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SenileGranny

Joined: 7/3/2004

Msg: 17 (view)

Social Anxiety Posted: 5/1/2009 8:44:09 PM
I have always been painfully shy, to the point where my throat threatens to close up. I force myself everyday to talk to people, to meet thier eyes, I've even recently cut my hair short because a co-worker said something about me hiding behind my hair. Yes, quite often, while forcing myself to speak...the wierdest things pop out of my mouth. I try my best to see the funny side instead of being mortifyingly embarassed by these 'social tourettes' bouts,(sometimes this works, sometimes not so much). I find that a lot of 'self talk' or internal lectures prior to the situation helps, practice things I might say, a few deep breaths, picture myself being successful at socializing, etc. I also don't hear well at large gatherings, so I spend alot of time smiling and nodding :(

SenileGranny

Joined: 7/3/2004

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Dancing Naked Posted: 12/11/2008 7:52:47 PM
The more formal the dress, the more rules there are to the dance. (Picture tuxedos and formal ball gowns...in your mind, listen to the music and watch the dance...the smiles are fake and the movements are stiff and ritualized) The more casual you dress, the fewer the rules. (Picture blue jeans...in your mind as you listen and watch...you hear the "Yee Haw" and the laughing, don't you?) Can't get more casual than naked. In this state you are the closest you'll ever get to total honesty and the original reason for dancing-To express joy and rejoice in being alive. No rules, no responses pre-determined by what is considered to be socially acceptable, no manners and rules of ettiquette that you 'have' to follow. Just you and what you are feeling at that exact moment.

SenileGranny

Joined: 7/3/2004

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Long delays in voice mail delivery to cell phone accounts Posted: 8/18/2008 6:16:12 PM
Our business phones are with telus mobility. Too often, important time sensitive information takes a side trip into the unknown. This happens mostly with messages I send to my drivers from the office email to their phones, but it has also happened with text and voicemail. Telus customer service doesn't seem to see a problem with me dragging kids out of bed at 3 a.m. to go back to the office to get an address, phone number or other important instructions to a driver stuck in the middle of a job he can't finish without that info. They will, however, sell us this outrageously expensive GPS tracking/computerized dispatching package that will suit our needs soooo much better....yaaaaa uh huhhh, they can't manage to get info from point A to point B with a simple cell phone, and we're to believe they can do better with a more complicated system?? <--not a telus fan

SenileGranny

Joined: 7/3/2004

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Sleeping Through The Night Posted: 3/31/2008 6:08:21 PM
I'm kennel training a yelpy lil yorkie at the moment(3 months old). He has serious separation anxiety. In desperation, I stuck him in a soft sided airplane pet carrier and stuck him beside me on the bed. Every night I pushed him a little farther from me, then started setting him on the floor beside me. After a little more than a week he is 1/2 way across the floor to where the other dog sleeps. He still has some whiney nights, but for the most part I get to sleep. Mind you, dogs on beds may be an issue for most people(even inside a kennel or carrier).

SenileGranny

Joined: 7/3/2004

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How to run someone off Posted: 1/24/2008 6:24:11 PM
If you figgure out the answer...let me know. We have an unwelcome, all day every day guest. I can't tell him to get lost, he's related to the owner. Beloved boss man, the poop disturber, thinks it's funnier than hell that this guy gives us office people the creeps. The guy is harmless, just creepy, drinks all the coffee, eats all the food and makes a mess. We only make 1/2 a pot of coffee at a time and have hid the coffee. All cookies, chocolates, and other treats are hiding in the desks. This isn't working.

SenileGranny

Joined: 7/3/2004

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Give me that! Posted: 8/28/2007 7:20:28 PM
My dad used to tell us, "If you're going to take the time to do something, Do your best, do it right the first time, and for pete sake make sure if someone says "Who did this?" You can stand tall, look 'em straight in the eye and say, "I did!"

