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anudderbday48

Joined: 2/16/2009

Msg: 10 (view)

Taxes Posted: 10/9/2009 7:45:06 AM
Check with the IRS or a Tax accountant, there are very VERY clear rulings about that. If you allow the non custodial parent to claim your child you have to sign a form before that parent can claim them.

anudderbday48

Joined: 2/16/2009

Msg: 208 (view)

How much money does a man need to make to keep you interested in him? Posted: 10/1/2009 2:19:38 PM
Enough to support himself, a fat wallet does not make the man. I would honestly rather be with a man that has experienced tough times before because I believe he values the little things he has now more and his financial expectations are more realistic then one who hasn't. Like one of the posters mentioned the only reason I ever ask about what a man does for a living is because it tells a lot about him, not because I can calculate what his income is. Plus it leads to finding out if he enjoys what he does.. it's a conversation starter nothing more.

anudderbday48

Joined: 2/16/2009

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Single Mothers Adopting? Posted: 9/29/2009 10:57:22 AM
Kindman makes a very good point. You might feel all the things you post right now but once the fairytale wears of of having this adorable baby that you have given this incredible choice in life wears off (or the movie is over) and reality of the issues smacks you in the face I wonder if you'd still feel that way. I think you idolize adoption just a tad too much because you keep mentioning that you want a baby and not wanting a teen. There are a lot of ages between a baby and a teen that are looking for homes also. There is something more to you wanting a baby and yes that would be selfish.

anudderbday48

Joined: 2/16/2009

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Single Mothers Adopting? Posted: 9/29/2009 6:06:29 AM
Ok here is my adoption story. When I was married and after several failed attempts are Invitro we decided since a natural child wasn't ment to be we were going to go the route of adoption and give a child that needed love and a home one. First stop domestic adoption. We went to see a recommended lawyer that handled surrogate mothers...... found out that was a money making business for him and the birth mothers (mostly college students). We wanted a child not a business venture, eventhough officially the mothers could not accept money, it was highly recommended to financially support the mother, i.e. pay for all or some of her college or give her other monetary presents and of course the lawyer wanted a rather steep fee also. Next stop churches and county adoption agency..... churches did not accept us because we had two different religious backrounds, they wanted parents with their own denominations. County told us our home study would be so far off that by the time we were able to adopt we would be past the age requirement for parents. We were also told we could not adopt a child of a different racial backround because we would not be able to teach him/her her ethnic backround... whatever happened to give a child a decent home?? On to international adoption. Found a lawyer that was very involved in humanitarian efforts in Hungary (this was shortly after the eastern borders crumbled) anyone remember the horror stories of Romanian Orphanages? Lawyer went to Hungary, he found a child for us, a boy a little over 1yr old. We rushed over there, since we had to be there within 48 hrs. When we got to Budapest the misery started, you have to involve a local lawyer, ours assumed since we were 'rich' americans his fee trippled from the originally agreed amount. The original fee was about 1yrs worth of his local salary. We finally came to a agreement, so off we went to the Orphanage.... you want to see misery, go right ahead and visit one in a former eastern block country, it will make your heart bleed. None of the staff spoke english or only very broken, so our driver interpeted for us. We were told our boy had some minor health problems that were most likely related to being in a orphanage since birth. We went to see him, he was sitting on the ground, facing away from us, it ended up he was so mentally and physically challenged that our lawyer told us there is no way he would be allowed to immigrate because nobody knew what the issues exactly were, since there was no medical diagnosis. Then the haggling by the orphanage mother started.. well since we were already here and ready to spent money on a child, she had several different ones we could 'look at'. By that time we were so upset that we did not want to deal with that at our mental stage at that point, so we left. We had some contact with local police officers there (my ex was a cop and with interpol), they did some investigating and came to find out that that was the local strategy to sucker americans over there, desperate enough to do whatever it takes because they want a child so bad that they are willing to pay and do just about anything. IF and that is a big if, a adoption came to fruitition and you actually were able to adopt a child it cost a fortune, then once the child was here in the US most found out that they could not get a birth certificate and the one Hungary issued was a fake because it ended up that most birth parents did not sign over all rights to their children, if anything only the mother did, however you needed both parents. So, my advise is..... be very very VERY careful if you decide to go with international. Do your homework on the local laws and the adoption agency you are planning on using. Sorry this is so long but there was just no short explanation in order to drive the point home.

