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rawal

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Is being woke up with sexual favors rape or not? Posted: 12/18/2006 2:47:27 AM
I have had sex with my partner whilst I was fully asleep. Is that rape??? I was asleep at the time goddamn it! I am not the only guy who has done the ultimate wet dream. I think you can suss out how a woman might feel about it. i usually mention that I have nasty narcophiliac habits and have a sleeping beauty hangup when it looks like we will have sex again. Most take it well. Used to do it often with one partner. Once I didn't wake her and then she got mad.

Rawal

Joined: 1/7/2006

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Two can play that game...right? Posted: 8/31/2006 7:38:13 AM
Go round to your friend's house (I mean friend in a loose liberal way) and tell her and your boyfriend that you are pregnant to him again and suggest that you all get on with life and live together in one big happy family of 5 for the moment. PS You don't actually have to wait till you get pregnant. It's just a little white lie.

Rawal

Joined: 1/7/2006

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Text or Talk? Posted: 8/31/2006 7:26:47 AM
texting is fun. I like one liners and thats waht texting is

Rawal

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In the Beginning.... Posted: 8/31/2006 7:19:40 AM
I like a good yes-no-maybe from a girl. It gets me hot and makes me want to break her rules. That reminds me I haven't had one for a while.

rawal

Joined: 1/7/2006

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Ex-bf seeking restitution of gift items. Posted: 8/30/2006 6:40:57 AM
He would get much joy in attempting to reclaim gifts because they were gifts and he ceased to own them once he gave them to you. Obviously he wants to get back at you and that's the only lever he has. Are they really worth that much? You could send them collect maybe and pack them very badly so they get broken on the way back. Pay the money though cause that could be argued to be a loan.

rawal

Joined: 1/7/2006

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How a Guy/Girl Smells Posted: 8/29/2006 6:15:43 AM
I like the next morning smell when the perfume's faded. Women have a natural sweet smell to my nose which I really like - especially between the breasts where it's a little musky. When I go to bed alone the next night and I can still smell her on my sheets ... that always gets me going - (unfortunately by myself!). In terms of perfume well a heavy musky scent - Poison does it.

rawal

Joined: 1/7/2006

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Men on a Marriage Strike Posted: 8/28/2006 7:16:23 AM
Would I take all I own plus many years future earnings and put it all red or black for a single roll of roulette at the casion? That is what marriage is.

rawal

Joined: 1/7/2006

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what makes people cheat ???? Posted: 8/18/2006 4:11:42 PM
Often when someone decides to exit from a relationship, they line up the next partner and test drive for a while.

rawal

Joined: 1/7/2006

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Does your past matter? Posted: 8/13/2006 4:39:02 AM
Having a kid doesn't matter. A guy who wants you will take the whole package. If however you have been with every guy and quite a few of the girls in town then yes it does matter. Guys don't want a girl who will say yes to every guy who asks or who just doesn't care when she's been drinking. If that is your past then move cities and and change your habits and don't tell about it.

rawal

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Am I a Fool? Posted: 8/13/2006 4:29:51 AM
I'll ask you one question. Does he bring some joy to your life in any way? From what you say he is not around much, he doesn't earn much, he doesn't give you anything but babies he won't do more for other than the occassional present. So what does he give you that's worth sticking with him?

rawal

Joined: 1/7/2006

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why is it when you give a guy a compliment he thinks he is in like flynn?I have spoken to numerous Posted: 8/12/2006 4:32:28 AM
Sometimes when girls pay you compliments, they do have the hots for you. Given you don't want to miss out it is best to immediately make suggestive remarks.

rawal

Joined: 1/7/2006

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Best Friends... or Best Lovers Posted: 8/10/2006 5:54:33 AM
best friend of the opposite gender?? For me it has always been YES!!! In another time-space continuum. Or No!!! She is so much and so valuable as a friend that I wouldn't want to risk it.

rawal

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Snitching on married men Posted: 8/10/2006 5:50:14 AM
From what I've heard some single girls prefer married men because they go away when told and are less trouble.

rawal

Joined: 1/7/2006

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Why I love men... Posted: 8/10/2006 5:41:22 AM
It's a good thread. Very positive to hear why girls like guys for once (rather than whats wrong with us). Thanks OP!

