him when I took a vacation. I didn't mean to be rude but I just started thinking of the onsequences if I did meet him. Maybe I'm just paranoid. I think if I actually went on a few dates, I would be more gracious and at least explain myself. I do think the guy should have e-mailed you back and said what was wrong. Linda

prettywoman327

Joined: 12/27/2005

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Weird First Date gifts Posted: 8/13/2008 3:37:58 PM
I would have definitely given him a second date!! I love to receive any gifts on the first date or later. Too many guys never think of it and I think it is just so romantic. It doesn't have to be expensive at all, just a single rose or ox of chocolates. I don't think it is weird because at least nowadays by the time you go on the first date you usually know quite a bit about the person although of course you don't know if you will be attracted to that person as yet. Even if you just remain friends a small first date gift would not be inappropriate IMO. Linda

prettywoman327

Joined: 12/27/2005

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First Contact - best way to get your message across? Posted: 7/16/2008 6:00:47 PM
I could go for the sexual energy!!!!! LOL Linda 1

prettywoman327

Joined: 12/27/2005

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Losing it..... Posted: 7/5/2008 11:27:10 PM
I am so sorry. You will be in my prayers. I too, have suffered many losses. Out of 6 brothers and sisters I only have one brother left living and he is now quite ill. I have been seperated from my husband of over 30 years for over 2 years now and while it is not a death, to me it was almost as painful. My parents are also both gone. As others have said in time you will remember all the good things you shared and you know she would want you to go on and try to find happiness. God bless. Linda

prettywoman327

Joined: 12/27/2005

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No more sex = no more love ?? Posted: 7/5/2008 11:07:02 PM
Yes, do try and get some help for this. In my situation my husband developed sexual problems about 10 years ago. I resigned myself to no sex because we already were married over 20 years and I loved him. My mistake, I should have made him get help but I was embarrassed and so was he. Our relationship began to suffer as I was a very sexual person. I never cheated but lo and behold he left me for a womn my daughters age. For the life of me I don't know how they are making love as I was assured by seversal doctors that he needed n operation to be able to have noeml sex again. He was terably afraid to have surgery so I thought we could just live that way. I'm afraid along with no sex we developed no intimacy and our marriage failed. I try not to blame myself but I know when he left I was very angry that I was deprived of all the intimacy that sex gives you. I even wish that 10 years ago when he begged me to stay that I should have left but I had no idea that our marriage would end because of the lact of intimacy. It wasn't really the sex. We just stopped touching and became distant with one another. Don't let that happen to your relationship if you really love your partner. Linda

prettywoman327

Joined: 12/27/2005

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Why is GM broke? Posted: 7/5/2008 10:43:23 PM
GM is not broke!!!!!!!!!!! It is doing very well thank you in most markets outside the US. It is trying to play broke so it can eliminate the few remaining union workers here in th US. The retirees deserve their pensions. They gave back on every contract to have the pentions and these dollars were put in a specil fund so that they would be avilable at retirement. In the last contract the union took over health care so GM does not have that as an issue. GM is just trying to relocate all the good paying autoworkerss jobs to low paying foreign countries. IMO that is why they are in no hurry to manufacture a low fuel consuming car in the American market. Linda

prettywoman327

Joined: 12/27/2005

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35, No Kids, Never Married Posted: 7/5/2008 9:55:04 PM
I think single at 35 is completely acceptable, however single in your 50's becomes in most cases single for life. Not everyone mind you, there are many different types of people and I don't like to judge them. However I was married over 30 years and have not dated much in the past 2 years, seperated, but the gentlemen who I have dated in their 50's just were a little wierd to me. There were only 2 of them so I know I am making a judgement with not a lot of people but both men were rather mean about how life had treated them. They blamed woman in their pasts for not wanting to marry them or for not being what they were looking for. At this stage of life they still seemed to want a relationship but didn't have a clue how to give and take as you must in any relationship that lasts. I think I can make this comment as I had a relatively good marriage and raised 2 great kids and my husband was a good man and a good father. Please all you other guys out there that this does not apply to I don't mean you, I have admitted I only sampled 2 men out of probably 2 million. LOL Linda

