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giroditalia

Joined: 3/3/2009

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Why is PoF making their site LESS user friendly???? Posted: 9/13/2009 7:01:26 PM
The only disappointing one was the IMEEM yet there was a solid reason for dioing it. What was the "solid reason" for removing IMEEM? (Anyone know?)

giroditalia

Joined: 3/3/2009

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The three things that a man wants in a mate... Posted: 7/28/2009 8:10:07 PM
Eyes that say love when they look at you Lips that that speak words which are true A heart that pounds quicker when you hold her close to you ... Bingo.

giroditalia

Joined: 3/3/2009

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Astrology Posted: 7/28/2009 7:09:02 PM
I don't recall the name of the study but a room frull of college students is given what they think is an accurate description of them based not just on the sign but birth place, time and all the other mumbo jubbo. The all read the assessments and were asked to rate the accuracy , they all rated it exceptionally high. They were then asked to trade assessments with the person next to them, every assessment was identical. With all due respect to the poster, what she has described is not a "study". It's a "con". An accurate study would have had to actually take into account the raw data gleaned from the star charts generated by each of the participant subject's individual dates and times of birth. The amount of data coming from just one star chart is overwhelming, and variable, as anyone familiar with the actual process can attest. This complex database would then have to be scientifically, and with controls, cross-referenced to another complex database containing the individual results of some other comparative source of personality assessment, such as Myers-Briggs, et al. Additionally, the accuracy of this comparative analysis would increase in direct proportion to the actual number of participants available. Twenty-five students or 400 students measuring anything is in most cases statistically meaningless. The numbers would need to be much higher, probably in the thousands or tens of thousands. What the original study did was measure the psychological "gullibility" factor of some college age students. It did nothing to measure the accuracy of the star chart data itself.

giroditalia

Joined: 3/3/2009

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What do you make of this? Posted: 7/16/2009 10:10:30 AM
^This could be it. Seriously it would explain the behavior perfectly and it's not an uncommon........condition. Sorry had to run to the bathroom for a second while posting this- you know, the germs are EVERYWHERE So. How'd the soap taste, IDOC?

giroditalia

Joined: 3/3/2009

Msg: 65 (view)

What do you make of this? Posted: 7/16/2009 10:04:36 AM
This is what I think it went down. He was running out of coke. He got a line from his friend, but then he HAD to get more. He texted some contact, and then had to go get it. You were inconsequential in his brain until he had that situation under control. You're entirely too conversant with the subject matter. And from your posts on other threads, I can tell you're just not undercover LEO material.

giroditalia

Joined: 3/3/2009

Msg: 64 (view)

What do you make of this? Posted: 7/16/2009 10:01:30 AM
You're entirely too conversant with the subject matter. And from your posts on other threads, I can tell you're just not undercover LEO material.

giroditalia

Joined: 3/3/2009

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What do you make of this? Posted: 7/16/2009 9:58:47 AM
You go out with a lot of ticket taker/ushers? did he at least offer to sneak you in to a show? Maybe you oughtta upgrade to dogcatchers? hahahahaha I can't stop laughing!

giroditalia

Joined: 3/3/2009

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Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles? Posted: 7/15/2009 6:20:16 PM
Only up to the first Emoticon. Then it's over. Or, when she writes "Friends first and we will see what develops from there." The woman doesn't even know you yet, and she's already taken control of you in the relationship. And stolen all of your power and authority. Forget that.

giroditalia

Joined: 3/3/2009

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Are women who don't need men likely to ever find one and be happy? Posted: 7/10/2009 7:55:14 PM
Zephyr2553 He will respect her enough to NOT listen to the little head in his shorts. And this piece of sick demeaning hateful rhetoric is brought to you by the plethora of wonderful American women out there. Yeah. Oh, and we men really can't wait to meet you and your cute pair of scissors, sister.

