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GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

Msg: 39 (view)

Are we doomed? Posted: 3/28/2010 4:19:49 PM
Contrary to prior posts, If you have to pleasure yourself while he's there then what do you need him for?????? He obviously needs to just focus on you UNTIL you are truly ready for penetration, this could take minutes or hours depending on your moods and chemistry. The less sensitive he is emotionally to critique and the more patient he is in getting to understand what makes you happy the sooner you will be a gushing and the sooner he can get his ego back.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

Msg: 34 (view)

What makes sex good for a man? Posted: 3/28/2010 4:13:40 PM
Technique, Open Mind, Variety, Positive Attitude, Chemistry. Technique= For God's sake no teeth ( you know what i mean ) Open Mind= If missionary is the only way you know then it's time to get schooled. Variety= Goes hand in hand with open mind, the kama sutra is there for a reason. Positive Attitude= No i don't want to hear about your hangups that made you frigid. Chemistry= Self explanatory

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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Living fearless over 40 Posted: 3/21/2010 7:31:02 PM
Fearless is definetly the word when it comes to turning 40 I just turned 40 and really love that i made it this far without ALL of the crap my peers have ie: alimony, suicide, child support payments, etc etc. It's kind of like if you were able to go back in time and do things over, at 40 you are still young enough and healthy enough to do everything you wanted to do for yourself, But old enough to appreciate it all for the right reasons. Yes being single of course has it's drawbacks, you would ideally want to share the rest of your life with someone on the same level, but you resign yourself to the fact that if it doesn't happen, you can't sell out your soul for something that will keep you from enjoying your life the way you really want. Accepting fate rather than raging against the dying of the light of a fantasy is truly fearless at 40 !

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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Why do so many men assume that being over 40 means being desperate? Posted: 3/19/2010 3:07:42 PM
OP spend as much time as possible GETTING TO KNOW the guys you are really interested in through email and instant messaging and definetly phone calls. The ones looking for an easy lay are not that patient and will show their true colors BEFORE you ever go on a first date. Next DON'T go on a first date, make it a meet and greet that is short and sweet. Coffee or drinks, this way if you dump them like nuclear waste then you don't have to hang around long enough to get radiation poisoning. Over 40 in most cases SADLY does warrant the stereotype that both men and women are desperate for sex, in most cases i have seen far too many over 35 age women who would rather have a sexual relationship than a commited long term relationship. Simply because they have ALREADY had the long term thing and have been screwed over and want to either start and end as friends, or simply not get that emotionally involved right away. Be selective, and look for red flags, but honestly make sure you have something to offer that gentleman when he comes along otherwise sex will be the only thing to offer and that gets old real fast.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

Msg: 91 (view)

Why are some men are all for sex buddies but not girlfriends? Posted: 3/16/2010 8:34:10 PM
OP it's very simple, The better you look the more a man will want to have a relationship with you. ( because if you look that good he'll want to have sex more than once with you ) The heavier you are and the less you have to offer the more likely it is that FWB is all you will find in men. Don't worry about not finding the guy who wants a relationship, WORRY about having something to offer a good man OTHER THAN sex and you have a row of good men lining up at your door to go out with you.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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POF people on other sites Posted: 2/28/2010 6:35:38 AM
OP as another poster said it's far easier to send a WINK and not get a reply than to sit there think about something poignant to say only to have it read deleted or worse unread deleted. When you write something, anything you are putting yourself out there in a more personal way. With a wink you are letting that person know you find them attractive without having to deal with the relentless stream of rejection and lack of consideration that a personal e-mail entails. At least with a wink if they do not respond your ego isn't destroyed and you have some semblance of dignity to keep trying. With e-mails you get rejected not just for what you look like ( which is acceptable ) but worse for what is on the inside expressed in words ( for better or worse ) and that hurts more than just being rejected for your looks, because you can't escape who you are.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

Msg: 39 (view)

Do guys like these exist past 35? Posted: 2/19/2010 9:30:05 PM
OP There are A LOT of men on this site who fit your criteria to a tee. HOWEVER there will always be other " defects " or flaws you will find that will not suit your expectations and that is the real reason you may not find that guy to share your life with. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, you may consider yourself above average but any man with any integrity who has not been married, and has no kids, truly does have infinite options in terms of truly spectacular looking women no matter how he looks. Wether or not these men are hot, believe it or not every dog has his day, and some have a lot of great days and don't have to settle for mediocrity. Be humble and realistic, generous of yourself ( not your money ) value the person for who they really are and how good they are to you and you will have a ring on your finger in no time. Remember Corinthians in your travels ...................