prettywoman327

Joined: 12/27/2005

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Not sure what to do Posted: 7/5/2008 8:15:53 PM
I would just ignore him but first I would tell him what a jerk and a creep he was. His girlfriend is going through enough right now. Let her at least recover from her loss before she has to face the fact that she is involved with a creep. Linda

prettywoman327

Joined: 12/27/2005

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About to drive me crazy....all women are not after your money Posted: 7/5/2008 8:03:14 PM
The guy I married had about 5 dollars to his name. I had more money as the custom when I was young was the guy always paid. We both worked very hard. We banked my check which was less than his and lived on his check. We invested. We were lucky and our investments made us some money. Look ahead 30 years. I am thinking we are ready to retire with no worries. He is thinking I want a young woman to replace my getting older wife. He meets young woman with 2 small kids and takes off. We are now spending our hard earned money on lawyers because he won't settle our case. The young woman was no doubt looking for a sugar daddy as she is the same age as ny daughter and didn't give my soon to be ex so much as a hello until someone told her he has a million dollars. He doesn't have a million dollars and if these lawyers keep draining us neither one of us will have a happy retirement. Also I am seeing a gentleman who has less money than me and I always pay for his gas as I don't drive and he lives about 60 miles from me. I have never been a gold=digger, I know they are out there but there are also many good women out there just looking for a guy willing to work as hard as they do to enjoy life with and not get dumped because of age!! Linda

prettywoman327

Joined: 12/27/2005

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Putting a Time Limit on Intimacy. Posted: 7/5/2008 7:10:31 PM
I can understand you wanting to get to know the person before sex but just to hand-holding after 5 dates sounds like you are not very physically attracted to him. When I was 16 and dating I wasn't thinking about sex, in fact it really terrified me but I have not been a virgin in a very long time lol I was married many years and find it comforting to be held in a mans arms. I do disagree with one writer who said all men can be educated to be good in bed. Sorry, not my experience, some men are really bad in bed and they act like they are gods gift to women. They don't have a clue on how to turn a lady on and these are older guys who should have some bit of experience behind them. Sex is 90 percent in the brain anyway so if you don't feel anything for him after 5 dates you probably won't feel anything for him after 6 months. IMO Linda

prettywoman327

Joined: 12/27/2005

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Express Anger Or Move On Posted: 6/28/2008 2:56:10 PM
This thread has been helpful to me as well. I was married to the same man for over 30 years. almost 3 years seperated now and he has moved to Kansas City with a woman half his age. I feel anger and resentment though I tell myself I don't. We have been trying to divorce but his latest move is to fire his lawyer and hire a new one. I am having a hard time moving on as he is constantly in my thoughts as he won t seem to let me get the divorce. He won't speak to me on the phone. Perhaps writing a letter would help me to get this out. I thought if the divorce would come through it would make me feel better but I am going to try the letter as well. After all at this point what could it hurt? Linda

prettywoman327

Joined: 12/27/2005

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Why would my husband leave me for a women much younger Posted: 5/12/2008 2:16:54 PM
I was married at 19 and was married to the same man for over 35 years. He left 2 years ago with a woman who was 37 and had 2 young children. We have been trying to divoce for the past 2 years. I thought we had finally reached a settlement this week but he fired his lawyer. I want out of this marriage and he will never come back to me even if the other woman didn't work out but I think he just can't bring himself to end the marriage with me. At my age it is very hard to find a new man but I admit I havent really been looking because I am old fashioned and still feel married even though my husband has moved to another city and seems to be doing ok with his new love. I know like sanchezzz I should try harder to move on and I intend to do so but having to deal with a lawyer all the time it is hard to do much forgettting. I too deserve better but unlike sanchezz I am in my 50's and it is harder for me to get a new life. I have read all the comments on this topic and hope I can get a life from all your comments to sanchezzz. By the way my husband is 61!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Linda

