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 Author Thread: NE Law enforcement types wanna give their input?
 connorhus
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 1 (view)
 
NE Law enforcement types wanna give their input?
Posted: 11/7/2006 3:30:07 PM
So I had a relationship almost 2 years ago now with a criminal lol. Of course I didnt suspect a thing until it all fell apart as she made a dash to escape the net that was closing in around her. It was all white collar crime stuff, Business theft and that sort of thing so I just never knew anything about it.

The real issue is she also disappeared with a few items that were very valuable to me. I have been an amature sculptor for years now and she managed to get away with most all of my favorite sculpts.

As I know the story this woman met a guy in the air force and married him and moved to his duty station in Japan almost a year and a half ago. She sent me an email once and I asked her about my sculpts and she told me then they were in storage here in the US and she couldnt get them. I now know why she cannot get them as the State she used to live in issued 3 warrants for her arrest and she also had a felony record for the same type of crimes dating back for years. These last warrants are for Business theft >10,000 dollars and Felony Uttering a felony G and H charge.

My question is how long before she maybe caught and perhaps at least forced back tot he area where I may be able to at least get my stuff from her? It took the State almost 2 years to charge her and she has been in another country albeit on a military post for at least the last year and a half and these warrants do not appear to have caught up with her yet.

I am not the type to turn someone in and to be honest I am not even 100% sure she is even where i think she is, all I want if at all possible is to get these sculpts that a spent a lot of time on. It may never happen but I am still kicking myself over the loss of these items 2 years after the fact so I am kinda holding on to some hope.
 connorhus
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 48 (view)
 
what makes young puppies think older women are desperate?
Posted: 1/30/2006 5:30:56 PM
Ok so a few responses as to why these younger men chase older women, and yes it might be the fad now adays for the older woman to make the relationship public but trust me the Mrs. Robinsons have been around for many a year (at least 22 years I assure you).

1. Older women don't play head games...IE. You usually put out very quickly and will do about anything we ask.

2. Older women don't play head games IE. You wont check our email, nor track us down when we are out with the younger girls while you are at work.

3. Older women are more experienced (See #1 above)

4. Older women can teach us more about life and love (see #1 above)

5. Older women are more settled and know what they want IE. you wont care that we have a lousy job and drive a clunker car and you will still put out.

6. It's really only a matter of where you are in life IE. we are both horny so thats the only part of life we need to worry about. I will act very mature around you as long as you follow the 2 guidelines above or until you really begin to show your age or I tire of you.

7. Older women are more settled IE you have a family and can't chase us down, and your daughter is hot too.

I especially like the age/life area comment like no matter how mature a person is there is anyway someone 20 can be in the same age/life range of a 35 year old. Just isnt possible.

Seems about half of the women I have talked to or dated in the last 9 months has had some kind of Cougar experience recently. I find that almost everyone of them have changed their tune about younger men after they have been skinned a few times by these young big game hunters. Of course there are those who come on here and talk about the great relationships they have had with younger men, yet here they are single and looking.
 connorhus
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 43 (view)
 
Being over 45 is apparently the kiss of death.
Posted: 1/24/2006 7:21:26 PM
Ya know I see very attractive older women all the time, but they are always taken. I have made a stand and refuse to go the really younger route. For me it is purely an age thing I will admit it. I am looking for a true relationship and I have seen too many people close to me become entirely different people in the blink of an eye or age 35 whatever comes fist lol and getting envolved with someone only to have their head explode when they finally figure out they are getting old and then leave me is too real an issue for me to ignore.

Yes alot of women and alot of men let themselves go and are not attractive at 40 and 45, and yes if you can fish that pond there are alot more attractive single women in the under 30 range. But why would you want to? No matter how mature they seem, no matter how much you tell yourself they are in the same life range you are (which is funny how can they be it is impossible) they aren't period.

