No, because if they reach that age and have never been married are either commitmet phobic or mentally imbalanced.

I also was rejected by E-Harmony, even though I'm a Christian. I thought it was kinda funny that they wouldn't even try to match me with with anyone, but at least they didn't take my money. I guess being unique has it's advantages....

I was wondering. Quirky Alones, what is their sex life like. When not in a rel, what do they do? Abstain? Self satisfy, for how long? Have 1-niters, FB or FwB? How long can a QA go w/o some sort of sex/Eros? Is that why they/we are "quirky", lack of sex?

Q. Are quirkyalones celibate?
A. Quirkyalones are not celibate. That said, we don't have that much sex either. However, we are human and when pressure and frustration builds we do go on the occasional sexual spree . . . which brings us to our next question.

Q. I know someone who is constantly hooking up but doesn't get into relationships. Is she quirkyalone?
A. Good question. If your friend's standards for companionship are very high, but for a Saturday night fling, very low, she goes by another name. This person is a quirkyslut, and she should wear that title proudly.

We are the puzzle pieces who seldom fit with other puzzle pieces. We inhabit singledom as our natural resting state. In a world where marriage and proms define the social order, we are, by force of our personalities and inner strength, rebels.

Yet make no mistake: We are no less concerned with coupling than your average serial monogamist. Secretly, we are romantics, romantics of the highest order. We want a miracle. Out of millions we have to find the one who will understand.

For the quirkyalone, there is no patience for dating just for the sake of not being alone. On a fine but by no means transcendent date we dream of going home to watch television. We would prefer to be alone with our own thoughts than with a less than perfect fit. We are almost constitutionally incapable of casual relationships.

It would be better to be untethered and open to possibility, living for the exhilaration of meeting someone new, of not knowing what the night will bring. We seek momentous meetings.

By the same token, being alone is understood as a wellspring of feeling and experience. Our weekends are full of intricate rituals. There is a bittersweet fondness for silence. All those nights alone, travelling, going to movies alone—they bring insight.

"You should not let yourself be confused in your solitude by the fact that there is something in you that wants to break out of it. People have (with the help of conventions) oriented all their solutions toward the easy and toward the easiest side of the easy; but it is clear that we must hold to what is difficult."

Ive' had the same type e-mails, I think, they think, I'm desperate!!! One thing about being older, Ive' heard it all!

Women are like cow chips... the older they are, the easier they are to pick up...

Well Princess, I think it would depend a bit on how serious he is about the new girlfriend. The prblm is, there are children involved. If you feel you absolutely positvly have to make sure she knows she's got your old ring, then you need to be gentle - after all - SHE'S not the one that was married to you - he's the one your emotions should be felt towards, if you are feeling anything about it at all. Maybe the next time you see her, just GENTLY (not flipantly or spitefully) tell her that the ring looks much better on her (say it like you honestly mean it). She will figure the rest out for herself. Don't have your ex in the room when you do it though - this doesn't need an asshat for an audience. Or, you could just have a little grace, realize it's not HER fault, and let the matter alone. The only time I'd speak to the ex about it, is if you had intended to give the ring to one of the children, and you feel strongly about it. Good luck with your decision.

well exactly, you can't possibly know if there's any chemistry between you and someone until you meet!

I have no expectations of people... and I'm never disappointed.

I have never understood the dating for fun thing.

Really! If I limited myself exclusively to dating my chosen angel, I'd probably NEVER date; BUT my decision would deprive me of the bulk of all the learning experiences and lessons on human interaction I could derive from life (maybe even a few lessons about the birds and the bees). I could never, in good conscience, hold earnestly made plans to meet, close up, such wonderful people as my beautiful friend Indigo Rose and others, because I would be tethered to the thought of "saving myself" for my angel.

isn't that possibly "leading a guy on". Do the guys you "date" know you'd never marry them.
I'd be too worried about giving a woman the wrong impression, and stomping on herfeelings to just 'date" a woman for fun, with no intentions of ever wanting a serious relationship with her.

and often, if a guy were to date a woman he'd never marry,( just because he likes her company), a lot of women would gang up on him and call him a "player"

As for the looks don't matter camp. Don't make me laugh. Of course they do. He has to look good to ME. I have to look good to HIM.
No way will I be interested in getting wrapped round a man if I can't stand the sight of him and my ego can survive the fact that there are millions of men out there who Won't find me pretty either.

I have had my hair highlighted blond. It is woven in with the silver grey and my natural colourand looks great. No roots showing up around the two week mark. It lasts about six weeks and then needs a touch up.

None of us are OBLIGATED to go with Anyone we don't want to..........

IF and WHEN I determine you are sponge worthy, I will decide whether or not you get the honor of seeing my Victoria's secrets!

When you view someone it is a strictly enforceable contract that binds your souls together... You form a covenant that is unbreakable and you must commit to one another in some kind of serious way.

Basically you get up every morning and decide whether you are going to continue to work toward the better good of a realtionship. Its not about love, chemistry, being in love or any other fancy name you want to throw at it. These are part of it, and they come and go. The main part of being in a relationship is ones choice to make it work or not. The bad part is that both people have to wake up each morning and make the same decision.

As you've gotten older, is kissing more or less important to you in a relationship? Do the kisses you receive from the opposite sex today seem to have the same passion, intensity and sensitivity as the kisses you remember from your teenage years? Do the people you kiss today seem to consider kissing just a preliminary to the "good stuff?"

Yes, it is. In the order of what makes things work, chemistry comes right after good manners.
If you treat people with respect, and there is no chemistry, you will come out of it with anything between a good acquaintance and a great friend.
If you treat people with respect, and there is chemistry, you will come out of it with a best friend and an amazing lover.
If you treat people w/out respect, and there is chemistry, you will come out of it with 3 months of amazing sex and another 3 months of pure hell.
If you cannot have chemistry with someone who treats you with respect, well, I've already answered this one.

Finding chemistry is not hard. Finding chemistry with someone who does not use you like a human toilet is very, very, very hard indeed.

I have decided to just let him do as he has choosen...

-picking his nose while eating

MANY women simply use the word "independent" to make sure it's understood she's NOT looking for a man to provide her( and maybe her kids) with a roof over their heads, bail her butt out of deep debt, fix her house and or her car....
And then there are men who can ONLY feel comfortable with a woman they've "rescued"...again it doesn't say much for the guy's self esteem, or maybe he has to feel superior and in control.