prettywoman327

Joined: 12/27/2005

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He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya???? Posted: 3/15/2008 3:15:33 PM
Reminds me when I was young and a guy said he would marry me if I lost 5 pounds!!! I got really pissed and told him to find another girlfriend. I had tons of boyfriends at the time and looked really good. I didn't need to lose 5 pounds, I needed to lse 160 pounds of stupid boy and I did. LOL

prettywoman327

Joined: 12/27/2005

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He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya???? Posted: 3/15/2008 3:15:09 PM
Reminds me when I was young and a guy said he would marry me if I lost 5 pounds!!! I got really pissed and told him to find another girlfriend. I had tons of boyfriends at the time and looked really good. I didn't need to lose 5 pounds, I needed to lse 160 pounds of stupid boy and I did. LOL

prettywoman327

Joined: 12/27/2005

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Plenty Of Fish Lost a Great Woman Posted: 2/25/2008 5:19:45 PM
Thank you She for your kind words. It gives me hope that some day hopefully soon I will have less pain. I am trying to become more spiritual and I think this will help as well. I have a wonderful daughter who lives with me and I don't know what I would do without her help. I am better than I was, I couldn't walk for about 6 months but have gone to physical theraphy and now can walk for a block or so at a time but not nearly as active as I once was. I just get tired of the pain. Some days are worse than others. This has been a bad day. Hopefully tomorrow will be better. Thanks again, it helps to have a person who understands what I am going through.

prettywoman327

Joined: 12/27/2005

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Plenty Of Fish Lost a Great Woman Posted: 2/25/2008 3:52:25 PM
I will definitely say a prayer for her. At 23 she is just starting her life. If she can just overcome this situation with the boyfriend she will soon discover that no man or woman for that matter should cause your death. I was devastated when my husband left after over 30 years of marriage but I won't die because of it. I was struck by an SUV about 3 months after his death and the physical pain makes me think of ending it over everything else. Doctors don't want to give you medicine for pain as you might become addicted. I think this is so wrong. I was on morphone for about 6 months and it took the pain away but I didn't become addicted. Since they took the pain medication away the pain has been quite intense but the doctor won't give me anything much stronger than an aspirin. I went back to the doctor last week and he said I didn't need an MRI as they already knew I was in a lot of pain and I may have to have my hip replaced but not right away. I should be grateful I can still walk but it is hard when you are in constant pain. I can relate to people who want the pain to stop especially if it is physical and no one will help with pain management. I am so sorry to hear of the suicide of the woman who seemed to have it all. As many others have said we do not know what other people are experiencing so we should always be kind to people and not add to their troubles.

prettywoman327

Joined: 12/27/2005

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Hot and cold Posted: 2/20/2008 3:27:34 PM
Maybe she really was sick though I doubt she could go to work if she had the flu. You should have given her a little more time. It seems to me you only gave her from Friday to Monday and then kind of wrote her off. I know when I'm ill I just want to be left alone and not talk or e-mail anyone. She may have been lying to you but I do think you should have given her a little more time before coming to this conclusion. I bet your not all peaches and creme when your sick.

prettywoman327

Joined: 12/27/2005

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Will you, can you ever love this way again? Posted: 2/20/2008 3:18:26 PM
When I got married I wasn't truly in a big romantic love. My new husband told me he was going to treat me so good that I would learn to love him. I didn't believe it at the time but over the years it did come to pass that I fell in love with him. We had many ups and downs but we stayed together through it all. We had over 30 years together when he suddenly decided he didn't love me anymore. It was only at that time that I realized I had fallen so deeply in love because his leaving hurt me so much I have never hurt like that before. I guess I will always love him but I am hoping someone out there can come into my life to share the good and bad again. I miss having a partner to share the bad times as well as the good times. I know what its all about now, not like others have said when we are young you just don't realize all that you have to endure in this life. I am glad he was with me and I hope to find a love again but never that love.

