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johninsd

Joined: 3/2/2009

Msg: 2 (view)

Profile review Posted: 10/4/2009 4:21:17 PM
Powerlifting and fishing. How many women is that going to appeal to? You really, really need to show some more depth. And unless you absolutely have to meet someone who is as into fishing as you (which will probably be a long, long wait), I'd lose the fish pics. Your main pic, at the very least, should be of your face and nothing else.

johninsd

Joined: 3/2/2009

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Click here for free cookies. Or a profile review. Could be either. Posted: 10/4/2009 4:18:50 PM
I like the whole thing except the last line. What a way to crap on a great profile. Delete it fast!!! No kidding! OP: You are going to have to write first. Women are not going to break down your email inbox. It just ain't gonna happen.

johninsd

Joined: 3/2/2009

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Little help here Posted: 10/4/2009 4:14:51 PM
Start with a main pic that shows just you. That's the "first impression", and the first impression is, nobody knows if you're a guy or a girl in search results.

johninsd

Joined: 3/2/2009

Msg: 6 (view)

Ice breaker Posted: 10/4/2009 4:07:20 PM
Dear God no. Just write a quick message... "Hi, I liked your profile, especially X, Y, and Z. If you're interested, please respond."

johninsd

Joined: 3/2/2009

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Reverse block? Posted: 10/4/2009 4:05:58 PM
There is no relevant information on that page... just a link that everyone agrees is bad and a suggestion to use AdBlock, which doesn't fit my suggestion in any but the most superficial manner. I searched for "reverse block" and came up with nothing. I searched for "block" and came up with a bunch of results, none of which seemed to answer my question.

johninsd

Joined: 3/2/2009

Msg: 1 (view)

Reverse block? [THREAD Closed] Posted: 10/4/2009 2:40:13 PM
It would be useful to be able to block myself from seeing any given profile(s). For example... it has been a while since I've used PoF. When I do a search, I'm sure to run into people whom I've met and we didn't hit it off, they never replied to me, etc. But there is no way I can keep that in my head. After a certain profile has become a dead end for me, I'd like to block them from appearing in search results again. If they change their pic / profile, and I wind up contacting them again because I didn't memorize their screen name, they probably post a thread somewhere, "OMG, this guy just isn't taking a hint, blah blah blah!"

johninsd

Joined: 3/2/2009

Msg: 41 (view)

was anyone so angry at a x that they wanted revenge? if yes what happened? was it worth it? Posted: 10/4/2009 2:25:46 PM
Someone who sets out for revenge should first dig two graves.

johninsd

Joined: 3/2/2009

Msg: 57 (view)

this girl likes me but has a boyfriend Posted: 10/4/2009 2:24:09 PM
im in a sticky situation and really dont know what to do about it. ive known this girl for a very long time and recently she told me shes had and still has the biggest crush on me. which i didnt see the clues for a very long time untill now the problem is she has a boyfriend. This one's easy. Tell her to dump the boyfriend. Boyfriend / girlfriend isn't marriage. It's dating. Sometimes, these things don't work out. C'est la vie. There is precisely nothing wrong with telling someone you're dating, "You know, this just isn't working out, so sorry, here's your stuff, have a nice life". If she won't... walk away and do not communicate with her again. For here there be dragons.

johninsd

Joined: 3/2/2009

Msg: 1 (view)

How's this for a bad first date? Posted: 10/4/2009 9:16:51 AM
Man Gets 2 Yrs For Swiping Car On 1st Date Detroit Man Asked Date For Keys After Saying He Left Wallet In Car Posted: 4:10 pm EDT October 2, 2009Updated: 4:19 pm EDT October 2, 2009 PONTIAC, Mich. -- A Detroit man has been sentenced to at least two years in prison for stealing a woman's car after skipping out on the check during their first date. Twenty-four-year-old Terrance McCoy was sentenced Friday in Oakland County Circuit Court to two to 10 years in prison. McCoy pleaded no contest Sept. 18 to unlawfully driving away a vehicle. A no-contest plea is not an admission of guilt but is treated as a conviction at sentencing. Police say McCoy dined with the 27-year-old Southfield woman on April 24 at a restaurant in Ferndale. The woman told investigators McCoy said he forgot his wallet in her car and asked for the keys. Police say McCoy then took off in the car. Defense attorney Terri Antisdale says McCoy is a "very nice man who made a bad decision."