I have met plenty of attractive 40 plus women, I have also had periods where I didnt meet too many and despaired like the OP. Still my advice would be keep looking, they are out there and keep yourself in shape. If you want a woman of a certain physical type then it is only fair you fit that type yourself. If you do these things I am sure you will meet the woman of your dreams before too long. (crosses fingers).
 connorhus
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 3 (view)
 
words of strenth and comfort
Posted: 1/24/2006 6:16:21 PM
I know everyone always says if they want to work it out they will find a way. But people sometimes choose courses for the wrong reasons. Sometimes people simply cannot afford love or the circumstances dictate other courses of action. Usually these are financial but other reasons can still apply even in todays world like religion and family pressure.

I know I pulled out of someones life once because even though they were trying to break things off with a violent, abusive husband me being around put her in real danger and I couldn't live with that. After time had passed it just wasn't feasible again for financial reasons.

My point is you shouldn't chase someone but if they were special enough to you do not discount the effect time may have and as long as enough has went by don't hesitate to maybe just say hello and see what happens.

People do change and not always for the worst.
 connorhus
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 6 (view)
 
What do men over 35 bring to a relationship?
Posted: 1/24/2006 4:12:10 PM
LOl Bucsgirl I will send ya a prize if you want just email me the mailing addy :)

As to being right, there is no right or wrong here. I will say I remembered having a long conversation with my grandmother some 25 years ago about my grandfather who had just passed away and their relationship over the years, and although her answer included yours about the loving and emotional support thing she had some other things to say that I was wondering would show up here as well. Too soon to tell yet lol.
 connorhus
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 1 (view)
 
What do men over 35 bring to a relationship?
Posted: 1/24/2006 3:03:39 PM
I have been doing alot of soul searching and analyzing both micro and macro on relationships of late. I think I have a conclusion that at least seems to fit in my mind but I have one last question that only you ladies can really answer (although what men think is also of interest so chime in if you like).

What does a man truely bring to a long term relationship for you?

Another words what roles, functions, needs, etc does he fullfill or would you like to see him fullfill.

I have a theory that there is really only one role left for men in relationships today and I want to see if I am correct. So please give me some honest answers here :)

And thanks for answering....
 connorhus
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 9 (view)
 
over 30,s women are sexier!
Posted: 1/23/2006 2:04:53 PM
Ok cloning is complete I will mail him to you Crater.... I promise it will be the clone too lol
 connorhus
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 13 (view)
 
all you 30 something girls
Posted: 1/22/2006 9:40:33 PM
I think my list of don't likes is rather small actually lol. It's the hidden likes and surprises that seem to create that bond for me. That and with very few exceptions I can take alot of marginal dislikes if the main likes are there.

And golf is much more fun when everyone is bad at it... all those golf balls whizzing around usually creates some entertaining drama and golf carts float.... for a while anyway.
 connorhus
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 29 (view)
 
Just wondering...
Posted: 1/22/2006 8:47:38 PM
It isn't just a maturity level thing. It is an outlook on the future and what it will bring and no matter how responsible you are at 20 your not going to have that same sense of what the future will bring or how much you have left as someone who is 34 or 35. Even if the older person is lagging behind on that they will still be in two different places quite soon in the relationship. The poster talking about his 4 year relationship is a good examble of that. A four year relationship at 28 to 32 is a fun ride at 41 to 45 it is a much bigger investment.

Really I guess what matters is if the older partner is looking for a life mate or only wanting to date. Ultimately a person is going to do what ever makes them feel the best about themselves anyway.
 connorhus
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 2 (view)
 
over 30,s women are sexier!
Posted: 1/22/2006 8:23:13 PM
I agree with ya man, but we are not far apart geographically and I don't know how things are going down your neck of the woods these days. Been about 2 years since I spent any time there, but up here all the women seem to be more interested in the guys below age 24.

