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Joined: 2/27/2009

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Some tips on improvement, please ... Posted: 11/7/2012 9:33:16 AM
Nice profile. The only line that I would delete is "I'm looking for a guy to love and support me." Not too many guys in their 20's can support themselves these days. Other than that, the above comment is true for the most part. A female can write whatever she wants (or nothing at all), but the photos will be the ultimate factor in gaining a guy's attention. Hope that helps -good luck.

Joined: 2/27/2009

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ATTENTION !!! PLEASE HELP !!! Posted: 11/7/2012 9:21:41 AM
Profile looks good to me but here are a couple thoughts. I would change your main photo because you look bored. Sell yourself more on personal training and firefighting and show a photo that reflects those interests. Hope that helps -good luck.

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I need workout advice Posted: 8/9/2009 1:48:38 PM
Nice job on the weight loss. Ok, seems like you have the physics down, now think in terms of energy in vs. energy out (Newton's Third Law of Thermodynamics). Also, think FAT LOSS instead of WEIGHT LOSS. After all of that hard work your body needs food! After a strength training session, you have about a one hour window of opportunuty to get some protein to your muscles ( abot 30 -40 grams). Otherwise your body will start to use muscle as an energy source. This is bad because muscle mass = metabolism. You should be eating 5 -6 small meals per day. If you weigh somewhere in the area of 250 LBS., and you stop losing bodyfat (get a Certified Fitness Instructor to measure your bodyfat and stop weighing yourself), you might not be eating enough. Remember it this way: create the need (exercise), then provide the feed (healthy calories). I would suggest hiring a private trainer to keep you on track (even Michael Jordan has a private Fitness Instructor). Keep up the good work!!!

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Kind of wondering about this friend Posted: 8/7/2009 7:49:17 AM
Ok, you are making the common female assumption that men are complex, highly emotional, and understand women. NEWSFALSH: we are none of those! Men are simple, don't have a clue about the way women think, and communicate differently than you do. Instead of thinking this thing to death and spending sleepless nights comtemplating your future with this younger man, do this: discuss the matter with him. Instead of informing the entire population of POF about your feelings, why don't you let him read your post? At least give this poor guy the courtesy of letting him know how you feel. Better still, confront him -throw the subject out there -take a risk! Then, and only then, take him up on one of his offers to escort you to one of your functions. Sorry if I'm blunt here, but it sounds like he is not hung -up on the age difference, you are. I would bet the cost of my POF membership that he has absolutely no idea how you feel.

Joined: 2/27/2009

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is it worth it hanging in there? Posted: 8/7/2009 7:35:47 AM
The key here is COMMUNICATION !! Can I stress the importance of that crucial issue any stronger? This is obviously an important subject for you. Might be the dealbreaker. Okay, you're both not getting any younger. Let's say, for the heck of it, that you are looking for a serious long -term relationship. In another 12 -15 years you will be about 65 right? The kids will be gone and it will be just the two of you together on a Sat. night. Your situation is not an easy one to address. I don't have kids and when I'm in a situation where I'm considering dating a woman that does have children, the fact that she has children is not the issue, in fact, a ready made family sounds attractive to me at times. What IS important to me is how she handles being a single parent. Can she balance a family and still have time for me at the end of the day? A good friend that I met on POF put it this way: "if both of your hands are holding buckets filled with water, and someone hands you a 50 dollar bill, you won't have a free hand to reach out and take that $50.00 because both of your hands are already occupied." This scenario applies to your situation. Just food for thought. Happy fishing!

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what do guys look for in a profile besides a pretty face? Posted: 8/7/2009 7:19:30 AM
I took a look at your profile and it looks fine to me. You included a variety of clear photos, I can see what your occupation is (thats says a lot about you), and you were specific about your interests. The first thing that I look for in a profile is the photos. I think that most people, especially men, are the same. Then, I want to know if our interests are similar or if I would enjoy trying the things that you're into. Oh yeah, NEVER post pics of yourself with another female in the photo -I can't tell which one is you and will not bother to stop and look at captions. And ladies, don't post a pic of you with another man (even if it's your brother) we don't care what some dude looks like. The reason that we opened your profile is to see what YOU look like. Ok, ok, enough ranting, profile looks fine. Hang in there, be honest, and I'm sure that you'll land that catch.

Joined: 2/27/2009

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Exercise Advice please. Posted: 3/8/2009 3:19:59 AM
Hi, Sounds like you are well on your way! The two things that you need to think about at this point are overtraining and adding a basic weight training program. Most people start to train more when they start to see seriuos results. With exercise, more is not better, more is just more. Overtraining is the #1 cause of sports injuries. The second thing that you can do is add a basic weight training program. An increase in muscle mass will help your body burn more calories -even at rest! Best of luck and keep training! -Steve

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