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 Author Thread: Evolutionary question?
 rhinograde
Joined: 1/6/2006
Msg: 47 (view)
 
Evolutionary question?
Posted: 2/4/2008 7:47:21 PM

he simple fact that humans are taller today has to do with healthier children which is a function of the choices the female made.


sorry, but it seems that humans are taller today in societies where they eat more and better. Nothing to do with female choice
 rhinograde
Joined: 1/6/2006
Msg: 20 (view)
 
why the ex wife blocks the dad from contacting his kids ?
Posted: 1/16/2008 5:11:15 AM
they are 6 and 8... and as much as i can, i travel with them. Deliver them to the mother in the airport, and then we have our seperate lives. still they are able to grab the phone and to phone to me, if they want, but maybe i was not clear : the mother forbid them to take their Hand phone to phone to me. And at 6 and 8, it's not so easy for then to go against the mother, fear of dispute, etc. when they are in her house.
Not easy for them, that part, being cut from dad. they told me later they waere upset buy it, but trying to play a lot etc not to think about it (very mature, isn t it for young kids like they are, i was surprised), while from my side when they are with me, i encourage them to phone to their mom, to send drawings etc to her, etc. even if i find her not behaving well with them, she is their mother, and she is important to them. I believe that even a bad mother is better than no mother at all, or no contact at all with her !
 rhinograde
Joined: 1/6/2006
Msg: 509 (view)
 
full-time single dads
Posted: 1/15/2008 5:53:44 AM
I am a single dad of two (6 years old girl, and 8 years old boy).

I sacrify my carrier, my energy, and my sentimental life to them, otherwise nobody woudn't do it for them. It s only normal, it s my duty and my pleasure to do my best for them.

I have to take care about my own life too, of course, but sometime when there is a choice to do, they come first.

Am i wrong, or is it that most of the women and men who understand that and loves that have got also a few hard lessons in their life ? I am not sure young men or young women without children really understand this (i mean regarding the single dads, because regarding single moms, nobody is surprised)
 rhinograde
Joined: 1/6/2006
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why the ex wife blocks the dad from contacting his kids ?
Posted: 1/15/2008 5:38:51 AM
Thanks to all, for all your comments... Indeed, i got my kids after the vacation in a rather bad shape (psychologically). Yes the mum wnted her own time not to be spoiled, but the kids wanted to keep contact with me 2-3 times a week (xhich is not excessive) and this was not allowed to them. despite i gace them their own cellular.
I believe the mother conceive her own time rather exclusively, and do not consider really what the kids prefer.
In fact she is maybe mad at the fact that the kids, even young, prefer to stay with me for the main part of the custody.
Another light on the point : when the kids are at home with me, they would like their mom calling more often... and she gives a phone call only every 10 days or so (she says to be too busy, that the phone call oversees is too expensive - with skype, webcalldirect, or such items, it sounds crazy, and finally argue that it is not good for the kids that she calls too often -sounds crazy again , isn't it ?0. the boy (8 years) plays brave, but the little girls is very sad of that. I tried to engage the mother than to use the web cam, to make it more lively... and whatis a pitty, is that after two minutes of conversation with the kids, she runs out of subject and comes to "hmmm hmmm what to say ?"while when the kids skype their grand parents, they hold on for 15 to 30 minutes everytine, 2-3 times a week !

Having been married with her during 10 years, i know how much she is unconfortable when it comes to express her feelings to people, always beeing very cold,... but dammit ! They are her kids ! She could try to mak ethem happy, no ? Giving a few phone calls is not like beeing tortured, isnt it ?
 rhinograde
Joined: 1/6/2006
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why the ex wife blocks the dad from contacting his kids ?
Posted: 1/4/2008 3:05:05 PM
Here is the context :
I am a divorced dad, the kids stay with me by decision of the court; They go to their mother's place during their school hollidays; they are 6 and 8

They asked me to phone regularly to them while they are in vacation with their mom, i bought a HP to them; last vacations my daughter managed to call me on the second day with her mother, and then the following week, it was impossible to contact them. All the phones including the hp of the kids were shut down.
Finally they called me for the first of Jan/ my son told me that her mother forced them to shut down theyr HP "in order to avoid beeing disturbed every 5 minutes"

While i understand that she wants to keep thekids for her furing vacations, not beeing disturbed by a phone call from me to her main phone , she legitimately might be willing having her own private time with the kids, i can not understand why she forces the kids to shut down their own phone;

Am i abnormall not understanding this and willing to phone to my kids 2 - 3 times a week when they asked for, or what ?