rawal

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Why would my wife say she does not have any fantasies? Posted: 8/8/2006 4:21:01 AM
Well I have always had lots of fantasies but just having clocked 3 years into my current relationship, I find myself strangely fantasy free for the first time in my life. What's going on? I only get turned on when I am with my girlfriend. But just a hug from her will do it. Is she slipping something into the dinners she cooks? Try as much as I like, I can't even get excited by the idea of me helping out one of her frustrated single gf's. I guess I am just satisfied. Maybe your wife is tired but satisfied.

rawal

Joined: 1/7/2006

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Changing from 'I' to 'WE' how hard is it? Posted: 8/5/2006 4:03:27 PM
Its of topic I know but fackker, girls always do start with "he (bf) has", quickly go to "we have", and then end up at "I have". Courts tend to agree so it must be so.

rawal

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Stuck-- ex boyfriends vs current boyfriend Posted: 8/4/2006 7:48:24 PM
My gf remains friends with some ex-bf's. I don't have a problem from jealousy because my reasoning is that if there was anything more there, than I wouldn't be in the picture. What was a problem in the initial stages was that my gf tended to seek emotional support from her friends. I would be told that such and such happened. When I tried to give her support she would say that she had talked it over with so and so and it was ok now and she didn't want to talk about it anymore. That took some of the intimacy out of the bonding process and also stopped me from getting to know her emotionally. That seems a little possesive perhaps but I think it is important to render unto new bfs or gfs what should be theirs.

rawal

Joined: 1/7/2006

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Casual, meaningless sex Posted: 8/4/2006 5:53:49 PM
Some people regard sex sex as a highly significant and something that should only occur with a life partner. Others don't think of it as any more meaningful than a hug and regard it as entertainment. Most of us are somewhere inbetween. I guess it depends on what you are wanting out of sex as to where you are on the spectrum.

rawal

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What does it mean to be a half-boyfriend/girlfriend? Posted: 8/4/2006 4:46:09 PM
I have never heard of a half boy/girlfriend till now.

rawal

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Would you consider this cheating? Posted: 8/1/2006 4:32:53 AM
It's cheating

rawal

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yes my boyfriends in therapy Posted: 8/1/2006 4:24:32 AM
My gf was and does. Really she just enjoys an hour of talking about herself objectively with someone else. I reckon its a good thing cause when there is a problem between us the therapist usually telss my gf she is being unreasonable!

rawal

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Snoring... how do you deal with it?? Posted: 8/1/2006 4:19:46 AM
Snoring is a serious issue not only for a relationship but for the guy's quality of life and duration of life. I used to snore badly and woke myself up all the time (apnea). I was so tired all the time. Georgie has given a good summary so I won't repeat alll the life threatening stuff. The good news is that it is self curable to a fair degree. That's a fairly radical statement I guess but it is true cause I have done it. A simple test is to pretend to snore. You'll find yourself putting your head into specific positions to make the noises. Now try the inverse breath as you were and try not to make snoring noises. If your head is extended, and not tucked in, it is actually quite hard to make snoring noises. If you breath as you do in pilates and yoga it is even harder to snore. The jaw position is important. If stressed the jaw is tight and drawn in. That almost guaruntees snoring for me. If it is relaxed, the jaw is further out and it becomes difficult to snore. That's the basis of some anti-snoring medical gadgets - to force the jaw out. Better to do it naturally I reckon. I am not saying I am 100% snore free now but most of the time I am not waking up to my partner yelling and kicking me. I have periodical bouts of snoring - mostly high stress times - but I get it back under control again pretty quickly. Summing up the secret is to stop hunching and tucking the head and to adopt a good sleeping posture. It takes quite a bit of discipline but sleeping better and having a happier partner is worthwhile. It can really make your life a lot better. One proviso. Some guys snore from the chest. I don't, I am a head snorer and what I say doesn't apply to chest snorers. My experience doesn't apply to you. If any head snorer wants to chat about stopping snoring and exchanging ideas I'd be happy to do so by email. Let me know. Cheers

