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Kelli.K.

Joined: 2/11/2009

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if you don't get it at home because she does not want it is it ok to find it elsewhere Posted: 9/18/2009 8:50:59 PM
I am going to hate myself for continuing to respond here but.... WHY would you not be looking at your own profile? I am not going to be your go-between between you and your wife and your profile. I simply said to change ONE aspect of it. How would I know what else would be correct or somewhat on key? I don't even KNOW you! I only know you're married because of this post. I am out. Edit after and in response to Cuska's last post. LOL...my work here is done.

Kelli.K.

Joined: 2/11/2009

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if you don't get it at home because she does not want it is it ok to find it elsewhere Posted: 9/18/2009 8:41:48 PM
Doesn't matter who wrote it. It is the first impression you will be making on folks and the one thing most seem to hate the most is being lied to. Rarely are you given a second chance. Tell your wife to please change it to "married" then.

Kelli.K.

Joined: 2/11/2009

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if you don't get it at home because she does not want it is it ok to find it elsewhere Posted: 9/18/2009 8:35:54 PM
Change "single" to "married" on your profile. You may as well be honest coming out the gate, otherwise you will be thought of as a liar in all respects, including that you have your wifes permission. Edit: Always always in these situations, be willing to lose everything before you begin gambling with your life, your heart, other's lives and hearts. If you're not willing to lose it, don't gamble it.

Kelli.K.

Joined: 2/11/2009

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should I tell His wife he's cheating? Posted: 9/18/2009 5:51:40 PM
No way. It's none of your business anymore. Think about the old addage "Don't kill the messenger" because chances are that is what some or all of those involved would want to do with you. He's married to a disabled woman. Depending on the nature of her disability she may be aware of his 'affairs' and is ok with it as long as it's not flaunted in her face. You getting involved would do more harm than good I am afraid. Only if that woman were to come to you and ask you point blank should you be telling her.

Kelli.K.

Joined: 2/11/2009

Msg: 22 (view)

intercourse but not oral sex Posted: 9/18/2009 5:07:56 PM
....our culture's need to try and dictate .... Am I the only one giggling about the use of the word "dictate" in a thread about women and whether they will or won't give oral sex?

Kelli.K.

Joined: 2/11/2009

Msg: 61 (view)

Should a guy be up front about his desires to be a cuckold or wait till later to confess it? Posted: 9/18/2009 4:22:01 PM
But, I must ask, is there a reverse version of this. Like, where the husband would go out and screw numerous women and the wife would just stay home knowing full well whats going on. Yes, it's proliferate in the political arena.

Kelli.K.

Joined: 2/11/2009

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being good in bed Posted: 9/18/2009 12:07:55 AM
(And not all of us sport-fuk ~ I wasn't pointing a finger directly at you. The ones that, sport-fuk as you say, know who they are. was head over heels and the sex sucked. Simply put? We were not sexually compatible I certainly do realize that happens and it is a shame. I was really only commenting on how out of that many post, not one person mentioned that love was a part of the equation. I wrote; I read through 24 messeges and not one person mentioned that a large part of "being good in bed" You wrote; but love doesn't conquer all. I simply said "large part" not "all". I am aware that love cannot conquer all. I just would like to see more people actually mention that it can play into it, for me it plays a LARGE part into it. some of us just realize that sex is a vital part of any truly fulfilling relationship and if it's not fulfilling for whatever reason, it's just not I 100% agree. Consider me one of the 'some.'

Kelli.K.

Joined: 2/11/2009

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being good in bed Posted: 9/17/2009 10:38:00 PM
I read through 24 messeges and not one person mentioned that a large part of "being good in bed" comes from (dare I say it) being in love. Being so into someone else, being 'right' for the them and them you. Chemistry, sparks, respect, time spent really learning about someone, ultimately developing into a great sex life because of boths desire to please one another. It's really a sad state of affairs when everyone seems to be just sport f**king and then critiquing others performance. Love never seems to be a part of anyone's equation anymore. I don't feel sorry for anyone that gets a bad 'lay' from a chance encounter.

Kelli.K.