johninsd

Joined: 3/2/2009

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My car was stolen Posted: 8/8/2009 2:51:19 PM
That car was paid off four years ago ;-P And if I had just parked it in a bizarre spot and had it towed away, I would hope that they would have been able to figure it out and let me know by now! I was out looking at new cars today. I really think the Santa Fe Limited is the car for me. I just hope the stripped frame shows up so I can be done with this! If it just stays disappeared, it'll be about two weeks for insurance to pay off.

johninsd

Joined: 3/2/2009

Msg: 53 (view)

How many George Sodini's are out there? Posted: 8/7/2009 7:47:09 PM
If you can't get laid......... nobody cares. Buying a gun and killing a lot of people still wont get you laid. But it will sure as hell make people care all of a sudden. Maybe, in an ideal world, incidents like this would never be reported on. We'd hear, "A crazy guy shot some women then killed himself, good riddance to bad rubbish, our hearts go out to the families of the victims". And, with nothing more, maybe the next kook wouldn't turn to mass murder because that wouldn't get his "manifesto" out there. It is possible that someone else has seen that Sodini's "journal" is now widely read, and that might make him decide to ensure that his is read as well. But we don't live in a perfect world. And I sure don't want to live in a world where something like this is suppressed "for my own good". Because once it's OK to suppress one item, it becomes more OK to suppress others, and next thing you know we have the Ministry of Truth ensuring that we only hear what's appropriate for us to hear.

johninsd

Joined: 3/2/2009

Msg: 52 (view)

How many George Sodini's are out there? Posted: 8/7/2009 7:40:18 PM
The part of this I don't understand is why would anyone take the time to read his diary, blog, or whatever and expect any amount of truth in it? To find out what made him tick, and to be more aware of the potential warning signs in others. I'm sure there are a lot of people out there with that chronic, deep-seated rage at others they blame for the problems in their lives. And, more and more, people are being disconnected from the rest of the world, society, culture, etc. When people have no real stake in the society around them, and feel apart from or outside of it... it becomes more and more OK for them to "express themselves" in antisocial ways. Especially when you decide you want to make your great expression and then punch your own ticket. Once someone has made that decision, they literally have nothing to lose. And you can't bargain with someone who has nothing to lose. Maybe, if nothing else, counselors who deal with angry, alienated, rage-filled people may identify elements of their clients with this loser whackjob, and maybe give a heads-up to the police.

johninsd

Joined: 3/2/2009

Msg: 1 (view)

My car was stolen Posted: 8/7/2009 7:29:30 PM
Went out Thursday AM, ready for another day in the salt mines... and my car had vanished. It took me a few minutes to convince myself it had actually been stolen... I had to look around and see if i had parked it in the wrong spot, or if I had left it out on the street and imagined that I had driven it back in and parked it! So now I get to make a car payment again. Oh well, i had kinda wanted a new vehicle for a while. Now I get my wish! I'm thinking maybe Hyundai Santa Fe or Kia Sportage. Anyone drive one of those? Or a similar mid-sized 6 cylinder SUVish thing? What do you think?

johninsd

Joined: 3/2/2009

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Profile review please Posted: 7/9/2009 9:17:34 PM
HOLY COW what happened to that poor bike?!?! Your profile looks fine. I'd even leave the burning bike. I'm sure the right guy will get choked up over that!

johninsd

Joined: 3/2/2009

Msg: 2 (view)

