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catman5169

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How long after until you saw your ex? Posted: 4/9/2006 8:51:05 PM
Ten years +...had grown plumper...the first ex. Unfortunately,I saw the 2nd ex (the one where we remained very close friends) around the 1st of last August...at her funeral. Had a massive stroke due to out of control b/p. Had talked to her the Thursday before her Saturday death. Best to remember, no matter why they're an ex....don't leave them with hard feelings....you never know that the last thing you say to them might actually be the LAST rather than

catman5169

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Pregnant from the first date Posted: 10/22/2005 5:08:11 PM
I had unprotected sex only one time in my life on a first date. Stupid---very stupid In my own defense, I'd known the woman for quite some time....and I've been "fixed" so no baby could be forthcoming. In the 21st century,it's difficult to believe people actually will have sex w/o protection knowing a baby may be created. A poor defenseless baby, who didn't ask to be born. Sheesh.

catman5169

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How much of an age difference is too much? Posted: 8/16/2005 7:09:06 PM
Age is just a number...as long as the other party is ADULT. It's mind over matter...if she don't mind, it don't matter.

catman5169

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tonights question Posted: 7/12/2005 7:24:40 PM
It's happened in the past, and hopefully will happen in the future. Try to last as long as she does, then let it all go

catman5169

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Would You Or Have You Ever Paid For Sex! Posted: 7/8/2005 9:05:05 PM
If being married, then paying for the divorce is considered paying for sex...or lack thereof, yes, I've paid

catman5169

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What happened to the sex drive of men over the age of 25???? Posted: 6/26/2005 4:34:33 PM
Ah, I can only speak of a past experience....like cats in heat!!! That's been a couple of years ago,but hopefully I'm still good to go....but, not in Canada!!! Guess it may because I got a late start in messing around and am trying to catch up.... The ex got down to two times a month...if it was a GOOD month....so I've still got some making up to do.....

catman5169

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What happened to the sex drive of men over the age of 25???? Posted: 6/26/2005 4:13:18 PM
I am waaaaaaaaay past 25 years, but the water down in Mississippi must be some good stuff.....it keeps you like the Energizer bunny......going and going.......or Timex....takes a licking and keeps on ticking.............

catman5169

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How do they do it? Posted: 6/23/2005 7:44:56 PM
From a male perspective---I am faaaar from handsome---but still won't snag lightening. I've always been blessed in being able to date good looking women; I feel that it is because I'm just me. I admit to having an off the wall sense of humor. I usually know what I want, and will go after it---especially if I'm in one of those moods.... Not meaning this to be arrogant, but if it doesn't work out, I know I can always return to the pond, bait my hook, and drop the line again.

catman5169

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Does Age Really Matter????? Posted: 6/16/2005 8:53:10 AM
Age is simply mind over matter; if she don't mind, it doesn't matter. Remember the late actor Tony Randall? His second wife was 50 years younger than he was...and they had at least two kids!! (I think that was unfair to the kids, who won't have a "daddy"...till momme finds her another guy)... I agree with those who disagree that men peak sexually at 19 or so....it's some 30+ years later, and I haven't seen a peak yet. Currently chasing "Sweetie" who's quite a few years younger than I am....my take...unless something tragic happens, all will be well. Or, as a doctor once said, marrying someone that much younger could be hazzaardous to your health.....well, if she dies, she dies!!!!

catman5169

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older men younger women Posted: 6/13/2005 12:32:36 PM
I've seen this posted before---age is just a number. It depends on the other person's maturity...I've seen women who were young, yet were so very emotionally mature. Likewise, I've seen "older" women who were silly, giggly like pre-teens. For me, I do prefer younger women, since I don't feel/act my age. It all depends on the person!!

catman5169

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Cute Pictures Posted: 6/12/2005 8:17:02 PM
Most of mine were lost when my folks had a water leak at their house. One that survived is on the wall in my hall...hey, I was a cute kid...what happened, I don't know..."Sweetie" saw them the other day and got a kick out of them

catman5169

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What music or favorite groups would you like you potential patner to listen to? Posted: 6/10/2005 11:51:13 AM
Being a child of the fifties-sixties, I like music from that era...I think the TV calls it AM Gold...also country from Hank Sr all the way to Alan Jackson, Kenny Chesney.... My potential sweetie likes more modern stuff, so when we travel, I burn a CD with one of her favorites followed by one of mine; if she has to put up with mine, I'll put up with hers

catman5169

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Why do you love your pet? Posted: 6/10/2005 11:45:32 AM
As I've mentioned before,I'm owned by several cats. They never have betrayed me or done anything to intentionally hurt me. Can't say that for the exes.... They have their own personality....and seem to know when "daddy" isn't feeling well. No mice, no snakes...and I live next to the woods. A couple are even housebroken!!!

