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 Silent Steel
Joined: 2/18/2009
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Shes on Vacation
Posted: 5/19/2013 7:01:57 PM
Geeze Casanova, why would you block women on a dating site that are showing interest in you? Why would you not date one of the thousands of women hitting on you at Starbucks? Why wouldnt you give the coworker that is head over heels in love with you a chance?

You are not clingy....you are pinning over the one woman that isnt showing interest in you and dissing the ones that are. Thats kinda a dumb if you ask me.
 Silent Steel
Joined: 2/18/2009
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The Things That don't make sense on this site
Posted: 5/16/2013 8:36:18 PM
You have been here three whole days and have had tons of people looking at your profile, exchanging thirty messages with one woman, and have sent out 100 other messages? Is that what you are saying? If it is, you need to calm the hell down and have some patience.
 Silent Steel
Joined: 2/18/2009
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Why do I get so few responses?
Posted: 5/8/2013 12:11:47 AM
You have two bland pictures and a short unimaginative profile. Women want to know that they will have fun meeting you, and right now your profile is not giving them that feeling.....not even a little bit...{no pun intended}.
 Silent Steel
Joined: 2/18/2009
Msg: 11 (view)
 
I am 5'8. Is that a problem?
Posted: 5/8/2013 12:07:27 AM
So you have put up a semi boring profile with two less then stellar photos, and you are counting on the "meet me" feature to have success where your competition is most likely doing ten times more then you have? You need to work the other features of the site to your advantage. Use the favorite button to send a low key wink. Use the forums to find POF parties in your area. Send messages to all kinds of women, even if they dont fit into exactly what your looking for. Its either gonna end up being good practice for you, or it may open some doors for you. Be creative with your profile and pictures....rotating your pictures as your main one periodically. A woman who passed on you because of one picture, may be attracted by another.

In short {no pun intended} its not your height...its how much work are you wanting to do to succeed? As of now....it has been minimal.
 Silent Steel
Joined: 2/18/2009
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Girlfriend is moving into her own apartment and I want her to have a better TV...
Posted: 4/19/2013 7:46:46 AM
You arnt really upgrading her tv for her, you are doing it for yourself. Thats the way she will see it anyways, even if you do make the mistake of telling her about your prenuptial.
 Silent Steel
Joined: 2/18/2009
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why do women put up with being called B*&^ch hoe and slut?
Posted: 4/19/2013 6:49:37 AM
I would think that women realize that there are far worse things happening in this world that are way more offensive then a few words. You could also argue that there are women who actually refer to them and their friends as "ho's" in a light hearted manner, thus taking any offensiveness out of the word itself.
 Silent Steel
Joined: 2/18/2009
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What am I doing wrong?
Posted: 4/18/2013 10:45:54 AM
If you cant get laid while in college, which is the equivalence to shooting fish in a barrel, online dating is gonna be brutal which could be the equivalence to teeing up your balls and letting strange women kick them into the street.
 Silent Steel
Joined: 2/18/2009
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The Friend zone..
Posted: 4/18/2013 10:30:45 AM
First and foremost, if you place a woman with size 36DDD in your friend zone and you are not attracted to her, then do not tell her that the next time you see her you will be doing nothing but staring at them all night. Its sending her conflicting messages.

Secondly, if you place a woman with size 36DDD in your friend zone, you wont have to worry about having too many friend zone problems and or questions, cause theres isnt gonna be much room for anyone else in your friend zone.

Thirdly....Quit lying...how fast did it take you to save the picture of those bad boys?
 Silent Steel
Joined: 2/18/2009
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Asking for more photo's....
Posted: 4/10/2013 8:28:05 PM
Who gives a crap if you sound superficial or not. Men have valid reasons for wanting to be sure who they are talking to by asking for more pictures. It could be a guy, and crazy ex, or some minor messing around....asking for pictures is an extremely smart thing to do.