Your ideas on this are welcome * cheers
 rhinograde
Joined: 1/6/2006
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women... science needs your contribution
Posted: 2/4/2006 10:55:54 AM
but it's not my fault you pasted a poorly written quote. It's written in a horrible excuse for the english language

Hey, the more you post, the lower you slaver... (or drool, it seems that you are a US citizen)
Man, when you write in french (or in italian or in spanish or in german) as well as i write in english, just call me and i bow.
by the way, your own style is so impressive... even to me, a froggie !
Ok I stop there, seems i was even begining to drool too !




for the remaining, as long as no other post will contradict what you wrote... I apologise

It seems that my explantion of the context was not long or clear enough. 2nd degré, or fifth form, or tenth grade (according how much hamburgers or how few frogs you eat) are not possible without proper exact context !

OK all budies, leave it, it was a failed attempt !
 rhinograde
Joined: 1/6/2006
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Single Dads -- especially sexy?
Posted: 2/2/2006 1:30:19 PM
cool, enchantedeuphoriaz
 rhinograde
Joined: 1/6/2006
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Single Dads -- especially sexy?
Posted: 2/2/2006 1:23:19 PM
i have been single dad for 1 year... and i didn't notice tht women were more attracted to me... But yes, some of my dates have been jleous that i was giving priority to my little ones... That was a real turn off !

that makes me tinking to an other point :
Has anyone noticed that some people consider warmly a single mom trying to date, but giving the priority to the kids, while the equivalent by a single dad is seen as suspicious... for the fact that single dads are not "natural"
i can explain it in a different way : a single mom, is seen warmly because the bad man left... The single dad may have something to hide since it is not normal that the wife left without the kids... got my point ?
or ist it only in the place where i live ?
 rhinograde
Joined: 1/6/2006
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women... science needs your contribution
Posted: 2/2/2006 12:49:54 PM
webdesignguy,ouch ! thanks anyway for this constructive add on, which differs a lot from what i got already ! as you pointed out, it was cut and paste from another thread initiated by a woman... after the postive reactions i got from a lot for my post, i figured out that it could be funny to get the equivalent made by wome... But you launch a good debate ... About the contribution of blenders to the elevation of non-aristotelician semantics... excellent point !

hey, dotcalm, quip quiet, peace and love ! Agressiveness usually masks fear, anger, distress, or what ever ... You were tired i guess... Or would you symbolically figure one type of women which inner bitterness come from the wounds that anyone can get during a life time, and who transfer it on any living creature being male ?
thanks for the valuable contribution, i hope it's a minor category !

what a great start for a thread ! Maybe will I shift to the welle spread c*ck/p*ssy/c*m/dirty style...
did i started at an icorrect level ? or are we speaking gloubiboulgish ?
 rhinograde
Joined: 1/6/2006
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women... science needs your contribution
Posted: 2/2/2006 3:27:31 AM
non non, that's just nowadays science... How to write in long what you could say in short !

fundamental, vital, and transcendental matters as advices for dating need efforts , ha ha !
 rhinograde
Joined: 1/6/2006
Msg: 1 (view)
 
women... science needs your contribution
Posted: 2/1/2006 10:26:09 AM
as a guy, in one thread about "what are guys really louking for in a woman", as a man i contributed to something wich a lot of you found ... just see by yourself
Now, for the great contribution of human kind to the pure science, it should be completed by a a similar set of advices, but writen by women for men... Ladies, please contribute !


i am a man, and I give you an absolute truth...
there is no thuth at all !
There are thousands of men, of different types...
1) The men who are very cute, who know it... they just go to the beautifull girls and it works,, or not, depending what the women is looking for (not much plenty of those)
2) the men who are not beautifull but are selfconfident, are charismatic... they go to the beautifull girl, and it works,or not, depending what the women is looking for
3) the men who are self confident, who find every woman in its way... they go to every woman, and it works or not, depending what the women is looking for... if you cross one, you have your chance (but they are very rare ;-)
4) the men who are not self confident and shy... they avoid the first step... If you go to them, they will be so terrified that they will have some stupid reaction, and will never let you know that you are interested - dramatic (i was like that, in a remote past ;-) (a lot of men belong to this category, forever, or at one step of their life)
5)the men who have very high expectations, what ever they look like... they are interested to beautifull girls, but it doesn't work because the same beautifull girls even don't look at them and those men don't look at the chubby girls... (a lot ofmen belong to this category)

