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GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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Who are Asians?. Posted: 11/15/2009 7:58:06 PM
Because of the Native Americans that are called Indian here, when you refer to someone from India as an Indian you normally preface it by stipulating EAST Indian. Chinese, Korean, Japanese and other Asian people have very distinct features, especially the normally over looked eyes. People think their eye shapes are all the same, they are WRONG. There are subtle differences that make them obvious to one Asian culture or another. Hearing them speak their native language is also a dead giveaway.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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Liking someone for who they are rather than what they offer Posted: 11/15/2009 7:48:23 PM
The real question is, what exactly do they have to offer????????? You'll find when you have money, real money not just cashed your check and don't have to pay bills that week so you can go clubbing etc, That you expect more from someone than if you were broke. Having money means you don't have to settle. I pity that person that wants someone with money. Because when they find him/her, it won't last unless you have real skills ( outside the bedroom ).

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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Nose & Ear Hair Posted: 11/14/2009 8:00:35 PM
I agree such out of control hair is a turn off. Signs of bad grooming habits. For me it has to be hairy legs on a woman. She can be Sasquatch all week if it makes her happy but when it comes to intimacy those legs BETTER be smooth or i'm gone. OH GOD and mustaches on women, some cultures have this more prevalent than others but man BLEACH it girls cause guys do notice and it's a wrap if he has to kiss you.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them? Posted: 11/14/2009 7:55:07 PM
It's ironic that not settling for disfunctional behavior and using self control as well as being reproductively responsible means you are branded as undesireable or worse that there is something wrong with you. There are times in your life you have found that perfect person for you. But you may not have been perfect for them. Or they may have realized you were perfect too late. That's life, rage against the dying of the light.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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Would you have sex with a machine? Posted: 11/14/2009 7:41:13 PM
No, But i have felt like a machine. A vending machine where she puts in her quarter, pushes my buttons then kicks me to get what she wants out of me. When that doesn't work ( i wonder why? ) she then jiggles the coin return handle of my heart violently , doesn't get her quarter back and proceeds to spout expletives ( as the flashing bright light in my mind blinks " Sorry Sold Out, Please Make Another Choice " ) Walking off in a heated state, never to be heard from again. Does that count?

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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Parking the anger - HOW??! Posted: 11/13/2009 8:41:21 PM
Time..................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................!

