Meet people ASAP. Do NOT spend too much time with e mail after e mail. People lie like MOFO's on here; unemployed, 50 + pounds heavier than their photos, fake photos, or just major trainwrecks. People will BS you into making themselves out to be something they are not. Make the first meet fast, and somewhere close to an EXIT sign. Good luck. Be careful.

There's also a vaginas-have-teeth crowd, the single-moms-suck crowd, the deadbeat-dad crowd, the I-have-an-opinion-about-everything crowd, the my-way-or-the-highway crowd and the I-could-raise-your-kids-better-then-you crowd.

At an early age, men (boys) like to engage in friendly competition with each other. The loudest or longest belch, best fart, longest or most accurate spitting distance, etc. It is a rite of passage.

I wouldn't force it. If he is hungry he will eat. If you force it he will puke.

Ya know, I should really read the entire thread. I've seen this before by this OP and others. Their original question was bait for attention since they already had many other facts not put in the original post. They dont want our opinions, they want to justify their decisions already made to a bunch of strangers. They are making soap operas for the forum voyeurs. I'm sure that now she is daddy's li'l darlin

look i know you don't want to hear this but no matter what type of jerk or whatever he is...your child has half his DNA. that's his kid not just yours. next time be smarter with having kids with someone. the dude will never be out of your life. jesus i wish women would remember this.

DNA does not a parent make. Why should only women remember this? It is, in this case, the man who chose not to be part of the child's life, then claimed "rights" after 11 years. Isn't the child the important one here?

Custody is a legal issue. If you are determined to deny him visitation with his daughter, be sure you can prove to a court of law he is a bad influence. Otherwise, he'll sue for visitation. And win.

My guess: he may want to see his daughter, but I'll bet he wants to see you more.

My advice??? You said you work in corrections, right? I'd say that getting involved with the guy is obviously out of the question - in your position, it's unethical to date a known felon. That being said, he is your daughter's father. Since you have been up front with her about him, and it was her decision to keep him out of her life, it's up to you too follow her wishes. You can always use the "corrections" gig as an excuse, to him, if you need to. On the other hand, it shouldn't surprise him to hear that his daughter wants nothing to do with him, under the circumstances. Be prepared, however, depending on how this guy really feels, he might seek some type of visitation arrangements. If he does, do everything in your power to refrain from talking trash about him to her, around her, or to people she spends time with. You don't want to make it worse for her, and you don't want to give her any reason to think badly of you, if she should actually meet him and like him. Good luck.