Joined: 2/11/2009

Msg: 23 (view)

You just turn your pretty head and walk away Posted: 9/17/2009 10:21:10 PM
On the rare (sigh) occasion that I have met the right man, where the chemistry between us on ALL levels is hitting on all eight cylinders, it just comes about mutually and without having to size one another up. No games, no hurt feelings. If we don't have the sort of chemistry (not to be confused with just lust) that just naturally takes us to each level as we are both comfortable, then one of us has made a mistake in their choice of partner. Maybe if so many today were a bit more choosey, picking those that you really have a strong affinity and connection with, there would be a lot less misunderstandings...and a lot less 'walking away.'

Kelli.K.

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A Question About 2 Situations - 1 Conclusion Posted: 9/17/2009 8:12:52 PM
I suspect you got shot down from a girl you don't feel was really up to your standards, causing a sever twist to occur in your boxers.

Kelli.K.

Joined: 2/11/2009

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Worried about giving the wrong impression Posted: 9/16/2009 5:11:37 PM
Don't get me wrong here, because when I see an attractive woman, I am still thinking about it, it's just that now, I want more. I want to know what she is thinking, feeling, likes, and dislikes. OK, so I guess I want inside her head, just as much as other places. But if I don't like her as a person, she could be drop dead gorgeous and I'd likely walk away (OK I had to say likely because this hasn't been scientifically proven). Refreshing. I echo your words, well, except substitute the "woman" for "man" in the above paragraph. Although, I realized this about 15 years ago. But you are a man Op, I am just glad you 'arrived'. =) I guess I wasn't molested as a child because meaningless sex is just that, meaningless. And personally, I just don't like or care to do meaningless things. I do realize posting in here doesn't rank high but still, hopefully not meaningless lol

Kelli.K.

Joined: 2/11/2009

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Why is it ok to do him if you think you`ll never see him again? Posted: 9/16/2009 4:51:07 PM
Does anyone here over the age of 16 really think making us wait for sex causes us think "wow, she`s a keeper"? How many girls have you met here that were UNDER 16? This statement can be misleading in many ways. Are you saying that no girls under 16 have sex yet or that they are too stupid to know to "hold out" and make the guy wait? Age seems to know no bounds when it comes to stupidity.

Kelli.K.

Joined: 2/11/2009

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Stingy , tight fisted men /women Posted: 9/14/2009 3:56:20 PM
^^^ At the above post lol cliches` clogging windpipe here...choke ..choke.. sputter, HACK You said it yourself, "He was HOT..." Sounds like you got what you paid for. Literally.

Kelli.K.

Joined: 2/11/2009

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Do you really read the page before opening an email? Posted: 9/12/2009 9:57:43 PM
Always. Yep. Every bit. Right down to his personal criteria. Smoker? Drinker? All important stuff.

Kelli.K.

Joined: 2/11/2009

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My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women. Posted: 9/11/2009 1:43:10 PM
Let me start by saying you are a beautiful young woman. You might be in love with this guy, I don't know. But I can guarantee you, this isn't your future husband. He told you right off that he hasn't played the field enough. He's enjoying the time he has with you but eventually he will move on. Someday you will be glad he moved on too....trust me on this. Who you are today you will NOT be in 8-10 more years. You will change and so will what you want in a man. The stronger you feel for him, the less you will believe me right now. Think about it this way...nearly every woman close to my age (mid-40's) will tell you pretty much what I just told you. What are the odds that we are ALL wrong?

Kelli.K.

Joined: 2/11/2009

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A bit of a quandry Posted: 9/11/2009 1:32:41 PM
This is why I like the new technology of internet dating. The ability to learn about these things BEFORE ever having to meet someone face to face. BUT, because they are meeting in real life, it has to be done the old-fashioned way. If she doesn't ask, I recommend you bringing it into the first nights conversation somewhere along the way. You want to know about her right? Well, what better way to inquire about her business by offering your own first. If you own who you are, where you been, blah blah blah....then I cannot imagine you cowering over in a corner afraid to tell the woman your full on situation, including the reason you're not divorced yet.

Kelli.K.

Joined: 2/11/2009

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So-Called Dating rules that should be banished! Posted: 9/11/2009 12:47:45 AM
I used to think the 3-date rule was obnoxious too, not because it seemed so long but because it seemed WAY too short of a time to make such an important decision. After experiencing life for some 44 years and now this SITE, I am amazed when people make it to date 3 before getting jiggy with it. I certainly don't follow the 3-date rule either, just not in the way one might think. But really, 'rules' in this situation are pointless. People are going to do what they want to do, regardless. Trick is to find what works for you, what you can live with.

Kelli.K.

