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Nick615

Joined: 2/10/2009

Msg: 21 (view)

Does this happen to everybody? Posted: 7/27/2009 10:47:02 AM
I actually kind of agree with imacityboy. Come on. I've tried different approaches, and I won't lie. I've said some stuff along those lines (not exactly like that lol). Not trying to be arrogant, but just making a joke. Just a little poke or a tease towards someone. That's all. Would you rather a guy take a much more humble and shy approach and risk coming off as a wussy boy with low self-esteem? From what I understand, more women get turned off by these guys I just mentioned. "Oh my god! An attractive, sexy woman! Let me act a fool and stumble all over myself while trying to rush over and please her in any way I possible can!!" It gets boring approaching women the same way all the time, and if we're not getting dates, what the hell? Do something different and see how it goes. You obviously don't have much to lose when you're in that position, right? As Cityboy said, "He was trying to be funny, different, unique." At least he didn't make some crude, vulgar sexual proposal. You should hear some of the things OTHER girls have gotten on here lol. GoodWitchBeth lol That line about finding a date for Friday night was a COMPLIMENT though. It never ceases to amaze me how sensitive and presumptuous some people can be. You try to compliment someone and they somehow turn it into an offensive comment. Take it easy.

Nick615

Joined: 2/10/2009

Msg: 22 (view)

Lol really why? Posted: 7/27/2009 10:33:30 AM
Oh my god LMAO What a bunch of f***balls. WOWWWWW. I can't believe dudes talk like that. Really. It's very difficult to actually imagine some dude saying that to a woman. I don't get it. Damn...

Nick615

Joined: 2/10/2009

Msg: 21 (view)

Do you like your girlfriend to be nurturing towards you? Posted: 7/27/2009 10:30:06 AM
Personally, I'd like that once in a while. I don't want to be smothered and feel babied (is that a word? lol) I am very affectionate, though, so I do appreciate affection. Some give-and-take is fine.

Nick615

Joined: 2/10/2009

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One thing I don't get about you Guys Posted: 7/22/2009 8:10:01 PM
I agree with Sun devil. We want a woman who's SOMEwhere in the middle. I want a feminine woman who is still confident and independent. I don't see a problem with that at all, as long as she isn't some crazed feminist who feels like she's on a life-long power trip. "I AM WOMAN. HEAR ME ROAR!!" Hell no lol. And I don't know about some of the guys YOU know, but I don't need my girlfriend to be into the stuff I'm into, or to like the stuff I like. Frankly, that would probably bore me. Be an individual. Yeah it's great to have stuff in common and similar interests and values, but... I've NEVER dated a girl who was as much into rap and Hip Hop (or even music in general) as I am. I've never dated a girl who was seriously into working out. Damn. The last girl I dated... well, we didn't have MUCH in common at all... guess that's why that fizzled out quick lol Yeah, guys in general I think want to feel needed, but probably you do too. It's just a matter of what the context or situation is. Everybody loves somebody, everybody needs someone sometimes (nod to Dino lol) A lot of people are insecure and can get intimidated easily. I used to be. But the boys gotta man up eventually.

Nick615

Joined: 2/10/2009

Msg: 14 (view)

Do i give up? Posted: 7/22/2009 7:58:42 PM
Let it go. Move on. You guys gave it a second shot and now it's all messed up again. Forget it. I haven't had a LOT of relationships, but in my opinion, after two tries, if it still aint working out, just say F*** it and let the other person go. It's not worth it.