Still I am there with ya no more youngins for me.... Maybe we should start a support group lol
 connorhus
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 26 (view)
 
Just wondering...
Posted: 1/22/2006 7:49:32 PM
Heh if you couldn't train one when you were 20 something what makes ya think you can now? And I am joking as much as you were :)
 connorhus
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 24 (view)
 
Just wondering...
Posted: 1/22/2006 7:42:21 PM

When I was 28 I started dating an amazingly hot woman who was 41! We moved in together and had a great relationship for 4 years. Unfortunately I had to bail out because I felt that she loved me much much more than I loved her. I couldn' handle it. I was also away at work a lot and it caused a lot of problems. But it was a great ride and I still love her but... I enjoy being on my own and doing what I want when I want.
"they" definitely don't know what they are talking about


Ya know the above poster just kinda proves my point. Not that he did anything wrong mind you but if your 41 I think you will see what I mean.
 connorhus
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 3 (view)
 
all you 30 something girls
Posted: 1/22/2006 4:16:47 PM
Very well said Sterling too bad this thread will more than likely disappear shortly. Still very well said I think your question "Are you looking for fun or a real long term relationship" (ya I paraphrased) is the true question at the heart of the matter.
 connorhus
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Dating twenty-somethings - good exp. or bad?
Posted: 1/22/2006 2:40:47 PM
So your profile says chattaholic, did you find the 22 year old could keep up intellectually?
 connorhus
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Dating twenty-somethings - good exp. or bad?
Posted: 1/22/2006 2:25:28 PM
What is it with you Wisconsen girls and 20 year old guys? Must be those cold winters

Any way have seen this can't keep up thing a few times, could some woman please define this a little better? You mean sexually? Emotionally? Non-sexual activity? Gasp Intellectually?

Just would like to get a handle on this "can't keep up" syndrom.
 connorhus
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Dating twenty-somethings - good exp. or bad?
Posted: 1/22/2006 1:34:09 PM
Since my divorce my last 2 relationships were with women 8 and 9 years younger than me and both ended badly. I have mentioned it before and I will stick to it, people change. I have also dated a 23 year old who still calls me constantly wanting to move in lol.

My main fear is that lower to middle 30's head explosion. Call it a myth call it what you will but I have lived through it in 3 relationships now and trying it a forth time is just downright scary. I thought each of the women I was seeing were level headed, honest women yet in the blink of an eye they went from mild mannered mothers to complete party girl sluts.

No one is going to say I didnt keep up either, I can go that route myself and can out do any guy half my age and still see the sun come up, but when searching for what they fear is leaving them these same women tend to gravitate towards the youngest guys they can find. These guys have all the time in the world so using up what is left of an older womans sexiness means little to them.

So sure go ahead and do what you want but keep in mind no matter how mature you think someone is they are years behind you and will it be worth it starting over on your third time around when they are thinking only about their second time.

This goes for men as well as women. Lets face it guys not all that long ago social pressure and other matters kept women in relationships so getting envolved with a woman 15 years or more younger than yourself was an option. Those days are long gone and with no fault divorce and other issues women are much more ready to drop long term relationships and head out on their second attempt at fun and dating. So think about the long term (what most of us claim to be looking for here) ten or twenty years down the road, and then think about all those people you have known who changed in the 30's without notice. If you think your partner isnt going to be effected by their own mid life crisis you are deluding yourself.
 connorhus
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 103 (view)
 
Why is a decent girlfriend so hard to find?
Posted: 1/22/2006 3:02:15 AM
Ok so your theory is that it is some un-explainable chemistry and deep down if that isn't there there is nothing the guy can do?

Another interesting thought, and one I have heard before. I think really this is closer to the truth in general if not specifically for each woman. Now if we could just figure out how to duplicate this chemistry on demand lol.

I have also heard the other theory before as well, maybe there are a few basic archtypes depending on the woman. This may also explain why I seem to gravitate towards one certain type of woman as well...hmmmmmm..
 connorhus
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 7 (view)
 
any honestly had sex with a teacher at your school?
Posted: 1/22/2006 2:53:38 AM
I had a student from my student teaching days come and look me up after she turned 18. I was very careful when I was 22 and student teaching at my old High School not to so much as touch any of the girls. This one asked me out and I told her she wasn't 18 so no way. 1 month later she turned 18 and was done with the semester of student teaching and guess who came knocking on my door?

She also showed up at my door 13 years later when my wife and I seperated.