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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Guys expected to be a comedian on a date??? Posted: 1/26/2010 6:37:56 PM
OP I've found in my experience that women will always need to be entertained, or boredom sets in the relationship is over. Trust me it will never end, wether you are holding their purse in the mall or going to that fine restaurant or being forced to watch yet another god forsaken episode of the " housewives of orange county" the comedy routine will never be over. Men seldom need to be entertained as much as women do, yeah it gets sugar coated into the whole " it's normal in a relationship to want to do things together" mantra, but it's a smokescreen for their need to be doing something to rid the boredom, rarely do you see any suggestions to do things real men enjoy doing though.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

Msg: 44 (view)

Whatever happened to humility? Posted: 1/26/2010 6:30:20 PM
OP A woman tells you over and over that she has a great body a- she wants you to notice her body and do something with it ( it means she likes you) b- she's incredibly insecure and needs validation ( shocking i know ) c-she wants the attention but like in that movie " the invention of lying " she has no plans on sleeping with you ( ever ! ) d-she's throwing her nice body in your face in order to hint at the fact that your body is not as attractive to her as her's is to EVERYONE else. ( wow, sad but true ) In the end everyone has to prove themselves wether it's spoken or not, here or in the real world, the tests never end and you never really win, you only put off the impending doom of being alone. Think of it like a used car sales ad, all the best words are used to describe what in the end winds up being too good to be true, sometimes you actually do find that low mileage hot rod driven by a little old lady for peanuts in a barn. But it's still a used car that will need a lot of work to maintain in proper running order.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

Msg: 64 (view)

Do any adults like Disney World without bringing kids? Posted: 1/20/2010 8:05:31 PM
OP hate to burst your bubble but the food an wine fest at Disney SUCKED, all of the food for the festival is NOT culturally correct and is horrible, pure rubbish compared to dining at a real restaurant with a real chef . As for Disney as adults only, yeah i have done it but honestly the only real magic of Disney is to take kids, be it your nieces, nephews, or your dates kids, you see it all through their eyes and that really is what makes it magical for you to enjoy it. I do have to admit the German restaurant there is a buffet, with TONS of meat dishes, it was great and decent entertainment with an oom pa pa band playing.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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Living with mother over 30? Would it make me Untouchable? Posted: 1/20/2010 7:55:13 PM
Rent an apt, even if you are living at your mothers house. WHY? Because it's UNGODLY rare the woman who not only fall madly in love with you, AND see you as noble for giving up YOUR life in order to take care of your mother. You would be surprised at how many insensitive and selfish women there are out there who want prince charming and yet don't deserve him when he does show up. As i said rent an apt and don't tell anyone you are dating what your responsibilities are, why? because they honestly won't care, and won't really be able to help you in any way through it. It's like being a single dad and trying to find someone understandng and compassionate and mature enough to deal with the responsibilities you and she would face in light of your circumstances. Not bashing all women, but it's amazing what you realize when a family tragedy happens. You can find love however it WILL reach a point where she will want you to choose her over your family, then it's up to you to fish or cut bait.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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Why is there no faith in bars/clubs? Posted: 1/10/2010 7:57:49 PM
My best friend met his wife at a local club. Wether or not that is the norm or the exception to the rule is beyond me. It's rare you meet someone in a bar or club that you can have a real relationship with. You either meet nuns or ho's

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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The art of removing her bra Posted: 12/29/2009 4:19:43 PM
You can call yourself a Jedi Master when you are able to get the bra off not only with your other hand ( ie if you are a righty you use your left hand to undo the clasp ) but more so when you are smooth enough to get the bra off and she didn't realize you had already unhooked it. ( yes i managed this feat and needless to say she was stunned, so was i for that matter-lol ) Practice makes perfect guys!