Nick615

Joined: 2/10/2009

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is he bi? Posted: 7/21/2009 9:14:14 PM
If he seems to act feminine, watches gay porn and keeps pics of**** around, he's at LEAST bisexual, if not homosexual and has been trying to cover it up. I mean hey, what's that saying? If it walks like a duck... If he's bi, why would she not be able to make him happy? I guess she could to a degree, but... well, I don't know for sure lol. I've never been acquainted or friendly with a bisexual. Definitely not a guy anyway. Is it possible to repress those urges? Sure it is. But it's probably not going to have a great outcome anyway. Should she run or is she overreacting?? Those are questions only she can answer. I don't think it's out of the question for her to confront him about it and talk about it. I also don't think it would be wrong for her to break up with him over it. I mean, if he's bisexual, confused about his sexuality, or especially if he's just homosexual, don't you think those are pretty big differences to have in a relationship? If I could talk to your friend, I'd tell her to talk to him about it, ask him to please be brutally honest, and see how it goes. Whatever she chooses to do after that is her decision, and as her friend, all you have to do is be there for her and support her.

Nick615

Joined: 2/10/2009

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What the f@!k happened? Posted: 7/21/2009 9:03:56 PM
I don't know if he's a psycho, but his actions are definitely weird as hell. What IS this guy's problem?? I think the whole thing sounds shady, actually, not just the ending. "Meet me at the beach at sunset" THAT night?? First, it's totally last minute, and second... Meet me at the beach at sunset?!? Most girls I know would think that's strange for a first date, so I would never do that. Then, you guys made the second date at your house? A little soon for some guy you don't really know. I'd never suggest that. I don't think I'd accept that even if the woman asked me. Things were just moving awkwardly quickly to me. All of that happened in a few days? I don't know. I'm not trying to diss you, but I think you made some bad judgment calls as well. Still, this guy sounds like a socially inept fool. Erase all contact with him, and if he seems to "pop up" in some more familiar places, call the cops or something.

Nick615

Joined: 2/10/2009

Msg: 13 (view)

What do you think an appropriate response should be if men keep cancelling dates on you? Posted: 7/21/2009 8:52:03 PM
I think you answered your own questions, too, actually. Sounds like you know what you're doing. I'm with you. Delete their contact info. That's not harsh. The ball's in their court, and if they can't hang, they're done. I think that if I was interested in a lady, but I had to cancel a date, I'd make light of it, apologize and reschedule on the spot. That's all there is to it, right?

Nick615

Joined: 2/10/2009

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Why are guys into endless emails? Posted: 7/21/2009 8:41:26 PM
Beats me, Wendy. I'd think after a few good e-mail exchanges, someone would ask to meet up. As the other guys said though, there's too little info to go on here. Could be one of many reasons I guess.

Nick615

Joined: 2/10/2009

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Help a girl out please Posted: 7/20/2009 10:47:49 PM
I think it sounds good. Sounds sincere and honest enough. Not too elaborate but certainly not short and plain like some other profiles I've seen. All I can say is good luck to you in the dating world, POF or otherwise. Later!

Nick615

Joined: 2/10/2009

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The girl I like is 26, never had a BF and never kissed before Posted: 7/20/2009 10:40:32 PM
LMAO And she is saving her first kiss for marriage. Damn. I've heard of "saving it for marriage" but I always thought that a kiss wasn't the "it" people were referring to. I can't help but wonder, when will she think is the right time for... well, you know... Hey, if this is how you guys wanna do it umm... great! I hope you, you know, have fun. GOOD LUCK

Nick615

Joined: 2/10/2009

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Men...what do you do Posted: 7/20/2009 9:57:43 PM
Uhhhh... it aint about persistence, brains, creativity or any of the above. A lot of those other sites where you can sign up for free will send you e-mails saying that someone has viewed your profile, sent you a message....yadda yadda and then it says that you have to be a paying member to see who it is sucker people into paying for their service. Once you become a paying member you find out that nobody has sent you an e-mail or viewed your profile. To me that's fraud. DING DING DING!!! WEEE HAAAAVE A WINNEERRR!!!

Nick615

Joined: 2/10/2009

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Proper Blocking etiquette Posted: 7/20/2009 9:54:25 PM
Now he's got it! If they aren't interested the first time, stop bothering them with yet another unwanted msg. If you asked someone out once and they said no, would you ask them out again the next day? It's no different.. Oh, come on, diamond. It's much more fun bothering you for a second time!

