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hunter_642

Joined: 12/30/2005

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Do ANY Men Read Profiles (First or at all?) Posted: 11/22/2009 8:22:00 AM
I never message a woman without first reading her profile; if I'm going to message someone, I'd like to have something to talk about with them. Could be common interests or hobbies, could be a witty one-liner they had in their profile, could be the way it was written and so on... A picture is nice, but often times you can't tell all that much about someone with just a picture. The profile says a lot; for instance, I dislike very short profiles that say something along the lines of, "I don't have time to write something here." If you honestly don't have ten minutes to sit down and write one paragraph, then I'm not interested; you're just too busy for me. laughs When I recieve messages that say, "Hi, what's up" or, "Wanna chat" I do my best to strike up a conversation. That can be pretty tough though, sometimes. I find it rare that I recieve a message that really makes me want to reply to the person.

hunter_642

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how does one get over the anxiety of feeling inadequate? Posted: 6/28/2009 11:34:59 PM
Honestly, there are a LOT of things you can do to deal with what you're feeling. You can take meds, keep physically active, read self-help books, use a daily motivational phrase...the list goes on and on. Many of these work for various people, but none of them work for everyone. You have to find a solution that you're comfortable with and start there. Take the suggestions that people are giving here and shotgun them; try a few here and there, see what happens. Personally, I've dealt with the same feelings. I took a weekend to myself and tried to figure out the root of what I was experiencing. I turned off my cell, didn't touch the computer, NOTHING. I examined what I felt my shortcomings were and how I could get past them; it encompassed mental, physical and emotional things, goals, ambitions, my current job, my relationships with the people around me, etc. The things I was not happy with in my own life, I began to work on. In that way, I took steps to becoming the person that I wanted to be, which has made all the difference. I'm far from finished but I'm much happier with my own life than I was before. If those feelings are coming from the people around you rather than from yourself, then your relationships with these people may have to change. Above and beyond all though, your life is YOUR life. YOU walk in your shoes, no one else does.

hunter_642

Joined: 12/30/2005

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what's everyone DRINKING tonight? Posted: 5/23/2009 11:19:11 PM
Dirt was NEVER nice when I was a kid. Never. I've eaten many a silly, silly thing and they're NEVER good. laughs Jasmine and green tea is a nice mix. I must do some grocery shopping tomorrow actually... adds to the ever growing list of things to pick up THIS is what happens when you grocery shop once a month.

hunter_642

Joined: 12/30/2005

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what's everyone DRINKING tonight? Posted: 5/20/2009 4:40:24 PM
Green tea is excellent if you put a little lime in there. Just a few drops (or squeezes, whatever...) and you're good to go. Lemon also works, but leaves an aftertaste that reminds me of eating dirt as a child. shudder

hunter_642

Joined: 12/30/2005

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You Know your Having a nasty lazy spell when.......... Posted: 5/12/2009 12:43:05 AM
gets off AS$ for a bit Well, whats all this now? Australia? confused Really, I've been too lazy to make coffee tonight, so I've been substituting rye instead. Probably a bad idea.

hunter_642

Joined: 12/30/2005

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Saskatoon social get togethers Posted: 5/4/2009 8:27:04 PM
I remember going to a few of these meetings and they were great fun. If any more happen in the future, I'm there! keeps eyes open

hunter_642

Joined: 12/30/2005

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Gamerz? Posted: 5/1/2009 12:28:31 AM
I'll do a bit of Halo 3 or Gears 2 on Live, but usually with a few friends. Recently started playing through The Darkness and so far, so...good? laughs Still sort of undecided. If I get bored and have nothing better to do, I'll toss in Chrono Trigger, Secret of Mana or Final Fantasy 3 and play for a bit, but that doesn't happen very often. I played Ultima Online for quite a while and eventually moved on and started playing World of Warcraft. I don't play much though, but when I do, I find I enjoy the game quite a bit. Alliance ftw.

hunter_642

Joined: 12/30/2005

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Best song one liners/lyrics you love Posted: 4/23/2009 7:12:24 PM
A doctor sitting next to me, He asks me how I feel, Not sure I understand his questioning. He says I've been away a while, He thinks he has cured me, From a state of catonic sleep. For 30 years where have I been? Dream Theater's "Octovatium" What an insane song. 24 minutes long, numerous parts, all about different ideas, all ending where the album began.

hunter_642

Joined: 12/30/2005

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You Know your Having a nasty lazy spell when.......... Posted: 4/20/2009 3:44:08 PM
I'm trying really hard to thing of something witty to say to either of the comments above, but I just...can't. Which ironically is what this is all about, which makes this EVEN BETTER. As of today, I have a mini-fridge by the computer. This is either a great idea, or will lead to increased levels of lazy. Either way, its gold.