I still wonder how she knew.
 connorhus
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 101 (view)
 
Why is a decent girlfriend so hard to find?
Posted: 1/22/2006 2:07:08 AM

Girls like to be treated nice; that's not the problem. Like Carl said, you come on too strong and too fast. You come across as desperate by telling me how beautiful I am and how I'm what you have always been looking for, and how good you will treat me, and all that garbage. If only you would give me a little time and space, but NO you have to love me. So I choose the bad guys. At least with the bad guys, if and when I decide I'm not interested, they don't give a hoot. I'm not going to hurt them. It is much like Carl said, you are going to be hurt, try to get me back, mope and complain, tell me how badly I treated you, or maybe even talk about suicide. I don't want to deal with any of that crap, let alone most of it. If you give me the slightest indication you are going to be that way, that's it; I'm not having anything to do with you.


Ok then why is it that the number one reason for divorce from the woman is always "He doesn't show me any attention" ?

Are you saying that you want it one way until you make up your mind then the other way once YOU have decided?

Honestly if a man wants you and knows you are the woman for him that turns you off at first so you want him to back off or you reject him? You give the impression he has to give you space because you are unsure of him? Ok say a man does this, he wants you, you are his everything, yet down the road he remembers that you weren't so sure about him. You think this isn't going to come back up on his memory especially when some other woman tells him from first site he is her everything?

If this is really what women want then really it is detrimental for a man to be the romantic type, maybe thats why women end up falling for non-romantic ***holes. Interesting theory.
 connorhus
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 18 (view)
 
I hate when this happens
Posted: 1/21/2006 3:29:30 PM
What was the Topic? Mahahahahahaah


AHHHHHHH the POWER of CHEESE!!!!
 connorhus
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Advice wanted.
Posted: 1/21/2006 3:25:06 PM
She has someone else more interesting to her.... Not into you... Move along...
 connorhus
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 16 (view)
 
I hate when this happens
Posted: 1/21/2006 3:20:55 PM
No more deli cheese, due to the abuse by deadbeat cheese users the government has standardized all cheese slices into a national cheese slice conglomerate. Now you must apply for and get a cheese use ID card so your cheese buying can be tracked and TAXED accordingly. No more unlicensed cheese selling these unamerican obviously terrorist agencies based out of Wisconsen will be erradicated.

We are now looking at beef producers as known cheese sympathizers....
 connorhus
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 14 (view)
 
I hate when this happens
Posted: 1/21/2006 2:52:25 PM

Especially when the burgers are on the grill and ready for the cheese!! Get Sens. McCain and Barbara Boxer on this for a bipartisan approach :-)


OMG no way then they will do an 8 year study and determin cheese needs to be added to the ATF search list and your next BBQ will be raided for suspected illegal cheese use.
 connorhus
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 22 (view)
 
Sore men and their egos....
Posted: 1/21/2006 2:47:25 PM

I had my cell with me too,(when we met) but I made sure it was turned off and in my pocket.


Ya I agree but I have had this backfire on me when the woman your meeting thinks you turned your phone off so as to avoid calls from other women. Have actually had them mention the phone being off thing. Now I just dont take it with me.
 connorhus
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 10 (view)
 
who is better at giving relationship advice??
Posted: 1/21/2006 2:23:38 PM

Because the people who are in the relationship can't see it as well as people who look from the sidelines, who have studied thousands of relationships and human behavior as a science, and who have successfully advised thousands of other couples. By your logic the best person to operate on you is yourself since you are closest to your own body. People do themselves great confusion by trying to understand themselves and their lives in personal terms only. There are only about twelve basic relationship archetypes. Nobody here is doing anything new, or mysterious, expect as far as it is their first time and baffles them.



That was a good post....
 connorhus
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Just wondering...
Posted: 1/21/2006 2:05:32 PM
Well I thought this post was someone asking why it is was seemingly Ok for a man to date a younger woman and not vice versa in today's society? Which I don't think anyone looks on either as being better or worse than the other personally in this day and age.