For example, one of my best friend is still single at 36, and have even never had even one date. When he had female friends and was intereted in them, he was too paralised to make the first step... Beside that he is only dreaming of top models... the probably few times when he met some and he attempted to speak to one of them, then even diden't notice him... because is himself not a top, although not ugly. If he meets you, he will ignore you... poor damm guy, and poor damm you too: missed occasion

know back to the girls : what makes their beauty is not their body, it's their charm... And it comes from how you smile, how you wear your clothes, how sexy you feel inside, and how you know what your want. Most of the men are basically interested in sex... If you want to attract thhe men, you should be sexy (that means, be ready to do it) If you accept to be adult, having sex and protecting yourself, knowing what you want and why, men will feel it and will be attracted... Then you can have date with several men... You will not find mr right at the first time, but trys 4 or 5, and we will probably find a reasonnably good fellow.

Now, how to make the distinction between the 5 types i described... don't worry there will be an automatic sort. If you are a chubby girl, only type 3 and 4 will try to go to you. Type 3 is very rare, don't count on it. Type 4 is the mostcommon but will never do the first step... Up to you to attack them ! don' wait !
But be ready to find a bunch of type 5 hidden in the type 3... they will reject you. Be ready to 50% of failure when you try to catch a guy. Retry and retry, maybe it will go down to 25% of failure !

Now you are looking for type 1) and 2) : that's simple make the first step, and be ready to a 10% chance of success. That means you will have to try 9 times before to get a positive result... but you will be surprised, once you fish your first top guy, then all the others will fall in your nets... for that you will become selfconfident, and ... charming...

that's only a matter of statistics.
 rhinograde
Joined: 1/6/2006
Msg: 60 (view)
 
Re: Married ppl in singles chat!!!
Posted: 1/26/2006 2:13:42 AM
futbolgirl, i like what you wrote, you are cool, as people say !
thanks for having a balanced view ! It is refreshing... Far better than what I wrote (i shouldn t write when it is too late


Tchuss, and bis bald, ich hoffe !
 rhinograde
Joined: 1/6/2006
Msg: 58 (view)
 
Re: Married ppl in singles chat!!!
Posted: 1/25/2006 1:37:53 PM
as long as they are honest and up front about it..then who cares!!


you are so right !!!!!!

This thread seems to be a typical example of how many people see the life in black and white... No grey, nor colours... It is so comfortable to rely on oversimplistic ideas. especially when people don't know what they are speaking about, it's so easy for them to judge.

I hope for them that themselves will never be judged as they judge the others...

It's not only about the judgement of somebody they even don't know who they judge as a cheater (even if you don't know anything of the context), it is also about that poor human habit to reject all what is differs from their own way of being. Why to hate the difference ? will they hate gay people too ? Will they hate people who decide to never marryn adn to never have sex ? Will they hate people who have a different religion and who mary up to four women ? Will they hate women in some countries who mary up to 5 men together ? Will they hate women who have childs outside marriage ?

This make me think to all the atrocities that the human kind is familiar with.

If a man or woman were truly happy.. and not lacking or bored....they wouldnt be here. I would have shot my hubby if i caught him here.

I hope this was purely figurative... becaus that let me think to the talibans... Do you remember that afghan woman who was shot ?

Seriously, i don't imagine 1 second that somebody here would be extremist enough to write something like that seriously. Probably an expression.

According to this thread, some people here are ready to judge married people and their behavior. Could i remind them, that in some countries, single women who are talking to men are just jailed ? In the same countries married people who have relationships more than formal (i don't even speak about sex) with other people of the opposite gender, are jailed too... It is fortunate that some of the thread contributors here have not the power to decide of the laws in their country for they would become exactly as some famous dictators... But they are maybe the first to claim about freedom for themselves...