Girls, I need help..... Posted: 7/7/2009 10:28:51 PM
1) You should get a better, clearer main pic with your smiling face filling the frame. 2) Delete the pic with you dancing with some woman. It's a big 3) You really should delete the landscape pics with pics that show you in the landscape. 4) Spellcheck - it's "equally", not "equilly". 5) Your spacing is whacked out. No spaces between the end of a sentence and the next, but spaces before and after apostrophes in contractions. Why? No, forget it... don't explain, fix. Your content is OK. Fix the weird spacing. Then, start a new paragraph at, "I`m looking for someone..." One big block of text is hard to deal with. Breaking it up into two or more smaller paragraphs makes it easier to consider reading.

johninsd

Joined: 3/2/2009

Msg: 3 (view)

honest opinion please Posted: 7/7/2009 10:16:47 PM
Swap out your current main pic for #2 The current one is... odd. Quirky, maybe fun, but not a good main pic. You're getting the formulaic emails that probably every woman gets. You aren't getting any addressed to you, because nobody knows anything about you. You like outdoor activites and music. We can guess that you may own at least one dog, or that you may like dogs. You list no interests. And you don't have a word to say about what you're looking for. If you want genuine contacts, you need to provide some info

johninsd

Joined: 3/2/2009

Msg: 33 (view)

Naturalized Citizenship For Illegal Aliens Posted: 7/7/2009 7:37:19 PM
Send them all home. There is a process to become a naturalized citizen of the United States. It might not be perfect, but tens of thousands of people go through it every year to proudly earn US citizenship. Why we would want to hand that precious gift to millions of illiterate peasants from a Third World country who are going to be a net drain on our society is completely beyond me. Most other countries worth a hoot in the world require potential emigrants to be able to support themselves and/or to have a needed skill that will enable them to be a net contributor to society. We should do no less. We have far too many drones being born on American soil to want to import more.

johninsd

Joined: 3/2/2009

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I must be doing something wrong haha Posted: 7/6/2009 10:15:30 PM
1) Better pic. Get your head into the shot, not your torso. 2) More pics, variety. 3) Describe yourself. 4) Lose the quiz. Women aren't going to answer questions in your profile. 5) Messaging random omen just isn't going to work very well. Use the Search function to find ones that really look compatible with you, and whom you feel will think you're compatible with them, based on their profiles.

johninsd

Joined: 3/2/2009

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Please review my profile please, quite thankful for good tips! Posted: 7/6/2009 10:12:50 PM
Your main pic is too far away. I would swap in #4 until I could get a good head shot. Right off the bat, go in and capitalize all of the "I"s referring to yourself. I am honest, i have never cheated on a girl. I AM one of the nice guys. Delete. Nobody says, "I'm a liar, I'm a player, I'm a bad guy" Stating this stuff is redundant, and it makes people wonder why you felt the need to start talking about how "honest" you are. I work hard and relax with even more seriousness. Huh? If you were subcontinent-India or Chinese, fresh off of the boat, this could be forgiven. But you aren't, so this is bizarre and confusing. I am a night owl and actually dont like sleeping much. That's... weird. You're getting people to start asking questions, but not the kind that you want to be asked. Yes i am a nerd and i game, but alot else. Again with the strange language usage. Referring to yourself as a "nerd" in this context is negative. And gaming is not going to be any kind of an interest for 99%+ of the women here. [note: i have already taken around 200 pictures of the coast the last month so if you ever want scenic pics just ask] Delete. Save that for later. After that i wont have the time because i have joined the Air Force and will be going to boot camp this fall. If you "won't have time", why are you here? Joining the Air Force is laudable. But where are you going to be stationed? No, not where do you think you'll be stationed... if it isn't in writing, guess what? You're gonna be traveling, my friend And my crystal ball says sand and heat are a likely part of your near-term future. I have an Associate's degree in Hospitality Restaurant Management, tho i fear i wont use it. I wish there was a head-shaking smiley. Why do you "fear you won't use" this degree? On second thought... just delete this. The site asks what i am looking for..Yes it is mostly dating, but i also want, hanging out, an email buddy, possible long term, and new friends I think that, after you address the issues of where you're going to be after Basic, you need to pick one goal, set that in your profile, delete that sentence, and you might very well find some of the other stuff. Assuming you stick with Dating, you really need to write a paragraph about who you're looking for. What qualities does she have, what does she like to do, etc.