Nick615

Joined: 2/10/2009

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Three questions that tell me a lot...very quickly... Posted: 7/20/2009 9:27:54 PM
My critical three questions... hmm.... What's your favorite color? What shoe size are you? Which is your favorite Star Wars movie? No? No good???

Nick615

Joined: 2/10/2009

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Proper Blocking etiquette Posted: 7/20/2009 9:24:29 PM
gdog, you are not alone my friend. SAME thing happened to me the other night. SAME thing. I put up a thread and some people blasted me for it lol. Some one else said that no reply is just like, "okay not interested," but blocking is like, "ew, stay away from me." That's how I first thought of it, but after hearing from other, there could be many reasons. Bottom line: she aint interested. Okay. Good-bye. You know what else? I'm all for the persistence, dude. I've had some success with persistence myself. Not a lot lol but some! I've gotten a few phone numbers that way. I think some girls like and appreciate it. Let's be ourselves and not care. Play each individual situation how you think it ought to be played. The MOST I'll try is two contacts, requests, etc. IF after that she doesn't respond, then okay. No problem. Moving on... Best of luck to you, dude.

Nick615

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OMFG I am NOT a love toy! Posted: 7/20/2009 9:16:08 PM
Hmmm.... so what's the problem here, Scratch?? Just weren't attracted to her, then? lol Hey, I can see how that'd be uncomfortable... ALL YOU WOMEN WANT IS SEX! GOD!

Nick615

Joined: 2/10/2009

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After a first date, is it okay to email rather than call? Posted: 7/20/2009 9:12:15 PM
I myself don't really have a strong preference, whether a woman called, texted or e-mailed me. If I like you and would like to hear from you again, the medium of communication doesn't really matter. Then again, most women (and men?) look at this quite differently lol. You know what? Better safe than sorry, always go with an actual phone call. As others have said, it's more personal and seems more... hmm.. like, "Oh, he/she took the time out to call me and talk. Nice." Traditionally it's just always better to go with the phone call. Matter of fact, the more I think about it, I think I like the phone call more, too lol

Nick615

Joined: 2/10/2009

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Should I give up? Posted: 7/20/2009 8:52:19 PM
I mean, you could just ask him what's up. Personally though, I feel like if no one seems to show any interest in you, just forget 'em and move on. I wouldn't discourage you from asking, though.

Nick615

Joined: 2/10/2009

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I could use some more assistance, please Posted: 7/20/2009 6:24:42 PM
I see what you ladies are saying... I'll improve my profile some based on your advice. Thanks. I appreciate your help... you go first, I might take you up on that practice message. free of charge.. how niiice you are lol. luvnlife, I do actually get out some lol. Unfortunately, money's a little tight, so I can't go out as often as I'd like. I guess most people are in the same boat. I got more pics coming, too. Hopefully that'll help. Good look, girls!

Nick615

Joined: 2/10/2009

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Just curious Posted: 7/19/2009 11:01:59 PM
I might have to agree with Silent Steel. I mean, granted we're guys reviewing your profile and not women lol, but still. I can see what he's saying.

Nick615

Joined: 2/10/2009

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NEED A PROFILE REVIEW. ANY TIPS OR ADVICE WOULD HELP Posted: 7/19/2009 10:54:27 PM
Yeah, you're getting more responses than I am, bro. Let me tell you, I've NEVER come close to meeting a girl on here. I've messaged probably over 50 girls and got 2 or 3 responses. Consider yourself lucky. Hopefully some ladies will pop in here and give your profile a review though... Be good to hear from them, too lol Good luck. Peace.