Just my opinion, and sorry for that burst of emotion !!! You can check my profile, see that i am married, and also see that it is written that if you want to know why i am on this site, you are welcome to to ask me...
 rhinograde
Joined: 1/6/2006
Msg: 5 (view)
 
ALL COUNTRIES OPTION
Posted: 1/25/2006 11:28:47 AM
Women want to date locally.

dear admin, i am affraid that this is not true. Maybe the sentence is valid regarding a large share of women, but not regarding all, by far.
I will not reveal here any name, but I can confirm to all that there are at least a significant percentage (sample by my own contacts). As administrator, without to break the privacy of the mails, you could easely measure the traffic of private contacts between different nationalities, and you would see that it is not null. It is maybe a short percentage in regard of the predominance of USA / Canada traffic, but if you count it over the amount of traffic for other countrie sthan these two, it would be significant, for sure.
Unless you would specifically penalize non Canada or non US POF members, which is not the case, i m sure !
 rhinograde
Joined: 1/6/2006
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ALL COUNTRIES OPTION
Posted: 1/25/2006 5:06:17 AM
same question !
of is it possible to add a special "all countries" option in the menu ?
 rhinograde
Joined: 1/6/2006
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American value system concerning sex and women
Posted: 1/16/2006 2:33:01 AM

In the middle ages in France, when a couple got married, the Monseigneur of the region got the privilege of breaking her virginity before turning her over to her husband. The lucky **stard


Angy, thank you for this refreshing post !
But I am afraid that what you wrote refers to a myth that was created during the 18th and 19th centuries, by french people... It was politics, when reformists were fighting againts royalists, by any possible arguments. (you know, the french revolution and all this stuff)

But the realitys is,as always, mixed. There was indeed records records from all over europe of abuses by the feodal lords...
But such duly provilege as you cite never existed in europe. The myth you refers to, came from the following :
A feodal lord used to posess his serves (a category of men and woman working for him, not strictly slaves, but not free), and these serves where not allowed to mary outside the domain of their lord. In case they persisted to marry with somebody from outside the domain, they were submited to a tax. This legal enforcement was literaly named as something like " the privilege (for the lord) to put his "leg" in the marital bed" "Droit de jambage" in french, which derived into "droit de cuissage"

historians have argued a lot the raise of this myth, and they explain its raise by two factors :
- misunderstanding by people with the latin name of that tax (every thing was in latin in those times) : "cullagium" (meaning tax) - but phonetically close to "cul" (asse, in frencnch, italian etc..)
- the common belief by a lot of people that middle age was a dark bloody period with a lot of abuses... Which is actually completelly wrong (people whatch to much movies !)

all of this has nothing to do with virginity...


By the way, "Monseigneur" is not the title of a french feodal lord. "Seigneur" is, but the confusion is easy !. "Monseigneur", is the title of a bishop !!! I figure that, a bishop willing to take a bride in his bed... excellent !
 rhinograde
Joined: 1/6/2006
Msg: 63 (view)
 
American value system concerning sex and women
Posted: 1/13/2006 8:15:47 AM
i see your point, taurus. Only partially agree with.
there is also what is not properly called "social capital". It s not an economic stuuf? It interferes with, but its true nature is different. Like survival of the group. Something linked with our animal nature...
 rhinograde
Joined: 1/6/2006
Msg: 61 (view)
 
American value system concerning sex and women
Posted: 1/13/2006 8:05:33 AM
application of it being put on a larger scale and included into society's morals and standards,which I still manitain is pragmatically monetarily based.


I don't think so, taurus. It is not a monetary issue. You can also finfd that concept in societies without moetary systems... Monetary restricts the field too much. Maybe it could be related to material advantages, but still i doubt.
Looks better like an evolutionary pattern, with roots going deep in the history of human kind.
Note that there are human groups where the virginity is not an issue. They are ancient too... Maybe this have too be connected with the social structure of the group itself. I am not sure, but it seems to me that virginity has something to do with societies with cattle breedin/shepherd past and roots (no surprise for religions of THE BOOK), but societies of hunters may differ in that way. This is a pure assumption. To be discussed with wise people more on thse ethnolical issues than i am !