Joined: 2/11/2009

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Tried of this excuse Some People Have No Guts Posted: 9/11/2009 12:32:25 AM
Nope. YOU are the ONLY person this has EVER happened to.

Kelli.K.

Joined: 2/11/2009

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POF Is a hook up site? Posted: 9/10/2009 11:28:30 PM
hey everyone i am mandy and i just heard from people this is pretty much a " hook up" site lol , i never knew that or else i wouldnt of signed up ....what u guys think? ....weird cuz i do get emails from guys that wanna date and get to know A. You can "un-sign up" easily enough. B. You get out of it what you put into it C. Remember the words "No thank you" is your friend. D. Depends on what their definition of "date" is. Good luck kiddo~

Kelli.K.

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Should I just F**k him or try to date him? Posted: 9/10/2009 11:19:30 PM
But now Im on a 'plan' to stop being so easy with men for fun. How do I know which thing to do? Maybe be easy with them for money? Seriously, I know what you need to do...GROW UP. Todays younger generation and their attitudes towards sex and how they disrespect themselves and others makes me completely and 100% certain that I chose correctly when deciding not to have children.

Kelli.K.

Joined: 2/11/2009

Msg: 34 (view)

do we get hit on just because ... Posted: 9/10/2009 11:09:15 PM
OH GAG...yet another person lumping the entire gender together. Would everyone that "LUMPS" please stop doing THAT! I wish I could name drop and tell of a man with the biggest WALLET I have ever seen,(we are talking multiple millions here) a local man that many in my area would know by name. I would like to tell about how we met and I thought him kind and interesting, he seemed to like me too. I had no idea that he was totally loaded. Later that evening I came to realize all he wanted was a 'fun night'. Not only did I NOT hit on him, but I kindly let him escort me to my car. Not ALL women want bulging wallets no more than ALL men cheat, or want younger women, or want big boobs on their women, or want...see where I am going with this. Stop "lumping" -for sex,women will hit on any age/type man....as long as the wallet bulges. ^^^I think this option sounds about right..

Kelli.K.

Joined: 2/11/2009

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Is this as good as it gets? Posted: 9/10/2009 9:15:23 PM
I have no idea about monogamy and others, I only know what works for me. I don't really think it's a learned behavior that you learn from others..I think you have to find your own truth. I actually used to think that I just wasn't monogamous by nature, therefore no one could possibly be. I projected how I felt onto others. And then I fell in love. Real love. The kind of love that you would absolutely do anything for that person, anything. Their happiness your only goal. I wasn't monogamous to him by choice. I just was, period. It wasn't even a question as to whether or not I would be monogamous with him. I only wanted him. The thought of anyone else's hands on me was repulsive. Not all people feel this way, even in 'real love'. We all have to find what is right for us. We cannot expect others to feel the same way if it is not in their nature. If you know you are and want monogamy for you and your partner then you better be able to discuss this with them before hand, as in before marriage or the LTR. This is why honesty is so important. Of course, you have to learn your own truth first before you can give and share it with others. I have learned what mine is and want very much the same in my mate. I won't accept less.

Kelli.K.

Joined: 2/11/2009

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Pansexuals and dating Posted: 9/10/2009 12:58:58 AM
pansexual is new to me but im polyamorous and bi. Is there a book I can get somewhere, like a small travel size book, like the kind you get when visiting another country so you can interpret tricky words, that might have all the prefixes to these new 'sexualities'? Seriously I am feeling a bit overwhelmed here. Polyamorous? Arghhhh...what ever happened to "Don't ask, don't tell" In fact, I would like to add one please...."Didn't ask, don't wanna know!"

Kelli.K.

Joined: 2/11/2009

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Pansexuals and dating Posted: 9/9/2009 6:50:59 PM
I just wondered if he understood the term because not too many people do. MG, you didn't say this earlier. You said that he said he wasn't "into" that. Heck lol, if he's anything like me and heard yet another prefix in front of the word 'sexual' and he didn't recognize it, he probably knew immediately it didn't matter what it was, that it just wasn't for him. I am just curious about something. If you are no longer recognizing gender in your circle of life and friends, when check marking that little box for the IRS or any other important document, which do you check to describe yourself? Ms. Mrs. Mr. Maybe they should add a "None of the above" for pansexuals? lol The minute I realized gender was bullshit, that was the minute I knew I was Pansexual. What happened to make you feel or decide that 'gender' is bullshit? Please enlighten me on this. Personally I like knowing that in an emergency, it's women and children first! You just might suddenly become a woman in an emergency wouldn't you? ;) ok, I am mostly having fun here..you're more than welcome to ignore me.