rawal

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Spray me, degrade me? Posted: 7/28/2006 6:33:41 AM
Hey girls acknowledge our semen! It's demeaning when girls reject one's semen out of hand. It is just not sensible not to use condoms now. You have to have safe sex. But after many years of safe sex I am finding some girls now reject having anything to do with semen. They want condoms even with handjobs. Even when you've done your mutual tests, ejaculations are to be contained in latex simply because it is "icky". To quote from a recent Cleo "semen is not sulphuric acid". Yes it's a bit messy but that's sex. The bigger the wet spot the better. Maybe your guy wants some acknowlegement of his semen. Why shouldn't us guys want to visually demonstrate our virility and fertility to you and have it acknowledged instead of having our semen unnaturally sanitized into a latex cachet and flushed down the loo? Perhaps offer him a different target and ask him to cum on your breasts/stomach/etc so you can see it. An ex-gf use to rub it into skin afterwards saying it was good for the skin.

rawal

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pretty and rude make you ugly Posted: 7/27/2006 5:02:40 AM
Reminds me of an experience I had when I worked in the IT dept of a call centre. I was at my local dance bar and met a girl at the bar. We pretty quickly established that not only did we work for the same company but we also worked on the same floor. She was immediately off limits to me because I do very specialized work and I will not risk compromising my work environment. That doesn't stop me from being friendly with the girls so we chatted for a while before she went back to join her friends. It was fairly obvious the she was looking for a guy but her two friends weren't. They were just their to keep her company and were frankly looking very bored and disinterested. After a while I decided to walk over and introduce myself with really just an intention to entertain them a little. I didn't get to say more than half a sentence about working for the same company before she scathingly made comments about me and told me to go away. It was sweet to find her in the lift the very next morning. I was super smooth and asked if she had a good night. For about a month I kept running into her and was always very urban and well mannered in greeting her. What was even better, I had some good friends amongst the other girls on the same floor and she clearly seemed more awkward when she realized I was moderately popular lunch companion. I hope she learnt something.

rawal

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Question on inside Ejaculation Posted: 7/25/2006 8:08:50 AM
It's pretty cool cumming inside your girl. But it's only a couple of times we have done that. You have to do sanitized sex now and lots of women have been brought up on semen free sex. Some seem to think it is sulphuric acid. I really don't like protected sex because putting on a condom ruins the spontanaity and I don't like the back pressure feel when I do ejaculate. My semen has a right to be in my girl and it feels cheated!!!

rawal

Joined: 1/7/2006

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Light touching? Posted: 7/25/2006 7:51:39 AM
You cannot tell anything these days from how close a woman sits, how touchy she is, anything full stop. It is all relative now and there are no rules. Some woman are very touchy and friendly and that's it only. Others are standoffish but would have gone to bed with you if you had pressed the case. You can't tell. Ask what she does outside of work as a conversation item. Guess what, you have a common interest in ... wow ... going to the movies! How amazing. Then ask if she'd like to go out with you. Generally women are pretty good at telling you a). They have a boyfriend b). They like having male friends as friends only If you don't get either of those you've got a shot.

rawal

Joined: 1/7/2006

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Deep Throating Posted: 7/25/2006 7:37:28 AM
Take a deep breath is the only advice I can give and keep the throat straight. Oh and practice, practice, practice! I like it. In fact I don't get much out of being sucked but being deep throated is superb!

rawal

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boyfriends jerking off to porn. Posted: 7/25/2006 7:33:36 AM
My gf is ok with it. The first two times she wanted to watch but she got bored with it after that. I wake up with this magnificant morning glory and a lot of the time my persuasions aren't persuasive. I'd rather jack off in front of her then head to the shower because in the shower I'd think about other girls rather than her (as I do when I am beside her).

rawal

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Blind Date Etiquette From a Pro Posted: 7/25/2006 4:32:26 AM
Never take girls to resturants on first dates. Leave formal dining to formal occassions. 1st dates are ones where you usually don't know the other person well. So action dates are best for 1st dates. Doing some action based activity builds teamwork and therefore builds empathy between you. Movies are non-action dates (unless you really hit it off in the dark!) and are just as good because afterwards you have something in common to talk about. To eat go to cafes. I only do cafe's because we have a relaxed cafe culture in Melbourne. Here, any girl who wants to go to a resturant is up herself, and she is not cool and she is not funky and she should not be seen with you. What cafes a girl likes says a lot about her as it does about you so you should consult with her but have something in mind that has good food but is not too expensive. I recommend finding cafe that does east-west fusion food but not too experimental. Char grilling broccoli is going to far. This shows you are explorative but know where to draw a commonsense line.

