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dallasdoer

Joined: 2/9/2009

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What happens if you can't feel that spark, the magic? Posted: 6/22/2009 10:24:38 PM
I cannot speak for others but, if I am not attracted sexually, why date? And yes, spark is what I think men believe to be sex appeal. Even guys over 45 probably want to be romantically attracted. If not, they could hire a nurse or a housekeeper unless they just want one for free but, is that what women want. I don't think so.

dallasdoer

Joined: 2/9/2009

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why a meal on the first date? Posted: 6/22/2009 10:20:47 PM
Gee guy, you haven't yet figured out that women like to have somebody buy them dinner more than they dislike having to sit through it with some guy they don't want to have a relationship with? It's been that way as long as I have been around. Who cares what they say in their profile. If they won't meet you unless you take em to some "fine" dining, you might be better off discussing the terms and conditions of her bargain first since I have a feeling you are not going to to get a happy ending.

dallasdoer

Joined: 2/9/2009

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I'm a dance lover seeking a partner who can keep up! Posted: 6/22/2009 10:03:47 PM
Nobody hates you because you want to dance. We love dancers but, we prefer to take em home. That's cause we don't think or act like women. Men dance to attract women not so we can dance but so we can take them home. hello? knock-knock. If you have not figured that one out with grandchildren, then read Men Are From Mars etc.. But, there are those guys who are more interested in dancing and some of the posts here prove that women are not always real good at discerning. They usually like men too.

dallasdoer

Joined: 2/9/2009

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Older woman, younger man... Posted: 6/22/2009 9:48:36 PM
The boy wants a mother. Wake up. To all the middle-aged women who think that all you need to do is be a female, men [especially young ones] are used to oral sex parties in high school. They are much more worldly and less needy when you were were their age, TWENTY FIVE YEARS AGO. Your vanity is causing you to be irrational. Next he'll be borrowing your car to date some young honey and of course, he'll need money to start his own business (so you can have a future together). Right.

dallasdoer

Joined: 2/9/2009

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Sex question for guys over 50... Posted: 5/31/2009 9:45:53 PM
I want nothing to do sexually with someone who I would not want a future with.

dallasdoer

Joined: 2/9/2009

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Honest Critique Needed Posted: 5/31/2009 9:43:57 PM
change your screen name to anything but stinky

dallasdoer

Joined: 2/9/2009

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I need a man's opinion Posted: 5/31/2009 9:32:44 PM
He's probably playing you like he told you. Texting is like mass mailing. Dating is just that. It is not LONG TERM Get real... Sorry.

dallasdoer

Joined: 2/9/2009

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Can there be more than one soulmate in life? Posted: 5/31/2009 8:50:11 PM
Women will hate reading this unless they are honest. Most if not all of the women on this site have had many men [in the Biblical sense] not their soul mate. I rest my case.

dallasdoer

Joined: 2/9/2009

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Oh man, I figured out how to make this site work! Posted: 5/31/2009 8:41:05 PM
Well done my good man! I have been feeling the same love from these vixens who say nothing but the same stuff about WHAT THEY WANT with few exceptions about what they have to offer. I think we should all try this and see.

dallasdoer

Joined: 2/9/2009

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I need advise, how can i gain confidence? Posted: 5/31/2009 8:35:20 PM
ALCOHOL USUALLY WORKS FOR BOTH BOYS AND GIRLS.

dallasdoer

Joined: 2/9/2009

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would you date a stripper? Posted: 5/31/2009 8:30:08 PM
Depends on what you call a date. Most men with any self respect would not. Then again there are guys who "date" a lot of them and we usually call them pimps and try to arrest them whenever possible as being anti-societal.

dallasdoer

Joined: 2/9/2009

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Is falling in love a process? Posted: 5/31/2009 8:27:37 PM
In a word NO. When people have a list of things they want from a mate, they may think they are being rational and they probably are. But, what happens when they lose their job or lose their figure or lose their sailboat? My experience is that romantic love usually happens from the start and if the sex is good, it usually lasts for a while. Sadly, women can be more callous about their lists than men and with no-fault divorce it is almost a given [statistically] that people getting married today, will not be forever.

dallasdoer

Joined: 2/9/2009

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What do you think of White Suburban Women who act likeHoodrats? Posted: 5/31/2009 8:22:15 PM
If the shoe fits wear it. If they act like gutter snipes they just might be thrill-seeking hos that are not getting what they really want in suburbia like, gang rape.