Kelli.K.

Joined: 2/11/2009

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Oral Whores Posted: 9/9/2009 6:02:51 PM
Yes I agree, it would be defeating the purpose of condom use in one area, and not to use some form of protection in another. Folks that think oral sex isn't sex are only deluding themselves. Depends on what your (or theirs) definition of "virgin" is. Ha. Is it ok to be a virgin and give oral? Umm, I don't want the job of trying to police that behavior. I am not going to say if it's right or wrong, someday they will have to face their own demons about such things. Apparently. You seem to have a knack for meeting them do ya?

Kelli.K.

Joined: 2/11/2009

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Pansexuals and dating Posted: 9/9/2009 5:44:53 PM
This person was happy about my message, but said the whole Pansexual thing wasn't what he was looking for. That bothers me to hear that. Why would it bother him to date someone that simply considers people to be people? But, I digress. For the first time I feel my sexuality might be an issue. AHEM...MG, you are asking us to accept you and your way of thinking, or at least your right to believe in what you feel as your truth. Then why dear heart isn't that man allowed to have a choice, to have a belief in what he wants? What he knows is right for him? I cannot speak for him, but personally, I am 100% woman and I LOVE being a woman. I relish all that is woman. To bring out the best in this woman, I need a MAN. 100%. Not gay, bi, bi-curious, ambiguous, amphibious, or amorphous. Just a simple man that knows who he is and what he wants...a woman. To each his own I say, more power to you and all that jazz. But please, don't be upset when someone ( who you stated responded VERY kindly) simply wasn't interested. Why are you questioning him on WHY it is he doesn't want to date you? Umm maybe because he knows he wants to date a person that KNOWS what they are! Isn't that nuts!

Kelli.K.

Joined: 2/11/2009

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looks or profile, what attracts you first? Posted: 9/8/2009 11:17:07 PM
I try not to let a 'not so flattering' profile pic dissuade me from contacting an otherwise intelligent, well-spoken, glimpses of humor, emotionally available man that seems to have some or most of those traits that I seek out. I learned long ago that looks are not only subjective, but that as my appreciation and attachment to another individual grows, so do their 'good looks' in my eyes. Plus, looks can change for a myriad of reasons, if that were to happen (and eventually age will do it to all of us) early on, I would still want to be happy with my partner, not lamenting over superficial lost looks, but counting my blessings that I still have their wonderful self in my life. This does not mean that I don't have a limit, of course being human, I believe we all do. Grooming, mannerisms, posture, self-esteem...all those things have to be there too. This is the honest truth now, but the man I have loved the most in this life was not someone I would have been able to pick out in crowd. He even referred to himself as plain. He will always be handsome to me.

Kelli.K.

Joined: 2/11/2009

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Impersonal feelings Posted: 9/8/2009 8:49:41 PM
Everytime I hear people in the fora tell someone "There are plenty of fish in the sea" (which is often) I think they must look at relationships in the same way as the above quote. They give advice such as "kick him/her to the curb, there's plenty of fish in the sea" like it's just a matter of feeling the same way about the very next person they meet and who is willing. I couldn't possibly agree more. Everyone seems to have this 'throw them away and grab you another one' mentality. WOW, is it that easy really? Well no, falling in love isn't that easy now is it, but just using people can be I suppose. I think most don't have the moral fortitude to actually wait, meet someone, build a decent relationship involving REAL emotions...maybe they're scared, (loving and losing is painful afterall) maybe they're just lazy ( I want it now but don't wanna wait or work for it). I think they just feel if they are NOT in a relationship then something must be wrong with them. I would rather do the work thank you very much. I care enough about myself to give myself the very best in a partner. That is me loving him, and hopefully him loving me in return. Few know that the greatest relationships with the best sex stems from one that includes true, deep, PERSONAL emotions.

Kelli.K.