SenileGranny

Joined: 7/3/2004

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Learning together. Posted: 4/3/2007 6:21:59 PM
So very many things... -That a 5 year old can drop the oil out of 2 trucks and a tractor with Grampa's wrong size wrench while Grampa digs around for the right size wrench.(oh well, they all needed an oil change eventually anyway) -That a hot dog stuffed up the kitchen tap can quite effectively wash all the walls in the kitchen from the 3.5 foot mark down(and the floors too). -How silly the dog looks wearing doll clothes. -How much sand a shoe will hold and how big of a puddle a rubber boot will make when it's dumped out on the kitchen floor. -Wonderful things can be accomplished with patience. -That Grampa is terrified of snakes and salamanders.(all these years who knew...I think I'm the one who caused him to go bald so early...oops) -The wonder in laying on a nice warm sidewalk watching the ants in their daily toils. -Why the sky is blue and other important stuff(yes, they made me look it up). -If you can get someone to tell you why there is a jam sandwich stuck to the wall...it was a science experiment for school, of course, naturally...why would it be anything else?

SenileGranny

Joined: 7/3/2004

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Constipation and Tylenol 3's...... Posted: 3/14/2007 8:54:19 PM
Burritos...especially the 7-11 kind.

SenileGranny

Joined: 7/3/2004

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Good program to make a professional looking web page? Posted: 3/8/2007 7:17:14 PM
Microsoft Front page is easy to use, Macromedia Dreamweaver is wonderfull but a little harder to get along with.

SenileGranny

Joined: 7/3/2004

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Haven't I met you somewhere before??? Posted: 2/5/2007 11:32:54 PM
I had the pleasure of working with my doppleganger for a few years a while back. It caused funny conversations where eventually someone would look all confused and say. "but, but, yesterday you said ....". Initiating new staff was always fun too...till the manager caught on. After that, new hires were introduced to us right away..."look closely, they don't really look that much alike. Don't let them play with your head." We were only 2 months apart, and born in 2 different hemisperes...but someone would always ask which one of our fathers was playing the field.

SenileGranny

Joined: 7/3/2004

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theme ideas for a house party Posted: 2/5/2007 11:20:56 PM
One of my former co-workers was a bit of an airhead. She'd start to say something, and lose her train of thought 1/2 way through a sentence. Some smart ass would pipe up, "Ahhh, Martians zapped that one eh? musta been a gooder." For her birthday we all dressed up as Martians or wore tin foil hats and other various anti-death ray protection. We put green food coloring in all the food and drinks, someone brought a bag of lazer lights...this is where we discovered she believed she had once been abducted by aliens....sooo you might wanna check your guest list close for this one.

SenileGranny

Joined: 7/3/2004

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Who else was digging their vehicles outta the snow today. Posted: 1/16/2007 7:58:23 AM
Uhhhh, Doc? I got your 5 cm over here...when you coming to get it? It's kinda in my way.

SenileGranny

Joined: 7/3/2004

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Accomplishments ? Posted: 1/15/2007 8:04:34 PM
Way back a hundred years ago, I turned 24 and thought to myself, "OMG, I'm going to be 25 soon and life will be over! I better get my poop together!" Boy, have I gone full speed in reverse since then! I have not accomplished many of the financial or material goals that I had back then. I have managed to convince my Dad that he was right, when at age 26, he pronounced me: "Perfect! A perfect example of wasted potential!" and threw up his hands in exasperation and stomped away over my choice in jobs. I didn't choose the highway paved in gold, there were hills, mountains, potholes, washed out bridges and landslides along the roads I've chosen. But, ohhhh the sights I've seen, the experiences I've had....I did it my way and it's been great and damn I've had fun!

SenileGranny

Joined: 7/3/2004

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Talking to yourself Posted: 11/8/2006 7:20:14 PM
No, with computers, a hammer just isn't satisfying enough. I usually stand there and have a chat with myself ...it's funny, we always decide on the 9 iron for the compaq and the 5 iron for the HP.

SenileGranny

Joined: 7/3/2004

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worst halloween candy Posted: 11/1/2006 3:56:00 PM
My kids got organic chocolate bars at one place....funny how they ended up in the 'here mommy, we'll share this with you' pile. smell like stale granola bars...taste actually ok...till the aftertaste hits... quick! gimme something to wash it down with!

SenileGranny

Joined: 7/3/2004

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evicting a teen Posted: 10/30/2006 3:26:06 PM
Oh WDM I feel for you, I understand the frustration, as I have gone through it myself. I have 4 kids, all raised the same way, same rules etc....3 are excellent children/young adults and 1 breaks my heart each and everyday. I have no advice for you, I went through this in Alberta where the system is so twisted with red tape it cannot work properly. No idea of the resources here in BC. Email me if you want an ear or shoulder.