dallasdoer

Joined: 2/9/2009

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This is going to sound so very stupid but I deserve it. Posted: 5/24/2009 7:28:09 PM
Fool me once your fault, fool me twice: mine. Anybody who gives out such stupid excuses is for sure a liar and you should count yourself lucky. If riding motorcycles is all you had in common then you might consider this as an evidentiary experience.

dallasdoer

Joined: 2/9/2009

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how long in a realtionship should i wait before i meet his mom? Posted: 5/24/2009 7:24:11 PM
I think that if a man is proud of a woman he will want to show her off to everybody, and as soon as possible, including moms and dads.

dallasdoer

Joined: 2/9/2009

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Do I look like a virtual hooooo?? Posted: 5/24/2009 7:21:03 PM
I canonly say that I tend to agree with you that a person who is favorited by (in some cases I've seen over 200) then she is obviously a serial dater since the sheer numbers alone tend to prove she has been there a while and with all those who think she is hot, surely she should have been taken off the market [if she is not jsut a female player]. Clarification, I say player rather than ho because my idea of the difference is huge. A ho does not need to go on line, she just needs to go out and wink at men. Usually, there are a number who will take her up no matter how gross she is.

dallasdoer

Joined: 2/9/2009

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How patient should one be? Posted: 5/24/2009 7:15:14 PM
If I find someone good looking and interesting I wish to meet them right away for a look to make sure they are what they say or suggest. The only reason a man would not want to is if he is not what he says he is and/or is just not that into you. Why write thousand words when a meeting will do?

dallasdoer

Joined: 2/9/2009

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Workaholic or something more? Posted: 5/22/2009 10:03:32 PM
He's just not into you. Hobby schmoby. Any man who has so little time for you is making time for somebody else. Sounds like she is more into his hobby than you are, which is probably "a broad" knob polishing [by his wife]. Wake up whacky doodle.

dallasdoer

Joined: 2/9/2009

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Would you seriously date a woman or a man if they told you that they did not give oral sex Posted: 5/20/2009 9:55:47 PM
Nearly 60 THOUSAND have seen this thread so here's my comment; different strokes for different folks. Since women generally have the same parts, shouldn't the question be about the whole package than one of her orafices"

dallasdoer

Joined: 2/9/2009

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HE BLOWS HIS LOAD IN MY MOUTH WITH NO ORGASM ALERT! Posted: 5/20/2009 9:50:09 PM
seventy THOUSAND have looked at this thread so I have to say something; if you don't like the heat, stay out of the kitchen, Hello?

dallasdoer

Joined: 2/9/2009

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Casual blowjobs Posted: 5/20/2009 9:42:33 PM
You peeps are a bunch bad wabits and OP is fishin for BJ's. I am not touching this one because everything you write here stays on her forever. However, it is a fact that women who smoke are probably better prospects for your particular orientation.

dallasdoer

Joined: 2/9/2009

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is it easier for a homely woman to get laid? Posted: 5/20/2009 9:07:24 PM
You must be joking. The only reason a homely women gets men is because she is approachable to more ugly, homely men who think she won't reject them and bruise their egos. If it's volume you want you can do what a lot of women do on this site, let the girls hang out of your blouse or put your legs up in the air, that'll get you what it appears you want. Or you could quit waiting on the men and simply be modest but mail men who you think are up to your standards.

dallasdoer

Joined: 2/9/2009

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How do you get more people to view your profile? Posted: 5/20/2009 8:57:22 PM
Who knows, maybe reverse psychology. Since so many street thugs are wearing suits now, you might try that since diamonds are a girl's best friend. Tell them you're a baby doctor and just love taking care of other men's children, that'll work for sure.

dallasdoer

Joined: 2/9/2009

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Why? Posted: 5/20/2009 8:50:43 PM
If the shoe fits wear it manipulater with your legs in the air. I have had problems with only 1% of the women I have "loved" and that appears to be because I cared enough to marry one and treated the other one like my mother when what she wanted was to get f*****d. So all you know it all forum "elder" ladies probably need to get laid and you won't be such shrews and you won't be giving misleading advice to a guy who appearst to be what you say you want, loyal and loving. Moral of the story, give em what they need, not what they say they want.

dallasdoer

Joined: 2/9/2009

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Why? Posted: 5/20/2009 8:10:09 PM
Yo Mayo Thanks for the support. I feel for ya and you are correct that women with lots of male friends are gonna do you in. It is also true that women are highly offended when you do not want ot do the nasty with them, which would mean that they do not want friends but backups to fluff their vanity etc. The old saying that hell hath no furry like a woman scorned did not come out of nowhere. I have learned plenty but I also take heed of the lessons of the ages unlike some of these numbskulls that pretend to know.