prettywoman327

Joined: 12/27/2005

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Thinks she a keeper but to find out... Posted: 1/24/2008 7:22:45 AM
I have been seperated for 2 years now. My lawyer goes back to court on February 5th. The reason it is taking so long is that we have property together that had to be sold and divided. We also were married a very long time and we were trying to divide pension benefits, etc. He left me for a girl my daughters age who saw dollar signs. All his friends told him he was crazy so he has moved to Kansas City as he didn't want anyone telling him he was nuts. I was devastated at first but have gotten much better and there is no chance of us getting back together. He was a good husband and did not abuse me he actually treated me like a queen but some men go through a male memapause and he was having a hard time accepting getting older. I don't wish him any harm but am a firm believer that what comes around goes around. I will have to update my profile when I get that final paper. Maybe more fish will contact me then!!!LOL

prettywoman327

Joined: 12/27/2005

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Why do you think it becomes so much harder to find a relationship when one gets older? Posted: 1/24/2008 6:58:04 AM
I know in my situation I no longer am looking for someone to share children with or become financially independent with. I have already achieved these goals with my ex and don't need anyone to support me. On the other hand I don't want a man that I would have to support. I want to love and be loved and yes have lots of sex with the right guy but it is hard to find a guy close to my age that is financially independent. Most of the people I have met are divorced and paying child support and are living paycheck to paycheck. I know I am pickier than when I was young as at that time all of us were poor and living paycheck to paycheck.. LOL

prettywoman327

Joined: 12/27/2005

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Why are some girls so hard to get over? Posted: 1/10/2008 6:10:05 AM
I tried to find my first love again after a marriage of over 30 plus years to a man I am now divorcing. I was engaged to him when my soon to be ex took me away. I wanted to get married and he thought he was to young. I married and he went into the service. When he got out he came back to me and wanted me to getr a divorce and get married to him saying he had made a huge mistake. I decided to stay with my husband and we went our seperate ways. He kept in touch for about 10 years and as far as I know never married. I never forgot him but remained faithful to my husband. Last year I heard he passed away. It made me very sad but I do not regret staying with my husband. Sometimes things are not meant to be.

prettywoman327

Joined: 12/27/2005

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Are women over-inundated with expressions of interest? Posted: 1/10/2008 5:47:23 AM
I am not getting to many e-mails but I think it is because of my age. I really don't expect as much as a young woman who has never been married. When I was a young woman we did not have the internet but I had many men interested in me nevertheless. I am not so much interested in getting married now as I have been married and have had my children. Now I would like to meet a nice gentleman who is not completely broke to spend time with. I am financially independent and would like the gentleman to be also. I still look good for my age and have often been mistaken for my daughters sister than her mother. I welcome all e-mails and try to respond to all but sometimes I am not on the internet for a week at a time and I miss some people. I have several favorite friends but I would like to date more.

prettywoman327

Joined: 12/27/2005

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would you date a nice guy if hes had very little money Posted: 9/22/2007 5:21:18 PM
I've always taken care of myself and at my age I am financially o.k. I have dated guys with little money but I will be honest when someone reaches 50 years old and still lives check to check it does make me nervous. I start to question whether he is with me for myself or because of my money. If U feel he is only dating you because you can pay for the food it is a downer. If I know he isn;t interested un me just because of money, then I can be happy. You have to be caregul when you reach my age. When I got married my hysband had bo money but we worked very hard for 30 years to have something. sadly now we are getting a divorce. All you nice gentlemen out there with little money, I am available but please don't try to take advantage. I am kooking for someone to love me for myself not my money.l Linda

prettywoman327

Joined: 12/27/2005

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Why do women want men their own age? Posted: 9/19/2007 5:06:43 PM
I agree with most people that you have more in common with someone your own age but I have dated 10 years younger and been compatible. I think there is a lot to be said for the idea that woman do on average live longer than men. The only real reason I wouldn't date a man much younger than 10 years is because as has been stated they would probably want there own chldren. I have 2 grown children of my own and truly believe that children are a great blesssing and men are missing out on a good part of life if they never experience kids of theor own. I know they can use my kids as theirs but somehow I don't think it would be the same and 10 years down the road I wouldn't want them to have regrets. I know some people mature early so I wouldn't rule out going more than 10 years younger but I would have to talk and e-mail them for a while first. I found that most young guys that have e-mailed me have given up rather quickly when I bring up the age thing. If they were more aggressive I might give it a try since I was married so young and am willing to try anything once. After all if you don't at least try something once how can you make any type of comment on it??? Linda