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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EX'S... wtf man??? Why is this so flippin hard? Posted: 11/13/2009 8:04:49 PM
She dumped you once, You will never trust her again. You will resent her and yourself for even giving her a second chance. Which she will utilize to hurt you again. Run.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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She dumped me so why does she still want to see me? Posted: 11/13/2009 8:00:59 PM
She still wants to see you as an insurance policy against being alone or having sex with a guy that turns out to be a psycho. In the movie Raiders Of The Lost Ark there was a scene when all the Nazi's looked into the ark, then their faces melted away in horrible, agonizing and shearing pain. That's what you are going through and the pain will only get worse the more you are in contact with her. Cut bait and run. Lick your wounds, don't blame yourself, but make yourself a better man for and to yourself so that you have something sincere to offer the next woman who comes along and can appreciate what your ex did not.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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Post-rejection friendship Posted: 11/13/2009 7:51:49 PM
I had a wonderful girlfriend once. She broke up with me. YET for a year continued to press the point home that she wanted my friendship because according to her " she never met anyone like, who had such great qualities ". Needless to say i felt EXACTLY like the OP, not out of bitterness or anger rather from a curiosity that INDEED if i wasn't good enough to be with her, then what on earth makes me so wonderful to have as a friend? Is it to hear about how the new boyfriend is having sex with her? Is it because she wants to sit around a campfire and tell spooky ghost stories? Or could it be that we'll both be wearing fluffy bunny slippers and have a slumber party with iron chastity belts on? No not angry or bitter, but seriously after a year of me saying no to her, i caved in on christmas and said yes i would be JUST her friend. Mind you as a platonic friend i asked to have coffee so we could start developing a sincere friendship and she FREAKED, made excuses not to have coffee, and i completely got over being friends with her seeing that she wasn't sincere, perhaps she wanted and insurance policy or closure but we never did get to have coffee and soon after i changed my number and moved on. I have never stayed friends with ex's, it either hurts too much or it just isn't worth the effort.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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starting a family after 40 Posted: 11/13/2009 7:39:32 PM
If you were lucky to have achieved everything you could think of that mattered to you then you are more ready to commit to having children at 40. In my case i could have kids with the wrong women who would have put me in the poor house for financial support and been a bad mother. So i didn't have them earlier. I would love to have kids, but clearly at 40 women want to go back to the clubs and not have more children which is understandable since they gave up their freedom so young. But there must be a 30-40 year old woman out there who won't mind, finding her is another story.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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Mooching off Posted: 11/11/2009 8:58:50 PM
You didn't over react, reminds me of someone i met a year and a half ago. She was cute, smart and we got together ( ahem ), the very next morning she starts asking for money. She wasn't a pro by her crude attempts at a sad story to gain assistance, but this went on for a week.( without my assistance ) I got over it, not that i'm cheap, far from it, but if i have to take responsibility for my life, then i don't need moochers along for the ride. We went our seperate ways, then six months ago she calls me. Asks how i'm doing, i think she's gotten her act straight, guess what? no she hasn't. We get together ( ahem ) and then just as before she starts complaining about how she needs to find a job, has no gasoline, and how she needs new tires for her car, blah blah blah. So rather than money, i re write her resume ( yes it's better than my profile writing ) and i found a job listing for her, she makes an excuse as to why she could not apply, so i went online to apply for her, she gets a call back with an offer after a phone interview, and guess what she does? SHE TURNS DOWN the job!!!! So the moral of the story is she really didn't want to work, she wanted someone to take care of her. Oh and did i mention she could not conceive children? So where exactly is the motivation for a man to take care of her or others like her? Gold digger?, no, lazy? hell yes. And don't say sex, cause that's a dime a dozen. So i got over it again. Just goes to show this behavior does not go away and she's in the same rut she was in when i met her.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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do i come across as being a slut?! Posted: 11/10/2009 8:19:59 AM
Your profile and pics are fine, you don't look like or act like a slut. Guys are just looking for one thing so don't blame yourself. Just stipulate what kind of guy you are looking for to make it easier for a quality man to find you.

GQSunset

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When's the right time to leave mom?? Posted: 11/10/2009 8:15:03 AM
It could just be that when you were sick they were afraid of losing you, being with their father gives them a sense of security that they lose him it won't hurt as much. Or you did such a good job raising them that they can't get away with anything, father's tend to spoil daughters too much and they can get away with more late night partying etc etc. Don't blame yourself teenagers are strange.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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Open mic night... Posted: 11/10/2009 8:11:07 AM
Why would a guy find a story about another guy's penis interesting? I'd be outside smoking too.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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Has God always existed? Posted: 11/9/2009 7:07:05 PM
What we perceive or define as God could have been created by another God. It is a question that illustrates the possibility of infinity, and paradox. A good question would be, if God as we define him actually did exist before Jesus why didn't he show up on cave paintings in similiar imagery? Why wait so long before sending your son that we have documentation ( real or otherwise ) of the existence of a superior being in the form of the holy trinity? I personally believe in God because that belief system has given me hope to overcome adversity. But the scientist in me forces me to accept the lack of logic in blindly accepting something exists " Just Because ".