catman5169

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what would you say Posted: 6/9/2005 11:59:42 AM
Not having the courage to tell my first grade "love" that I really cared for her...as much as a first grader could care. Here 40+ years later, we're still friends, and found out that the friendship was mutual.

catman5169

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The Toilet seat thing!!! Posted: 6/9/2005 11:54:50 AM
Believe it or not...........(drumroll,please)..........single male........no housemate (yet) who leaves the toilet seat and lid down on both toilets. Has a mind-altering effect on the ladies. Had female friend visit last week. When naure called and she answered, she came out of the bathroom and said "I can't believe the toilet seat was down". Just smiled....chalk up a few brownie points for the Cat.

catman5169

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older guys? Posted: 6/8/2005 8:43:48 PM
Mmmm34.....haven't seen that age in quite awhile...and guess what? It gets better with age...somewhat like a fine wine. Toby Keith puts it best....I'm not as good as I once was, but I'm good once as I ever was. Well, maybe more than once::

catman5169

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Does hair color matter in what you look for looks wise? Posted: 6/8/2005 8:30:28 PM
DATE a red head?? D A T E a red head?????? Try being married to one for 16 years. Actually, it wasn't that bad for most of the time...She had a "typical" red head temper,but it took a LOT to get it stirred up...then, it would behoove you to flee to the next state. I'm still best friends with another red head....she's like a baby sister to me...just as sweet as she can be.... And, yes, I DO have a "thing" for those redheads!!!

catman5169

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who is your type ? Posted: 6/5/2005 3:09:06 PM
So far, mine have been "typos".

catman5169

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MARRIAGE VERSUS LIVING TOGETHER Posted: 6/5/2005 3:06:43 PM
After having "tested the waters" more than once, and having the eventual marriage go belly up, IF I should decide to get married again, I'm going to try living together after the marriage. IF I should EVER get married again!!

catman5169

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memories Posted: 6/5/2005 2:56:21 PM
This does bring back memories!! Years ago, I was seeing someone I considered special. She, on the other hand, couldn't decide between myself, and another guy...so, I told her to make up her mind, and let me know...whatever her decison would be fine with me. Like the country song with the line, that's not my truck in her drive.....she chose the other guy. I'd told her that IF things didn't work out between them, and IF I wasn't with someone else,we could try at some point in the future. She really was a sweetie, otherwise I wouldn't have made such a statement. Jump forward several months. One morning she called...right after I'd started going with someone else. Sorry, Honey, I've got someone. That someone became my wife. In retrospect, might should have gone out with the other girl...but....(based on the outcome of the marriage!!!) Good Luck

catman5169

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Would you rather your partner be honest, or lie to make you feel better? Posted: 6/5/2005 2:49:14 PM
Always, always, always...tell me the truth. It might hurt a little bit now, but,it'd hurt a lot worse if I found out the truth days, weeks,months down the line. That would destroy any and all trust I have in the person, and destroy anything that we have/could have had.

catman5169

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Meet my ex Posted: 6/4/2005 10:43:49 PM
I understand what you're going through. My ex was one of the sweetest, most loving people on earth, but she had a serious problem with alcohol. It reared its ugly head, and she fell headfirst into the chasm. I tried to help her, but she "didn't need any help"...ah, denial...and not de-river. She left, and got into a relaitonship with her male counterpart...he stays drunk all the time; he's abusive where she was not. She finally realized that she did, indeed, have a problem, and went to thearpy several times, only to celebrate with a six pack...and vodka. I think she's finally woke up and realized what's going on. She won't admit, but I think the doctor told her that her ulcers would wind up killing her if she didn't stop. I wish her the best, but I'm still doubtful. If this woman decides she wants help, and gets it, things could work out; if she goes for help just to please you, it probably won't. I'm not trying to throw ice water on what awaitingyu said by any means, but there is a negative side; unfortunately in my situation, the negative outweighed the positive. She and I are still friends,and will remain that way...it's just I can't trust her to be in a relationship with her anymore.

catman5169

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IS AGE REALLY A FACTOR? Posted: 6/4/2005 2:32:31 PM
Age is a factor, if you let it get in the way. Now, let's just say when I speak of younger women, I'm speaking of those out of their teens. No San Quentin Qual for me. I happen to prefer younger ladies, simply for thier youth, their outlook on life...things that the women near my age (at least those I've met) seem to have lost or forgotten. I'm not saying the difference should be like the late Tony Randall's was....50 years. Or, like the doc told me....the age difference could be hazzardous to one's health. I told him, "Doc, if she dies, she dies".