Nick615

Joined: 2/10/2009

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Ever been blocked by someone for no apparent reason??? Posted: 7/19/2009 10:50:32 PM
I recently messaged a seemingly attractive and interesting young woman on here. I kept it pretty short and to the point, just trying to strike up a conversation. Okay I included a stupid joke at the end of the message, but it was harmless... nothing vulgar lol. (What can I say? I enjoy telling corny jokes.. and I'm fully aware that they're stupid lol) Anyway, I checked my sent box, and the message didn't come up, so I'm like, "Huh?" I said, "Aright. There must've been a problem. I'll try messaging her again." That's when I found out she BLOCKED me. BLOCKED ME! Should I be offended here?? lol I mean, the girl appeared on a BUNCH of favorites lists. Does that have anything to do with it? Maybe she's been overloaded with guys hitting on her or something?? Anyone have a similar situation? Seems kind of messed up to me. I'm starting to wonder if I seem like some kind of psycho or something lol Hey, I put up for a profile review, so let's see what that turns up. Anyway, thanks for the feedback and discussion everybody.

Nick615

Joined: 2/10/2009

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I could use some more assistance, please Posted: 7/19/2009 10:43:05 PM
What's up, POF people? I think I could use some more assistance. I put up a profile review a long time ago, which was helpful... uhh to a degree lol I must have messaged something like at LEAST 50 young ladies on here, and NADA; NIENTE; N-O-T-H-I-N-G. What seems to be the issue here? I've changed my profile several times to make little adjustments. I've done MY best. I know. I need more recent and better pics. Unfortunately, I can't get a hold of anyone just to take some time to take a few snapshots for me. I'm not into the iMac, iPhoto pics.. They really don't display a person well. You know I was recently BLOCKED by a user?? A seemingly interesting young woman, and she blocks me for messaging her. I promise, I kept it short and didn't say anything outlandish or offensive lol I'm just really amazed. I'm a good guy, and women just always seem to totally overlook me (I'm not THAT short lol). Do I seem like some kind of lunatic for some reason? Do I sound too good to be true or something?? lol So what'll it be ladies (and gentlemen?? lol) Whatchu got for me??

nick615

Joined: 2/10/2009

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are you influenced by peer pressure in who you choose to date? Posted: 7/18/2009 7:42:48 PM
I can't say that I am influenced by others either, man. Screw the discriminating BS. My cousin's girl is Haitian. He's Irish and Italian. I mean, yeah it sucks if you have racist family, but a lot of the older generations are somewhat racist, even if it's not on some REAL hateful sh. I think it's how you described it though where they can get to know you as an individual and eventually like you. I do have some family that is pretty racist (one or two), and let me tell you, I don't even associate with them like that. They can kiss MY ass for all I care. Some say blood is thicker than water.. I say so is bullsh and I don't give a damn about blood. If I think you're a relatively scummy, sh**ty person, I don't mess with you. I don't really have any influential people in my life that are like that, discriminating and stuff... Maybe I'm lucky? I don't know. I know my mom's told me she doesn't care who I date as long as she's got class and treats me right. And I only live with her so no one else particularly matters! lol I wonder how it would be to be in your shoes though.... good luck

nick615

Joined: 2/10/2009

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fitting me in? Posted: 7/18/2009 7:14:21 PM
I am totally confused by this thread. HUH?? Woman, I don't know if you're making any sense! You wanna go out and meet single men away from your husband and just be friends?? ARE you trying to have an affair? I can't co-sign the other guy IF his intention was to screw a married woman, but honestly, I'd give him more credit at least for being more honest than you! Be honest now... what kind of advice or feedback were you expecting from us??? lol

nick615

Joined: 2/10/2009

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Is it possible for a drinker to date a non drinker! Posted: 7/18/2009 6:27:19 PM
I'm glad YOU got a laugh out of it, funny man lol. I'm talking about serious pressure... Like old school D.A.R.E. sh lol Some creepy dude saying sh like, "Come on. Have a drink. You're not cool if you don't drink. No one'll like you and you're gonna look like a loser." lol THATS the kind of pressure I'm talking about... What YOU'RE talking about, stephen, is just people just trying to spread the love and have fun That Jim Gaffigan bit sounds funny. Never heard/seen the guy though.