giroditalia

Joined: 3/3/2009

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What lessons have you learned from online dating? Posted: 7/9/2009 10:35:41 PM
How dare you come on this forum and state publicly that you have read my profile (why mine, to the exclusion of everyone else's?) and that it is "indicative of a dude who is an ass"? Just who in hell do you think you are, calling me an "ass"? How does your mind wrap itself around a public attack upon a man fourteen years your senior who, prior to your public attack upon him, had done nothing to injure you in any way? Further, you have the effrontery to offer additional moral support to another female poster on this thread who has also taken it upon herself to gratuitously tear my posting apart, target my profile, and even myself, for an unsolicited and vicarious hatefest? These attacks on my posting, my profile and my person are gratuitous, uncalled for, and completely beyond the scope of the question posed by the thread. Nothing anywhere gives you grounds to question, or second-guess, what my online dating experiences have been, to the exclusion of everyone else's. Yours is bigoted, targeted, hateful speech, directed by the two of you against one specific individual. I will not speculate as to the genesis of your bigotry. Yet I notice none of the other contributors are troubled by these attacks, least of all the OP who has not been heard from or seen. You had better start reining it in and exercising some restraint. For unless a public apology is forthcoming, you are likely to find yourselves as defendants in a libel and slander proceeding. There is a record here. I am advising you both to desist in these public attacks. If you think two minds or even twenty minds represent a majority opinion on POF just because they play the same sado-masochistic games and agree with one another on who the victim shall be, you are both in for a very rude awakening.

giroditalia

Joined: 3/3/2009

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What lessons have you learned from online dating? Posted: 7/9/2009 10:34:23 AM
Gwendolyn2009 Appears on 215 members favorites lists and has 2 roses that can be sent. Now that's downright scary.

giroditalia

Joined: 3/3/2009

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What lessons have you learned from online dating? Posted: 7/8/2009 9:03:26 PM
idoc steve Sorry to hear of your loss. Still think there's too many fish in this sea. And they're predominantly males. Women are having a field day. Wonder if the state of dating in America is a Russian psy-ops program designed to demoralize American males. They've done stuff like this before. Like the whole hippie movement of the sixties, which was conclusively proven to have been conceived by the politburo and implemented by the KGB.

giroditalia

Joined: 3/3/2009

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What lessons have you learned from online dating? Posted: 7/8/2009 8:10:51 PM
Would just like to know where all of the male competition on these sites is coming from. And why there are so many more males per female than vice versa? I am out of a 24-year marriage, age 60, very athletic, in excellent condition, have been on the site since March, and my target age is 48 to 58. I am not looking for 35- year- old knock-outs. Regardless, it seems all of the decent looking women in the above age range have scads of men to choose from. I know some of them have numerous avenues they use to find men besides the online dating sites, such as dancing. Lately my emails with women have been coming to screeching halts, the women actually disappear on me. I just had two proposed meets this week rebuffed with vague excuses given regarding plans to travel. Another woman took offense at a joke I made and will not talk with me any longer, instead of just giving me a chance to explain the circumstances or the intent. Seems going for table stakes immediately is the name of the game now. There just seems to be tremendous intolerance for a man making the slightest error, and I think that's because there's a line of men behind me waiting their turn. It wouldn't be so if the ratios were reversed. All the time I have spent communicating with these women plus the ones who just drop off the face of the earth after we've been communicating for awhile, has gone down the drain. Obviously the women had what they thought were better offers from other guys. But who are all these men targeting all of the older woman, and what do the older women think they are getting from these guys, that they have decided they can't get, or don't want, from me? After four months of rounds of emails, and meeting after meeting with literally dozens of women, I am still without anyone who is interested in getting to know me, or interested in trying to be an "us". By the way, most of my meets have been with women over 50. I have not seen anyone younger. Just had no idea meeting a compatible woman in an older age range was going to be such a harrowing and unproductive experience. That's my take for what it's worth.