catman5169

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Wanting to go out but nobody to go out with... is this you? Posted: 6/3/2005 6:02:01 PM
Try a small town (1200) in MS!!! They put the streets and sidewalks up for safekeeping at sunset. Ah, well...when that right person comes along, we'll have fun being bored together

catman5169

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Acceptable age range difference? Posted: 6/3/2005 5:58:25 PM
Thank 'ee!!! They say growing old is manditory...growing up is optional. I refuese to do either!!!!!!!

catman5169

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Acceptable age range difference? Posted: 6/3/2005 5:50:06 PM
Being on the prowl for the younger woman, I have to agree with most everyone who said that age is just a number. There were 11 years difference in my folks...and the year my Dad died would've been their 58th anniversary. I'm currently in pursuit of a young lady who's considerably younger than I...she has two beautiful daughters who I would love to call my own. She is very mature emotionally, which makes her all the more desireable. The age difference doesn't seem to bother her...but then, I don't act my age either.

catman5169

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Stress Posted: 6/2/2005 1:44:12 PM
Ouch

catman5169

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Stress Posted: 6/2/2005 1:37:08 PM
Ah, stress!!! and depression...seem to go hand in hand. Used to have both...still clinically depressed, but under control. Try working in a penitentiary for 20 years...the stress will kill you...however... Since I've chnged jobs, I have no stress to speak of. Stress will not only kill YOU, but any relationship that you might have....IF you let it. Awaitingyu gave some good advice. Be there for them, but don't press the issue...you'll drive them into more stress. If they're really stressed, for health reasons, they might need to see a doc. I'm one who HATES to take medication, but have to...no choice in the matter. Just be there for them, and help them all you can. Best of luck to you...........=^..^=

catman5169

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A Love of my Own Posted: 6/1/2005 6:57:42 PM
I wish for you the very best---and much happiness. May the two of you have clear skies and green lights wherever you choose to go.

catman5169

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Would you date somebody who is married and has a spouse who has become incapacitated? Posted: 6/1/2005 6:52:25 PM
Not no, but Hades NO!!! Any woman that is MARRIED will only get friendship. The only married women I've bedded were married to me.

catman5169

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Summer Loving Posted: 5/31/2005 9:04:38 PM
One summer, a cousin of one of my friends came down to visit. She was strawberry blonde (I have a weakness for red-heads)...we picked at each other and flirted. The last night she was there, we made out for about an hour. Her dad was in the army, and was going to Germany. Sherry, where are you????

catman5169

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is really such a thing to be too busy to call :) Posted: 5/31/2005 8:48:49 PM
IF he really cares, he'd find time!! However---there wll be times that, say, he calls and doesn't get an answer or gets the busy signal...and something else happens...that he might forget. Yeah, right, sure.... Admittedly, I have done this in the past....but only once...(maybe twice, but I tend to forget)

catman5169

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ex sex...bad idea or just bad fun? Posted: 5/31/2005 8:36:36 PM
Even with a cast iron condom, I wouldn't try to dip in that!!!

catman5169

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Straightest relationship on TV???? Posted: 5/31/2005 8:25:15 PM
Odd Couple---Felix and Oscar. Captain Kangaroo and Mr. GreenJeans?

catman5169

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Cat or Dog person Posted: 5/31/2005 8:17:36 PM
Need You Ask???? =^..^= I love dogs as well, and have owned three...but they all left. They were outnumbered by the cats. The cats saw the dog as a minor inconvenience; the dogs...well....they couldn't take it.

catman5169

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The Best and Worst I Love You responses! Posted: 5/31/2005 8:12:44 PM
The sweet thing I'm "working on" came by the house the other day after an interview for work. I'd fixed us a bite to eat...as she got in her car to go, I said "luvvya"...she replied "I love you too!!" I think it surprised both of us....

catman5169

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Without a Woman - yeah, not quite what you think this thread is about. Posted: 5/31/2005 2:00:41 PM
My five cents worth (inflation, you know).... I don't NEED a woman to make my life anything. However, having the right woman adds to the pleasure of this walk through life. Knowing that you have a good woman in your life gives you joy. (The wrong one, however can cause great pain!! ). I would love to find that woman, and hopefully, will one of these days. Till then, I'm gonna live every day to the fullest.

catman5169

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How much fun do you bring to a relationship? Posted: 5/30/2005 8:43:34 PM
Helping to wash her car, and 'accidentally on purpose' squirting her with the hose. Going on a day trip, stopping in a roadside park, saying something to "tick" her off and when she chases you, yell "spouse abuse".....then, when people start looking, grab her and kiss her... walking in the woods during the rain...

