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Silent Steel

Joined: 2/18/2009

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Do women really not get this? I can't believe they don't. Posted: 10/15/2009 9:14:56 AM
I dont believe that this topic is as dark and gloomy as people are making out to be. I dont beileve most people are comfortable saying things that they know will hurt someone else, which is actually a good thing. I would hate to see how this world would be if there was a global comfort in doing such. The part that seems to cause the problems, is that elusive actions still hurt that person as much if not more so. It is such a "rock and a hard place" scenerio, that if given the option, a lot of people shelter themselves from the guilt of what needs to be said, by opting for elusive behavior. There are people who "play" others for the sole reason of propping their own ego's, but my guess is that they make up a very small percentage of the population.

Silent Steel

Joined: 2/18/2009

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What does I want to be by myself means? Posted: 10/14/2009 8:30:47 AM
There is an upside to all of this.....now you can have all that money to yourself!! Who cares if she is by herself or not, find someone who fits better into your life.

Silent Steel

Joined: 2/18/2009

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What to do? Lie, Stop or Forget Dating Posted: 10/14/2009 7:48:03 AM
Use it as a filter....those who have a problem with it are most likely to insecure to be with anyways. In the winter months I coach college aged girls in volleyball, and occasionally I will meet a woman that will make stupid remarks about me being around young women in spandex. I use it as a filter, and it has worked out fine.

Silent Steel

Joined: 2/18/2009

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What are signs she's leading you on? Posted: 10/13/2009 9:32:57 AM
If you want to know the signs, you have to look in the mirror. You can only be led on, if you allow yourself to be led on.

Silent Steel

Joined: 2/18/2009

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Is There Any Hope? Posted: 10/13/2009 9:26:34 AM
I gotta tell ya Andy, some of the verbage you are using kinda makes you sound like a little wounded puppy. Here are some examples: "Is there any hope?"........very dramatic, and kinda weak. "I am always really polite and gentlemanly".......people who refer to them selves in an overstated positive light, often times are exactly the opposite. "who is quite different from most guys in their 20's".....every guy in their 20's says this. "just try and be happy with someone younger".........there is no such thing as trying to be happy..either they are happy or they are not. "Could you fall in love with a younger whose 20, that has fallen for you"............This is dangerously close to sounding pathetic, and screams that you have the potential of being a doormat. At your age I would be out dating and having fun, and quit trying to have a LTR.

Silent Steel

Joined: 2/18/2009

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Do women all over the world make phony dates? Posted: 10/13/2009 6:40:28 AM
Who the hell dug this thread up from 2006, and why? It seems like a silly question today as it must of sounded three years ago.

Silent Steel

Joined: 2/18/2009

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33 and divorced. Missed the entire dating scene. Any tips?? Help! Posted: 10/13/2009 6:34:34 AM
Hell I am 41 and having the time of my life. You being 33 should find that there will be a lot of women freshly divorced, and ready to have some fun. Just get out there and date without any expectations, and have some fun.

Silent Steel

Joined: 2/18/2009

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ladies what is it about the security shirt Posted: 10/13/2009 6:28:09 AM
I cant imagine what kind of shirt is actually worn by the bouncer of a biker/redneck bar, but it cant be more then a t-shirt with the word "security" on it. With that being the case, are you really interested in the kind of women that would be attracted by such a stupid thing?

Silent Steel

Joined: 2/18/2009

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Two Questions: One about POF, one about real-life Posted: 10/11/2009 3:29:53 PM
You certainly get the award for the longest question ever posed on a pof forum. If you are indeed feeling "sick to your stomach", then you are still taking this way to seriously. It seems that you look at a dating site as a guaranteed way to meet the woman of your dreams. It is not. I would either relax your expectation, or better yet, get off the computer and go out and meet women in person. You need some street smarts in dating to succeed on the internet.

Silent Steel

Joined: 2/18/2009

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Test Driving Posted: 10/11/2009 3:21:21 PM
Perhaps they dont believe much of what you say, after all, with that username, you should at least have a picture of you actually flying a jet. Being a pilot is cool, but not need to over sell it.

Silent Steel

Joined: 2/18/2009

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our lasses best mate keep cuming on to me Posted: 10/11/2009 3:08:28 PM
Thanks for taking the time to write that chicken scratch. Next time scratch it in english.