dallasdoer

Joined: 2/9/2009

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what do men consider overweight? Posted: 5/19/2009 5:39:43 PM
I will get blasted here for the truth but it is obvious that playboy models are the prototype and everything bigger than that is just a matter of what a man will put up with. Nobody really finds fat attractive unless they are abnormal and it probably has to do with some psychic anomaly. Lucky for fatties but by definition those guys are not main stream which may be indicative of other potential deviations.

dallasdoer

Joined: 2/9/2009

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Is it okay to ask someone why you are not a match for them Posted: 5/19/2009 5:29:06 PM
Asking is for free but why bother. They did not give the time of day so are you just looking to be depressed. Move on to the next. It is counterintuitive but very empowering and you'd be surprised how women want what they can't have like men.

dallasdoer

Joined: 2/9/2009

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Should I call her? Posted: 5/19/2009 5:25:35 PM
I would not, sounds like she has probably got some scam going and is looking for fish.

dallasdoer

Joined: 2/9/2009

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Why? Posted: 5/19/2009 5:23:41 PM
Women are players today just like men, though they will never admit it. They like to keep the "friend" on the back burner plus men are better friends since they do stuff for them and don't compete with them like girlfriends do. The older they are, the more they figure out how to manipulate men, like a stable of handy men they don't have to pay who are usually desperate to just be around the babe, though she could care less.

dallasdoer

Joined: 2/9/2009

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he'll sleep with you, but won't kiss you Posted: 5/19/2009 5:12:32 PM
This guy is absolutely not in love and does not even like this woman. He has got some deep rooted belief that she is nasty and sex to him is just that.

dallasdoer

Joined: 2/9/2009

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do girls really want us to mail them when they view our profile? Posted: 5/19/2009 5:09:44 PM
It is obvious that some people do nothing but post on this site and so they have seen and done it all but I have not. I have known women who say they dont call guys and it appears there are so many men chasing the decent looking women on these sites that women are busy keeping up with the agressive guys who mail anybody who is remotely decent and they do it daily. Given that women tend to be responders and not protagonists, should men believe that if they bother to look at our profile that they think there is enough interest that we should contact them (if mutual) because they are too ladylike to make the first move?

dallasdoer

Joined: 2/9/2009

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to women what's the difference dating and long term Posted: 5/18/2009 12:25:13 PM
Thanks for the ameliortive remarks from many. At last count around 1500 viewed the thread and the last ladies made/got my point finally. What you put down is your goal e.g., dating is dating and yes you do that first before any LTR but that's not your goal is it? If it is not, don't be surprised when guys who contact you just want to serial date. For those who are troubled with these concepts just relax and don't get mad at the question. Just ask yourself what are your goals and then state them. If your goal is to have some/any man contact them, I suggest you do like so many and say adventurous and show lots of cleavage. Again, however don't get mad if they guys who contact you are not prince charming on a white steed willing to talk for hours and take you to meet their relatives, and/or defend your modesty.... since you don't lose what you don't have. I can hear the rants now so be advised, you are talking to the hand.... -30-

dallasdoer

Joined: 2/9/2009

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Will this guy ever get in contact with me? Posted: 5/17/2009 7:55:08 PM
I see three pages and I don't bother to read even the first line. However if you want guys to contact you who do not have breast fettishes or do not want women who are advertising, you will probably not succeed by your featured picture. If your question has anything to do with 'why all the men who contact me talk about my breasts' it's because you're showing them. Hello

dallasdoer

Joined: 2/9/2009

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Bit freaked and not even sure if I should be.. Posted: 5/17/2009 7:29:09 PM
Sounds dorky to me unless you put something in your profile about taking showers. It's wacky for him to come off like that. He is probably a poser and blocking may be a little premature. This site gives people way too much rope without knowing they can hang themselves on the whim of anybody who doesn't like them for any or no reason.

dallasdoer

Joined: 2/9/2009

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no sex = no dating? Posted: 5/17/2009 7:13:36 PM
I have no idea what guys your age would think but intuition tell me that sex is almost meaningless for guys your age so instead of list dating list long term. If you just want a friend, a girl would probably make a better one. A pretty girl like you should be able to find a man who will marry her but, it might mean finding a guy who is more mature, more used to women being a little more particular and of course more interested in a women who is marriage material.