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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Why do men find it hard to be friends? Posted: 12/20/2009 1:44:18 PM
Find gay guys to be friends with and that will solve your problem, they are at least as interesting and WILL NEVER want to hit on you, problem solved. Straight men will not want to be friends with you after being rejected because they will always feel like they are being played, and that they were never good enough for you so being friends with you while you galavant in your search for the ONE, will only serve to hurt them more. It's like getting the milk for free so why pay for it????

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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Herpes Can Paralyze you Posted: 12/20/2009 1:40:14 PM
A japanese study also stated through it's findings that the Herpes virus also is the cause of Bell's Palsy ( partial paralysis of one side of the face ). Don't have the link but i'm sure if you google it you can find the study.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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Am I Wrong??? Posted: 12/17/2009 7:57:44 PM
Drag her through HELL if you have to, to keep your kid away from the convict or he may add being a pedophile to his list of crimes.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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Who has it worse single dad's or single mom's? Posted: 12/17/2009 7:52:56 PM
It's actually a good question posed by the OP. The answer is it depends on what you want. Single fathers and single mothers in my experience want totally different things. Single mothers still want Prince Charming, while single fathers are actually looking for substance in a woman rather than a fantasy. I've never read one profile that stated a woman wants a loving role model for her children, when in reality that is exactly what is needed in part for a healthy relationship with a single parent. On the other hand the single fathers i have known actually seek something more well rounded and always consider their children's lives in the decisions they make when looking for someone to share their life with. And to them a woman they and their kids could look up to and respect who would be a significant part of their lives was high on the list. Not that women don't want substance, they do but it just doesn't come across as clearly as it should when dating. Seems like the man is on the back burner when it comes to being an important part of their child's lives. The fact is it's not easy for either gender, with or without kids to live a happy and productive life. But making it easier TOTALLY depends on what YOU want and how realistic you are about what you have to offer your kids or anybody else. Fire at will !

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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Have we become a disposable commodity? Posted: 12/17/2009 7:34:16 PM
OP at this age people sadly do become disposable. Not because you yourself are jaded or affected by your history that makes you cynical, rather you are smarter now and have a much better understanding of what it takes to make you happy. As soon as little red flags start popping up they are gone, why? In my case i have done this sadly, even twice to the same person. I had amazing chemistry with her and she had almost everything i wanted, sadly she was i found lazy. So i cut bait. A year later she instant messages me. We go out, and um er well you know, again amazing conversation, and chemistry, SADLY again she was still too lazy to find a real job and work toward achieving some stability in her life where she would not have to depend on me to the point of turning me into a sugar daddy. So out she got tossed again. You just have to remember that you don't have to settle for someone in your life who is going to cost you more money or aggravation than you already have. And who won't really be there for you when the chips are down.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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What changed your mind? Posted: 11/24/2009 6:01:05 PM
It's like sky diving, you are not going to jump out of an airplane unless you know how to pull the rip chord and the safety chute. If you don't know how to do it you aren't motivated to do so. Me i wanted to see the woman i was with very very happy, so i did it, and loved it. She's gone now, but the memories of her orgasms will stay with her...........always.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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Who are Asians?. Posted: 11/15/2009 7:58:06 PM
Because of the Native Americans that are called Indian here, when you refer to someone from India as an Indian you normally preface it by stipulating EAST Indian. Chinese, Korean, Japanese and other Asian people have very distinct features, especially the normally over looked eyes. People think their eye shapes are all the same, they are WRONG. There are subtle differences that make them obvious to one Asian culture or another. Hearing them speak their native language is also a dead giveaway.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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Liking someone for who they are rather than what they offer Posted: 11/15/2009 7:48:23 PM
The real question is, what exactly do they have to offer????????? You'll find when you have money, real money not just cashed your check and don't have to pay bills that week so you can go clubbing etc, That you expect more from someone than if you were broke. Having money means you don't have to settle. I pity that person that wants someone with money. Because when they find him/her, it won't last unless you have real skills ( outside the bedroom ).