GQSunset

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Whats it like being single over 30? Posted: 11/9/2009 6:17:06 PM
I love the freedom of being in my late 30's and single with no kids, no alimony, no child support, no baby mama drama, ahhhhhhh. However it would be nicer to share the good times with in a relationship with someone who deserves it.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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Being single = having no life ?? Posted: 11/9/2009 4:32:39 PM
I enjoy being single, my freedom, persuing my interests without having to clear it through channels first. Ideally i'd rather be in a relationship and enjoy things with someone special but i won't settle for someone that makes me wish i were single.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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Mixed Signals? Posted: 11/9/2009 4:28:01 PM
He's being disrespectful of your feelings and your personal possesions, DUMP HIM.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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Hate being single!!!! Posted: 11/9/2009 6:21:23 AM
As has been said you have to love being single. Avoid all areas of socialing where you would need a date, it just makes you feel worse or not having a date or someone in your life. Don't be too picky, despite what people say everyone expects a lot, try to be more open minded in what you are looking for and when you find someone learn to compromise in order to keep the relationship healthy and you won't be alone.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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My friend and I love the same girl Posted: 11/9/2009 6:13:45 AM
Been in your situation a lot in my life. If your friend really was a good friend he would not go any where near someone you were interested in. If that girl doesn't already know who she finds more attractive, jumping through hoops like a trained poodle isn't going to make you feel better about yourself even if you do win her. Dump them both. And walk away with your dignity and self respect.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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Empty promises Posted: 11/8/2009 10:23:35 PM
I dated someone like your friends, she always had some kind of project she wanted done. Yes we were intimate but honestly it began to feel like she was using me and i got over it fast. Sometimes men will say things to be nice, or to let you know they have the skills to do things to help make your life easier, after all that's the man's job is to know how to do things. But really unless you are together for awhile and he respects you he won't do anything other than what's needed to get you into bed.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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Shaving or trimming your privates at our age? Posted: 11/6/2009 8:06:06 PM
If you can't see the forest through the trees, cut the forest down.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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hairdressers Posted: 11/6/2009 4:02:10 PM
Because their gay co-workers want you and can't have you so they break up the happy couple-lol Or they are artists and can't find anyone as creative. Or dumber and have nothing to talk about except the gossip they heard at work which is like a live reality tv show to have to deal with so men get over it. Or like hairstyles they change their men as the mood suits them.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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women who say i'm really busy or i have a finite amount of time... Posted: 11/6/2009 8:49:30 AM
Some are busy but usually it's just a good excuse not to date the scrubs. They are looking for perfection remember that.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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Are you available; or jus wasting my time Posted: 11/6/2009 8:46:30 AM
Call me old fashioned but Higher heels And shorter skirts usually resolve any lack of desire for sex from your dates.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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What someone does that really turn you off? Posted: 11/5/2009 4:51:58 PM
Lack of ambition Bad hygiene Drugs Irresponsibility To name just a few..........

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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I'm great, How about my profile? Posted: 11/4/2009 6:36:48 AM
The halloween pic is scary, and not in a good way. Dump it. Other than that cool profile.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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I find this site disheartening.... Posted: 11/4/2009 6:08:31 AM
Yes you can get to the point where you can't swing a dead cat without getting either a lot of emails or a couple of emails FROM THE WRONG ONES. So it's not the site that is disheartening, rather the qualities you have on your profile that are attracting the wrong ones is what is at issue. ( or the issues of the one's attracted to you lol ) If you have a stable life, a positive outlook and you are not attracting interest how can you blame yourself for that or this site?