anudderbday48

Joined: 2/16/2009

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Should men pay half of the expense of women's birth control? Posted: 9/9/2009 4:33:17 AM
Thank you bree..... thanks for the last two posts. And to the poster that questioned if I didn't know the difference between prostitution and birth control. Yes dear I do know the difference. However the OP is questioning that her partner pay for half her birthcontrol to prevent pregnancy, last time I checked that happened during sex. So, if he pays he buys a share of sex..............

anudderbday48

Joined: 2/16/2009

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Single Mothers Adopting? Posted: 9/8/2009 5:26:35 PM
No I don't mind at all if you message me privately. I also wouldn't have a problem discussing this in the forum because it can be a warning to a lot of people. But that would be totally off topic and I don't know how moderators take to that.

anudderbday48

Joined: 2/16/2009

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Should men pay half of the expense of women's birth control? Posted: 9/8/2009 1:17:15 PM
So if the guy is supposed to pay for the womans birthcontrol does he get 50% of the right to say when to have sex? I mean it is to prevent pregnancy from sex, soooooooo he paid for sex and should be able to cash in his 50% whenever he wants to.

anudderbday48

Joined: 2/16/2009

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Single Mothers Adopting? Posted: 9/8/2009 10:05:36 AM
Be very careful with international adoptions.. I got taken for the ride of a lifetime, including heartache that I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. If you go that route, find find a group that has already done that so they can inform you on the issues and the agency. Be prepared though, this is at times heartbreaking and also VERY expensive.

anudderbday48

Joined: 2/16/2009

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Where are your boundaries??? Posted: 9/6/2009 7:01:40 AM
In no particular order Be honest, that includes...no cheating, lying etc. Is caring, not just to me but to others also Be respectful, see above ^^ Make me a priority, some of the time Not degrading or violent.... a black eye is not my idea of love, neither is being treated as a lower form of life.

anudderbday48

Joined: 2/16/2009

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MEN THAT LOVE OTHER MEN WHILE THEY ARE MARRIED Posted: 9/6/2009 5:52:24 AM
Cheating is cheating is.....cheating. Doesn't matter what the body parts involved are. I never understood why so many bisexual people assume it is ok to want the other sex while married. Still doesn't make it ok, it's still cheating.

anudderbday48

Joined: 2/16/2009

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Child support... Posted: 9/6/2009 5:39:45 AM
It takes two to make a baby, sad part is the two parents in this case know squat about each other. I mean you are guessing at his income, his house...etc, it could all be debt too ya know. Unless his true income statements are looked at you don't know what his income is so how can you determine what's fair? Who's to day that stuff doesn't all belong to his wife and he's bs'ing you big time? You really don't know if he will run and shirk his obligation as a father. For your child it is best to find out what the guidelines are for support in your province. If you can file through them, here in the states you do not have to use the amount they give you, you can settle that between you the parents and then file that through the support agency.

anudderbday48

Joined: 2/16/2009

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A question for the ladies. Why is it that ..... Posted: 9/6/2009 5:25:01 AM
I think part of it is that the married guy can truly be himself now. No more need to impress a lady or try and gain her interest. Which in turn seems to make him all the more interesting to the women.

anudderbday48

Joined: 2/16/2009

Msg: 142 (view)

Mom Jailed over child support Posted: 9/4/2009 8:01:24 AM
I am actually surprised this hasn't happened before. Ohio CSEA is ALL over receiving support. Maybe the older cases take a while to clear up but I know for a fact the newer cases are handled very strictly. So it must be a state to state thing. My daughter chose to live with her father and of course with him being residential parent I pay support, CSEA was all over me before the paperwork was even at my work for the agreed payroll deduction, threatening me with suspension of drivers liscence, IRS already had paperwork to hold my tax refund etc. , eventhough it was their fault for not getting the paperwork to my employment in a timely manner. So, I paid and then payroll deduction started, now I am overpaid by about 2 payments, do you know CSEA does not refund that money, you have to try and get that back from the other parent? I do have to say one thing though, I trully think that a portion of the support paid should be forced into a account for the child that could not be used by the custodial/residential parent to enhance their lifestyle. It burns me that I pay support to help with the expense of our child living there (which I am perfectly cool with), yet she comes to my house hungry, I still buy most of her clothes. Her dad and stepmom go on vacations yet feel no need to include her, if my daughter goes anywhere special it is with me and me paying for it and any extrordinary expenses I still pay half of i.e. school fees, summer camp etc. ... support is supposed to be for the expense of raising the child and something should be in place to ensure that. Regards Child support paying mother