Joined: 2/11/2009

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When does 'love' happen? Posted: 9/8/2009 7:45:10 PM
It truly does seem to happen when you least expect it. At least that was the truth in my case. I wasn't even aware of just how ready or open to it I was. Of course, the right person has to come along at that right time for you. And I must add, that it was certainly not based on looks. He was plain by most peoples standards I suppose, at least I thought so. That did change in fairly short time however once we felt the connection. A connection of personalities, similar senses of humor, experiences, desires, temperment; just made for a wonderful combination of mutual, chemistry based love. I think that is what people mean when they say you cannot find love by looking for it. I think what they are really saying is that you cannot make love 'happen'. It just has to happen, and, either it will 'just happen', or it won't. C`est la vie

Kelli.K.

Joined: 2/11/2009

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Interpretation please Posted: 9/6/2009 6:43:53 PM
I get the impression that for some reason that particular place with his eX holds a special memory. Who knows what they shared there but it's obviously too painful and he doesn't want to face it. I know I have a place (not in my town thank goodness) that I won't be going back to for possibly years to come. I hope to be able to return someday, as it's a fun and beautiful place, but who knows when I will be ready. I can go other places that he and I shared, but not there, not yet. One would hope after 4 years he would have healed completely by now but we are all different in that regard. Maybe that is where he put ALL his pain and that is how he can be pleasant toward her everywhere else. Hey, we all do odd things to survive bad things that happen to us.

Kelli.K.

Joined: 2/11/2009

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what to do with a 47 year old man? Posted: 9/4/2009 3:55:20 PM
It's up to you OP but remember there are going to be some things a 47 year old man cannot do................... Namely ?

Kelli.K.

Joined: 2/11/2009

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Repulsive penis ?? Posted: 9/4/2009 1:00:45 AM
Luckily no thank goodness. I cannot imagine what it must really take to have an ugly 'member'. I have heard crooked ones be made fun of but it certainly doesn't make them ugly. Gosh and repulsive ...really? That is such a strong word. Is this something that has happened to you personally? I hate to admit I am rather curious as to what could make it repulsive, although at the same time I am a bit afraid to ask for too many details.

Kelli.K.

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Sex and Dating Posted: 9/1/2009 6:43:30 PM
Doesn't anyone believe in Courting anymore??? I do I do I do!! I mentioned a while back that I wanted to just date a few guys to get used to it all again and received the oddest look. I realized after some time they just assumed I meant I was going to be sleeping around. ARGH! This way of thinking needs to change but I know it never will. Every romantic movie you go see today it shows them in bed within the first date or so. It's practically being taught to us. Ridiculous.

Kelli.K.

Joined: 2/11/2009

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I don't get it... Posted: 9/1/2009 12:46:12 AM
Either it was you losing your job or maybe something that happened (or didn't happen) in that last make-out session. I lean toward the job loss. I really hate to hear that too...whether it be a man doing this or a woman, it's just people treating people badly that I hate to hear about. Now I would never do this, but it was fun to consider. If you really wanted to find out for sure if she left you because of your job you could try this. Call her again and either leave a voice mail or text her and tell her you got a great new JOB!! Be excited and explain how you're now making almost double your old salary. Then go on to ask her how she is, small talk, call me back ok, that kinda stuff. If you hear nothing, maybe it was that last make-out session. If she text back in 2 minutes I think you have your answer. I am not recommending doing this, but, it really doesn't seem any worse than what I suspect she has done. Sorry you got burned though, try not to let it make you too bitter.

Kelli.K.

Joined: 2/11/2009

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On persistence Posted: 8/30/2009 1:46:12 AM
I really like a guy that is persistant. If we share a nice exchange in our emails, and I show a reasonable amount of interest, it needs to be an equal give and take. I won't chase after, ever. It's not a game or matter of pride or anything like that, it is just simply who I am. I am not a pursuer by nature. He has to be the one doing the 'reeling in' of this fishy. This shouldn't be confused with playing hard to get...I am not playing. If I am interested he knows it, I just won't continue to show it if he ever stops doing his part by being the main pursuer. Most men I meet seem the most comfortable and actually prefer this role.

Kelli.K.

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For those who've had successful relationship from online dating Posted: 8/29/2009 10:46:54 PM
Lasted almost a year. Started luke warmish although the mental and ability to talk to one another was excellent. I just wasn't overly attracted initially....but after he kissed me that first time, seems my senses knew something that my brain wasn't quite ready to accept. After about another week of continued chats and having a chance to process that kiss, and the annoying impossibility to forget it or shake it off, I finally accepted the fact I had to have more of it. Once I realized that, I suddenly saw him with a whole new set of eyes too... You have to trust your instincts. You can't make it happen, either it does or it doesn't, but no, it's not always right THERE in the beginning.