catman5169

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can u admit when ur wrong? Posted: 5/27/2005 7:43:42 PM
I've never been wrong in my life. I thought I was once, but was mistaken.

catman5169

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pets...what do they say about you? Posted: 5/27/2005 9:21:36 AM
I don't own any pets at the moment. I am, however, owned by several cats.

catman5169

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Office romances - Good or bad when the company allows it Posted: 5/27/2005 9:18:19 AM
My ex and I worked at the same place, but we worked different shifts, so it wasn't bad. I'm now working on a romance---at the least a deep friendship with someone who worked at the same place I did. We're both "between jobs" at the moment, but I've been offered employment elsewhere, and have gotten her a job there as well. I think that this will work because we both have the type of personality to make it work. If it doesn't, we both know to call it off then and there before the friendship dies...like the ex mentioned above. We're still friends...so....it won't be easy, but it can work.

catman5169

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How good are you at resisting temptation Posted: 5/23/2005 10:00:04 PM
I never run from temptation------without leaving a forwarding address

catman5169

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Odd pick up lines Posted: 5/17/2005 4:41:35 PM
This wasn't a pickup line per se, but it worked. The day I met my sweetie, I asked if she was married or happy. Since she wasn't, now we are happy

catman5169

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Does honesty get you anywere anymore???? Posted: 5/4/2005 3:29:22 PM
Honestly, I think it does. The SYT I've been working on came over today---I'd fixed her up a resume and made copies for her. When she came by, I told her I was going to do something I'd never done for any woman before in my life....let her see inside the house...while it was not clean!!! We talked for awhile, including our bouts with depression, her divorce and my two...and by being open and honest, we seemingly have been drawn closer to each other.. Also, as said before,if you're not honest, it will come back to bite you in the a***. If you're honest from the begining, you won't have to try to remember what lies you've told in order to keep up with other lies to tell. If she doesn't like you for YOU, then it's time to move on.

catman5169

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Dating around kids Posted: 5/3/2005 8:55:22 PM
I'm getting serious about a single Mom...now whether she is about me is another story, but hopefully..... I first asked her out to eat...and told her I knew a real romantic spot to eat that served Happy Meals...she thought that was funny!! I think I "one upped" her in that in talking, I said I don't know where this will go, but wherever it does, the girls have to come first...think it startled her.

catman5169

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Disability or Gift from God? Posted: 5/3/2005 8:46:56 PM
It's both, IMHO....like your job. when your auto and a skunk have an unplanned meeting, the s/o breaks wind, and the like, it's a blessing. Not so when the roses are in bloom, honeysuckle, gardinias are at their height of beauty and smell. Actually, it's a little of both.

catman5169

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What's your favorite erotic movie?Not necessarily porn Posted: 5/3/2005 8:42:42 PM
This has been years ago, way back in the 70's. but there was a movie called Friends...Elton John was on the sound track...about two orphan kids who run away from home to avoid abusive family. There was one scene towards the end where the two are in the back of a church, taking the wedding vows as another couple are actually being married.

catman5169

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Do you believe in fate? Or love at first sight? Posted: 5/3/2005 8:06:02 PM
Love at first sight happens only to those that believe it will happen. I met Donna when we were in the first grade. Now I know it wasn't love as we would define it...but it was as much love as it could be to two first graders. While we went our separate ways, here almost 48 years later, we still love each other--but not 'in love' with each other. We can talk about anything without fear of shame or embarassment. We're the best of friends, and do love each other. I'll let you know later if love at first sight works today!!! To be continued.

catman5169

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Do you regret breaking up with your ex (spinoff of what attracted you to your ex?) Posted: 4/30/2005 8:41:37 PM
Under the circumstances, no, I don't regret it. She was an alcoholic in denial, and was stewed all the time...having fallen off the wagon. Having met and known her for years, we'd helped each other through other break-ups... What I miss is the person I originally fell for---the sober one---not the one that I left.

catman5169

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DESCRIBE YOUR FIRST LOVE, KISS, RELATIONSHIP Posted: 4/30/2005 8:27:00 PM
First Love? It took a looooong time to develop. I first met her when she was in diapers, and I wasn't far removed. Needless to say, she was a pest...always running after me. Many years later, I let her catch me. She lived in the same city as my aunt and uncle, and I'd only see her when I went to visit with my folks. My aunt and uncle moved to another town...her folks moved across the street. Still pestered me when I'd visit. A few years later, the girl had become a young lady---and I was very interested. The "first kiss" was with us playing around in the front yard. We'd get as close as we could without actually kissing...her friend was there egging us on.... Finally, I didn't back up. Her friend kept saying Ohh, they did it!!! That was only the start. We went together one year to the date, and for reasons still unknown called it quits. Wonder where she is tonight?

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