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oldiebutgoodie

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Msg: 206 (view)

Who likes coffee for a frist date?? Posted: 8/30/2008 10:55:25 AM
Me personally, I like the coffee date. You meet, chat, and see if there is a connection and an attraction. Looks to me that the OP is looking for a FREE meal. Im glad to see though that there are some sensible women out there that understand the idea of the coffee date. Its quick (if need be) and a one time thing (if need be).

oldiebutgoodie

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Problems Logging In? Posted: 8/23/2008 10:05:44 AM
I am not able to log in either - box keeps appearing advising me to go to tools - Internet options and privacy. Cookie setting is on. What now?? I can log into the forum with no problem. This has never happened to me. Was good yesterday...today, it won't let me sign in. Please advise!

oldiebutgoodie

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Sad Disappointment Posted: 8/19/2008 10:22:16 PM
I have been in the same situation with the women. I've heard the line about being ... "a one man woman", and I want to start slow. Ok not a problem. Then I get an IM... Oh, I went to a flea market and met an old flame. I want to see where it goes. It is sad that adults play these games. Unfortunately, thats the way it goes. I wont give up, because there is plenty of women out there, its a waiting game. The right one could be next in line. Same for you, the right man could be just waiting on you. You need to give it time.

oldiebutgoodie

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he liked my friend more Posted: 7/26/2008 9:59:25 AM
I'd say that being on a first date with you, he should of had respect for you and not even mentioned anything about her the second day. If its a small town like you say, he should of tried to meet her on his own. Don't fret it none. Its better this way anyhow. Obviously he would of been a cheater.

oldiebutgoodie

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What to think if no response to pic request Posted: 6/25/2008 5:10:39 PM
I will not usually consider a meeting with a woman...unless I know what they look like. Especially if they live a distance away. Its a waste to drive an extended distance for a cup of coffee ...or even a date , not knowing what they look like, just to come away disappointed.

oldiebutgoodie

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Msg: 56 (view)

How Long after the first meet should you say if your interested in that person or not? Posted: 6/25/2008 5:03:16 PM
There is not a set time limit...if you meet with someone ... usually you can tell within a first meeting wheather or not there is a connection and attraction. You over did yourself a little ... but you clearly showed your interest. And he should of at least gave you a considerate call or text to confirm his thoughts.

oldiebutgoodie

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Msg: 79 (view)

could you live without a BJ for the rest of your life Posted: 6/22/2008 8:02:54 PM
No way I could live without it! I enjoy feasting on a woman...and she better do me the same way. And if not...she's out the door!

oldiebutgoodie

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Why have so many women never had an orgasm? Posted: 6/22/2008 7:47:24 PM
# 57 ... had it right... it's selfish men! depending on the age maybe. But the older men... like me, I aim to please. satisfaction guarenteed... Older men are like fine wine....... they get better with time!!!

oldiebutgoodie

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Msg: 45 (view)

Clean-Up afterwards...disturbing???!!!!??? Posted: 6/12/2008 9:50:59 AM
There should be no offense to getting cleaned up after sex! I always clean up after sex. Especially when Im going to sleep. I want to be clean and refreshed. Makes me feel better, I hate being sticky and yucky! But, to each their own!

oldiebutgoodie

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What is Going On These days With MEN??? Posted: 6/12/2008 9:31:46 AM
As far as I am concerned, If a woman wants to meet half way with me, that is fine by me. I can understand the safety factor, and I would make "NO" demands. Every one has a right to feel safe when meeting!

oldiebutgoodie

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Has this ever happened to you? Posted: 6/9/2008 9:01:25 PM
Thats probably happened to lots of people before. But you cant make someone like you. If he's not into you...theres nothing to say or do about it. Move on!

oldiebutgoodie

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Meeting Men Is Hard Posted: 6/9/2008 8:57:28 PM
Meeting women is twice as hard. I think that destany and fate are what keeps us into a motivational urge to keep pressing on. You may go through 50 men... till BOOM!!!! There he is. And I may go through 50 women... before I meet someone. Thing is keep on keeping on! Better luck lies ahead!