rawal

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If she has the condoms is that a good thing? Posted: 7/25/2006 4:08:52 AM
Let's be honest. if she has a stock of condoms ... she may have done more guys then you have done girls. Whats more she may have done more girls then you have done girls. Accept the double standard and move on.

rawal

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How long before you dated a woman and got fed up of her guys? Posted: 7/21/2006 6:51:02 AM
I get bored and tired when a woman stops giving me sex. It is one of nature's hints to get out of her bed and find another one.

rawal

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Does age really have anything to do with intelligence? Posted: 7/21/2006 6:47:33 AM
I find blindly repeating what everybody else has said and agreeing with it fairly unintellligent. Just because it is group think doesn't make it smart!

rawal

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Can I ask you what you're doing? Posted: 7/21/2006 6:38:38 AM
I think the point of it all was to get some good ratings more than anything. I doubt that it could be anything other than entrapment as it was tacitly a police operation where they encited the person to commit an offence - if there was an offence. All the guy did before having TV cameras shoved in his face was to walk into a house carrying alcohol and with condoms in his pocket. This is not the same as being caught conducting a sexual act with a minor. On the plus side the TV show will make some parents more careful.

rawal

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Bathroom sharing = Romance killer Posted: 7/13/2006 7:31:42 AM
My gf INSISTS on me talking to her while she is USING the toilet. I am trying to edge out backwards the whole time. I'm ok with it in general - afterall I am a farm boy. However a friend of mine dropped a girl because she crossed her legs when USING the toilet. I don't understand that myself but I guess toilet habits have their dangers.

rawal

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To be or not to be, that is the question Posted: 7/13/2006 7:21:22 AM
Well guys like girls who are faithfull. You weren't and it doesn't matter that it was with his prior knowledge and ok. If a girl asked me "do you mind me going on a date with another guy and possibly fcuking him" I'd say sure screw around as much as you want and never take you seriously again.

rawal

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thats part of having a healthy sex live Posted: 7/13/2006 7:08:59 AM
My gf doesn't want sex as often as i do. Particularly in the morning which is when I am horniest. She'll hold my penis while I cuddle her but when it's time to ejaculate she'll suggest I go to the shower. To me that is cheating. It may sound silly but while I am willing to accept she doesn't want morning sex I want her to accept that I am stiff as a board for desire for her. If that means the compromise is that I frotage her bum (or dry root her) or just wank beside her then so be it. She seems to both love and hate it. I suppose it is a bit like having your pet dog mount your leg.

rawal

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When do you say you cheated? Posted: 7/8/2006 8:06:17 AM
"I didn't cheat I was raped!" I would feel so much better to know that my girlfriend didn't cheat on me but merely got so drunk she just fcuked whoever was around at the time. Like every time she drinks she'll fcuk other guys. Yeah that'll work. Let me give you a hint. When things are broke they are broke. Your relationship is broke and you broke it. Don't think about fixing it. Just think about getting him out of Iraq without the trauma of being betrayed whilst he is risking his life for your country and western cizilization. No matter how much that is not appreciated. You owe him that. There are people here telling you its ok, you were taken advantage of and it is not your fault because you were drunk. Well anybody here think it's ok for a guy to get so drunk he doesn't know he is raping a girl and that he gets off with diminished responibility? No that is not ok! It's no more ok for a girl to claim diminished responsibilty either. Do the guy a favor and tell him after he gets back and take responsibility for it and acknowledge how wrong you have treated him. Gotta say to how weird it is that people say she is to young to make a commitment or even to stay faithfull to a guy. But he isn't too young to die protecting the world from al Quaida. Kinda of a mismatch I guess.

rawal

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What makes men want to be sexual with a women? Posted: 6/10/2006 1:13:39 AM
It is fairly simple, if you are comely then we want you sexually. It more a process of crossing over from wanting to have sex with you to to wanting an valuing you as a friend. That happens after we give up hoping you will have sex with us. Then we wouldn't want to have sex with you because it might stuff up our friendship with you. You become to important as a friend to bonk.