johninsd

Joined: 3/2/2009

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Profile Review Posted: 7/6/2009 9:56:59 PM
I think your profile is great! I think you already know that the smoking is going to hurt you. I hope you're planning on quitting, sooner rather than later. Other than that, your pics all look like they came from the same event, and just aren't very flattering. As soon as you can, you should get a friend to take a nice, clear head shot in good light, with you smiling and looking like you're having a great time. Until then, I'd go with #5 But the odd cropping will wind up being "stretched" in search results, making you look like there's a lot more of you.

johninsd

Joined: 3/2/2009

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I just need a wee bit of advise about my profile. Posted: 7/6/2009 9:46:47 PM
First, you need a main pic that's a good, clear head shot. Hello Female fishpond dwellers. Eh... I'd drop this. Sounds like you're addressing the Salamander People. I am a 40 year old. Redundant, and doesn't agree with your profile info. Delete. I live in Ottawa, Ontario. Redundant, delete. I am not into astrology but for those who are interested I am a Gemini-Taurus Cusp. I guess that makes me a split personality full of bull. If you are looking for Schwartzenager, that I am not, besides, I have no interest in being California Governor. "Schwarzenegger"? Sometimes I can be outgoing and sometimes rather quiet, but people say that I am an honest and a caring individual to a fault. "People say"? Or you are? Write positively! Don't be wishy-washy! I am not sure exactly what I am looking for here because work and am taking School. So, then, why should women respond to you? You can come up with a description of what you're looking for. Try to avoid the cliches, but be descriptive. Think of your "ideal woman", and try to write a description that she'll recognize herself in. And do not talk about how busy you are and how little time you have... why would anyone want to contemplate a relationship with someone who's "always too busy"? My interests include politcs(I am a lefty) Optics, I have a curiosity in many scientific fields. I enjoy a pint at the pub, trivia games, playing with my dog Tribble. My favourite commedian is Stephen Colbert. An imporant cause to me is Amnesty International, although I have not been active. "comedian" and "important". Check your spelling. Oh, and "optics" isn't capitalized. It looks weird when you write "Optics". You have some good "bones" to build on! Try to add a few more things, and get some more stuff in your interests field. Then, you really need to write another paragraph about who you're looking for.

johninsd

Joined: 3/2/2009

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New user - profile feedback Posted: 7/6/2009 8:35:28 PM
Delete the second pic. Your main picture is really good, though! I may not have the perfect body, the perfect house, or the perfect job...but when I find the woman of a lifetime I can guarantee forever happiness and love. Eh... delete. The first half is negative,a nd the second... no, you cannot "guarantee forever happiness and love". Nobody can. Ideal match...I am looking for someone to eventually spend my life with. Someone to love unconditionally. Someone to come home to. That stuff is too generic. Nothing there grabs attention, and makes a woman say, "Hey, that's me!" Some of the content of my "who I'm looking for" paragraph really isn't any better, but I built that paragraph up to try to tie it all in and to show a little more of my personality, so at least I come across as slightly better than presenting a checklist! :)

johninsd

Joined: 3/2/2009

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Ready to fishing rod in for good!!!! PLEASE HELP! Posted: 7/6/2009 8:26:48 PM
Your profile doesn't really tell us anything about you. You've basically written one sentence about you and one about who you're looking for, both of which are full of bland cliches. Everyone is "honest, loyal, loving". We all want someone with a great sense of humor. Nobody wants "games". You need details. You need to sell yourself. And you need for your match to be able to see himself in your description of him. You should also get a better picture for your main pic. Honestly, the way it was scrunched down as the profile avatar, I could not immediately tell if you were male or female. That main pic is the first and, often, only chance you get. You want your smiling face filling the frame, so everyone who sees you in a search result immediately knows what you look like!