That was just my modest point of view
 rhinograde
Joined: 1/6/2006
Msg: 9 (view)
 
funny places where u have had sex
Posted: 1/11/2006 2:03:00 PM
once in a full swiming pool
once in the forest
once 10 meters away of a crowded trekking path, just behind some bush lol
 rhinograde
Joined: 1/6/2006
Msg: 34 (view)
 
Long Distance Relationships
Posted: 1/11/2006 1:34:02 PM
hey, maggie,
from reading all this thread, a lot of us might higly suspect that the guy his married or involved in something.
If it is the case, i might be the most stupid of the married men here in thi site, but the don't understand why he don't write it...
By claiming it, he would have maybe lost you, but he would have instead found somebody accepting this situation... instead of being in such a false situation. Bad for you, but bad for him too, anyway. What can he get, an except evanescent fantasy, which will face the reality soon or later ?
I can tell you, not all the men here are cheaters, some have their reason. For example, lets say a marriued man being on this site have it's reasons, and one can maybe understand those reasons, Complex enough, things are never simple as in a romantic movie. Maybe only a few women are interested in them, but trust me, TRUST me, there are some. The guy could get exactly what he wants, just telling the truth !
So why this guy would be cheating, that i can not understand. I am probably a dumb french guy !

all of this in order to say, the soonest you make that clear, the better it is , for the two of you
 rhinograde
Joined: 1/6/2006
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American value system concerning sex and women
Posted: 1/11/2006 1:03:19 PM
great post, themaven
only i point would argue on, is : the arts mimic the society ? i don't think so. They rather mimic the way we dream the society... very different issue, i would say.
 rhinograde
Joined: 1/6/2006
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orgasm intensity: guys vs. girls
Posted: 1/11/2006 12:30:23 PM
Ph0t0g_D, could you share your science with all of us ? it should enlight most of the male, and maybe of sthe female audience
sure that a lot are very demanding in learning such a mystery
 rhinograde
Joined: 1/6/2006
Msg: 12 (view)
 
orgasm intensity: guys vs. girls
Posted: 1/11/2006 11:39:26 AM
you said it paleone bravo !

I know mine are pretty good, even more super-fantastic with His included!


the same for me, i just replace his by her - only a small disctinction, afterward
maibe not comparable, but same words to express it, for sure !
 rhinograde
Joined: 1/6/2006
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Soulmates
Posted: 1/11/2006 11:20:33 AM
i don't understand u mean there were lot's or one?



meh, i was meaning a lot of people, or souls, if you prefer, among them there was my soulmate, only one, THE soulmate (question mark, because could you call THE soulmate somebody who didn't meet in the material worfd, who you even dn't know wether she exists really ?

so back to the question how can you call this kind of soulmate ? third category ?
 rhinograde
Joined: 1/6/2006
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Used for sex?
Posted: 1/11/2006 9:43:48 AM
yes, dacainaru, it is assumed that your are balanced enough. If you spend your time intellectualizing the stuff, better leave it. Should be something you naturaly want to do as simply as it is.
i guess that self respect is a prerequisite, like respect of the other.
We are not speaking of forced sex !
 rhinograde
Joined: 1/6/2006
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prisoner's dilemna
Posted: 1/11/2006 9:21:07 AM
some misunderstanding. it's not my problem, but the one of the ladu I quoted, because she doesnt believe in mutual pleasing...
 rhinograde
Joined: 1/6/2006
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American value system concerning sex and women
Posted: 1/11/2006 9:12:53 AM
not too many reactions... taurus.
seems the same for the similar gabonese thread
is it too elevated or what ?
i am puzzled
 rhinograde
Joined: 1/6/2006
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Long Distance Relationships
Posted: 1/11/2006 9:11:07 AM
seems easier than between paris and singapore
 rhinograde
Joined: 1/6/2006
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prisoner's dilemna
Posted: 1/11/2006 9:10:07 AM
the quote of the lady made me think to that.

You have to please your partner first!



eeek..

text explanation : its the lady who wrote "eeek"

I personnally thing that the more you give, the more you receive. I expereimented about it (and for sex, it works particularly well)
so mutual pleasing can be great only when each try to give the more possible to the other,
not when one gives only half of what he/she can give... just by fearing to don't receive enough in return

sounds like the prisoner's dilemna applies to her : if i give him all the pleasure i can, and if ever he don't give me back, then i will be cheated... so i dion(t give entirely what i can give...

sounds weird, isn't it ?
 rhinograde
Joined: 1/6/2006
Msg: 57 (view)
 
Used for sex?
Posted: 1/11/2006 9:00:32 AM

eeek.. what about mutual pleasing???