My points were that people go into these relationships lying to themselves about why and delude themselves about changes people go through. Now I will admit you are right in the area of over all age. I person who is 45 dating a 35 year old either male or female...Thats fine each one of those ages has reached the trouble areas of ageing and have dealt with them mostly.

Someone (again either male or female) who is 35 and in a realtionship with a 20 year old is just asking to be single again at 50 if not sooner. Maybe your happy with that risk, if so more power to you, but I personally wouldn't want to.
 connorhus
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Just wondering...
Posted: 1/21/2006 1:36:38 PM
Meaning if it is hard finding a partner at the 30 and 40 something age it will get even harder in the 50's....

Unless you meant the re-validating someones youth, which is in my opinion the real reason people date someone much much younger than them.

I am sure you will disagree however.

 connorhus
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Just wondering...
Posted: 1/21/2006 11:56:01 AM
It's been my observations in the past 5 years or so that it doesn't matter what people say or advice they give. For you ladies who are still attractive enough to be bombarded with younger guys coming on to you while in your 30's and 40's your gonna do it, Devil be damned and it's always the same rationalization "it's their maturity level" blah blah. It is the same for guys though to be fair. I have seen these women berated while the guys they are seeing throw the typical 20 year old jealous fits and they still proclaim they are mature men, lol. It's all in the eye of the beholder.

So go ahead get into a relationship with someone 12 or 15 years younger than you and take that risk. I know what early 20's men are like , was there once myself, and even if you bend and live with it these same guys or girls will be in their 30's soon and trying to feel young again just like us. Just imagine what the fishing will be like at 50 though. Personally I think it's too much of a risk, but I am sure the need to revalidate someones youth by having a young partner is too strong a lure. But only time will tell I guess.
 connorhus
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 5 (view)
 
I hate when this happens
Posted: 1/20/2006 2:23:18 PM
She is over 30, she is attractive, of course she is taken lol.... I have given up trying at least locally they are all taken.
 connorhus
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 50 (view)
 
picking up a stripper
Posted: 1/20/2006 1:06:50 AM
Managed to pick up 2 dancers in my lifetime. 1st one while she was working asked if I wanted a private dance I said sure but I would rather give her the money and then just talk to her. She was nice and all but she wasn't ready for a serious relationship and was into drugs so it never went anywhere after a few dates. The second one was while I was at school in my college algebra class. I sat behind this woman and knew she was a dancer. She had that smell, that look, finally in a study group we were in she mentioned work but was very vague about it. Later I asked her which club she worked at and thats all it took. She graduated that year and moved away I wish I had kept up with her whereabouts.
 connorhus
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 6 (view)
 
OMG what the hell is wrong with people?
Posted: 1/20/2006 12:42:14 AM
I always get the ones who send me pics of some very attractive mid 20's woman and then the sad story about how their entire family was killed in a car wreck and they need $1200.00 because the doctor is holding them hostage in Nigeria. They will of course love me forever and come live with me if I send them the cash.

Had a Russian scamming me for a while too, but damn that picture was hot.

It doesn't help that I like to actually talk to them and trip them up in their own story. I almost had one convinced to send me two hundred dollars so I could personally fly there and give them 5 grand.

I told her i loved her so much I wanted to be able to personally pay the doctor off and punch him in the nose but I needed another 200.00 bucks to buy the ticket and have a cashiers check ready for the 5000.00 total on arrival. She didnt buy it lol.
 connorhus
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 3 (view)
 
~Feelings~ suck....
Posted: 1/19/2006 11:13:17 PM
I wish I could turn off my sense of loyalty. Not in the way I show it but just not be so damned hurt when others don't show it back or at least don't react to a situation the way I would.

I dont know had a friend kinda hurt me tonight so I am just a bit raw on that topic I guess.
 connorhus
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 15 (view)
 
How far would you travel to meet someone you've met online?
Posted: 1/19/2006 10:40:13 PM
The only restriction on distance would be my wallet at the time.
 connorhus
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Hi all Iam new.....
Posted: 1/19/2006 10:35:11 PM
As I have said before. The brand of whore or slut only comes from other women or from guys ya dont put out for or have rejected lol.