prettywoman327

Joined: 12/27/2005

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Feeling terrible for someone else Posted: 8/1/2007 10:08:37 PM
I have been seperated now for a year and one half. I was very sheltered in my marriage. I worked hard and so did my husband for many years and family was very important. Now that I am beginning to date again I see how really bad some peoples lives are and it makes me really sad. I start to feel sorry for myself because I too have had bad things happen as we all have but not nearly on the scale of other people. I at least am financially independent though by no means rich. I am looking for that special person to spend the rest of my life with but I know if that doesn't happen I have had a good life with two wonderful children. I regret my marriage ending but there was nothing I could do to stop that but after hearing what some others are going through I must sto[ my self pity and really feel bad for their awful lives. I think you ddid a good thing by being this womans friend and you will be rewarded for it sooner or later. Linda

prettywoman327

Joined: 12/27/2005

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Married along time and now he is gone. Help!!! Posted: 8/1/2007 3:19:36 PM
I was married for 36 years. I have been seperated for about a year and one half now and am close to a divorce settlement. I have a wonderful daughter who lives with me and I depend on her for a lot. I was also struck by an SUV about 3 months after he left and am still in a lot of pain because of a broken hip, pelvis and ankle. I am lucky to be able to walk but I am still in a great deal of pain. I have met many nice people here on POF. My daughter encouraged me to enroll as I was so depressed. I realize now that it ws definitely his loss and a lot of people would love to be with me even at my advanced age. LOL I truly went through hell with all this but everyone tells me things happen for a reason. I thought I was happy in my marriage but after looking back on it I realize I was not all that happy, just basically settling as I was married so long. I thought we would be together until one of us passed on. I now have a new prospective on life and hope you will find that as well. There are a lot of nice people out there and if you would like to contact me directly I would be more than happy to talk to you personally as we seem to be going through the same things. Linda

prettywoman327

Joined: 12/27/2005

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my heart is broken Posted: 7/19/2007 7:57:44 PM
Randy: Although we've never met my heart goes out to you. I have two children of my own and I don't know what I would do without them. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Linda

prettywoman327

Joined: 12/27/2005

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Is one hour too long to travel so u can meet someone? Posted: 7/13/2007 11:21:58 PM
I'm afraid I have an even worse problem!! I live near downtown Chicago and most people who have been interested in me live in the suburbs usually at least an hour away. I do not drive a car at all so the gentleman has to either pck me up or meet me at a local restaurant. While I have never met a gentleman who minds coming to meet me on a first date it may be difficult if we wanted to see each other in the future. I was told I could take the metra train to meet them in the suburbs and I would be fine with that if we were to hit it off, but as you cn see my problem is even worse than yours. LOL

prettywoman327

Joined: 12/27/2005

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Think like a guy.. ways to understand men Posted: 1/10/2007 9:49:34 PM
I have to agree with most of the posters. I think you should be yourself. When I first met my husband we talked for about 3 hours in the freezing cold on the steps to my house. After that first5 conversation he told his friend that I was the woman he wanted to marry. I think it was that I was completely myself andplayed no games and was very honest.

prettywoman327

Joined: 12/27/2005

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How to deal with heartbreak of ending a marriage? Posted: 1/3/2007 2:10:19 AM
I posted a reply on here a few pages ago. My husband was also a leo.LOL Maybe something to that. He was always a selfish man, but I put up with him for 33 years as he was a good father and a good husband until the last year. He became impotent 12 years ago and I probably should have left then, but he begged me to stay. I did. I believed in my marriage vows. He met a woman his daughters age and told me he wanted a divorce. No counselling or anything. He has a few dollars and that is why the woman is interested. If he had no money I would still be in the relationship. Dont worry about your wife Alan, worry about yourself. It took me this whole year to discover who I am as a person. I was 19 when I married and that is the only life I knew. I am finding a lot of friends here on pof and even some lovers. My hubby did me a big favor by leaving, I only wish he had done it sooner.