anudderbday48

Joined: 2/16/2009

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Trying to be careful with religious choices for my daughter. Posted: 9/3/2009 6:44:24 PM
I was actually in a very similar position, I am protestant and my now ex husband is jewish. Before we ever even had a child we agreed that each of us would keep our faith (neither of us are very religious) and we would raise any children with both faiths. So, my daughter has had exposure to the jewish faith, customs and holidays and she has also experienced my protestant faith. When she was little of course it all boiled down to..hey this is cool, hanukkah presents and right after christmas presents. Now that she is older she is very tolerant of other cultures and religions, which both of us parents are very happy with. I trully do believe having not forced one religion on her has quite a bit to do with that because she saw first hand that other religions, customs and heritage is not evil or wrong.

anudderbday48

Joined: 2/16/2009

Msg: 66 (view)

now I have herpes Posted: 9/3/2009 12:12:37 PM
As hard as this has to be on you honestabla, I would tell him in person. Have information on hand to give to him, so he can educate himself. The last thing you want is him acting like some of the guys here and education on the matter is the best defense against that.

anudderbday48

Joined: 2/16/2009

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Child Support and last names Posted: 9/3/2009 7:19:35 AM
Manda, thats why you don't handle stuff like this on your own. It is always best to have a lawyer (without emotional attachment) involved. Most likely there is nothing you can do about the amount now and in all honesty, if he owns 2 trucks his income potential is higher, so if his income rises the support could go up also. If your support paperwork has not gone before a judge, you might want to make sure that you can have the support adjusted as income changes. Usually you can only go back to have child support adjusted every 3 or 5 yrs, so if he was to pay off his truck his disposable income would increase significantly but your childs support would not.

anudderbday48

Joined: 2/16/2009

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Why do men have to sleep with a fan running? Posted: 9/1/2009 8:38:11 AM
Definitely not just a man thing. I have my ceiling fan on every night. I sleep much better with the air moving and the white noise.

anudderbday48

Joined: 2/16/2009

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How long do you wait to delete that number. Posted: 8/19/2009 5:05:48 AM
I keep mine for a while, so I know who the person is that's calling because I do have crappy phone number memory. It does come in handy to see the name on the caller ID when they decide to all the sudden call again. Love the idea with the ZZZ's so they go to the bottom of your phone book... going to steal that idea.

anudderbday48

Joined: 2/16/2009

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Success story #666 Posted: 8/19/2009 4:57:26 AM
Ahhh so the secret is in the pizza...whoda thought. Congrats on finding the love of your life in 2 months flat

anudderbday48

Joined: 2/16/2009

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* * Luau on the Lake! * * * August 14 - Jimmy's Mentor-on-the-Lake * * * Posted: 8/14/2009 5:07:21 AM
Yes goldrose they are still closed . If I were you I'd go to the 615 exit.

anudderbday48

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* * Luau on the Lake! * * * August 14 - Jimmy's Mentor-on-the-Lake * * * Posted: 8/12/2009 7:04:54 AM
Too bad I am out of town because Schwein would be fine. I did see grass skirts, shell bra's and lei's at of all places Just closeouts (the one in Willoughby/Wickliffe).

anudderbday48

Joined: 2/16/2009

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Cyber cheating Posted: 8/9/2009 5:52:22 PM
OP and you put up with this why???????? Do you honestly think his behavior will change if he reads this forum or do you just want some attention?

anudderbday48

Joined: 2/16/2009

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Reconciliation motivated by money? Posted: 8/1/2009 2:46:29 PM
You say you don't want money..yet quite a bit of your post is about money, if you really were not interested in his share you would have not agreed to take his 401k. You do have a choice to say no he's not taking any of mine..let him keep his (which would be the fair deal here). After 18yrs of marriage he got shafted pretty good with the debt didn't he ? You walk away with a Student loan he keeps all other debt, after all these years being married to him why is his spending habit a issue now?? Who wants to reconcile though? If you want to reconcile, sit down with him come to a agreement, I'd highly suggest counseling and probably dating each other before any big arrangements are made.