hunter_642

Joined: 12/30/2005

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Good Places to eat, and good places to take a date Posted: 4/20/2009 12:17:22 AM
Wow, passed over this thread so many times; bad idea, that. A few in Saskatoon: Earl's: Well priced, but the lounges can be a bit noisey sometimes. They have one of the best patios in Saskatoon though; seats about 25 or so, with ivy overhanging the entire deck. Wicked, but you get leaves in your food sometimes... O'sheas: I think thats how you spell it. A nice little downtown pub, with an excellent rooftop patio if you just want to sit and enjoy the fresh air. Well very priced and the food is excellent. The Upstairs: Best place to go for chocolate fondu. Fondou? Fondoo? Whatever. It can be found above Mother's Music on the corner of 8th and Broadway. Great food, very well priced, very laid back and quiet. Their menu is entirely vegan, if I remember rightly. 2nd Avenue Grill: Someone told me the same people who own Earl's own The Grill, but I don't know if thats true. The Grill is an excellent place, with a good menu, large wine selection and for what you get, the price is very fair. Take that however you want. Moxies: Home of the $5 brownie of doom. Their food is amazing, but the deserts totally make the place. Only take a date here if you have a few extra dollars to spend and are NOT watching your weight...seriously. Prarie Ink: The little cafe located inside McNallie Robinson. They have a really good menu, but as far as lunches go, this place can't be beaten. Also very easy on the wallet. John's Prime Rib: If you want to impress a date/lighten your wallet/declare bankrupcy, hit John's up. A bit pricey, but the food is amazing. I'd say go for it if you don't mind paying a bit extra. Also, I've never, ever had slow service here, not even at peak hours. Yard And Flagon: I have friends who will swear by this place, for good reason. Their two tier rooftop deck is great in the summer and their food is very well done. Also reasonably priced and the service is excellent. Right now, that is all I can come up with. Also, its 1:16 in the morning and I'm tired. =) Hope this helped a bit.

hunter_642

Joined: 12/30/2005

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what's everyone DRINKING tonight? Posted: 4/19/2009 11:49:40 PM
I love reviving really old threads. =) I live around the corner from Earl's in Saskatoon, so the drinks are usually both varied and crazy. I've recently discovered "Godfathers" and they've become my number one. So tonight...four of them. I'm feeling all right. Heh heh.

hunter_642

Joined: 12/30/2005

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You Know your Having a nasty lazy spell when.......... Posted: 4/19/2009 11:41:40 PM
b jhvfhu;supjykljfsdiop[y[lu!@#$%gryghzzx = too lazy to form actual words.... someone out there unnerstands me, awright? I understand that. Sometimes "bed" becomes "bned" and "food" becomes "fooafkdjd". At that point, I go to bed and don't wake up for a long, LONG time. I'm not even sure how that second one happened.

hunter_642

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Hurtful things said by exes, how do you get past it... Posted: 4/21/2008 1:26:12 AM
A lot of people have had that same sort of experience. Having it out at the end of a relationship is like working retail. You can have a morning where ten really nice customers come in and you feel great. Then, right about noon, in comes that one asshat customer that lives to ruin your day. Maybe he tells you you're bad at your job and you should be replaced with a monkey. Maybe he just yells at you a lot. shrugs Either way, you spend the rest of your day just wanting to go home. Then when you DO get home, you worry about the customers that will come in tomorrow. The, "All the things I once liked about you are the things I now hate" comment is that one jerkstove of a customer. It you hold onto that comment and keep it in your memory, it will keep eating at you, like it or not. Keep in mind though, that the relationship was not a good one; you said that yourself in the original post. With that in mind, if the relationship was so bad, then you should not put so much weight into comments like that. They're meaningless. Like a few others have said, you should work at getting your confidence back up and have fun doing so. Join a club, take up a new hobby, start building scale models of boats out of cans of soup, anything. Just get out a bit, meet some people and make some new friends; maybe reconnect with people you might have lost as well. Just re-discover your life and the ability you have to change your life as well. When you start doing that, you'll feel like ten times better, seriously.

hunter_642

Joined: 12/30/2005

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What's with the 'miss me' thing on msn? Posted: 4/21/2008 12:50:29 AM
1. Why do people ask this? 2. Do women do this too? 3. What exactly am I supposed to say to something like that? 1. Its just a way of being flirty. Every time a woman does this though, I always get this mental image of a really "valley-girlish" woman chewing gum, playing with her hair and giggling like a little school girl. laughs I have NO idea why. 2. Definatly. 3. I usually reply with something like, "Totally. In the same way that I miss pouring Pixie Stix into a big glass of Pepsi and trying to drink it all before going totally cross-eyed. sigh Last week was SO much fun..." That usually throws em' for a loop. I guess it depends on the person you're talking to though. I had a day when I was in a really bad mood and someone I'd JUST started talking to (that same day) asked me that. I was like, "This is the first time I've talked to you and so far, its been a ten minute convo. So no, not really." I was a jerk that day though and appologized later on. I usually just answer with something silly and a little flirty, if I can come up with something on the fly that is. Not usually a problem, just takes a little practice and some natural horse-play ability, or something.

hunter_642

Joined: 12/30/2005

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Coyote Posted: 4/8/2008 12:15:37 AM
Its about 1:15 am right now; I got home about 45 minutes ago. I live in a little town which is about ten minutes out of a bigger city and at night, the town is really quiet. I pulled up to the house and when I got out of the car, I could hear this REALLY loud noise, like hundreds of coyotes all howling at once. Just about every house had someone standing outside of it, listening to the noise; apparently, it had been going on for about five minutes before I arrived home. It stopped about twenty minutes after I came inside...no one wanted to go check it out though. laughs Really, really creepy for a while there.