johninsd

Joined: 3/2/2009

Msg: 9 (view)

is my profile lacking? Posted: 7/6/2009 8:20:07 PM
Delete the broken picture. You could try re-uploading it... maybe a tiny bit got flipped during the upload? But if it doesn't work, deep-six it. You really need a good, clear head shot with you smiling as your main pic. That's the one thing that a lot of people are going to see in search results, or in the first glance at your profile.

johninsd

Joined: 3/2/2009

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Suggestions concerning my profile? Posted: 7/6/2009 8:15:50 PM
"Celibate"... "dating"... I know what each of those words means, but put them together, and you've lost me...

johninsd

Joined: 3/2/2009

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profile review please Posted: 7/6/2009 8:14:00 PM
First, a 20% response rate isn't bad at all! You really need to write more in your profile. All we know about you is, you like sports and music and you're in school. Congratulations... that describes 100,000 other people in your area! You should come up with a good paragraph about yourself, and then another describing who you're looking for. Read the profile writing tips thread at the top of the Profile Review forum for some pointers. Basically, look at what you've written and ask yourself... "If this turned up in a search, would I be interested in finding out more?"

johninsd

Joined: 3/2/2009

Msg: 33 (view)

Why aren't guys responding to my profile? Posted: 7/6/2009 8:09:22 PM
I'll second Hellgremlin. If your dogs are important to you, keep them up there. It'll attract dog lovers and filter out dog haters. If anyone doesn't want to be around my dog, I'd just as soon never hear from them.

johninsd

Joined: 3/2/2009

Msg: 7 (view)

So why do you think nobody responds to my profile/emails Posted: 7/6/2009 8:03:52 PM
As far as the smoking, unfortunately they didn't have an option for smokes when drinking... Should I just say I don't? No! Do not lie! When I quit smoking, I quit drinking for a good six months. If you smoke at all, you're a smoker. Be honest, accept the consequences. If you want to not be a smoker... quit. Heck, you could put in your profile, "I'm a reformed smoker, I would really like to find someone else who has quit so we can support each other". That would be a good "hook".

johninsd

Joined: 3/2/2009

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I have not received one email in 3 months, Please help Posted: 7/6/2009 8:01:03 PM
Your current main pic is just fine. And I have to imagine you've recently edited your profile, as, right now, it is definitely not "too long". I think what you've got is good! Now, what you really need to do is use the search feature, especially Advanced Search, to look for what you're looking for. Read through all of the profiles you turn up, pick the ones that sound like they're looking for you, and write them telling them why you're someone they need to meet! I really believe that they key to success here isn't to spam out tons of contacts... you want to find those profiles that seem like a really good match, both ways, and focus on them. Good luck!

johninsd

Joined: 3/2/2009

Msg: 5 (view)

My turn for a review! Posted: 7/6/2009 7:55:44 PM
Well my second picture is just a head shot. I felt the current picture is the better one. Thanks for replying! You really want a head shot for your main pic. In search results, the images are scrunched down. A head shot is still recognizable and shows what you look like. Anything more, doesn't. There are a lot of guys on here, and that might be the one chance for a woman who would really dig you to see you. You can leave the current pic, no problem. People will click through and look at it. But a good hea shot is going to do nothing but good things for you. Trust us

johninsd

Joined: 3/2/2009

Msg: 19 (view)

What are your messaging ratio's? Posted: 7/6/2009 6:07:55 PM
Let's see... I've sent 12, received four responses (not counting one polite thanks but no thanks), one disappeared pretty quickly. Of the three left, one is promising, two are borderline. I get an incredible 33% here! I've received 10 (one doesn't show up in my contact history, which is weird, and we've been emailing back and forth all day) One of those was just general chit-chat abut a forum post. I think that the profile review forum, even (maybe even especially) the suggestions that I really resisted, helped out immensely!

johninsd

Joined: 3/2/2009

Msg: 18 (view)