anudderbday48

Joined: 2/16/2009

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Internet dating .... the ones you want and the ones you dont Posted: 8/1/2009 8:21:09 AM
Absolutely, I think it is the same way offline though. However on a dating site it is a much more condensed version of it. I mean in your daily life where do you really 'see' or meet as many people as you have the chance to on here? So if this happens with maybe 1 or 2 offline on a daily basis here it is 20-40+. Plus I think with online dating a lot of people have turned it into online shopping per say. You might select some 'models' into your cart but if something more desirable comes along you remove the original out of the cart without reading the fine print of their description or abilities. So actually the original might be more what you are looking for, you however were taken by the fancy bells and whistles of model 2.

anudderbday48

Joined: 2/16/2009

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Interest in Cleveland event? Posted: 7/9/2009 10:42:00 AM
There you go...wrestling event in Cleveland.

anudderbday48

Joined: 2/16/2009

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cheating wife Posted: 7/6/2009 8:18:09 AM
If he OP lives for example in the US he can not remove the children permanently, in the US he could be brought back and be charged with kidnapping. Actually you can't even move them out of the county (atleast here in Ohio) without the other parents written consent. If his country of residence signed the treaty - 1980 Hague Convention on the Civil Aspects of International Child Abduction, he would be in deep doodoo if he just moved them. Abelain, yes actually it is, it is just not enforced unless the other parent makes it a issue. I know this first hand because my daughter and her father are american citizens and I am a german citizen. I needed written permission from the non custodial father to take her to see my family, without that piece of paper the father could have just called the authorities and I could have been charged with kidnapping. Also, if one of the parents applies for a passport for their child the other parent has to sent a written consent with the application.

anudderbday48

Joined: 2/16/2009

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Getting stuff back from an ex Posted: 7/6/2009 5:37:39 AM
Well grasshoper what have you learned from this???? Next time a girl asks you for your shirt... make sure you take her thong and if it is a expensive shirt also a bra and hold it ransom

anudderbday48

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cheating wife Posted: 7/6/2009 5:02:33 AM
Kimbo, if he wants to take the kids to England he will need a lawyer because the papers will have to be airtight, plus I don't think he's even in the US...where the heck is Laois, is that Laos???

anudderbday48

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cheating wife Posted: 7/6/2009 4:40:03 AM
OP I hope you are just saying this stuff about abandoning your kids out of hurt and anger. It is completely understandable that you are very upset right now but you have to face the fact that your marriage is over, get yourself some legal advise and focus on being a stable parent for your kids. It will dampen some of the hurt and give you something to concentrate on. Fathers can make great custodial parents too, running however is the cowards way out and will damage your kids forever. You will make it through this, look around the forums there are a lot of single parents that do just fine you will too. The hurt will go away and at one point you will wipe your brow and go...whewwwwww dodged her bullet. P.S. Yes you could very well be breaking laws by taking your kids to England without the mothers consent. Quite a few countries have laws that prohibit that, I know the US has extradition laws with atleast some countries in Europe. Here you'd be charged with kidnapping, returned and jailed.

anudderbday48

Joined: 2/16/2009

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Does anyone have anything good to say about their EX? Posted: 7/5/2009 7:07:11 AM
Every ex has taught me something to grow as a person, so even if the breakup was bitter in the long term it was well worth it. I see no reason to be bitter about life or the relatinships I have been in, I see them as a growing experience. Exhusband.... he is a good father and loves our daughter more then his own life, so eventhough our marriage didn't work out seeing that is well worth it.

anudderbday48

Joined: 2/16/2009

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Should I ask adult child's mother to help her daughter? Posted: 7/4/2009 4:17:06 PM
Yes spotty, Ohio is ruthless that's why I was so surprised that the OP's state hasn't come after her before. Here you go in the rears..without warning your Tax returns get taken, drivers liscence suspended and then jail as long as it goes through CSI it's done automatic.

anudderbday48

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Where are the women without game? Posted: 7/4/2009 12:14:28 PM
I hope you told her to go where the sun don't shine. That's just plain rude or like you said she's married or otherwise attached. If she didn't want to rub it in she would have just said she was busy or had plans but damn to rub it in like she did...it would be neeeeeeeeeeext for me

anudderbday48

Joined: 2/16/2009

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Life's frustrating!! Posted: 7/4/2009 12:09:00 PM
Bolt, maybe you could become a advocate against drinking, which would probably be a great way to expand your circle of aquantances and maybe you'd meet more ladies that way also.

