Perhaps it is because you have been through enough games, heartache and drama to last a lifetime, so this flippant, detached attitude you exhibit is really your defense mechanism so that you will not be emotionally scared again. I am glad that works for you. Must be a wonderful life, being desensitized to all that makes life worth living - the good and the bad. You think anyone with a problem is nothing but a whiner, ****, high maintenance, living in dreamland or looking for a pity party, crutch or scapegoat to project their real problems on to. It is so much easier to just label and dismiss a person versus understanding the reason why someone is as they are. I think someone should start a thread just on some people's conduct in the forum. It is not helpful, it is hurtful, rude and unproductive.

The way I see it if my man is willing to go with another woman, then bye bye, take him, I don't want him.

only tend to go for dating the "good looking prima donna barbie doll type?

She says I cheated, spent the evening on the phone talking with old friends acting like I was a complete lech, and wants to break up unless I stop selling Maxim.
I feel this is idiotic and immature, to say nothing of the lack of trust she shows towards me.

we go throgh this over and over again he says he cares about me now.. but he dont want to be with me.

It is true that he has the power to hurt me really bad and I know it,

Geizzelda, I appreciate your statements, but honesty I can't say he doesn't meet me needs. From a time perspective, once or twice seeing him is hard, but we talk daily about anything and everything. We often stay up until 2 or 3 in the morning just talking and we share the most intimate thougthst and feelings with each other. We call each other our best friend (although he has introduced me to his friends as his girlfriend and they all know about me) When we are together, it's awesome. I haven't found anything close with anyone else, not before him and certainly not since him. I am the one who is always referring to him as a friend and when he told his friends I was his girlfriend I gave him a hard time about it, so it's hard to judge if he really just views me as a friend or if he thinks that is how I veiw him. I have been so brutally honest with him in the past about other things that if he was going to bolt, he would have. He always tells me I can tell him anything and that he wants me in his life forever. I am so afraid of confessing more than a "friendship" to him and then ruining it! Like the former poster mentioned, I guess he really is my lover more than a FWB. This arrangement was my idea because of some difficult things he was going through. He gets aggravated that I suggested it to make things easier on him, wont let him give up important things in his life that he has offered to do to be with me, yet I insist on still casually dating to keep myself entertained while he is so busy. (He lives over an hour from me, works an 80 hr a wk job and is finishing his masters degree, on top of having his son 50% of the time) I keep telling him I am here as his friend and will try to support him through this time. My problem is that I miss him by only seeing him once, maaaaybe twice a week, even though we talk for hours during the day (his job kind of allows for that) and even at night.

Big- it's a Federal law & Federal laws supersede all others.

I would never live in the south.

Not only is racism prevalent, but the people there think it's a way of life.

Still men are not that interested because they are looking for someone who is a very close version of Barbie

Disclaimer: I cannot be held responsible for anything I utter during climax.

Have you got any idea what it takes to make ME speechless?