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Joined: 2/14/2009

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Slept with 83 people Posted: 8/21/2009 8:24:24 AM
Well, with the amount of interest you've shown in this topic, I'd have to say that it is NOT your friend you are talking about but yourself. The girl in question who supposedly slept with 83 people at age ,what 24 or something? That's just ridiculous, it does matter. Why so many guys?? That's not normal..healthy...shows problems with relationships and commintment..self-esteem, and on and on. She may have picked up some STD viruses that could make her infertile or diseased down the road, whatever...it DOES matter! Studies are showing that the herpes virus can cause cancer down the road..like in throat cancer, cervical and such. As an RN who has seen these types of diagnosis and treatments, I can tell you, you don't want to be having sections of your throat (or where ever) removed! It obviously matters to you/your friend. Now if she's an adult film star...maybe 83 isn't that many...but for a reg girlfriend, especially for a wife and most importantly..for a mother, yes this matters...wow! Very permiscous! But if you/your friend are really that in love with her and she with you, maybe you can get these things checked out at a clinic and get some premarital counseling. Just don't rush into anything before you really think about what it could actually mean to your and her futures. I would think the same way if it were a man I had an interest in...no difference to me as to health and emotional issues..consequences. Good luck and keep a clean machine!

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Msg: 47 (view)

hGH Posted: 4/1/2009 3:59:29 PM
Got to say...after reading your comments and thoughts on taking something as powerful (and expensive) as HGH..you don't come across as someone with a MS degree level of smarts... Sorry..just don't believe you! Very stupid using HGH! Cancer risks amongst other issues! Good luck!

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Msg: 52 (view)

Wheelchairs dating and sex Posted: 3/1/2009 3:09:02 AM
Dear Rybread, I am so glad you brought up this delicate subject. I am an RN and many of my patients have neuromuscular disorders as well has parapelgia, or quadropeligia, so I have an idea of what we are talking about here. I was blown away by a couple I met a few years ago that both had a very crippling form of Muscular Dystrophy..and I was very surprised to find that they actually shared a full sex life with each other. What I would suggest is.. since the issue seems to be about approaching women....don't come on too fast. Don't make it about sex or putting the moves on someone, especially if you have concerns about how the ladies may respond. I would just focus on getting some kind of connection established and see how things go from there...just like any mobile bi-pedal type would! Would I consider dating a man in a wheelchair: Yes, if there was a connection there. Just don't stop developing yourself as a person...I have an idea of how tough things are at times. Go for it! Mary Keep on Rockin' in the Free World!

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Msg: 85 (view)

Age difference too much? Posted: 3/1/2009 2:29:30 AM
OK here are my golden words of wisdom: Are you sure she is giving off phermones for you or is it just wishful thinking on your part? The appropriateness of the age diffences is only relavant to hers and your life experiences, IE; is she emotionally mature or immature? I doubt she is mature at having just turned 20..she just got out of her "teen" years! Think about it!

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Msg: 442 (view)

Slept with 83 people Posted: 3/1/2009 1:59:04 AM
83 sex partners at age 26 is an awful lot! I would think about the following: Would this person change or is that who she is, someone who needs alot from so many. This issue of how many men she has slept with has a very good chance of coming up during arguements. Is this something that she has changed about herself or is it bound to be repeated...and can the guy live with it??? And is she disease free?! Do you/he want children with her??!!

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Msg: 36 (view)

is ths too fast Posted: 3/1/2009 1:48:00 AM
See, you know what the two of you have invested already..."hours" of talking on the phone...weekends together. No one here can know that better than you. He gave his time just as you did..so..relax..try to enjoy how the relationship is unfolding..don't push for committment... Being patient and letting things unfold slowly will give YOU time to figure out if he's a keeper or one you may need to throw back! Enjoy getting to know him and don't worry about him calling you his girlfriend or not. I would be focusing on his character...how he treats you, how he handles his life and other relationships (family, friends, co-workers, etc). Good luck!

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Msg: 35 (view)

is ths too fast Posted: 3/1/2009 1:36:07 AM
To "daynadaze"...YOU ARE PRICELESS! LOL ...Stale bag of chips!

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Msg: 34 (view)

is ths too fast Posted: 3/1/2009 1:32:47 AM
It sounds like you want to hear where the relationship is going before he is comfortable telling you or making any kind of declaration regarding it. I know how frustrating that can be..you probably feel vulnerable and want to know right now what he's thinking. Hey, if you are getting along and truely comfortable with him..and respect him (and he you..of course)..give it more time..like he says..and see how it goes for YOU..tune into what you are feeling as well as what he is feeling and giving off. Fastest way to end a relationship at the beginning stage...push for words/signs of commitment before both parties are ready! BOTH! Best of luck to you!