nick615

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Wich is better? Classey or sexy? Posted: 7/18/2009 6:11:08 PM
Well, the way YOU put it, DEFINITELY the latter! lol You make it sound like, "Do you want a) sexy, dirty slut or b) classy, but still sexy woman?" THAT's a no-brainer lol Why would I wanna get into a serious relationship with someone who lacks any class and is a tramp? If I can get a girl who is sexy in a classy, nice way, then she wipes the floor with the whore! I might be reading it wrong though... Do you mean would you rather have a) sexy, outgoing, hot but seemingly kinda slutty girlfriend, or b) classy and refined girlfriend who seems kinda prude?? Is it better to have sexy or classy??? I SAY, is it too much to ask for both??? Sh**, you girls seem like you want it all sometimes too lol

nick615

Joined: 2/10/2009

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Whydo guys do this? Posted: 7/18/2009 5:52:23 PM
Sh, why do people do this??? Guys seem to be especially stupid when it comes to instances of cheating... Horrible liars, they most of the time just come up with lame, stupid excuses for why they did it, and it's all (as you said) "But baby I love you. She didn't mean anything. I want us to be together." Those dudes are f'n lames... Control your** don't let IT control you. WELL MeganLizzie... there are always the faithful, good guys like me! Keep an eye out for us, and give us "nice" guys a chance lol Best of luck, though... sorry to hear about your break up.

nick615

Joined: 2/10/2009

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Is it possible for a drinker to date a non drinker! Posted: 7/18/2009 5:44:02 PM
To simply answer your question, YES. I would date a girl who abstains from alcohol. Why not? UNLESS she was tremendously opposed to the consumption of alcohol and wanted me to stop, then it would be a problem. I drink, but the thing is I'm not the type to be like "Yeah! Let's go out and get drunk!" I could understand a non-drinker not wanting to date someone like that, but if I'm not some raging alcoholic, then why should anyone else care?? So what if I have two or three drinks? You mention respect.. I'm just wondering what your take on the situation is. I'm not so sure we have the same definition of a non-drinker. I mean, do you not like being around drinking AT ALL?? If that's the case, I'm sorry, but I think the truth is that you're going to face a little more of a challenge in dating. Nothing massive, but a little more of a challenge maybe. I don't think most drinkers would try and pressure a non-drinker into doing it, and if they aren't pressuring you to drink, then what's the problem??

nick615

Joined: 2/10/2009

Msg: 17 (view)

Would you date a girl who lived non romantically with male friend? Posted: 7/18/2009 5:28:34 PM
I wouldn't worry too much about it. The only scenario in which I'd be uncomfortable is if you and the guy had hooked up before. Other than that, I couldn't see myself really caring. I think most guys would agree. If anything, I'd be more suspicious of your friend than you, but there are those guys who can be friends or something with an attractive girl and not look into it anymore than that. Hey, it's all good.

nick615

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I have to wonder...Do all guys cheat? Posted: 7/17/2009 9:27:14 PM
A lot of people cheat for a variety of reasons.... but not all. Just not true. Good luck with these guys, breezygirl. I'm sure you'll find somebody.. Sh**.. I had a girl who would've probably never cheated on me.. She was only up my ass everyday. Sometimes I found myself wishing she did lol

nick615

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How many is too many? Posted: 7/17/2009 9:20:43 PM
Eh, you know what? I agree that numbers don't matter as much as the safety and context of the situations, but that only works up to a point. If I heard of a 19 year old girl who slept with something like 40 or 50 guys, that'd be a turn off for me. It gets to a point where I'm like, "yo... what are your standards???" A number like that is a LOT lol Not cool. I mean, even 30-something people by 18 or 19 to me is a lot. I'm not saying the person is a no-good whore who's just a detriment to society, but.... After a while, wouldn't you rather have someone really special to share sex with? Someone you have real sexual, mental and emotional chemistry with?? I would think after a while it'd get to be kind of repetitive and more like a chore; maintenance. "Well, let me go get off again.. I better find the nearest penis/vagina and go to work... Gotta clean these pipes out." lol Come on people... If you REALLY wanna answer OPs question, think about it.. Even those who say that numbers aint important... Come on lol For real?? Say you had a partner who proudly stated, "Yeah, I've definitely banged over a hundred people,"... that wouldn't bother you? I'm not saying what would you do, how exactly would you feel, what would you say... I'm just asking, that would bother you a little, wouldn't it? Not that I'm trying to fight with anyone here... YOU F***IN WHORE!! lol