dallasdoer

Joined: 2/9/2009

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Can a White person be African American? Posted: 5/17/2009 7:02:03 PM
I am sure you know you are being cheeky and politically incorrect but your point is well taken. I find it terribly interesting how people always want to define themselves in terms that they believe are favorable. Just like fascists who call themselves conservative and sluts (men can be sluts too) who call themselves liberal. Plenty of people go along to get along and call (whoever they are) whatever the name du jur that they like. From what I have seen of the former Rhodesia today, if I were a white who escaped from there with my life, forget the property, I would call myself smart.

dallasdoer

Joined: 2/9/2009

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Can someone tell me what's going on? Posted: 5/17/2009 6:46:20 PM
Nobody wants to read a life story here. Suffice to say that most men are hunters and women are gatherers. Once they kill and eat then for lot's of men, its on to the next. For all women who think long distance relationships with traveling salesmen will work because he is a whirlwind on the phone and tells you all that you want to hear, get real. For all you know he has women like you all over the tri state area and a river in Egypt.

dallasdoer

Joined: 2/9/2009

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If you know a woman loves you but you just like her what do you do? Posted: 5/17/2009 6:37:43 PM
Women do the same thing all the time. They call it having friends. Women seem to want it all ways. If a man knows a woman has a crush on him and he is not even interested enough for sex or he does not want sex out of honor for fear it would make her heart broken or worse a vindictive stalker, why not ask girls what they do? Answer is usually have him hang around to do odd jobs and flatter her vanity under the pretext that she is too nice to tell him the truth. Is that tit for tat or just tat? Next question that is hard to answer: why do women defile themselves with jail tats?

dallasdoer

Joined: 2/9/2009

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to women what's the difference dating and long term Posted: 5/16/2009 12:08:18 PM
Well OK, over 1100 people thought the question was legitimate and that's why they viewed the thread. All I did was ask a question and throw out some common thoughts that are not necessarily my own, like any good moderator would do. Many of the personal attacks on me were by women who obviously have been hurt and simply want to attack any man that says the obvious and is not simply feeding them politically correct pablum in order to get into her pants. Here is a clue ladies, men lie a lot. Usually the biggest liars are the ones who always sound like you want them to. Think about it for just a second. Then consider that women lie too although maybe about less important things. For instance, they want to be nice and they want to be entertained so they play along with somebody who they would never sleep with. This is not my problem! I am speaking for the guys who I read about on this site. As for cougars, I do not contact any women who wants to date a youngter because that tells me she is a vane fool. I could easily take advantage of her if I wanted to. I'm just saying in defense of you old gals who can't find a guy your age, maybe cuz he's stupid and vain too, don't throw the baby out with the bath. Obviously everybody has a different definition and my objective was not to get a consensus but to make you think.

dallasdoer

Joined: 2/9/2009

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to women what's the difference dating and long term Posted: 5/11/2009 8:20:36 PM
By now I should know to say nothing here but I did want a perspective and thankfully at least a couple defended me. This is not about me though so many of you try to make it about you vs me. For those who have acted that way, try getting your own counseling. I dated a therapist for 5 years and of course she tried to make me out to be the bad guy because I chose not to marry her. It was her own self-interest and ego that was hurt by no fault of mine. As to forums, I chose not to explain my experiences like so many of you. Everybody knows you don't get to LTR without first dating. Geez. The point is to state your goals and if dating is your goal when you have an easy choice to say LTR and you don't because you are afraid of scaring men, then you're just desperate and pathetic. If I had a wife that was on a dating site, I would be highly offended as you would if your husbands (which you don't have) were out checking out and chatting with some young babes.To thine own self be true. After considerable experience, I conclude that women become more argumentitive as they grow older until they reach an age where they realize that maybe its better to be less liberated and more loved for their comfort and cooperation. The sheer numbers of divorce prove that it is not all men who are at fault and I have never suggested it's all women. Peace.

dallasdoer

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to women what's the difference dating and long term Posted: 5/11/2009 6:09:21 PM
Talk about equivocation. Yes I misspelled LTR as LTV. I did not ask for any of your personal information or history. None of you answered my questions. Instead, you attack me for asking what most men are thinking. I want a Long Term Relationship and that is why I am not looking for friends, other types of buddies or activity partners etc. and my whole premise is that words have meaning. From your answers (some of which come from women who claim to be in LTR which causes me to question their sincerity) and many from women that appear to hate sex and just want somebody to be bored with until you wear them out enough that they give up. I happen to have known women that demand sex and if you don't put out, they call all kinds of names like you are calling me now. In conclusion, I will only be contacting women who want LTR instead of Dating, cuz I am really looking and not just playing so I don't sit at home or feel funny going out alone, like so many women. I know what a cougar is, my question was what makes them think they are anything other than casual sex or a meal ticket for the younger guy? Fact is women are so accustomed to men jumping through hoops that they expect all they need do is show up. Look at your own profiles sometime and you will see that its all about what you want, not what you have to offer. Get It?