 Silent Steel
Joined: 2/18/2009
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So ladies what do you think of a really handsome man who talks in monotone?
Posted: 4/10/2013 12:11:28 AM
Whoever you were learning from while studying the social dynamics of what women want, needs their azz kicked immediately, if not sooner. "Really handsome" is what others call you, not what you call yourself. That should have been taught in hour one on day one in your dynamics class.
 Silent Steel
Joined: 2/18/2009
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What are the best ways to meet an attractive woman that is not a gold digger or snob?
Posted: 4/9/2013 11:59:14 PM
You are not as attractive as you give yourself credit for, when you use childish names like jerks and douchebags to describe your competition.
 Silent Steel
Joined: 2/18/2009
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Do I need to try harder?
Posted: 4/7/2013 7:58:17 AM
Any time you have to ask yourself "Do I need to try harder?", the answer is always going to be yes.

 Silent Steel
Joined: 2/18/2009
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People who waste my time
Posted: 4/2/2013 12:25:19 AM
I am taking the time to give advice that you asked for, and you respond with name calling and rudeness. I wont waste your precious time anymore lil fella. The chip on your shoulder is blocking your ears from hearing sound advice, and you now are the one that will waste peoples time who dont respond to this thread the way you want them to.
 Silent Steel
Joined: 2/18/2009
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People who waste my time
Posted: 4/2/2013 12:08:34 AM
You have been here for a week....It seems to me that your expectations of what on line dating is does not match what on line dating actually is. Lighten up, be patient, have fun, and be prepared to fail quite a few times before you succeed.
 Silent Steel
Joined: 2/18/2009
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People who waste my time
Posted: 4/2/2013 12:02:49 AM
The OP is obviously not confident if he is on here saying that he is losing confidence because women do not respond to a profile that is written to sound confident.
 Silent Steel
Joined: 2/18/2009
Msg: 4 (view)
 
People who waste my time
Posted: 4/1/2013 11:53:53 PM
Your profile is written in a way that makes you sound pomp-ass. You try to convey that you are better then most guys, and most cooks in this world, and that your time is easily wasted. Why the hell would a woman that does not know you take a chance of failing with a guy who thinks he is so good and judges his time as so precious?

Lighten up.
 Silent Steel
Joined: 2/18/2009
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Is this a date or not?
Posted: 4/1/2013 11:45:32 PM
Maybe you two should stop playing all these grabass games with each other, and start talking to each other like adults. As for you personally, dont get yourself so wrapped up in thin definitions that really mean nothing. If you are going to a movie with a woman that puts lead in your pencil, rather then staying home watching your little brother, who cares what its called.
 Silent Steel
Joined: 2/18/2009
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How do girls feel about storm chasers?
Posted: 3/31/2013 7:48:10 AM
I believe that you wanting to be a storm chaser, is nothing more then you spewing something that sounds exciting, to attract women. If I had to guess, you probably have done this kind of thing before with some other profession or past time that sounds exciting to you. Its ok to be a dreamer, but if you have no ability to actually fulfill those dreams, then you are doing nothing more then being a glorified liar.
 Silent Steel
Joined: 2/18/2009
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Ex girlfriend contacted me - what should I do now?
Posted: 3/30/2013 1:33:27 AM
It seems to me that you are doing nothing but playing games. You excused her actions by saying she has clinical anxiety, but then say you would need to her to explain her actions. When a woman says she is dumping you because she wants to work on herself, thats her letting you down easy by not saying that she is dumping you because you are not the one for her. You then go on to say that all this fvcking drama is water under the bridge, yet here you are wondering what to do because her dog walked on the phone and somehow dialed your number. Here is my advice.....if you want to waste time trying to get with someone that you are not compatible with....then by all means keep messing around with this situation. Or you could see for yourself that whatever you two had before was a situation for you to learn from so that you can readily partake in healthier relationships in the future.
 Silent Steel
Joined: 2/18/2009
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Where am I going wrong?
Posted: 3/25/2013 12:36:06 AM
When a woman gives you her number, what you do with it is the test.

Calling her shows that you have confidence, and are aware that you actually have a set of balls.