hunter_642

Joined: 12/30/2005

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XBox 360 Gamers unite! Posted: 4/8/2008 12:11:02 AM
I was a big Halo 2 fan, so Halo 3 was the first game I picked up after getting a 360. I loved it, but now...I don't know. I'll have some friends over and we'll sit down and play every now and then, but it sort of lost a bit of its charm. CoD4 is totally amazing though; totally love it. I think it might be the first game where for me, sniping actually went WELL. laughs I have to make a case for Oblivion though. Its been around a while, but I love starting up a character and building them from the ground up, but only based around a few select skills, instead of power gaming EVERYTHING up to the max. I've had tons of fun just wandering around discovering things in that game.

hunter_642

Joined: 12/30/2005

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Clothes do make the man Posted: 4/3/2008 2:13:39 PM
What is peoples problem with dressing nice? What are they rebelling against? It isn't about 'rebelling' so much as comfort. I don't find a suit and tie to be comfortable...at all. I've had to wear them many, many times (special events, jobs and so forth) and I've never been comfortable in them. I dress in a way that is comfortable to me personally and that means no suit and tie unless it is called for. If you can pull off a suit and tie while being comfortable, more power to ya! laughs Thats wicked, but its something I find myself having far too much trouble doing. When I head out on a date, I throw on some clean clothes, shave (if applicable) and all that. I've never once gotten really dressed up for a date and I really don't like the idea that much. I'd rather a woman see me as I normally appear, not all dressed up.

hunter_642

Joined: 12/30/2005

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Has common sense been replaced by paranoia in online dating? Posted: 3/20/2008 2:05:30 PM
I say if a person is that paranoid about dating, maybe they shouldn't attempt to date, being cautious is good, safety is paramount , delusional behavior isn't. Men and women seem to often times, have different ideas about what "safety" is. To me, a background check is going overboard. I believe a woman should get to know me and make her judgement calls from there. Of course, I could be lying about who I am... Why not, right? Then again, that same woman could step out of her front door, take ten steps and get hit by a very large truck. There is danger in nearly everything we do. When people do background checks, they're trying to save themselves from being hurt in the future. They're trying to weed out some of the 'undesirables' before ever meeting them. There is nothing wrong with that. The problems begin when it is done without the subject of the check being consulted first. That is a straight up invasion of privacy at that point. The idea of, "Well, records are made public, so its okay to go have a look at them" usually comes up at some point as well. You know those little cameras on the back of cars, that show you whats behind you? Where I live, those are quite illegal, yet some cars are sold with them build right in. Just because something is there, that does NOT mean you have to use it. If you DO use it, use caution. When the local news comes on, you never hear about the guy who stopped to help some woman whose car had broken down on the side of the road. You hear about the guy who drugged and raped his date in some back alley and left her there. 99% of us have more in common with the first guy than the second; yet often times, we're put into that little 1% until proven otherwise and THAT is what gets a lot of guys all riled up. The many should NEVER be judged by the few.

hunter_642

Joined: 12/30/2005

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court checks on a person Posted: 3/8/2008 2:18:49 PM
If a woman is going to do a background check on a guy (or vice versa), she should first understand the way the guy will react, should he find out. This whole thing about, "a woman has to protect herself" is all well and good, but what about protecting yourself from the consequences of those actions? I imagine there are people out there who (if they found out) would react violently. If I were seeing a woman and she did a background check on me without my permission, I would break it off right away. To me, that shows distrust and the disrespect of her digging through my life without me knowing about it. If that gets done, how do I know she won't go through my e-mail, my text messages, check my phone bills, spy on me, etc... Should I be readying myself to ptotect against a potential head case or stalker, by any chance? You never know, right? Gotta protect myself. On the other hand, if a woman came right out and asked me about having a check done on me (or even said she was going to, even), that would be a different story. Then, I know full well that she's going to go digging to see if she can find anything. Difference is, with this example, I know its happening; it isn't behind my back. I suppose the big thing though, is that I'm very straight with my life. I don't hide things from people and I'm very open. I can only really speak for myself, but the point should be made; it might not be the act of doing a background check that could be seen as disrespectful. There are lots of variables in stuff like this.

hunter_642

Joined: 12/30/2005

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Is this thing on??? Posted: 3/5/2008 11:18:58 PM
It`s taken me so long to realize that the number one reason a man interacts with a woman is in the hope of sex with her. That`s it. So now that I realize that if a man is nice or kind or interested in me , it`s because he wants sex. Wow. I don't find myself saying this often, but I'm a bit confused by this. You know, I've been out with a lot of women and I'd say 80% of them were just looking for a free meal and nothing more. Doesn't look too promising, huh? Should I (based on MY experiences) come to the conclusion that ALL women are only out to use men for their money? To get free stuff from them? Of course not. Why? Because I know better; because I know not all people are the same. If you're going to pain us all with the same brush due to YOUR own experiences, at least make sure you get the colours right.