giroditalia

Joined: 3/3/2009

Msg: 267 (view)

why do alot of the guys at this site have a problem with dogs? Posted: 7/5/2009 10:55:23 AM
Just latching on to the last poster. When I read the title of this thread, I thought the OP meant, you know, guys who have trouble with women who look.... "a certain way". Then when I started reading the actual post, I realized the subject was the four-footed variety. I own a female Bichon Frise who is absolutely gorgeous and has the personality to match, though she is very high maintenance. Guess the two do go together lady or dog. No one can keep their hands off of her for long, she seduces everybody with her looks and her charm. And she is one of the few breeds that are essentially odor-free. Unless she gets too inquisitive on one of her explorations. Yes, dogs can be much more attractive than people. Still, maybe not a bad idea (the female two-footed variety) for the subject of a future thread by an OP who is feeling unreasonably invincible. Maybe work in the angle about how sometimes you can have amazing zex with a woman or a man whose looks would lead you to believe "no---never!!!" Life can be a kick in the butt when it shatters our most preciously held misconceptions about people.

giroditalia

Joined: 3/3/2009

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What are women really looking for? Posted: 7/3/2009 11:22:25 AM
SamtheMan08 Know the feeling well. Just don't get despondent or give up. You have plenty of years ahead of you. Try Googling some of David DeAngelo's dating guides for men. You may be coming off as too much of a "nice guy", which is a real turnoff for women, though they would never admit this in mixed company, only amongst themselves. If you're already able to find women to date you may just need to sharpen your game. David's theory is sound: you don't find a long termer by looking for her in the beginning. You start dating for the short term with the goal of having sex as quickly as possible with the largest number of women. You get there by triggering their "attraction" mode. There is a technique for this. It's from those women who want to sleep with you and can't help feeling that way about you because you did and said the right things, that you will choose who may be long term material. Women always SAY they want to play the long term game, but want TIME to get to know you first. That road goes either to Friendsville or to Providersville very quickly. You don't want to be a provider or a friend, because women control these types of men, and will always withhold sex if they think you fit in either category. Bottom line is there's always some guy they want against all logic, between their legs. You need to be that guy. Get David's stuff. It works. And stop listening to the women posters here on the forums. They are either sarcastic or just plain flat out liars, and are sadistically enjoying your frustration. They have no interest in you succeeding in finding a mate. None at all. A woman cannot tell a man how to get a woman. She'd have to be a man to do that.

giroditalia

Joined: 3/3/2009

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On line Dating makes me sick Posted: 7/3/2009 7:49:15 AM
Public Service Announcement: The OP removed her profile from POF two days ago. She's gone.

giroditalia

Joined: 3/3/2009

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Not sure she was that into me Posted: 7/3/2009 7:29:41 AM
ScrewsForCorn (???????) I don't usually side with what a woman says (just as a basic operating principle) but in this instance, I have to agree with you. You hit the nail right on the head. And hey, what's with your screen name? Just curious.

giroditalia

Joined: 3/3/2009

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I think I have the friends thing figured out. Posted: 7/2/2009 10:21:47 PM
womaninprogress Okay. Here we go. The beautiful woman also has to prove she has a brain as well. Haven't you read the statistic that 5% of the men get 60% of the women? Do you think that is just fate? Or luck? Or random? It's not any of that crap. It's skill. On the part of the man. He knows how to trigger a woman's responses to him and cause that thing in her called "attraction". It's the "jerk" factor, the "body language" factor, and the "cocky comedy" factor. All of these ideations are designed to flick the hard wired switches all women have in this area. And they do the job. The woman is turned on by the jerk who dresses properly, sends the right body messages, is arrogant to her appropriately, and has a wicked sense of humor. And off they go. As a guy, you either have the ability to do this naturally, or you invest time and energy and money into acquiring the skill, or you sleep alone for the rest of your life. As to how happy a man is in his life being somehow a function of a woman's internal sense of fair play or deservedness, well one dollar and that concept will buy you a cup of lukewarm coffee out of a vending machine in a Greyhound bus depot somewhere.

giroditalia

Joined: 3/3/2009

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I think I have the friends thing figured out. Posted: 7/2/2009 8:23:40 PM
^^^^^^^ Only half correct. Yes that's right, it's not her fault she's not feeling it. It is the man's fault. He's doing something wrong.