nick615

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What If.... Posted: 7/17/2009 8:55:47 PM
That's a really good question, but you know what? How many women you know hook up and sleep around? I'm not insinuating that most women are sluts or lushes, but apparently it doesn't stop them. Why should it stop us guys? lol I'm saying... I don't think much would change. I'd still keep the rubbers on me, ready for action

nick615

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Msg: 26 (view)

Insatiable sexual appetite! Posted: 7/17/2009 8:50:26 PM
Sounds like OP has a medical problem... as well as insecurity problems... 3 hours to bust a nut??? Damn. I'd be upset if that's what it took. Give me 5 minutes.. maybe even fo' lol Ever see Dave Chappelle talk about being a "speedf***er"??? lol Don't be mad cause we have different goals in sex. What were you trying to do?? Cum?? Well, I beat'cha.

nick615

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why the prettier the woman, the worse she is in bed or giving head? Posted: 7/17/2009 8:37:54 PM
What if you got some girl who was really beautiful and hot, but she was like that one chick in the beginning of Forgetting Sarah Mashall?? The one who just laid there with a stupid smile on her face staring at the guy saying "Hi... Hi.... Hi..." lol I don't know if I'd be pissed or lmao

nick615

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why the prettier the woman, the worse she is in bed or giving head? Posted: 7/17/2009 8:27:22 PM
My only comment is that I think this thread is hilarious lol

nick615

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do you buy that i only did that because i was drunk excuse? Posted: 7/17/2009 8:22:11 PM
Yeah, I think that's a valid reason for doing something... I don't know about an "excuse," but ehhh... I think 99% of people have done something when they were drunk that they wouldn't have done sober. If you haven't, you haven't gotten really drunk before. Intoxication impairs you're thinking and can mess with your emotions. If you can't think clearly, how can you be trusted to make a responsible decision?? Doesn't mean you shouldn't be held SOMEwhat responsible, but I don't think you should be treated the same if you did something drunk as if you were sober.

nick615

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Would you date someone who wore braces? Posted: 7/15/2009 6:33:29 PM
I don't think braces matter. Hell, I had em for two years or so, then had them off and had to get them AGAIN. I feel your pain, girl lol. Really though, how good are you gonna look when those things come off??? Exaaaactly lol

nick615

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Quick Age Question! Posted: 7/10/2009 5:34:55 PM
ARIGHT raiderfan! lol THATS what I like to hear! Sometimes I feel like I'm "not old enough" for a lot of women around my age, especially if this "go for the older guys" thing holds true. On the other hand, if I go any more than two years younger, these girls can't even go out and have a drink with me lol And they may really be more girls than women. Come on. Don't be so skeptical of us younger guys. You never know ladies... Some of us 20-somethings are pretty classy fellas

nick615

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Why Would You ASk For A Girls Number -? Posted: 7/10/2009 4:51:24 PM
Hey Betty. I think those probable possibilities are all right on. As far as if a girl asks for my number and wants to call ME, it would be a welcome change of pace. It's not throwing herself at me. I appreciate the attention and initiative.

nick615

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Men Who Defend Experience Posted: 7/8/2009 7:45:36 PM
The only thoughts I have about this is that sexual "experience" doesn't necessarily equal great sex. It's about chemistry between two individuals. That's all there is to it. I have no problem exploring some new things together or even having a girl show me some new stuff. At the same time, I really don't mind teaching her a thing or two lol I've had virgins and "experienced" women, and it really didn't make much of a difference to me. As far as sexual purity and all that goes, pressure to be sexually experienced, etc. I think, yeah, that sucks. Most young people nowadays have some ****ed up expectation to live up to, though, and it sucks for all of them, girls AND guys. My thing is this: I don't care if you're experienced or a virgin. I just hope you're not some slut with a lack of standards who sleeps with a bunch of guys and could care less about protection. My only requirement of sorts is that a girl be open-minded. I admit, I'm a very affectionate guy which of course can easily spill over into sex. If a girl wants to wait until say marriage before getting into any sex... ehhhh... I'd try I guess if she was REALLY that special and important lol but that would be difficult. I consider that being prude. Don't take it as an insult necessarily, but prude and me just don't go together well... Besides.. I think I could wear down just about any woman eventually lol

nick615

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Msg: 51 (view)