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What age does it take? Posted: 3/1/2009 1:17:52 AM
Why don't men relate their feelings well? Because they have been conditioned from birth that "real men" don't do that..real men suck it up and keep it all inside because it would be considered a weakness if they overly related to their "feelings". All of which is not true and changing..slowly.. Best suggestion I have for you; read about men..the psychology of men and what makes them tick. It may help you to then understand that it isn't you but how they are raised/conditioned that makes them respond (or not respond)in a particular situation, the way they do. Knowledge helps to understand and deal better with these things. And they say women are impossible to understand !! Go figure!

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why do people stay on POF after meeting someone? Posted: 3/1/2009 1:05:44 AM
Staying on Plentyoffish though dating someone on regular basis: Very simple...POF ..it's a backup plan if you get dumped or something goes wrong in the relatinship. It means you still are NOT sure and are keeping the door open to other possible relationships. Either that or you forgot to close down your accounts! Because you still have your line in the water!!!

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Am I Tripping? Posted: 3/1/2009 12:58:27 AM
I think that your boyfriend is comfortable with nudity, open sexuality. You are not..and that's OK!!. You expressed you "uncomfortablness" and he chose to ignore it or disrespect it. If he is making you THAT upset...and I don't blame you at all...you have a major issue that is going to block the two of you from further developing your relationship. My suggestion is: Take some time away from him ( a few days..a week?..2-3 weeks!?) to cool down.. then you can have a real discussion with him about exactly how you feel. When you talk with him about it, if you disagree, or feel he isn't respecting your feelings or privacy, don't argue or get in a fight with him. It might help to think about the possible responses you might get from him..if when just thinking about his response it makes you "want to kill him"..It would be best to depart the situation/boyfriend and find a more amicable or agreeable boyfriend with whom you feel mutual respect/concern for. Best of luck! Mary

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Msg: 133 (view)

Weed Addiction Posted: 3/1/2009 12:22:40 AM
OK, OK, OK....So what seems to be the question here is ..Is weed addictive? When lay people use this term , "addicted" they are usually referring to physical /physiological addiction..meaning that if a person stopped using ..they would go through physical discomfort as the body is deprived of said substance. But with Marijuana there really should be no unpleasant physical/physiological response to stopping the usage of it. That said, substances can be psychologically/emotionally addictive..that is the person becomes dependent upon the substance to make them feel better as related to their state of mind..She may be depressed or stressed or bored and be seeking marijuana to escape her problems/issues...whatever..she knows she has a problem and it is great that you are seeking out a way to help her. That makes you some great guy! I would suggest gathering up resources as to where she can go to start talking to someone who is an expert in the field so she can start the work SHE needs to do and resolve the real underlying issues. Best of luck! Mary Keep on Rockin' in the Free World!

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Msg: 489 (view)

Can women really go without sex???? Posted: 3/1/2009 12:00:23 AM
Well She's obviously NOT into it for SOME reason...Your job, should you decide to except it, is to find out WHY she isn't into IT. Maybe you jump into IT too fast and fail to warm her up sufficiently. Maybe her hormone levels are low or she's stressed, or depressed or has medication that interfers with her libido...a million different reasons could be going on. I would nicely suggest that you do some serious looking into this and other issues with this lady before taking the leap...for you own good and hers... Good luck!

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Msg: 76 (view)

She got hers then went to sleep Posted: 2/28/2009 11:46:08 PM
At least you told her she's PRETTY!! Get it?...a "pretty" selfish lover?!?

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Msg: 85 (view)

Why do men want to meet after a 3 minute conversation? Posted: 2/27/2009 11:00:26 AM
Very interesting topic...I spent 2.5 months getting to know someone from grammer school of all things. We had both built up things in our minds to such a degree that neither could ever match that expectation...I had mentioned every time you up theencounters..from email to IM..from IM to phone..things seem to need to take a step backwards. Whats neat is if you can both overcome your jolted expectations and just really get to know each other and let things grow from there....

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Msg: 83 (view)

Why do men want to meet after a 3 minute conversation? Posted: 2/27/2009 10:47:36 AM
I have to agree with this lady...I think that some guys need to just slow down a tad.... I find it strange to be expected to call someone I haven't established anything with.....I mean I speak to enough people during an average day who I don't know let alone persue talking to someone I don't know anything (much) about...... M.

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