anudderbday48

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Lake County Unofficial Get-Together Saturday July 4th 9:00pm-? @Jimmy's Mentor-on-the-lake Posted: 7/4/2009 11:51:38 AM
Sighh.....my g/f flaked out on me. So now I have to collect my guts into a handbag and come alone.

anudderbday48

Joined: 2/16/2009

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When someone points out that you're old.. Posted: 7/4/2009 11:48:07 AM
When someone young tells me that I usually turn to them and say... make sure you get a good job because you will be supporting my Social Security check soon.

anudderbday48

Joined: 2/16/2009

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share your summer activity that you waited for? Posted: 7/4/2009 6:17:16 AM
Kiddie cone soft serve icecream Just being outside without winter wear Parks Zoo BBQ's walking Hanging at the lake

anudderbday48

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Love my kids more than anything else..... Posted: 7/4/2009 5:15:49 AM
I think this is really hard for someone that doesn't have kids to understand. Yes our kids are the most important person because their needs are different then those of a partner. However as our children age the needs also change, when they are small you really do have to understand that they have to come first.. otherwise we would not be good parents. I would say in most cases it means though, you can't just drop everything and go meet your date, you can't always find a babysitter, they get sick etc..etc. As long as you are understanding of that you will probably not have a lot of issues. Once the kids are teenagers and more independent that whole scenario changes a little bit. I would really not have a lot of respect for a father that puts me ahead of his children, why? Because I am entering into a already established group, therefore I see myself as the one that should make herself fit into the group not the group totally adjusting to me. As for children resenting the new b/f..g/f it really all depends how you make yourself fit into the family. In my case my daughter knew that I was dating at times but she would not be introduced unless we were in a commited relationship, when she did we did fun things that were more geared towards her or us as a 'family', that put her more at ease and we never had any problems. She knew that at times mom needed to be around other adults without kids. Single parents just need to find a good balance between kid time and dedicated 'adult time' that makes their partner the most important part... and that part should never go away either because romance and time with your partner should be a vital part of a relantionship.

anudderbday48

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Msg: 66 (view)

Should I ask adult child's mother to help her daughter? Posted: 7/4/2009 4:54:05 AM
Well if that's the case first of it is very sad and the least she can do is sent the receipt with the present so the present can be returned...that's downright pitiful. I thought my daughters dad was bad at times but your ex sure has him beat by 100 miles.

anudderbday48

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Should I ask adult child's mother to help her daughter? Posted: 7/3/2009 11:17:17 AM
^^^^^ exactly. All you have to do is go to the single parent board and take a look.

anudderbday48

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Should I ask adult child's mother to help her daughter? Posted: 7/3/2009 5:33:17 AM
The daughter works 20hrs a week. So if this was your child you all would say...tuff sheet, grow up or no school for you? Pretty easy to say when it's not your kid isn't it. All he's asking if it would be fair to talk to the mother to give her monetary presents instead of that money being spent on junk the kid might never use. The OP is trying to help his daughter because he sees that she is trying to get on the right path so why throw more obstacles in her path and it sure would be nice if the mother felt the same way.

anudderbday48

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Should I ask adult child's mother to help her daughter? Posted: 7/2/2009 5:31:43 PM
I can't believe how many agree that the mother should not help. If this was a mother on here asking if the father should help out and wasn't willing the guy would be hung on a cross with rusty nails by now. OP I can understand that you don't want to enforce the child support order eventhough it would only be right because that is money the mother owes to your daughter. I can't believe your states enforcement agency did not go after the mother a long time ago. You have mentioned that your daughter works and goes to school, which I think how it should be, you as parent try to help out as much as you can. It would only be fair for the mother to help a bit too and that's all you seem to be asking for. The mother never got her crap together and your daughter is paying the price for that which is not right. If I were you I would have a talk with the mother and just explain how much it would help out if she gave her a little bit also. Instead of buying presents that might not be used, money or even a grocery gift card etc. would be much more appreciated by the daughter. You might want to make clear that you are not asking for a ton of money at a time but heck 10 bucks whenever possible would be a heck of a lot more then what she has now. After all it surely is in both parents heart to have the daughter do better then the mother ever did.

anudderbday48

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Advice on jeans PLEASE!!!!! Posted: 7/2/2009 5:39:13 AM
Boot cuts and/or carpenter pants that are well fitting at the waist...sesssyyyyyyyy. Finally a young man that doesn't got for the .. droopy drawer, think i shat my pants look.