SenileGranny

Joined: 7/3/2004

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Cricks Posted: 10/25/2006 6:39:36 PM
I'll lend you my 5 year old, she is very well trained and just the right weight to walk on cricks.

SenileGranny

Joined: 7/3/2004

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Any import / domestic car enthusiasts here? Posted: 10/25/2006 6:37:16 PM
Ehhh, nuthin says hot rod like a 1 ton GMC crew cab, long box, 292 straight 6, headers full of holes, roofing tin for floor boards, more bondo than metal..... Never had to worry about, "Hey kin I borrow yer truck?"

SenileGranny

Joined: 7/3/2004

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How do you deal with.. Posted: 10/25/2006 3:17:57 PM
Our house has had its go rounds with lies. Seems that what worked with child #1 doesn't work with child #2 and so on. The discipline with each one has had to be different, and sometimes evolves for each kid. But, the stress has always been: if you're bad we'll deal with it, but if you lie to me about it - you get double! If you lie to me once, I will not trust you for a very loooong time, you will have to prove yourself trustworthy again, and that can be very hard. How do you feel when people lie to you? Can you trust them next time? How do you think the other person feels? Will they trust you next time? etc. Wish I had something helpfull-but I'm still looking for the same answers.

SenileGranny

Joined: 7/3/2004

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Things to do while visiting friends Posted: 10/11/2006 7:34:01 PM
My darling brother has switched the hinges on my doors so that the hinges and door knobs are on the same side, Re-wired my broken light switch so that it turns the wrong light on and jimmied my taps so that the water comes out both tap and shower head. #1 son(following his fav uncle's footsteps) switched the kitchen cupboard doors so they open the wrong way, put all my clocks on different times, and delights in putting everything he can get his hands on on the very top shelf then hiding my stool. Unfortunately, sis-in-law and daughter-in-law frown on any revenge I might seek.

SenileGranny

Joined: 7/3/2004

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You can pick your friends, but you can't pick your family!! Posted: 10/9/2006 8:50:18 PM
I love my family...mind you it's easier to love them now that I live a province away, lmao.

SenileGranny

Joined: 7/3/2004

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Ever had a sign ....... Posted: 9/24/2006 4:54:41 PM
"Aproach this desk slowly. State your issue in a whisper in 10 words or less. If your issue requires more than 10 words you must offer a sacrifice of a large timmy ho's french vanilla to the goddess of the desk."

SenileGranny

Joined: 7/3/2004

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Just before a night time.............. Posted: 9/13/2006 11:46:01 PM
Well, that all depends on who's looking, or maybe what time they're looking. There's been reports of boogymen, monsters, killer dust bunnies, ghosts, trolls, fairies,....apparently there's a lot of room under there.

SenileGranny

Joined: 7/3/2004

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A Simple Question Really... Posted: 9/12/2006 1:38:10 PM
I get that a lot too. I grew up on the farm, never saw the inside of an automatic until I'd already been driving for 3 years. Even in a rural area where everyone drives(no transit system) males always seem surprised(and maybe a little put out) that a female can drive a standard. Some even go as far as suggesting that a female who has higher than a class 5 license must be a lesbian or assexual. The reverse is also true, most people assume that if a person is male then they are capable of driving a standard and are absolutely flabergasted when they find a male who does not drive at all. The world has come a long way, but there are sooo many stereotypes that still prevail.

SenileGranny

Joined: 7/3/2004

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What do you find most sexy about the opposite sex? Posted: 9/12/2006 11:49:33 AM
Definitely the eyes, then the smile, the voice and hands for some reason.

SenileGranny

Joined: 7/3/2004

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Cereal..... Posted: 9/11/2006 1:05:54 PM
Ehhh...He would instantly lose his status as "The One" the second he tried to 'make' me change my ways. Hubby was a total control freak, took me 3 years to get out and 10 years to rebuild what was left of me. I like what I've built, I've survived quite well this long doing things my way...it'll take a well thought out, carefully explained, and gently presented argument for me to consider changing(even something as small as my fav cereal or TP).

