You are 25 and deserve better than what you are expecting.

Last week, researchers at Heriot Watt University's Family and Personal Relationships Laboratory in Edinburgh, which studies best practices in relationship counseling, completed a study of 40 Hollywood romantic comedies released between 1995-2005. They found that problems typically reported by couples in relationship counseling at their counseling center reflect misconceptions about love and romance depicted in Hollywood films. (See TIME's Top 10 movies of the year.)

"Relationship counselors often face common misconceptions in their clients — that if your partner truly loves you they'd know what you need without you communicating it, that your soul mate is predestined. We did a rigorous content analysis of romantic comedies and found that the same issues were being portrayed in these films," the university's Dr Bjarne Holmes says.

The fact that Hollywood sells us an enhanced version of romance should come as no surprise, of course. But does that portrayal reflect a pre-existing expectation that film buffs hold or does it instill it? As part of their research, Dr Holmes' team had around 130 student volunteers watch the 2001 romantic comedy Serendipity, while another group of the same size watched a David Lynch drama. Viewers of the romantic comedy were found to be more likely to believe in fate and destiny. It was a small study confined to one region, but, Dr Holmes argues, "it does give us some indication of [the effects of romantic comedies]."

Mary-Lou Galician, Head of Media Analysis and Criticism at the Walter

maybe it's you who are is a terrible lover and THAT'S why the majority of women you dated didn't care for getting oral.....

just a thought

ummm...maybe it's because you are no good at it. i've found that the vast majority of men don't have a clue when it comes to oral and most are just bad at it. you probably are one of them

Maybe her first date with you left a funny taste in her mouth (pun intended)!

The vast majority of women I've dated didn't care for getting oral.


At last, a man that admits his shortcomings.

How is that HIS short coming? Because the women he dates don't like oral? It happens. They exist. I don't like oral. It has nothing to do with the guy giving it.

I don't understand why people do that...I will tell you right here that you are an idiot

Men shouldn't fear taking responsibility of someone elses child. It makes them a better person in my eyes.

If you love someone, you will do what you please for that person. It shouldn't matter if they have a child or not.

I carefully reread your post, and you don't say that you reciprocated.

She did, you didn't, she's gone.

Majority of guys just wanna have sex and that's it. To date, most guys will choose between an 8-10, but for sex it can range all the way down to a 5. Guys get more angry when they get rejected by less attractive women.

Don't mess with 16, it's usually illegal and dads don't like 18y/o Johnny banging his "innocent" daughter who probably was wearing a dominatrix outfit and practically raping YOU!, lol

The op is young and as a Tipical male that's still growing pubic hair on his testicles,
is still dazed and confused why he's still playing with himself Solo, after a few
months of dating this woman.

Move on and better luck next time, as a Male rule of thumb if after one month she's
not giving any sex, to much insecurities, issue and drama.

time to move on to more willing pastures.

It's a hard call for some..many have no choice but to work extra to be able to put their kids in sports etc (which is also as important as paying bills and keeping a good home). Being a good parent takes up time and is always going to a first priority.

^ I don't know why, but in your main picture you look like Hoyt from "True Blood". I think it's just me though LOL

NO. If a lady attacks me, she gets whatever a man would get. Generally, raising a hand to anyone for any non-defense reason is completely abominably forbidden. Society would crumble if we returned to being savages like that!

Not trying to burst your bubble here but my brothers have or are in the military, plenty of my friends are former military and I work in an area where most of my co-workers were in the military, all different branches, and not one has ever mentioned anything about Canadian women. Asian women, yes. South American women, hell yes (Even I will agree to that one) But Canadian women...nope. Not once has that ever come up in conversation."

Sorry to burst YOUR bubble but I have been in the military 22 years and have worked and trained with all kinds of different military's from all different countries and unlike you who are talking to former military personnel I've had the opportunity to see how Americans love us. OP considering the U.S. military is 1,4 million and you have friends and family in the military, it's obvious we aren't talking to the same people. Some of my closest friends are in the U.S. Army and have told me that they love Canadian and Australian women. Maybe it's because we have a thing for Americans too

Women throughout the country are pretty much the same.

You might find more stuck up types in the more expensive places to live because when your not considered in thier social class people can be real snobs

I personally would like to try someplace outside this country

Tell me what you don't agree with....

Rock hunter.......if you don't like what someone is saying, learn to deal with it or get out of there. That's all there is. Whether you are a man or a woman, adult or child...never, ever resort to physical violence in retaliation to the spoken word. No matter how much malicious and intentional verbal provocation, you get out of there.

To say that men, generally speaking, learn to not provoke people by what they say because they're likely to be punched for it, is absolute BS in my opinion. I don't see men being more restrained about what they say so as not to provoke a physical fight than women. I've worked and studied with all men, and all women, and a mix, and I don't see it. To think that men/boys loose face and are mummy's boys if they don't hit out over something nasty that's said to them is prehistoric in my view, but if you feel this way then that's your issue

1... Last time I looked, being a single father doesn't leave you with stretchmarks, a belly 'pouch', bladder incontinence, droopy breasts and a loose penis....
2... Men are not geared to raising our rivals DNA. Hell, in the wild, many males will kill the offspring of a rival male... Be glad humans are not quite that cold blooded.
3... In instances of divorce, separation etc....Single moms often get the kids by default. A single Dad had to prove he was the better parent to get the kid... therfore worthy of praise... (as is a single mom if she proved she was the better parent)
4... Very few single dads get welfare. If a single mom goes on welfare it's not a big deal. If a single dad goes on welfare, the system takes their kid away and gives it to the mother... no double standard there....