oldiebutgoodie

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confused,, how do i get my man back? Posted: 6/2/2008 7:50:16 AM
Maybe this will help you! First off I can agree with Krysteene on all of what she said, " you cannot make someone love you or want to be with you if they don't love you and don't want to be with you. You have to accept his decision and try to move on from it. You'll just make yourself miserable." I have been single and alone for 31 years, because of my job. I now have time to invest in a relationship, where before I didnt. If I had someone tell me that they LOVED ME right now, and have her move real quick in a way you did. I would maybe scare too. If you want to get him back. Try giving him all the space he needs to recoup from the scare, and let him alone to think out his thoughts and feelings, alone, without pressure from you. just maybe, that will help him overcome his fears. But, for right now, let him alone! Ne phone calls, texts, going any place he hangs out, nothing. Good luck !!!!!

oldiebutgoodie

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Would you shave your partner's privates?? Posted: 5/28/2008 1:50:45 PM
I have had it done before with my g/f at the time. We were both real smooth and when we had sex, it was an awsome feeling. I'd do it again.

oldiebutgoodie

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Disappearing Posted: 5/25/2008 11:02:35 AM
What she is actually telling you, without telling you, is Im not interested! Thats what you need to do! Move on!

oldiebutgoodie

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Msg: 92 (view)

men..would you date a woman with little or no sex drive? Posted: 5/24/2008 10:57:24 PM
yes, I could date a woman with little or no sex drive. Its whats in the heart that counts. As long as we got along and had the connection and attraction.

oldiebutgoodie

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the reason(s) in having a kid Posted: 5/24/2008 12:35:46 PM
I believe that women within the age range of 19 to 25 that end up pregnant, is because they dont practice safe sex. It seems to be unplanned, and basically men at that same age, want sex, but dont want the responsibility of kids. A no win situation for the lady! And Im not judging any one! Just my 2 cents

oldiebutgoodie

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How exactly DO you find people who you are attracted to, and also have mutual chemistry with? Posted: 5/24/2008 12:20:49 PM
You need both ATTRACTION and CONNECTION to make relationships work! Just because you have connection, (things in common), you also need the attraction that goes with it (looks, smile, attitude, body, and general deamer). With both, you have plenty in which to build on!

oldiebutgoodie

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Msg: 52 (view)

How do you deal with strong feelings for someone who does not feel the same? Posted: 5/16/2008 9:04:04 PM
You cant make someone love you! Even though love takes time, you should be able to distinguish his feelings. If you cant, time to move on. Plain and simple.

oldiebutgoodie

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Secret Admirer Posted: 5/12/2008 9:50:52 PM
Next time you see him, start a chat, and see where he hangs out at, bars, clubs, etc. Then show up there! I think that is an original. Most likely work!

oldiebutgoodie

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MEN ARE boys WITH TALLER LEGS Posted: 5/12/2008 9:44:50 PM
bilczuk, you need some Bible in your life! Wouldnt hurt your attitude any!

oldiebutgoodie

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Msg: 131 (view)

are bellies sexy or not Posted: 5/12/2008 9:32:13 PM
I dont have a beer belly, Its a fuel tank for a love machine!!!!!!!

oldiebutgoodie

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Msg: 45 (view)

The slut factor Posted: 5/12/2008 9:20:32 PM
That is a little bit better of being clarified. Middle part for me!

oldiebutgoodie

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A truly broken heart Posted: 5/12/2008 3:26:31 PM
All men can relate to this problem. Your only 20 years old. You have a long life ahead of you. Stay positive, and focus more on yourself. Grow a little and let life teach you what you truly need to know. When the right woman comes your way, you'll be ready!

oldiebutgoodie

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Been married for 20 years, feel empty. Posted: 5/12/2008 3:19:33 PM
sounds like you better get out of your marriage real quick. God wants to give a full filling life. And you dont have it. Why after all these years would you want to spend it the way you are, alone and miserable. You need to seek help, for your own personal well being. Life is way to short for what your in. The sooner you do, the better you will feel as a total woman! Angels hear the prayers of your heart, and just by your mental cry for help, they flock to your side. You are in need of comfort and direction. Now is a good time to start. How much pain must one endure before getting the help one needs?