Who is worse? Men or Women? Posted: 7/8/2009 7:27:17 PM
Basically, whenever there's a problem sexually, both sexes blame the guy. We're expected to 'perform'. Women just have to show up. Whaattt??? Who is it that you've been talking to, re-animator?? lol I don't think anyone's necessarily expected to perform. If there's any problem sexually between two people, they have to talk about it. If I'm doing something "wrong," and I apparently don't see it, I would only EXPECT my girl to say something to me. Otherwise, I'll ask what other kind of stuff she likes. It takes two to tango, so the blame falls on both people most of the time. SOMEONE just take the initiative. Communication, people! It aint hard (no pun intended). A guy thinks, "Hmm... I like it when a girl is a little more vocal during sex." Talk dirty to her then! Encourage her! "I wanna hear you moan, baby!" A girl might like a little spanking when her man's hittin' it from the back. "Oh, spank me! Smack that ass!" lol Ask questions, tell the other person what to do, just communicate.

nick615

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Who is worse? Men or Women? Posted: 7/8/2009 7:06:09 PM
I really firmly believe its anyone's game here, man. DRAW.

nick615

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Blondes Brunettes or Red Heads? And why do we have preferences? Posted: 7/8/2009 7:00:57 PM
I don't think I have a type in mind... At the same time, looking back on the women in my life and those I've been attracted to, I find more being brunettes. It makes me wonder. I have dated girls with all kinds of hair color though. I've asked out many girls regardless of hair color or complexion (tan, fair-skinned, whatever). Hmmm... History shows I favor brunettes, however slightly it may be. I wonder if there's any particular psychological thing taking place with that. I think it's a valid question. We're not making more of it than it is, but many people I think TEND to be more attracted towards a particular kind of look. Like I said, I've dated redheads, brunettes and blondes, and NONE of 'em worked out so what does that show you? lol

nick615

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Msg: 22 (view)

Why Men Prefer Pretty Faces Posted: 7/8/2009 6:52:44 PM
I think your original post was kind of vague, Onatopa. What did the researchers consider attractive and unattractive? How did they quantify it in some way? What were the criteria they used? I think a lot of people will read your post and of course it sounds stupid to them, because they read it and get "Yeah, it turns out we're genetically predisposed to like pretty/handsome faces instead of fat, ugly ones." When an insular European is shown the faces of two Africans, the one he chooses as most attractive is also the same one an African chooses. And it works the other way around when an African is shown the faces of two Europeans. "Although we think that standards of facial beauty vary over time and culture, they don't actually change that much," Slater explained to Newsweek. The evidence indicates that there is a biological and universal standard." That's an interesting thing. Kind of scary I guess, since it may be unnerving to many people that beauty may be actually more objective. If you seem to have not been thought of as attractive by other people, then you may really start to think, "Wow, I'm just plain ugly. It's a proven fact." A horrible thought to have... Then again, attraction is based on physical attributes AS WELL AS personality traits. I'd rather date, even have sex with, a girl who may be generally "less attractive" if she's a lot cooler and interesting than some selfish, manipulative **** who just so happens to look like she could grace the cover of Maxim and Playboy.