Kidding aside if you swallow, then he should also.

Sorry, but that's a whopper of a non sequitur... The more women who aren't interested in you because you don't have a pickup, or because you're not tall enough, or whatever the reason is to exclude you, the fewer women are left in your hypothetical second group of "really is interested". It's by no means clear after all the criteria are added up that there will be even one book left which you want to read and which wants you to read it.
Thus you have lower odds of "finding someone better" everytime someone voices a preference, regardless of what it is. This is why it irks so many whenever anybody does so.
Of course it helps to be oblivious about these fundamental dynamics, to soldier on with the belief that victory will be achieved one day.

{"Well, from what I have come to understand, here is the recipe...
1- Become anorexic.
2- Get a boob job...
3- Get a facelift.
4- Blow up your lips with botox.
5- Get the fat sucked out of your thighs and ass.
6- Make sure you are seen and NEVER EVER heard...
I am sure I missed something... but feel free to add on to the list! "}

7. A frontal labotomy so you dont have opinions of your own and obey all rules.

8. Have no kids so you can Fvck spontaneously.

A real woman understands there are things that men are just better at doing and she appreciates those skills.
A real woman takes the time and care to primp and pamper herself, with scents in the right places to entice her man.
A real woman takes the time to show her man that he's loved, cherished and appreciated for being a man.
A real woman is not afraid to be barefoot and in the kitchen making a good meal for her man/family.
A real woman doesn't think of herself as better or worse than men, just different, and she appreciates those differences.
A real woman can get the job done, but prefers to massage the shoulders of the man that actually does the job.

When I say "real woman" (as opposed to a fake one) I mean:

1. She goes without makeup more often than with makeup.
2. She farts (but is embarrassed by it, which is so adorable).
3. She refuses to put up with her man's sh!t, but has an endless capacity for forgiveness.
4. She has a little bit of junk in the trunk... and isn't self-concious about it.
5. She has strength of character and sense of responsibility.
6. Doesn't solve conflict by turning on the "frost machine".
7. Doesn't try to do a poor imitation of a man to get respect.

How dare you ask for "hot, fit, educated and submissive" women, how dareee ya!
Don't you know OBAWAOP will get your azz like in a nano second!

tsk tsk tsk...

AnyWayss, another vote for texas... hot sexy blondes with cowboy hats... hawwt!












OBAWAOP : Old Bitter & Angry Women Association of POF

I don't care how many votes texas got in this thread...it sucks here, and we truly are not up to your standards...so one vote here for Mexico, pack your sh1t and be gone

8soldierfalcon8 I'm not saying that your not entitled to your opinon , however what i am saying is when you make a comment like this ' accepting consequences for bad decisions' its seems to be a tad harsh don't you think . Childern are what 'consequences ' lol well i heard people call them something but that !!! omg . Thank good ness NOT all men think like you .

You know reading most of this topic makes me laugh ........no really it does.... i mean most peopleo here over 40 have got childern , and in one way or another have become single does it really matter how or why , and we're here on a 'DATING' site i use that term loosey , because to be honest it just appears to be a place where people are just taking a cheap shot at one another for having childern ........Who are you people who assume that any single parent male or female is in fact not worth the time of day ???? ..............Does that also mean that divorced people are not worth anything either i mean come on they where married must be something wrong they an't no more are they , those whose are parents who's childern donot live wtih them are they worthless too??

If your still have Huge chip on your shoulder becasue of past relationships that have not worked what the hell are you doing on a dating site .......?

Heard the old saying ' Never judge a book by its cover'

People may of become single parents for a number of reasons .......they got married way to young .......they may of been in a voilent relationship , they could of simply not loved who they where with any more , the other person may of had an affair , the childern may have been at risk so they had to leave for the childerns sake ...the list is endless and YET supposedly GROWN UP people seem to be so narrow mind that they just think .........they are used up and way past there sell by date ....Get a grip and grow up reading most of the anti parent post on here i would of thought they where wrote by totally naive teenagers ............not by supposed Adults .

Chidern are a blessing no matter if there parents are together or not .

I'm so glad that there are people in this world who are not as narrow minded the bitter ones on here ...get at grip!

if you think i'm homely, then you seriously need to have your eyes examined. most find me quite beautiful.

oh and btw my whole profile is fake and i'm certainly NOT looking for a sweet man, actually i'm not looking for any man because i already have one.

oh and my post was NOT directed at you, it was directed at Division77 because he is a douchebag. and when i wear heals, i tower over someone who is only 5'7" and it looks very strange

oh and you broke the rules by insulting me so you will be reported.