anudderbday48

Joined: 2/16/2009

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To the Ladies! Posted: 7/2/2009 5:34:36 AM
I saw that too....4 days and he's impatient already. To be young again, OP if nothing else this site will teach you patience.

anudderbday48

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Signed Away My Life Posted: 7/2/2009 5:29:00 AM
I would think...oh god what did he buy now

anudderbday48

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Msg: 45 (view)

Long vs short hair Posted: 6/28/2009 2:26:38 PM
Boy now I have heard every reason why women don't respond to messages.... I have hair almost to my waist which does not prevent me from answering the few messages I get. Hair has really nothing to do with getting more messages then short haired women, except the occasional where guys want to do weird things with with the long hair but I even answer those. I have seen some short haired women that I think look fantastic with it...wish I would but I'll just stay the long haired pumkin that I am. Long haired women being higher maintenance? I beg to differ, when I had short hair I had to get it cut every 2 weeks, use a ton of styling products....now my long hair is pretty much shampoo,conditioner, little drying and off I am, a lot lower maintenance and cheaper too. I have to admit though that only women seem to think I should cut it at my 'advanced age'.

anudderbday48

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So I got a number what do I do now. Posted: 6/27/2009 9:20:56 AM
Actually OP had you called while you were sick with the flu or whatever would have shown her that you really wanted to get to know her that not even a illness prevented you from calling. 3 day rule?? who the hell came up with that??? Must be back from the days when it took 3 days on a jackass to get to a public phone. If this was me.... I would have absolutely no interest by now if you called..neeeeeeext.

anudderbday48

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Can i be with my family Posted: 6/27/2009 8:31:36 AM
You really have to earn her trust back and that will take time. Like you said it would be a great idea for you to learn to drive and if things go well move closer. Until then see them as much as you can, she knows that you have to go some extra steps by having to use public transportation, which shows you are trying to do the right thing. Don't put too much weight on getting back together with her, if that happens it's a bonus..... right now concentrate on being a consistent part of your childs life.

anudderbday48

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Msg: 68 (view)

Younger European girl my house - attraction Posted: 6/27/2009 7:40:51 AM
OP can you overthink this any more then you already have? You have already decided this is not about getting in the girls pants and cudos to you for that. I get the impression you just want to hang with the girl because you know she will leave in a month..guess what, the girl knows that also, she's given you signs that she wouldn't mind you being her 'guy friend' while she is here. To me it sounds more like what you two want is a innocent summer fling, they are pretty normal. Nothing wrong with a few stolen kisses here and there and that fluttery feeling you get then. A lot here act like they've never had that....remember summer camps???????? So, stop overthinking and analyzing this ... ask her to do something with you, heck even if it's just the two to go to the park to hang out, go for a icecream...just something. Because at this rate...by the time you figure this out her month will be over and then you'll be back here going...i should've,could've. So grab your two raisins and make a move already.

anudderbday48

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The why not of an engagement ring Posted: 6/26/2009 6:47:18 PM
I've said this before on another thread with a similar topic. In Germany, you buy the wedding rings and wear them on the left hand. Then when you marry, the same rings get moved to the right hand. If there is a additional ring, it's a small stone or a design with small stones that gets worn with the future wedding band on the left hand. I had never seen big diamond clunker engagement rings until I was around americans. So this seems to be more of a North american tradition. Also the rings are bought as a set together by both parties..none of that mismatch thing I see a lot here. I like it because there is never any doubt who is engaged or married.

anudderbday48

Joined: 2/16/2009

Msg: 43 (view)

Good single dad's and the justice system Posted: 6/22/2009 4:41:40 PM
OP you need a lawyer in this, like a previous poster said... most have a free first consultation. You need to know what your rights and obligations are before you go to court, otherwise what if she shows up with a lawyer, you'd be screwed. I am sure you have some friends that have gone through custody hearings before...if I were you, I'd ask a female that has won custody of her kids about her lawyer and start there. Make sure you have a plan and a backup plan, have your childcare in order, have care for him if he/she is sick, a dedicated room for the child ..etc, etc etc. you get my drift. In essence make sure you have a second home set up for the child. A home study would probably benefit you also, done before this goes to court, you will show that you really do have the interest of the child in mind.

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