nick615

Joined: 2/10/2009

Msg: 20 (view)

am i boring? Posted: 7/8/2009 6:32:20 PM
Some people are just into different stuff, or maybe they heard about some thing they haven't tried and would like to talk about it. I mean, one thing about the internet now is that you have forums to talk about things that you don't really have a chance to in public, everyday life.I'm not into some of the stuff I've seen mentioned on these forums, and some of it I might call downright crazy, but hey... different strokes for different folks. Ummm... no pun intended. What's "bizarre" to you may be normal to some people. I mean, I consider myself a relatively "normal"-sex-having person, but I don't know what you consider bizarre lol I THINK I'm into "normal" sex without being boring.

nick615

Joined: 2/10/2009

Msg: 173 (view)

discussing sex in the forums Posted: 7/8/2009 6:19:47 PM
That's messed up, MsMicki. Damn. I wouldn't think people would catch such serious feelings over discussing sex in a... wait.. wait, what is it? A SEX FORUM??? JEEEEZZZZ. "Oh my God! I had no clue what kind of language and conversation to expect in a forum about sex and dating!" lol

nick615

Joined: 2/10/2009

Msg: 47 (view)

What's the deal with thank you? Posted: 7/8/2009 5:51:42 PM
I feel compelled to chime in on this thread, too lol I consider myself a polite, considerate guy, and I think most would agree. I was taught to always say please and thank you, opening doors, saying "excuse me," all that gentlemanly conduct. I don't like when people act like that stuff is just bullshit. As a matter of fact, it really bugs me. How do YOU know what's going through my head? Maybe I am sincere, but you're making it seem like, "Oh, he's not being sincere; he's just saying that, so he's a bullshit artist/liar/brown-noser" or something to that effect. I can't believe how much some people turn simple gestures and comments into bad things about that person. To people who think please and thank you are just insincere bullshit comments that we're just told to say for no reason, here's an idea. If you so firmly believe in honesty and being direct, then maybe instead of TAKING a gift that's offered to you without saying thank you (since you don't mean it), then you should IMMEDIATELY REFUSE THE GIFT. That's all there is to it. If you aren't grateful for something, maybe you shouldn't have it. There's a unique, novel concept for you. Miss Brunette Bombshell, HOW DO YOU TURN A SIMPLE COMPLIMENT INTO AN INSULT??? lol I'm forcing my opinion on you?? I'm RUDE for complimenting you?? HUH?? Please clarify what a "stereotypical compliment" is because I'm not familiar. If you really do hear that you're beautiful all the time (I'm sure it can get old), just say thanks and keep it moving. "some of us don't walk around shoving our opinions in the faces of others whether they asked for it or not" Oh... I see. So nice, polite people are really just a bunch of lying and scheming jerkoffs in disguise. You must have an extremely active and interesting social network lol Good luck with the dating world, sweetheart. With that attitude, I think any man who is interested in you is probably insane or just has ulterior motives. You know what, people? Maybe we should learn to be more appreciative of the good and great things we experience in life, no matter who or what they come from. THAT way, we realize how much we have to be thankful for, and we can in turn say "thank you" AND MEAN IT!! WOW!! Politeness just follows when you have that humble, grateful attitude!

nick615

Joined: 2/10/2009

Msg: 20 (view)

Is there a way to express interest in a profile without sounding like a slut? Posted: 7/1/2009 7:35:21 PM
Why would you bring up the fact that you're a horny woman, but not a slut? Just don't bring the stuff up. Who DOESN'T love sex?? Yeah, guess what? I'm a 23 year old guy, and I love sex, too. I'm not going to advertise it. "Hi. I'm Nick. I'm 23 from Long Island. I love this, I do this, go to school for that... OH! and BY THE WAY, I'M A COMPLETE FREAK IN THE SACK!" How about we just not bring that up, hmm??

nick615

Joined: 2/10/2009

Msg: 9 (view)

why would he do this to me? Posted: 7/1/2009 7:24:58 PM
He sounds like an absolute, unstable mess. CUT TIES is right. PEACE, muthasucka! Don't bring this lunatic around your daughter either... UUUGH! I'm not a parent, but this guy sounds like a nutjob. Who wants that around their kid? All this in three months??? He's off his rocker. Get rid of him and fast before the relationship and situation gets worse.

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