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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Nose & Ear Hair Posted: 11/14/2009 8:00:35 PM
I agree such out of control hair is a turn off. Signs of bad grooming habits. For me it has to be hairy legs on a woman. She can be Sasquatch all week if it makes her happy but when it comes to intimacy those legs BETTER be smooth or i'm gone. OH GOD and mustaches on women, some cultures have this more prevalent than others but man BLEACH it girls cause guys do notice and it's a wrap if he has to kiss you.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them? Posted: 11/14/2009 7:55:07 PM
It's ironic that not settling for disfunctional behavior and using self control as well as being reproductively responsible means you are branded as undesireable or worse that there is something wrong with you. There are times in your life you have found that perfect person for you. But you may not have been perfect for them. Or they may have realized you were perfect too late. That's life, rage against the dying of the light.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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Would you have sex with a machine? Posted: 11/14/2009 7:41:13 PM
No, But i have felt like a machine. A vending machine where she puts in her quarter, pushes my buttons then kicks me to get what she wants out of me. When that doesn't work ( i wonder why? ) she then jiggles the coin return handle of my heart violently , doesn't get her quarter back and proceeds to spout expletives ( as the flashing bright light in my mind blinks " Sorry Sold Out, Please Make Another Choice " ) Walking off in a heated state, never to be heard from again. Does that count?

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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Parking the anger - HOW??! Posted: 11/13/2009 8:41:21 PM
Time..................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................!