giroditalia

Joined: 3/3/2009

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I think I have the friends thing figured out. Posted: 7/2/2009 6:26:36 PM
Try this one: Set up a meet with a "hottie". She has to be a "hottie". Five minutes into it start talking to her about how great it would be if she became "friends" with you. And about all the fine women you've had sex with lately. In detail. Tell her it's okay to talk about these things with her because you're going to be "friends". And you need a woman's advice on love matters. Also maybe she has some female friends of her own she can introduce you to? Watch her reaction. A little bit of the shoe on the other foot. Since she will be so damned convinced you want her body, and she knows you know she can sleep with any man she wants at a moment's notice, this can really screw her brains up. Unfortunately this is hard to pull off with a straight face. But if she hasn't already clawed your eyes out with her nails, the jealousy may just be strong enough to get the right things to start to happen.

giroditalia

Joined: 3/3/2009

Msg: 277 (view)

Does a man with a complicated personality threaten a woman's ego? Posted: 6/30/2009 8:21:08 PM
motown-cowgirl No. You're the one who's no different than any other mediocre Jane Blow out there who just can't get it together. You see, your stunted judgment of a man's "ultimate" worth is "can he make it with the chicks"? If he can't, then in your closed universe, he's a loser. Trash him. Kick him. Destroy him. He's a big threat. Talk about ego! This is the same theme that repeats and repeats in practically every angered posting by a woman on this thread, that ultimately a man's worth to anyone or to the world is based solely upon his success or failure to relate to a woman. It's in the literature as well. Lots of brilliant males and their contributions to western civilization have recently been brought low by "revisionist" historians proving that these men were somehow "dysfunctional" in their personal lives, especially with regards to "women" who are now the ultimate definers of value and worth. I've lost count of the number of females on this thread who presume authority to declare me mentally ill. I now see where this particular conceit stems from. Isn't that what you have all been screaming at me for the past 288 posts? Excellence in any area of endeavor by a man is tantamount to treason and is worthless, if he does not also have the imprimatur of a woman? If he doesn't have the ability to keep a woman at his side then he's dysfunctional and probably mentally ill? So a man only gains societal legitimacy by virtue of having a successful relationship with a woman. Until that happens, he is considered a "boy" or worse, ain't that right? Ultimately, then, it is woman who defines man. So--the men who refuse to have their entire existence defined solely by their relationship with a woman , and insist instead upon being defined by what they accomplish ON THEIR OWN, boy do those guys really piss you off! [Hey Robert, thanks for switching sides. I just knew you had it in you. What a convert!]

giroditalia

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Does a man with a complicated personality threaten a woman's ego? Posted: 6/27/2009 7:27:20 AM
apainlessend Hold on a sec--I don't understand you. We're both guys. My original post basically states I am not scoring. Period. Can you empathize with that condition? If so, I haven't herad any empathy from you at all. Are you one of those guys who's never had a problem finding a woman for his needs? Do they all come to you? Do you hear what I'm asking? You have an inquiring intelligence but I'm not sure why you decided you needed to array it against me. Seems we have more in common than not. However maybe I've already answered that question myself in the following paragraph. If not, I'd appreciate a reasoned response. __________________________________ Funny thing about the posters who have nothing but hate to spew at me, none have any obvious or stated talent. Except maybe some of the women are fairly good looking. Your profiles appear vacuous, and it is becoming clear to me at this point that what POF has become is a polarized political entity, with 95% of the posters easily identified as left wing bigots. The hatred, including the political ploy of accusing an opponent's positions or beliefs as being grounded in mental illness, is classic agit-prop, too visceral to have been ignited by any issue other than my plainly stated (on the profile) conservative philosophies. Hate to break it to you, but you all have been running around here quite rhetorically naked. You need to put some epistemological clothing on those dirty little bodies. Or else take a Chomskian shower, preferably all together. That should be interesting to see, as it 's a type of communalism your side typically applauds. By the way, it has not escaped my attention that there is a decided "wuss" factor on this thread. There are practically no men (except for two that I recall) who have dared to oppose any of the rants put up by the "women" . All you read from the men are acquiescences and praise for the bile the females have spewed. What a bunch of girly-men you are!