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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My first Russian mail order bride! Posted: 11/4/2009 5:59:45 AM
A woman with a serious attitude? well that's a refreshing surprise! wow my passport is burning a hole in my pocket as we speak. NOT.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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Does reading the forums make you more or less cynical about dating? Posted: 11/4/2009 5:57:07 AM
Reading the forums made me less cynical because it reinforced what i already knew and helped me to realize how others think and why. It's the only place you are going to get brutally honest opinions that have merit. And that can only help make you realize how your thinking differs and what would make you more succeessful in how you approach things going forward.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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Why some men never want marry? Posted: 11/4/2009 5:52:36 AM
For most men it's about waiting as was said for her to take off her mask. I've seen where after a few months into a long term relationship she " takes of her mask " and shows her true colors, selfish, self centered, and then it all goes down hill from there. YET they still want to get married, WTF???????????? Once you see the writing on the wall it only gets worse, which is why men take so long to make that commitment. Men would like to be married or at least in a long term relationship, no one wants to be alone for the rest of their life, despite what they say. But it's more and more common to see things go no where when you spend a lot of time in a relationship or dating the same person because you find out things about them that won't make a long term option work.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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profile review please Posted: 11/3/2009 7:22:25 PM
You look gorgeous for your age, i think short and sweet is best in a profile, being a man i don't want to read a novel in a profile, if her pics attract me, and she has what i'm looking for i send an email. Perhaps you should send the first emails to those men you find attractive, it may give you more responses.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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Single Parent and Racism (for the kids?) Posted: 11/3/2009 7:17:56 PM
It's really about your area, in New York where it is multi cultural you will see EXTENSIVE racism when it comes to serious relationships. I had a chinese girfriend whose parents were totally fine with her dating me, never had any issues with them. ( that relationship ended due to her lack of maturity ) Sure you can have sex with white women but they won't have a serious relationship with or marry you if it is not socially acceptable in their life. It goes for both sides, i dated a Japanese woman years ago, her father married a Gaijin, he however wanted his daughter to marry a japanese man. Granted i won him over with my integrity,honesty and the love i showed his daughter and he gave me his blessing to marry her. ( the relationship ended for other reasons ) But deep down preferences are preferences. Keep trying and you will find someone who is ok with your culture and race. Just don't over analyze it, accept it for what it is -ignorance, and move on.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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How to date?? Posted: 11/3/2009 3:46:55 PM
You may not be able to date in the conventional sense, BUT you could always agree to meet that guy at church, or a park, or anywhere you would take your child. Bring a friend so they can accompany you in case things turn sour, this way you have safety. This way if he is understanding he will be agree to meet you and get to know you. If he doesn't then move onto the next guy. It's harder but not impossible to date without the funds for a baby sitter.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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What's the point? Posted: 11/3/2009 3:40:21 PM
The less you have in common the more it leans toward a booty call.