Texting her basically says that you have to sprinkle pepper in your lap and wait for you balls to sneeze to find them. You may want to avoid this option in the future.
 Silent Steel
Joined: 2/18/2009
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thanks but no thanks?
Posted: 3/25/2013 12:23:38 AM
If a woman kicked you in the balls, would it make you feel better to know why? Dont ask for bad news that you dont want to read, written by women that have no interest in seeing you naked.
 Silent Steel
Joined: 2/18/2009
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At what point should both parties agree to delete/disable their profiles?
Posted: 3/24/2013 7:25:38 AM
I dont get it???? You are comfortable enough to talk, text, meet, and stick your penis into a woman on the internet, but are somehow uncomfortable when it comes to talking about deleting your profile? If you could sack up to do all those other things....you should be able to muster enough balls to handle this.
 Silent Steel
Joined: 2/18/2009
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Why do women really post sexy pictures?
Posted: 3/19/2013 2:44:55 PM
Its a sad sad day, when a guy who responds to a woman who shows cleavage or sexy pictures is considered a sleaze bag or a douche. I guess all the women should dress up like nuns to appease the self righteous.
 Silent Steel
Joined: 2/18/2009
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Am I coming on too strong?
Posted: 3/18/2013 8:11:44 PM
For Godsake...quit judging the dude. What he is here looking for does not take away from his question, nor does it mean that people should use up his limited responses bashing him for blind assumptions. Perhaps him and his wife are in an open marriage, and the woman he is talking to is also here looking for a IE.

OP...there is no answer that is gonna really help you much since no one here has been in on your conversations. You have, so if you feel you are coming on too strong, you most likely are. If you feel that you should call her, then you should.
 Silent Steel
Joined: 2/18/2009
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About to give up
Posted: 3/18/2013 8:01:27 PM
1. "They dont respond"= They are not interested.

2. "They seem scared of talking and seeing where it can go and when you try to get to know them you get answers in 1 or 2 words and they dont ask you anything"= They arnt scared of talking to you, they are trying to be nice and not kick you in the nuts by not responding.

3. "They want to send endless emails or texts"= They are showing interest in you and for whatever reason its not good enough for you.

"About to give up" after 11 days= Unmanaged expectations.
 Silent Steel
Joined: 2/18/2009
Msg: 3 (view)
 
how do you know if a girl really loves you?
Posted: 3/17/2013 4:25:21 PM
You did find the one. The one that used you as her rebound hump and dump. Dont worry, it happens. Just because you fell between her legs, does not mean she loves you. There is one woman that is guaranteed to love you no matter what, and that is your mother. All others, you will have to take your chances with by learning from your previous mistakes.
 Silent Steel
Joined: 2/18/2009
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Mother lives with me. Any hope of finding the one?
Posted: 3/17/2013 8:12:11 AM
If you are on here with the sole goal of meeting "the one", you may be setting yourself up for disappointment. Thats like saying you wont have fun until you find the needle in the haystack. You should try being on here with the goal of going out and having fun, meeting women, which would give you a better chance of meeting one that you jive with. Your profile pretty much says you are a bookworm that has cats, and watches tv on weekends with mom. That image does not promote excitement in too many women. Rewrite your profile that gives women the mental image that they will have fun meeting you, back that image up when they respond to your messages, and keep it going when you meet.
 Silent Steel
Joined: 2/18/2009
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Honest cheesy pickup line, how would you react?
Posted: 3/6/2013 6:16:06 PM
The problem with pick up lines, is the type of women that actually respond to pick up lines.

 Silent Steel
Joined: 2/18/2009
Msg: 16 (view)
 
is there any appricative young women left
Posted: 3/4/2013 6:44:20 PM
I culdnt even read dat dam opining qestion well enuff to anser it.