prettywoman327

Joined: 12/27/2005

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Emotional Distance Posted: 1/3/2007 1:09:11 AM
I dont know how other women feel but I as an older woman do get emotionally involved with someone I would sleep with. I cant have children anymore but that emotional thing is still there. The only way this would not happen is if the sex was really bad the first time. LOL If I allow myself to sleep with a man on numerous occassions you can bet that my emotions will be involved no matter how much I would like to seperate it from just the physical. I think sex without emotion or love is not very satisfying.

prettywoman327

Joined: 12/27/2005

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It's you Posted: 1/2/2007 10:10:43 PM
Its kind of weird. My ex, a man, did the same thing to me. We were married 33 years and although he got emotional and angry when we had arguments he never disrespected me until the final break-up. I think the person who stated that some people have to turn on you and make everything your fault to justify their actions is very correct. My ex acted like a complete lunitic when it was him that had another woman that he wanted to be with. Up until that final break-up he was a very loving, respectful man. Now I know that all those years he must have been hiding some immature person inside of him. It took a long time to find this out, but it finally happened.

prettywoman327

Joined: 12/27/2005

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How to deal with heartbreak of ending a marriage? Posted: 12/27/2006 1:10:52 PM
I was married for over 33 years. My husband "fell in love" with a woman the same age as his daughter. 12 years ago he begged me to stay with him as he had become impotent. I stayed. I believed in my marriage vows . I was not that happy as I truly enjoyed sex. It is really hard to start over at my age, but I am trying. If I did like my husband I would have had the last 12 years back to enjoy. We had worked together and I was his partner as well as his friend. I do believe what comes around goes around. I hope to find a true love that still believes in marriage vows. Nothing is perfect and marriage takes a lot of work. I dont think he will find the grass greener on the other side.

prettywoman327

Joined: 12/27/2005

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how do i survive the 1st christmas on my own? Posted: 12/20/2006 6:43:48 PM
This will be my first Christmas without my husband of 33 years. My grown daughter and I are going out Christmas eve to a movie and to eat and have a few drinks. I hope to have a date for New Years. I hope you get through the holidays and your new year is better. I hope mine is better as well. I will say a prayer for you and I hope you will do the same for me. Life is hard but we have to carry on.

prettywoman327

Joined: 12/27/2005

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Why not take a chance and Let some one contact you from out of your area and country ect? Posted: 12/11/2006 5:14:00 PM
I would travel to meet someone if I thought we were a good match. At this time in my life I am not working and I do have the time and I am financially independent so I would go for it. It would be better if the guy were close as you have to have physical contact to really know if you are compatable but I would give the long distance guy a chance. so far I havent been contacted by any. LOL

prettywoman327

Joined: 12/27/2005

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Dec 23rd Fox Valley Area Get Together! Posted: 11/29/2006 1:44:58 AM
I don't drive but I live close to downtown Chicago so would be interested if we could do something in the city.

prettywoman327

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A Man That Has NO Interest in Sex.... Posted: 11/22/2006 10:50:44 PM
I was married to a man for 33 years. At first we both had a very high sex drive but after he turned forty something happened to him physically. He went to the doctor and found it was a medical problem that could be solved pnly with surgery that he was afraid of. At the time I had 2 small children and that I would be a piss-poor wife to leave him because of sex. I took my marriage vows very seriously and I loved him. Last year he left me for a woman young enough to be his daughter. I don't know what she would see in him except dollars but I was completely devastated and felt so stupid. I still have a strong sex drive but it has been repressed for 15 years, I am hoping to find someone here on POF to be a good sexpartner but also a good person who I could love for the rest of my life. Sex is definitely not everything in a relationship but the intinacy of being together is truly amazing and I beleive something most of us need.

prettywoman327

Joined: 12/27/2005

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I'm Amazed on What i just found, (just need to vent) Posted: 11/22/2006 10:14:30 PM
I was married for 33 years and was constantly watched and accused of having affairs, I was faithful, but ny husband left me for a woman my daughhters age. Now people have told me that often people who are cheaters blame their partners because they feel guilty. I'd hate to think this is true because he constantly told me how much he loved me and I truly believed him but what he did to me also speaks volumes. I think you did a good thing by getting out before you built a life with someone like him.