dallasdoer

Joined: 2/9/2009

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what men should do and shouldn't do while dating,a woman. Posted: 5/10/2009 10:58:30 PM
JS and Rhonda need to hook up and have some laughs together cause they are sure making me laugh. Talk about prototypes, I think we have found them.

dallasdoer

Joined: 2/9/2009

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to women what's the difference dating and long term Posted: 5/10/2009 10:25:23 PM
Let me rephrase the question and please don't get mad for the questions. I am genuinely stymied. Obviously dating has to happen before LTV. The question is whether the women who say dating rather than LTV know that if they want a LTV they may be precluding such by saying Dating? Otherwise words have no meaning. The thing about cougars is I read the profiles of women who are hot and most of them want ages 10-15 years younger but maybe only 5 years older if that. I am not complaining. I find older women ok if they look ok. I do not want a baby. When women want younger men [on their profile] that means 'cougar' and yes if men did the same, they would be called dirty ol men. However, younger women have been accomadating that for centuries. Only recently have women been so forward about (e.g. powerder room gossip) having young 'beefcake'. The point is that if all you women want to be honest about it, you are not so interested in LTV as you may want us to believe. The proof is in the number of years that some of you have been on these sites and how many marriages you have blown through. Just sayin. I am only the messenger.

dallasdoer

Joined: 2/9/2009

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to women what's the difference dating and long term Posted: 5/10/2009 8:37:10 PM
So when you gals say dating versus long term does that mean the obvious or are you just trying to avoid scaring off the committment phobes. What's the truth? Should any of us who would like to find the right girl just pass you by if you just want to go out on the weekends or does dating mean that the guy who takes you out is gonna get lucky? For all your talk about men having committment issues, maybe the women just wanna play the field since they have been liberated. And why all the cougars? Do you really think they find you more pretty than a 28 year old. Maybe you have more moolah.

dallasdoer

Joined: 2/9/2009

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Why do some rush and others I have to chase?? Posted: 5/10/2009 7:44:40 PM
Just decide what you really want and be scientific. With all the guys on these sites any women who looks decent is going to get mail. Just pick and chose and any man that hounds you is going to be a stalker. It's not love is obsessive and/or compulsive.

dallasdoer

Joined: 2/9/2009

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The thing that confuses me... Posted: 5/10/2009 7:39:28 PM
You answered it yourself. They are acting and/or have no conscience. The truth will reveal itself by the sheer numbers. Since you don't post a picture, ask why? If you are embarrassed and few show genuine interest and they don't get the poontang, maybe the ones that do and poof are just more desperate or willing to work harder. Sorry.

dallasdoer

Joined: 2/9/2009

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Married women and single guys Posted: 5/10/2009 7:30:43 PM
Some of us actually have a moral compass that says it is just plain wrong to screw another man's wife or even his common law or steady lady. Some guys will screw a snake if they could get low enough. Just lower your standards and sooner or later both of you will get what you deserve. Then you can go on Jerry and think you're a star.

dallasdoer

Joined: 2/9/2009

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Can a woman find a chatty man? Posted: 5/10/2009 7:24:19 PM
What's the point? Men tend to be more goal oriented and if there is a problem they want to fix it. Women would rather talk. They are from Venus. It's not my fault.

dallasdoer

Joined: 2/9/2009

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Why do some (not all) men treat women like dirt Posted: 5/10/2009 7:16:01 PM
Men treat women like women treat men but men probably are worse. The reason for such behavior is character defect, antisocial personality, and sado-masochism for starters. Some women are so fkd up that they like it or like to hate it. They're both sick but, it takes all kinds. Sadly, bodies mature way before mental health does.

dallasdoer

Joined: 2/9/2009

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Ok... Posted: 5/10/2009 7:11:17 PM
You are smart and intuitive and have answered your own question. You probably know more about men than I do. Personally, I don't know why they waste their time but lots of women suggest that guys hang around [ostensibly as their "friend"] so they can appeal to those women who need to be friends before falling in love and then there are those who get sympathy sex and/or revenge sex when the guy they really want is just not that into her. Other than that they may be spending so much time chasing tail that they have the time to waste. Go figure.

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