SenileGranny

Joined: 7/3/2004

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Work stress Posted: 9/6/2006 4:18:22 PM
I submit purchase orders for paint ball guns or whips and hand cuffs(the confusion this causes the boss cancells out the stress caused by a co-worker, lmao), draw cartoons of the offending co-worker or customer(usually with bulls eyes strategically placed), radio a non-offending co-worker and demand a joke(they're getting pretty good at coming up with a joke on demand)

SenileGranny

Joined: 7/3/2004

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Changes Posted: 8/31/2006 10:44:33 PM
Where I grew up, everybody knew everybody. If we did something in town even slightly wrong, the parents and grandparents all knew about it before we got home. These days does anybody know their neighbors phone numbers? Or which kids belong in what yards? My great aunt seems to think that the world went downhill when they started building houses with patios in the back with privacy fences instead of front porches with rocking chairs and a swing. Then she adds in a forboding tone, "It takes a village to raise a child."

SenileGranny

Joined: 7/3/2004

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Over the hill? Posted: 8/23/2006 6:38:58 PM
He's on a roll....they're going downhill, You're only as old as you feel....last time you got felt you were 23 right? You're 29 with 13 years experience...doncha think it's time to get experience with a different number? I'm buying you new wheels for your birthday! Do you want a lil basket and racing stripes on your scooter?

SenileGranny

Joined: 7/3/2004

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r u evil? Posted: 8/23/2006 3:16:04 PM
I once spent a while plotting revenge...had it all planned out...karma beat me to it, and did a much better job. I trust karma...sometimes it takes a while...but it always gets it's man(woman) in the end.

SenileGranny

Joined: 7/3/2004

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lucky brat... Posted: 8/23/2006 7:41:52 AM
Got to go through ICBC. It is important this is on her driving record. She is not a good driver and trust me paying more now may just save her or someone else's life later. themaven said it best.

SenileGranny

Joined: 7/3/2004

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Anniversary’s - what do you do to make them special? Posted: 8/22/2006 6:30:07 PM
I gave up on anniversaries...while married, my hubby never once remembered what day we got married. A couple years after the divorce, while discussing co-parenting issues with the ex and his new bride of 3 months, he says, "Hey, do you know what day it is? Do you remember what you and I were doing exactly 10 years ago tonight?(wink wink) It's our anniversary!!" As I coughed and gagged on my coffee, I managed to sputter out how impressed I was with his memory and tact(NOT)

SenileGranny

Joined: 7/3/2004

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Rich 'n Famous. Posted: 8/22/2006 4:09:47 PM
I think being famous would suck. Any kind of privacy would be hard to find. Every part of your life, even the mundane, would be discussed by the public. Small mistakes, forever remembered. The list goes on...

SenileGranny

Joined: 7/3/2004

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Over the hill? Posted: 8/21/2006 6:51:42 PM
Gaaahhhhh, he's hired recruits. An ex just emailed with: You know I'll always be here if you need support....at least till they invent a bra that will defy gravity.

SenileGranny

Joined: 7/3/2004

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Me, myself and I Posted: 8/21/2006 6:23:35 PM
Ever sit back and try to compare your 3 selves? The person you think you are/try to be, the person others think you are, and the person you end up really being. How close or how different are they?

SenileGranny

Joined: 7/3/2004

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Over the hill? Posted: 8/21/2006 4:40:52 PM
My darling brother has begun a lovely series of emails to me over the last few days. So far I've recieved these gems: In dog years you're...carry the 2...lets see...OMG you're DEAD!!! You're not 40 something, you're 39.95 plus shipping and handling...plus taxes...plus other hidden fees...plus... You look damn good for your age....I never knew they could mummify the living. Let me know when your senior's discount kicks in, I'll give you my shopping list. Out there in B.C. they got that graduated lisence thing right? with the L for learners and N for new etc...when do you get your S for senior? Got any good over the hill cracks?

SenileGranny

Joined: 7/3/2004

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Hunting Posted: 8/21/2006 3:34:46 PM
Gon darlin...for some reason, the thought of you holding any gun other than a squirt gun, scares the beejeebers outta me,

SenileGranny

Joined: 7/3/2004

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igmorance is bliss! Posted: 8/11/2006 8:25:56 PM
His elevator goes all the way to the 10th floor!....too bad there's 30 more floors.