hunter_642

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Are we expecting too much? Posted: 2/13/2008 12:06:07 AM
On the other hand, many people aren't quite as 'definite' about their criteria as their profiles suggest. Often, many of the things listed as "must..." are not really necessary at all but rather 'preferred'. Unfortunately there is no way to indicate this without re-writing the whole thing in the first place but in a different section of the profile. I've been finding this out as well... Often times (no, not "all" for the easily offended people out there) those requirements are a guideline; a guideline that can be bent a little here and there. I have a hard time seeing a "Must have this, must be this, must act this way" profile working. It just sounds so bossy to me. shrugs I can only speak for myself, however. I try and never expect certain things out of people. What happens if you begin to expect certain things and those things don't happen to show up? Its really our own faults.

hunter_642

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What is your mentality towards a relationship? Posted: 2/4/2008 1:35:42 PM
I've taken on a lot of things lately that I've always wanted to do and it doesn't leave much extra time. Right now, a relationship is probably not in the cards for me, as I've got a full plate and sometimes simply making time for someone isn't possible; hence the 'status' on my profile. I DO need to eat and sleep sometimes. laughs That is the main reason and it is due to the fact that I want to be happier with my own life before allowing someone else to come in and muck it all up. smiles However, this phase of my life won't last forever... I won't change my appearance to attract people, dumb down my opinions (or the way I express them and no, I don't express them too negatively) or drop my friends for a potential date. Or move. I won't move either. I guess you could say that I want to stay true to myself and to what I value most in my own life. If getting a date involves breaking or changing those sorts of things, then I'll pass. Far as attitude goes, I approach relationships with a resounding, "Whatever." Yes, with a capital W. If I meet someone, fall in love and end up getting married, then fine. If I meet someone, go on a few dates and have a six month relationship, fine. If I meet someone, have no attraction to them at all and never see them again, fine. As long as it ends well and no one gets hurt. When entering a relationship, if we start having expectations...what happens if it doesn't go the way we want it to? I try to avoid that as best I can. shrugs

hunter_642

Joined: 12/30/2005

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clashing tastes in music Posted: 1/15/2008 2:49:22 PM
well, you might consider it trivial .. i consider it torture!! i abhor 99% of country music and cannot figure out how i would ever, ever, ever live with someone who had to listen to it around me. and, yes, i am serious. Agreed. Of all the styles of music out there, country and rap drive me straight up the wall. If I'm dating someone who is into either (or both), then I put up with it with a smile. Hey...its what they like. Nothin' wrong with that. If I had to listen to it 24/7 though... cringe

hunter_642

Joined: 12/30/2005

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Income/Car Status Posted: 1/14/2008 11:00:58 PM
I read an article once that if there isn't a ring on her finger, your income is none of their business. I tend to agree with that. If I can afford top pay for dates, that's all the financial concern there should be. I am not stingy, but I am careful with money. The best things in life don't cost anything anyway. Totally agreed. I can pay my own bills and take care of what needs to be taken care of, with a little left over for fun. Aside from that, what else matters? I've had a few experiences with women looking for a "free ride" so to speak and it doesn't impress me one bit, obviously. I find it amazing how much of a role money can play in dating these days. Sometimes strikes me as sad, too. If a woman wants a guy who is financially responsible, then fine. Responsibility and stability go hand in hand. However, a nice car and a big paycheque don't make a person responsible. There are more important things in this life than money and all the, "Yeah...BUT" comments in the world can't change that. Until we learn to look past things like that (unless they honestly cannot be looked past...we ARE all different) we continue to miss out on what life has to offer. That being said, I totally filled out the income and car section. I like filling out little boxes. I think I might be addicted or something. laughs

hunter_642

Joined: 12/30/2005

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Domestic Abuse! Any men had to deal with the social stigma of it? Posted: 1/12/2008 10:51:27 AM
Sorry I have an Issue with It - women arnt strong - unless you married some Huge Built man thing and your some scrawny little wimp - she can hardly drag u by the hair around the house kicking Into you In her steel capped boots can she. I take issue with this... I've been taking kickboxing lessons for the past few years and one of the regulars is this little 5'4, 95 pound brunette. She's so tiny, but gives even the biggest guys in the class regular thrashings. She isn't physically strong, but she knows how and where to hit. Even if you don't, it isn't hard to injure a person; generally, people (even the really built ones) are fairly frail. Breaking someone's nose for example takes very little physical force. Walking away isn't always a viable option either. If someone half your size comes at you with a knife, walking away could become quite complicated. Size and physical strength don't mean as much as many people think.

hunter_642

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Have I doom my self with my Video Games? Posted: 1/11/2008 1:20:22 PM
^ I'm waiting for some more "niche appeal" games for my Wii. Hopefully the 3rd party devs 'll get the lead out on some of the "standard fare". I love a good party game--- but sometimes the party isn't around. Mario and Zelda are good--- but Red Steel could have been so much better than it was. (Though REIV Wii was great....) I'm actually waiting for a few more FPS games to come out...and Smash Brothers Brawl, of course. Best party games EVER! And yeah, Red Steel really could have been a lot better, totally agreed. I try and remember that it was one of the earlier games for the Wii though, so I can see why it wasn't what it could have been. The whole, "but sometimes the party isn't around" line is quite right. The Wii is definatly a multiplayer thing, but yeah, games with no single player appeal are much needed I think. I'll have to check out REIV...haven't gotten around to that yet.