mutual pleasing happens only when both try to please the other... no other way.
haven't you read that somewhere ? the more you give, the more you receive. It works with sex too...
of course it's the prisonner dilemna. I will be cheated if i try to giive him pleasure but him don't give too me.
I am sure you can discuss that with your partner, i'm sure he is not completely dumb and can understand
 rhinograde
Joined: 1/6/2006
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Tounge ring or no?
Posted: 1/11/2006 8:28:15 AM
thanks, no soup, i was desperatly looking in the dictionary for the word tounge...
 rhinograde
Joined: 1/6/2006
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Tounge ring or no?
Posted: 1/11/2006 8:19:10 AM
what is a tounge ring ?
 rhinograde
Joined: 1/6/2006
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Why do i fall so hard...
Posted: 1/11/2006 8:16:53 AM
always the same, the more you look for, the more it is difficult to find. Maybe it's the way you are looking for.
I was looking for the same kind of woaman you are at this age, and found something else...
Nox i think it was the way i was looking wor which was wrong !
 rhinograde
Joined: 1/6/2006
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Gabonese values about sex between me and women
Posted: 1/11/2006 8:13:11 AM
Just a counter part of taurus thread about american values.
maybe some of you know that in some of parts of central africa, for some ethnic groups, a man would rarely marry a woman who don't have any child.
marrying a woman having already one child proves she can carry a lot of other children.
Who knos wether a youngl lady without children is not sterile ?

in this context, the young village women are very free and relaxed with their sexual life. once they get a child, from who i don't know (and who cares, except the mom ?) than she can even get a good husband, if she is lucky.

the terrible fear of a mother is to have a daughter of twenty and more, and still without a child ! How can she get a husvband !!!


please, react to that !!!!
 rhinograde
Joined: 1/6/2006
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American value system concerning sex and women
Posted: 1/11/2006 8:05:11 AM
i am the frenchman...
i just want to complete. What i can say in a thread is very short and partial.

taurus,
what you describe as typically american is also well spread in europe, and a number of societies in the world (i know it for travelling a lot and working in social sciences)
that's normal, since ameriacn society derived mainly from european society, that's history.
I would say that the difference is that in europe, today, the positions are now more relaxed... thanks to the 60ies and so on... But don't mistake, the position hasnot always been very relaxed, but the records going back to a lot of centuries ago are partial too... because written by certains parts of the society only. Rven when a period seems very restricted regaring sexual behaviour, it depends on which level of the society you put the recorder.
back to the US today... for me, from outside, US society is as complex as everyone else, but with a specific feature : the importance of the legacy of the first imigrants, with their very rigid way of living (regarding the sex)
i would se'e that as an explanation for the discrepancy between what people say and what they want, in your country.

In france today too, thare are probably women speaking about having been used... but i would say, the tone is less strident. There is no legacy of rigid protestants immigrants. But there was legacy of rigid catholics... and too much rigidity led to the sexual liberation of the sixties... After over reactions, it is slowly going back to something more balanced, i guss.

But still beware of generalisation : there are more differencies between social levels that between countries...
 rhinograde
Joined: 1/6/2006
Msg: 31 (view)
 
Used for sex?
Posted: 1/11/2006 7:19:53 AM
thanks kerry, yex it proves what taurus wrote.
my two cents add :
by the way, to spend efforts for the seduction round is something normal, i guess. i guess too that some time the precess is quick, sometime it is long, that depends of many factors. Sometimes the round is between adults who know exactly what they want (if they want short term), sometimes the round is for the real love of one life. up to all to be honest, that's all !
of course there are male cheaters, and probably as much as female cheaters, they just cheat on different things.
to see the difference takes time and experience, but anyway, when you are in love, you become completely blind... so just hope that the other is in the same mood, but if not, don't complain after all, or maybe you can complain, but don't the remaining of your life to complain
 rhinograde
Joined: 1/6/2006
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Used for sex?
Posted: 1/11/2006 6:53:47 AM
as a french guy, all of this thread seems to me very strange - almost like hearing conversations between aliens... seems to be special with US society, or what ? I have never heard a french woman saying she has been used for sex...
- but saying how poor lover was the guy, yes !!! (not speeking for me, - but you may consider that i'm a liar, this, you can only check by yourself )
- or complaining that he never called back, what a shalme, he was so a great lover ! (not speeking for me too, i only hope this is just because she would have never told me that in front of me )
 rhinograde
Joined: 1/6/2006
Msg: 2 (view)
 