Still in most cases c'mon be realistic it takes alot more effort for a guy to score than a woman. So doing something that is hard carries some acknowledgment like "Stud" doing something that is pretty easy over and over gets the term "whore" I guess.

Maybe a double standard but damn it is about the only one left that guys seem to have the better end of lol.
 connorhus
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 38 (view)
 
Dead Beats
Posted: 1/19/2006 1:33:50 AM
Well regardless of how you slice it and say child support goes for a multitude of different expenses then those expenses should be listed out and checked. Phone contact (My ex denies me phone contact and I have to suffer through repeated disconnects when she doesn't pay her bill). Car and insurance (she has let her insurance lapse), clothes for my son (he usually wears rags or handmedowns).

In the divorce papers for support she listed a huge sum for day care, not one time was my son ever sent to day care. She was on the list to get it so she could show how much it was going to cost but by the time the opening came up she didn't bother to send him and he has been a latch key child ever since. Rent, she rented a huge apartment didnt bother to put down that her new husband paid half that rent and then broke her lease and now my son lives in a closet sharing it with his older brother (her's by a different marriage). Car payments lol this is the one that really got me she made the last payment on her car the month the divorce was final.

Need I go on? No matter how you slice it sure deadbeat dads were and are a problem but so are greedy uncaring mothers and family services refuses to do anything about the abuse unless someone gets hurt. If the government is going to step into a family matter and take money then they need to also account for that money or stay the hell out of it. If there is no ill-spending going on then the one receiving the money shouldnt care if they have to account for it. Also flexibility 3 years is just wrong the amount taken for support should be measured by the amount made pure and simple and be calculated from each and every paycheck. If a man or woman have a bit of bad luck and lose a good paying job they can be in prison very quickly and if you think an unemployed person can really get a court appointed lawyer your dreaming.

I am not saying someone shouldnt have to pay support but the way it is set up today leaves too much room for abuse and not enough room for emergency or changing situations.
 connorhus
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 92 (view)
 
Dads..do you miss your children ?
Posted: 1/19/2006 12:48:54 AM
I usually get to see my son. Typically he wants to come with me so much that he will throw a complete fit if he doesn't get to so his mom lets him. Still it is not a rare occurance for her to call and tell me that he got in trouble at school and is grounded so he can't come see me her reasoning is he views visits with me as a reward. I miss him alot but what scares me the most is of late (since Thanksgiving) his step father has been becoming increasingly violent and has been berating, browbeating, threatening and even threw an table fan at my son. The drunk even called me one night and told me he delights in spanking my son until he screams. Needless to say I drove over there and the guy wouldnt even come out until the police arrived.

I have contacted DFS and they do nothing they even saw the hole in the wall from the fan being thrown and just shrug and say it isn't enough and then warn me that if they take my son he will be in the courts custody for at least a month as they evaluate even me for custody.

We wont even go into the other parts of the divorce and custody agreement she violates at will about information and/or contact. Sometimes I call and she or her husband will taunt me over the phone telling me they wont let me speak to him.

So yes I miss him just being around and it scares the living hell outta me that something is going to go down and I wont be able to get there or won't know about it. Having a son you are suppose to protect and who you can't is the worst feeling ever and the feeling of relief I have just having him under my roof is amazing.

And it is precisely games and power plays like my ex wife likes to pull that makes me so bitter about the way child support is handled today. If I pulled that money or if the government made her account for it this BS she pulls would stop fast. Instead I just pay her bar bill while my son runs around in worn out shoes and doesn't get to see me.
 connorhus
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Good places to meet women?
Posted: 1/18/2006 10:26:01 PM
/\ /\ I think I need a translation /\ /\
 connorhus
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 3 (view)
 
what are you ladies looking for??
Posted: 1/18/2006 9:27:02 PM
Drop 30 years off your life and then the attractive women will be all over you...