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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EX'S... wtf man??? Why is this so flippin hard? Posted: 11/13/2009 8:04:49 PM
She dumped you once, You will never trust her again. You will resent her and yourself for even giving her a second chance. Which she will utilize to hurt you again. Run.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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She dumped me so why does she still want to see me? Posted: 11/13/2009 8:00:59 PM
She still wants to see you as an insurance policy against being alone or having sex with a guy that turns out to be a psycho. In the movie Raiders Of The Lost Ark there was a scene when all the Nazi's looked into the ark, then their faces melted away in horrible, agonizing and shearing pain. That's what you are going through and the pain will only get worse the more you are in contact with her. Cut bait and run. Lick your wounds, don't blame yourself, but make yourself a better man for and to yourself so that you have something sincere to offer the next woman who comes along and can appreciate what your ex did not.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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Post-rejection friendship Posted: 11/13/2009 7:51:49 PM
I had a wonderful girlfriend once. She broke up with me. YET for a year continued to press the point home that she wanted my friendship because according to her " she never met anyone like, who had such great qualities ". Needless to say i felt EXACTLY like the OP, not out of bitterness or anger rather from a curiosity that INDEED if i wasn't good enough to be with her, then what on earth makes me so wonderful to have as a friend? Is it to hear about how the new boyfriend is having sex with her? Is it because she wants to sit around a campfire and tell spooky ghost stories? Or could it be that we'll both be wearing fluffy bunny slippers and have a slumber party with iron chastity belts on? No not angry or bitter, but seriously after a year of me saying no to her, i caved in on christmas and said yes i would be JUST her friend. Mind you as a platonic friend i asked to have coffee so we could start developing a sincere friendship and she FREAKED, made excuses not to have coffee, and i completely got over being friends with her seeing that she wasn't sincere, perhaps she wanted and insurance policy or closure but we never did get to have coffee and soon after i changed my number and moved on. I have never stayed friends with ex's, it either hurts too much or it just isn't worth the effort.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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starting a family after 40 Posted: 11/13/2009 7:39:32 PM
If you were lucky to have achieved everything you could think of that mattered to you then you are more ready to commit to having children at 40. In my case i could have kids with the wrong women who would have put me in the poor house for financial support and been a bad mother. So i didn't have them earlier. I would love to have kids, but clearly at 40 women want to go back to the clubs and not have more children which is understandable since they gave up their freedom so young. But there must be a 30-40 year old woman out there who won't mind, finding her is another story.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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Mooching off Posted: 11/11/2009 8:58:50 PM
You didn't over react, reminds me of someone i met a year and a half ago. She was cute, smart and we got together ( ahem ), the very next morning she starts asking for money. She wasn't a pro by her crude attempts at a sad story to gain assistance, but this went on for a week.( without my assistance ) I got over it, not that i'm cheap, far from it, but if i have to take responsibility for my life, then i don't need moochers along for the ride. We went our seperate ways, then six months ago she calls me. Asks how i'm doing, i think she's gotten her act straight, guess what? no she hasn't. We get together ( ahem ) and then just as before she starts complaining about how she needs to find a job, has no gasoline, and how she needs new tires for her car, blah blah blah. So rather than money, i re write her resume ( yes it's better than my profile writing ) and i found a job listing for her, she makes an excuse as to why she could not apply, so i went online to apply for her, she gets a call back with an offer after a phone interview, and guess what she does? SHE TURNS DOWN the job!!!! So the moral of the story is she really didn't want to work, she wanted someone to take care of her. Oh and did i mention she could not conceive children? So where exactly is the motivation for a man to take care of her or others like her? Gold digger?, no, lazy? hell yes. And don't say sex, cause that's a dime a dozen. So i got over it again. Just goes to show this behavior does not go away and she's in the same rut she was in when i met her.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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do i come across as being a slut?! Posted: 11/10/2009 8:19:59 AM
Your profile and pics are fine, you don't look like or act like a slut. Guys are just looking for one thing so don't blame yourself. Just stipulate what kind of guy you are looking for to make it easier for a quality man to find you.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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When's the right time to leave mom?? Posted: 11/10/2009 8:15:03 AM
It could just be that when you were sick they were afraid of losing you, being with their father gives them a sense of security that they lose him it won't hurt as much. Or you did such a good job raising them that they can't get away with anything, father's tend to spoil daughters too much and they can get away with more late night partying etc etc. Don't blame yourself teenagers are strange.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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Open mic night... Posted: 11/10/2009 8:11:07 AM
Why would a guy find a story about another guy's penis interesting? I'd be outside smoking too.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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Has God always existed? Posted: 11/9/2009 7:07:05 PM
What we perceive or define as God could have been created by another God. It is a question that illustrates the possibility of infinity, and paradox. A good question would be, if God as we define him actually did exist before Jesus why didn't he show up on cave paintings in similiar imagery? Why wait so long before sending your son that we have documentation ( real or otherwise ) of the existence of a superior being in the form of the holy trinity? I personally believe in God because that belief system has given me hope to overcome adversity. But the scientist in me forces me to accept the lack of logic in blindly accepting something exists " Just Because ".

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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Whats it like being single over 30? Posted: 11/9/2009 6:17:06 PM
I love the freedom of being in my late 30's and single with no kids, no alimony, no child support, no baby mama drama, ahhhhhhh. However it would be nicer to share the good times with in a relationship with someone who deserves it.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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Being single = having no life ?? Posted: 11/9/2009 4:32:39 PM
I enjoy being single, my freedom, persuing my interests without having to clear it through channels first. Ideally i'd rather be in a relationship and enjoy things with someone special but i won't settle for someone that makes me wish i were single.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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Mixed Signals? Posted: 11/9/2009 4:28:01 PM
He's being disrespectful of your feelings and your personal possesions, DUMP HIM.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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Hate being single!!!! Posted: 11/9/2009 6:21:23 AM
As has been said you have to love being single. Avoid all areas of socialing where you would need a date, it just makes you feel worse or not having a date or someone in your life. Don't be too picky, despite what people say everyone expects a lot, try to be more open minded in what you are looking for and when you find someone learn to compromise in order to keep the relationship healthy and you won't be alone.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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My friend and I love the same girl Posted: 11/9/2009 6:13:45 AM
Been in your situation a lot in my life. If your friend really was a good friend he would not go any where near someone you were interested in. If that girl doesn't already know who she finds more attractive, jumping through hoops like a trained poodle isn't going to make you feel better about yourself even if you do win her. Dump them both. And walk away with your dignity and self respect.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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Empty promises Posted: 11/8/2009 10:23:35 PM
I dated someone like your friends, she always had some kind of project she wanted done. Yes we were intimate but honestly it began to feel like she was using me and i got over it fast. Sometimes men will say things to be nice, or to let you know they have the skills to do things to help make your life easier, after all that's the man's job is to know how to do things. But really unless you are together for awhile and he respects you he won't do anything other than what's needed to get you into bed.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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hairdressers Posted: 11/6/2009 4:02:10 PM
Because their gay co-workers want you and can't have you so they break up the happy couple-lol Or they are artists and can't find anyone as creative. Or dumber and have nothing to talk about except the gossip they heard at work which is like a live reality tv show to have to deal with so men get over it. Or like hairstyles they change their men as the mood suits them.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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women who say i'm really busy or i have a finite amount of time... Posted: 11/6/2009 8:49:30 AM
Some are busy but usually it's just a good excuse not to date the scrubs. They are looking for perfection remember that.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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Are you available; or jus wasting my time Posted: 11/6/2009 8:46:30 AM
Call me old fashioned but Higher heels And shorter skirts usually resolve any lack of desire for sex from your dates.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