oldiebutgoodie

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Msg: 40 (view)

Do you believe God sends signs? Posted: 5/12/2008 3:00:03 PM
I believe that God helps us with our choices. Its up to us to make the right one. Use you gut instincts. Seems to be the right way to go. And if its the right choice, you'll know it!

oldiebutgoodie

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Where is the love? Posted: 5/12/2008 2:47:15 PM
You are only 19 years old! Most all guys in your age bracket want to hit and run. If your giving booty calls, its time you stop. Try someone on an older age bracket and see what happens. Its what your allowing them to do to you. You know thing arent working your way, change your approach. Good luck!

oldiebutgoodie

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Msg: 117 (view)

Why would my husband leave me for a women much younger Posted: 5/12/2008 2:33:08 PM
prettywoman, you are good looking and im sure you wont have any problems finding someone. Course, Im around your age, and it is difficult finding someone in our age to meet and date. Especially real close to our area. And be happy your hubby is gone at that age. Find one your age. Make life last longer that way!

oldiebutgoodie

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The split 'pain' Posted: 5/12/2008 2:24:01 PM
Lifeisnow, You have a differant thing going on. If you are having thoughts on things like you say, and you are only 35 minutes apart. Find someone real quick to take your mind off of him! Thats the only way!

oldiebutgoodie

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The split 'pain' Posted: 5/12/2008 2:18:26 PM
I would say it is stress. When you try and comprehend to many thoughts about differant things at one time, you will feel like that. And its not good on a person. I'd say, chill and get your mind on something else.

oldiebutgoodie

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God Damn It Posted: 5/12/2008 2:04:13 PM
First off! You just started dating him! And he has stayed with you 3 days! Money is gone, and so is he! That should be a red flag! Depends on how much he took! If it was just a little! Count it as a small price to pay, for getting rid of him!

oldiebutgoodie

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Msg: 30 (view)

Is it wrong or a natural instinct to find another person attractive if you're in a relationship? Posted: 5/12/2008 1:57:20 PM
It is a natural instinct to find another person attractive, even if you're in a relationship! Sometimes it enhances the relationship you are in.

oldiebutgoodie

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What makes a good conversation ? Posted: 5/12/2008 1:42:17 PM
Talk about things that you both like to do, food likes, books, sports, plants, shopping, dancing, etc! Using the things you both enjoy, puts a positive perspective in place. Its not about "I or me" ! Try it and see what happens! Good luck!

oldiebutgoodie

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What`s my problem? Posted: 5/12/2008 1:31:11 PM
You have no problem! Its the womans problem. Be glad you found out early in the game!

oldiebutgoodie

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Lack of information in profession slot Posted: 5/12/2008 1:16:51 PM
Im retired so it doesnt matter to me! But, its a good way for a person to make contact!

oldiebutgoodie

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Thin Overweight Average Posted: 5/12/2008 11:33:47 AM
Me myself prefer to be with a more then an average woman. I am a bigger man, and I prefer the same. But I dont really make it a manditory requirement to any size !

oldiebutgoodie

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The slut factor Posted: 5/12/2008 11:11:56 AM
Personally, Why are you using the word "SLUT"???? Maybe you should try using a better definition of what your trying to say!

oldiebutgoodie

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Too soon to have sex - really like him already!! Posted: 5/12/2008 10:50:28 AM
I dont believe that there is such a thing as a time limit. It has to do with your attraction and connection. You do what you feel is best. If everything you say is true. Then I would say, take the chance. But, in life there are things that will and do go wrong. You could also hold out and see where it really goes. The sex part, is always an added bonus to a relationship. But be safe and be sure. Would hate to see a good thing, go bad!

oldiebutgoodie

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Msg: 5 (view)