GQSunset

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Layered spike would make me cuter? Posted: 11/3/2009 9:33:17 AM
Do it Post a pic and you'll get your answer.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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I'm not new to the site, but.... Posted: 11/3/2009 9:32:03 AM
Full body pics would help, and the pic of you with the black hair is scary. Visit Seville for Flamenco dancers and nightlife, it's a great city with a lot of history you might meet someone local. Hope this helps.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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Is it really such a good idea to fish off the hobby pier? Posted: 11/3/2009 9:17:34 AM
You are sometimes better off looking at it like a marketing study. Who is your target market? Do they need your product? Is there competition offering the same product? How much are you charging for your product? What is the lifestyle of the customer you want to attract to buy your product? This will tell you where they are, won't guarantee they'll buy what you are selling but it's a goal to work towards if you don't want to explore the aforementioned post's options. When all else fails this is the only approach left to figure out where " the one " for you is.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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Gold Diggers, or someone of that ilk Posted: 11/3/2009 9:11:47 AM
Financial security is fine to give someone if they have something more to offer other than sex in the relationship. But if they are just too lazy to hold down a job and want to be taken care of, she better be so hot it fries your retina.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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Ladies, do you get the joke or is it too much? Posted: 11/2/2009 6:35:04 PM
You have a lot going for you despite the malady that has you using a wheel chair. It's important to state that everything works but why are you in a wheel chair? The chair is not an issue for anyone who is sincerely interested in you providing you don't make an issue out of it that makes you come across as bitter or insecure. Hope this helps.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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Is it my profile? Posted: 11/2/2009 6:29:29 PM
Just remember being a screen writer is like being a rapper. You may hit it big ONE day or you may never hit it big. If you are going to mention screen writing, what kind of screen play are you writing? What is the subject matter of your work? does it have a socially responsible and relevant message or are you just having pipe dreams about making money by writing Scary Movie part 7? Make it clear why you are interested in screen writing since it is a unique career choice but don't state that it's all about the benjamins since you don't have any and likely won't unless you are the next Spike Lee. Hope this helps.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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A review for me please? New w/questions. Posted: 11/2/2009 6:18:21 PM
You look much younger than your age which is great, you are active and prefer a life with more substance than the city has to offer. All in all it's a great profile, short and to the point.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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Could you give me a review? Posted: 11/2/2009 6:14:13 PM
Please don't take this the wrong way but your pics make you look much older than you are. Either different hairstyle or different style of clothes may help. The profile was great, very specific which will weed out a lot of the wrong ones. Hope this helps.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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lookin for some advice???? Posted: 11/2/2009 6:10:50 PM
OP take yourself out of father mode and look at yourself and your life, if you're kids were not in the picture do you think you would have enough/something to offer a woman you are looking for? People forget they are not dating your kids, they are going to date you, so you have to have something to put on the table without the kids being part of the equation in her consideration of you before she can look at the whole package. Don't lose heart and don't give up.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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Baby mama drama Posted: 11/2/2009 6:53:39 AM
Take a chance with him until he proves that he's not worth dating or making those sacrifices for. You are not dating for the sake of dating if you do like him and he is good to you. Just don't involve your kids lives too much if at all during dating him, and don't go anywhere near his baby mama, cause that drama will break you two up before you hook up.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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Which is worse - Dude! or Gurll! Posted: 11/2/2009 6:41:17 AM
WasHiz is TOTALLY right, My sister in law has a sister who on her first date with a guy called her dude, this happened on their second date also. They are now married with 4 kids. "GURL" lighten up, it's about chemistry,dating should be fun "dude"; you never know where it will take you. And much like a puppy with bad habits, the incorrect use of pet names is something that can be changed. I once dated a single mother who hated to be called baby. Needless to say 3 years later she's still alone with no man in her life, despite the fact that she has an adorable child, and she was hot. So it doesn't matter how much you have going for you, if you are that uptight about stupid things that make no difference in the relationship you will die alone.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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This one I could use some help on.... Posted: 11/1/2009 5:59:36 PM
Watch both seasons of a show on VH1 called " The Pickup Artist " Not because it will give you pick up lines etc etc. but it will give you a clear sense of what happens to the good guys in bars and clubs. Stick to things that accentuate your personality and lifestyle to meet women at your level. You may find her online, but it's doubtful considering the competition. Just don't lose hope and don't beat yourself up if you are not as successful as you once were, things change and the dating scene has changed dramaticly.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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A difference between men and women OR the truth about sluts and playas. Posted: 11/1/2009 5:47:05 PM
There's a big difference. A slut doesn't have to convince you sleep with her. A playa does. You never get emotionally attached to a slut. ( unless you thought she was a virgin ) You DO however get emotionally attached to a playa. Big difference.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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Persistance can wear a girl down til she gives in - Does it work for guys? Posted: 11/1/2009 5:42:23 PM
Persistance can wear a woman down until she gives in, but it won't make her fall in love with you. Enjoy your one night stand.

GQSunset

Joined: 2/28/2009

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Why do men have to see you before trying to get to know you? Posted: 11/1/2009 5:40:28 PM
If you have really clear pics of yourself then it's obvious or should be to that guy wether or not he would sleep with you just from the pics. If they want to meet right away either they are desperate or don't trust that you look that good in real life because he may suspect your pics are old. It's way better to get to know someone on the phone and email, before meeting providing the pics are current. This way any red flags that have nothing to do with looks will pop up and you can decide wether to fish or cut bait. I've had instances where they wanted to meet after a couple of emails in one night, i never trust this. You don't have to chat for a year before you go out, but if they are THAT motivated to date you and you are not Brad Pitt, then something is rotten in Denmark.

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