Seriously I can't figure it out either. All the averages of women to men ratios I have seen yet I can't seem to find a better than 6 guys to 1 woman ratio anywhere I go. Where are they all hiding?
 connorhus
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 30 (view)
 
I want to die
Posted: 1/18/2006 9:12:42 PM
Dude we all been there. Today after almost a year I had a bad day again of the exact same issue. My internet went down and I started cleaning and I found a stack of pictures that I had swore I hid away with the others... Yep they were her.

I don't know how long you been apart and there has been some wonderful advice thrown your way. If you are like me though the only thing that seemed to lessen the pain was to tell someone...anyone the whole story.

All I can tell you is it does get better, slowly but it gets bearable. I still can't go a full day without thinking about my ex. Even after I discovered all the lies and even seeing her "cheat" and then throw away others like human trash I still miss her. But it does get bearable.

Now if we can just get to the part where everyone says we will find someone to make us forget them lol...that is what I am beginning to think will never happen.
 connorhus
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Am I Being Too Picky?
Posted: 1/18/2006 9:00:19 PM
I been asking myself this same question for a while now. I would be happy finding a woman who can actually wear something smaller than a size 14 and wasn't a player.

Oh sure all the attractve ones swear they aren't like that but they always seem to be too busy juggling men and all the attention they crave like air to prove it.

Oh well maybe guys over the age of 30 will come into vogue again someday. Till then I will keep trying.
 connorhus
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 36 (view)
 
Pre-court Anguish.
Posted: 1/18/2006 8:43:51 PM
LOL no appology needed on this end.... easy enough to misread what someone writes anyway.

Besides your too damned cute for me to be offended :)


Wouldnt wanna make you mad though lol
 connorhus
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 42 (view)
 
Worst dump ever
Posted: 1/18/2006 12:32:17 AM
My ex wife and I used to talk on MSN during the day as our offices were about 30 miles apart and we were both in comuters. The day she left me she pretended to be at work while she was at home and her friends were helping her pack up everything in the house. Her last written words to me were "I cant wait for our weekend alone...I love you so much" I came home to an empty house lol.

My last GF told me she needed some space. I said if we were breaking up we didnt and she said she didnt want to break up but we needed to talk. SO I surprised her, knocked on her door, no answer, used my key and found her stripping on her web cam, the music was so loud she couldnt hear me knocking. Oh ya and where my picture had been on the wall was now some other guys... That took 3 days from the time I left.

Those were the worst I think... unless i blocked another one out from shock lol
 connorhus
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 22 (view)
 
OK,LADYS..THE TRUTH ABOUT SIZE
Posted: 1/16/2006 9:19:03 PM
Size has it's disadvantages...

Dated a woman once and after several episodes where I went down on her, she never seemed to move my way or work her way down past my stomach. Was really kinda pissin me off I was thinking she just wont do that and well thats kinda a deal breaker for me.

Finally one night while watching a special on hookers of all things she mentioned that her ex had gotten caught with a hooker and arrested and she didnt understand cause she was willing to do anything they would. I didnt mention a threesome here should have lol but she went on to then add that she had been wanting to try oral with me but was afraid her gag reflex wasn't upto my size.

I instantly forgave her.....
 connorhus
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 15 (view)
 
How to avoid and spot
Posted: 1/16/2006 8:21:44 PM
Ya way after the fact I finally plugged in my ex's name into the courts records and found out she had just gotten off 5 years felony probation for Uttering (Fraud) and had a list of other offences as long as my arm... Good thing to check em out first lol.
 connorhus
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 13 (view)
 
How to avoid and spot
Posted: 1/16/2006 8:09:22 PM
I can honestly say I went to every length imaginable to be good to my last GF. Flowers, candy, creativity, conversation.

But right after we broke up and I found out she had been living with another man for the month prior to her marriage with yet another man, she told me about her fan club of teenage boys and how perfect she looked now... Like a movie star lol.

All this as her cats were put to sleep cause she abandoned them and her ex husband got custody of her kids.

So who knows...
 connorhus
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 8 (view)
 
How to avoid and spot psycho women, and why do we love them?
Posted: 1/16/2006 7:52:34 PM

2) A secondary sociopath (often referred to as a psychopath; all the attributes of {1} but none of the short comings. Highly sophisticated social skills and the ability to emulate remorse as well as the ability to use long range planning effectively.)
Warning: These people are enormously charming and manipulative


Beware the number 2's of the world...be very afraid...