Silent Steel

Joined: 2/18/2009

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I don't know why I even bother............. Posted: 10/10/2009 3:41:56 PM
On your profile, you say your here for dating....well guess what?....you succeeded in finding what you were looking for. So whats the problem? I would bet she is here for dating as well..... Dating different people is healthy, and will eventually help you decide what you want from a SO when you choose to start looking for a LTR. She has the right to date others as well, so she can decide for herself.

Silent Steel

Joined: 2/18/2009

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How to meet women. Posted: 10/10/2009 12:01:37 AM
You seem to be putting a lot of limitations on something you dont have much experience with. At 20 years old, why arnt you out having some fun at the clubs? Its a great way to meet women, and a good way to get some practice learning how to talk with them. Its ok to go out and have a few drinks, get yourself out of your comfort level, and have some fun flirting. Thats the way we all did it before the dam computer made things so complicated.

Silent Steel

Joined: 2/18/2009

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Does a womens favortie childhood love story have relivence in adulthood. Posted: 10/9/2009 11:48:58 PM
I cant remember the name of the story about the girl who had really long hair and used it to let some dude climb up the tower she was in to save her....but I am thinking that hair that long would make one hell of a pump knot.

Silent Steel

Joined: 2/18/2009

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Must not be looking for Talk/E-mail? Posted: 10/9/2009 4:38:48 PM
Just because you like writing Penthouse forum letters, does not mean everyone will enjoy reading them. And just for the record...I dont mind Penthouse forum letters, but I dont want them from you.

Silent Steel

Joined: 2/18/2009

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why do woman on POF do this Posted: 10/9/2009 9:55:06 AM
I personally have no problem with pictures of women showing some skin...its cheap eye candy. I wont stand in line to talk to them or anything, but hey if they want to show it, I will absolutely take a look.

Silent Steel

Joined: 2/18/2009

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I've got a fetish Posted: 10/8/2009 10:58:23 AM
Just write on your profile that you are looking for a woman who has to make two trips when she hauls azz.

Silent Steel

Joined: 2/18/2009

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She is Just wanting friends but gives her number Posted: 10/6/2009 8:09:18 AM
How the hell do you know that you want more with her if you havent even met her? When I see stuff like this, it truley amazes me how difficult dating is for some people. Why dont you just relax on all the frickin expectations, and just enjoy meeting people that you wouldnt normally meet. Maybe something grows from it maybe it doesnt, but learning to be social with strangers will help you in the long run.

Silent Steel

Joined: 2/18/2009

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Am I really that immature? If I am I need help... Posted: 10/6/2009 8:02:44 AM
Anyone who makes knee jerk decisions based on their emotions is considered immature. You kicking her off of your friends list after a one date rejection, is a knee jerk reaction. You justifying your actions by saying you need to isolate yourself is also a sign of immaturity, especially in the light of it being after one date. There is good news though...you are only 20 years old, so your immaturity should be somewhat expected.

Silent Steel

Joined: 2/18/2009

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met skanky woman off this site Posted: 10/5/2009 4:52:57 PM
This has got to be a full of sh1t story. I realize there are people who make bad decisions and end up in situations like this, but rarely do they call attention to themselves out in public.

Silent Steel

Joined: 2/18/2009

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Should I give this woman a second chance? Posted: 10/4/2009 4:03:41 PM
For godsake man, do you really expect to rate higher then her own flesh and blood? I have seen your posts from time to time in here on these forums, and my opinion is that you make things way harder on yourself then they need to be. She called and apoligized profusely according to you, but your so hell bent on being p1ssed off, that you just want to stay feeling that way.

Silent Steel

Joined: 2/18/2009

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Credit card rejected on first date. Posted: 10/4/2009 3:34:35 PM
The answers that have been posted to this question, tell the sad tale of just how far out of touch we are as human beings. The first assumption seems to be that in such a scenario, the person must somehow be irresponsible. There are times when sh1t happens that are beyond someones control, and to automatically assume the worst in someone is really only judging that person by the actions of someone in your past, most likely. I was at a gas station a couple of years ago, and there was a beautiful woman in a fancy car, who was unable to buy gas due to some problem with her card. I paid for her gas that day just cause it was the right thing to do. She must have gotten my phone number off the side of my truck, because I didnt give it to her that day, but her husband called me later that night to thank me for being so kind to his wife. Her husband was Ted Nuggent, and I would be almost certain that there was no finacial problems going on there.