hunter_642

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Have I doom my self with my Video Games? Posted: 1/11/2008 9:20:50 AM
There have been a lot of games and systems released that have pushed gaming further and further into the "mainstream" for lack of a better word. Final Fantasy 7 helped to make RPGs very accessable and the Halo series did the same for FPS games. The XBox 360 and the expanded XBox Live thing has further helped to connect people from all over the world; I love being able to actually talk to my team in Halo 3 whilst tossing frag grenades and accidently blowing myself up. Most recently, the Wii helped get even more attention by developing a gaming system that is more or less perfect for small parties and get togethers, with a learning curve that isn't too bad. Just about anyone can play a Wii with a few minutes of practice and the games have less of a niche appeal like first person shooters or rpgs might have. So no, I don't think you've doomed yourself by being a gamer. I'd say probably 75% of my female friends are gamers and a few of them are really hardcore gamers. There are professional gaming teams all over the world and huge contests held each year for pretty massive prizes. Even a few years ago, the response to your question might have been different, but game developers have done a lot to help break down the doors that seperated hardcore and even some casual gamers from everyone else.

hunter_642

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A message for those with broken hearts..... Posted: 1/11/2008 8:47:25 AM
I think this is what Eleanor meant - it stops when you want it to stop, when you decide enough is enough. Of course, we are all human and we all have different emotions, so nobody other than you can answer when it actually ends, but I wish you well and I hope it ends for you sooner than later. I really like this explanation. All of us are going to be hurt at some point and it isn't always possible to "disallow" it from happening. People will hurt us, consent or no consent; we can't control other people's actions, but we CAN control how we react to those actions... I like it.

hunter_642

Joined: 12/30/2005

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Question for the photography fanatics out there.. Are there ways to identify a fake pic?? Posted: 1/2/2008 11:13:37 PM
It depends on the level of "fake" in the picture. If someone has just done some touching up (removing blemishes, smoothing skin, so forth...) then it can be pretty difficult. The best way to check that is (as someone has already said) to check the density of the pixles on the person's face as opposed to the density of the pixles in the background. Was density the right word? Hope so... If someone has actually cut and pasted stuff from picture to picture, then look at the lighting first. If something has been brough into a picture, then there might be a small chance that that object (or person, whatever) is brighter or darker than they should be, if the color wasn't adjusted properly that is... After that, look at the area directly around the person. Sometimes when someone cuts out a picture, they don't do a very good job and it can lead to discoloration and blurring of the edges of whatever was cut out. Its amazing how often that can happen too, even in "professionally" done things.

hunter_642

Joined: 12/30/2005

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Researching a topic Posted: 1/2/2008 11:01:30 PM
(A) Do you feel as if you have to lower your standards or expectations in order to get a date or make contact? Not in the slightest. When I first started the whole dating thing (back in the high school days, I suppose) yes, I felt like that. Those feelings didn't last long though. I was sort of the "strange kid" though, so its to be expected. shrugs (B) Have you ever made contact and then backed out at the last minute because you were too afraid to carry out the first meeting? Nope, can't say I ever have. I've thought about it... laughs ...but no, never actually done it. (C) Have you had an experience you feel caused you to become a shy person? Was that experience recent or far in the past? If there WAS an experienced that caused me to be shy, I honestly can't remember what it was. My shyness has been vanishing over the years and I know things can make it better or worse, but as for what caused it...no idea. (D) Do you suffer from any other phobias or anxiety? Claustrophobia, but so far that seems to be it for phobias. The two things that set it off are tight spaces (obviously) and losing my ability to breathe through my nose; like when you get sick and your nose gets plugged. If I focus on that feeling of not being able to breathe through it, I have the same sort of discomfort that claustrophobia causes. No idea why though, but I'd like to find out. (E) What do you do to try and break out of the shy mode? I developed little ways of being more social and still put them into practice to this day. Like a game plan, only with less sports and more strange social situations. Also, this question gets answered in detail in the last question... (F) Do you feel meeting people on an internet dating site is easier or harder than meeting in person at something like a club, bar or singles mixer? I think that personally, it is easier for me to meet people face to face. It is a pretty simple reason though; I'm not good at fitting an accurate description of myself into little boxes, or coming up with my hobbies when I actually NEED to list them. In person, someone else can learn about me through other things, like posture or the way I gesture when I talk. (G) Have you ever had professional help in dealing with shyness? What did it acomplish? Nope, never had professional help. [quoute] (H) Last but not least. If you have solved the problem, how did you do it? I was shy and lacked self-confidence in a BIG way. I started doing the things I WANTED to do with my life and I never looked back. A big thing was music; I used my own original music as a tool to help people both relate to and understand who I was. In putting myself out there for people to see, I lost a LOT of the self-doubt that had a really tight grip on me. When the self-doubt was gone and my confidence had gone up a bit, I became more at ease in social situations which helped me deal with the shyness. Hope that helps with the research... =)

hunter_642

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Sigur Ros - Especially their song Hoppipolla Posted: 12/26/2007 11:16:17 PM
I was about to post something about Sigur Ros and decided to make a little search first... I'm listening to them right now; picked up Takk a little while back and wow, simply amazing! And yes, "Hopping In Puddles" was correct. A saw a comment along the lines of, "If everyone listened to Sigur Ros, there would be no war." Totally agreed!