prettywoman327

Joined: 12/27/2005

Msg: 55 (view)

what is your type???? ....... visual imprinting of our perfect mate Posted: 11/21/2006 1:57:22 AM
i LIKE THE GUY WHO WILL COME VISIT ME WHEN i NEED HELP. i WAS IN A BAD ACCIDENT IN aPRIL AND COULD NOT WALK FOR SEVERAL MONTHS. i HAD JUST RECENTLY MET A MAN WHO i WAS NOT ATTRACTED TO PHYSICALLY BUT HE CAME TO VISIT ME AND BROUGHT ME FOOD SO i WOULDN'T BE HUNGRY. hE WAS NOT HANDSOME OR REALLY SMART, BUT HE HAD SWOME RTYPE OF THING INSIDE HIM THAT I FOUND VERY ATTRACTIVE. EVERY TIME I SEE HIM HE BECOMES MORE ATTRACTIVE TO ME, EVEN PHYSICALLY. i THINK i SEE HIM FOR WHAT HE IS ON THE INSIDE NOT THE OUTSIDE AND I HAVE ALWAYS WANTED A MAN TO TREAT ME LIKE A QUEEN AND HE DOES. I AM NOT LOOKING FOR SOMEONE TO HAVE CHILDREN WITH NOW AS I ALREADY HAVE 2 OF MY OWN SO I WILL CONTINUE TO LOOK AT THE WAY A MAN TREATS ME RATHER THAN THE OUTSIDE LOOKS. I THINK MORE WOMEN SHOULD TRY GIVING THE LESS HANDSOME A CHANCE. ITS AMAZING HOW SOMEONE TREATING YOU REALLY WELL MAKES THAT NOT SO HANDSOME GUY A REAL PRINCE.

prettywoman327

Joined: 12/27/2005

Msg: 47 (view)

How to make your girlfriend smile Posted: 11/21/2006 12:44:47 AM
i DO AGREE. i AM GOING THROYUGH A DIVORCE RIGHT NOW AND WOULD LOVE TO HAVE SOMEONE SAY THEY LOVE ME AND MEAN IT. I LOVE TO SMILE BUT HAVENT HAD MUCH TO SMILE ABOUT LATELY. pLEASE GUYS IF YOU CAN SAY SOMETHING FUNNY TO ME TODAY TO MAKE ME SMILE i WILL LOVE YOU FOREVER. lol

prettywoman327

Joined: 12/27/2005

Msg: 11 (view)

What happened to oldfashioned love? Posted: 10/21/2006 7:41:50 PM
I have been computer dating for only about 6 months now. I was married a very long time and I also, in this short time have found that a lot of people do not take the time to know one another. If they don't feel instant something they are out of there. It does take time to get to know someone, often a lot of time. I thought I knew everything about my ex but even after 33 years I didn't know everything. Of course you have to have some attraction, but if you want a relationship to work, you have to give it time and you have to want to know the person both mentally and physically.

prettywoman327

Joined: 12/27/2005

Msg: 14 (view)

TO TOUCH OR NOT TO TOUCH Posted: 10/18/2006 1:57:05 AM
Dump him quick. He sounds like a nut case!!!!

prettywoman327

Joined: 12/27/2005

Msg: 411 (view)

Ever feel like your going to be alone forever? Posted: 10/15/2006 11:05:18 PM
I was married for 33 years and have been seperated for one year now. I have met several men from this site but they all seemed not to interested in finding one person to settle down with. Being married so long, frankly its what I know how to do. I have recentl met a nice man here but we are not completely compatable. We share some things, but are very different on others. To stay in a relationship and be happy you have to be able to deal with the other persons differences and they have to deal with your differences. I think many people give up on each other to soon. You have to see things from the other persons point of view in order to stay together. I know, I'm getting divorced LOL but my soon to be ex thinks he can relive his youth with a girl young enough to be his daughter. I know this has nothing to do with me, but it is his mid-life crisis to work out. I feel I will always have someone in my life to love and cherish me because I do not give up at the first sign of disagreement - we are all different and we have to celebrate those differences and yes even laugh at them. If you are looking for a nice guy, treat him nice, respect his differences and love will happen. Just be careful when he reaches his middle 50's some men go really crazy. I think its called male menapause!!!!LOL