Silent Steel

Joined: 2/18/2009

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why do women judge a man on what he have or have not? Posted: 10/4/2009 8:20:28 AM
When shopping for something dont you have a decision process that you go through? People, including women, have that same decision process when they are looking for a prospect. I would guess that you have a problem with your job more then women do.

Silent Steel

Joined: 2/18/2009

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Would you consider it overkill if someone went to a professional photographer to take online pics? Posted: 10/1/2009 9:49:58 PM
Paying to have professional pictures taken for a free website, is kinda like going to eat at a five star restaurant because the proceeds of said dinner are being dontated to feeding the starving children of the world.......dosent make much sense does it?

Silent Steel

Joined: 2/18/2009

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Lost for words - pretty much a first for me Posted: 10/1/2009 9:39:57 PM
Dont keep people who cant act right in your life, no matter what the relationship you have with them. Let her think what she wants, and move on to someone who has a clue.

Silent Steel

Joined: 2/18/2009

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Drunk Text.... Help Posted: 9/24/2009 8:40:29 AM
If your still an emotional wreck from the last relationship, your no where near ready to make this one work. Laying off the booze will help, although I will predict it wont help with this one.

Silent Steel

Joined: 2/18/2009

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Does Getting Blocked Get You Deleted? Posted: 9/24/2009 6:03:19 AM
I always thought it would have been a good idea if POF would have had the number of times someone has been blocked viewable on profiles, rather then the number of favorites they are on.

Silent Steel

Joined: 2/18/2009

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how interested is she? Posted: 9/24/2009 5:48:17 AM
When fishing....some fish just nibble at whatever bait is on the hook....its frustrating as hell...you keep jerking the line in hopes to catch the little sob. Others explode out of the water when attacking the lure, which is way more thrilling, isnt it? Either way though....its better then just sitting there getting no attention to whatever lure your using.

Silent Steel

Joined: 2/18/2009

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Why can't we be friends? Posted: 9/24/2009 4:52:12 AM
I am here for friends, and have met some really great people along the way, through the forums, the profiles, and the occasional pof party.

Silent Steel

Joined: 2/18/2009

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My friend says my profile sounds gay?...does it? Posted: 9/23/2009 9:45:27 PM
Did your friend say that while you two were taking a warm shower together after a round of golf? If not I wouldnt worry about it.

Silent Steel

Joined: 2/18/2009

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Am i just kidding myself? Posted: 9/23/2009 9:28:54 PM
You my friend are experiencing the old battle between the heart and mind. No one can tell you which one to listen to, as it is different for each of us. Just pick one and go with it.

Silent Steel

Joined: 2/18/2009

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why cant women just let go.. Posted: 9/23/2009 9:21:21 PM
The only sound advice I can give is this....LESS IS BETTER! Less marriage or attempts at such. Less details. Less jadedness. And pretty much less of anything else from what I am getting from this post.

Silent Steel

Joined: 2/18/2009

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Ladies What am I doing wrong? Posted: 9/23/2009 8:58:35 PM
You put about 5 minutes effort into your profile, and are now wondering what your doing wrong? There is a heck of alot of competition on here, and 5 minutes worth of effort wont cut it, my young friend.

Silent Steel

Joined: 2/18/2009

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Been 4 days and 3 responses? Posted: 9/23/2009 8:53:13 PM
Not everyone is on here checking their messages everyday. Three days is not alot. Three responses is.

Silent Steel

Joined: 2/18/2009

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What will she think to NO for Sex Posted: 9/23/2009 8:44:49 PM
Your question makes no sense. She wanted sex, you said no because you wanted to show respect, but you think you made a poor choice by doing so? I am sure she found someone who said yes, and has forgotton about you by now anyways......which is probably a good thing.

Silent Steel

Joined: 2/18/2009

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Is a guy who seems a bit of a square a complete turn-off? Posted: 9/23/2009 6:32:19 PM
Just tell them that when you stayed after school, sucking up to the teacher taking the chalk board erasers outside to bang them together, you did so without holding your breath. It will show that you had a wild side.