giroditalia

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Does a man with a complicated personality threaten a woman's ego? Posted: 6/24/2009 9:23:09 PM
motownmaniax I just knew someone on here was not going to be able to resist a comment. It's fine. Actually, my money is on a hostile response. Desert accused me of putting up barriers so I could reject before the woman did. All based on my terrible "mommy" insecurities as desert perceives them. So for her to be receptive to my overture on this level would mean Desert admitting her original hypothesis was in error. Desert sounds like a woman who has retreated to her head so she's not about to give up that redoubt easily, if at all.

giroditalia

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Does a man with a complicated personality threaten a woman's ego? Posted: 6/24/2009 9:07:55 PM
miska1 Pray tell, What is all about me? Did you read my original post? The question I originally asked was never intended to be about me. It was intended as an inquiry into other people's experiences with the issue of perceived disparities in intelligence between men and women and how that affects the dating ritual. In the detail, I provided some examples from my own experience, as I am only one person. But the thread quickly got hijacked by a number of misanthropes. They managed to turn the entire original post and all subsequent responses into an exclusive referendum on the value and ultimate worth of--if you can believe such pomposity--me, the original poster.

giroditalia

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Does a man with a complicated personality threaten a woman's ego? Posted: 6/24/2009 8:47:38 PM
desert wildflower So you're a seven- foot tall woman living in Moose Pass, Alaska? Whose profile does not include a photo? I'm curious as to what you look like. If I send you my personal email address will you forward a photo? You are intelligent and have a quick mind. And even though you may have arrayed your weaponry against me here, those are qualities I still find admirable in a woman. Talk to you later?

giroditalia

Joined: 3/3/2009

Msg: 238 (view)

Does a man with a complicated personality threaten a woman's ego? Posted: 6/24/2009 7:39:56 PM
desert wildflower You write really well. And you have an active imagination. That's nice. But it's not enough. I think you're out of your depth on this thread. Let me know when a thread opens that has as its sole or evolved purpose the investigation of your own personality. I'll be there to add my two cents. Until then, please tell me who is the "we" you think you represent on this thread? Whenever you talk at me as though you represent other voices, I reserve the right to tune you out. That's just too much arrogance coming from someone like you. You aren't anyone's delegate. No one elected you to any position of spokesperson. Speak for yourself or don't speak at all.

giroditalia

Joined: 3/3/2009

Msg: 237 (view)

Does a man with a complicated personality threaten a woman's ego? Posted: 6/24/2009 7:26:01 PM
Hey easy2like-- 1. Put the bong down for a minute. There aren't any "ramblings" on my profile. 2. You have an inordinate faith in your own omnipotence. Somewhere in the clinical literature there is a name for that particular delusional state --it escapes me at present. But I'm sure the nearest lockdown facility has a warden who would know immediately what I was referring to, and might even recognize you by name or social security number as one of the chosen few. 3. Just to clue you in on a few things you brought up in your last posting: (a) You don't get to decide who is mentally ill, and who isn't. (b) You don't have a say as to who qualifies for gun ownership and who does not. (c) You don't get to decide anything about attempts, cleverly disguised as "gun control", to disarm the law-abiding American citizen. (e) And, you most certainly haven't the societal or professional standing to direct, command, or otherwise order me or anyone else on this thread to take a course of action you deem necessary . Get it?

giroditalia

Joined: 3/3/2009

Msg: 227 (view)