prettywoman327

Joined: 12/27/2005

Msg: 24 (view)

i did something bad Posted: 10/15/2006 9:54:14 PM
I kept some pictures and love letters from my old boyfriends. It is nice now that I'm a lot older to look back at them and wonder what they did with their lives. I wished them only the best but I coud only marry one guy. Several of them have died but I still can recall many good times we had together. I don't think you should have gone into her private messages but has been said we all do stupid things especially when we are young and just starting out on life.

prettywoman327

Joined: 12/27/2005

Msg: 79 (view)

Plentyoffish, Now with Flowers. Posted: 10/13/2006 3:03:29 AM
I have had a really bad year and flowers would really make my day. I hope some of you guys out there are romantic. I havent got flowers since my ex left a year ago. Need some bad!!!!!!!LOL Not fussey any will do.....

prettywoman327

Joined: 12/27/2005

Msg: 22 (view)

why can guys walk away like nothing ever happened!! Posted: 10/1/2006 3:42:08 AM
Lone Gray Wolf if you are still reading this thread I wish you would contact me. I was married for 33 years and my husband just walked away with another woman. He was acting very wierd before he did it but what you posted made a lot of sense. We are in the process of a divorce now but he will not speak to me or even give me his address. I have to file all papers through his attorney and it is not that I was trying to contact him. I called him about 3 months ago in regard to some property we owned but since then he has moved and shut off his phone. I would never call him again, and he must know that since we were married so long. I would never make a pest out of myself if this is what he wants this is what he will get, but I have a hard time understanding why we can't talk. We were always able to talk about everything until he just left.....................

prettywoman327

Joined: 12/27/2005

Msg: 71 (view)

Why are you on here? Posted: 9/22/2006 9:19:41 PM
I agree with Sassy. Im here to find that special man to whom I can give all my love and who will love me the same way. I want him to look at only me when I walk into a room and I want to be his only. If other men desire me I want him to know that he is the only one I want and I also want to feel that I am the only woman he wants to be with. I have no objection to his having woman friends but I want to know that I am his special lady and we have that special love. I thought I had it once, but somehow it got away. I want that feeling again because once you have it you will never want to settle for less.

prettywoman327

Joined: 12/27/2005

Msg: 24 (view)

How would you respond to this? Posted: 9/22/2006 8:50:30 PM
When I married my husband he knew I was so callled in love with someone else but this person I thought I was in love with didnt want to work so I just coundnt stand it anymore and I wanted to get married. My husband told me he would love me and make me so happy to be with him that I would learn to love him. I was young, but he was right I did learn to love him. We were married 33 years before he discovred he had lost his feelings for me. Now he is with a woman young enough to be his daughter and we are getting a divorce. Lfe is wierd and I get depressed because the best years are now probably behind me but I still have the hope that perhaps I can meet another man here on pof that will love me forever.

prettywoman327

Joined: 12/27/2005

Msg: 119 (view)

That crazy teeth issue.... Posted: 9/17/2006 3:15:59 PM
The guy I am seein currently is missing some teeth due to getting kicked in the face doing Tai Kwan Dou. He does not have bad breath and is very clean type person so I know he brushes the teeth he has left. I spoke to him about this and he wants to have implants, but they are $1,500 per tooth and no way has he got that kind of money. He has a good job but has a igh mortgage and is barely making it. I have even said I would help him out with some of the cost but he wont take money from me. One of the many reasons I care for him. His ex spent $5,000 on dentures that dont fit properly and she doesnt wear them, thats why he doesn't want dentures but would prefer the implants. Should I dump him because of the teeth? He would look much better with all his teeth but he would still be the same person. I wish he didn't have this problem but I don't think I will let it break us up. He never has bad breath and is very clean.

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