Kelli.K.

Joined: 2/11/2009

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Is there a bounce back from this? Posted: 8/29/2009 10:38:55 PM
I don't understand why YOU felt the need to apologize for doing what came naturally, you simply saw a 'need' and filled it! Correction, she indeed saw the 'need' but it was he that 'filled' it! ....looks like you sure picked a winner in your friend! Yep, she can sure 'pick em' can't she!

Kelli.K.

Joined: 2/11/2009

Msg: 36 (view)

have a sex problem Posted: 8/29/2009 12:04:34 AM
Be a man and give her the ultimatum, don't listen to what any fat lady says - what does she know? Wow, with post like that your email box should be just chock full of the hot babes wanting to get with you I bet. To the OP. The very reason I am divorcing is because of the lack of communication in that area of my life with him. When we first married it didn't seem that important but we were young. You already see that this is a problem so something must be done. You sound as if you really care a lot about this person so you need to keep talking to her. Get her to agree to go with you to a therapist. If she is completely unwilling to address this issue then you will either have to accept it and her the way it is, never expecting it to change, or sadly, move on.

Kelli.K.

Joined: 2/11/2009

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Should foreplay be equal or mostly about her? Posted: 8/28/2009 11:00:33 PM
Neither. This shouldn't be an issue. It should never have to be a question. IF the sex is coming from two people who are so mutually hot for one another, the chemistry is electric, passion is intense, and the love strong and deep, neither of you ever for one second think about who's giving more than whom. It's all consuming for the both of you, both wanting to please the other with everything they have, sensing one another's needs, giving before being asked, giving because you want to, have to, need to, not because in the back of your mind there is some sort of mental score card. When you are doing something with someone you love, whether it is giving or recieving, you find equal enjoyment in all of it. Their pleasure is yours. And that is why casual sex is useless to me. Everyone wanting to keep score and worry about what is in it for them. How about just set an hour glass minute hand by the bed and flip it over and over, taking turns, so no one gets cheated.

Kelli.K.

Joined: 2/11/2009

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How Important is it that you have chemistry with someone? Posted: 8/28/2009 12:57:07 AM
For me, it is absolutely 100%, irrevocably, irrefutably everything . If it isn't there, neither will I be.

Kelli.K.

Joined: 2/11/2009

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whats wrong with her or is it me....? Posted: 8/27/2009 11:59:46 PM
The fact that you two spoke for a few weeks and got along really well, met and it seemed to be going even better, my guess is she was trying (maybe to hard) to be a romantic and make a gesture of sorts. I mean you see that stuff in movies, where usually "the man" meets the woman, and on their very first date, or within minutes of meeting her, predicts she will be the next Mrs. so and so, and everyone goes "Awwwwwww" and think it's so sweet. I doubt she was a complete 'nutjob' at all but just read you totally wrong in this case. I am sure she learned a HUGE lesson from her mistake. I could see myself saying something like that to a man...maybe...I dunno. I have never met anyone I wanted to marry before tho so I dunno. I might say it seriously to begin with but then start laughing to give us an 'out' if needed. Everyone is just so quick to scream "Psycho" but maybe it was just a misguided attempt to be romantic and endearing that ended up failing miserably. Maybe you could have tried laughing it off some first? Ultimately it's a case of got to trust your own instincts about that one as I am sure you did.

Kelli.K.

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Probably a man? Posted: 8/27/2009 11:27:59 PM
Right, you cannot 'out' them by naming them here. You can tell any of your friends that might also be on this sight however. No matter what or who this person is, that is rather a moot point now, I mean no matter what possible reason or explanation there could be, it wouldn't be good enough to explain away this behavior. Block them, delete them, move on. Wish you were 10 years older. ;)

Kelli.K.

Joined: 2/11/2009

Msg: 5 (view)

Is there a bounce back from this? Posted: 8/27/2009 8:25:27 PM
but most of my friends don't understand the idea of just letting something slide. In this context, this line is hilarious. I mean, you certainly didn't want anything to 'slide' either did ya. ;) Sorry, I feel your pain I do. I do stupid stuff like that a lot. I mean, you were well intentioned and all but then, things just went "downhill" from there. Ok stop it now. Bad me. It does kinda sound like he's humilated a bit. Also sounds like you two have some history so hopefully he will 'bounce' back from the embarrassment. someone shoot me now I know for me, a sense of humor is uno importante in a man, so hopefully this guy will recover. Sorry but this is just too funny. I hope you get him back if that's what you want.