Does a man with a complicated personality threaten a woman's ego? Posted: 6/24/2009 3:24:53 PM
Lil Brooker First of all, your failure to correctly attribute what was said by whom nails you as a careless commentator. If you go back in the posts you will see that the idea that the OP is "mentally ill" was first floated by posters who are so threatened by I don't know what, that they just couldn't resist hitting me below the belt. Sorry to disappoint you, but I was not the one who originated the accusation that I was mentally ill. You have got to be kidding, you really thought I was the one who originally floated this red herring? What you dear lady have done is politely called "misattribution". Look it up. Constantly having to correct neophyte posters like yourself is a pain in the derriere and does nothing to move the discussion forward. It slows everyone down. And then, we have to pay attention to you! Hmmmmm. Plus it gets really tiring. Do you always expect someone else to clean up after you've made a mess of things, Lil Brooker? In the future, make sure what you post is accurate. If it isn't, or you're not sure, or you're too lazy to find out, then don't post it! And second of all, you really need to dump the psychobabble. Seriously. You're either a wannabe practicing medicine without a license, or some clinical scrub who thinks she's a psych wing of a regional hospital completely unto herself. Talk about a heightened sense of self importance! Has anyone else noted how these healthcare scrubs run around yakking about "their patients" as if they were fully licensed medical doctors? Spouting diagnoses and medical terminology to impress those around them? And let's not forget all the drug knowledge and accessibility as well. I think the whole damned healthcare field is a magnet for bipolar disordered personalities. So I am thankful I am never ill. And , at 60, am twice as physically fit as most people half my age.

giroditalia

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Msg: 210 (view)

Does a man with a complicated personality threaten a woman's ego? Posted: 6/23/2009 8:05:14 PM
Hey easy2like (very original name I might add)-- Gratuitous vulgarity and defacing an OP's screen name are the province of a true Renaissance Man? Did your parents teach you that one? Or are you just playing to the vulgarian portion of the crowd and hoping to get some crib time out of it? One other suggestion to those who believe I do not have the right to defend myself in any manner I see fit, when personally attacked on this thread. Or that said defense appears to you to be "without sense": Why not start your own thread? Then I will come and visit and savage you personally for the contents of your original post. I will not act like a guest in your house. Instead, I will act like a boorish, hostile intruder. I will, like the paranoiac that I am, take it on faith that everything you wrote was intended to insult me personally. I will use profanity. I will use sarcasm. I will litter the posts with smilies. I will accuse you of having a mental illness or needing medication. I will lash out with vulgarity and disrespect. And then I will draw sustenance and credibility from the fact that 256 "Stepford Wives" (and one or two "Stepford Husbands") on this thread will agree with everything I've said about you. Bet that'll just make your day. But I don't think you've got the guts to handle that kind of fire. That's why good leaders are in such short supply. It's lonely at the top. And face it kids, for the past week I've been your indulgent Pied Piper, haven't I? You may have hated me, but you've danced to my tune the entire time, you've immortalized me for the life of the thread, and what more could any artist ask for?

giroditalia

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Does a man with a complicated personality threaten a woman's ego? Posted: 6/21/2009 11:26:35 AM
To robertslovequest: I will defer to your explanation for the low "kill rate". It is elegant, because it is simple, yet accurate. It has been mentioned before, in other contexts, by other commentators, so it is not original with you, but it is powerful in context nevertheless. Thank you for your insight. "Lack of vulnerability". And oh! how some maniacal women posters will howl and screech and tear at themselves in disgust at the revelation.

giroditalia

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Does a man with a complicated personality threaten a woman's ego? Posted: 6/19/2009 5:23:09 AM
Thank you, Zowie67 for addressing the posted question, and not attacking the poster who posted the question. On most sites with an adult audience, postings that personally attack the OP in a vicious manner and justify the attack as "tough love", instead of addressing the issue he presented (no--the two are NOT identical) are usually deleted by a mod, and the poster is warned to desist or risk suspension or banishment. Doesn't look like POF works that way. On this thread at least, it seems the "inmates" have taken out a lease with option to buy on the "asylum", and the mods are asleep at the switch.

giroditalia

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Men/Women Please dont make this mistake... Posted: 6/18/2009 9:10:54 AM
I guess it's all relative to your life experiences. If a woman ever told me she thought I was sexy or hot, I'd probably be transported to nirvana, or have an epiphany. (It's never happened to me by the way.) So for me, I wouldn't care how she qualified the statement. She could say "For an old conceited idiotic jerk of an Italian a --hole, you're pretty sexy and hot!" I would spend the rest of my life trying to thank her and love her and prove her correct in all respects! (Well, I can dream can't I?) One other point please: Be thankful for what you have, a lot of people don't have nearly as much as you in areas you haven't even begun to think about. People who have been blessed with much tend to take some of their "wealth" for granted. And it doesn't matter what color your skin is or how much money you have or how old you are or what language you speak.