rawal

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Do you have this feeling? Posted: 6/10/2006 12:04:27 AM
Of course you can be friends with guys. Just a few points about emailing. Lots of people write action oriented stuff. Did this. Did that. This quickly peters out - it gets pretty boring very quickly. Even if it is about sex there are only so many times you write "I ram my **** in hard". One the otherhand if you write about how you feel it is pretty interesting, and starts building a friednship or relationship.

rawal

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Is it just me or are women getting meaner and more bad tempered? Posted: 6/9/2006 5:38:24 PM
Woman are meant to be assertive nowadays. The problem is that assertiveness, which is a fine and noble quality, is a difficult quality to gain. It's easy to get it confused with aggressiveness and bad manners and selfishness. There are quite a lot of confused woman out there. It is not just you.

rawal

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tell me....is it wrong? Posted: 6/9/2006 5:22:37 PM
It's wrong cause you can't expect him to like it.

rawal

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Isn't it just about whether you can read the Sunday paper in your PJs and still be happy together? Posted: 6/2/2006 7:57:03 AM
yes it is more about holding hands and cuddling and doing things to please each other and just enjoying time together. Of course doing things together and pleasing each other can iclude orgasms.

rawal

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When to break off the F buddy Posted: 6/2/2006 7:49:26 AM
When you think the other girl will expect you to stop fcuking other girls? Is it ok in your mind for her to still be fcuking around and accepting dates with other guys? when do you expect her to stop fcuking other men? I think there is something flawed in begining a monogamous relationship with multiple sexual partners but that's just me.

rawal

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Dogs judge dates??? Posted: 6/2/2006 7:38:58 AM
Ok but it is in reverse. First night I went back to my (now) gf's place her dog didn't like me much. Barked when I embraced her etc. After quite some time I picked up my leather jacket off a couch and found it eaten up. My gf tells that story a fair bit. She says it proved to her from my reaction that I was easy going and very tolerant and she liked that.

rawal

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He says do you miss me? Posted: 6/2/2006 7:10:18 AM
For god's sake girls all the guy did was say "did you miss me". Maybe that means he missed you. Maybe he wants to know if you are interested in him. if you were you'd probably say yes and maybe you'd both have got cosier. In the worse case, people can say some stupid things in the throes because the logical brain is pretty much (or should be) disengaged. It is only weird if you just met that night.

rawal

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Guys just aren't right are we? Posted: 5/31/2006 4:25:28 AM
in my opinion, we'll never figure out the other. ;o) In my opinion we are just in denial about not having figured the opposite gender out. When we stop denying, the birth rate will plummet.

rawal

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have you ever noticed this Posted: 5/21/2006 2:55:52 AM
I think a lot of women work too hard at being good at sex to be good at it. They suck or rub or squeeze with really no reference to you what so ever. I guess it is exactly the same for girls with guys doing it by the numbers. For good sex you have to be in tune with your partner not Cleo.

rawal

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Independence vs.feminism Posted: 5/21/2006 1:48:34 AM
Assertiveness is a GOOD thing but many distort it into aggresiveness which is a BAD thing. Sadly people get the wrong grip on good qualities and turn them into bad qualities. Similarly independance which is a good inward quality that can be distorted into something bad. I would most likely equate independance of the sort described with selfishness, hypocrisy, bad manners, and a lack of willingness to reciprocate. So you like guys treating you like a lady. Doing mannerly things for you like pushing thru to the bar and buying you a wine??. But at home "hey baby git me a beer please, the games on" from him is out of order?? Non-Reciprocation tick Hypocrisy tick Selfishness tick Bad manners tick Something is seriously wrong if independance means you don't reciprocate and are only willing to receive and not give. You missed the basic foundation of a relationship and distorted independance into something bad.

rawal

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truth about love Posted: 5/12/2006 5:34:01 PM
Although women will say they don't care how much or how little money a man has ... the truth is somewhat different. We are a pair bonding species and the universal rule is that females give breeding opportunities in return for the male providing resources.

rawal

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Defending a stranger Posted: 5/11/2006 9:55:54 AM
Done it a lot of times. It doesn't mean you have to get in with fists flying. Usually it's a matter of stopping a situation developing into a physical fight. Walking up and standing close by intimidates because the potential combatants don't know what you are going to do. It stops a lot of fights. Then there is always some idiot making a nuisance of himself to a woman. that usually stops if you offer support.

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