 Silent Steel
Joined: 2/18/2009
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Why is my leg a conversation killer?
Posted: 3/3/2013 3:59:20 PM
There are enough guys that actually do use pity seeking lines to attract women, which chases them away when anything sounds as such. Stop sounding as such.
 Silent Steel
Joined: 2/18/2009
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Choose between big penis or good looks?
Posted: 3/3/2013 3:55:09 PM
I have an outrageously big penis, but the women seem to be inconvenienced by the appliance dolly that I wheel it around on everyday. Its a curse I live with.
 Silent Steel
Joined: 2/18/2009
Msg: 10 (view)
 
How to leave friend zone
Posted: 3/1/2013 3:58:55 PM
If you havent already made a pass at her, with her response being "No thanks, I like you as a friend" then you arnt technically in the "friendzone" yet. Ask her out....the worst thing that could happen is that you end up where you think you already are.
 Silent Steel
Joined: 2/18/2009
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Is this a good idea?
Posted: 2/19/2013 4:37:45 PM
Dude, you dont owe anyone anything until you get to the point of intimacy. I think you are making this harder then it needs to be, or you lack experience in dating.
 Silent Steel
Joined: 2/18/2009
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Self harm scars
Posted: 2/19/2013 4:22:17 PM
"Falling into a self-destructive pattern" is a highly sugar coated way of putting a pretty serious defect that is likely to happen again, if you havent received some serious professional counseling.
 Silent Steel
Joined: 2/18/2009
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Manly stuff on profiles
Posted: 2/18/2013 11:35:03 AM
If having a woman trying to impress you is a problem, then stop looking at profiles that are written that way. There are plenty of Princess wannabes on this site for you to chose from.
 Silent Steel
Joined: 2/18/2009
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Someone please explain this
Posted: 2/18/2013 11:27:08 AM
The last woman that flirted with me, felt up my thigh under the table while we were out to dinner. Anything less then that isnt flirting. She didnt flirt with you, she used an option on a free dating website to get your attention.
 Silent Steel
Joined: 2/18/2009
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When will short guys learn?
Posted: 12/8/2012 10:07:48 AM
This is at least your second attempt to rant about how your size is hurting you on here. You can keep on giving it all your attention and let the Napolian syndrome grow, or you can accept that women have preferences when it comes to height.

Quit obsessing!
 Silent Steel
Joined: 2/18/2009
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Where do i go from here...in a funny situation
Posted: 12/3/2012 11:11:08 AM
It doesnt sound like either one of you are all that shy. She invites you to a house that she is dog sitting at, you go and play some grab azz, then she drops you off at your apartment and parts with some throat swabbing.
 Silent Steel
Joined: 2/18/2009
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I'm not sure I'm doing this right
Posted: 12/2/2012 8:39:29 PM
If dating were easy, everyone would be doing it. This is not McDonalds, where you walk in and order a large size number 12 meal deal, and its served to you in 14.2 seconds. If it was that easy, dating would suck. Look around the site, look at both male and female profiles to get ideas on how to make yours better. Partake in the forums...you can learn a lot, and if you dont, well its cheap entertainment.
 Silent Steel
Joined: 2/18/2009
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Hi ladies, I sent this message to my ex. What do you think?
Posted: 12/2/2012 8:34:28 PM
OP...It will be perceived as needy by a woman who clearly wasnt honest with the real reasons for the break up. "Needing to love herself and take better care of herself", is as bad as her saying "its me not you".

My guess is that she saw you having stronger feelings for her then she did for you, and was trying to let you down nicely, and is now cutting you off by not answering your texts. Dont put yourself through any more turmoil by sending her any thing.
 Silent Steel
Joined: 2/18/2009
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Single Woman and Older Married Man are friends
Posted: 12/2/2012 9:34:31 AM
As long as you remain in the "CONSIDERING" stage of your decision, who her friends are is really non of your concern. She has been honest and candid with you, and you dont seem trusting or mature enough to handle it. Move along and consider dating someone else who has friends that reside in your tight comfort zone. This relationship wont work any ways, because it will now be built on mistrust of a person whom you say is being honest and candid with you.

I take young college females, who have played for me and are now back coaching for me, out for dinner all the time. I enjoy hearing about their lives and the struggles they face at their age, and I also enjoy them seeking the advice of an old coach. These kinds of interactions fulfill a need that I have because of not having any kids of my own.