First contact - short or long? Posted: 7/6/2009 9:06:26 AM
hi im joe how r u? how was yur weekend? i think u r beautiful LorreliLee - Haha, I have to say, I'm extremely thankful for all the guys who write like that! They tend to sop up the dingbats and leave the smarter ones for me! Thanks for your kind comments!

johninsd

Joined: 3/2/2009

Msg: 17 (view)

First contact - short or long? Posted: 7/6/2009 9:04:07 AM
I am sorry you took offense to my opinion No no no... please don't misunderstand me. I did not "take offense"... I was asking very real, very honest questions. Not rhetorical at all! Now the other thing I would say to you that to me is a defeatist attitude is your remark in your opening post about not being the best looking guy in the world Not "defeatist" :-) Believe me, I do not go moping around because I wasn't at the head of the line when the Lord was handing out looks I just like to poke a bit of fun at myself. I mean, heck... if I can't take it when I dish it out, I'm going to be in a lot of trouble in the real world! :-D I try my best to compensate by trying to be as funny and interesting as I can be. Just to set your mind at ease, I got one unsolicited email from a very attractive woman and two responses to emails I'd sent out earlier within an hour or so last night. I'm not feeling particularly down on myself right now! :-D Thanks for providing your input. I do appreciate it. Same goes for everyone in this thread. It seems to confirm that my basic recipe is fine, and that I just need to remain cognizant of adding the right dash of spice to each dish I serve up!

johninsd

Joined: 3/2/2009

Msg: 11 (view)

First contact - short or long? Posted: 7/5/2009 8:41:36 PM
I also see please look at my profile and if you like contact me as well sorry lazy no effort. And how would you respond to someone who countered that with, "A good 95% of the emails I send out are never responded to, even with a 'Thanks, but no thanks'?" What advice would you have for the average guy on PoF who knows that the overwhelmingly vast majority of his emails are going to quietly sink into a black hole? I'm not telling you that you're wrong. I assume that your system works for you. And if longer emails raised the response rate, heck, I'd get down to typing! But, basically, what you seem to be saying is that I (or guys, in general) should expend a lot more effort with no perceptible increase in reward. Do you feel that someone who asks you to look at their profile is attempting to "turn the tables"? All I'm hoping to get out of that is any response that indicates that my attentions are not completely unwanted. If you were to respond with, "You may proceed", I would!

johninsd

Joined: 3/2/2009

Msg: 7 (view)

married ex wont leave me alone Posted: 7/5/2009 8:32:29 PM
raisealittlesand09 has it right. Change your phone number. When you pass it out, tell people that, under no circumstances should they give it to the ex, or the next time you have to change it, they won't get it. Block him on AIM. You might be able to block his number(s) from yours. NC=No Contact. Don't be mean, be final. This. Send one final email... "We are over, it is inappropriate for you to continue to contact me, if you attempt to do so again I'll tell your wife and get a restraining order." And then never respond to him again. Delete and block IMs and emails. If he calls, hang up without saying a word. If he calls again, change your number if you can't block his, or if he keeps calling from new numbers. And if he does that, report it to the police, get an RO.

johninsd

Joined: 3/2/2009

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profile review and advice please! Posted: 7/5/2009 8:27:41 PM
Pic #4 suggests that the rest of the pics were from a few years and many pounds ago. If it's stretched out... delete it. If not... you aren't doing yourself any favors by putting up pics that do not accurately depict you or by fudging the "Body Type" field. Self-taken cell phone camera pics just don't sell well. You really need to get someone to take a clear, properly-framed head shot with you smiling and looking happy.

johninsd

Joined: 3/2/2009

Msg: 5 (view)

HEY CHECK ME OUT!!!! Posted: 7/5/2009 8:07:52 PM
I agree with SOFHR. Pic #4 would make a better main pic until you can get the straightforward head shot.

johninsd

Joined: 3/2/2009

Msg: 7 (view)