Silent Steel

Joined: 2/18/2009

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Is it Wrong to want to be with a Younger Woman Posted: 9/23/2009 3:26:21 PM
After reading your profile, I would say its you who is settled in their ways. Date who ever you want, and quit worring about what others think. If your worried about rejection, you will have that concern no matter what age your looking for.

Silent Steel

Joined: 2/18/2009

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Will Love Find Me Posted: 9/23/2009 9:52:11 AM
You may want to balance your rose colored view of the world, that has been brought on by "sleepless in Seattle, by watching "Fatal Attraction". After that has been accomplished, throw the tv out the window, adjust the flap of skin that hangs, and get yourself out and get some real dating experience.

Silent Steel

Joined: 2/18/2009

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What consideration went into picking your user name? Posted: 9/22/2009 6:42:40 PM
Through my time on POF, I have seen some pretty creative user names. They are such, that it would be hard for me to believe that you just threw names at the system until one was accepted. So what went into your choice?

Silent Steel

Joined: 2/18/2009

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Why is it so hard for women to be upfront? Posted: 9/22/2009 6:28:42 PM
No I am not slow. I am also not the one asking a question, that having ample common sense, would have prevented one from asking in the first place. There is no need to be rude by the way.....if she hasnt given you a name in two emails, she is being cautious. If she hasnt given you her name in countless emails, she is not interested.

Silent Steel

Joined: 2/18/2009

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When should I spring the romance? Posted: 9/22/2009 6:20:32 PM
Do you really know enough about her to already be worring about when to turn on the romance? I think the flower idea is too much, and so is the picnic. I would be spending more time getting to know her befor you bring your A GAME.

Silent Steel

Joined: 2/18/2009

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Why is it so hard for women to be upfront? Posted: 9/22/2009 6:14:10 PM
Well has it been coutless emails or just two? You cant blame a woman for being protective of certain information. Has it crossed your mind that maybe she is just being nice, and may not be all that interested?

Silent Steel

Joined: 2/18/2009

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Would you still date a guy if......... Posted: 9/21/2009 5:40:55 PM
Everyone is screwed up to some degree or another....the ones who arnt, are the ones you dont know very well. Quit worring about it.

Silent Steel

Joined: 2/18/2009

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How do I ask for her name? Posted: 9/21/2009 5:37:58 PM
If you keep seeing the same women, you could try saying something along these lines......."If you are gonna keep following me around town, you may as well know my name".

Silent Steel

Joined: 2/18/2009

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Can you rewrite my profile? Posted: 9/21/2009 4:53:10 PM
Gee I cant really imagine why they are turned off by your profile...after all, you are an "ex-model"!

Silent Steel

Joined: 2/18/2009

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is it weird to have a foot fetish for female feet. Posted: 9/21/2009 10:02:33 AM
It is far too early in the day for the visual of a "footjob" for godsake.....lol.....I mean come one.....!!!

Silent Steel

Joined: 2/18/2009

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No Interest in Sex a Warning Sign? Posted: 9/21/2009 7:35:59 AM
Its quite obvious that you burned it up. Having sex everyday is not common in a LTR, although it would be inclined to happen more so during the "honeymoon" phase. It says more about you then you know, deciding to leave because of it. There is way more to a successful relationship then having sex every day and twice on Sundays. Since you are a cross dresser..why not take a further step in putting yourself in her shoes, by letting your next girl friend strap one on, and laying lumber everyday and twice on Sundays. I would venture to guess your interest in sex might die as well.

Silent Steel

Joined: 2/18/2009

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Why are girls not honest? Posted: 9/21/2009 7:20:37 AM
Sooooo, let me ask you this. Are you paying child support? I would bet that you are not. If indeed you are not, is that really being honest with the role you are painting yourself to be, in this kids life?

Silent Steel

Joined: 2/18/2009

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Ladies, why is this so? Posted: 9/20/2009 7:51:07 PM
Dam...I didnt know I was ugly until I read this thread. Here I was thinking I was meeting beautiful women because of my sense of humor, and animal magnatism. Thanks for screwing up my weekend op.

Silent Steel

Joined: 2/18/2009

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How many lovers is to Posted: 9/20/2009 10:27:07 AM
What is that your actually asking? Are you asking about too many relationships? Or are you asking about how many sexual partners? They arnt the same thing even though there are plenty of people running around that have no clue of this.

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