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What do guys think ? Posted: 12/22/2007 11:15:25 PM
I figure that the way we define "good" and "bad" people changes from person to person, with a few exceptions. There are things we all view as "bad" or "wrong" but in the end, different qualities appeal to different people. I've met some very nice women that I had no intention of dating; I've also dated some women that I probably shouldn't have. shrugs Most importantly, I KNOW there are women out there who, should I meet them, would place me into their "bad" catagory. There are probably just as many that would place me in the "good" catagory as well. I don't think we need to blame anything for the way people are today. Blame is for people who need someone to be angry at and 99% of the time, that isn't the way to deal with things. I saw that the "stereotypical comedic male" thing got brought up again... If I met a woman that formulated her idea of what men are like by watching television, I'd be quite inclined to avoid her. Guys you'd find on television are just that; guys on television. They aren't representitives for our gender. I'd hope we'd pick someone better for that job if we had to.

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Guitar and Amp combo for Metal...??? Posted: 12/19/2007 11:44:32 AM
I found my guitar though...Ibanez Rg prestige 2550...Feels so good Nice... I'm a big Ibanez nut, through and through. Been thinking about looking into the RG line, they look pretty solid.

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Catholicism vs Wiccan Posted: 12/18/2007 11:21:53 AM
Things like this can only be solved by the people directly involved, which would be yourself and the woman you're dating. Realistically, the two of you are the only ones involved; you're dating her, your family is not. As long as they treat each other with respect and tolerance, there is no problem. If the relationship becomes very serious, then it becomes a bigger problem. She could end up being part of the family, in which case your family might have to be comfortable with her having her own system of belief. If you guys ever had kids, that would need to be discussed as well. Two people do not always need to share the same belief system to be happy; sometimes, that IS the case, but not always. It depends on how those beliefs are approached and if you're tolerant of her beliefs and she is tolerant of your's, you could do very well together. Now, while your family might have wishes and hopes for you, they cannot live your life. Only you can do that, so live it the way you want to, with who you want to. Tell them if you think you must, but if they get angry at you (or her) remember that you're the one dating her.

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'but this.´ Posted: 12/16/2007 1:09:08 PM
Yeah, it's call the school of hard knocks and 10 years working in the mental health field. Preachers, High School Principals, Attorneys...factory workers..mayors..police officers coming in to get therapy on Sex addictions..... So some of us "average guys" have problems. shrugs Fine. Women aren't exactly beacons of perfection either though; humans are humans and seriously, it isn't fair to judge an entire gender based on what you've seen. That is, unless you've talked personally with 100% of the males on this planet. If I were to judge females on my personal experience and some of the things I've seen, the outcome would NOT be good. I'd have MANY less female friends than I do now and I'd certainly never date again. I know not every single member of a gender is the same though. And that might be what people are focusing in on with your replies; honestly, I did the same thing. I don't like being judged for other people's problems/mistakes/shortcomings/whatever. It isn't fair to me as an individual, or anyone else that happens to experience the same thing, male or female.

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How smart is Your Right foot ? ? Just Try!!!! Posted: 12/10/2007 11:37:01 PM
Gah...I did it four times and got it on the fourth! I shall now begin doing it in public, while muttering quietly to myself. On a related note, I'm going Christmas shopping tomorrow. plots

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The Golden Compass Posted: 12/10/2007 11:34:31 PM
I really have yet to see this movie, although its really high up on my list. I think it falls slightly behind Cloverfield (drool) and slightly ahead of...everything else. That being said... I've heard a lot of people talking about the controversy surrounding the movie, but never in specifics. What exactly is the big deal THIS time, I wonder. sigh Since when is sitting down to be entertained for two hours NOT enough? And the Manson comment was right on; he sold a LOT more albums after all the controvery around him really got kicked up...

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I feel Like such an idiot Posted: 12/10/2007 11:03:13 AM
No one uses anyone with out them allowing it. It happens all the time... Sometimes it isn't so obvious that a person IS being used; at least not to them. I find the whole, "We teach others how to treat us" bit doesn't hold true for every situation. People can't be controlled; they can be very chaotic at times and can do very mean, nasty things because of it. OP, I'd say move on. Just go on with your life and live for YOU.