giroditalia

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Does a man with a complicated personality threaten a woman's ego? Posted: 6/17/2009 6:14:36 AM
I believe your high-bandwidth rant is a "yes" answer to the question posed by this thread. Although it appears "threatened" doesn't even begin to describe how you feel.

giroditalia

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Msg: 89 (view)

Does a man with a complicated personality threaten a woman's ego? Posted: 6/17/2009 5:46:23 AM
Hey Spicy, Adelaide, South Australia is pretty far away from Tampa , Florida. Thanks for the kind words. Sorry to have to meet you here on this thread. For some reason my initial and I thought pretty straightforward query has been hijacked and turned into a vehicle for vicious personal attacks by a small number of disaffected women and men. Some of the stuff masquerading as "writing" is beyond anything I've ever seen in the Forums. Most appear to be motivated by group race and gender identity politics. There are no individuals anymore. We are now either identified by the color of our skin or who we sleep with. I am hoping an admin or a mod closes this one down.

giroditalia

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Msg: 66 (view)

Does a man with a complicated personality threaten a woman's ego? Posted: 6/16/2009 5:44:36 AM
Try reading an OP's profile before making inane comments. I was married for 24 years to a woman whose sarcasm chopped my ego to pieces every day and makes you all look like pathetic pikers. I still have the ego. She is gone. This time I'm going to find a real woman--not a misandristic (don't ask, just look it up) reptilian. Also, making gratuitously derisive and insulting comments about the OP such as repetitive insinuations of mental illness or ADD, is just beyond the bounds of decency, and is only one of the very many posting rules violations found on this thread. With the exception of one or two decent civil responses, you all need to be ashamed as to how little civility, maturity, and self-control you have been able to bring to this discussion thread. The use of thinly-disguised profanity, smilies, semantic jokes and tricks, blatant misquotations and mis-attributions of what the OP actually wrote, blatant attacks on the OP's profile and personality, and finally flaming (baiting the OP for a response), all of these should qualify to have your posts deleted and memberships reviewed by a mod or an admin, though that is not my decision to make. Character assassination, to be sure, is not what Marcus had in mind as the purpose of the Forums here at POF.

giroditalia

Joined: 3/3/2009

Msg: 48 (view)

Does a man with a complicated personality threaten a woman's ego? Posted: 6/15/2009 3:32:34 PM
I'm seeing this in a number of responses, so just a general plea: I never stated in my original post that I had a low tolerance for anything or anyone. I did state that the women I had met had a low tolerance for me. So how does this make me arrogant? People attack, and are hostile toward, either that which they cannot understand, or that which frightens them. Enough said.

giroditalia

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Msg: 43 (view)

Does a man with a complicated personality threaten a woman's ego? Posted: 6/15/2009 3:00:03 PM
I used "sympathetic" to describe the way in which we, as individuals of similar age, tended to see workplace issues. These were not issues affecting me personally; they were issues affecting the entire workplace.

giroditalia

Joined: 3/3/2009

Msg: 28 (view)

Does a man with a complicated personality threaten a woman's ego? Posted: 6/15/2009 12:26:47 PM
At work I have usually found women in my age range are sympathetic to me and we become friends fairly quickly, but that's the workplace. Some very young women (early 20's ) also seem to be okay with me there. They say they like my sense of humor and that I'm "sweet" to them (their word). But it's the ones between my age and the young ones who really have the venom for me, maybe 30 to 50, like on this forum it seems... By the way you guys are fantastic I never expected so many divergent viewpoints and insightful commentary as you all have shown. Regardless, if you've thrown everything back at me, criticized me, shamed me, held me in contempt , tried to damn me with faint praise, humbled me , or encouraged me, it is all good I assure you, and thank you all, and those still to come, for your contributions to the question, and for the time you've taken to respond! This has been a learning curve for me and I think I am going to be a better person and maybe a better potential mate for having taken to heart and acted upon what you all have had to say, particularly the women on here who have spared no feelings and pulled no punches. Giroditalia

giroditalia

Joined: 3/3/2009

Msg: 1 (view)