Its very possible that this woman and man have some sort of relationship that fulfills a need other then sex.
 Silent Steel
Joined: 2/18/2009
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employed FT, PT songwriter
Posted: 11/29/2012 11:38:06 PM
Last time I checked....lying, cheating, and stealing were on the top of the list of what women do not want from a potential partner. I can almost safely say that song writing isnt anywhere on that list.
 Silent Steel
Joined: 2/18/2009
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Vanished
Posted: 11/28/2012 11:30:38 AM
Jess,

Our parents teach us as kids to look both ways before we cross the street. They dont do it because there are millions of kids being crushed by cars on a daily basis. They do it because a few do every now and then. Its great advice. These people are surely giving you great advice to be careful because people have been taken advantage of.....but not enough for you to just assume that you are gonna get taken advantage of. Dont accept things blindly, let people earn your trust, always meet in a public place, let someone know where you are going....and oh yeah......HAVE FUN!
 Silent Steel
Joined: 2/18/2009
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Frustrated...
Posted: 11/27/2012 2:10:21 PM
I dont know how anyone can help you out with only three sentences worth of information. The moral police have already kicked you in the balls, and someone else found enough to say to use 6 of your responses up, but when its all said and done only you can help yourself.

If you are staying home watching the kids with no car, then it seems logical that your wife is the one driving to work and making the money. It also seems logical that she may be a bit peeved that you are doing what she would like to be doing. If she is already peeved, then it would seem logical that her having to come home and listening to you whine about her not fulfilling your needs is making matters worse.

If you really want to fix your situation....take some of the irons of responsibility out of her fire. I have no idea what that looks like for you....but you could start with making sure she feels she can relax when she gets home. You could if you arnt already, look for a way to start a part time business that you can do from home....that may turn her back on to you...as you are then contributing to the house hold income.
 Silent Steel
Joined: 2/18/2009
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Can things be going too Good, that woman get scared?
Posted: 11/26/2012 8:29:11 PM
Yeah, she was scared alright....thus the line "its you not me". She was scared to tell you it indeed was you.

 Silent Steel
Joined: 2/18/2009
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Is height a deal breaker?
Posted: 11/26/2012 6:25:11 PM
It would be an issue to a woman who would get tired of hauling out a step ladder for you to change a door knob. All others you will have to work through to find one thats compatible with you.....like us tall guys have to do.
 Silent Steel
Joined: 2/18/2009
Msg: 17 (view)
 
service unavailable
Posted: 11/26/2012 10:58:00 AM
Why is that people who pay nothing seem to have the highest displeasure when something goes wrong? I could see if this thread were filled with paying customers, but it isnt...its filled with non paying members.
 Silent Steel
Joined: 2/18/2009
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Coming back to POF - Do you block familiar/unfavorable profiles?
Posted: 11/26/2012 9:25:39 AM
Either you are not telling us the whole story, or you are just telling the sugar coated side that portrays her in a bad light. There is no way for someone to block someone else with out contact being made, and there is no way that you would know that it was done within MINUTES.

If you both have been on and off POF, what makes you think you have anything to offer her as far as advice goes when it comes to what she is doing wrong with her profile? Yet you called her vain.

I think its clear that you did indeed make contact with her, she blocked you, you left and came back, made contact again and got blocked again. Leave that woman alone.
 Silent Steel
Joined: 2/18/2009
Msg: 4 (view)
 
A Dating Conundrum: 23 years ago and today.
Posted: 11/25/2012 5:04:35 PM
All of this came from a two hour conversation with a woman that you havent seen in 23 years? You may think things havent changed in 23 years, but how realistic is that?
 Silent Steel
Joined: 2/18/2009
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Effort
Posted: 11/25/2012 1:14:31 PM
Do you catch a fish every time you cast your line? Nope. Do you get a nibble every time you cast your line? Nope. Would it be a waste of time to keep casting your line? Only if you think you are a failure for not catching something on every cast.

Dating is the same thing.
 
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