Msg: 91 (view)

What someone does that really turn you off? Posted: 11/5/2009 4:51:58 PM
Lack of ambition Bad hygiene Drugs Irresponsibility To name just a few..........

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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I'm great, How about my profile? Posted: 11/4/2009 6:36:48 AM
The halloween pic is scary, and not in a good way. Dump it. Other than that cool profile.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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I find this site disheartening.... Posted: 11/4/2009 6:08:31 AM
Yes you can get to the point where you can't swing a dead cat without getting either a lot of emails or a couple of emails FROM THE WRONG ONES. So it's not the site that is disheartening, rather the qualities you have on your profile that are attracting the wrong ones is what is at issue. ( or the issues of the one's attracted to you lol ) If you have a stable life, a positive outlook and you are not attracting interest how can you blame yourself for that or this site?

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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Does reading the forums make you more or less cynical about dating? Posted: 11/4/2009 5:57:07 AM
Reading the forums made me less cynical because it reinforced what i already knew and helped me to realize how others think and why. It's the only place you are going to get brutally honest opinions that have merit. And that can only help make you realize how your thinking differs and what would make you more succeessful in how you approach things going forward.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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Why some men never want marry? Posted: 11/4/2009 5:52:36 AM
For most men it's about waiting as was said for her to take off her mask. I've seen where after a few months into a long term relationship she " takes of her mask " and shows her true colors, selfish, self centered, and then it all goes down hill from there. YET they still want to get married, WTF???????????? Once you see the writing on the wall it only gets worse, which is why men take so long to make that commitment. Men would like to be married or at least in a long term relationship, no one wants to be alone for the rest of their life, despite what they say. But it's more and more common to see things go no where when you spend a lot of time in a relationship or dating the same person because you find out things about them that won't make a long term option work.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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profile review please Posted: 11/3/2009 7:22:25 PM
You look gorgeous for your age, i think short and sweet is best in a profile, being a man i don't want to read a novel in a profile, if her pics attract me, and she has what i'm looking for i send an email. Perhaps you should send the first emails to those men you find attractive, it may give you more responses.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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Single Parent and Racism (for the kids?) Posted: 11/3/2009 7:17:56 PM
It's really about your area, in New York where it is multi cultural you will see EXTENSIVE racism when it comes to serious relationships. I had a chinese girfriend whose parents were totally fine with her dating me, never had any issues with them. ( that relationship ended due to her lack of maturity ) Sure you can have sex with white women but they won't have a serious relationship with or marry you if it is not socially acceptable in their life. It goes for both sides, i dated a Japanese woman years ago, her father married a Gaijin, he however wanted his daughter to marry a japanese man. Granted i won him over with my integrity,honesty and the love i showed his daughter and he gave me his blessing to marry her. ( the relationship ended for other reasons ) But deep down preferences are preferences. Keep trying and you will find someone who is ok with your culture and race. Just don't over analyze it, accept it for what it is -ignorance, and move on.

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