SenileGranny

Joined: 7/3/2004

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Holy....now that's awkward Posted: 8/9/2006 10:28:05 PM
hmmm...found this link: http://www.ananova.com/news/story/sm_1937986.html?menu=news.quirkies.quirkygaffes

SenileGranny

Joined: 7/3/2004

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breaking up.... Posted: 8/4/2006 8:17:24 PM
What?...I'm thinking that kid can't keep up with the Aldergrove girls. Yes, please send more male help as soon there will be 3 Edit: Going out and having fun after a break up is exactly what the doctor ordered.

SenileGranny

Joined: 7/3/2004

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Anal vs Organized Posted: 8/4/2006 2:03:44 PM
Don't touch my desk. My secret ultra encrypted filing system, cleverly disguised as a massive mess, will self destruct! Honest, I am organized...some days. I'm scared to touch anything on my dad's desk...alphabetized, sticky notes, cross refferenced 3 different ways, copious meticulous lists. I think dad's picture in in the dictionary under 'Anal'.

SenileGranny

Joined: 7/3/2004

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Guess it depends on the nature of his profile Posted: 8/2/2006 11:36:12 PM
The best approach to porn is to turn the volume off and make up your own dialogue...makes for some of the best comedy.

SenileGranny

Joined: 7/3/2004

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Reacted to Soon? got glue? Posted: 8/1/2006 9:22:08 PM
I saw a bug crawling up my cousin's back, told him, "Hold still" and wacked the bug...only to discover it was a big ol' hairy mole....now with a red imprint of my hand. Seems I'm a tad forgetfull...wacked that same bug the following summer too. Now he always points out his mole and reminds me it's not a bug.

SenileGranny

Joined: 7/3/2004

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Runnning into people you know on here.... Posted: 8/1/2006 12:30:50 PM
My ex is on here...I get random affectionate, " " emails from him.

SenileGranny

Joined: 7/3/2004

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Showered with gifts Posted: 7/26/2006 1:42:10 PM
People express love and affection in different ways. A person who speaks the 'gift' language and gives gifts to show affection may confuse someone who equates love and affection with time spent together. Or someone who works over time to ensure the people they love have everything they want taken care of will frustrate the heck out of someone who equates love and affection with verbal affirmations. Some people have trouble speaking more than one love 'language'.

SenileGranny

Joined: 7/3/2004

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Okay the heat is here , now what? Posted: 7/20/2006 9:46:29 PM
Remember the old "see how many people you can fit in a volkswagon"? Well, we're going to try to fit 4-6 tents, several vehicles and a 5th wheel in the cleared space at the family cabin near Vernon. It's about the size of most yards in town. The race for the one relatively flat tent spot starts tomorrow morning. Some of us are starting from central Alberta, some from the lower mainland, the ones that live in Vernon have graciously promised us a head start, lmao.

SenileGranny

Joined: 7/3/2004

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When you were a kid.. Posted: 7/18/2006 10:52:20 PM
Bowling Alberta red neck style: on top of the hay stack, try to knock your siblings off the top by throwing hay bales at them. Tag Alberta red neck style: chase your siblings out across the backs of dad's prize bulls while they're busy eating...don't touch the ground or suddenly the bulls are 'it' and it's every man for himself. Running along the tops of the corrals got boring, so we graduated to barbed wire tight rope running. It's no fun cultivating a nice smooth field..quick, put some nice deep ruts in it while dad aint looking, then get it all smoothed over before you get busted.(and don't forget to wash the truck after) And the ever popular "see who can get the babysitter to quit" game.

SenileGranny

Joined: 7/3/2004

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Kamloops Rec Event........ Posted: 7/18/2006 8:16:57 PM
Beer... on the water ... while swimming with your kids.... I dont friggin think so.... Im in.. but if its rafting and boozing... I think the little ones should be left at home. and IS, this is why most people should be sterilized at birth. Are what caused me to decide not to come...I'm thinking funlovingdad may be reacting to the same comments.

SenileGranny

Joined: 7/3/2004

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women and cowboys Posted: 7/18/2006 4:34:30 PM
A cowboy would be great, but I fear they are almost extinct, all that's left are the rodeo clowns...you know, looks like a cowboy, acts like a cowboy...but the bull poop is all on the INSIDE of the boots.

SenileGranny

Joined: 7/3/2004

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Same ol' guys.... Posted: 7/15/2006 11:18:36 AM
So am I still #48 in line or has the line shortened yet?

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