Yay I got to make my post again....
 connorhus
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 22 (view)
 
Psycho women
Posted: 1/16/2006 3:53:27 PM

2) A secondary sociopath (often referred to as a psychopath; similar to 1. but with more sophisticated social skills and the ability to emulate remorse as well as the ability to use long range planning effectively.)



Yes live in fear of the number 2....
 connorhus
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 22 (view)
 
Pre-court Anguish.
Posted: 1/16/2006 1:09:08 PM
What that boils down to That_Guy is the government only wants ya to pay.... they don't care about accountability just that you pay.

If you complain about the mistreatment and abuse your labled a deadbeat.

Basically whoever has primary custody can now do as they please and use the children as a weapon because they know the justice system will always make you pay and not care what they do.

My ex pulls the same BS, I go to pick my son up and he is mysteriously grounded and can't come. Yet the divorce papers say I am to be a part of any punishment decision and I knew nothing about it. I call and ask what he did and I am told to stay out of my ex's life, then she tells the school and others I am a disinterested father while getting an exparte saying I am harrassing her.

Just more double standards.

Best of luck to you QueenFaiery... I hope it works out for you and you don't strike me as someone who would abuse the system.

 connorhus
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 44 (view)
 
Selfish deadbeat fathers!!!
Posted: 1/16/2006 1:45:38 AM
Child support is different in every state. In some like Missouri the support given is a set amount based on what each parent makes AND THEN cross referenced by what the custodial parent CLAIMS to spend on the child every month. This is the standard of living (or lying clause as some call it). So like in my case where my son's mother claimed 350 bucks a month day care and never once sent him to a day care no one seems to care to make the custodial parent account for any of that money, nor do they enforce the other agreements on the divorce document like visitation, contact about school functions, etc.

If your already allowing your son to call another man "Daddy" than I personally don't think you should hit the man up for child support. The government has determined it is your right to do so anyway so my views aren;t going to make a difference to you. Yes this guy is an ass if he could pay support and hasn't but if the support is figured the way it is here and then taken without any accountability and then locked into a three year time with no hope of adjustments I cannot blame anyone for hiding from that. Jesus how many people truely know their jobs are safe the next day?

I would give my son the shirt off my back, but depending on the circumstances and my own feeling of job security it would scare the piss outta me to lock myself into a huge child support payment then lose my job and then be convicted of a felony because I couldn't pay such a huge sum as I worked a shit job. At six hundred and fifty bucks a month support it wouldn't take very long to hit the felony amount of 4K either if you got hurt or lost your job.

Yes support should be paid but depending on location there needs to be a hell of a lot more flexibility and accountability with that support money.

Sorry a touchy subject for me as my ex wife allows my son to be brow beat and flat out threatened by her drunk husband and there is nothing I can do except go buy him clothes and new shoes and call social services (who do nothing) as she spends the child support she gets on alcohol and her 2 new cars and her 3 DUI convicted husbands Insurance payments. The police don't even enforce my visitation and if I try and keep him because he is scared to go home they will take him from me and give him to her. If I call social services and complain she slaps an exparte against me the next day, then doesn't even show for the court date while the female judge still tells me to stay away from her, whch is against the legal document they are so quick to hold me too.

My only option spend even more money for a lawyer and take years in court which she then can blow off again... Ya thats justice.
 connorhus
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 3 (view)
 
BIG ASS QUESTION
Posted: 1/16/2006 12:54:57 AM
Wow what a question.

Had you decided to keep the child and not tell him, and for some reason needed assistance the government would have been all too happy to inform him of his financial debt. Yet he has no say in the abortion...

With double standards like that in place I would just let it go and not mention it.

Seriously I don't mean to be harsh, it was a different time back then I know, But the trouble is as far as abortion it hasn't changed. Personally I feel he had the right to know back then but I would let it go now and if things develop between you two tell him before it gets too far along.... this time.
 
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