Why is this not working for me? Posted: 7/5/2009 8:05:25 PM
Just because someone has a child, doesn't make them baggage To most guys, "baggage" and "drama" are pretty much synonymous, but neither are, in and of themselves, kids. Kids can be considered baggage in extreme cases, or by the greatest of louts. But, generally, if you're talking about kids and a guy says baggage, it has more to do with the ex sniffing around, interactions between you and the ex, drama with the exes family, etc. Basically, an inability (or unwillingness) for a woman to make a clean break from the past. but it's an easier situation to explain in person when needed. I did delete that part out for now. That's probably for the best. If you meet the "right" guy, the explanation will be no problem. But pouring out too much detail up front can wind up filtering you out more than you might think. A lot of guys can accept pre-existing kids. Not many will have much interest in competing with an ex who always seems to be around.

johninsd

Joined: 3/2/2009

Msg: 8 (view)

First contact - short or long? Posted: 7/5/2009 7:45:18 PM
That sounds good enough to generate a conversation. But seriously if this chick is in your area code, meet with her face to face in person as soon as possible. Don't keep it on email. That's pretty much how I play it. First real contact face to face should be during the week day at a lunch hour. If you don't like each other, then one hour gives you a great excuse to get the hell away. My lunch time during the week is for eating. I prefer to meet people on the weekend, or maybe after work, for a drink or coffee. But only leave the weekend days and nights for the women you absolutely know you will have sex with. If only I had such scheduling conflicts... If there was someone I absolutely knew I was going to have sex with, i wouldn't be here

johninsd

Joined: 3/2/2009

Msg: 2 (view)

I think the forum speaks for itself Posted: 7/5/2009 5:06:16 PM
Your main pic looks more like a mug shot than a reflection of your best side. between work, school and dancing I don't have much time for other activities. So... why are you here? You may want to re-word that.

johninsd

Joined: 3/2/2009

Msg: 7 (view)

A Profile Review Would be Appreciated Posted: 7/5/2009 4:37:52 PM
First and foremost: I'm a book nut, a gamer, anime/ manga enthusiast and quite the connoisseur of of them all. Emphasizing gaming and anime is going to be a big turn-off to a lot of women. That sentence leaves one with a mental image of a dork holed up in a dark basement 24/7, playing video games, watching strange Japanese TV shows, reading comic books... there is nothing in that image that is remotely appealing to most women. IIWY I'd mention that stuff once, in passing, as an interest. You want to emphasize interests that are going to be things that women appreciate. Honestly, I'm not seeing anything that would qualify. Do a search for women in your age range, but leave the area wide open so you get a lot of responses. Start reading through profiles, not to see if "this is the one", but to see what they're posting that they're looking for. Look for stuff like that that you have any interest in or exposure to. I'm not saying to try to create a clone of "what women want", but round yourself out. Check out meetup.com to find some new activities.

johninsd

Joined: 3/2/2009

Msg: 19 (view)

When should we talk money? Posted: 7/5/2009 4:21:53 PM
Ryan, go read under MSN Money.."Get real: Marriage is a business" . Credit rating and personal economics is actually very important when choosing a mate for more than just dating short term. If it gets to the point where you're considering marriage, if thats what you want to do, you have to be aware of how the other person is going to affect YOUR credit rating. This IS very important. Yup... but credit rating / "money sense" does not equal "making a lot of money". It is very important to me to find out how a person views money, saving, investment, etc. The size of their paycheck, not so much.

johninsd

Joined: 3/2/2009

Msg: 269 (view)

why do alot of the guys at this site have a problem with dogs? Posted: 7/5/2009 4:19:18 PM
I tend to pass by women who don't have dogs in their profile! I do not trust someone who doesn't like dogs.

johninsd

Joined: 3/2/2009

Msg: 18 (view)

Is this site just a pointless one? Posted: 7/5/2009 4:12:20 PM
Try being a giant, giant jackass. It's working surprisingly well for me. Women will just email you to express anger about some annoying post you made, next thing you know you've got a conversation going. Last one blocked me, but she was probably fat, so who cares. I am intrigued by your philosophy, and would like to subscribe to your newsletter!

johninsd

Joined: 3/2/2009

Msg: 17 (view)