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Preferences....schmeferences...what's the big deal? Posted: 12/9/2007 10:10:52 AM
Quite a good thread going on here... I've always looked at it this way: Preferences: things I like that can influence me a bit more when it comes to communicating with a person. For example, I love musicians, dark hair and women who are a bit shorter than me. Those things don't rule out others though; nor will they make me go for "Woman A" if my connection to "Woman B" is much stronger and we are obviously a better match for one another. Requirement: things I will not tolerate in a partner. It can be a behavior thing, or something else entirely... A good example that a lot of people my age can relate to is age. If a woman is old enough to be my mother, then too bad. For some, that is quite fine and dandy; to me, NO. I will NOT date someone that age. I'm sorry. It just won't happen. The requirements rule people out, while the preferences dictate who I'm more likely to approach. Not all my preferences are physical things, but I'll admit that a lot of them are. Like I said before though, they aren't deal breakers or anything as strong as that. On a related note, my cute neighbor brought me a bag of chocolate truffles last night. She's like 5'6, long black hair, a few tattoes and from what I understand, she's a bassist. This might require further exploration. plots furiously to free up some time

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men...all balls and no spine Posted: 12/8/2007 3:47:59 PM
So, he had deleted all the messages that he had recieved from you... If that includes unread messages, then you might want to think about moving on and finding someone else. If it just means he deleted all the ones he HAD read, then big who cares... Either way, if you're gonna come on here posting about how all men are spineless, prepare for a backlash. In fact, I see its already begun... Seriously, how the hell can people believe that EVERY member of an ENTIRE gender are all the same? shakes head in despair

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Holiday Commercialism Posted: 12/6/2007 10:23:18 AM
I remember being really young and looking forward to Christmas from New Year's Day. laughs There were things that I loved (and still DO love) about the season; seeing the decorations on the street lights, Christmas lights everywhere, the big "tree dealership" in the middle of the town I live in, snowballs and snow angels...the list goes on and on. I remember being a kid and seeing all these really cool toys that I'd LOVE to have sitting under the tree, just waiting to be revealed to the world. That was all a part of it... Now, after growing up a bit (only a bit though... laughs) it has occured to me that maybe commercialism is a part of the holidays too. It sounds sort of strange to actually say that, but maybe its true... Everyone has their own traditions that they partake in every year; for a LOT of people, opening gifts is one. There isn't really a need to go out and buy a bunch of stuff, when we could make things at home, but some people prefer the simpler route. For those people, the advertisements, commercials and billboards might be a good thing. That being said...over the years, it seems that the real meaning behind the holidays has been pushed back a bit. It is still there though, behind the wall of poorly written advertisements and billboards that distract me while I drive (I'm looking at YOU Lawson Heighs Mall billboard on Warman Road near Tim Horton's in Saskatoon! You KNEW I had a weakness for brunettes, didn't you!? I hate you so much...). Giving gifts on the holidays isn't really a bad thing; it doesn't mean we've become slaves to commercialization or anything; just that it has become a part of the holidays. No matter how bad it gets, as long as we remember the REAL reasons we celebrate, all the ads in the world don't mean a thing.

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Msg: 101 (view)

Would you be suspicious if someone only gave you their cellphone number n not their home number?? Posted: 12/6/2007 9:40:11 AM
Personally, when I give someone that info, it is ALWAYS my cell number. I have a land line, but I'm not always going to be home to answer the phone. My cell goes with me wherever I go; it just makes more sense (to me, anyway) for people to reach me through THAT number. After a while, if a woman DOES ask for my home phone number, she gets it; a week later, she might be surprised that it very rarely gets answered though. That might raise a red flag (okay, we NEED to do away with that stupid term) to her, but in all honestly...it doesn't mean as much as everyone thinks it does. If I work eight hours a day, spend another three jamming with a band and another two or three in a recording studio, that means I'm never home, except to sleep and maybe eat. It doesn't mean I'm married, hiding something or whatever. It means I'm busy and don't have time to sit around at home waiting for my phone to ring. Its also part of the reason my status is (for the moment) set to Not Single/Not Looking. People can be quite hard to reach sometimes and for some people, their cell phone IS the best way to reach them. Funny thing though, I really, really dislike talking on the phone. While I don't see it as a waste of time, just...bleh. I'd rather be talking in person.

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Perfect Pitch Posted: 12/3/2007 11:13:36 PM
I don't have perfect pitch but I have an excellent ear for music and as the result I almost cannot stand to hear an untrained human voice singing. I have a digital piano for the same reason. Unless you can afford to have a real piano tuned frequently and kept in a controlled environment, the sound goes off in a few weeks. The digital is always right on. I'm the same way. I don't have perfect pitch either, but my "musical ear" is very sensitive. An untrained voice can be a total musical turn-off for me, unless the voice itself matches very well with the music. And your reasoning behind buying a digital piano is exactly the same as mine. It sounds amazing and never goes out of tune. I love it!

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The Mist....must see Posted: 11/28/2007 6:26:31 PM
I'm really looking forward to this movie... I read the short story only a few months ago, then shortly after that I heard it was being turned into a movie. I'm going to try and catch it before the end of the week, I think.

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Why do we do this to ourselves Posted: 11/27/2007 10:15:12 PM
I read an interestind statistic today, 35% of all all adds on dating sites are posted by MARRIED persons! I'm confused. Half of me wants to say something along the lines of, "Never put too much faith in a statistic." The other half totally agrees.

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tool in saskatoon Posted: 11/24/2007 12:58:15 AM
I would totally come out for a game of pool. Games of pool are the best. Especially with wings and a pint or two. We shall see though. I was actually at the Barking Fish for a while tonight. As well as a few other places. I think writing that list a little while earlier got me in the pub crawl mood tonight.