Kelli.K.

Joined: 2/11/2009

Msg: 13 (view)

Men, Women, Sex and emotions Posted: 8/26/2009 6:52:27 PM
The only man I ever loved; it also happened to be the most fulfilling sexual experience I had ever had. So did I love him and therefor it made the sex that good or did I fall so in love with him BECAUSE the sex was so good. Ahh the eternal question.

Kelli.K.

Joined: 2/11/2009

Msg: 21 (view)

She sounds very keep... but flakes TWICE! haha Posted: 8/23/2009 2:37:38 PM
I am not normally negative and quick to think the worst about folks but I suspect this 'female' was feeling way out of her league here. She totally disappeared now because she knows that you're not going to continue to put up with her excuses. She just enjoyed the fantasy of you for a few weeks. You're very cute, this will probably happen again. So keep laughing it off and maybe don't make such elaborate plans in the future. =)

Kelli.K.

Joined: 2/11/2009

Msg: 7 (view)

Where exactly IS Sex and Dating? Posted: 8/23/2009 12:48:01 PM
Happened to me too...lasted for about a day. I tried it signed in and signed out, still no thread. I vote was just a glitchy going around, doubt some sort of random "no-no you can't get in there today" conspiracy. Hasn't happened since tho.....so far

Kelli.K.

Joined: 2/11/2009

Msg: 214 (view)

Sexless marriages/relationships.....go figure? Posted: 8/22/2009 11:05:55 PM
womany, you do realize animals orgasm right? I just had to wonder there a bit. I once heard a man (someone from this site, I forget or don't know the name) describe love making broken down into its most simpliest terms. He said to think of the words 'making love' for what they really mean. Why do we say or call it 'making love'? Because that is indeed what two people are doing when they make love with one another. They are "MAKING" love happen. When two physically able-bodied people cohabitate, claiming to love one another, and one person chooses to completely ignore the other persons physical and emotional needs ,(and yes, I believe those two intermingle) refuses to discuss it or seek help is absolutely and 100% grounds for divorce. Doesn't that fall under the category of alienation of affection? And on another note, to the person who has no respect for those that stay in marriages for the sake of their children. I applaud anyone that chose their childrens happiness over their own. If they can stay in a not so perfect marriage until their children are of age, more power to them, provided of course the marriage isn't detramental to the children. This coming from an unbiased party as I have no children so don't go thinking that is my reason. Gheesh, who would I be to judge their decision about something so personal.

Kelli.K.

Joined: 2/11/2009

Msg: 6 (view)

What Do You Do If? Posted: 8/20/2009 1:01:15 AM
"Better to be thought a fool than to open one's mouth and remove all doubt" Just kidding. I wouldn't dare insinuate that she is a dullard or anything. But, honestly, I just cannot stand someone that cannot carry on a mutual back and forth. Shy or not , there has to be some give and take going on. Especially if you two just met. So many knew things to learn about one another. "Comfortable silences" should come much later.

Kelli.K.

Joined: 2/11/2009

Msg: 31 (view)

Dating in the Dark, men vs. women after they've seen each other Posted: 8/19/2009 12:38:18 AM
yea, but we should be the picky ones....ya know in the us the female population is 58% and in 2007 it rose to 59%!! omg were the minority and there the ones too choose, this is utterly fuc ked up!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Hard to believe that that is true when in POF it seems they're 1000 men for every 1 female. lol To hear them tell it anyway. Look at nature kiddo..the male struts for the female and she feigns disinterest, until finally one catches her eye. No one is stopping you from being picky either. It's a choice, not a statistic. ;)

Kelli.K.

Joined: 2/11/2009

Msg: 28 (view)

Dating in the Dark, men vs. women after they've seen each other Posted: 8/19/2009 12:16:44 AM
If the 'big girl' walked away...is it possible that she knew that she wasn't that man's normal type? I would do exactly the same thing if I knew that. I would want a man that was totally into me. If I am fat, I want him to be a fatty lover. I am a dark brunette with dark brown eyes. I seek men that are particularly partial to that look. I need to know that my potential partner finds me hot, if not, I would always have a complex about it and never able to fully be myself. We all want to be accepted for just the way we are.

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