Is this site just a pointless one? Posted: 7/5/2009 4:11:33 PM
mostwanted - This isn't the pity party forum. If "your feelings are being torn about" because nobody is responding to your emails on an Internet forum, you're a little too delicate to be playing this game. Seriously - do yourself and everyone else a favor, and pack it in. Everyone has to deal with most of their emails being "rejected", except possibly some of the best looking women wearing skimpy outfits, and they're all complaining that all they get are crude messages asking for sex. If you can't sack up, deal with it, and move on... spare yourself any further hurt.

johninsd

Joined: 3/2/2009

Msg: 2 (view)

Profile Review... Posted: 7/5/2009 4:05:41 PM
Your main pic is a bunch of dudes holding up booze. Ask yourself - How attractive is that to most women? Main pic = clear headshot of just you, smiling, no hats or sunglasses. Next, your profile is a long list. A list encourages people to go through, checking items off. If they feel like they aren't checking enough... they leave. And lots don't want to bother comparing themselves to your shopping list. Work on writing a couple of paragraphs. One that briefly describes you, what you like, etc. And another that talks about what you're looking for. Always use positive terms ("I like X", not, "I don't like Y").

johninsd

Joined: 3/2/2009

Msg: 6 (view)

First contact - short or long? Posted: 7/5/2009 3:47:30 PM
Just remember to ask her some questions to keep the ball rolling. Excellent point, thank you!

johninsd

Joined: 3/2/2009

Msg: 9 (view)

Review request... Posted: 7/5/2009 3:46:07 PM
1) Remove your employers name. It serves no upside, and could result in someone you aren't interested in following you a bit too closely. 2) "I have the aspiration to go back to college and begin working on a degree in pharmacy working up to a doctorate of pharmacy,I have the aspiration to go back to college and begin working on a degree in pharmacy working up to a doctorate of pharmacy" - you can remove one :-) 3) "I drive a gold Chevy Cobalt which I am working on paying off right now, once it is paid off I will start working on it to make it a street mod" - TMI, nobody cares what kind or color of car you drive, and women aren't going to be too impressed with "street mods". And if they were, they'd laugh at you for wanting to mod a Cobalt. 4) "I'm going to admit that i have a bit of a gut" - I'd remove that. Negativity. You could say something like, "I am working hard at getting into better shape!" 5) "walk around outside while smoking a cigarette" - Quit. Huge turn-off. If you have no intention of quitting, then it's good to leave it in so all of the non-smoking girls know to just move along. 6) "If you use all caps and improper English" - Again... if your English isn't perfect, or close to it, remove the "improper English" part. Pot calling the kettle black. 7) "I also like to see a picture with a real smile on it" - You don't do this yourself! Another guaranteed deal-killer. 8) "and it gets kind of lonely as sad as that may sound and I'd like to have someone there to be able to talk to whenever I get lonely/tired at work" - Negativity, self-pitying. Best woman repellent known to Mankind. Say something like, "I'd love to look forward to coming home to see you!" Same thing, just worded more positively.

johninsd

Joined: 3/2/2009

Msg: 4 (view)

Update now DO ME DO ME DO ME Posted: 7/5/2009 2:42:54 PM
You still aren't smiling! Get a friend to take a pic, a clear head shot where you show some teeth! That's what women want to see! Your profile is... bizarre. Lose the UFC stats. No women care. You say you dropped out of high school... glaring red flag. You named your rifle Candice... now they're running in terror. I'm sure that other military folks will get that, but just mentioning a firearm in a singles profile is going to be a kiss of death. You really ought to dump the whole thing. Start over with a paragraph that describes you. Talk about who you are, what are your goals, what do you do for fun, etc. Then write another about what you're looking for.

johninsd

Joined: 3/2/2009

Msg: 4 (view)

intrigued to find out what everyone thinks? Posted: 7/5/2009 2:36:09 PM
Get a main pic that clearly shows your smiling face and nothing else. It's unnecessarily confusing to have a main pic with more than one person in it.

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