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Who watches Corner Gas? Posted: 11/23/2007 10:39:54 AM
Oh man, we should start up a "Who lusts Karen from Corner Gas" thread under Sex and Dating. There are 300 pages of threads on there. The poor thread watcher there has alot to read through. Karen is hot. Totally agreed. We SHOULD go start a thread like that. laughs I remember seeing her in a movie called New Waterford Girl and she did an amazing job in that movie too... She played a boxer's daughter who goes around one-punching guys who act like jerks to other people. laughs That was such an excellent movie. As for Corner Gas, man, I can't get enough of that show. There are VERY few shows I'll actually sit down and watch, but Corner Gas is one of them.

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tool in saskatoon Posted: 11/22/2007 11:26:08 PM
There are a few good places you could go for an after show drink. Ryly's is a definate no though, just avoid it. It get pretty crazy in there sometimes; a lot of fights break out both inside the bar and in the parking lot. There are much better places to go after a show, such as: -The Snooker Shack (8th Street) is a pretty good place. Nice and open, everything is well priced, usually not too crowded. Excellent for playing pool. -Lydia's (Broadway) is a good choice too, but like a few others have stated, the management changed and the overall quality of the place dropped a little bit; still a nice place to hang out though. Its small, dark and very "homey." -The Barking Fish (Broadway, if I remember right) is pretty super. Especially if there aren't that many people in there and you get to sit on the nice leather couches. Its a little pub and is quite a nice time. -O'Shea's Irish Pub (2nd Avenue) is pretty sweet. Its a lot like The Barking Fish, in that it does its best to emulate an Irish pub. It does pretty well. -Double Duece (8th Street, at the far end of the mall) has a Tuesday night wing special... Don't ask me to remember what the special is exactly, but it is a pretty good place. It does tend to get a bit crowded some nights though. -Amigo's (10th Street East, just off Broadway) is excellent most of the time. When people visit Saskatoon, I tell them to stop at Amigo's and grab a bite to eat. All round good place. Hope that helped a little bit. edit: I can't spell "Amigo's" no matter how many times I try...

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How did you start playing the electic/acoustic guitar? Posted: 11/21/2007 10:41:09 PM
I started playing in 1997... A friend of mine had recieved an electric guitar for his birthday and he could hardly put it down. He let me mess with it a bit and he taught me a few basic chords, power chords, etc. I was totally hooked. Two days later, my parents and I took a trip to British Columbia to see my grandmother. She had this amazing classical guitar that she gave me when my parents told her I wanted to learn to play. When we got home, I signed up for lessons at Ellery Music Studio in Saskatoon... I was learning to play Nirvana, Metallica, Smashing Pumpkins and Megadeth on this big classical guitar... laughs Loved every second of it though. About two months later, my parents picked me up a black and white 95 Fender Strat and a little practice amp. Shortly after that, I quit lessons and taught myself. I still hung out and jammed with my former teacher quite a bit though. Ellery closed down a few month ago though and I haven't heard from him since. Now, I own an Ibanez AX-7221 seven string, an Ibanez V7 acoustic, a little Cort six string, a Hamer "Explorer" and an Ibanez Soundgear four string bass, as well as a Pearl/Sabian drum kit and a Privia PX-110 keyboard. I still have my grandmother's classical and the Fender. Even if I lost both my arms, I would never get rid of those first two guitars, especially the classical.

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Msg: 63 (view)

old folks and metal Posted: 11/18/2007 10:46:47 AM
I'm 52 and still play metal,but it depends on what you call metal,after all it is subjective.Our generation remembers when metal came to be,so why wouldn't we like it?That being said,I'll go out on a big limb and say that what passes for metal these days is generic growling,except for a few progressive metal bands it seems to be more about the tatts , piercings and manufactured anger than actual songs or musicianship.I'm still listening,somebody new please impress me. There is a GREAT point made here...metal (and music in general) IS very subjective. I totally agree. I actually didn't really start listening to music until I was 14, which is also when I started playing guitar. Right off the bat, I started using Megadeth as a starting point; I learned fast and Dave Mustaine quickly became a huge influence of mine. Now, the list of guitarists (which inclued a LOT of metal musicians) who have influenced my playing style is HUGE. Megadeth will always hold a very special place in my heart and cd player though... The big point is that a lot of people don't consider a lot of metal bands to be just that...metal. I've met people who didn't consider Megadeth metal, because they don't use down-tuned seven string guitars and scream like crazy. I know people who don't consider Led Zep or Black Sabbath metal for the same reason. I've played in a band with guys who didn't believe a metal band to be metal unless they use crazy solos. I think metal is a huge style of music and probably one of the most subjective. Personally, I don't like a lot of the older metal bands. There are a few I'm into, but not that many; I go for the newer stuff, because it is 95% of what I listened to while learning to play guitar. I will argue tooth and nail that the bands I listen to today are metal; styles of music change and expand over time. A lot of newer bands bring a different sound to the table, but they're still metal. Just a different sort and there is nothing wrong with that. Now that I've written a freaking essay, to the point! laughs A few years ago, I went with my parents to St. Martens, England to be there for my aunt's wedding. I think I had an older In Flames album and my mother (57 at the time) gave it a listen and really got into it. Now, she is 61 and a total metal head. Metal knows no age! laughs She is probably the biggest Shadows Fall fan I know...

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