Disturbing advertisements? Posted: 5/10/2008 11:17:50 PM
I clicked on it. It took me to the "mate 1" singles site!

oldiebutgoodie

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Msg: 39 (view)

How soon is too soon for a second date? Posted: 5/5/2008 9:32:54 AM
There is no set time limit. I been on second dates, the very next day!

oldiebutgoodie

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Tired of all TALK no ACTION Posted: 5/5/2008 8:21:48 AM
There is nothing you can do. Men and women play the same game. Only thing you can do is feel relieved they did it to you before they met you. Move on. When they try to converse again after that, tell them to hold on a minute, I'll be right back.

oldiebutgoodie

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Msg: 44 (view)

Can you actually, physically, feel a broken heart? Posted: 5/5/2008 8:09:16 AM
Yes, you can feel physical pain from a broken heart. Been there and done it. Your body feels like it is twisted in knots. Your mind seems to quit thinking. And your heart just speeds up with its every beat. Not good for your body. It will tend to just hang around for as long as you let it. Depending on the severity of it, you may need something to help get you relaxed. Time is a healer!

oldiebutgoodie

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How do I learn to enjoy being alone? Posted: 5/5/2008 7:59:06 AM
It was easy for me to learn. I drove truck for 19 years otr. I was always on my own and the closest thing to conversation was my CB. Now that I am retired, it seems that I don't really care if Im with someone or not. Granted it would be nice. But I won't settle for anything less then what I want in a woman. They seem to be far in between so, I sit patiently waiting for the right one.

oldiebutgoodie

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Where is the love? Posted: 5/2/2008 11:57:50 PM
Why are you bent out of shape? You only talked with the guy for several weeks, and he wants you to be his g/f already! He wants a booty call at the most, and you fell for it! Find someone else and move on! STOP

oldiebutgoodie

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I'm packing up and hitting the road! Posted: 5/2/2008 10:21:53 AM
Well thats great! It shows that this site WILL WORK on help meeting someone! I guess with patience, all things are possible!

oldiebutgoodie

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Dating Posted: 5/1/2008 1:40:43 PM
Good job chocolatebrown and jetlagbob, you both have it right on! Im 56, and its getting worse then when i was 25 , even 40! Seems like no end to a bad thing.

oldiebutgoodie

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dancer friend Posted: 5/1/2008 1:30:26 PM
Let her do what she likes to do! Within reason! What she does at a job, is to make ends meet. Support her decision and enjoy her company. Give her the chance!

oldiebutgoodie

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age old question.... can women ask men to date? Posted: 5/1/2008 1:24:45 PM
I think it's a good gesture for women to ask out a man. Sometimes you are out and about doing what ever you do to meet someone. There he is right there in front of you, ok, maybe. Anyone can catch your eye!!!! But it takes someone special to catch your heart!!! You have one shot at it right now! What will you do now, he walked by, and you didnt say anything! Woulda, coulda, shoulda! There he goes. Not to be seen again! You had the chance! Good luck !!!!!!

oldiebutgoodie

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Woman paying for dinner = Payoff? Posted: 5/1/2008 8:30:50 AM
My thoughts on this is, way to many times a woman will go on a date just to have something to do, and get a free meal. And Im sure if a woman wanted to be honest, she would tell you the same thing. I usually like to talk and get a feel on how she represents herself on certain things. That lets me know if I want to meet her. First meeting is coffee, to see if there is an attraction and a connection. Then if all goes well, then a date and see what happens. Even then sometimes you get screwed into paying for them, because they can really put on an act of really careing for you. You will see the meaning of cheap here! But, in general thats the way it goes. If a woman does pick up the tab, then you have to respect her on it. That shows character! Just a slight 2 cents worth of experience talking! Think before acting, and use better judgement! Im sure you will see a differance in how you will respond to this dating thing.

oldiebutgoodie

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Booty Calls, When should you put an end? Posted: 4/30/2008 8:58:15 PM
I see it as, if you keep on giving head with nothing in return for you, that should be a sign. When you say that is enough, thats when it stops. You owe it to yourself to be better then that!

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