HOW LONG TO WAIT??? GOOD QUESTION
Posted: 1/11/2006 5:32:25 AM
my two cents opinion :
don't wait anymore; it's time !!!!
If you are affraid to get a flop, make it in a way she can sve her face in case you misunderstood her bodylanguage...
i dont know, if you hare the bible, maybe you can put a word in the bible you share ?
 rhinograde
Joined: 1/6/2006
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Soulmates
Posted: 1/11/2006 4:46:14 AM
i met another type of soulmate...
around 15 years ago i got a near death experienc... by the way, nothing comparable with rligious stuff nor with the movies or the books (all of that is bullshit), but during that time i met a lot of people, and one soulmate. (The soulmate ?) How would you call that ?
 rhinograde
Joined: 1/6/2006
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Dont give in to the sex girls
Posted: 1/11/2006 4:28:41 AM

my ideal relationship is to have a woman be my best friend....and we make each other horny as well.

good point
my definition too !
 rhinograde
Joined: 1/6/2006
Msg: 4 (view)
 
orgasm intensity: guys vs. girls
Posted: 1/11/2006 4:26:31 AM
yes, thare are different levels for men too. And the best is when the partners are keen into increasing the level for each other... it works, and it is good !
It seems that some men are too "primary" for that, but i can assure you that some women are too primary too. Men have not the monopoly of the lack of refinement
 rhinograde
Joined: 1/6/2006
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Thank goodness I don't live in France
Posted: 1/11/2006 1:57:20 AM
by the way, do you know what is the definition of a fraction of a second in Marseille ?
 rhinograde
Joined: 1/6/2006
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Thank goodness I don't live in France
Posted: 1/11/2006 1:54:19 AM
that's why marseille is the most pleasant city in the world... when someething happens there, it is always 10 times bigger than everywhere else - you know, like the the sardine that was so big that it once blocked up the harbor of marseille...
 rhinograde
Joined: 1/6/2006
Msg: 53 (view)
 
How many times do you think you should forgive someone who does you wrong or cheats on you
Posted: 1/10/2006 11:42:53 PM
Well, I would hope it would translate into...."You beat me, you betray me....you damn sure not gonna do it again....cause I will leave your worthless a**"

thanks, carol, that's exactly what "battu, cocu, mais pâs content" means... with exactly with all the nuances !
 rhinograde
Joined: 1/6/2006
Msg: 11 (view)
 
How many times do you think you should forgive someone who does you wrong or cheats on you
Posted: 1/10/2006 8:22:42 AM
something like "ypou beat me, you betray me, but don't expect i would be happy of it "
but i need an english speaker to make the proper translation !
 rhinograde
Joined: 1/6/2006
Msg: 9 (view)
 
How many times do you think you should forgive someone who does you wrong or cheats on you
Posted: 1/10/2006 8:19:11 AM
you're right, carol...
then still come to "battu, cocu, mais pas content !"
 rhinograde
Joined: 1/6/2006
Msg: 4 (view)
 
How many times do you think you should forgive someone who does you wrong or cheats on you
Posted: 1/10/2006 8:09:39 AM
bla bla bla,
of course you can forgive when you truly love
but ! if you are cheated, and cheated, and cheated, maybe that changes the contex.
in frecn we have a sying : "battu, cocu, mais pas content ! "
anyone can helps translating ? it rather idiomatic, but reaaly fit to this thread !!!
 rhinograde
Joined: 1/6/2006
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Love a bad reason for marriage?
Posted: 1/10/2006 7:28:01 AM
how right you are, ladydi8
1) worst of all is one amrraige with one in love, the other one, not. Hurts ! hurts ! hurts!
2) in every marriage, there probably mistakes, the trouble is , when the marriage is dead or /sort of/ the woman has learnt her lesson and will be better for the next partner, the same for the man... They have learnt, but too bad, that's too late !
 rhinograde
Joined: 1/6/2006
Msg: 3 (view)
 
What does it take to get a great looking woman?
Posted: 1/10/2006 7:22:20 AM
Don't be affraid. Natural selection will do its job, for the beauties you are speaking about will flee when you will go to them and open the mouth
 rhinograde
Joined: 1/6/2006
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Not even 30
Posted: 1/10/2006 4:55:49 AM
and what about to be invited... on a private line ? far better !
 
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