Does a man with a complicated personality threaten a woman's ego? Posted: 6/15/2009 5:16:45 AM
I'm more or less a "Renaissance Man" , active and inquisitive in several areas of endeavor. I'm not that easy to categorize, at least not using the terms most women choose when describing their ideal mate. In fact I function on several levels at once and frequently rework at lot of my communications and viewpoints and preferences as I go along because I become aware of connections and relatedness between topics and experiences that may not be so quickly visible to others or which may just be obscure. It just seems to me a lot of the women I've met have a low tolerance for anything out of the ordinary personality-wise and lose patience with me rather quickly. I am becoming alarmed at the lopsided ratio of the number of women I'm "meeting" versus the number of women I'm "keeping". Anyone else male or female have this experience ?

giroditalia

Joined: 3/3/2009

Msg: 21 (view)

Know thyself Posted: 6/11/2009 8:01:30 AM
Hey Strange Monkey, last time I pulled that one, my lady friend went for the strap-on and I ran like hell!

giroditalia

Joined: 3/3/2009

Msg: 22 (view)

Guys' turn to respond to what the ladies said... Posted: 6/10/2009 8:28:19 AM
rawfish40--Yes, but when I remember them, the term I use to describe them is not as charitable as the one you have used!

giroditalia

Joined: 3/3/2009

Msg: 3 (view)

Guys' turn to respond to what the ladies said... Posted: 6/10/2009 1:03:29 AM
1. Obvious disparity in age between profile picture and the woman's appearance in person. 2. Constant talk by the woman about her muscle-bound 25 -year-old son who is also a personal trainer and who is available and on call to her 24/7. Never figured this one out but maybe it's a fiction designed to discourage a guy from making untoward advances? I've had this thrown at me on several meets with different women. 3. Women who tell me about books I need to sit home and read to help me with my "loneliness" issues (???) 4. Women who when you meet them in a park or other public accommodation, will make a display of entering into their cellphone the number of the nearest Park Ranger or Sheriff's Deputy. I will instantly walk from any woman who pulls this character assassination stunt. I have no criminal record, have never been the subject of a restraining order, and do not resort to violence except for self-defense. If a woman believes there is a probability she will be assaulted on a first meet with someone from POF or any other dating site, then she needs to arm herself and obtain a concealed weapons permit. Otherwise stop the insulting charade. 5. Women who have to take breaks away from me to check and respond to their voicemail during a first meet. 6. A woman who will email you to death for weeks at a time , requiring hours of responding-in-kind time from you, cause you to run up $40 cell phone bills for her lengthy getting acquainted conversations, then repeatedly refuse to set a time and date for a meet! This one is a real stinker. Yes, all of these have happened to me.

giroditalia

Joined: 3/3/2009

Msg: 3 (view)

What is wrong with mine be open please Posted: 6/5/2009 9:52:56 AM
Hey Lee, Different perspective here. I think you're coming across as too much of a nice guy. I know testimonials are great to have but yours just reconfirms the nice guy image. Check out the numerous sources online that deal with dating and relationships. There's a lot of strategy out there that blows away everything we were taught about women and what they supposedly want from men versus the mental and physical connections men need to make with women before any intimacy can be pursued and achieved. I assume that is your goal.

giroditalia

Joined: 3/3/2009

Msg: 2 (view)

I realize the truth hurts sometimes Posted: 6/5/2009 9:35:56 AM
Profile reads nicely, it's sincere, you have some interests that apparently center around the culture of your region. You are also a very attractive young lady. My only suggestion is you've chosen a rather "goofy" pose as your main profile photo. I would opt for the 2nd photo in the lineup--it shows you to best advantage. Also give this website time, you'll soon have more email than you know what to do with !

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